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July 18, 2025 18 mins

Ever notice how your hand automatically reaches for a drink after a long day? That's not weakness—it's your brain's efficient autopilot system at work. But what happens when you decide to drink less or take a break from alcohol altogether?

When reducing alcohol, feeling a bit off isn't a sign something's wrong—it's evidence of transformation. Your body isn't just missing alcohol; it's rebuilding neural pathways, rebalancing brain chemistry, and healing from nutrient depletion. The discomfort is temporary and purposeful.


Ready to build something new? Download the dopamine menu guide mentioned in this episode and take that first small, nourishing step today. One grace-filled moment at a time, you're laying down new neural pathways and strengthening trust in yourself.


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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Catholic Sobriety Podcast, the
go-to resource for women seekingto have a deeper understanding
of the role alcohol plays intheir lives, women who are
looking to drink less or not atall for any reason.
I am your host, christi Walker.
I'm a wife, mom and ajoy-filled Catholic, and I am

(00:22):
the Catholic Sobriety Coach, andI am so glad you're here.
If you're feeling a little offas you reduce or take a break
from alcohol this summer, Ifirst want to just let you know
that that is completely normal,because your body is adjusting,
your brain is adjusting and,honestly, your spirit may feel a

(00:46):
little tender too.
This isn't a sign thatsomething's wrong.
It is a sign that something ischanging.
You're not just removingalcohol.
You're actually buildingsomething new, one small choice
at a time.
But instead of white-knucklingyour way through the discomfort,
I want to talk to you todayabout how to support your whole

(01:11):
self, your mind, your body andyour soul with grace-filled
nourishment.
That doesn't require perfectionor a complete life overhaul, or
a complete life overhaul.
So let's first understand thewhy before we talk about the how
.
Now, our brains are beautifullyefficient.

(01:36):
They're designed to save energyby creating patterns and
shortcuts.
Neuroscientists call theseshortcuts, neural pathways, and
they're built through repetition.
Imagine this You've had a longday.
You come home, you get intoyour comfy sweats, pour a drink
and your brain goes oh, wow,relief.
You do it again tomorrow, andagain the next day, and before

(02:00):
long your brain is linkingalcohol to reward, relief and
routine.
Eventually, you don't even haveto think about it it's five
o'clock or it's a summerbarbecue, or you're cooking
dinner and your hand is alreadyreaching for the bottle.
That's autopilot.
It's not a moral failure.

(02:22):
It's your brain doing what it'strained to do.
But here's the really good newsNeural pathways can absolutely
be changed.
Your brain can be retrained.
So let's talk about threegentle and practical ways to
start doing that without shame,hustle or harsh self-talk which,

(02:45):
let's be honest, we're all kindof good at that.
The first thing is to pausebefore you pour.
So when you feel the urge thatreach for the glass.
I deserve this moment.
I'm just going to invite you topause for 90 seconds, seriously
, set a timer, because cravingsrise and fall like waves and

(03:08):
most only last for about 90seconds.
If, if you don't act on themNow in that small window, I'm
not going to ask you to sitthere and white, knuckle it and
stare at your timer.
This is going to be anopportunity for you to give your
brain a chance to chooseconsciously instead of

(03:30):
reactively.
So you're going to ask yourselfthese two questions.
Number one what am I actuallyneeding right now?
Because I promise you, you donot need alcohol, but you are
needing something.
You are needing comfort,connection, rest.
Are you hungry, angry, lonely,tired, bored?
Just think about what youactually are needing.

(03:54):
And then the second question isis there another way I could
give that to myself?
Now, if you have heard me talkbefore about the dopamine menu,
this is where it will come insuper handy, because you can
just look at it and see what onthat dopamine menu could give

(04:18):
you what you actually need.
That doesn't involve alcohol.
If you don't know what mydopamine menu is, then go to the
link in my show notes.
I have brief instructions onwhat a dopamine menu is and how
it works.
I have a sample dopamine menuin there and then a blank

(04:38):
template for you to create yourown.
Just remind yourself you're notsaying no to the drink forever.
You're just creating spacebetween the urge and the action,
and in that space, freedom cangrow.
Okay, number two is you aregoing to replace the reward.
Your brain isn't bad.

(04:59):
It actually just wants you tofeel better, because its job is
to keep you comfortable, to seekpleasure and to keep you safe.
So, instead of fighting thatdesire, redirect it so you can
try a mocktail with citrus andfresh herbs, maybe some calming

(05:20):
music, tea, journaling or prayer, a plate with some healthy
things like apple slices, nutbutter, dark chocolate.
You can take a walk outsidewhile talking to God.
The thing that I want you toreally know and to remind
yourself is that you're notdepriving yourself.

(05:44):
You're just giving yourself anew reward that actually
nourishes you, not numbs you.
Okay, number three I want youto repeat this with compassion
Habits don't change with force.
They change with gentle,consistent repetition.

(06:05):
Every time you pause, everytime you choose differently,
every time you reflect insteadof react, you are actually
laying down a new neural pathway.
So, even if you still drinksome days, those small choices
still count.
You're not broken.

(06:27):
You are actually in the middleof a beautiful brain reset.
All right.
Now let's talk about your body,why you feel off and what you
can do about it.
When you reduce alcohol, yourwhole system begins to
recalibrate and that process canhonestly feel a little messy,

(06:49):
maybe a lot messy, but here'swhat may be going on for you.
First of all, you may beexperiencing blood sugar
fluctuations.
When you stop drinking, yourbody may crave carbs and sweets
because it's looking for thatfast energy that it used to get
from alcohol.

(07:09):
So this isn't weakness, it'sjust chemistry, and you can
stabilize this with protein,fiber and healthy fats.
We'll talk a little bit more onthat in a moment.
And then the brain chemistryshifts that you're experiencing
is that alcohol overstimulatesdopamine and serotonin, those

(07:32):
feel-good chemicals.
The minute you take a drink ofalcohol, it just shoots your
dopamine up into a super spike.
This is because dopamineactually is one of those very
rare substances that can passthrough the blood-brain barrier,

(07:53):
and the blood-bra brain barrieris actually kind of like a high
security checkpoint that keepsthings out of the brain that
would be damaging to it or notvery good for it.
But because alcohol is smalland fat soluble, it just goes

(08:13):
right through there.
So that's why you feel such aninstant relief when you drink,
because your body doesn't haveto process or metabolize it
before reaping the benefits ofit.
The problem is eventually yourbrain stops producing as much of
these feel-good chemicals,naturally.

(08:34):
So when you stop drinking, youremotions may feel flat, you may
start to feel anxious or low.
But just remind yourself thatthis is part of your brain
learning how to feel good again.
Naturally, it's just going totake some time, and nourishment
the way you nourish your body isactually going to play a very

(08:57):
big role in that.
The other thing that you'reprobably going to be
experiencing is nutrientdepletion.
Alcohol depletes essentialnutrients, especially B vitamins
, magnesium and zinc, which helpwith energy, sleep and mood.
So you may feel tired, wired orfoggy as your body works to

(09:20):
rebuild its reserves.
You'll often hear me say thatstopping alcohol or removing
alcohol or greatly reducingalcohol is going to help with
your sleep.
So much but and that's true,that is true.
But it may take a little whilefor your body to kind of reset

(09:42):
for you to reap the benefits.
So in the beginning it may notfeel like it's benefiting you
that much.
For some people it's instant,for others it does take some
time.
But just know that your body isjust kind of rebuilding and
rebooting and better sleep willcome.

(10:03):
The next thing we're going totalk about is gut disruption.
Now alcohol disrupts your gut,which is deeply connected to
your immune system, mood andclarity, and healing your gut
can improve so many thingseverything from anxiety to sleep
to sugar cravings.
So if you're drinking and thennot drinking, and then drinking

(10:24):
and not drinking, you may not beexperiencing the gut healing
that you need, because alcoholactually causes inflammation all
over our body and especiallydisrupts our gut microbiome.
So just know that you're goingto be feeling so much better

(10:47):
once you are away from alcoholfor a good period of time, but
it does take a little while foreverything in your body to just
kind of.
Now let's talk a little bitabout the how.
So to do this, I'm going totalk about five nourishing

(11:08):
shifts to support your body.
So here's how you can care foryour body while you're reducing
or eliminating alcohol.
The first is to prioritizeprotein.
I'm sure you've heard this aton, especially if you are
diving into the world of how tomake our bodies feel good during

(11:29):
perimenopause and menopause,and it's protein, protein,
protein, right Protein actuallybalances the blood sugar.
Protein is important because itbalances the blood sugar,
reduces cravings and supportsyour brain health.
You want to aim for 15 to 25grams per meal, and to do that

(11:53):
you can incorporate things likeeggs, greek yogurt, cottage
cheese, even things like beans,lentil, tofu I'm not a big tofu
fan, but I know there are a lotof you out there that love it,
of course, chicken, salmon,turkey, beef and then protein
smoothies with nut butters orseeds can also be very

(12:15):
beneficial.
Try to make sure you're gettingenough protein throughout the
day, and that can really helpcurb cravings in the evenings
day, and that can really helpcurb cravings in the evenings.
The other thing is to add inhealthy fats, because fats are
stabilizing both emotionally andphysically.
They help with mood and yourhormone balance.

(12:36):
They include things likeavocado oils, olive oil, nut
seeds, chia, flax seeds, salmonor one of my favorite sardines
Avocado toast isn't just trendy,it's actually brain food.
So if you do avocado toast withsome sardines on top, oh, that
is so good and you're givingyourself those healthy fats and

(13:00):
some protein at the same time.
Number three is to hydratestrategically, because hydration
can cause fatigue, brain fogand cravings.
So you want to aim for half ofyour body weight in ounces daily
.
You can support this with lemonand a pinch of sea salt.

(13:20):
That's one of my favoritethings to have, especially in
the mornings.
You can use electrolytes likeLMNT.
That's what I use, but there'slike lots of other brands.
Herbal teas and mocktails aregreat.
Coconut water I like to putcoconut water in smoothies that
I make.
If you start your day withwater before coffee, that

(13:43):
actually is very helpful.
I try to do that.
I drink a ton of water all thetime, but I usually try to get a
good amount of water in beforeI have my coffee and that seems
to help keep me hydrated.
The fourth thing is you're goingto want to try to heal your gut

(14:04):
, because your gut isessentially your second brain.
You're going to want to nourishit with things like fermented
foods, like sauerkraut, kimchior kefir.
Try to make sure, if you'rehaving kefir, that it doesn't
have a lot of sugar in it.
Also, make sure you're gettingenough fiber through, like oats,
beans, berries, greens andthings like that.

(14:26):
You can take probiotics ifneeded.
Yogurt is a good source ofprobiotics.
You just want to really mixthings up, because that helps
your gut microbiome.
So add in just one or two gutloving foods per day and you
will start feeling so muchbetter.
Or two gut loving foods per dayand you will start feeling so

(14:50):
much better.
And then the fifth thing is justreplacing that ritual of
drinking.
Just remind yourself you're notcraving the drink, you're
craving what you think alcoholis going to give you or you're
trying to satiate whatever needis coming up for you.
So give yourself a new ritual.
So you can do that by having,you know, like an evening cup of

(15:13):
herbal tea and listening tomusic or a audio book.
Maybe that's a good time to dosome spiritual reading.
You can create again like atreat plate where you have maybe
a cup of tea with some fruitand dark chocolate, like a

(15:35):
square of dark chocolate, sothat it does feel like a treat.
You can take a prayer walk atsunset journal under a cozy
blanket.
Go ahead and keep your eveningritual.
You're just going to change outthe alcohol for something else.
All right, now let's talk aboutyour soul inviting God into that
healing.

(15:55):
We know that we are not justbodies and brains, we are souls
too.
Your journey of reducingalcohol isn't just physical,
it's spiritual formation.
In 1 Corinthians 6.19, st Paulreminds us Do you not know that
your body is a temple of theHoly Spirit within you, whom you

(16:18):
have from God?
Nourishment is more thannutrition.
It is an act of holy self-care.
It's actually an act ofstewardship.
It's a way of taking care ofyourself and this beautiful
temple that God has given you.
It's a way of saying, lord, Iwant to care for what you have

(16:40):
given me.
I want to feel things again,even if it's hard.
I trust you to walk with methrough the discomfort and into
a new sense of peace.
Remember, you are not doing thisalone.
The Holy Spirit is with you inthe kitchen, in the cravings, in

(17:01):
the pause, in the pause.
So here's my invitation for youtoday what's one small,
nourishing choice you can maketoday that supports your mind,
your body or your soul as youdrink less?
Just one.
One choice equals one brick inthe foundation that you are

(17:23):
rebuilding.
Remember, you can grab thatdopamine menu in my show notes.
I am cheering you on andpraying with you.
You are building new pathwaysand strengthening trust in
yourself.
One grace-filled moment at atime.
Grace-filled moment at a time.

(17:53):
Well, that does it for thisepisode of the Catholic Sobriety
Podcast.
I hope you enjoyed this episodeand I would invite you to share
it with a friend, who mightalso get value from it as well,
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thing.
I am the Catholic SobrietyCoach, and if you would like to
learn how to work with me orlearn more about the coaching

(18:13):
that I offer, visit my website,thecatholicsobrietycoachcom.
Follow me on Instagram at theCatholic Sobriety Coach.
I look forward to speaking toyou next time and remember I am
here for you, I am praying foryou.
You are not alone, thank you.
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