August 26, 2025 • 21 mins
In this episode of the 'Curate Your Life' podcast, Temetria discusses the concept of living life on autopilot, likening it to the autopilot systems used in airplanes. She highlights the efficiency and routine benefits of autopilot but emphasizes the importance of engaging and being intentional in life. Temetria shares personal stories and common scenarios where people may be on autopilot, such as eating habits, social routines, and careers. She encourages listeners to actively participate in their lives and offers actionable advice on how to do so. To help with this transition, she introduces the 'Binge Your Life Challenge', a five-day event aimed at helping individuals take control of their lives and live more intentionally.
00:00 Introduction to Curate Your Life Podcast
00:39 Understanding Autopilot in Life
04:40 The Downside of Autopilot
06:10 Personal Story: Breaking Free from Autopilot
10:19 Identifying Autopilot in Daily Habits
17:15 Invitation to the Binge Your Life Challenge
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You are listening to the CurateYour Life podcast with Temetria
episode 1 0 6.
Take your life off autopilot.
Temetria (00:12):
Hi, I'm Temetria a single woman in midlife.
But not quite ready for theMoomoo life.
I'm focused on curating a lifethat I love.
A life that is bold and vibrantand full of purpose.
And I'm passionate about helpingother women do the same.
So join me.
If you're ready to create curatea big, bold, beautiful life that
(00:38):
you love.
I know we have all done this.
You have been driving someplacethat you've been a million times
before, and when you get there,you have that thought or that
flash of, how did I even gethere?
I don't remember.
Taking those turns, taking thatexit driving here, but I'm here
(00:59):
somewhere in the recess of yourmind, you know?
But that could have been any ofthe days before, any of the
times before that you've been tothat place.
But you get there and you getthere safely, but you're not
aware of all of the steps thatit took to get there.
(01:20):
You were on autopilot, you weredriving and you were directing
the car, but it was such ahabit, so ingrained in you that
while you were doing that, youwere thinking about other
things.
You may have been thinking abouthow that project is going at
work, or you may have beenanalyzing and reviewing and
thinking about how that firstdate went last night.
(01:42):
But you were still driving.
You were on autopilot, and it'ssomething that we've all done
before an autopilot can be agreat thing.
Thinking about why it wasdeveloped, when it was developed
for pilots, it was a tool tohelp them keep on track, to help
them keep the plane on track.
And I don't know anything aboutthe actual science or the actual
(02:06):
engineering that went into it,but I imagine in the early days
of autopilot, it was likelocking things in place to keep
the plane on track.
I imagine that it locked thecoordinates into place and that
it locked the wheel, thesteering wheel into place.
And that the radar was focusedon a certain spot.
(02:28):
And again, I don't know thatthis is how autopilot works per
se, but that's what I imaginethat it was like in the early
days.
And I assume that it has becomemore sophisticated with all of
the technology that we have andthat now, yes, it is still
trained in and locked on thedestination, but now it can read
(02:52):
and analyze the data.
The radar is looking for otherplanes in the area and weather
that's in the area, and theneither.
Making the adjustments if it'sset for that, if it's within a
certain degree of what it wasset for, or alerting the pilot
to the hazard or making thepilot aware.
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But the main purpose ofautopilot was so the pilot
didn't have to be so engaged andfocused on what was happening or
just in charge of every singlething that was happening.
Those coordinates were lockedin, where the plane was going
was locked in, so then maybe shecould focus on something else.
(03:37):
Like the takeoff and the landingwhere you need to be like laser
focused on that and not sayingthat you don't have to be
focused.
I know flight is a huge thingwith so many moving parts, to
get you there, but thatautopilot served a.
Purpose for the pilot, so thenshe could be focused in doing
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something else and not having toput that mental energy and
capacity into all of it 100% forthe entire flight.
Think about those really longflights overseas, and even
though they have several peoplein the cockpit, autopilot gives
them some relief, some help,some tools to carry out the
(04:20):
mission to get the flight doneright?
And autopilot can be a greatthing even at times in your
life.
Being on autopilot can work.
'cause that speaks to efficiencyand routines that are working
and habits that are working.
So it can be a good thing.
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But I wanna talk about whenbeing on autopilot does not
serve you.
Just think about the fact that Isaid autopilot allows the pilot
of the plane to be not asengaged, right?
Maybe to dial it down for alittle bit, not have to pay as
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much attention while she'sflying the plane.
Not have to be laser focused onevery detail because autopilot
is handling that.
And while it may be fine for youto be on autopilot to a certain
degree on your commute to thatyou make every day or going to
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the grocery store that you'vebeen to a hundred times, you
want to be engaged in your life.
You don't want to be onautopilot going through the
motions and missing what lifehas to offer 90% of the time or
even 75% of the time.
Don't you want to be activelyengaged in and participating in
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and having say in the directionthat your life is going?
That is what taking your lifeoff autopilot looks like.
It looks like being focused andengaged and intentional about
the day to day activities ofyour life.
It looks like doing things onpurpose and with purpose.
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So let's think about some timeswhen you may not have been on
autopilot.
And I wanna tell you a storythat I have told before about
when I was on autopilot and whatthat looked like, how that
played out for me.
And again, I know I've told thisstory before, I used to have a
pretty good commute when I livedin my old house.
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It started out about 30 minutes,but eventually as people moved
into town, it could be up to 45minutes each way.
So there were plenty of timeswhen I was just, like I said,
driving, going through themotions of getting from work to
home, and I would get home and Iwas like, huh.
I'm here and I don't, did notremember all the stops and the
(06:56):
turns and all the exits andthings like that, but I did it.
But also when I walked into thehouse, I was on autopilot.
I would pull into my garage, letthe door down, and my garage
door, opened it to the kitchen,and I would put my purse on the
island and I would either go tothe pantry or the refrigerator
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and I would.
For a few minutes numb out onlike chips and hummus or chips
or popcorn or something likethat.
Just I would just kind ofmindlessly stand at the island
eating something.
It was not carrots for sure,that was what I did on autopilot
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to kind of unwind to make thattransition from work and commute
to being at home and now whatwas coming next, whatever was
coming next.
And so I would stand there atthe island, shove something in
my face for a few minutes,probably thinking I was hungry,
but really just needing thatspace that break.
(08:01):
That transition in my day.
And so I would stand there atthe island, have my snack, my
quote unquote afterschool snack,if you will, and then I'd grab a
glass of wine and I'd goupstairs and change into my
lounge clothes, and then sitdown and turn on the TV and then
maybe make dinner.
That was the routine.
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That was the autopilot, and whatI realized.
At some point when I startedgetting into coaching and
thinking about the why behind myactions and the feelings behind
my actions, what I was feeling,what I was trying to feel or not
feel, what was really going onwhen I was standing at the
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island, eating chips and hummusand having wine, what was really
going on?
And I realized that was a timewhen I was.
Decompressing transitioning fromwork to home, and it really
didn't have anything to do withthe hummus and wine or the chips
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and wine or what I was eating.
It was just that time todecompress, to breathe, to kind
of have that sigh.
But I was filling that spacewith the food and the wine, so
what I had to do was reallybecome intentional about not
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stopping right there, putting mypurse on the island and I mean,
y'all, I would walk in, ifyou're on YouTube, like I would
walk in the door and the pantrywas right next to the door, so
I, that door would close and Ijust.
Kind of make a U-turn right intothe pantry, and the fridge was
right next to that.
So it could not have been moreconvenient, but I had to stop
(09:49):
myself and say, that's not whatI need.
That's not what I really want.
What I really want is to sitdown for a minute, let go of the
workday, let go of whatevertraffic was like, and just
breathe.
Just take a pause.
And then go on about my day.
So I had to get that patterninterrupt.
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I had to turn off autopilot andbe in charge of what was
happening in my life at thattime.
So I want you to think aboutwhere in your life are you on
autopilot, and here are someareas, some common areas that
come up with clients that I'vebeen through before.
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So these are areas where youmight be on autopilot in your
life.
How to start to notice that, andthen how to switch off autopilot
if it's not serving you, if it'snot serving a purpose in your
life.
So around eating, let's.
Since that was the example thatI gave you for me, let's talk
about it.
Let's talk about around eating.
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Do you eat breakfast, lunch, andor dinner at the same time every
day?
Whether you're hungry or not,that could be autopilot because
if you don't know your hungercues, you're real hunger cues
and you're just eating becausethat's when you.
Normally eat, you may thinkyou're hungry, you may feel
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hungry because that's what yourbody is used to and that's the
signal that you're getting.
But it may not be real physicalhunger, so ask yourself, am I
physically hungry for this, oris it just time to eat lunch?
That could be.
The pattern interrupt, thatcould be the pause that you need
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to start to turn off autopilot.
Think about that glass of winethat you have at night after a
long day.
Is it an automatic answer to thelong day?
Why are you having the glass ofwine?
Stop to ask yourself, what isthis about?
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Why do I want this glass ofwine?
And if it's because I had a longday, what made it a long day?
And how is this wine going tofix it?
Or how are the cookies going tofix it?
Or the ice cream or binging onthat series that I'm not really
watching, that I'm not reallyinterested in, but it allows me
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to sit here and decompress.
What can I do instead of havingthe wine, having the cookies
sitting on the couch?
What would move me towards alife that I love?
Maybe it's that Friday happyhour with the same group of
people.
With the same group of friends.
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Where you can predict exactlyhow the conversation is going to
go, and you sometimes wonder,why am I even here?
This is the same thing.
I've heard this before.
What am I getting out of this?
That's when you know it'sautopilot.
You're in that routine that'snot serving your life.
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What if you made room, if youdidn't go to that happy hour, if
you skipped it one week andsaid.
Hey, I'm not gonna go and youmade room for new people and new
experiences in your life.
Or you went with a differentgroup, or you, you solo went to
a different place by yourself,or you did something different.
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You interrupt, you turn offautopilot, and you are
purposeful with a purpose,meeting new people, doing
something different, enrichingyour life with what you're
doing.
What about hitting the snoozebutton three times every morning
before rolling out of bed,irritated and late for your day?
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What if you got up when youralarm went off and set your
intentions for the day?
Did some planning aroundcreating the day that you want
to live or what if you set thealarm for the actual time that
you get up and you're honestwith yourself and you get 15 to
20 more minutes of quality rest,quality sleep?
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What if you just interrupt thatpattern of doing the same thing
every day?
You can also be on autopilot ina career or in a relationship
staying because it's what youknow and what you're comfortable
with.
When you know that thetrajectory of that plane, that
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career, that relationship is notgoing to take you where you want
to go, and you might be thinkingat this age.
In midlife, it's, this is easy.
It's easy to stay here, and itis, but it's easy.
What you want is easy.
Is easy, what you're truly gonnabe happy with, or is it just the
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uncomfort, the discomfort, theeh, that you know that you're
okay with, but it's not the joythat is possible, or you might
not think that.
You can, or you may think thatit's too late, you won't know
unless you try.
And what is the harm in tryingin interrupting that pattern and
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going for it, and just seeingwhat is possible for you.
Because if you put your focus onit, if you put your mind to it,
you can.
It's not too late until it's toolate until you're outta here.
That's when it's too late.
So just thinking about the planeon autopilot, you can leave it
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on autopilot and let it be onthat trajectory to that.
Okay.
Place and you can.
Live there forever, or you cantake it off autopilot and point
it in the direction of that lifethat is amazing that you create
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and that you live and thatlights you up.
And you could be at the okay,place for another 5, 10, 15
years and be fine.
Or you can be at the amazingplace for another 5, 10, 15
years, whatever time you haveleft and live an amazing,
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wonderful life.
And when I'm saying amazing,wonderful life, you get to
decide what that is.
You put the definition onamazing, wonderful life for you.
And then you go do it?
I'm not giving you a definitionof what amazing and wonderful
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is.
'cause it could be two, probablyis two totally different things.
But think about what is amazingand wonderful.
What would, what would that befor you?
And how can you get it?
Because it's out there and it ispossible.
And that's what I want you tounderstand and really to go for.
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And so examine the excuses andthe fears and the thoughts that
are keeping you on autopilot anddecide if you are okay with
that.
If you wanna stay there, or ifyou wanna take the will of your
life and see where that leadsyou, and if autopilot is not
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getting you where you want togo, I have something amazing for
you that I'm doing for the restof 2025.
So starting on September 1st,Monday, September 1st, I'm going
to run a five day binge YourLife Challenge.
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During that challenge, duringthose five days, I'm going to
guide you through being focusedon.
Intentionally living andcreating something in your life,
being focused on one thing thatyou are working towards that you
want to do in that five days.
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It doesn't have to be anythinghuge.
It can be whatever you want.
The first couple of days, we'regonna shift your mindset and get
it right and then there's gonnabe actually.
Taking action and doing thethings and just turning off
autopilot and living your life,doing something.
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And so this binge your lifename, idea came up because I had
been spending some time on thesofa in front of the TV binging
things on the streamingchannels, and I thought to
myself, this is not.
What I wanna be doing, this isnot getting me where I want to
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be.
Watching fictional characterslive, fictional lives on tv.
I want to be living, creating,doing in my life.
And normally I do a pretty goodjob.
I had a short run there when Iwas coming home, plopping on the
sofa, watching tv, but I stoppedthat so.
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Starting September 1st and everyother week through the end of
2025, I'm running this five daychallenge.
You sign up, you can go to theshow notes and sign up for the
Binge Your Life Challenge.
It's free.
You can go through as many timesas you want and see what you can
do, what you can create, whereyou can go between now and the
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end of the year.
You can do it one time just toget something done, just to get
something started for yourself,or you can come back, you can
bring a friend if you wannabring a friend, but starting
September 1st.
Every other week I'll be runninga five day challenge.
I'll be in your inbox everymorning for five days with a
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prompt with some information tohelp you get through this
challenge.
And I will also have a Facebookgroup, the Binge Life Facebook
group, where you can come in andask your questions and get some
coaching and get help andcelebrate your wins as you're
going along in this challenge.
So I hope you will come and joinme and engage in your life and
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take control of your life duringone or all of these five day
challenges that will bestarting.
On September 1st.
So it'd be great if you can comefor that first one.
If you can't, you can join us atany time.
So come join me for the BingeYour Life Challenge.
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And I'm going, when I say joinme, I mean come join me because
I am going to be doing thesefive day challenges myself.
I'm gonna be doing every one ofthem.
Every other week.
I'm going to start another fiveday challenge.
I have a couple of things inmind, but I don't have them all
lined up.
So when I say, come join me forthis challenge, I do mean come
join me for this challenge forthe binge Your Life Challenge.
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And again, you can sign up usingthe link in the show notes.
Until next time.
You are listening to the CurateYour Life podcast with Temetria
episode 1 0 6.
Take your life off autopilot.
Temetria (00:12):
Hi, I'm Temetria a single woman in midlife.
But not quite ready for theMoomoo life.
I'm focused on curating a lifethat I love.
A life that is bold and vibrantand full of purpose.
And I'm passionate about helpingother women do the same.
So join me.
If you're ready to create curatea big, bold, beautiful life that
(00:38):
you love.
I know we have all done this.
You have been driving someplacethat you've been a million times
before, and when you get there,you have that thought or that
flash of, how did I even gethere?
I don't remember.
Taking those turns, taking thatexit driving here, but I'm here
(00:59):
somewhere in the recess of yourmind, you know?
But that could have been any ofthe days before, any of the
times before that you've been tothat place.
But you get there and you getthere safely, but you're not
aware of all of the steps thatit took to get there.
(01:20):
You were on autopilot, you weredriving and you were directing
the car, but it was such ahabit, so ingrained in you that
while you were doing that, youwere thinking about other
things.
You may have been thinking abouthow that project is going at
work, or you may have beenanalyzing and reviewing and
thinking about how that firstdate went last night.
(01:42):
But you were still driving.
You were on autopilot, and it'ssomething that we've all done
before an autopilot can be agreat thing.
Thinking about why it wasdeveloped, when it was developed
for pilots, it was a tool tohelp them keep on track, to help
them keep the plane on track.
And I don't know anything aboutthe actual science or the actual
(02:06):
engineering that went into it,but I imagine in the early days
of autopilot, it was likelocking things in place to keep
the plane on track.
I imagine that it locked thecoordinates into place and that
it locked the wheel, thesteering wheel into place.
And that the radar was focusedon a certain spot.
(02:28):
And again, I don't know thatthis is how autopilot works per
se, but that's what I imaginethat it was like in the early
days.
And I assume that it has becomemore sophisticated with all of
the technology that we have andthat now, yes, it is still
trained in and locked on thedestination, but now it can read
(02:52):
and analyze the data.
The radar is looking for otherplanes in the area and weather
that's in the area, and theneither.
Making the adjustments if it'sset for that, if it's within a
certain degree of what it wasset for, or alerting the pilot
to the hazard or making thepilot aware.
(03:15):
But the main purpose ofautopilot was so the pilot
didn't have to be so engaged andfocused on what was happening or
just in charge of every singlething that was happening.
Those coordinates were lockedin, where the plane was going
was locked in, so then maybe shecould focus on something else.
(03:37):
Like the takeoff and the landingwhere you need to be like laser
focused on that and not sayingthat you don't have to be
focused.
I know flight is a huge thingwith so many moving parts, to
get you there, but thatautopilot served a.
Purpose for the pilot, so thenshe could be focused in doing
(03:59):
something else and not having toput that mental energy and
capacity into all of it 100% forthe entire flight.
Think about those really longflights overseas, and even
though they have several peoplein the cockpit, autopilot gives
them some relief, some help,some tools to carry out the
(04:20):
mission to get the flight doneright?
And autopilot can be a greatthing even at times in your
life.
Being on autopilot can work.
'cause that speaks to efficiencyand routines that are working
and habits that are working.
So it can be a good thing.
(04:40):
But I wanna talk about whenbeing on autopilot does not
serve you.
Just think about the fact that Isaid autopilot allows the pilot
of the plane to be not asengaged, right?
Maybe to dial it down for alittle bit, not have to pay as
(05:00):
much attention while she'sflying the plane.
Not have to be laser focused onevery detail because autopilot
is handling that.
And while it may be fine for youto be on autopilot to a certain
degree on your commute to thatyou make every day or going to
(05:20):
the grocery store that you'vebeen to a hundred times, you
want to be engaged in your life.
You don't want to be onautopilot going through the
motions and missing what lifehas to offer 90% of the time or
even 75% of the time.
Don't you want to be activelyengaged in and participating in
(05:46):
and having say in the directionthat your life is going?
That is what taking your lifeoff autopilot looks like.
It looks like being focused andengaged and intentional about
the day to day activities ofyour life.
It looks like doing things onpurpose and with purpose.
(06:10):
So let's think about some timeswhen you may not have been on
autopilot.
And I wanna tell you a storythat I have told before about
when I was on autopilot and whatthat looked like, how that
played out for me.
And again, I know I've told thisstory before, I used to have a
pretty good commute when I livedin my old house.
(06:33):
It started out about 30 minutes,but eventually as people moved
into town, it could be up to 45minutes each way.
So there were plenty of timeswhen I was just, like I said,
driving, going through themotions of getting from work to
home, and I would get home and Iwas like, huh.
I'm here and I don't, did notremember all the stops and the
(06:56):
turns and all the exits andthings like that, but I did it.
But also when I walked into thehouse, I was on autopilot.
I would pull into my garage, letthe door down, and my garage
door, opened it to the kitchen,and I would put my purse on the
island and I would either go tothe pantry or the refrigerator
(07:18):
and I would.
For a few minutes numb out onlike chips and hummus or chips
or popcorn or something likethat.
Just I would just kind ofmindlessly stand at the island
eating something.
It was not carrots for sure,that was what I did on autopilot
(07:38):
to kind of unwind to make thattransition from work and commute
to being at home and now whatwas coming next, whatever was
coming next.
And so I would stand there atthe island, shove something in
my face for a few minutes,probably thinking I was hungry,
but really just needing thatspace that break.
(08:01):
That transition in my day.
And so I would stand there atthe island, have my snack, my
quote unquote afterschool snack,if you will, and then I'd grab a
glass of wine and I'd goupstairs and change into my
lounge clothes, and then sitdown and turn on the TV and then
maybe make dinner.
That was the routine.
(08:22):
That was the autopilot, and whatI realized.
At some point when I startedgetting into coaching and
thinking about the why behind myactions and the feelings behind
my actions, what I was feeling,what I was trying to feel or not
feel, what was really going onwhen I was standing at the
(08:44):
island, eating chips and hummusand having wine, what was really
going on?
And I realized that was a timewhen I was.
Decompressing transitioning fromwork to home, and it really
didn't have anything to do withthe hummus and wine or the chips
(09:04):
and wine or what I was eating.
It was just that time todecompress, to breathe, to kind
of have that sigh.
But I was filling that spacewith the food and the wine, so
what I had to do was reallybecome intentional about not
(09:25):
stopping right there, putting mypurse on the island and I mean,
y'all, I would walk in, ifyou're on YouTube, like I would
walk in the door and the pantrywas right next to the door, so
I, that door would close and Ijust.
Kind of make a U-turn right intothe pantry, and the fridge was
right next to that.
So it could not have been moreconvenient, but I had to stop
(09:49):
myself and say, that's not whatI need.
That's not what I really want.
What I really want is to sitdown for a minute, let go of the
workday, let go of whatevertraffic was like, and just
breathe.
Just take a pause.
And then go on about my day.
So I had to get that patterninterrupt.
(10:11):
I had to turn off autopilot andbe in charge of what was
happening in my life at thattime.
So I want you to think aboutwhere in your life are you on
autopilot, and here are someareas, some common areas that
come up with clients that I'vebeen through before.
(10:32):
So these are areas where youmight be on autopilot in your
life.
How to start to notice that, andthen how to switch off autopilot
if it's not serving you, if it'snot serving a purpose in your
life.
So around eating, let's.
Since that was the example thatI gave you for me, let's talk
about it.
Let's talk about around eating.
(10:54):
Do you eat breakfast, lunch, andor dinner at the same time every
day?
Whether you're hungry or not,that could be autopilot because
if you don't know your hungercues, you're real hunger cues
and you're just eating becausethat's when you.
Normally eat, you may thinkyou're hungry, you may feel
(11:15):
hungry because that's what yourbody is used to and that's the
signal that you're getting.
But it may not be real physicalhunger, so ask yourself, am I
physically hungry for this, oris it just time to eat lunch?
That could be.
The pattern interrupt, thatcould be the pause that you need
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to start to turn off autopilot.
Think about that glass of winethat you have at night after a
long day.
Is it an automatic answer to thelong day?
Why are you having the glass ofwine?
Stop to ask yourself, what isthis about?
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Why do I want this glass ofwine?
And if it's because I had a longday, what made it a long day?
And how is this wine going tofix it?
Or how are the cookies going tofix it?
Or the ice cream or binging onthat series that I'm not really
watching, that I'm not reallyinterested in, but it allows me
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to sit here and decompress.
What can I do instead of havingthe wine, having the cookies
sitting on the couch?
What would move me towards alife that I love?
Maybe it's that Friday happyhour with the same group of
people.
With the same group of friends.
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Where you can predict exactlyhow the conversation is going to
go, and you sometimes wonder,why am I even here?
This is the same thing.
I've heard this before.
What am I getting out of this?
That's when you know it'sautopilot.
You're in that routine that'snot serving your life.
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What if you made room, if youdidn't go to that happy hour, if
you skipped it one week andsaid.
Hey, I'm not gonna go and youmade room for new people and new
experiences in your life.
Or you went with a differentgroup, or you, you solo went to
a different place by yourself,or you did something different.
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You interrupt, you turn offautopilot, and you are
purposeful with a purpose,meeting new people, doing
something different, enrichingyour life with what you're
doing.
What about hitting the snoozebutton three times every morning
before rolling out of bed,irritated and late for your day?
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What if you got up when youralarm went off and set your
intentions for the day?
Did some planning aroundcreating the day that you want
to live or what if you set thealarm for the actual time that
you get up and you're honestwith yourself and you get 15 to
20 more minutes of quality rest,quality sleep?
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What if you just interrupt thatpattern of doing the same thing
every day?
You can also be on autopilot ina career or in a relationship
staying because it's what youknow and what you're comfortable
with.
When you know that thetrajectory of that plane, that
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career, that relationship is notgoing to take you where you want
to go, and you might be thinkingat this age.
In midlife, it's, this is easy.
It's easy to stay here, and itis, but it's easy.
What you want is easy.
Is easy, what you're truly gonnabe happy with, or is it just the
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uncomfort, the discomfort, theeh, that you know that you're
okay with, but it's not the joythat is possible, or you might
not think that.
You can, or you may think thatit's too late, you won't know
unless you try.
And what is the harm in tryingin interrupting that pattern and
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going for it, and just seeingwhat is possible for you.
Because if you put your focus onit, if you put your mind to it,
you can.
It's not too late until it's toolate until you're outta here.
That's when it's too late.
So just thinking about the planeon autopilot, you can leave it
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on autopilot and let it be onthat trajectory to that.
Okay.
Place and you can.
Live there forever, or you cantake it off autopilot and point
it in the direction of that lifethat is amazing that you create
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and that you live and thatlights you up.
And you could be at the okay,place for another 5, 10, 15
years and be fine.
Or you can be at the amazingplace for another 5, 10, 15
years, whatever time you haveleft and live an amazing,
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wonderful life.
And when I'm saying amazing,wonderful life, you get to
decide what that is.
You put the definition onamazing, wonderful life for you.
And then you go do it?
I'm not giving you a definitionof what amazing and wonderful
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is.
'cause it could be two, probablyis two totally different things.
But think about what is amazingand wonderful.
What would, what would that befor you?
And how can you get it?
Because it's out there and it ispossible.
And that's what I want you tounderstand and really to go for.
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And so examine the excuses andthe fears and the thoughts that
are keeping you on autopilot anddecide if you are okay with
that.
If you wanna stay there, or ifyou wanna take the will of your
life and see where that leadsyou, and if autopilot is not
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getting you where you want togo, I have something amazing for
you that I'm doing for the restof 2025.
So starting on September 1st,Monday, September 1st, I'm going
to run a five day binge YourLife Challenge.
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During that challenge, duringthose five days, I'm going to
guide you through being focusedon.
Intentionally living andcreating something in your life,
being focused on one thing thatyou are working towards that you
want to do in that five days.
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It doesn't have to be anythinghuge.
It can be whatever you want.
The first couple of days, we'regonna shift your mindset and get
it right and then there's gonnabe actually.
Taking action and doing thethings and just turning off
autopilot and living your life,doing something.
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And so this binge your lifename, idea came up because I had
been spending some time on thesofa in front of the TV binging
things on the streamingchannels, and I thought to
myself, this is not.
What I wanna be doing, this isnot getting me where I want to
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be.
Watching fictional characterslive, fictional lives on tv.
I want to be living, creating,doing in my life.
And normally I do a pretty goodjob.
I had a short run there when Iwas coming home, plopping on the
sofa, watching tv, but I stoppedthat so.
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Starting September 1st and everyother week through the end of
2025, I'm running this five daychallenge.
You sign up, you can go to theshow notes and sign up for the
Binge Your Life Challenge.
It's free.
You can go through as many timesas you want and see what you can
do, what you can create, whereyou can go between now and the
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end of the year.
You can do it one time just toget something done, just to get
something started for yourself,or you can come back, you can
bring a friend if you wannabring a friend, but starting
September 1st.
Every other week I'll be runninga five day challenge.
I'll be in your inbox everymorning for five days with a
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prompt with some information tohelp you get through this
challenge.
And I will also have a Facebookgroup, the Binge Life Facebook
group, where you can come in andask your questions and get some
coaching and get help andcelebrate your wins as you're
going along in this challenge.
So I hope you will come and joinme and engage in your life and
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take control of your life duringone or all of these five day
challenges that will bestarting.
On September 1st.
So it'd be great if you can comefor that first one.
If you can't, you can join us atany time.
So come join me for the BingeYour Life Challenge.
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And I'm going, when I say joinme, I mean come join me because
I am going to be doing thesefive day challenges myself.
I'm gonna be doing every one ofthem.
Every other week.
I'm going to start another fiveday challenge.
I have a couple of things inmind, but I don't have them all
lined up.
So when I say, come join me forthis challenge, I do mean come
join me for this challenge forthe binge Your Life Challenge.
(21:01):
And again, you can sign up usingthe link in the show notes.
Until next time.
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