110. The Power of Presence and Gratitude

The Power of Presence and Gratitude

In episode 110 of the Curate Your Life podcast, Temetria, a single woman in midlife, discusses the importance of being present and grateful. She emphasizes the transformative effect of these practices on mental, physical, and spiritual health. Temetria shares her daily routine of meditation, journaling, and expressing gratitude, and highlights how these habits can shift one's energy and outlook on life. She also encourages listeners to join the Binge Your Life Challenge to focus on meaningful goals. Tune in for practical tips on cultivating a life full of purpose and appreciation.

00:00 Introduction to Curate Your Life Podcast
00:37 The Importance of Being Present and Grateful
02:42 Daily Practices for Mindfulness and Gratitude
05:23 The Impact of Gratitude on Your Life
09:17 Personal Stories and Reflections
11:29 Join the Binge Your Life Challenge

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Episode Transcript

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You are listening to the CurateYour Life podcast with Demetria
episode 110.

Temetria (00:10):
Hi, I'm Temetria a single woman in midlife.
But not quite ready for theMoomoo life.
I'm focused on curating a lifethat I love.
A life that is bold and vibrantand full of purpose.
And I'm passionate about helpingother women do the same.
So join me.
If you're ready to create curatea big, bold, beautiful life that

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you love.
So today I want to talk aboutbeing present and grateful, and
I know I have a series coming onthe Curate Your Life Process.
And that was supposed to starttoday, actually Tuesday.
It was supposed to drop thismorning.
It did not drop because I wantedto record this podcast and to

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remind you that the best thingthat you can do for your mental
health, your physical health,for your spiritual health is to
take some time to be present andto be grateful.
It makes a huge difference onyour energy, on how you move

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about the world, in the world,how you interact with people if
you're grounded in your life, ifyou're grounded in who you are.
And so the best way to do thatis to spend time being present
with your thoughts, with yourfeelings, with who you are.
To spend time being present withthe people that you're with.

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If you're with people beingpresent with the things that
you're doing, being focused onwhat you're doing.
We are so scattered and we haveso many things pulling at our
attention.
If we can just put on theblinders from time to time, even

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just for a few minutes everyday.
Just put on the blinders and bein that moment and quiet and
still, and take some time to getin touch with yourself, to hear
your own self, think it's lifechanging.

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And then if you can take timedaily and spend some time and
gratitude and thinking abouteven better, writing about what
you're grateful for.
I make it part of the CurateYour Life Planner.
Every day there's a space inthere to write down what you're

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grateful for.
And there are times when I listthe same things for days in a
row, but that's okay becauseI'm.
Uh, intentionally expressing mygratitude, being thankful and
appreciative of the people in mylife, the things that I have in
my life, where I am in my life.

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Being very mindful of beinggrateful for that.
And there are days when thethings that I'm grateful for,
the things that come to mindseem kind of random.
But I'm okay with that because Ithink when you're in that and
when you can find the joy andthe gratitude and the
appreciation for the littlethings in life, it makes life

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better.
So that's what I wanted you tothink about how you can be take
time and just.
Push away all the noise, pushaway all the distractions, push
away all the things that aretugging at you, and find time
every day, two, three minutes,five minutes, 10 minutes to just

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be quiet and be still, andlisten to your thoughts and your
heart, and just be in the momentwithout all of the noise.
It makes a difference in how yougo about your day.
I try to start my day that waywith meditation and prayer and

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journaling and all the things,but that gets me set for my day
before things start coming atme, start bombarding me.
I, I call it.
Before I say I always do thosethings, my planning, my
journaling, um, meditation,praying before I let in the

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outside voices, before I checkemail, before the TV goes on
before.
Although the TV doesn't reallygo on very much in the mornings
anymore, but before other thingsstart happening, I get clear and
get quiet and spend some time inmy own head and then.

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As I'm journaling, there's aplace for gratitude, so I write
down what I'm grateful for.
But at night there's a place inthe journal where you come back
and you record your wins and yourate your day.
And oftentimes I will go back upto the gratitude section and
write something else that I'mgrateful for for that day.

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And it's just a shift in.
The energy that you feel.
It's a shift mentally,physically, emotionally, when
instead of the, I wish one ofthese days, if only you're in
the moment and you're gratefuland appreciating life.

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Or you're just remembering that,hey, I had that really good cup
of coffee this morning, orsomebody held the door open and
smiled and said, have a goodday, first thing.
And that's the way I started myday, and I'm grateful for that.
It shifts the way you think.
It shifts the way you feel andit shifts what you do, how you

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go about in the world.
So you taking that time to be inthe moment, to be present and
still get you grounded, and thentaking the time to be grateful.
Changes your energy and yourfrequency, and how you go about

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being in the world because youhave come across that person
where you're like, woo, what'swrong with them?
Without them saying anything,without them necessarily looking
at you, you can just feel the,that's a real thing.
So, and you can't clean up therest of the world.

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You can't fix the rest of theworld.
You can't even clean up yoursignificant other or your child
if they are in that.
You only can control this.
You, I always kind of hold myarms out and say, this is your
span of control, but reallythat's a little bit too far.
You gotta.
Probably keep it right abouthere.

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This is what you can control andthis is what you can control.
So spend some time being presentand quiet and in your head and
in your soul.
And then spend time ingratitude.

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It will change your life,especially if you make it a
practice and a habit and youreally get into that groove.
Because when you sit down, likeI sit down, like I said, in the
morning and at night, but duringthe day, I have times when I'm
like, thank you.
Thank you, Jesus for that, or,or expressing appreciation to

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the person in front of me.
How, how big is that whensomebody says to you, Hey, thank
you.
I really appreciate that, orreally appreciate what you're
doing, or, I really appreciateyour help.
When somebody expresses genuineappreciation to you, it warms
your heart.
So I try to do that to otherpeople, express my appreciation.

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But even if it's the person wholets me in, in traffic, I would
do the wave, the southern thankyou wave.
But I also, oftentimes, I'm inthe car by myself.
I say, thank you.
I say it when other people inthe car too.
I wave and I say thank you, andI believe on some level.
In this world that makes adifference.

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It sends out an energy and thatmay be too woo for you, but I
believe in energy and karma andputting out the good and being
open to receiving the good andthe love.
So that's what I want to leaveyou with today.

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Being present and being gratefuland how that will change.
Change your life.
So, and it can be such littlethings.
I guess I'm not leaving you withthis yet, so I want to keep
talking.
It can be such a small thing,seemingly small.
That's really, really big.

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I had.
Dinner with a friend of mine.
She invited me over to herhouse.
We normally are pretty goodabout getting together on a more
regular basis, but it had been awhile since.
Um, we'd seen each other, Ithink since July.
And I just went to her housevery casual Sunday afternoon for
dinner.
Kind of old people's dinner waslike four.

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I said it.
Um.
But we just had a great timejust sitting, talking, watching
tv.
I made her turn on the footballgame so I could watch the
football game.
Um, but just being with her andchatting with her and talking to
her and catching up abouteverything and nothing was great

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for my soul.
And she had this little puppy,she's just got a new puppy.
And y'all know I'm a peopleperson.
If you don't know I'm a peopleperson, but this little puppy.
Was the sweetest, cutest littlething.
Six months, six months old, verywell behaved like, I'm like, how
old is that dog?
Because it wasn't jumping.

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It didn't seem puppy ish.
It was a little old, sold and apuppy.
Just the best thing.
And I know it is such a goodthing for her that I told her,
I'm like, I like your dog.
I don't say that very often tovery many people.
But, and I told her, I'm like, Ilike your dog.
I'm like, this is a sweet littlepuppy.

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And I'm grateful that she hasthat, and I know she's grateful
for that.
And yeah, that's, I'm gonnaleave you, I'm going to
seriously now leave you withthat story and the reminder to
get somewhere, get quiet, getphysically still be present in

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you with you and find.
Things to be grateful for andappreciative of as often as you
can.
Until next time, if you're readyto put the focus back on you and
be the star of your show again,I invite you to join the Binge

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Your Life Challenge, whereyou'll spend five days focused
on something meaningful to yourlife.
You pick the goal or the thingthat you want to focus on, and I
guide you through the five daybinge Your Life Challenge.
And when I say challenge, I meanopportunity.
Opportunity to put on theblinders and focus on what's

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important and meaningful to youand creating that in your life.
Join me for the next Binge YourLife Challenge.
It'll be better than anythingyou can stream.
You can find the link to join inthe show notes.