January 1, 2025 • 23 mins
Ideally, we all hit the ground running on day 1 of the new year! But, what if you aren't ready? You're not alone!
This episode dives into the aftermath of the holiday season, exploring the stress and exhaustion many feel as they transition into the new year. We emphasize self-compassion, setting realistic goals, and understanding the importance of mindset as we navigate through post-holiday life.
• Discussing the holiday overload experience
• Sharing statistics on holiday stress
• Exploring societal pressures surrounding celebrations
• Giving yourself grace in adjusting routines
• Importance of gradual habit formation
• Emphasizing the significance of mindset for new beginnings
• Encouragement for unique personal journeys as the year unfolds
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello and welcome to the Cameo Show.
I'm your host, Cameo, and weare joined today by my husband
and co-host, Mr Greg Braun.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Yes, Mr Fun Guy.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Yeah, he's really on my last nerve today, if I'm
being honest.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
That's how we're kicking off the new year.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
That is exactly how we're kicking off the new year
More real, more raw, more honest, more authentic.
You asked for it.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Yep, yep.
You asked for it, you asked forit.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
So I'm bringing it and.
I'm just honest.
You're making me crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Yeah, well, you know, what really moves me and really
makes my day is the earth.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
I have no idea what in the hell that was.
Would you like to explainyourself?
Speaker 2 (00:43):
It's a dad joke that I just butchered, but let's keep
moving on here.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Dear Lord, help us.
Maybe you're joining us for thefirst time.
Maybe someone forwarded youthis episode.
Maybe you've been with us for along time.
Either way, we are extremelyexcited to have you with us.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Thanks for being here .
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Yeah, really genuinely.
I might be feeling a littlefired up and feisty today, but,
seriously, all of that energy isdirected at him.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Are you just hungry?
I'm probably hungry you haven'teaten anything all day.
Oh, there we go.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
And now I'm extra mad that you know me that well.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
I'm just hungry, but I am so mad I'm cracking my
finger.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Yeah, it's been a life hack for me to realize when
you're really mad at me or whenyou're just hungry.
So we can fix this.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
We can just eat some food.
I'm hungry, but I think it'sthe former that I'm actually
really mad at you.
Maybe it's both.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Well, and rightfully so, because we're coming out of
the most stressful, intense,sugar-fueled time of the year.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Yeah, it's like a holiday hangover around here.
It's like I'm not sure if I canget up and start moving forward
or if I need to lay on thecouch longer.
And I know that I'm not alone.
I know that there are so manypeople who feel in limbo from
basically like trick or treatall the way through the first
couple of weeks of the new yeartotally overwhelmed,
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overindulged, underslept,pressure, expectations.
All these things pile on us.
We don't process any of thembecause we're so worried about
making sure we don't missanything that then you hit the
new year and you're like okay,I'm supposed to be ready with
all of these resolutions andgoals and I'm going to make this
the best year ever.
And then you're still like butshit, I am like emotionally
(02:35):
exhausted and I need a coupleweeks, like I still need a
minute.
And that's how I feel right now.
I feel ready and eager to moveforward and I don't mean to
sound like a Scrooge, but likeI'm over it.
Like most people, I love theChristmas lights and the cookies
and the festivities and all thefun, but I'm like I just crave
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routine.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
It's not Bah Humbug or like negative Nancy coming
into the new year.
I'm excited, I just excited.
I just I just need a minute.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I saw this stat that said that 62% of people feel
stressed and frustrated duringthe holiday season.
So I know I'm not alone and ifyou're listening and you feel
that way, you're not alone.
And I don't know if you're oneof those 62 percenters, greg,
but, like, 62 percent is anastounding statistic and I just
don't know why we keep puttingourselves through it every year.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
I feel like it gets more and more intense to each
season.
Each season it's like that.
We're like the pressure to buyand consume and like it's just
more and more and more.
You know and this year I wasvery aware of it I saw a reel
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where, like the story ofCoca-Cola advertising marketing
team kind of came up with withSanta Claus and like how it was
like really kind of created, youknow, commercially created,
which we all know.
I mean it's, it's reallyintense.
I mean it's out of control, thepressure.
We went to Target beforeChristmas and everybody in the
store had the same like zombielook on their face, like I don't
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know what to get, andeverything is like $50 plus, you
know, every toy, or you know.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
It's overwhelming yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
And it's just oh.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
It's not like we don't know it's coming.
It's the same time of year, thesame day of every year and
somehow still just like twoweeks before I find myself going
.
Oh shit, I better get started.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
And then feeling guilt and shame that I'm like
the worst gift giver on theplanet.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
And again, another Scrooge moment.
I don't want to do it anymore.
I want to give gifts because Ifeel connected to people and
because I feel like this issomething that would really make
someone happy, that I love or Ithought of them in this moment
I don't throughout the year,yeah, like I don't want to do it
all at the end of the year,because I've been conditioned to
believe that that's what I'msupposed to do yeah I've got to
(05:03):
do all that, I've got to buy allthese gifts for all these
people and it's like why?
Well, right, and like some ofthem it makes sense and some of
them it doesn't, and often itjust becomes, in our case, no
offense to our family, we loveyou, but like it's just a money
exchange and like then there'slike guilt that comes along with
like, oh, that wasn't verymeaningful, but I'd feel
(05:24):
terrible if I didn't sendanything and I just I hate it.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
That's not what this episode is about.
This episode is not supposed tobe bringing you so much heat
and negative energy to startyour year, so we're going to
switch gears.
But it's just kind of a littlebit of event session coming out
of the holidays, because that'swhat this episode is about.
About is kind of why it's sohard to get back into the normal
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swing of things yeah we justdescribed it all in our vent
session.
It's this building pressure yeahthat just as soon as the new
year happens, the top pops offand it's just an explosion of
like jiffy pop everywhere whatthe hell just happened yeah.
And that's exactly where I am.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Giving yourself the grace through this period of
time, because it is traumaticand it is heavy and it's a lot.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Isn't that horrible that you're like it's traumatic
and we're talking aboutChristmas, but it's true.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah, but it's a lot.
It's a lot and everyone's goingthrough it in different levels.
And so giving yourself thegrace and the compassion and
love that you deserve, like ifyou want to start the year and
you want to eat healthier, ifyou want to work out, if you
want to, you know, start thatnew business that you've always
dreamed of or start a new hobby.
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It's going to take time tobuild that repetition and muscle
memory around this new habit.
So be good to yourself.
If you're eating, if you'regoing to eat clean in 2025, you
know, if you fall off the wagonone time and you just can't
handle it, you eat a big bowl ofice cream.
Just look at it.
Every day is a new day, a newstart, and as long as you're
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winning the week, I think that'sthe goal and like, have give
yourself a couple of cheap meals.
Or, if you miss the gym acouple of days, like, give
yourself the space to build thathabit.
And really the whole month ofJanuary is just kind of getting
the habit set again and, cominginto the new year, having your
garage clean and your go throughyour clothes and get rid of
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clothes you don't need.
Like really kind of clean yourarea and your life and
reorganize your desk and youknow so you're fresh into the
new year.
I think that's important too.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Yeah, I think ideally we would do that at the end of
the year, right, so that we canhit the ground running on day
one, january 1st.
Here we are, let's do this.
But the reality is is there'sso much going on in those last
couple of weeks, and that's notjust like you know, with food
and sugar and overindulging inthings that you wouldn't
normally have or being off ofyour activity routine.
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That's also emotionally likeyou're engaging in relationships
and planning and traveling tosee family that you don't
normally.
Maybe you know, or you knowtaking time off work or having
deadlines at the end of the yearthat you have to meet that are
highly stressful, you know, Ithink about people who are like
having the holiday season forthe first time without a parent
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or without a loved one, or theseare really again traumatic
periods of time that we don'tprocess and there's not a lot of
space to like plan and prepareto hit the ground running at the
beginning of the year.
And so then there's this wholenew level of stress and pressure
of like being ready.
That is just like we're doingit to ourselves.
(08:38):
And so I think there's anotherstat that says that usually it
takes people about two weeksinto the new year to get into or
back into their routine, to beable to start actually moving
forward and feel somewhat normalagain, and I feel that I mean.
I feel like that's realistic,because after today, after the
first of the year, there's stilla few days that lag because the
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kids aren't back in school.
If you have kids at home,you're still kind of like what
do I do?
I'm not sure what you know?
How do I get back to work in anormal routine?
You're kind of still givingyourself those outs and the
excuses of like, well, it'sstill the holidays, I still have
sugar laying on the counter, orI'll do it after next week when
things get just it's a lot andwe do it to ourselves.
So you're right, be good toyourself.
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I need to calm down.
Maybe I need a sedative orsomething you just need to eat.
Maybe I need some food, no, butbut another thing is money.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
I mean you just you go all year and you have your
budget and you live your lifeand everything, and then all of
a sudden, these last couplemonths of the year, you're
you're spending more money thanyou usually would, with the
travel and with the extra foodand it's exhausting.
And presents, for you know, andyou're just like, oh my, so
getting your financial healthback together?
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Overall, it's best to bite thebullet and get everything reset
in January, but give yourselfsome grace to know that you
might fall off the horse a fewtimes, because it's not an easy
thing to do all the right thingsright out of the gate.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
if you've been, you know, dealing with the holidays
yeah, you're the holidayhangover holiday hangover well,
and I think that we're all inagreeance that it's a nice fresh
start.
I think everyone enjoys theidea of at least the idea of
resolutions or new routines ornew goals or habits, and we're
(10:29):
big on that, and that's foranother episode with regard to
goals, and you know we have somethings to speak to on that.
But, like when it becomes ahindrance because you expect
that it's all going to happen,all of a sudden, you're just
setting yourself up for failurebecause you're overwhelmed and
you can't begin anywhere becauseit's like paralyzing, it's too
(10:50):
much pressure.
Yeah, so I'm, I'm all for thereset and I think there are
several ways that you can dothat.
One is be patient with yourselftoo.
It's like for me anyway, I workbetter if I kind of slowly ease
back into things.
Like I'm a very all or nothingperson, don't get me wrong.
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But when it comes to likegetting back into my normal
routine or starting to analyzeor reflect on, like, where last
year went and how I want thisnew year to go, I've got to like
take small steps.
Or even if I don't try to do itall at once and get overwhelmed
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, I just still get overwhelmed.
If it's like feels like too toomuch, like if I want to just
start eating clean, it makesmore sense to me to start slowly
and be like I just need tofocus on like something more
specific.
Like I am going to try to makesure I drink the right amount of
water, because I definitelyhaven't been doing that over the
holiday season.
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So I'm going to try to makesure I drink the right amount of
water, because I definitelyhaven't been doing that over the
holiday season, so I'm going tostart there.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
And you even have a Stanley.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Yes, I have a Stanley that was passed down to me from
my beautiful teenage daughter.
I have been resistant to aStanley.
For some reason I get a chip onmy shoulder about things like
Stanleys and Lululemon.
I'm just being honest and raw,but like I accepted this pass
down of a stanley and it'schanged your life it has.
It's not necessarily thestanley, but it's the straw it's
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the straw.
I drink a lot more water when Idrink out of a straw, but also
like I just go fill it up waymore often because it's just
it's there, like I don't putother drinks in it because I
don't want to have to clean itso I can put water in it.
I don't know, it's a wholething.
I digress, but the Stanley hashelped.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
But it gives me momentum to say okay, I'm going
to start small today and justmake sure that I focus on one
thing that's going to move theneedle.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Makes me feel good, and then I have momentum to move
on to the next thing and startimplementing things in that way
Because, just like everybodyelse, if you set these big goals
and then you fall off one day,then everything's ruined for the
rest of the year.
And I just think that'sbullshit.
Like why do we do that toourselves?
Speaker 2 (13:07):
I quit smoking, and I quit smoking a lot of times
before I quit smoking.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
So you know I can speak to that.
It's not easy to quit somethinglike smoking or sugar or bad
habits or being lazy Aaser lazy,you know like it takes work and
focus and effort and you can'tdo it all at the same time.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
But yes, I think it's about developing habits, and
habits don't just becomesomething that you do until you
practice, and I don't.
There are stats out there thatwould support a million
different ideas.
I read one the other day thatsaid it takes 200 days to
develop a habit.
Maybe it was 200 hours, butthen I've heard well, it takes
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21 days to develop a habit.
It doesn't matter, because eachperson is going to be
individual in what works forthem and what doesn't.
To be individual and what worksfor them and what doesn't.
And I think before you're ableto decide if a habit is like
ingrained in you, you have topractice and you have to fail
and you have to jump back in andyou have to decide what's
important to you to make it be ahabit.
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Anyway.
Like you can tell me to eatclean, but if I don't know why
I'm doing it and it meansnothing to me, I'm not able to
tie it to something meaningfulto me, then it won't matter.
It won't become a habit becauseI don't care enough.
But I want to eat clean becausemy why is that I want to live
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as long as possible and be ashealthy as possible while I'm
alive and I want to be able todo the activities that I want to
be able to do and I want to beable to be a good example for my
kids.
Like those are strong whys forme, that aid in developing that
habit or getting back into thathabit that when I fall off I can
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reconnect to.
But just saying I want to makethis a habit and it being a
baseless thing is not really agood driver towards success.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
What's the book about habit?
Is it the habit loop?
Speaker 1 (15:14):
There's a lot of books about habits and ways to
set yourself up for success indeveloping good habits.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Oh, the ultimate book is, yeah, the Seven Habits of
Highly Effective People.
That is like in the top fiveall-time change-your-life books.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Personal development books and it's not really about
understanding what a habit is orhow to develop it.
It's about understanding thatthese seven habits are tied to
people who are have high levelsof success.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
And if you can start implementing those and making
them a priority and tie them toyou and why it's meaningful to
you, it will change your life.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Yeah, while we're talking about habits and things,
like that I thought that that'sa good, that's a great
recommendation, yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Steven Covey.
Yeah, there are plenty of booksthat will tell you how to make
a habit, how long it takes toform a habit, what good habits
are and bad habits are.
Habits are just things that wedo over and over and over and
over and over again.
Some of them are good and someof them are bad, but it just
depends on what the end resultthat you're after is to actually
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categorize them as good or bad.
So keeping that in mind is alsoimportant, so that you don't
like get into a negativeheadspace about whether or not
you're accomplishing what youwant to accomplish.
Or why can't I get into thishabit routine?
Well, maybe it's not right foryou.
Maybe just because somebody onsocial media talked about how it
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worked for them, or yoursister-in-law said this works
for me.
This will help you develop thathabit.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Maybe it isn't the right habit for you to have.
We're all so different andcomplex.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
So reassessing kind of your priorities, especially
at this time of year, whileyou're in that hangover period,
reflecting in a way that's likeokay, what do I want to bring
with me going forward and whatdo I want to leave, like, okay,
what do I want to bring with megoing forward?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
and what do I want to leave?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
and what do I want to ?
Leave as I process through thismuck of whatever I've just been
through during the holidayseason yeah, here we are yeah,
is coming into 2025 light yeah,light.
Well, I'm not coming into 2020,20.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
2020, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20,
20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20,20, 20, 25 light.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
I'm coming in hot and heavy and coming in hot and
hungry.
I need to eat and I need totake a nap.
I need to get my shit togetherand I'm ready to, and I'm ready
to.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
And I'm ready to Also mindset this is so important
Like the mindset that you had in2024 got you the results that
you received in 2024.
So think about your year andthink about what the new results
that you want to achieve andwhere your mindset is going to
have to be, because that's thething that's going to have to
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change.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Yeah, it's kind of like I have all these ideas Once
I process through all of thisand I'm ready.
Who's going to have to show upto make that happen?
Yeah, you know who is going tohave to show up to put those
habits in play.
It's going to have to be theperson that says this is
important to me, not the personwho says, well, right now it's
not.
I feel like laying on the couchSometimes, different
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programming yeah, sometimes youhave to like do the opposite of
what you want in order to stayconnected to what you desire.
Yeah, and that's difficult, butall things to think about.
For sure, if you're like me andyou're like what in the hell is
happening?
Hot and heavy.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
And I'm wore out from watching you hot and heavy
through the whole holiday seasonand I'm just like, wow, I don't
know how she does that.
There's like 20 sticks withplates and you just haven't
dropped one.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Didn't drop one the whole time and I'm just like I
just swept them up beforeanybody saw that they had fallen
and broken.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
But we even had.
Our dryer was broken.
We didn't have a new dryer fora whole month during the holiday
season and there was.
I don't even know if we'vetalked about this.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
No OK.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
Just a true test of where you're at on your
composure and keeping your shittogether.
Maybe where I was wouldn't sayI'm showing up there but
literally a whole month went byand the club, the laundry is
kind of your baby in our family.
So you just literally therewere clothes kind of draped
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everywhere to dry, but youdidn't complain or or bitch
about it or make you know.
Not one negative thing came outof your mouth the whole month
that we didn't have a dryer andI ordered the wrong dryer.
That's why it took so long,because I had to have the dryer
come back and get it and bringthe right one.
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So that was totally my bad,totally my fault.
You didn't make me feel badabout that.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
You were madder about it than I was.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I was disappointed in myself.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
But no wonder I'm exhausted.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
But yeah, so in the midst of normal holiday stuff,
then you also all our family'slaundry was, you know, draped
all over the tables and thecounter, I mean, and like a
dryer really does make clothessoft, you know.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
So we were living in some crunchy ass clothes for a
while.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
The stiffest clothes in the like you know.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Yeah, it was awful.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
But so I mean you, you've been through the rigors
you know, and it's been a toughholiday season and it's you know
.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Well, and that's just our story.
No-transcript, new year's goalsor resolutions until February.
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It ain't nobody's business.
So, if you're exhausted, getcaught up, process through, give
yourself the time, the space,the grace to recalibrate, reset
and be ready to take on 2025.
It'll be here for you.
Just don't wait till likeOctober.
You know what I'm saying, butit'll be here a couple of weeks
later and you don't have tocarry around guilt and shame for
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not being like on it right now.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
This is your journey, that's right.
It's not your co-worker'sjourney, or?
Speaker 1 (21:43):
your parents or your siblings or even your dog, even
though our dog might think it ishis journey and we're just a
part of it, but we're going toget through it.
We're going to have an awesomeyear.
Actually, I feel so muchlighter.
Thank you for letting me rage alittle bit.
Welcome to 2025.
Thank you for joining Greg andI on the Cameo Show.
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We really are excited and happy, enthusiastic people.
I am exhausted and if you'renot exhausted from listening to
this episode, we do hope thatyou will join us again for the
next one.
We've got a big year in storeand we're really pumped to have
you so thanks for listeninguntil next time.
Hello and welcome to the Cameo Show.
I'm your host, Cameo, and weare joined today by my husband
and co-host, Mr Greg Braun.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Yes, Mr Fun Guy.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Yeah, he's really on my last nerve today, if I'm
being honest.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
That's how we're kicking off the new year.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
That is exactly how we're kicking off the new year
More real, more raw, more honest, more authentic.
You asked for it.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Yep, yep.
You asked for it, you asked forit.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
So I'm bringing it and.
I'm just honest.
You're making me crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Yeah, well, you know, what really moves me and really
makes my day is the earth.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
I have no idea what in the hell that was.
Would you like to explainyourself?
Speaker 2 (00:43):
It's a dad joke that I just butchered, but let's keep
moving on here.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Dear Lord, help us.
Maybe you're joining us for thefirst time.
Maybe someone forwarded youthis episode.
Maybe you've been with us for along time.
Either way, we are extremelyexcited to have you with us.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Thanks for being here .
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Yeah, really genuinely.
I might be feeling a littlefired up and feisty today, but,
seriously, all of that energy isdirected at him.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Are you just hungry?
I'm probably hungry you haven'teaten anything all day.
Oh, there we go.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
And now I'm extra mad that you know me that well.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
I'm just hungry, but I am so mad I'm cracking my
finger.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Yeah, it's been a life hack for me to realize when
you're really mad at me or whenyou're just hungry.
So we can fix this.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
We can just eat some food.
I'm hungry, but I think it'sthe former that I'm actually
really mad at you.
Maybe it's both.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Well, and rightfully so, because we're coming out of
the most stressful, intense,sugar-fueled time of the year.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Yeah, it's like a holiday hangover around here.
It's like I'm not sure if I canget up and start moving forward
or if I need to lay on thecouch longer.
And I know that I'm not alone.
I know that there are so manypeople who feel in limbo from
basically like trick or treatall the way through the first
couple of weeks of the new yeartotally overwhelmed,
(02:11):
overindulged, underslept,pressure, expectations.
All these things pile on us.
We don't process any of thembecause we're so worried about
making sure we don't missanything that then you hit the
new year and you're like okay,I'm supposed to be ready with
all of these resolutions andgoals and I'm going to make this
the best year ever.
And then you're still like butshit, I am like emotionally
(02:35):
exhausted and I need a coupleweeks, like I still need a
minute.
And that's how I feel right now.
I feel ready and eager to moveforward and I don't mean to
sound like a Scrooge, but likeI'm over it.
Like most people, I love theChristmas lights and the cookies
and the festivities and all thefun, but I'm like I just crave
(02:57):
routine.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
It's not Bah Humbug or like negative Nancy coming
into the new year.
I'm excited, I just excited.
I just I just need a minute.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I saw this stat that said that 62% of people feel
stressed and frustrated duringthe holiday season.
So I know I'm not alone and ifyou're listening and you feel
that way, you're not alone.
And I don't know if you're oneof those 62 percenters, greg,
but, like, 62 percent is anastounding statistic and I just
don't know why we keep puttingourselves through it every year.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
I feel like it gets more and more intense to each
season.
Each season it's like that.
We're like the pressure to buyand consume and like it's just
more and more and more.
You know and this year I wasvery aware of it I saw a reel
(03:51):
where, like the story ofCoca-Cola advertising marketing
team kind of came up with withSanta Claus and like how it was
like really kind of created, youknow, commercially created,
which we all know.
I mean it's, it's reallyintense.
I mean it's out of control, thepressure.
We went to Target beforeChristmas and everybody in the
store had the same like zombielook on their face, like I don't
(04:11):
know what to get, andeverything is like $50 plus, you
know, every toy, or you know.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
It's overwhelming yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
And it's just oh.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
It's not like we don't know it's coming.
It's the same time of year, thesame day of every year and
somehow still just like twoweeks before I find myself going
.
Oh shit, I better get started.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
And then feeling guilt and shame that I'm like
the worst gift giver on theplanet.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
And again, another Scrooge moment.
I don't want to do it anymore.
I want to give gifts because Ifeel connected to people and
because I feel like this issomething that would really make
someone happy, that I love or Ithought of them in this moment
I don't throughout the year,yeah, like I don't want to do it
all at the end of the year,because I've been conditioned to
believe that that's what I'msupposed to do yeah I've got to
(05:03):
do all that, I've got to buy allthese gifts for all these
people and it's like why?
Well, right, and like some ofthem it makes sense and some of
them it doesn't, and often itjust becomes, in our case, no
offense to our family, we loveyou, but like it's just a money
exchange and like then there'slike guilt that comes along with
like, oh, that wasn't verymeaningful, but I'd feel
(05:24):
terrible if I didn't sendanything and I just I hate it.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
That's not what this episode is about.
This episode is not supposed tobe bringing you so much heat
and negative energy to startyour year, so we're going to
switch gears.
But it's just kind of a littlebit of event session coming out
of the holidays, because that'swhat this episode is about.
About is kind of why it's sohard to get back into the normal
(05:48):
swing of things yeah we justdescribed it all in our vent
session.
It's this building pressure yeahthat just as soon as the new
year happens, the top pops offand it's just an explosion of
like jiffy pop everywhere whatthe hell just happened yeah.
And that's exactly where I am.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Giving yourself the grace through this period of
time, because it is traumaticand it is heavy and it's a lot.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Isn't that horrible that you're like it's traumatic
and we're talking aboutChristmas, but it's true.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah, but it's a lot.
It's a lot and everyone's goingthrough it in different levels.
And so giving yourself thegrace and the compassion and
love that you deserve, like ifyou want to start the year and
you want to eat healthier, ifyou want to work out, if you
want to, you know, start thatnew business that you've always
dreamed of or start a new hobby.
(06:43):
It's going to take time tobuild that repetition and muscle
memory around this new habit.
So be good to yourself.
If you're eating, if you'regoing to eat clean in 2025, you
know, if you fall off the wagonone time and you just can't
handle it, you eat a big bowl ofice cream.
Just look at it.
Every day is a new day, a newstart, and as long as you're
(07:05):
winning the week, I think that'sthe goal and like, have give
yourself a couple of cheap meals.
Or, if you miss the gym acouple of days, like, give
yourself the space to build thathabit.
And really the whole month ofJanuary is just kind of getting
the habit set again and, cominginto the new year, having your
garage clean and your go throughyour clothes and get rid of
(07:26):
clothes you don't need.
Like really kind of clean yourarea and your life and
reorganize your desk and youknow so you're fresh into the
new year.
I think that's important too.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Yeah, I think ideally we would do that at the end of
the year, right, so that we canhit the ground running on day
one, january 1st.
Here we are, let's do this.
But the reality is is there'sso much going on in those last
couple of weeks, and that's notjust like you know, with food
and sugar and overindulging inthings that you wouldn't
normally have or being off ofyour activity routine.
(07:55):
That's also emotionally likeyou're engaging in relationships
and planning and traveling tosee family that you don't
normally.
Maybe you know, or you knowtaking time off work or having
deadlines at the end of the yearthat you have to meet that are
highly stressful, you know, Ithink about people who are like
having the holiday season forthe first time without a parent
(08:17):
or without a loved one, or theseare really again traumatic
periods of time that we don'tprocess and there's not a lot of
space to like plan and prepareto hit the ground running at the
beginning of the year.
And so then there's this wholenew level of stress and pressure
of like being ready.
That is just like we're doingit to ourselves.
(08:38):
And so I think there's anotherstat that says that usually it
takes people about two weeksinto the new year to get into or
back into their routine, to beable to start actually moving
forward and feel somewhat normalagain, and I feel that I mean.
I feel like that's realistic,because after today, after the
first of the year, there's stilla few days that lag because the
(09:02):
kids aren't back in school.
If you have kids at home,you're still kind of like what
do I do?
I'm not sure what you know?
How do I get back to work in anormal routine?
You're kind of still givingyourself those outs and the
excuses of like, well, it'sstill the holidays, I still have
sugar laying on the counter, orI'll do it after next week when
things get just it's a lot andwe do it to ourselves.
So you're right, be good toyourself.
(09:23):
I need to calm down.
Maybe I need a sedative orsomething you just need to eat.
Maybe I need some food, no, butbut another thing is money.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
I mean you just you go all year and you have your
budget and you live your lifeand everything, and then all of
a sudden, these last couplemonths of the year, you're
you're spending more money thanyou usually would, with the
travel and with the extra foodand it's exhausting.
And presents, for you know, andyou're just like, oh my, so
getting your financial healthback together?
(09:54):
Overall, it's best to bite thebullet and get everything reset
in January, but give yourselfsome grace to know that you
might fall off the horse a fewtimes, because it's not an easy
thing to do all the right thingsright out of the gate.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
if you've been, you know, dealing with the holidays
yeah, you're the holidayhangover holiday hangover well,
and I think that we're all inagreeance that it's a nice fresh
start.
I think everyone enjoys theidea of at least the idea of
resolutions or new routines ornew goals or habits, and we're
(10:29):
big on that, and that's foranother episode with regard to
goals, and you know we have somethings to speak to on that.
But, like when it becomes ahindrance because you expect
that it's all going to happen,all of a sudden, you're just
setting yourself up for failurebecause you're overwhelmed and
you can't begin anywhere becauseit's like paralyzing, it's too
(10:50):
much pressure.
Yeah, so I'm, I'm all for thereset and I think there are
several ways that you can dothat.
One is be patient with yourselftoo.
It's like for me anyway, I workbetter if I kind of slowly ease
back into things.
Like I'm a very all or nothingperson, don't get me wrong.
(11:10):
But when it comes to likegetting back into my normal
routine or starting to analyzeor reflect on, like, where last
year went and how I want thisnew year to go, I've got to like
take small steps.
Or even if I don't try to do itall at once and get overwhelmed
(11:30):
, I just still get overwhelmed.
If it's like feels like too toomuch, like if I want to just
start eating clean, it makesmore sense to me to start slowly
and be like I just need tofocus on like something more
specific.
Like I am going to try to makesure I drink the right amount of
water, because I definitelyhaven't been doing that over the
holiday season.
(11:51):
So I'm going to try to makesure I drink the right amount of
water, because I definitelyhaven't been doing that over the
holiday season, so I'm going tostart there.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
And you even have a Stanley.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Yes, I have a Stanley that was passed down to me from
my beautiful teenage daughter.
I have been resistant to aStanley.
For some reason I get a chip onmy shoulder about things like
Stanleys and Lululemon.
I'm just being honest and raw,but like I accepted this pass
down of a stanley and it'schanged your life it has.
It's not necessarily thestanley, but it's the straw it's
(12:21):
the straw.
I drink a lot more water when Idrink out of a straw, but also
like I just go fill it up waymore often because it's just
it's there, like I don't putother drinks in it because I
don't want to have to clean itso I can put water in it.
I don't know, it's a wholething.
I digress, but the Stanley hashelped.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
But it gives me momentum to say okay, I'm going
to start small today and justmake sure that I focus on one
thing that's going to move theneedle.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Makes me feel good, and then I have momentum to move
on to the next thing and startimplementing things in that way
Because, just like everybodyelse, if you set these big goals
and then you fall off one day,then everything's ruined for the
rest of the year.
And I just think that'sbullshit.
Like why do we do that toourselves?
Speaker 2 (13:07):
I quit smoking, and I quit smoking a lot of times
before I quit smoking.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
So you know I can speak to that.
It's not easy to quit somethinglike smoking or sugar or bad
habits or being lazy Aaser lazy,you know like it takes work and
focus and effort and you can'tdo it all at the same time.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
But yes, I think it's about developing habits, and
habits don't just becomesomething that you do until you
practice, and I don't.
There are stats out there thatwould support a million
different ideas.
I read one the other day thatsaid it takes 200 days to
develop a habit.
Maybe it was 200 hours, butthen I've heard well, it takes
(13:56):
21 days to develop a habit.
It doesn't matter, because eachperson is going to be
individual in what works forthem and what doesn't.
To be individual and what worksfor them and what doesn't.
And I think before you're ableto decide if a habit is like
ingrained in you, you have topractice and you have to fail
and you have to jump back in andyou have to decide what's
important to you to make it be ahabit.
(14:17):
Anyway.
Like you can tell me to eatclean, but if I don't know why
I'm doing it and it meansnothing to me, I'm not able to
tie it to something meaningfulto me, then it won't matter.
It won't become a habit becauseI don't care enough.
But I want to eat clean becausemy why is that I want to live
(14:37):
as long as possible and be ashealthy as possible while I'm
alive and I want to be able todo the activities that I want to
be able to do and I want to beable to be a good example for my
kids.
Like those are strong whys forme, that aid in developing that
habit or getting back into thathabit that when I fall off I can
(14:58):
reconnect to.
But just saying I want to makethis a habit and it being a
baseless thing is not really agood driver towards success.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
What's the book about habit?
Is it the habit loop?
Speaker 1 (15:14):
There's a lot of books about habits and ways to
set yourself up for success indeveloping good habits.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Oh, the ultimate book is, yeah, the Seven Habits of
Highly Effective People.
That is like in the top fiveall-time change-your-life books.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Personal development books and it's not really about
understanding what a habit is orhow to develop it.
It's about understanding thatthese seven habits are tied to
people who are have high levelsof success.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
And if you can start implementing those and making
them a priority and tie them toyou and why it's meaningful to
you, it will change your life.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Yeah, while we're talking about habits and things,
like that I thought that that'sa good, that's a great
recommendation, yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Steven Covey.
Yeah, there are plenty of booksthat will tell you how to make
a habit, how long it takes toform a habit, what good habits
are and bad habits are.
Habits are just things that wedo over and over and over and
over and over again.
Some of them are good and someof them are bad, but it just
depends on what the end resultthat you're after is to actually
(16:23):
categorize them as good or bad.
So keeping that in mind is alsoimportant, so that you don't
like get into a negativeheadspace about whether or not
you're accomplishing what youwant to accomplish.
Or why can't I get into thishabit routine?
Well, maybe it's not right foryou.
Maybe just because somebody onsocial media talked about how it
(16:44):
worked for them, or yoursister-in-law said this works
for me.
This will help you develop thathabit.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Maybe it isn't the right habit for you to have.
We're all so different andcomplex.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
So reassessing kind of your priorities, especially
at this time of year, whileyou're in that hangover period,
reflecting in a way that's likeokay, what do I want to bring
with me going forward and whatdo I want to leave, like, okay,
what do I want to bring with megoing forward?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
and what do I want to leave?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
and what do I want to ?
Leave as I process through thismuck of whatever I've just been
through during the holidayseason yeah, here we are yeah,
is coming into 2025 light yeah,light.
Well, I'm not coming into 2020,20.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
2020, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20,
20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20, 20,20, 20, 25 light.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
I'm coming in hot and heavy and coming in hot and
hungry.
I need to eat and I need totake a nap.
I need to get my shit togetherand I'm ready to, and I'm ready
to.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
And I'm ready to Also mindset this is so important
Like the mindset that you had in2024 got you the results that
you received in 2024.
So think about your year andthink about what the new results
that you want to achieve andwhere your mindset is going to
have to be, because that's thething that's going to have to
(18:03):
change.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Yeah, it's kind of like I have all these ideas Once
I process through all of thisand I'm ready.
Who's going to have to show upto make that happen?
Yeah, you know who is going tohave to show up to put those
habits in play.
It's going to have to be theperson that says this is
important to me, not the personwho says, well, right now it's
not.
I feel like laying on the couchSometimes, different
(18:34):
programming yeah, sometimes youhave to like do the opposite of
what you want in order to stayconnected to what you desire.
Yeah, and that's difficult, butall things to think about.
For sure, if you're like me andyou're like what in the hell is
happening?
Hot and heavy.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
And I'm wore out from watching you hot and heavy
through the whole holiday seasonand I'm just like, wow, I don't
know how she does that.
There's like 20 sticks withplates and you just haven't
dropped one.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Didn't drop one the whole time and I'm just like I
just swept them up beforeanybody saw that they had fallen
and broken.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
But we even had.
Our dryer was broken.
We didn't have a new dryer fora whole month during the holiday
season and there was.
I don't even know if we'vetalked about this.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
No OK.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
Just a true test of where you're at on your
composure and keeping your shittogether.
Maybe where I was wouldn't sayI'm showing up there but
literally a whole month went byand the club, the laundry is
kind of your baby in our family.
So you just literally therewere clothes kind of draped
(19:42):
everywhere to dry, but youdidn't complain or or bitch
about it or make you know.
Not one negative thing came outof your mouth the whole month
that we didn't have a dryer andI ordered the wrong dryer.
That's why it took so long,because I had to have the dryer
come back and get it and bringthe right one.
(20:02):
So that was totally my bad,totally my fault.
You didn't make me feel badabout that.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
You were madder about it than I was.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I was disappointed in myself.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
But no wonder I'm exhausted.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
But yeah, so in the midst of normal holiday stuff,
then you also all our family'slaundry was, you know, draped
all over the tables and thecounter, I mean, and like a
dryer really does make clothessoft, you know.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
So we were living in some crunchy ass clothes for a
while.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
The stiffest clothes in the like you know.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Yeah, it was awful.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
But so I mean you, you've been through the rigors
you know, and it's been a toughholiday season and it's you know
.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Well, and that's just our story.
No-transcript, new year's goalsor resolutions until February.
(21:14):
It ain't nobody's business.
So, if you're exhausted, getcaught up, process through, give
yourself the time, the space,the grace to recalibrate, reset
and be ready to take on 2025.
It'll be here for you.
Just don't wait till likeOctober.
You know what I'm saying, butit'll be here a couple of weeks
later and you don't have tocarry around guilt and shame for
(21:36):
not being like on it right now.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
This is your journey, that's right.
It's not your co-worker'sjourney, or?
Speaker 1 (21:43):
your parents or your siblings or even your dog, even
though our dog might think it ishis journey and we're just a
part of it, but we're going toget through it.
We're going to have an awesomeyear.
Actually, I feel so muchlighter.
Thank you for letting me rage alittle bit.
Welcome to 2025.
Thank you for joining Greg andI on the Cameo Show.
(22:05):
We really are excited and happy, enthusiastic people.
I am exhausted and if you'renot exhausted from listening to
this episode, we do hope thatyou will join us again for the
next one.
We've got a big year in storeand we're really pumped to have
you so thanks for listeninguntil next time.
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