December 31, 2024 • 21 mins
In Episode 23 of The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast, host Cristina reveals why Dating Sunday, January 5th, is the biggest online dating day of 2025 and provides tips on how to make the most of it. She discusses the surge in online dating activity during New Year's and the importance of having a positive attitude. Cristina shares data from Tinder and other dating apps to highlight the increased chances of finding a match on this day. She also offers advice on preparing your online dating profile, including updating photos and sharing intriguing details about yourself. The episode encourages listeners to engage actively and lean on friends for support in their dating journey.
00:00 Welcome to The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast
00:38 New Year Excitement and Dating Sunday Introduction
01:14 What is Dating Sunday?
02:48 Statistics and Data on Dating Sunday
07:51 Preparing for Dating Sunday
10:46 Messaging Tips and Peak Season Energy
14:19 Involving Friends in Your Dating Journey
16:01 Manifesting Your Ideal Relationship
19:42 Final Thoughts and New Year Wishes
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Cristina (00:00):
You are listening to The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast,
Episode 23, Dating Sunday.
Hi, I'm Cristina.
After 10 years of dating, I wastired of attracting the wrong
type of guys and thinking I hadto lose weight to find love.
I finally figured out how todate and I found the love I
thought I would never find eachweek.
(00:22):
I'll teach you dating advice,share dating stories and help
you ditch the dating drama.
My goal is to help you have funand create the life you love.
If you're ready to take yourdating to another level, then
listen up and let's go.
Hello everyone.
Happy New year's Eve and HappyNew Years tomorrow.
(00:46):
I am so excited about the newyear and new goals and just a
new fresh start.
So today we're going to talkabout Dating Sunday.
January 5th is the biggestonline dating day of the year.
It's a great time to takeadvantage of that day if dating
(01:08):
or finding a relationship is oneof the goals that you have for
2025.
So, what is Dating Sunday?
Like I've said, it's the biggestday of the year where there's
the most traffic and mostsignups on online dating apps
and websites compared to anyother day of the year.
Because people are motivated tohave a fresh start in dating and
(01:33):
they might want a relationshipthis year in 2025.
They're more likely to find adate on Dating Sunday.
So you have bigger chances ofgetting a date on that day than
any other day of the year.
So, if you're ready to go hardand get started on dating and go
(01:54):
all in 100%, this is going to bethe day for you to do that.
It's a combination of the end ofthe winter holiday season, all
the Christmas Thanksgiving andNew Year's and the New Year's
resolution to find arelationship that increases your
likelihood to find dates.
So the peak of the dating seasonis right now, Dating Sunday, all
(02:18):
the way til Valentine's Day.
So that is your prime time to gofor it and go all in finding new
dates, you know, and a potentialpartner, if that's what you're
looking for.
Dating Sunday came frommatch.com as a marketing term,
and they made it up in 2015.
And so slowly the terms startedto grow not only in dating apps
(02:43):
as a marketing term, but for theday-to-day person as well.
So some data that you have aboutDating Sunday and why it is the
biggest day of the year foronline dating.
Match.com estimates 40% increasein online dating participants
compared to any other day of theyear.
(03:04):
And Tinder says that over 10%more matches and 20% more
messages will be sent on thatday compared to the rest of the
year.
The first Sunday of the year, isproven to be the ultimate dating
kickstart for 2025.
Data shows that the first Sundayof the year, sees a surge in
(03:27):
activity, like no other day.
The swiping activity is about20% higher on Tinder than any
other day of the year.
The number of likes that you geton Tinder is 15% higher.
And, singles are in conversationmode.
They're ready to talk.
(03:48):
They're ready to send messagesanswer messages and create
conversations.
So single people are ready tohave conversations and about 12%
more likely to have aconversation With the number of
messages that they're gettingsent.
On dating apps.
(04:08):
Being nearly 20% higher than therest of the year.
So take advantage of theincrease in messages that you're
going to get.
And the more likely you'llincrease your ability to have a
conversation with those people,right?
Everybody's in a good mood,everybody's fresh and ready to
go and hopeful.
So use that and go with it,right?
(04:32):
Bring in that positive energy aswell.
Find people with that sameenergy, because then you're
going to get more dates, morelikely.
Cause if you still go into thenew year dragging ass and
believing like,"Ooh, I'm goingto be single another year
because dating sucks and I hateit," and whatever, and you still
(04:53):
bring in that negative energy,none of this data is going to
matter because you're not goingto be in conversation mode.
You're not going to be morelikely to message back.
So the 20% more DMs that you'regetting.
If you're not feeling it andyou're being a grumpy goose,
then it's less likely for you totake an opportunity to write
(05:17):
back that 20% increase ofmessages that you're getting.
So don't be a jerk, havepositive energy and utilize this
opportunity on dating Sunday toget with it and start dating.
I'm using Tinder as an example,because this is where I got the
data from.
Most of the data in this podcastis from Tinder articles, but,
(05:41):
I'm sure that there's much moredata in other dating apps as
well.
I just happen to have this one alittle bit more clear because
that's where my research wasfrom.
So Tinder users on averageexperience over 10% more
matches.
With over 356 matches persecond.
(06:03):
Do you understand that?
per second, 356 matches persecond then the rest of the
year.
it's 10% more matches.
That's a lot of matches.
Think about it in a 24 hourperiod.
How many seconds are in a 24hour day?
So.
Also people are respondingfaster.
(06:24):
So You're more likely to respondfaster on Dating Sunday or that
other person that you'reengaging conversation with is
more likely to respond fasterbecause it happens to be Dating
Sunday and people are on it andready to go.
Right?
So again, Tinder users repliedto messages 2 hours and 16
(06:46):
minutes quicker than last year'sDating Sunday.
Those that's technically the2023 Dating Sunday compared to
2024 data.
Now we're collecting 2025 data.
So we'll have new numbers fornext year.
But, between 2023 and 2024,there was a 2 hour and 16 minute
(07:09):
quicker turnaround time forreplying to messages.
You're getting throughconversations more quickly than
normal.
If you're replying 2 more hoursfaster, that's a lot more
conversation exchanges then on aregular day.
Right?
So I am not going to sit and dothe math right now to find out
how many more messages thatwould be.
(07:31):
Because math is not my thing.
But, if you want to do the math,go for it and let me know so I
can put it on here.
Anyways, you get fasterresponses on Dating Sunday.
So January 5th, get ready forit.
It'll be a great day for you tostart your dating life fresh and
ready for 2025.
(07:51):
So how do you prepare for DatingSunday?
There's a lot of things that youcould do to get your profile
ready for Dating Sunday.
So this is your homework todayor, before Dating Sunday starts.
If you're listening to thisafter dating Sunday after
January 5th, 2025.
Then you got the next year, 2026to go and prepare.
(08:16):
You have a whole year.
Things that you could do (08:17):
If you've never online dated
before, get your profile up,pick a website, pick an app.
create your profile and, getgood photos of yourself.
And I'm not talking about goodphotos, like all the angles that
are just right in the perfectlighting.
I'm talking about photos thatrepresent who you are and what
you want in a partner.
(08:39):
Right?
Like doing all these Hottie BoomBody" selfies don't really do
you any justice or any favors.
Yes, you look great in thosephotos, but it's not showing any
of your character, personalityor anything else about you.
So you want your online datingprofile and photos to have some
(09:00):
substance.
Be realistic, honest andauthentic in your photos.
It is way better than just allthese little selfies of the
perfect angle in perfectlighting.
I promise you.
Create that profile and uploadthose pictures or get your
current profile and update thatbecause if you update your
(09:21):
current profile and your currentpictures, make sure you have
fresh pictures.
Hopefully took a lot of picturesduring the holiday season.
During Thanksgiving with family,work parties, Christmas events
that you might've attended, NewYear's Day events, you know,
whatever.
So tonight, take a lot ofpictures before you have too
much to drink to show andhighlight that you like to do
(09:44):
things for holidays, right.
Take pictures tonight and go andupload those in your dating
profile app and get ready forDating Sunday.
You want your photos to becurrent and with substance.
Show that you're a human thatenjoys doing things, not just a
bunch of selfies, right?
Cause selfies don't show.
(10:05):
Any of your personality or whoyou are or what you like to do.
I cannot stress that enough.
Get your profile ready and maybea great thing to do for your
profile right now is to talkabout your resolutions.
Share some 2025 goals that youmight have, share something
intriguing about you.
(10:26):
Something, that's going to catchan eye and create a
conversation, find someconversation starters and add
those into your profile.
And I think.
Asking, what are your 2025goals?
Or what are your 2025resolutions might be a great way
to engage in conversation andhave somebody message you.
So when you are messagingmessage with intent.
(10:50):
There's over 2.1 million moremessages sent daily during the
peak season than the rest of theyear.
The peak season is New Year'sDay, like that whole beginning
of January, dating Sunday, allthe way till Valentine's day.
January and February is the peakseason of online dating.
(11:13):
you get over 2.1 million moremessages sent a day during peak
season than the rest of theyear.
Starting conversations andshowing interest and being
original is going to help youstand out.
Include some fun resolutions orask about theirs, Message with
(11:33):
intent and don't be afraid tomessage somebody.
The worst thing that's going tohappen is they're not going to
message you back.
So it's okay.
Right.
So don't just wait for somebodyto message you,"Hey, what's up,"
like go and take your time andmessage them first.
(11:54):
And then it's okay.
Don't put so much thought andweight on what one person is
going to do.
And be like,"oh my God, they'regoing to reject me if they don't
answer back." Do you have tolook at it as rejection?
Or can you look at it as they'renot the person for me, they have
bad taste too bad for them.
(12:14):
You don't have to see it astotal rejection and the end of
the world, because one persondidn't write you back.
There's millions of people.
If you get 2.1 million moremessages being sent a year.
There's a lot of people.
On online dating apps, you aregoing to forget about them very
quickly.
So get over it.
Don't be so scared.
(12:35):
Just go for it and send themessage.
Feel that peak season energy,like I was saying earlier, being
that positive, refreshing newyear, new me mode.
It's the busiest time for datesin January and February.
There's over 298 more likesexchanged during that time of
(12:56):
the year, then the rest of theyear, 298 million more likes in
January and February, then theother 10 months of the year.
So, feel that energy like leaninto it and start liking those
people and start messaging them.
Be active and show your part tofind dates and find a
relationship and get the datinggoals that you want to achieve
(13:19):
completed.
And you have so much more of anopportunity to do this in
January and February and startwith Dating Sunday, start with
that very first, peak seasonday, you have nothing to lose.
Feel that energy, don't beNegative Nancy" or"Negative
Nelly" or whatever, no offensesending Nancy's or Nelly's, but,
(13:40):
don't be that negative personthat is going to bring this
bummish lame ass energy into thepicture because nobody's trying
to feel that.
You're not going to get themessages when you're being a
jerk on your profile or you justdon't have that energy of like
this refresh and up and ready togo and be active in your dating
(14:05):
experience.
So bring in the peak season,positive energy and bring in
that vibe and lean into it andgo for it.
Because you will definitely getbetter results doing that than
being all funky and have a badattitude.
Make it a team effort.
All the weight doesn't have tobe on you.
You have best friends, you havesome girlfriends or, a favorite
(14:26):
cousin or, aunt that you trustor whatever, maybe it is the
parent.
You have other people in yourlife that love you and know you
in a different way and they'revery close to you.
Bring them in on your datingjourney, it doesn't have to be a
solo sport.
50% of singles plan to lean ontheir friends to navigate them
(14:47):
through their dating journeysfor 2025.
Be part of that 50% that isgetting help from your best
friends are the people that knowyou the most.
Right?
Get a second opinion, show themwho you're talking to, what do
you think about them?
Do you think they're a goodmatch for me?
What did they say?
Does that mean they'reinterested or not.
Get a different perspective fromother people and have fun in the
(15:11):
process, make a day out of it.
Go and make a day with yourgirlfriends.
Do Sunday Funday brunch, takepictures enjoy the weather and
enjoy just a nice day hangingout with friends and talk about
your dating matches or whoyou're currently interested in.
Again, take pictures for yourprofile to freshen up your
profile every once in a whileand get your pictures current.
(15:34):
And just use that as a day tothrow in some of your dating
life and get some perspectivesfrom other people.
And maybe some of theexperiences that you share might
help your friends, give you thattough love advice.
Like you're doing it all wrongor whatever, because sometimes
you need to hear it.
Share your experiences withpeople that you trust and allow
(15:56):
them to help navigate yourdating journey.
Make it a team effort.
And then, manifest the kind ofrelationship that you want, the
kind of love that you want.
Use this time when you'recreating your profile and when
you're going on dates ormessaging people to reflect on
what you're looking for in 2025.
So right now, singles arelooking for trustworthiness,
(16:19):
physical attraction, sharedvalues, emotional availability,
and general shared interests.
40% of people are looking fortrustworthiness.
Physical attraction is 35%.
Emotional availability is 30%.
And 28% shared interests.
It is nice to have sharedinterests with people, but it's
(16:41):
also nice to be your own selfand have your own things, so
you're giving yourself a goodbalance in your life between
your relationship and your ownlife, right?
People need to have their ownlives and not just be consumed a
hundred percent in one person.
It's healthy to have multiplerelationships, whether it's the
love of your life or yourpersonal love interest and then
(17:01):
your mutual friends that youhave and family as well.
Right.
Some of the deal-breakers thatpeople are having in 2025, are
bad hygiene.
Thank goodness, 50% though.
50% of people care about badhygiene.
I need that number to be just alittle bit more.
I'm just saying.
Rudeness, 44%.
(17:23):
People have a deal breaker ofpeople who are rude.
Anybody who talks too much abouttheir ex, for no good reason.
Some times there's appropriateconversations to have with an
ex, if you're co-parenting or,you know, just specific
circumstances, right?
I not going to list a wholebunch of different
circumstances, but there'sappropriate types of talk to an
(17:44):
ex and then there'sinappropriate conversations that
you have with your ex or just,they just don't need to be all
up in your business, right?
Like that's why you're seeking anew partner, instead of somebody
that you've already decidedisn't the match for you, or
they've decided that you're notthe match for them.
So, don't talk too much to yourex, it's a major turnoff and
(18:09):
deal breaker and red flags.
So just don't do it right.
45% of singles are seeking the"golden retriever" type of
partner.
Somebody that's loyal,trustworthy, friendly and has a
whole lot of optimism.
So, I don't know if I would callit a"golden retriever" type That
is what Tinder has decided tocall it.
(18:29):
I would call it the partner thatis loyal friendly, trustworthy
and optimistic, but that's theperson most people are looking
for this year.
Nearly 45%, almost half thepeople are looking for this
"golden retriever" type person.
So, this is a great time for youto align your dating goals and
(18:54):
what truly matters to you.
Realize that you have choices,you don't have to say yes to
every single person.
You're looking for specificqualities in a person, now is
the best time to do it.
Between January and February,when everybody is in the mood
and getting more dates in thistime in this peak season.
Take the time to see that youhave choices and you can say no
(19:16):
to people.
You don't have to say,"yes" toevery single person that asks
you on a date, because if youwant to have alignment with a
partner and have a healthy, goodquality relationship, you need
to understand that what you wantand what you're looking for is
just as important, if not moreimportant than anything else.
So what matters to you and whatyour dating goals are and what
(19:39):
you're looking for arelationship is most important.
So that is all about DatingSunday.
That is in a few days.
Enjoy it.
Get ready for it.
Get those profiles ready, getthose pictures up there, be
authentic, be yourself and askgood questions.
What are their goals?
(19:59):
What are your goals that youwant to share to see if people
have similar interests orsimilar goals?
That is a great conversationstarter.
Don't be afraid to reach out andbe the first person to DM.
Them not messaging you back isnot the end of the world.
It's just, one less person toworry about ruling out in the
(20:20):
future.
So you have more people to focuson.
Open the next door, close thatone, it's fine.
That's just part of dating.
Have a happy and safe New Year'sEve tonight.
Enjoy yourself, even if it's acozy night in.
If you have to work in themorning and you can't make it a
whole thing, enjoy your sleep.
(20:41):
Get the best night of rest thatyou can get so that you could
start New Year's Day off freshand ready to go.
Have a happy new year and getstarted on the peak season of
dating.
And if you haven't downloaded mydating profile checklist.
(21:01):
Then go ahead and do that.
You can go to the show notes inthe podcast.
I have a link for The Curvy GirlDating Profile Checklist, and
you can download that and it isa guide that will help you
create the profile that is goingto catch the right attention to
the right people.
So, please feel free to downloadthat.
(21:23):
Send me an email or message meif you need anything have a
great wonderful day and a freshNew Year, and I'll see you next
week.
Bye.
You are listening to The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast,
Episode 23, Dating Sunday.
Hi, I'm Cristina.
After 10 years of dating, I wastired of attracting the wrong
type of guys and thinking I hadto lose weight to find love.
I finally figured out how todate and I found the love I
thought I would never find eachweek.
(00:22):
I'll teach you dating advice,share dating stories and help
you ditch the dating drama.
My goal is to help you have funand create the life you love.
If you're ready to take yourdating to another level, then
listen up and let's go.
Hello everyone.
Happy New year's Eve and HappyNew Years tomorrow.
(00:46):
I am so excited about the newyear and new goals and just a
new fresh start.
So today we're going to talkabout Dating Sunday.
January 5th is the biggestonline dating day of the year.
It's a great time to takeadvantage of that day if dating
(01:08):
or finding a relationship is oneof the goals that you have for
2025.
So, what is Dating Sunday?
Like I've said, it's the biggestday of the year where there's
the most traffic and mostsignups on online dating apps
and websites compared to anyother day of the year.
Because people are motivated tohave a fresh start in dating and
(01:33):
they might want a relationshipthis year in 2025.
They're more likely to find adate on Dating Sunday.
So you have bigger chances ofgetting a date on that day than
any other day of the year.
So, if you're ready to go hardand get started on dating and go
(01:54):
all in 100%, this is going to bethe day for you to do that.
It's a combination of the end ofthe winter holiday season, all
the Christmas Thanksgiving andNew Year's and the New Year's
resolution to find arelationship that increases your
likelihood to find dates.
So the peak of the dating seasonis right now, Dating Sunday, all
(02:18):
the way til Valentine's Day.
So that is your prime time to gofor it and go all in finding new
dates, you know, and a potentialpartner, if that's what you're
looking for.
Dating Sunday came frommatch.com as a marketing term,
and they made it up in 2015.
And so slowly the terms startedto grow not only in dating apps
(02:43):
as a marketing term, but for theday-to-day person as well.
So some data that you have aboutDating Sunday and why it is the
biggest day of the year foronline dating.
Match.com estimates 40% increasein online dating participants
compared to any other day of theyear.
(03:04):
And Tinder says that over 10%more matches and 20% more
messages will be sent on thatday compared to the rest of the
year.
The first Sunday of the year, isproven to be the ultimate dating
kickstart for 2025.
Data shows that the first Sundayof the year, sees a surge in
(03:27):
activity, like no other day.
The swiping activity is about20% higher on Tinder than any
other day of the year.
The number of likes that you geton Tinder is 15% higher.
And, singles are in conversationmode.
They're ready to talk.
(03:48):
They're ready to send messagesanswer messages and create
conversations.
So single people are ready tohave conversations and about 12%
more likely to have aconversation With the number of
messages that they're gettingsent.
On dating apps.
(04:08):
Being nearly 20% higher than therest of the year.
So take advantage of theincrease in messages that you're
going to get.
And the more likely you'llincrease your ability to have a
conversation with those people,right?
Everybody's in a good mood,everybody's fresh and ready to
go and hopeful.
So use that and go with it,right?
(04:32):
Bring in that positive energy aswell.
Find people with that sameenergy, because then you're
going to get more dates, morelikely.
Cause if you still go into thenew year dragging ass and
believing like,"Ooh, I'm goingto be single another year
because dating sucks and I hateit," and whatever, and you still
(04:53):
bring in that negative energy,none of this data is going to
matter because you're not goingto be in conversation mode.
You're not going to be morelikely to message back.
So the 20% more DMs that you'regetting.
If you're not feeling it andyou're being a grumpy goose,
then it's less likely for you totake an opportunity to write
(05:17):
back that 20% increase ofmessages that you're getting.
So don't be a jerk, havepositive energy and utilize this
opportunity on dating Sunday toget with it and start dating.
I'm using Tinder as an example,because this is where I got the
data from.
Most of the data in this podcastis from Tinder articles, but,
(05:41):
I'm sure that there's much moredata in other dating apps as
well.
I just happen to have this one alittle bit more clear because
that's where my research wasfrom.
So Tinder users on averageexperience over 10% more
matches.
With over 356 matches persecond.
(06:03):
Do you understand that?
per second, 356 matches persecond then the rest of the
year.
it's 10% more matches.
That's a lot of matches.
Think about it in a 24 hourperiod.
How many seconds are in a 24hour day?
So.
Also people are respondingfaster.
(06:24):
So You're more likely to respondfaster on Dating Sunday or that
other person that you'reengaging conversation with is
more likely to respond fasterbecause it happens to be Dating
Sunday and people are on it andready to go.
Right?
So again, Tinder users repliedto messages 2 hours and 16
(06:46):
minutes quicker than last year'sDating Sunday.
Those that's technically the2023 Dating Sunday compared to
2024 data.
Now we're collecting 2025 data.
So we'll have new numbers fornext year.
But, between 2023 and 2024,there was a 2 hour and 16 minute
(07:09):
quicker turnaround time forreplying to messages.
You're getting throughconversations more quickly than
normal.
If you're replying 2 more hoursfaster, that's a lot more
conversation exchanges then on aregular day.
Right?
So I am not going to sit and dothe math right now to find out
how many more messages thatwould be.
(07:31):
Because math is not my thing.
But, if you want to do the math,go for it and let me know so I
can put it on here.
Anyways, you get fasterresponses on Dating Sunday.
So January 5th, get ready forit.
It'll be a great day for you tostart your dating life fresh and
ready for 2025.
(07:51):
So how do you prepare for DatingSunday?
There's a lot of things that youcould do to get your profile
ready for Dating Sunday.
So this is your homework todayor, before Dating Sunday starts.
If you're listening to thisafter dating Sunday after
January 5th, 2025.
Then you got the next year, 2026to go and prepare.
(08:16):
You have a whole year.
Things that you could do (08:17):
If you've never online dated
before, get your profile up,pick a website, pick an app.
create your profile and, getgood photos of yourself.
And I'm not talking about goodphotos, like all the angles that
are just right in the perfectlighting.
I'm talking about photos thatrepresent who you are and what
you want in a partner.
(08:39):
Right?
Like doing all these Hottie BoomBody" selfies don't really do
you any justice or any favors.
Yes, you look great in thosephotos, but it's not showing any
of your character, personalityor anything else about you.
So you want your online datingprofile and photos to have some
(09:00):
substance.
Be realistic, honest andauthentic in your photos.
It is way better than just allthese little selfies of the
perfect angle in perfectlighting.
I promise you.
Create that profile and uploadthose pictures or get your
current profile and update thatbecause if you update your
(09:21):
current profile and your currentpictures, make sure you have
fresh pictures.
Hopefully took a lot of picturesduring the holiday season.
During Thanksgiving with family,work parties, Christmas events
that you might've attended, NewYear's Day events, you know,
whatever.
So tonight, take a lot ofpictures before you have too
much to drink to show andhighlight that you like to do
(09:44):
things for holidays, right.
Take pictures tonight and go andupload those in your dating
profile app and get ready forDating Sunday.
You want your photos to becurrent and with substance.
Show that you're a human thatenjoys doing things, not just a
bunch of selfies, right?
Cause selfies don't show.
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Any of your personality or whoyou are or what you like to do.
I cannot stress that enough.
Get your profile ready and maybea great thing to do for your
profile right now is to talkabout your resolutions.
Share some 2025 goals that youmight have, share something
intriguing about you.
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Something, that's going to catchan eye and create a
conversation, find someconversation starters and add
those into your profile.
And I think.
Asking, what are your 2025goals?
Or what are your 2025resolutions might be a great way
to engage in conversation andhave somebody message you.
So when you are messagingmessage with intent.
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There's over 2.1 million moremessages sent daily during the
peak season than the rest of theyear.
The peak season is New Year'sDay, like that whole beginning
of January, dating Sunday, allthe way till Valentine's day.
January and February is the peakseason of online dating.
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you get over 2.1 million moremessages sent a day during peak
season than the rest of theyear.
Starting conversations andshowing interest and being
original is going to help youstand out.
Include some fun resolutions orask about theirs, Message with
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intent and don't be afraid tomessage somebody.
The worst thing that's going tohappen is they're not going to
message you back.
So it's okay.
Right.
So don't just wait for somebodyto message you,"Hey, what's up,"
like go and take your time andmessage them first.
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And then it's okay.
Don't put so much thought andweight on what one person is
going to do.
And be like,"oh my God, they'regoing to reject me if they don't
answer back." Do you have tolook at it as rejection?
Or can you look at it as they'renot the person for me, they have
bad taste too bad for them.
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You don't have to see it astotal rejection and the end of
the world, because one persondidn't write you back.
There's millions of people.
If you get 2.1 million moremessages being sent a year.
There's a lot of people.
On online dating apps, you aregoing to forget about them very
quickly.
So get over it.
Don't be so scared.
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Just go for it and send themessage.
Feel that peak season energy,like I was saying earlier, being
that positive, refreshing newyear, new me mode.
It's the busiest time for datesin January and February.
There's over 298 more likesexchanged during that time of
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the year, then the rest of theyear, 298 million more likes in
January and February, then theother 10 months of the year.
So, feel that energy like leaninto it and start liking those
people and start messaging them.
Be active and show your part tofind dates and find a
relationship and get the datinggoals that you want to achieve
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completed.
And you have so much more of anopportunity to do this in
January and February and startwith Dating Sunday, start with
that very first, peak seasonday, you have nothing to lose.
Feel that energy, don't beNegative Nancy" or"Negative
Nelly" or whatever, no offensesending Nancy's or Nelly's, but,
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don't be that negative personthat is going to bring this
bummish lame ass energy into thepicture because nobody's trying
to feel that.
You're not going to get themessages when you're being a
jerk on your profile or you justdon't have that energy of like
this refresh and up and ready togo and be active in your dating
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experience.
So bring in the peak season,positive energy and bring in
that vibe and lean into it andgo for it.
Because you will definitely getbetter results doing that than
being all funky and have a badattitude.
Make it a team effort.
All the weight doesn't have tobe on you.
You have best friends, you havesome girlfriends or, a favorite
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cousin or, aunt that you trustor whatever, maybe it is the
parent.
You have other people in yourlife that love you and know you
in a different way and they'revery close to you.
Bring them in on your datingjourney, it doesn't have to be a
solo sport.
50% of singles plan to lean ontheir friends to navigate them
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through their dating journeysfor 2025.
Be part of that 50% that isgetting help from your best
friends are the people that knowyou the most.
Right?
Get a second opinion, show themwho you're talking to, what do
you think about them?
Do you think they're a goodmatch for me?
What did they say?
Does that mean they'reinterested or not.
Get a different perspective fromother people and have fun in the
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process, make a day out of it.
Go and make a day with yourgirlfriends.
Do Sunday Funday brunch, takepictures enjoy the weather and
enjoy just a nice day hangingout with friends and talk about
your dating matches or whoyou're currently interested in.
Again, take pictures for yourprofile to freshen up your
profile every once in a whileand get your pictures current.
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And just use that as a day tothrow in some of your dating
life and get some perspectivesfrom other people.
And maybe some of theexperiences that you share might
help your friends, give you thattough love advice.
Like you're doing it all wrongor whatever, because sometimes
you need to hear it.
Share your experiences withpeople that you trust and allow
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them to help navigate yourdating journey.
Make it a team effort.
And then, manifest the kind ofrelationship that you want, the
kind of love that you want.
Use this time when you'recreating your profile and when
you're going on dates ormessaging people to reflect on
what you're looking for in 2025.
So right now, singles arelooking for trustworthiness,
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physical attraction, sharedvalues, emotional availability,
and general shared interests.
40% of people are looking fortrustworthiness.
Physical attraction is 35%.
Emotional availability is 30%.
And 28% shared interests.
It is nice to have sharedinterests with people, but it's
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also nice to be your own selfand have your own things, so
you're giving yourself a goodbalance in your life between
your relationship and your ownlife, right?
People need to have their ownlives and not just be consumed a
hundred percent in one person.
It's healthy to have multiplerelationships, whether it's the
love of your life or yourpersonal love interest and then
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your mutual friends that youhave and family as well.
Right.
Some of the deal-breakers thatpeople are having in 2025, are
bad hygiene.
Thank goodness, 50% though.
50% of people care about badhygiene.
I need that number to be just alittle bit more.
I'm just saying.
Rudeness, 44%.
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People have a deal breaker ofpeople who are rude.
Anybody who talks too much abouttheir ex, for no good reason.
Some times there's appropriateconversations to have with an
ex, if you're co-parenting or,you know, just specific
circumstances, right?
I not going to list a wholebunch of different
circumstances, but there'sappropriate types of talk to an
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ex and then there'sinappropriate conversations that
you have with your ex or just,they just don't need to be all
up in your business, right?
Like that's why you're seeking anew partner, instead of somebody
that you've already decidedisn't the match for you, or
they've decided that you're notthe match for them.
So, don't talk too much to yourex, it's a major turnoff and
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deal breaker and red flags.
So just don't do it right.
45% of singles are seeking the"golden retriever" type of
partner.
Somebody that's loyal,trustworthy, friendly and has a
whole lot of optimism.
So, I don't know if I would callit a"golden retriever" type That
is what Tinder has decided tocall it.
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I would call it the partner thatis loyal friendly, trustworthy
and optimistic, but that's theperson most people are looking
for this year.
Nearly 45%, almost half thepeople are looking for this
"golden retriever" type person.
So, this is a great time for youto align your dating goals and
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what truly matters to you.
Realize that you have choices,you don't have to say yes to
every single person.
You're looking for specificqualities in a person, now is
the best time to do it.
Between January and February,when everybody is in the mood
and getting more dates in thistime in this peak season.
Take the time to see that youhave choices and you can say no
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to people.
You don't have to say,"yes" toevery single person that asks
you on a date, because if youwant to have alignment with a
partner and have a healthy, goodquality relationship, you need
to understand that what you wantand what you're looking for is
just as important, if not moreimportant than anything else.
So what matters to you and whatyour dating goals are and what
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you're looking for arelationship is most important.
So that is all about DatingSunday.
That is in a few days.
Enjoy it.
Get ready for it.
Get those profiles ready, getthose pictures up there, be
authentic, be yourself and askgood questions.
What are their goals?
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What are your goals that youwant to share to see if people
have similar interests orsimilar goals?
That is a great conversationstarter.
Don't be afraid to reach out andbe the first person to DM.
Them not messaging you back isnot the end of the world.
It's just, one less person toworry about ruling out in the
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future.
So you have more people to focuson.
Open the next door, close thatone, it's fine.
That's just part of dating.
Have a happy and safe New Year'sEve tonight.
Enjoy yourself, even if it's acozy night in.
If you have to work in themorning and you can't make it a
whole thing, enjoy your sleep.
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Get the best night of rest thatyou can get so that you could
start New Year's Day off freshand ready to go.
Have a happy new year and getstarted on the peak season of
dating.
And if you haven't downloaded mydating profile checklist.
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Then go ahead and do that.
You can go to the show notes inthe podcast.
I have a link for The Curvy GirlDating Profile Checklist, and
you can download that and it isa guide that will help you
create the profile that is goingto catch the right attention to
the right people.
So, please feel free to downloadthat.
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Send me an email or message meif you need anything have a
great wonderful day and a freshNew Year, and I'll see you next
week.
Bye.
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