January 29, 2025 • 14 mins
In this episode of The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast, Cristina shares her 'Word of the Year' for 2025—Connection. Cristina explains the significance of choosing a word annually, emphasizing personal and relational growth. She discusses various strategies for deepening her connections with herself, her loved ones, and her clients, including solo dates, daily journaling, and being more intentional with social interactions. Cristina encourages listeners to select their own word of the year to enhance their lives and relationships. The episode wraps up with an invitation to schedule a free consultation for personalized coaching.
00:00 Introduction to The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast
00:52 Cristina's Word of the Year: Connection
02:28 Connecting with Yourself: Daily Practices
05:12 Connecting with Friends and Family
08:37 Connecting with Clients and Social Media
11:05 Conclusion and Encouragement
13:41 How to Work with Cristina
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Cristina (00:00):
You are listening to The Curvy Girl dating Podcast,
Episode 27 (00:03):
My Word of the Year.
Hi, I'm Cristina.
After 10 years of dating, I wastired of attracting the wrong
type of guys and thinking I hadto lose weight to find love.
I finally figured out how todate and I found the love I
thought I would never find eachweek.
I'll teach you dating advice,share dating stories and help
(00:26):
you ditch the dating drama.
My goal is to help you have funand create the life you love.
If you're ready to take yourdating to another level, then
listen up and let's go.
Hey y'all! Welcome to The CurvyGirl Dating Podcast.
I am recording from my sofatoday, I wanted to move around
(00:49):
and not be in my office.
So I wanted to change it up.
Anyhow, before the month ends, Iwanted to talk about what my
word of the year is.
I pick a word of the year everyyear and my word this year is
connection.
I am excited to dive in thisepisode and tell you what
(01:09):
connection means to me and howI'm going to make that a focus
of my year this year.
For me, connection is more thanjust a buzzword.
It's about being intentional.
It's about showing up, not justfor other people, but for myself
as well.
So this year, I want to connectdeeper with myself, my friends
(01:31):
and my family, with Ryan, withCurvy Girl and of course, with
you So let's be real dating,self love and confidence all
start with how you feel whenyou're connected and how you
feel about the world around youand the people around you.
When you're surrounding yourselfwith people that you want to
(01:53):
connect with, you can havedeeper relationships.
For 2025, I really want to focuson that intention to connect.
If you haven't chosen a word ofthe year, I would encourage you
to do so.
You can pick connection if you'dlike, or something else that
resonates with you as well.
(02:15):
With that being said, I sat andthought about connection and
intention.
I really wanted to make surethat I was figuring out real
ways to connect, right?
So I sat around and I thoughtabout it and ways that I'm
planning on connecting withmyself.
First of all, having the wordsurrounded by me.
(02:37):
I have it on my whiteboard.
I have it on my mirror in mybathroom, so I can see it around
myself all the time, right?
And I'll probably put it on myphone or something just so I can
see and remind myself thatconnection is my focus this
year.
The way I want to connect withmyself is by having some daily
(03:00):
check ins.
Every single day, I journal andI write down my food plan, what
my work plans are, my goals forthe day, the priorities I have.
I'm going to have a little spotfor the word connection and
basically how I'm planning onconnecting that day with either
myself or with someone.
(03:21):
And, just maybe journal aboutwhat I need in my life or, how
can I show myself more love?
So another way I want to connectwith myself is giving myself
solo dates.
I talk to you guys about solodates often and how to get
yourself out there and going togo do things.
(03:43):
And I need to do the same thing.
I need to take my own advice.
I have put a lot to the side andkind of changed things up since
I moved last year and theroutines that I loved before,
I'm just not doing any more.
Example, walking.
I used to walk every weekend,every Saturday morning and
(04:05):
listen to podcasts and audiobooks and just have a nice quiet
walk in the mornings and it wasgreat.
I really enjoyed the connectionthat I had with myself and I was
learning and just giving myselflike all the positive vibes and
getting some vitamin C and justreally being out and about so
that's something I would like tocontinue and create a new habit
(04:28):
for again this year.
Because I really enjoy that.
Same thing with my Peloton, ifyou have Peloton and you want to
follow me, I'm 1CurvyGirl by theway.
But now that I'm putting it outinto the universe, I should
probably make a schedule and geton that Peloton.
If you want to ride and do aride with me, then send me a
(04:50):
message and let's schedule it.
Cause I could definitely use theaccountability and the
encouragement.
So let's do it.
That's another way to connect,right?
My dog needs to go on somewalks.
He's got a lot of energy.
He's a puppy.
I would be doing us both a favorif I had some connection while
going on a walk and spent somequality time with him to get
(05:10):
some energy out and get someexercise.
Those are some kind of thingsthat I'm planning on doing for
myself, but with friends andfamily, I know that a lot of
times in the last few years, Ireally haven't spent a lot of
time going out and said no to alot of things because I am
(05:30):
either working on Curvy Girl orI'm just tired and I need rest.
I really love being at home, butlike I tell you guys, if you
want a life and you want to godo things and just live it up,
then going to do things is howto make it happen.
I again want to follow my ownadvice and get out and do things
(05:53):
and especially be with myfriends and family and
appreciate them more.
So saying yes to invitations isone thing that I want to do and
commit to as well.
For example, I've already donereally this year.
I know it's only been a fewweekends, but I was invited to
watch football and celebrate abirthday this year with, my
(06:16):
friend.
And I hadn't seen this group ofpeople for a very long time.
I went and I was very excited togo cause I really wanted to go
spend time and celebrate thisbirthday.
I had to decide what was moreimportant, connection and
getting a chance to spend timeand celebrate a birthday and see
some friends and catch up withpeople or sitting at home
(06:38):
watching reruns and doingnothing.
Making the effort to go see myfriend was more important.
I wanted to go do that and Icommitted to what I wanted to
do.
So that was one thing, and thenI signed up for a chili and
gumbo cookoff with my uncle.
I think I talked about it lastweek, but, I signed up for that
(07:00):
and it was super fun and we hada great time.
It was really cold, but I got tobe social.
I got to get some exercise, beoutside, connect with my whole
family because they came tosupport us and the cookoff and
we didn't win anything, but wehad a great time anyways and got
to socialize with people in theneighborhood and our neighbors.
(07:21):
It was a lot of fun.
Other ways that I haven't donebefore, which I think would be a
great way to connect with peoplethis year is just checking in
with random friends that Ihaven't talked to in a long
time, sending a little textmessage.
"Hey, how's it going?
I'm just thinking about you,"sending a voice message or a
text or, getting some time toget on a zoom and talk to
(07:43):
somebody.
A lot of times, we don't havetime or we live far away and
committing to go get coffeeisn't really reasonable.
So getting on a zoom call ispossible, and keeping up that
way.
Picking up my niece and nephewand going to do something with
them or babysitting more andconnecting with them, whatever.
(08:05):
But doing that, I know isanother way to connect with my
family and just asking them deepquestions that are more than the
surface level,"Hey, how are youtoday?" Asking what's going on
in their life right now that'sexciting.
What are they looking forwardto?
Do they have any goals thatthey're trying to achieve?
How are they really feelinglately?
(08:26):
What's going on?
Do they need to talk aboutsomething?
I think having some compassionand really focus on having those
deep conversations is soimportant.
Some other ways that I'd like toconnect with people that I'm
close to or I want to get closeto, and with Curvy Girl and my
clients, I really want to makesure that I'm listening to them
(08:51):
on another level, like on how Ican serve and be a better coach,
as well as ideas and things thatI could do differently or better
or anything that can helpsupport my clients or my
business.
I'm all about it.
And I just want to engage in notjust the professional way, but
also on another personal levelas well.
(09:14):
Committing to that, showing moreabout my personal life on
stories and things like that.
I am not the best at socialmedia and it's something that I
would like to do because I lovefollowing people on social media
and I feel like they're friendsbecause they post so much and
like I know who they are andwhat they do and what they're
(09:35):
thinking and stuff like that Ienjoy that, even though they're
total strangers, right?
I know deep down, this person'sa stranger, but I enjoy
following people and getting toknow them through social media.
And it's always a strugglebecause I have the thoughts
like,"who wants to see what I'meating today?" Or"who cares if
(09:55):
I'm cooking dinner tonight?" Butyeah, I would like to post more
and share more of my personallife.
And I think one big way of doingthat is by going out and
planning things and having solodates and taking care of myself
and being social with my friendsand family.
That is the way I can connect.
(10:16):
Nobody wants to see me sittingon the couch watching Seinfeld
again for the millionth time.
I would like to have all of thatgo together in my connection
with myself and the peoplearound me.
So it's all together.
Do you see how it's building up?
It's personal connection formyself and going out and seeing
(10:37):
people and living my life andbeing intentional is creating
this whole entire life that ismuch more fulfilling than, just
sitting around enjoying thecomfort of my own home, which is
also a good way to connect, but,being able to do multiple things
and enjoying connection indifferent ways is also a bonus.
(10:58):
So I think that is somethingthat I'm going to work on.
anyhow.
I just wanted to share what myword of the year was, and I
definitely encourage you tocreate and find a word of the
year for yourself as well.
Something that resonates withyou, something that you want to
(11:20):
improve on, and it could besomething little.
Like peace, if you want quiettime for yourself, if you want,
more joy in your life, how areyou going to create more joy?
That's fine, too.
There is no wrong answer on theword of the year.
If it's boundaries, maybe youwant to create boundaries for
the year.
(11:41):
That is also one as well.
People pleasing, if you want toreduce your people pleasing.
There's probably a better wordfor that, but that could be
something that you can have as aword of the year again, like
boundaries.
So many things that you could doto create a better version of
yourself every single day.
I think that's important withdating as well.
(12:01):
Again, with connections andcreating, relationships.
Of course, you're not going toconnect with every single person
and be a match with every singledate that you go on, but
learning how to practice havinggenuine connection and having
conversations and creating theconnection with yourself and
being more confident in who youare and owning who you are and
(12:22):
what you do.
And being proud of yourself andall the things is a great way to
embrace connection and embracedating as well.
So think about what your word ofthe year is.
I would love to know what thatwould be for you.
I'm excited to hear what youhave, maybe it's freedom, maybe
(12:45):
it's resilience, maybe it'sgrowth.
I definitely encourage you totry that.
Send me your word of the yearand why you chose that word.
would love to hear what youhave, that's a wrap for today's
episode, and I hope you'rewalking away with some
inspiration to make 2025 a goodyear for you and finding the
(13:07):
right word for you, maybeconnection is it, but whether
it's connection or somethingelse, I think that having a word
to focus on is really important.
A great tool to have in yourback pocket.
I just wanted to share that withyou guys today, and I'm super
excited and looking forward toall the new things that I'm
(13:28):
going to try and the ways thatI'm going to connect differently
than I have before in the pastand just discover and learn
different things about myselfand other people.
I'm looking forward to seeinghow that goes.
If you want to learn how to workwith me, I have a link in my
show notes of how to get aconsultation.
(13:49):
You can have a free consultationwith me.
If you would like to learn howto work with me and we can work
on anything.
It doesn't have to just bedating.
It could be your personal goals,business goals, dating goals,
anything that you have that youwant to work on and you feel
like you need some coaching andsome accountability for, I'm
happy to help.
So schedule a consultation andwe'll talk about it and see if
(14:13):
it's a good match or a good fit.
And you got nothing to lose,right?
It's a conversation that wewould have.
That's it.
Or if you have questions, ofcourse, email me anytime.
I'm always available and happyto respond to any of your
questions.
Thank you so much.
I will talk to you next week.
You are listening to The Curvy Girl dating Podcast,
Episode 27 (00:03):
My Word of the Year.
Hi, I'm Cristina.
After 10 years of dating, I wastired of attracting the wrong
type of guys and thinking I hadto lose weight to find love.
I finally figured out how todate and I found the love I
thought I would never find eachweek.
I'll teach you dating advice,share dating stories and help
(00:26):
you ditch the dating drama.
My goal is to help you have funand create the life you love.
If you're ready to take yourdating to another level, then
listen up and let's go.
Hey y'all! Welcome to The CurvyGirl Dating Podcast.
I am recording from my sofatoday, I wanted to move around
(00:49):
and not be in my office.
So I wanted to change it up.
Anyhow, before the month ends, Iwanted to talk about what my
word of the year is.
I pick a word of the year everyyear and my word this year is
connection.
I am excited to dive in thisepisode and tell you what
(01:09):
connection means to me and howI'm going to make that a focus
of my year this year.
For me, connection is more thanjust a buzzword.
It's about being intentional.
It's about showing up, not justfor other people, but for myself
as well.
So this year, I want to connectdeeper with myself, my friends
(01:31):
and my family, with Ryan, withCurvy Girl and of course, with
you So let's be real dating,self love and confidence all
start with how you feel whenyou're connected and how you
feel about the world around youand the people around you.
When you're surrounding yourselfwith people that you want to
(01:53):
connect with, you can havedeeper relationships.
For 2025, I really want to focuson that intention to connect.
If you haven't chosen a word ofthe year, I would encourage you
to do so.
You can pick connection if you'dlike, or something else that
resonates with you as well.
(02:15):
With that being said, I sat andthought about connection and
intention.
I really wanted to make surethat I was figuring out real
ways to connect, right?
So I sat around and I thoughtabout it and ways that I'm
planning on connecting withmyself.
First of all, having the wordsurrounded by me.
(02:37):
I have it on my whiteboard.
I have it on my mirror in mybathroom, so I can see it around
myself all the time, right?
And I'll probably put it on myphone or something just so I can
see and remind myself thatconnection is my focus this
year.
The way I want to connect withmyself is by having some daily
(03:00):
check ins.
Every single day, I journal andI write down my food plan, what
my work plans are, my goals forthe day, the priorities I have.
I'm going to have a little spotfor the word connection and
basically how I'm planning onconnecting that day with either
myself or with someone.
(03:21):
And, just maybe journal aboutwhat I need in my life or, how
can I show myself more love?
So another way I want to connectwith myself is giving myself
solo dates.
I talk to you guys about solodates often and how to get
yourself out there and going togo do things.
(03:43):
And I need to do the same thing.
I need to take my own advice.
I have put a lot to the side andkind of changed things up since
I moved last year and theroutines that I loved before,
I'm just not doing any more.
Example, walking.
I used to walk every weekend,every Saturday morning and
(04:05):
listen to podcasts and audiobooks and just have a nice quiet
walk in the mornings and it wasgreat.
I really enjoyed the connectionthat I had with myself and I was
learning and just giving myselflike all the positive vibes and
getting some vitamin C and justreally being out and about so
that's something I would like tocontinue and create a new habit
(04:28):
for again this year.
Because I really enjoy that.
Same thing with my Peloton, ifyou have Peloton and you want to
follow me, I'm 1CurvyGirl by theway.
But now that I'm putting it outinto the universe, I should
probably make a schedule and geton that Peloton.
If you want to ride and do aride with me, then send me a
(04:50):
message and let's schedule it.
Cause I could definitely use theaccountability and the
encouragement.
So let's do it.
That's another way to connect,right?
My dog needs to go on somewalks.
He's got a lot of energy.
He's a puppy.
I would be doing us both a favorif I had some connection while
going on a walk and spent somequality time with him to get
(05:10):
some energy out and get someexercise.
Those are some kind of thingsthat I'm planning on doing for
myself, but with friends andfamily, I know that a lot of
times in the last few years, Ireally haven't spent a lot of
time going out and said no to alot of things because I am
(05:30):
either working on Curvy Girl orI'm just tired and I need rest.
I really love being at home, butlike I tell you guys, if you
want a life and you want to godo things and just live it up,
then going to do things is howto make it happen.
I again want to follow my ownadvice and get out and do things
(05:53):
and especially be with myfriends and family and
appreciate them more.
So saying yes to invitations isone thing that I want to do and
commit to as well.
For example, I've already donereally this year.
I know it's only been a fewweekends, but I was invited to
watch football and celebrate abirthday this year with, my
(06:16):
friend.
And I hadn't seen this group ofpeople for a very long time.
I went and I was very excited togo cause I really wanted to go
spend time and celebrate thisbirthday.
I had to decide what was moreimportant, connection and
getting a chance to spend timeand celebrate a birthday and see
some friends and catch up withpeople or sitting at home
(06:38):
watching reruns and doingnothing.
Making the effort to go see myfriend was more important.
I wanted to go do that and Icommitted to what I wanted to
do.
So that was one thing, and thenI signed up for a chili and
gumbo cookoff with my uncle.
I think I talked about it lastweek, but, I signed up for that
(07:00):
and it was super fun and we hada great time.
It was really cold, but I got tobe social.
I got to get some exercise, beoutside, connect with my whole
family because they came tosupport us and the cookoff and
we didn't win anything, but wehad a great time anyways and got
to socialize with people in theneighborhood and our neighbors.
(07:21):
It was a lot of fun.
Other ways that I haven't donebefore, which I think would be a
great way to connect with peoplethis year is just checking in
with random friends that Ihaven't talked to in a long
time, sending a little textmessage.
"Hey, how's it going?
I'm just thinking about you,"sending a voice message or a
text or, getting some time toget on a zoom and talk to
(07:43):
somebody.
A lot of times, we don't havetime or we live far away and
committing to go get coffeeisn't really reasonable.
So getting on a zoom call ispossible, and keeping up that
way.
Picking up my niece and nephewand going to do something with
them or babysitting more andconnecting with them, whatever.
(08:05):
But doing that, I know isanother way to connect with my
family and just asking them deepquestions that are more than the
surface level,"Hey, how are youtoday?" Asking what's going on
in their life right now that'sexciting.
What are they looking forwardto?
Do they have any goals thatthey're trying to achieve?
How are they really feelinglately?
(08:26):
What's going on?
Do they need to talk aboutsomething?
I think having some compassionand really focus on having those
deep conversations is soimportant.
Some other ways that I'd like toconnect with people that I'm
close to or I want to get closeto, and with Curvy Girl and my
clients, I really want to makesure that I'm listening to them
(08:51):
on another level, like on how Ican serve and be a better coach,
as well as ideas and things thatI could do differently or better
or anything that can helpsupport my clients or my
business.
I'm all about it.
And I just want to engage in notjust the professional way, but
also on another personal levelas well.
(09:14):
Committing to that, showing moreabout my personal life on
stories and things like that.
I am not the best at socialmedia and it's something that I
would like to do because I lovefollowing people on social media
and I feel like they're friendsbecause they post so much and
like I know who they are andwhat they do and what they're
(09:35):
thinking and stuff like that Ienjoy that, even though they're
total strangers, right?
I know deep down, this person'sa stranger, but I enjoy
following people and getting toknow them through social media.
And it's always a strugglebecause I have the thoughts
like,"who wants to see what I'meating today?" Or"who cares if
(09:55):
I'm cooking dinner tonight?" Butyeah, I would like to post more
and share more of my personallife.
And I think one big way of doingthat is by going out and
planning things and having solodates and taking care of myself
and being social with my friendsand family.
That is the way I can connect.
(10:16):
Nobody wants to see me sittingon the couch watching Seinfeld
again for the millionth time.
I would like to have all of thatgo together in my connection
with myself and the peoplearound me.
So it's all together.
Do you see how it's building up?
It's personal connection formyself and going out and seeing
(10:37):
people and living my life andbeing intentional is creating
this whole entire life that ismuch more fulfilling than, just
sitting around enjoying thecomfort of my own home, which is
also a good way to connect, but,being able to do multiple things
and enjoying connection indifferent ways is also a bonus.
(10:58):
So I think that is somethingthat I'm going to work on.
anyhow.
I just wanted to share what myword of the year was, and I
definitely encourage you tocreate and find a word of the
year for yourself as well.
Something that resonates withyou, something that you want to
(11:20):
improve on, and it could besomething little.
Like peace, if you want quiettime for yourself, if you want,
more joy in your life, how areyou going to create more joy?
That's fine, too.
There is no wrong answer on theword of the year.
If it's boundaries, maybe youwant to create boundaries for
the year.
(11:41):
That is also one as well.
People pleasing, if you want toreduce your people pleasing.
There's probably a better wordfor that, but that could be
something that you can have as aword of the year again, like
boundaries.
So many things that you could doto create a better version of
yourself every single day.
I think that's important withdating as well.
(12:01):
Again, with connections andcreating, relationships.
Of course, you're not going toconnect with every single person
and be a match with every singledate that you go on, but
learning how to practice havinggenuine connection and having
conversations and creating theconnection with yourself and
being more confident in who youare and owning who you are and
(12:22):
what you do.
And being proud of yourself andall the things is a great way to
embrace connection and embracedating as well.
So think about what your word ofthe year is.
I would love to know what thatwould be for you.
I'm excited to hear what youhave, maybe it's freedom, maybe
(12:45):
it's resilience, maybe it'sgrowth.
I definitely encourage you totry that.
Send me your word of the yearand why you chose that word.
would love to hear what youhave, that's a wrap for today's
episode, and I hope you'rewalking away with some
inspiration to make 2025 a goodyear for you and finding the
(13:07):
right word for you, maybeconnection is it, but whether
it's connection or somethingelse, I think that having a word
to focus on is really important.
A great tool to have in yourback pocket.
I just wanted to share that withyou guys today, and I'm super
excited and looking forward toall the new things that I'm
(13:28):
going to try and the ways thatI'm going to connect differently
than I have before in the pastand just discover and learn
different things about myselfand other people.
I'm looking forward to seeinghow that goes.
If you want to learn how to workwith me, I have a link in my
show notes of how to get aconsultation.
(13:49):
You can have a free consultationwith me.
If you would like to learn howto work with me and we can work
on anything.
It doesn't have to just bedating.
It could be your personal goals,business goals, dating goals,
anything that you have that youwant to work on and you feel
like you need some coaching andsome accountability for, I'm
happy to help.
So schedule a consultation andwe'll talk about it and see if
(14:13):
it's a good match or a good fit.
And you got nothing to lose,right?
It's a conversation that wewould have.
That's it.
Or if you have questions, ofcourse, email me anytime.
I'm always available and happyto respond to any of your
questions.
Thank you so much.
I will talk to you next week.
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