In Episode 108 of the Curate Your Life podcast, Temetria explores the concept of living a life without regrets by evaluating one's current state and making conscious decisions to pursue passions. She urges listeners to honestly rate their lives and consider what would make them feel more fulfilled. Temetria emphasizes that whether it’s finding peace with current accomplishments or striving for unfulfilled dreams, the choice is personal and valid. For those seeking guidance, she introduces the 'Binge Your Life Challenge' to help identify and pursue meaningful goals.
00:00 Introduction to Curate Your Life Podcast
00:54 Reflecting on Life's Regrets
02:26 Rating Your Life
04:28 Making Peace with Your Decisions
05:31 Living with Purpose
08:22 Call to Action: Binge Your Life Challenge
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Episode Transcript
You are listening to the CurateYour Life podcast with Temetria
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Temetria (00:09):
Hi, I'm Temetria a single woman in midlife.
But not quite ready for theMoomoo life.
I'm focused on curating a lifethat I love.
A life that is bold and vibrantand full of purpose.
And I'm passionate about helpingother women do the same.
So join me.
If you're ready to create curatea big, bold, beautiful life that
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you love.
Hi y'all.
This is going to be a very shortepisode, but I want you to spend
some time with it, maybe evenlisten to it twice and really
ponder what I'm going to askyou.
So y'all know I like to talkabout the shoulda, woulda
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couldas, but I want to get downand dirty with the shoulda,
woulda couldas today.
Because the ultimate time forthat comes at the end of your
life.
And people say, when you're onyour deathbed, you're going to
regret those things that youdidn't do.
The quality time, that youdidn't spend with your loved
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ones are making the most of yourlife.
So I want you to think aboutthat right now.
If you had to sum it all upright now, would there be any
regrets?
If somebody, for some reasontold you that you had a few days
left or a week left, how wouldyou feel about your life right
now and how you lived your life?
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And that's not necessarily whatyou've accomplished, but how you
have actually lived your life,how you have shown up for this
time, for your time on thisearth, the quality of your days,
your relationships, yourexperiences.
Would you have regrets or wouldyou feel like you've left it all
(02:05):
on the playing field?
Maybe you would feel like therewere some missed opportunities,
but for the most part you didpretty good.
And I think I might be in thatcategory.
I think I might put myself insome missed opportunities, but
for the most part, it's been apretty good ride.
If I had to sum it up right now.
But I want you to really thinkabout this.
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I want you to rate your life,and this is just for you.
How would you rate your life ona scale of one to 10?
One being regrets and feelinglike you wasted your time here
and 10 feeling like you roundedthe basis and you're sliding
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into home on a life that hasbeen fantastic.
And I don't know why I'm usingbaseball analogies, but that's
what we're going with.
Or 10 feeling like it's the lastdance, the last song of the
night, and you're dancing withthe hottest guy at the party.
Something like that.
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The Great Kiss at midnight onNew Year's Eve, whatever the 10
would be for you.
I want you to really think aboutthat.
So if you're on the low end ofthe scale, think about why.
What are you regretting?
Why have you not done that thingor those things?
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Or why have you not shown up foryour life the way you wanted to,
to show up why is it not whatyou want?
And what would make it feelcloser to a 10 at the end of it?
And if you have those regretsand you are on that lower
number, how can you start tomake the shift right now?
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Because unless you got some kindof diagnosis today or something
happened today, this can reallybe one of those moments of
awareness.
This is opportunity knocking,and you still have time to turn
it around.
So if something like that cameup for you ask yourself, okay,
how much longer am I going tochance it?
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How much longer am I willing tolive like this?
How much longer am I gonna gowith the, oh, I wish I could, I
wish life were different.
I wish something would change.
Or you can decide that, yeah,I'm not done with everything
that I wanna do at this point,and I don't think I'm gonna do
it, and I'm gonna be okay withthat decision.
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But no, that it's a decisionthat you're making a decision.
So if you're making thatdecision, if you're doing the.
Thought work, the mentalexamining that you're gonna be
okay with your life as it is andnot having done all the things
that you wanted to or that youcould have done, then make peace
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with it.
Because like Henry Ford said,whether you believe you can or
believe you can't.
You're right.
So if you make that decisionthat you can, you're right.
And it's time to get to work.
And if you make that decisionthat you can't.
And that you're not going to,you're right.
And it's okay to make peace withthat so you don't have regret.
(05:22):
So you've made the peace withit, and when the time comes,
you're like, Nope, I did this,this.
Well, I live my life and I'mgood with it.
That's okay.
That's perfectly okay.
But if there is something thatyou wanna do that's been nagging
at you that you can't let go ofor quite figure out how to do
it.
Take it one step at a time, andit may not be easy and you may
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have to figure it out, and itmay take a lot of time, but
wouldn't you rather spend thetime that you have left?
And let's be honest, nobodyknows how much time we have
left.
But wouldn't you rather spendthe time that you have focused
on something that you'repassionate about, that you feel
a purpose behind that isenergetic, that lights you up
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rather than pining away wishingand going through the should
woulda couldas.
You can do it.
And with the time that you have,why not go all in?
And we don't know how much timewe have left.
Let's be honest.
You may start and go all in andbe pursuing your passions and
that number seven bus may comealong.
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And I'm not trying to be morbidor.
Harsh, but that's just a fact oflife.
We don't know how much time wehave left on this earth, but
wouldn't you rather spend thetime that you have no matter how
much it is living your life,going after or doing the things
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that are meaningful to you thatmean something, that have some
purpose, that light you up, thatgive you that spark instead of
just pining away and feeling theregret and the shoulda, woulda,
coulda.
I would much rather spend thetime, however much it is playing
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all out.
80, 90% of the time, there maybe times it's life is is a kind
of a rollercoaster, right?
So there may be times whenyou're like, I just gotta sit on
the couch and rest.
But if 90% of your days, 80%,75% of your days are played all
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out.
You are really living that life,living your life, then at the
end of it, I think you will beable to rate it on the higher
end of that scale.
I got an email today from acoach.
I have a lot of self-help peoplein my inbox, as you can imagine,
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and the subject was, if I ain'tdead, it ain't done.
And I said, amen.
So if you are not dead, you arenot done.
What do you want to do with yourtime?
I'm gonna leave you with that,all of that to ponder.
I want you to really think aboutwhat you want and what you don't
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want.
And if there's something thatyou want, that you really want
and you think, I do really wantthis, I do want to spend this
time on something that I'mpassionate about, but maybe you
don't know where to start orit's a little overwhelming, I
want you to go sign up for theBinge Your Life Challenge and
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you will spend five days guidedby me focused on that.
Focused on finding those answersfocused on something that you're
passionate about, and that'lljust be the be the beginning.
But it's a place to start.
It's something to do.
Instead of the wishing and thehoping and the pining away your
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life, you can find the link toregister in the show notes.
Until next time.
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