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Have you ever boldly asked Jesus to remove your desire to drink? Drawing from the wisdom of Pope Benedict XVI, who once said, "The world offers you comfort, but you were not made for comfort; you were made for greatness," we explore the journey towards sobriety through the lens of faith and greatness.

This episode challenges you to confront your fears and dependencies, encouraging a life lived in full alignment with God's purpose. We discuss how the pursuit of comfort can often lead us away from our divine calling and how embracing discomfort can be the key to unlocking our true potential.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Catholic Sobriety Podcast, the
go-to resource for women seekingto have a deeper understanding
of the role alcohol plays intheir lives, women who are
looking to drink less or not atall for any reason.
I am your host, christi Walker.
I'm a wife, mom and ajoy-filled Catholic, and I am

(00:22):
the Catholic Sobriety Coach, andI am so glad you're here.
When I ask a Catholic woman ifshe believes that Jesus has the
ability to heal her from herdesire to drink or over-consume
alcohol, she almost always saysyes, and oftentimes yes, of

(00:46):
course, like that's the silliestquestion.
Why would you ask me that?
And then, when I ask the nextquestion do you believe that
Jesus wants to heal you of yourdisordered attachment to alcohol
?
They typically say yes to thisas well.
They typically say yes to thisas well, but more often than not

(01:06):
it's interesting because when Iask the third question, I get
mixed results.
I ask have you ever asked Jesusboldly to remove your desire to
drink?
And most of the time women say,well, I've asked for help, or

(01:27):
I've asked for this and that,but no, I guess I've never asked
him to remove the desire todrink.
So then I ask do you want Jesusto remove the desire to drink.
Now this is where it gets alittle more difficult.
Drink Now, this is where itgets a little more difficult.

(01:48):
Perhaps the thought runsthrough her mind like that St
Augustine quote when he prays toGod Lord, make me chaste, but
not yet Right.
Maybe she's thinking Lord,remove the desire to drink, but
not quite yet.
Remove the desire to drink, butnot quite yet.
I have that wedding next month,or the holidays are coming, or

(02:09):
that vacation in June is goingto be a bust if I can't have a
margarita on the beach.
Maybe you're even thinking Idon't know if I never want to
drink again.
Maybe it feels too hard oruncomfortable or overwhelming at

(02:30):
the present moment.
And here's the thing sometimeswe are not ready, and if that's
where you're at, just be reallyhonest with yourself about that
fact.
But for those of you who arereally struggling and you want
that desire to drink removed, Iencourage you to boldly ask for

(02:50):
healing Now.
When that healing comes, I alsowant you to know that it's not
going to magically makeeverything better, because
anytime we are trying to detachfrom something, it is going to
be uncomfortable.

(03:10):
We still have work that we haveto do.
We still have a lot ofdiscomfort to work through, even
once that actual desire todrink is gone, because then we
have to face social situationsand maybe you have social
anxiety.
Maybe you haven't reallydeveloped any healthy or good

(03:33):
ways to cope when you'reoverstimulated, when you're
stressed out.
Maybe you've been heavilyrelying on alcohol to help you
cope with everything.
Maybe you like to drink becauseit makes you feel connected to
people and you don't feel likeyou're going to feel that

(03:53):
connection when you go out withyour friends if you don't have a
drink.
And that is uncomfortable, andthat's really where it comes
down to.
It doesn't it Uncomfortable andour brains hate it.
They don't want us to beuncomfortable.
Our brain's job is to seekpleasure, keep us safe and do

(04:21):
what is simple.
So if we want to make changesthat don't align with that, well
our brains tell us that'spretty much the worst idea ever
and it's probably even dangerous.
I know our brains are amazing,but they can be kind of dramatic
too, or at least mine can.
So when I start thinking Idon't really want to do
something because, just frankly,I don't want to feel the

(04:44):
discomfort that I willexperience because of it, I
remind myself of a quote that'sattributed to Pope Benedict XVI
that says the world offers youcomfort, but you were not made
for comfort, you were made for.
Let me say that again the worldoffers you comfort, but you

(05:12):
were not made for comfort, youwere made for greatness.
Now let me ask you this when youhear the phrase you were made
for greatness, what thoughtsbubble up for you?
Does it feel overwhelming, doyou feel ill-equipped, maybe

(05:33):
unworthy, or maybe you're justtoo tired?
When I first heard that quoteyears ago, I felt like it was
telling me that I needed to bein hustle mode, like I needed to
figure out how to get thisstuff done and make a huge
impact for the Lord.

(05:53):
And, quite honestly, that justfelt so overwhelming to me and
it kept me stuck in inaction ortaking very little action.
But now, when I think of thatquote, this is what I hear the
world is full of pleasures foryou to enjoy, but you are not

(06:18):
made to be enslaved by them.
Take heart, dear one.
You are set apart.
You were made to live infreedom.
You were made for God.
Now, coming to this thought tooktime.
It's one that has beencultivated through a renewal of

(06:39):
the mind, like the one that StPaul talks about in Romans 12-2,
when he says Do not beconformed to this world, but be
transformed by the renewal ofyour mind, that by testing you
may discern what is the will ofGod, what is good and acceptable

(07:00):
and perfect.
Acceptable and perfect Now,over the years I began to
realize that I had been thinkingabout greatness by worldly
standards, and greatness byheavenly standards is something
completely different.
If we look to Merriam-Webster'sdictionary, it defines

(07:21):
greatness as the quality orstate of being great, as in size
, skill, achievement or power.
Now, if we go off thatdefinition alone, then of course
some or all of those thoughtsthat I mentioned earlier might
run through our minds.

(07:41):
In fact, in Luke 9, verse 48,when the disciples started
arguing about who was thegreatest, I'm pretty sure they
had in mind the definition above, had in mind the definition

(08:03):
above, but Jesus, ever sopatient with his disciples as he
is with us, placed a child byhis side and said Whoever
receives this child in my namereceives me, and whoever
receives me receives the one whosent me, for the one who is

(08:25):
least among all of you is theone who is the greatest.
I believe he is saying thatgreatness comes from being
childlike, from being trusting,humble and joyfully surrendering
our will to the Father, justlike he did.
Now you may be thinking, yeah,that sounds all well and good,

(08:48):
but wow, is that hard to do inthis world full of trappings and
distractions that lead us awayfrom God, and it's not just us.
It was difficult for thedisciples to grasp too and,
quite honestly, times were a lottougher back then.
They didn't have things likeinternet grocery delivery or

(09:10):
streaming services.
In fact, I know it was hard forthem because in Luke, chapter
22, they are back at it arguingtheir heads off about who was
the greatest.
Now I like to give thesedisciples the benefit of the
doubt.
Maybe they were absent duringthe conversation in chapter 9,

(09:34):
but if not, they're a lot likeme and they may just need some
extra reminders.
Anyway, this time Jesus tellshis disciples that the greatest
isn't the guy at the table beingserved because he's so
successful and skilled, but theone who serves.

(09:54):
But the one who serves.
Then he just hammers that facthome by clarifying it further
for them and he says just like Iam the one among you who serves
.
So Jesus is not just saying todo as I say, but do as I do, and

(10:15):
that's what being a disciple ofChrist is all about.
Another thing to note is thatwhen we look at the Bible, the
term greatness nearly alwayspoints to God, to things he is
doing and to things he has done.
Ephesians 1.11 tells us done.

(10:44):
Ephesians 1.11 tells us In Himwe were also chosen and destined
in accord with the purpose ofthe One who accomplishes all
things according to His holywill.
Look, god knew that we weregoing to struggle, but he had a
rescue plan for us.
And when we break free of thefear of letting go, the fear of

(11:05):
being uncomfortable, the fear ofnot enough, the fear of not
really knowing who we arewithout that thing that has had
a stronghold on us for so long,and we surrender, emptying our
hands at the foot of the cross,that my sisters will make room

(11:28):
for the blessings we willreceive by surrendering and
letting go.
Not leaning into that discomfortcan mean feeling sleepy in our
faith and in our life.
We are dissatisfied, we arelukewarm, we can become negative
and feel like victims, and wecan completely check out of our

(11:53):
life and just go through theemotions, missing out on all the
good that God has for us whenwe surrender to His will and
place our trust in Him.
It means that we will livefully, alive and fully present.
It means that we will hear Hisvoice more clearly.

(12:14):
It means that we love creation,not for creation's sake, but
because God created it for us toenjoy, created it for us to
enjoy.
So if you are looking to drinkless or not at all, if you are
looking to re-examine yourrelationship with alcohol, I
hope that this reflection willhelp you do just that.

(12:38):
Fear is one of the strongestemotions that can keep us stuck,
and I encourage you to takethat fear to the Lord.
I encourage you to write outwhat it is that is holding you
back and keeping you stuck,doing that thing that you do not

(13:00):
want to do.
You know that when you drink,you're not just numbing the bad,
you're also numbing the joy.
You are missing out on thingsthat you should see and hear and
feel and experience fully, notthrough a haze, not through a

(13:22):
buzz.
Yes, yes, we do have to livethese emotions and learn how to
process emotions and get throughour stress responses and calm
our bodies.
But turning to alcohol, to dothat, for us is just like

(13:43):
slapping a bandaidaid on a bigfestering wound and it will
never get better unless we takethe time to really examine it,
clean it out properly and put onthe healing balm that is going
to facilitate healing.
I encourage you to look at whatyou're afraid of.

(14:07):
I would also encourage you toask yourself is there anyone
that I need to forgive?
Now, your gut reaction might belike many of us, including
myself, when you're like no, ofcourse I don't.
I can't think of anyone I needto forgive.
Or you think I've alreadyforgiven that person.

(14:29):
But often, almost always,drinking is a symptom of a
bigger, deeper issue, andforgiveness true forgiveness can
be very healing in helping toget to the root of that habit.

(14:49):
So, if you are willing, I wouldinvite you to do this quick
exercise.
It might not be quick for you,depending on how many people
that you need to forgive andthis includes yourself, by the
way, that you need to forgiveand this includes yourself, by
the way but start by invokingthe beautiful and powerful name

(15:11):
of our Lord and Savior, jesusChrist, and simply say in the
name of Jesus, I forgive, blankfor blank, and do that as often
as you need to do.
Sometimes we have to forgiveover and over and over before it

(15:34):
finally takes root and we arereally truly able to forgive.
Now I'll do another podcastepisode on forgiveness and about
the lies that we believe aboutforgiveness and the truths about
it, but for the purposes ofthis podcast episode, I'm just

(15:59):
going to leave it at that.
In the name of Jesus, I forgiveblank for blank.
In the name of Jesus, I forgiveblank for blank.
If you need help on your journeyto discover the level of
sobriety that is right for you,I have so many options for you.
I have this podcast with lotsof episodes.

(16:20):
I encourage you and invite youto go through and listen to them
.
Listen to my interviews withexperts and that will help you
gain clarity and confidencearound your decisions to drink
or not drink.
I also have a free resourcecalled Drink Less or Not at All

(16:44):
A Catholic Guide to Freedom.
Free resource called Drink Lessor Not at All A Catholic Guide
to Freedom, which includes toolsthat I use with my coaching
clients.
You can grab that from the shownotes.
There's a link there for you.
I also have my Sacred SobrietyLab.
This is where you will getcurious about your drinking

(17:07):
habits.
This is not a rigid program.
I do not tell you what to drink, when to drink, how to drink,
or that you should abstain.
This program is a sacred work.
This program is meant to helpyou gain the clarity and
confidence you need to make thedecisions to drink less or not

(17:33):
at all from a place of peace.
But even more than that, I wantyou to come away from the lab
very rooted in your identity asa daughter, a beloved daughter
of God.
I want you to understand thatyou are set apart, that your

(17:56):
body is a temple of the HolySpirit and God did not create
you to live a life ofdissatisfaction, of lukewarmness
or just going through themotions.
And, most of all, he wants youto be in relationship with him.

(18:16):
And that is one of the biggestcomponents of the sacred
sobriety lab and why it's calledsacred, of the Sacred Sobriety
Lab and why it's called sacred.
You can find out more aboutthat by going to
sacredsobrietylabcom.
I also offer one-on-one coaching.
I'm happy to talk to you.

(18:38):
I offer free 30-minutediscussions.
Whether you decide to work withme or not, you will leave
knowing what your next steps are.
You can live a life free of thebondage that alcohol is causing

(18:58):
you right now.
You can live in freedom, and itwill be such a giant weight
lifted off your shoulders whenyou don't have that, and
everything that comes with itlooming over you all the time.
I promise you that.
Well, that does it for thisepisode of the Catholic Sobriety

(19:21):
Podcast.
I hope you enjoyed this episodeand I would invite you to share
it with a friend who might alsoget value from it as well.
And make sure you subscribe soyou don't miss a thing.
I am the Catholic sobrietycoach, and if you would like to
learn how to work with me orlearn more about the coaching

(19:42):
that I offer, visit my website,thecatholicsobrietycoachcom.
Follow me on Instagram at theCatholic Sobriety Coach.
I look forward to speaking toyou next time and remember I am
here for you, I am praying foryou.
You are not alone.
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