April 29, 2025 • 20 mins
In Episode 34 of The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast, Cristina addresses the unique challenges and joys of dating during the hot spring and summer months for plus-size women. She shares personal anecdotes and practical advice on managing body insecurities, sweating, and chafing while maintaining confidence. Cristina underscores the importance of mindset, wearing comfortable and flattering outfits, and embracing one's curves. She offers numerous date ideas that are both fun and accommodating to warmer weather, encouraging listeners to enjoy the season without letting body image concerns hold them back. The episode is packed with tips to help curvy women feel confident and comfortable while dating in hotter climates.
00:00 Introduction to The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast
00:45 Challenges of Dating in Hot Weather
02:33 Building Confidence and Embracing Your Body
04:54 Fashion Tips for Summer Dating
08:22 Practical Tips for Staying Comfortable
16:08 Date Ideas for Summer
19:36 Conclusion and Encouragement
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Cristina (00:01):
You are listening to The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast,
Episode 34 (00:04):
Dating Tips for When it's Hot As Fuck Hi, I'm
Cristina.
After 10 years of dating, I wastired of attracting the wrong
type of guys and thinking I hadto lose weight to find love.
I finally figured out how todate and I found the love I
thought I would never find eachweek.
I'll teach you dating advice,share dating stories and help
(00:27):
you ditch the dating drama.
My goal is to help you have funand create the life you love.
If you're ready to take yourdating to another level, then
listen up and let's go.
Hello, welcome to The Curvy GirlDating Podcast.
I am Cristina, your favoritedating coach for plus-size women
(00:49):
So today I'm excited becausewe're gonna talk about dating
during the spring and summermonths.
It's hot and it's yucky anddating can be so uncomfortable,
but it can also be fun.
It's equal parts fun andfrustrating.
And when you're plus size, youget a little bit more
(01:11):
uncomfortable or sweating inspots.
I don't want to sweat in, likeunder my boobs, and all my
little creases.
I don't like being outside inthe summer and feel like I need
to mentally prepare, especiallywhenever it comes to going on a
date.
It's even more uncomfortablebecause you've probably never
met this person or just saw thema few times before now you're
(01:34):
gonna be outside and your brainstarts going crazy.
"What the hell am I gonna wear?
What if I start sweating?
What if he could see my pitstains?" Stuff like that, it's
extra self-consciousness cominginto your brain and going crazy,
at least for me.
It took me some time to figureout how to really enjoy the
(01:54):
spring and summertime months anddate and go out with my friends
and be out in uncomfortableweather and be okay with it.
So it took me some time tofigure it out, but once I did, I
got better at going out andenjoying my life Like right now
I am continuously going on walksand taking my dogs to the dog
(02:16):
park because they need toexercise and get out of the
house.
I want to acclimate to the hotweather.
We've been going out, three orfour times a week on walks or to
the dog park so we can startgetting ready for this warm
weather.
I don't want to get too offtopic.
So, when it comes to dating inthe spring and summer is all
(02:37):
about the mindset right?
Nothing is cuter thanconfidence.
So be cute, be confident.
Get your mindset straight, andthat's a good start.
The good thing about the summer,some of the pros about the
spring and the summer is thetime change, right?
There's longer days in thesummertime after the time
changes.
(02:57):
There's more festivals to go tomore people are out and about,
people are doing vacations thedays are just getting better and
people are getting out of theirhibernation and enjoying the
nicer days.
And again, this comes withtriggers like body insecurity,
right?
Oh my God, I have to wearshorts," or the idea of wearing
(03:21):
swimsuits or showing your arms,people obsessed with their
summer bodies.
It's not just about what you'rewearing, it's about what you're
listening to, what you'rehearing other people are saying,
and it gets stuck in your brainand you see it on social media.
Everyone's talking about theirobsession with their summer
bodies and they have to do theirdiet and be disciplined because
(03:45):
they're gonna go on a vacationand they want to wear a specific
swimsuit or whatever, and thereis nothing wrong with that.
That is totally fine.
I am all about everybody havinggoals, whether it's a physical
goal, health or weight or, beingtoned or having more muscle or
(04:06):
fitting into an outfit, whateverit is that you wanna do.
I'm all about goals, but, I'malso about loving the body that
you're in right now and beingcomfortable with who you are
right now at this moment.
Even though you have goals andmight be on this journey to
change your body up.
Doing it with love is the bestway because we want to change
(04:32):
our mindset.
We're not gonna change anythingabout our bodies in a good way
if we're talking shit about itthe whole time.
Loving the person you are rightnow and on the way to the person
you're gonna be, and what yourbody's gonna change into that is
okay either way.
So you don't need to shrinkyourself to be desirable.
(04:52):
You just need to show up.
get a few key items that you'reconfident in for the summer.
My favorite recommendation is tohave a little wardrobe capsule
for dates specifically, so thatyou always have a go-to of
things that make you feelconfident.
So, that's the dating mindsetthing, is getting your brain
straight, realizing that you arenot going there to be chosen
(05:16):
you're going on this date to seeif you're compatible with
somebody.
So the other thing that'sawesome about dating in the
warmer months other than thelonger days, and you have more
time for dates and stuff, is youcan be flirty with some of your
outfits Your outfits can showoff your curves in a positive
(05:36):
way where you do feel curvy andconfident and you feel good
about yourself.
A little off shoulder top mightbe something that you would be
willing to wear, or a flowydress.
I love bold colors.
For me, I didn't like to show myarms.
That is one thing that I wasvery self-conscious about, and I
(05:58):
still am, but I'm getting a lotbetter about it.
I didn't wanna wear tank tops soI would always wear something
with, sleeves, even if they wereshort sleeves or t-shirts or
things like that would be so hotand uncomfortable.
So then I started getting cutekimonos that were a lighter
fabric.
Even though they were a lighterfabric and more flowy, they felt
(06:21):
fine.
But sometimes in this Houstonweather.
They were really sticky anditchy and uncomfortable to wear.
So eventually I found that offshoulder tops were a really good
compromise for me because I wasokay with showing my shoulders
and collarbone, but I didn'tlike the actual arm part.
(06:41):
So if I had a top that wouldcover my arms yet still give me
a little bit of skin on top.
I felt confident.
I felt a little sexier.
I wasn't trying to be somebody Iwasn't, I just found outfits
that worked for me and helped mefigure out how I can still
embrace my curves.
That's another pro.
And also, there's more events tomeet people in real life.
(07:04):
You don't have to meet peopleonly online.
That's not the only option.
You can meet people organicallywhen you go out.
Dating in the summer months isgreat because you can go out
with your friends and meet morepeople.
The more you're out, the morepeople you meet, take the time
to go out and embrace theopportunities in the summer and
say yes to try new things andmeet new people.
(07:27):
Of course there's cons withevery pro.
The sweating, it doesn't matterwhat outfit you're in, you might
feel confident as hell andyou're probably gonna sweat in
it, and that's okay.
Sweating doesn't mean it's uglyor bad It's just what it is.
Any guy you're getting to knowand seriously considering dating
(07:48):
long term.
isn't gonna care if you'resweating.
They wanna get to know you.
They don't wanna know if you'regonna sweat in the summer.
Who doesn't sweat in the summer?
Of course everybody sweats inthe summer, especially if you
live in Texas.
People sweat.
They're probably sweating toobecause they're nervous, because
you're amazing and they can'twait to talk to you and get to
know you more.
It's gonna be okay.
(08:09):
Sweating doesn't make you ugly.
The right person is gonna bemature about it and understand
that people sweat when it'sfucking hot outside So that's an
easy con that you can cross offthe list.
Don't worry about it.
One thing that I used to reallyworry about was chafing.
Always used to wear, bikershorts or compression shorts
(08:30):
under my dresses, sometimes evenunder my shorts.
If my shorts would ride up, Iwould want to have something to
prevent myself from chafing.
But that was a real concern forme.
I've lost some weight and so mythighs aren't as loving as they
used to be with each other.
But I still need to wearcompression shorts a lot of
(08:52):
times when it's really hot or ifI know I'm gonna be outside for
a long time.
wearing the right undergarmentsis very important.
Winter, summer, spring, anytime,like underwear is important, so
if you want to wear compressionshorts or shorts underneath your
(09:12):
dresses to keep your legs fromchafing, that is my go-to trick.
There are also lots of bodycreams and other products.
I like some arm hammer spraythat I put on my thighs so they
don't chafe.
They have body deodorant nowthat you can put under your
little boobies or big boobies.
(09:34):
I've got little ones.
Just anything that you needthat's appropriate to get the
sweating under control and workon things that might chafe you.
But if you know that you arewearing shorts that are gonna
rise up, don't wear them on thedate.
Don't wear them ever.
Just find some new shorts orknow that you're gonna wear them
(09:55):
when you're not sitting outsidefor hours at a concert.
Find things that make sense foryou, okay?
Don't wear things out thatyou're gonna constantly need to
adjust because it's gonna keepyou off your game all day and
you're gonna be worried aboutthat not enjoying yourself and
just enjoying your life, beingcomfortable.
(10:15):
Find something else to wear andstop adjusting your outfit all
the time.
So yes, there's a lot ofpressure in finding something to
keep you comfortable but.
It is doable.
You will sweat and it's gonna,be uncomfortable, but there's
gotta be a medium where you havean acceptable amount of
(10:36):
sweatiness.
So anyways, you get it right.
There's great things about,going out in the spring and
summer and there's not so greatthings.
So that was a little bit of theuglier side than the pros of the
longer days and the festivalsand the things to do, right?
So right now is a great time tostart thinking about trying on
(10:58):
your clothes.
Do they fit?
Are they comfortable?
Do they ride up?
Do they stick to your body?
Is it a good fabric to wear?
Those are things that you shouldprobably be thinking about.
And it doesn't mean you need togo buy a whole new wardrobe or
anything, but with what youhave, you can pick out some
things that are better thanothers, just period.
(11:21):
Wear those light fabrics, linen,breathable cotton, flowy maxi
dresses, wear those compressionshorts if you need to, prevent
chafing people get rashes indifferent areas.
So again, body deodorant, antichafing things and any kind of
barrier that you could use tohelp prevent that is gonna help
(11:42):
you be more comfortable.
So the fabrics that you're gonnawear and doing your sweat
proofing is number one way tobeat the heat and be ready for
that date.
I like to carry a little fan,like a little, hand fan.
The ones that you carry in yourpurse and you open it, what is
(12:02):
it called?
an accordion fan.
I carry one of those in thesummer.
I'm not ashamed and as nerdy asit is, I have one of those neck
things that, people wear all thetime at Disney World or
whatever.
It's like a neck fan.
I'm not ashamed to wear it, I'mgonna wear it if it's hot as
hell.
If I'm walking my dogs thissummer, you're gonna see me with
(12:25):
a neck fan.
But you're gonna wish that youhad one.
Instead of making fun of me, youshould consider getting one
because I'm gonna be the onethat's comfortable and beating
the heat at least from the neckup.
So anyways, don't be afraid tofind something that's gonna
assist you in, feelingcomfortable.
At the same time, there's handfans that people have.
(12:46):
I've had a fan that you pluginto your phone.
The only bad thing about that isit sucks up your phone battery.
But if you wanna be comfortable,talking on the phone or have air
conditioning.
Don't be afraid of color either,like with different fabrics,
you're trying different thingsto see if it's something that
you like.
Try different colors, maybethere's a different color out
there that's going to workreally well with your body or
(13:09):
your skin tone.
One thing I will tell you I'vedone before in Galveston, they
have a huge.
Sandcastle competition and Iwent to the sandcastle
competition with my friend Carlaa long time ago.
And I was so hot and so sweaty.
It was bad and I was wearingthis magenta tank top and it had
(13:31):
flowers on it my neck was sosweaty, it looked like I was
drenched in water.
If I dumped water on my head myshoulders were just sweating it
was embarrassing for me at themoment because I was just
thinking,"oh my God, I'msweating so much." My neck was
all wet and thankfully there wasa vendor giving out cooling
(13:54):
towels that you soak in waterand put around your neck that
was really helpful because Icould get it wet and wear it
around my neck.
Not looking cute, obviouslyhaving this big wet towel while
walking through the beachlooking at sandcastles.
But did I really give a shit?
No, because I was comfortable,it was a great gift to have from
a great vendor.
And do I remember who they were?
(14:14):
No, I'm so sorry.
But they really saved the dayfor me that day.
Just think about fabrics, likewhen you sweat, is it going to
be super obvious, like when youare wearing a white shirt and
you get it wet and you can seethrough it?
Just consider that as well.
It's a minor detail that peopleprobably wouldn't think of, but
(14:34):
since it happened to me, I'mjust letting you know.
Think about the fabrics and thecolor, when you're sweating and
wearing it.
Think about the dates thatyou're gonna go on and find
something that's appropriate forit.
You are not gonna wear highheels to a golf tournament, you
know?
So if dressing up, wearingdifferent clothes in the summer,
(14:55):
that's gonna show your body alittle bit more if that's
holding you back from datingcompletely, and you're like,
"hell no.
I'm not gonna show any skin longsleeves and pants and jeans and
turtleneck for the summer, andthat's who I am.
And I am not gonna do anythingto start dating if this is what
(15:16):
it's gonna require me to startdating." If what you're wearing
is stopping you from dating,then you need to schedule a
consult with me'cause we'regonna date this summer.
I am here for you.
So if you are ready to date andyou think that summer is the
worst time ever because you'restruggling with the idea of
(15:38):
showing a little more skin thissummer, or not sweating when you
meet somebody for the firsttime, if that's stopping you
from dating, you need to meetwith me and we need to talk
about it, and I'm happy to havea consultation with you and give
you some tips on how to move onfrom that so that you can go on
a date.
There's no reason in the worldfor you to not date because of
(16:03):
an outfit.
Just go out and wear whateveryou want as long as you feel
good.
What are some date ideas you cango to?
I've already mentioned a few,like going to concerts or
festivals.
I like going to the farmer'smarket in the morning.
I like morning dates becausethen you could just go home
(16:23):
afterwards and think about it,or go do something for the rest
of the night.
But, going to breakfast.
having brunch on a patio is agreat date.
Walk in the park, going to thebeach, having a walk.
You don't have to wear a bathingsuit.
You can just go for a walk andwear shorts, it's fine.
And wear a t-shirt, don't letthings like that stop you from
(16:46):
dating.
If you want to go on a walk onthe beach, go on a walk on a
beach.
You don't have to wear a bathingsuit, just go.
you know?
But anyways, art festivals,music festivals.
There's so many things you coulddo.
Amusement parks, mini golf isalways fun, it could be a cute
date.
There's a lot of opportunitiesto flirt when you're doing mini
(17:06):
golf or top golf.
Brunch, mimosas, things likethat.
There's a lot of places that youcan go to avoid outside.
There's indoor venues that youcan go to that are just fine, So
also consider that.
Just because it's spring, youcan be creative and find indoor
things that you like, you know.
Don't have to be scantily clador anything.
(17:30):
But yeah, there's creative waysto think about things to do in
the summer that's indoors.
If that's where your mind is andthat's where you wanna be that's
okay.
I know a lot of times, it'sgreat for a guy to lead and plan
dates, and it shows someinitiative that somebody's
interested in you or they'retaking a little effort to plan a
(17:52):
date.
I know that all of that isgreat, but sometimes you've got
to make sure that you're gonnado something that makes you
comfortable.
Offer some suggestions of whatyou want to do to make sure you
are comfortable.
Don't say yes to a 3:00 PM patiolunch in the middle of July in
Houston when you're gonna passout in the middle of the date.
(18:16):
Don't say yes to those dates.
If that's not gonna make youcomfortable or confident, then
that's a straight up no.
Be proactive and make somesuggestions for dates that will
make you comfortable and allowyou to be confident.
So what does that look like?
What is something that you wouldlike to do in the spring that
(18:39):
would make you comfortable thatyou can offer as a date?
It can be a coffee date.
People could get coffee everyday of the year.
So there's nothing wrong withthat, just'cause it's spring,
you could still do that.
Who cares, right?
Get an iced coffee, but, step infront and give yourself the
permission to be proactive andgive suggestions.
(18:59):
Let yourself have a little bitof control on where you're gonna
go and what you're gonna do.
You have to wear the confidencejust like you're wearing an
outfit.
Your confidence is part of youroutfit.
It's gonna be right in yourface.
If you're adjusting your clotheschecking yourself out, or
constantly looking around it'snot gonna show the confidence
(19:20):
you want to express on a date.
So wear confidence and feelcomfortable in what you are
wearing and what you're going todo, because you'll be able to
wear your confidence a lotbetter.
Understand that confidence ispart of your outfit.
I hope that's some informationthat you can get about dating in
(19:40):
the summer.
There's still a lot to do.
You can still adjust youroutfits to wear your confidence.
And make sure that you have doneall the proper precautions to
make sure that you are as sweatproof as possible, but also know
that you're gonna sweat too andit's normal and the right guy is
not gonna judge you for that.
(20:01):
So there's a lot to consider andit doesn't need to be that hard,
Go out, and just meet somebody.
So just do something that makesyou feel you.
Do not think that you need toshrink your body or hide your
body to be somebody that you'renot.
(20:22):
So just know that your bodydoesn't need to be a barrier for
you to find love and for you togo out.
Enjoy the summer.
Enjoy the spring.
And we'll talk next week.
Bye.
You are listening to The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast,
Episode 34 (00:04):
Dating Tips for When it's Hot As Fuck Hi, I'm
Cristina.
After 10 years of dating, I wastired of attracting the wrong
type of guys and thinking I hadto lose weight to find love.
I finally figured out how todate and I found the love I
thought I would never find eachweek.
I'll teach you dating advice,share dating stories and help
(00:27):
you ditch the dating drama.
My goal is to help you have funand create the life you love.
If you're ready to take yourdating to another level, then
listen up and let's go.
Hello, welcome to The Curvy GirlDating Podcast.
I am Cristina, your favoritedating coach for plus-size women
(00:49):
So today I'm excited becausewe're gonna talk about dating
during the spring and summermonths.
It's hot and it's yucky anddating can be so uncomfortable,
but it can also be fun.
It's equal parts fun andfrustrating.
And when you're plus size, youget a little bit more
(01:11):
uncomfortable or sweating inspots.
I don't want to sweat in, likeunder my boobs, and all my
little creases.
I don't like being outside inthe summer and feel like I need
to mentally prepare, especiallywhenever it comes to going on a
date.
It's even more uncomfortablebecause you've probably never
met this person or just saw thema few times before now you're
(01:34):
gonna be outside and your brainstarts going crazy.
"What the hell am I gonna wear?
What if I start sweating?
What if he could see my pitstains?" Stuff like that, it's
extra self-consciousness cominginto your brain and going crazy,
at least for me.
It took me some time to figureout how to really enjoy the
(01:54):
spring and summertime months anddate and go out with my friends
and be out in uncomfortableweather and be okay with it.
So it took me some time tofigure it out, but once I did, I
got better at going out andenjoying my life Like right now
I am continuously going on walksand taking my dogs to the dog
(02:16):
park because they need toexercise and get out of the
house.
I want to acclimate to the hotweather.
We've been going out, three orfour times a week on walks or to
the dog park so we can startgetting ready for this warm
weather.
I don't want to get too offtopic.
So, when it comes to dating inthe spring and summer is all
(02:37):
about the mindset right?
Nothing is cuter thanconfidence.
So be cute, be confident.
Get your mindset straight, andthat's a good start.
The good thing about the summer,some of the pros about the
spring and the summer is thetime change, right?
There's longer days in thesummertime after the time
changes.
(02:57):
There's more festivals to go tomore people are out and about,
people are doing vacations thedays are just getting better and
people are getting out of theirhibernation and enjoying the
nicer days.
And again, this comes withtriggers like body insecurity,
right?
Oh my God, I have to wearshorts," or the idea of wearing
(03:21):
swimsuits or showing your arms,people obsessed with their
summer bodies.
It's not just about what you'rewearing, it's about what you're
listening to, what you'rehearing other people are saying,
and it gets stuck in your brainand you see it on social media.
Everyone's talking about theirobsession with their summer
bodies and they have to do theirdiet and be disciplined because
(03:45):
they're gonna go on a vacationand they want to wear a specific
swimsuit or whatever, and thereis nothing wrong with that.
That is totally fine.
I am all about everybody havinggoals, whether it's a physical
goal, health or weight or, beingtoned or having more muscle or
(04:06):
fitting into an outfit, whateverit is that you wanna do.
I'm all about goals, but, I'malso about loving the body that
you're in right now and beingcomfortable with who you are
right now at this moment.
Even though you have goals andmight be on this journey to
change your body up.
Doing it with love is the bestway because we want to change
(04:32):
our mindset.
We're not gonna change anythingabout our bodies in a good way
if we're talking shit about itthe whole time.
Loving the person you are rightnow and on the way to the person
you're gonna be, and what yourbody's gonna change into that is
okay either way.
So you don't need to shrinkyourself to be desirable.
(04:52):
You just need to show up.
get a few key items that you'reconfident in for the summer.
My favorite recommendation is tohave a little wardrobe capsule
for dates specifically, so thatyou always have a go-to of
things that make you feelconfident.
So, that's the dating mindsetthing, is getting your brain
straight, realizing that you arenot going there to be chosen
(05:16):
you're going on this date to seeif you're compatible with
somebody.
So the other thing that'sawesome about dating in the
warmer months other than thelonger days, and you have more
time for dates and stuff, is youcan be flirty with some of your
outfits Your outfits can showoff your curves in a positive
(05:36):
way where you do feel curvy andconfident and you feel good
about yourself.
A little off shoulder top mightbe something that you would be
willing to wear, or a flowydress.
I love bold colors.
For me, I didn't like to show myarms.
That is one thing that I wasvery self-conscious about, and I
(05:58):
still am, but I'm getting a lotbetter about it.
I didn't wanna wear tank tops soI would always wear something
with, sleeves, even if they wereshort sleeves or t-shirts or
things like that would be so hotand uncomfortable.
So then I started getting cutekimonos that were a lighter
fabric.
Even though they were a lighterfabric and more flowy, they felt
(06:21):
fine.
But sometimes in this Houstonweather.
They were really sticky anditchy and uncomfortable to wear.
So eventually I found that offshoulder tops were a really good
compromise for me because I wasokay with showing my shoulders
and collarbone, but I didn'tlike the actual arm part.
(06:41):
So if I had a top that wouldcover my arms yet still give me
a little bit of skin on top.
I felt confident.
I felt a little sexier.
I wasn't trying to be somebody Iwasn't, I just found outfits
that worked for me and helped mefigure out how I can still
embrace my curves.
That's another pro.
And also, there's more events tomeet people in real life.
(07:04):
You don't have to meet peopleonly online.
That's not the only option.
You can meet people organicallywhen you go out.
Dating in the summer months isgreat because you can go out
with your friends and meet morepeople.
The more you're out, the morepeople you meet, take the time
to go out and embrace theopportunities in the summer and
say yes to try new things andmeet new people.
(07:27):
Of course there's cons withevery pro.
The sweating, it doesn't matterwhat outfit you're in, you might
feel confident as hell andyou're probably gonna sweat in
it, and that's okay.
Sweating doesn't mean it's uglyor bad It's just what it is.
Any guy you're getting to knowand seriously considering dating
(07:48):
long term.
isn't gonna care if you'resweating.
They wanna get to know you.
They don't wanna know if you'regonna sweat in the summer.
Who doesn't sweat in the summer?
Of course everybody sweats inthe summer, especially if you
live in Texas.
People sweat.
They're probably sweating toobecause they're nervous, because
you're amazing and they can'twait to talk to you and get to
know you more.
It's gonna be okay.
(08:09):
Sweating doesn't make you ugly.
The right person is gonna bemature about it and understand
that people sweat when it'sfucking hot outside So that's an
easy con that you can cross offthe list.
Don't worry about it.
One thing that I used to reallyworry about was chafing.
Always used to wear, bikershorts or compression shorts
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under my dresses, sometimes evenunder my shorts.
If my shorts would ride up, Iwould want to have something to
prevent myself from chafing.
But that was a real concern forme.
I've lost some weight and so mythighs aren't as loving as they
used to be with each other.
But I still need to wearcompression shorts a lot of
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times when it's really hot or ifI know I'm gonna be outside for
a long time.
wearing the right undergarmentsis very important.
Winter, summer, spring, anytime,like underwear is important, so
if you want to wear compressionshorts or shorts underneath your
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dresses to keep your legs fromchafing, that is my go-to trick.
There are also lots of bodycreams and other products.
I like some arm hammer spraythat I put on my thighs so they
don't chafe.
They have body deodorant nowthat you can put under your
little boobies or big boobies.
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I've got little ones.
Just anything that you needthat's appropriate to get the
sweating under control and workon things that might chafe you.
But if you know that you arewearing shorts that are gonna
rise up, don't wear them on thedate.
Don't wear them ever.
Just find some new shorts orknow that you're gonna wear them
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when you're not sitting outsidefor hours at a concert.
Find things that make sense foryou, okay?
Don't wear things out thatyou're gonna constantly need to
adjust because it's gonna keepyou off your game all day and
you're gonna be worried aboutthat not enjoying yourself and
just enjoying your life, beingcomfortable.
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Find something else to wear andstop adjusting your outfit all
the time.
So yes, there's a lot ofpressure in finding something to
keep you comfortable but.
It is doable.
You will sweat and it's gonna,be uncomfortable, but there's
gotta be a medium where you havean acceptable amount of
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sweatiness.
So anyways, you get it right.
There's great things about,going out in the spring and
summer and there's not so greatthings.
So that was a little bit of theuglier side than the pros of the
longer days and the festivalsand the things to do, right?
So right now is a great time tostart thinking about trying on
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your clothes.
Do they fit?
Are they comfortable?
Do they ride up?
Do they stick to your body?
Is it a good fabric to wear?
Those are things that you shouldprobably be thinking about.
And it doesn't mean you need togo buy a whole new wardrobe or
anything, but with what youhave, you can pick out some
things that are better thanothers, just period.
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Wear those light fabrics, linen,breathable cotton, flowy maxi
dresses, wear those compressionshorts if you need to, prevent
chafing people get rashes indifferent areas.
So again, body deodorant, antichafing things and any kind of
barrier that you could use tohelp prevent that is gonna help
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you be more comfortable.
So the fabrics that you're gonnawear and doing your sweat
proofing is number one way tobeat the heat and be ready for
that date.
I like to carry a little fan,like a little, hand fan.
The ones that you carry in yourpurse and you open it, what is
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it called?
an accordion fan.
I carry one of those in thesummer.
I'm not ashamed and as nerdy asit is, I have one of those neck
things that, people wear all thetime at Disney World or
whatever.
It's like a neck fan.
I'm not ashamed to wear it, I'mgonna wear it if it's hot as
hell.
If I'm walking my dogs thissummer, you're gonna see me with
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a neck fan.
But you're gonna wish that youhad one.
Instead of making fun of me, youshould consider getting one
because I'm gonna be the onethat's comfortable and beating
the heat at least from the neckup.
So anyways, don't be afraid tofind something that's gonna
assist you in, feelingcomfortable.
At the same time, there's handfans that people have.
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I've had a fan that you pluginto your phone.
The only bad thing about that isit sucks up your phone battery.
But if you wanna be comfortable,talking on the phone or have air
conditioning.
Don't be afraid of color either,like with different fabrics,
you're trying different thingsto see if it's something that
you like.
Try different colors, maybethere's a different color out
there that's going to workreally well with your body or
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your skin tone.
One thing I will tell you I'vedone before in Galveston, they
have a huge.
Sandcastle competition and Iwent to the sandcastle
competition with my friend Carlaa long time ago.
And I was so hot and so sweaty.
It was bad and I was wearingthis magenta tank top and it had
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flowers on it my neck was sosweaty, it looked like I was
drenched in water.
If I dumped water on my head myshoulders were just sweating it
was embarrassing for me at themoment because I was just
thinking,"oh my God, I'msweating so much." My neck was
all wet and thankfully there wasa vendor giving out cooling
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towels that you soak in waterand put around your neck that
was really helpful because Icould get it wet and wear it
around my neck.
Not looking cute, obviouslyhaving this big wet towel while
walking through the beachlooking at sandcastles.
But did I really give a shit?
No, because I was comfortable,it was a great gift to have from
a great vendor.
And do I remember who they were?
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No, I'm so sorry.
But they really saved the dayfor me that day.
Just think about fabrics, likewhen you sweat, is it going to
be super obvious, like when youare wearing a white shirt and
you get it wet and you can seethrough it?
Just consider that as well.
It's a minor detail that peopleprobably wouldn't think of, but
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since it happened to me, I'mjust letting you know.
Think about the fabrics and thecolor, when you're sweating and
wearing it.
Think about the dates thatyou're gonna go on and find
something that's appropriate forit.
You are not gonna wear highheels to a golf tournament, you
know?
So if dressing up, wearingdifferent clothes in the summer,
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that's gonna show your body alittle bit more if that's
holding you back from datingcompletely, and you're like,
"hell no.
I'm not gonna show any skin longsleeves and pants and jeans and
turtleneck for the summer, andthat's who I am.
And I am not gonna do anythingto start dating if this is what
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it's gonna require me to startdating." If what you're wearing
is stopping you from dating,then you need to schedule a
consult with me'cause we'regonna date this summer.
I am here for you.
So if you are ready to date andyou think that summer is the
worst time ever because you'restruggling with the idea of
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showing a little more skin thissummer, or not sweating when you
meet somebody for the firsttime, if that's stopping you
from dating, you need to meetwith me and we need to talk
about it, and I'm happy to havea consultation with you and give
you some tips on how to move onfrom that so that you can go on
a date.
There's no reason in the worldfor you to not date because of
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an outfit.
Just go out and wear whateveryou want as long as you feel
good.
What are some date ideas you cango to?
I've already mentioned a few,like going to concerts or
festivals.
I like going to the farmer'smarket in the morning.
I like morning dates becausethen you could just go home
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afterwards and think about it,or go do something for the rest
of the night.
But, going to breakfast.
having brunch on a patio is agreat date.
Walk in the park, going to thebeach, having a walk.
You don't have to wear a bathingsuit.
You can just go for a walk andwear shorts, it's fine.
And wear a t-shirt, don't letthings like that stop you from
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dating.
If you want to go on a walk onthe beach, go on a walk on a
beach.
You don't have to wear a bathingsuit, just go.
you know?
But anyways, art festivals,music festivals.
There's so many things you coulddo.
Amusement parks, mini golf isalways fun, it could be a cute
date.
There's a lot of opportunitiesto flirt when you're doing mini
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golf or top golf.
Brunch, mimosas, things likethat.
There's a lot of places that youcan go to avoid outside.
There's indoor venues that youcan go to that are just fine, So
also consider that.
Just because it's spring, youcan be creative and find indoor
things that you like, you know.
Don't have to be scantily clador anything.
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But yeah, there's creative waysto think about things to do in
the summer that's indoors.
If that's where your mind is andthat's where you wanna be that's
okay.
I know a lot of times, it'sgreat for a guy to lead and plan
dates, and it shows someinitiative that somebody's
interested in you or they'retaking a little effort to plan a
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date.
I know that all of that isgreat, but sometimes you've got
to make sure that you're gonnado something that makes you
comfortable.
Offer some suggestions of whatyou want to do to make sure you
are comfortable.
Don't say yes to a 3:00 PM patiolunch in the middle of July in
Houston when you're gonna passout in the middle of the date.
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Don't say yes to those dates.
If that's not gonna make youcomfortable or confident, then
that's a straight up no.
Be proactive and make somesuggestions for dates that will
make you comfortable and allowyou to be confident.
So what does that look like?
What is something that you wouldlike to do in the spring that
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would make you comfortable thatyou can offer as a date?
It can be a coffee date.
People could get coffee everyday of the year.
So there's nothing wrong withthat, just'cause it's spring,
you could still do that.
Who cares, right?
Get an iced coffee, but, step infront and give yourself the
permission to be proactive andgive suggestions.
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Let yourself have a little bitof control on where you're gonna
go and what you're gonna do.
You have to wear the confidencejust like you're wearing an
outfit.
Your confidence is part of youroutfit.
It's gonna be right in yourface.
If you're adjusting your clotheschecking yourself out, or
constantly looking around it'snot gonna show the confidence
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you want to express on a date.
So wear confidence and feelcomfortable in what you are
wearing and what you're going todo, because you'll be able to
wear your confidence a lotbetter.
Understand that confidence ispart of your outfit.
I hope that's some informationthat you can get about dating in
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the summer.
There's still a lot to do.
You can still adjust youroutfits to wear your confidence.
And make sure that you have doneall the proper precautions to
make sure that you are as sweatproof as possible, but also know
that you're gonna sweat too andit's normal and the right guy is
not gonna judge you for that.
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So there's a lot to consider andit doesn't need to be that hard,
Go out, and just meet somebody.
So just do something that makesyou feel you.
Do not think that you need toshrink your body or hide your
body to be somebody that you'renot.
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So just know that your bodydoesn't need to be a barrier for
you to find love and for you togo out.
Enjoy the summer.
Enjoy the spring.
And we'll talk next week.
Bye.
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