February 18, 2025 • 36 mins
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Welcome to the Dead Life.
Here's world renowned mediumAlison dubois.
Today on the Dead Life we havea myriad of questions from call in
listeners ranging from a funnyghost story to real life problems.
Call in questions andsupernatural experiences shared are
many of your favorite episodes.
So keep calling in and maybeyou'll get your question answered
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by me on a future episode.
To book a reading with me,email us@bookinglisondubois.com if
you have a life question forme and Sophia for my Love Me Love
Me not segment, leave yourquestion at 802-332-3811.
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So why don't we go ahead andstart with the first caller?
All right.
This is Jamie.
Hi, Allison.
My name is Jamie.
I live in New Hampshire.
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I don't have a question, but Idon't know if at any point ever just
tell silly stories, but I havea silly one for you.
So I've been listening to yourpodcast, and my mom and I have been
talking about it quite a bitand different experiences that we've
had over the years.
And recently I went to thegrocery store and was looking forward
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where the shredded cheeses were.
No one was around that area,and a package of shredded cheese
just flew out into the aisle.
And it was the craziest thing.
So I told my mom about it, andthe other day she called me and said
that she was at the grocerystore, different grocery store, and
she looked down an aisle thatnobody was in, and something came
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flying off the shelf.
So we just thought it was themost hysterical thing.
We're not sure who on theother side is throwing food to get
our attention.
We think it's very funny.
We do have a handful of lovedones over there.
So I thought it was a funnystory to let you know.
Know about.
Thank you for listening.
Bye.
Bye.
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I wanted to share that storybecause it, you know, people don't
get to hear all of the onesthat I get to hear all the little
paranormal quips that peoplehave to share.
And I think it's funny inreadings that I do, many people,
when I bring through the dead,many of them will say, especially
the women, obviously, I liketo go to the Grocery store.
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With my daughter, I, you know,I like to help her pick things out
still, which is why we'll geta feeling that we need something
in a grocery store.
Grocery store that we've neverbought before.
Or there's a medicine that youfeel drawn to get.
You don't know why, becauseyou're not sick.
It's because somebody'stelling you you're about to get sick
or someone in your house isabout to get sick.
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And we've had that happen before.
So do you think she.
Somebody was telling her she'snot eating enough cheese?
No, I think someone wastelling her, you're going to need
this cheese.
And you don't know it yet, butit's going to be there for you should
you buy it.
See, this is the difference oflistening to the other side.
If you look at the cheese andsay, oh, wow, that's funny.
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I feel loved.
And you put the cheese back.
Well, somebody was trying tohelp you out and something you were
going to need, and now you putit back on the shelf.
So it's like, great that youappreciated it.
But they're trying to make ourlives easier.
People pay attention.
I know there's been a numberof times when you've bought things
that you don't even know why.
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And then you'll bring it homeand it'll be like, I guess we need
cheese.
I don't know.
I'll bring it home.
I'm trying to think of whatthe most recent one, because it happens
weekly.
It'll be something such asNyQuil, and we won't be sick.
And then Sophia shows up witha cold, and I'm like, here, take
this home with you.
So, yeah, they're reallyhelpful in the grocery store, for
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sure.
There's an emotionalconnection to the grocery store for
a lot of women because it tiesinto how they took care of their
families and their childrenwhen they were small and even having
to wrangle the kids in thegrocery carts.
And maybe, well, back in theday we get an icee or an ice cream
or something.
I don't think they do thatnow, but it was fun to go when you
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were a little kid back in the day.
And so there seems to be anemotional connection to shopping.
I have a lot of moms that Ibring through and I can tell who
is a bargain shopper becausethey'll tell their daughter that
they miss shopping with herand getting all those good deals
at the after Christmas sale.
So some women still carry thatenergy of wanting to get that Deal.
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Which I think is hilarious.
So I wanted to share that.
Thank you, Jamie.
That was hilarious.
I hope you bought the cheese.
All right, are you ready forour next caller?
Born ready.
Hi, Allison.
I have been a huge fan sinceMedium, but I have a question.
I was newly divorced this past year.
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I moved out a couple of years ago.
So I'm past the anger and thehurt, and I'm ready to move on.
I'm good.
We're good.
I met a guy, we're dating.
Kind of had a little issuethis weekend.
How do I know if he's the oneor not?
It's so weird dating after being.
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I met my ex in 99.
So after almost 25 years, andhere we are again.
I'm 46 and single, and I don'twant to be alone.
I miss the good times.
So how.
How do we know?
What can I.
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I don't know what to say.
I hope.
Hope you can answer this.
Thanks.
This is where your mindreading comes in.
So you know what she's saying.
Here's the thing.
I read a lot of people, menand women, on relationship issues
that they have.
So she's newly divorced, waswith her ex in 99, I believe she
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had said.
So there's two differentlayers here.
First, she's saying, how do Iknow if they're the One?
Well, it depends on what theOne is to you.
If you just want someone toeat dinner with and that's what you're
looking for, like how youdefine the 1.
Some people will define thatas a soulmate, where everything feels
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right because you finallyfound that sort of other part of
your energy that was out inthe universe and you finally connected.
Some people would be happyjust having somebody to have dinner
with that they sort of havenice light conversation with that
will do what they want them to do.
So it depends on what the Oneis to each individual and how you
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define that.
So it would depend on what it is.
She.
She said she doesn't want tobe alone.
And that really stood out tome when she said that.
And I can understand.
There's a lot.
There are a lot of people thatstay together just for the sake of
not wanting to be alone.
It's not because the personthey're with is particularly excellent
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as a partner or, you know,makes them happy.
It's that they don't want tobe alone.
And one of the things I'velearned for the.
From the dead is don't letfear guide your life.
So to.
To me, being afraid to bealone falls under the umbrella of
fear.
And you know, that's okay,that's okay.
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It's just, you can't expectgreat results under those conditions.
So it sounds like he's not the one.
Not the way I would define the one.
But if he works for her andjust having somebody around that
cares if you live or die,sometimes that's enough for some
people.
Honestly, I'd be interested inpeople's take on that, my listeners,
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how.
How they view relationshipsand what people are looking for in
life.
Some people are hopeless romantics.
They need the love story.
They want the notebook.
You know, high expectations,often disappointed if it falls below
that bar.
So there are those people out there.
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Personally, I'd rather bealone than settle.
But that's easy for me to saybecause I met you when I was 20.
So that's easy for me to saybecause I've never really had to.
To do that.
Would things change ifcircumstances changed and I was alone?
Maybe.
I don't know.
I'm an Aquarius.
So we're just sort of goodbeing alone, which is why I had to
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draw on a moon in Aquarius.
You, because you also are okaybeing alone.
That just works for us.
So there's no guarantees whenpeople say, are they the one?
How do you know if they're the one?
There are no guarantees inlife that any relationship's going
to work out, even the bestcase scenario.
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You know, we've been togetherover 30 years.
You know, we can't imaginebeing with anyone else or seeing
ourselves without one another.
So I mean, that's verydifferent than maybe somebody who
is just wants someone to go toconcerts with.
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Right?
It depends.
But there's no guaranteeseither way.
I could get in a car accidenttomorrow and die and you can end
up alone.
Like, we don't know what'sgoing to happen, you know.
So now, just so you know, whenyou say things like that, coming
from you now, I'm worried.
Oh, stop.
What?
Take it back.
This is.
This is an example.
It's just an example.
I mean, I know a lot of peopleout there have lived a life where
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they thought everything wasset and everything was going beautiful
in their life.
And then the universe throws awrench into the harmony of their
life and it's just utter chaosand they lose someone or something
doesn't work out because theperson changes because they got a
brain injury, you know, andthey're no longer the same person.
And I think that's probably so there.
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I mean, there are a lot of factors.
Yeah, yeah.
What point in your life areyou at and what are you looking for?
If somebody goes with somebodyso they're not lonely and some people
really just can't be alone,then when something hard comes up,
it's even harder to stay with them.
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So when they do that, onething that just really grates on
you, or maybe they shift theirpersonality because of a brain injury
or something like that, itmakes me wonder would that it would
be much harder for them tostay together.
So that would say they're notthe one.
But did it make sense toroommates at the time?
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There's circumstances in lifethat sometimes somebody is the one
and you were supposed to beliving a life to learn certain lessons
from them.
And then something changesbecause whatever you were supposed
to learn already unfolded.
So you can't even go down that road.
It's a slippery slope.
There's too many variables.
But I believe she said she'saround 46 or something now.
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So she would have been verypretty young, in her early 20s when
she was with her ex.
So.
And she sounds like they weretogether for quite a while.
I would take my time.
Don't, you know, if you'vebeen with somebody for that long
from an early age, you're 46now, just figure out who you are,
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Spend some time getting toknow you and making more friends
and learning new skills andcollecting hobbies, focus on you
for a change.
A lot of people get used tobeing in a married relationship or
even a long term relationship,and they don't know how to be alone.
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Sometimes being alone can be agood thing because you have to really
be introspective of who youare and where you want to get to
in life aside from another person.
Because although, you know,for us, we're a couple, Allison and
Joe, people always think ofour names together, and I get it.
But we're also very much individuals.
You know, you're inastrophysics and I'm into the dead,
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and that's that we come fromtwo very different worlds that strangely
have a common thread to them.
And so that we have that incommon, but it's very different at
the same time.
And people should have theirown space and time to develop who
you are in this lifetime sideby side with the person that you
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draw into your world, but notliving your life around that person.
If you start living your lifearound the partner, then there's
an imbalance in the relationship.
I say take your time, girl,and go out with some other people,
see what's out there.
No need to Lock down right now.
You're in your 40s.
Enjoy your powerful 40s andkick the rock down the road until
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a later date.
But live in the moment.
Don't worry about the.
Is this the one?
There are no guarantees.
So, you know, and I, I.
My sense is the answer is no.
Yeah.
So.
All right, here we go.
Hi, this is Kayla.
I was wanted to call and ask aquestion about abortion.
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I know it's kind of a darksubject, but if someone were to choose
to have an abortion early on,or for example, someone who is a
teenager and made that choiceby themselves.
And.
Had an abortion, are you sortof held to that when you get to the
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other side?
Like you basically, for lackof a better word, killed your baby
while you were here?
I just kind of wanted to getsome more information on that, how
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that works out.
Karmically, did the soulalready reach the body, you know,
when you did that?
And is that soul evolving onthe other side, even if it was, you
know, very early on?
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Yeah.
So, anyway, if you have anyinsight around that subject at all,
that would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much.
Bye.
Bye.
So I'm going to get it fromboth sides on this one, but I'm going
to answer this question anyway.
I'm going to get it from thehighly religious, and then I'm going
to get it from the other sideas well.
But you know what?
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That's what people appreciateabout you.
You'll say what it is that you see.
Yeah, that's what I can speakto Kayla.
You're not penalized for this,I think, is what she was searching
for in that question in the beginning.
You're not penalized on theother side for making a decision
that you needed to make foryour own conscience or your own path,
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or whether you were unable totake care of a child or you were
just very young and didn'tknow what to do, and that was the
decision you made.
That's not something that youneed to.
It's not to be taken lightly.
So I'm not saying that at all,but I am saying that it's not something
you have to pay for for therest of your life.
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So especially when it's.
Early on, she had asked aboutthe soul, and in my experience, and
this is just speaking to whatI've seen on the other side and also
what I feel when I sensepregnancy, when I'm around people
that are newly pregnant, Idon't really sense souls.
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And you know me, I'll pick.
I pick up on energy around theRoom, Whether it's something you
do, like a spider, like, I cansense that it's weird, but I don't
sense the soul presence in the beginning.
That doesn't mean it's not there.
It's just not something I've experienced.
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As a pregnancy goes on and youget more past, like, six months,
there is a presence.
There's a stirring of the soulin that child.
I think a lot of women willrecognize that they'll crave certain
things, that even after theyhave the child, was very pertinent
to that child's personality in utero.
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So six to nine months.
Yes, I do see that present.
But I also read a lot ofparents who've lost a child not at
their will, but because thechild's body couldn't sustain it,
or there was a complication and.
And the baby dies, you know,at childbirth or shortly after or
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of sids.
Those souls, because theydidn't really get a chance to evolve,
you know, create a life, havea favorite food, favorite toys, develop
the connection with mom anddad as much as more of the age.
I'm looking at.
So I'm looking at in utero,probably two, three months.
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Okay.
So that's the space I'm gonnaput it in.
Doesn't mean they're not a person.
Doesn't mean there's not asoul there.
Just saying.
Not a lot of evolution's gone on.
Right.
Those souls tend to recycleback into the family when the baby
is aborted.
The way, you know, whetherit's abortion or miscarriage, the
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body is evacuating the baby.
It's that.
That process.
That aspect of the process isthe same, where the fetus no longer
can stay in the body.
So.
But it's the decision thatKayla speaks of that weighs on her.
And I see this with a lot ofwomen, no matter how old, they get
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after they had an abortion,feeling very guilty about it.
And what I have to say is, youweighed all of the choices and what
made sense or worked for youat the time.
And there needs to be a levelof forgiveness that you give to yourself
and that you made the bestdecision you could at the time.
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Aside from that, the child'ssoul will find a way into your family
one way or another.
Whether it's a future childthat you have, yourself or your sister,
your brother could have a child.
And the soul finds a way in.
It's interesting.
They want to be in that family.
It's almost as if that soul'sbeing sent to that family specifically.
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Like, it vibes with it.
So I don't know if that soulis something from the past in the
family that is trying to maketheir way back into the family.
But there's a strange tie thatseems to exist between the soul of
a baby and coming into aspecific family.
So with abortions andmiscarriages, they do find a way
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to exist in that family.
One way or another.
They find a body that cansustain them that will give them
that opportunity to grow inthat family.
So that's my experience.
Now, are there going to beexceptions where nobody in the family
ever has a child ever againand that was the one shot?
Sure, there are exceptions,but most of the time what I see is
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them trying, the soul tryingto find its way in one way or another.
Which is why you'll seesomebody who's an aunt feel very
bonded and close to a niece ora nephew.
And now this aunt had amiscarriage or an abortion earlier
in life and could swear thatthis niece or nephew is.
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Feels like her own son or daughter.
There's a reason for that.
Because the soul found its wayinto the family, and it's why certain
family members feel closer tosome of the children more so than
others.
This is not all of the time.
This is some of the time.
I just feel like I need to saythat because on YouTube, you know,
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people really like to go totown on.
On the what ifs.
And I'm saying most of thetime, I'm seeing the babies that
don't really make it tofruition recycle back into the family.
And Kayla, whoever it is thatwent through it, whether it's you
or someone you know, you'regoing to have to forgive that part
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of yourself and know that thesoul of that child found its place
in the family or is working tofind its place in the family.
They're not suspended on theother side.
They're not penalized for nothaving a body that could sustain
them or a mother who couldsustain them.
They're not penalized for that.
They are given entry into the world.
It's just a matter of themhaving another opportunity to come
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into the world.
Well, I really commend you fortackling that topic.
It's a hard one.
It is.
I can't even comment because I.
I haven't, you know, I'm a guy.
Yeah.
It's sensitive and it's ahyperbolic topic, and it can hit
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a lot of heated buttons forpeople, you know, whether it's through
because of religion or becauseof their own personal beliefs.
And I.
You know, one thing aboutsocial media that's good, it connects
people.
Another thing is there arepeople out there that say some stupid
things.
So please, if you've gotsomething stupid to say, please don't
comment below.
Right, right.
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What were you going to say?
No, I was just saying thatanytime we take life as being sacred
and then it always goes down.
When does life start?
But the way you answered it,it's not.
When life starts, yourconnection with that person is still
there.
Right.
And it's really interestingwith babies too.
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The soul.
You can look into a baby'seyes when they're newborns and it's
just pure and they're sweet and.
But there's not almost nothing there.
Do you know what I mean?
Where it's almost like glassyeyed, A glassy eyed look that they
give you.
They're still making sense of,of shapes and colors and things.
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You know, they're.
They're just.
There's not a full evolutionthat's taken place in there.
It's not the same as the twoyear old, I was gonna say, dragging
their yellow blanket all around.
And that has its own opinionsand favors.
Dad.
And it's a different energy.
Likes eating peas but notcarrots, right?
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Yeah, it's a different energy.
So it's not that the souldoesn't exist in those younger children.
It's that it hasn't developed.
It hasn't developed, hasn'texpanded, it hasn't fleshed out.
Like it's just not filled out.
It doesn't have color yet to it.
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Energy.
So it's potential still.
It's like soul potentialthat's there that hasn't been realized.
Well said.
Okay.
All right.
Thank you, Kayla.
Yes, thank you, Kayla.
We move on.
Oh, I just knew I was going tobe one of those people who talked
too much and got cut off.
My boss actually will time myvoice messages that I leave to him
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and just like text me the number.
I'm sorry.
So anyway, I was saying my dadis 93 and he is still alive.
So the fact that I got thisvisitation, I was like, oh my gosh.
I told my husband, I said, I'mafraid that I'm going to get a phone
call from my mom this morningtelling me that my dad passed.
Well, that didn't happen.
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My dad is still alive and well.
So now I'm wondering.
I mean, I have a few theories,but I don't want to guess about this.
I'm wondering if it'spreparing me for something coming
with my dad, you know, ifmaybe he did pass away a little bit
in his sleep that night.
And that's why he was quietand confused or, you know, it kind
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of made me doubt whether I didtruly understood the difference.
Understand the differencebetween visitations and dreams.
So I'm hoping you can clearthat up for me.
Thank you again and again.
Sorry for being so long winded.
Take care.
I love that my listeners canlisten to the call.
Ins and energies are so different.
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People's energies.
The range of energies is justso incredible.
So I think Tom would say sheprobably has a lot of air in her
chart because she's a communicator.
So she had a dream strongfeeling that her dad was going to
die.
Without having moreinformation, it's hard to fully give
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my explanation for it, like 100%.
But I will say this.
If you had a dream and you'rehaving this strong feeling, this
almost dread that someone'sgoing to die.
That's what it feels like whenthe other side is telling you that
person's going to die.
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Now for me, because I can hearthe other side, the communications
in various ways, theycommunicate various ways.
There's nuances to how they communicate.
Sometimes it's straight uplike, hey, your dad's gonna die at
67 of a massive heart attack.
Which is what I was told withmy dad and spent two years trying
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to prevent it.
Most of you know the storycause I've written about it in my
books.
So for me, that was thecommunication for a lot of people.
And don't dismiss this feeling.
If you have a very strongfeeling that your dad's gonna die.
I will say he's 93.
So it's probably present ofmind already to her, you know, something
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she might worry about.
But there's like this addedweight on her.
This, this feeling, this knowingness.
It's a knowingness that's a prediction.
When it's a knowingness andyou just know it deep inside side,
you're reading the energy,you're seeing what's going to happen.
You're feeling it coming.
It's a very real experiencefor her.
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This strong feeling that he's dying.
I would say if people havethose feelings, that's when you need
to make amends with the person.
Say what you need to say,Visit them as much as you need to
visit them and be at peacewith that.
They're gonna slip away.
Because here's the thing.
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Whether he dies this year ornot, it is a nine year.
So the chances are high.
Because a nine Year is a yearof endings.
It takes people out that arebarely hanging on.
So heads up for all of you.
If you've got somebody elderlyor sick in your family, whether they
went into remission or not,this year is gonna have a way of
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bringing things from leftfield, out of left field that decisively.
So there's an energy this yearof completion, of finish, an end.
So if she's having thisfeeling, she knows what she needs
to do to be all right with him passing.
And you just have to find thatpeace within yourself.
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You know, he's 93.
He's not, you know, 53, whereyou're really trying to buy him more
time.
Sure.
So this is more of a matter of she's.
My.
My feeling is that she's.
It's a small prediction fromthe other side or heads up that he's
going to be going, thatthey're going to have him, that she
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doesn't have to worry abouthim, and for her to go check on him,
talk to him, love on him, whatever.
But this is.
This is the exit coming up onthe on ramp.
So I guess the question is, did.
He have or off ramp?
Sorry.
Well, I guess depends which side.
So if he had one foot on theother side at night like you said,
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maybe he did slip over.
Would that.
And maybe it could be a visit.
But then you're saying, well,maybe it's just the other side getting
her ready so she'll know whatit could be.
I think it's more of apremonition is my sense, rather than
a visit.
Right.
Okay.
I mean, I've.
So it might feel the same toher and they're just getting her
ready.
They're just.
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Well, that's what he's goingto feel like on the other side.
Exactly.
So they could be presenting toher what he will feel like after
he dies and that things won'tbe so different, you know, that he'll
feel clear of mind and focused and.
Okay, well, it sounds like shehas a great relationship with her
dad and that she will continueto have a great relationship.
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Yeah, it sounds like that willadd to this, though.
There are women.
And I feel like I need to saythis for all the mothers out there
who worry that their child'sgoing to die and there's way too
many layers to sort through onthis one.
But they'll get a feeling.
And I hear from a lot ofmothers when I bring their kids through
that when they were in thehospital having the child or holding
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the child right after havingthem there was a sense of dread that
they knew they weren't goingto have them for long.
So that is a very real thingfor women to have, that premonition.
But then some moms, we allworry that something's going to happen
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to our kids, and so then webecome sure of it.
And then our own.
Right, Right.
Our own worry turns into aparanoia, and then we try and wrap
them in bubble wrap and notlet them be part of the world.
And we can't do that either.
You know, they have to have ayoung life.
You have to let them blossom and.
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And you can stunt their growthif you don't give them some space
to figure out who they are.
So there's.
There's a fine balance momshave to strike.
But I just wanted to say forall the moms out there that heads
snapped up and they're like,oh, my God, I had that feeling about
my child.
I knew that's normal.
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We all worry about thatbecause we feel so connected to our
children.
So I don't want you to thinkthat because you have that feeling
that it's going to happen andthat your child's going to die, that's.
Most of the time, that's notgoing to be the case.
One of the times where I dofind that the premonitions seem particularly
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accurate is right aftersomebody's given bir if they have
that ominous feeling in the hospital.
And I've heard that a lot fromthe women, the mothers, but also
even the children that I'vebrought through will say, you knew
when I was born that I wasyours on loan.
And the moms will say, I knewI wasn't going to have him that long.
I knew it then.
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Which I find frightening andastounding all at the same time,
how connected we really are toour children.
And then to live with thatfeeling, knowing that every day you're,
like drinking them in withyour eyes and your heart and your
mind, just taking them inbecause you want to hold on to them
so badly.
In some instances, I thinkwhen moms do that, when they're really
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savoring the children and ineach moment with them, I think sometimes
those moms get more qualitytime with their kids than the moms
that aren't worried about it.
Right.
And there are moms out therethat aren't worried about it.
They're like, he'll be all right.
Right.
So that makes sense.
Yeah.
Moms.
Moms of various shades and.
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And colors of light.
Some are good, some aren't asgood, and.
But I do find that most momswill have that sixth sense when it
comes to their kid.
We know when they're lying tous and a lot of moms know when their
kids lying to them, but theydon't want to address it or believe
it.
And then they pretend thatit's not really a lie.
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It's like, come on, you know,it's lie, girl.
So there's so much to talkabout when it comes to motherhood
and intuition and premonitions.
Maybe we'll do an episode onthat if I have some Collins call
in about premonitions you'vehad about your child or experiences
that you've had with yourchild where you knew they were lying.
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And I bet there's some funnystories as I know I have some funny
ones of my own that I'll sharefor that episode.
So why don't you go ahead andgive us a call at 802-332-3811.
I would love to hear the mom stories.
Well, thank you for being mysounding board and my partner in
crime today.
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So why don't we go ahead andstart with the first caller?
All right.
This is Jamie.
Hi, Allison.
My name is Jamie.
I live in New Hampshire.
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I don't have a question, but Idon't know if at any point ever just
tell silly stories, but I havea silly one for you.
So I've been listening to yourpodcast, and my mom and I have been
talking about it quite a bitand different experiences that we've
had over the years.
And recently I went to thegrocery store and was looking forward
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where the shredded cheeses were.
No one was around that area,and a package of shredded cheese
just flew out into the aisle.
And it was the craziest thing.
So I told my mom about it, andthe other day she called me and said
that she was at the grocerystore, different grocery store, and
she looked down an aisle thatnobody was in, and something came
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flying off the shelf.
So we just thought it was themost hysterical thing.
We're not sure who on theother side is throwing food to get
our attention.
We think it's very funny.
We do have a handful of lovedones over there.
So I thought it was a funnystory to let you know.
Know about.
Thank you for listening.
Bye.
Bye.
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I wanted to share that storybecause it, you know, people don't
get to hear all of the onesthat I get to hear all the little
paranormal quips that peoplehave to share.
And I think it's funny inreadings that I do, many people,
when I bring through the dead,many of them will say, especially
the women, obviously, I liketo go to the Grocery store.
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With my daughter, I, you know,I like to help her pick things out
still, which is why we'll geta feeling that we need something
in a grocery store.
Grocery store that we've neverbought before.
Or there's a medicine that youfeel drawn to get.
You don't know why, becauseyou're not sick.
It's because somebody'stelling you you're about to get sick
or someone in your house isabout to get sick.
(05:58):
And we've had that happen before.
So do you think she.
Somebody was telling her she'snot eating enough cheese?
No, I think someone wastelling her, you're going to need
this cheese.
And you don't know it yet, butit's going to be there for you should
you buy it.
See, this is the difference oflistening to the other side.
If you look at the cheese andsay, oh, wow, that's funny.
(06:19):
I feel loved.
And you put the cheese back.
Well, somebody was trying tohelp you out and something you were
going to need, and now you putit back on the shelf.
So it's like, great that youappreciated it.
But they're trying to make ourlives easier.
People pay attention.
I know there's been a numberof times when you've bought things
that you don't even know why.
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And then you'll bring it homeand it'll be like, I guess we need
cheese.
I don't know.
I'll bring it home.
I'm trying to think of whatthe most recent one, because it happens
weekly.
It'll be something such asNyQuil, and we won't be sick.
And then Sophia shows up witha cold, and I'm like, here, take
this home with you.
So, yeah, they're reallyhelpful in the grocery store, for
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sure.
There's an emotionalconnection to the grocery store for
a lot of women because it tiesinto how they took care of their
families and their childrenwhen they were small and even having
to wrangle the kids in thegrocery carts.
And maybe, well, back in theday we get an icee or an ice cream
or something.
I don't think they do thatnow, but it was fun to go when you
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were a little kid back in the day.
And so there seems to be anemotional connection to shopping.
I have a lot of moms that Ibring through and I can tell who
is a bargain shopper becausethey'll tell their daughter that
they miss shopping with herand getting all those good deals
at the after Christmas sale.
So some women still carry thatenergy of wanting to get that Deal.
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Which I think is hilarious.
So I wanted to share that.
Thank you, Jamie.
That was hilarious.
I hope you bought the cheese.
All right, are you ready forour next caller?
Born ready.
Hi, Allison.
I have been a huge fan sinceMedium, but I have a question.
I was newly divorced this past year.
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I moved out a couple of years ago.
So I'm past the anger and thehurt, and I'm ready to move on.
I'm good.
We're good.
I met a guy, we're dating.
Kind of had a little issuethis weekend.
How do I know if he's the oneor not?
It's so weird dating after being.
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I met my ex in 99.
So after almost 25 years, andhere we are again.
I'm 46 and single, and I don'twant to be alone.
I miss the good times.
So how.
How do we know?
What can I.
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I don't know what to say.
I hope.
Hope you can answer this.
Thanks.
This is where your mindreading comes in.
So you know what she's saying.
Here's the thing.
I read a lot of people, menand women, on relationship issues
that they have.
So she's newly divorced, waswith her ex in 99, I believe she
(09:16):
had said.
So there's two differentlayers here.
First, she's saying, how do Iknow if they're the One?
Well, it depends on what theOne is to you.
If you just want someone toeat dinner with and that's what you're
looking for, like how youdefine the 1.
Some people will define thatas a soulmate, where everything feels
(09:36):
right because you finallyfound that sort of other part of
your energy that was out inthe universe and you finally connected.
Some people would be happyjust having somebody to have dinner
with that they sort of havenice light conversation with that
will do what they want them to do.
So it depends on what the Oneis to each individual and how you
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define that.
So it would depend on what it is.
She.
She said she doesn't want tobe alone.
And that really stood out tome when she said that.
And I can understand.
There's a lot.
There are a lot of people thatstay together just for the sake of
not wanting to be alone.
It's not because the personthey're with is particularly excellent
(10:19):
as a partner or, you know,makes them happy.
It's that they don't want tobe alone.
And one of the things I'velearned for the.
From the dead is don't letfear guide your life.
So to.
To me, being afraid to bealone falls under the umbrella of
fear.
And you know, that's okay,that's okay.
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It's just, you can't expectgreat results under those conditions.
So it sounds like he's not the one.
Not the way I would define the one.
But if he works for her andjust having somebody around that
cares if you live or die,sometimes that's enough for some
people.
Honestly, I'd be interested inpeople's take on that, my listeners,
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how.
How they view relationshipsand what people are looking for in
life.
Some people are hopeless romantics.
They need the love story.
They want the notebook.
You know, high expectations,often disappointed if it falls below
that bar.
So there are those people out there.
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Personally, I'd rather bealone than settle.
But that's easy for me to saybecause I met you when I was 20.
So that's easy for me to saybecause I've never really had to.
To do that.
Would things change ifcircumstances changed and I was alone?
Maybe.
I don't know.
I'm an Aquarius.
So we're just sort of goodbeing alone, which is why I had to
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draw on a moon in Aquarius.
You, because you also are okaybeing alone.
That just works for us.
So there's no guarantees whenpeople say, are they the one?
How do you know if they're the one?
There are no guarantees inlife that any relationship's going
to work out, even the bestcase scenario.
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You know, we've been togetherover 30 years.
You know, we can't imaginebeing with anyone else or seeing
ourselves without one another.
So I mean, that's verydifferent than maybe somebody who
is just wants someone to go toconcerts with.
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Right?
It depends.
But there's no guaranteeseither way.
I could get in a car accidenttomorrow and die and you can end
up alone.
Like, we don't know what'sgoing to happen, you know.
So now, just so you know, whenyou say things like that, coming
from you now, I'm worried.
Oh, stop.
What?
Take it back.
This is.
This is an example.
It's just an example.
I mean, I know a lot of peopleout there have lived a life where
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they thought everything wasset and everything was going beautiful
in their life.
And then the universe throws awrench into the harmony of their
life and it's just utter chaosand they lose someone or something
doesn't work out because theperson changes because they got a
brain injury, you know, andthey're no longer the same person.
And I think that's probably so there.
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I mean, there are a lot of factors.
Yeah, yeah.
What point in your life areyou at and what are you looking for?
If somebody goes with somebodyso they're not lonely and some people
really just can't be alone,then when something hard comes up,
it's even harder to stay with them.
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So when they do that, onething that just really grates on
you, or maybe they shift theirpersonality because of a brain injury
or something like that, itmakes me wonder would that it would
be much harder for them tostay together.
So that would say they're notthe one.
But did it make sense toroommates at the time?
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There's circumstances in lifethat sometimes somebody is the one
and you were supposed to beliving a life to learn certain lessons
from them.
And then something changesbecause whatever you were supposed
to learn already unfolded.
So you can't even go down that road.
It's a slippery slope.
There's too many variables.
But I believe she said she'saround 46 or something now.
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So she would have been verypretty young, in her early 20s when
she was with her ex.
So.
And she sounds like they weretogether for quite a while.
I would take my time.
Don't, you know, if you'vebeen with somebody for that long
from an early age, you're 46now, just figure out who you are,
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Spend some time getting toknow you and making more friends
and learning new skills andcollecting hobbies, focus on you
for a change.
A lot of people get used tobeing in a married relationship or
even a long term relationship,and they don't know how to be alone.
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Sometimes being alone can be agood thing because you have to really
be introspective of who youare and where you want to get to
in life aside from another person.
Because although, you know,for us, we're a couple, Allison and
Joe, people always think ofour names together, and I get it.
But we're also very much individuals.
You know, you're inastrophysics and I'm into the dead,
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and that's that we come fromtwo very different worlds that strangely
have a common thread to them.
And so that we have that incommon, but it's very different at
the same time.
And people should have theirown space and time to develop who
you are in this lifetime sideby side with the person that you
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draw into your world, but notliving your life around that person.
If you start living your lifearound the partner, then there's
an imbalance in the relationship.
I say take your time, girl,and go out with some other people,
see what's out there.
No need to Lock down right now.
You're in your 40s.
Enjoy your powerful 40s andkick the rock down the road until
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a later date.
But live in the moment.
Don't worry about the.
Is this the one?
There are no guarantees.
So, you know, and I, I.
My sense is the answer is no.
Yeah.
So.
All right, here we go.
Hi, this is Kayla.
I was wanted to call and ask aquestion about abortion.
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I know it's kind of a darksubject, but if someone were to choose
to have an abortion early on,or for example, someone who is a
teenager and made that choiceby themselves.
And.
Had an abortion, are you sortof held to that when you get to the
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other side?
Like you basically, for lackof a better word, killed your baby
while you were here?
I just kind of wanted to getsome more information on that, how
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that works out.
Karmically, did the soulalready reach the body, you know,
when you did that?
And is that soul evolving onthe other side, even if it was, you
know, very early on?
(17:52):
Yeah.
So, anyway, if you have anyinsight around that subject at all,
that would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much.
Bye.
Bye.
So I'm going to get it fromboth sides on this one, but I'm going
to answer this question anyway.
I'm going to get it from thehighly religious, and then I'm going
to get it from the other sideas well.
But you know what?
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That's what people appreciateabout you.
You'll say what it is that you see.
Yeah, that's what I can speakto Kayla.
You're not penalized for this,I think, is what she was searching
for in that question in the beginning.
You're not penalized on theother side for making a decision
that you needed to make foryour own conscience or your own path,
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or whether you were unable totake care of a child or you were
just very young and didn'tknow what to do, and that was the
decision you made.
That's not something that youneed to.
It's not to be taken lightly.
So I'm not saying that at all,but I am saying that it's not something
you have to pay for for therest of your life.
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So especially when it's.
Early on, she had asked aboutthe soul, and in my experience, and
this is just speaking to whatI've seen on the other side and also
what I feel when I sensepregnancy, when I'm around people
that are newly pregnant, Idon't really sense souls.
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And you know me, I'll pick.
I pick up on energy around theRoom, Whether it's something you
do, like a spider, like, I cansense that it's weird, but I don't
sense the soul presence in the beginning.
That doesn't mean it's not there.
It's just not something I've experienced.
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As a pregnancy goes on and youget more past, like, six months,
there is a presence.
There's a stirring of the soulin that child.
I think a lot of women willrecognize that they'll crave certain
things, that even after theyhave the child, was very pertinent
to that child's personality in utero.
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So six to nine months.
Yes, I do see that present.
But I also read a lot ofparents who've lost a child not at
their will, but because thechild's body couldn't sustain it,
or there was a complication and.
And the baby dies, you know,at childbirth or shortly after or
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of sids.
Those souls, because theydidn't really get a chance to evolve,
you know, create a life, havea favorite food, favorite toys, develop
the connection with mom anddad as much as more of the age.
I'm looking at.
So I'm looking at in utero,probably two, three months.
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Okay.
So that's the space I'm gonnaput it in.
Doesn't mean they're not a person.
Doesn't mean there's not asoul there.
Just saying.
Not a lot of evolution's gone on.
Right.
Those souls tend to recycleback into the family when the baby
is aborted.
The way, you know, whetherit's abortion or miscarriage, the
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body is evacuating the baby.
It's that.
That process.
That aspect of the process isthe same, where the fetus no longer
can stay in the body.
So.
But it's the decision thatKayla speaks of that weighs on her.
And I see this with a lot ofwomen, no matter how old, they get
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after they had an abortion,feeling very guilty about it.
And what I have to say is, youweighed all of the choices and what
made sense or worked for youat the time.
And there needs to be a levelof forgiveness that you give to yourself
and that you made the bestdecision you could at the time.
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Aside from that, the child'ssoul will find a way into your family
one way or another.
Whether it's a future childthat you have, yourself or your sister,
your brother could have a child.
And the soul finds a way in.
It's interesting.
They want to be in that family.
It's almost as if that soul'sbeing sent to that family specifically.
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Like, it vibes with it.
So I don't know if that soulis something from the past in the
family that is trying to maketheir way back into the family.
But there's a strange tie thatseems to exist between the soul of
a baby and coming into aspecific family.
So with abortions andmiscarriages, they do find a way
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to exist in that family.
One way or another.
They find a body that cansustain them that will give them
that opportunity to grow inthat family.
So that's my experience.
Now, are there going to beexceptions where nobody in the family
ever has a child ever againand that was the one shot?
Sure, there are exceptions,but most of the time what I see is
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them trying, the soul tryingto find its way in one way or another.
Which is why you'll seesomebody who's an aunt feel very
bonded and close to a niece ora nephew.
And now this aunt had amiscarriage or an abortion earlier
in life and could swear thatthis niece or nephew is.
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Feels like her own son or daughter.
There's a reason for that.
Because the soul found its wayinto the family, and it's why certain
family members feel closer tosome of the children more so than
others.
This is not all of the time.
This is some of the time.
I just feel like I need to saythat because on YouTube, you know,
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people really like to go totown on.
On the what ifs.
And I'm saying most of thetime, I'm seeing the babies that
don't really make it tofruition recycle back into the family.
And Kayla, whoever it is thatwent through it, whether it's you
or someone you know, you'regoing to have to forgive that part
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of yourself and know that thesoul of that child found its place
in the family or is working tofind its place in the family.
They're not suspended on theother side.
They're not penalized for nothaving a body that could sustain
them or a mother who couldsustain them.
They're not penalized for that.
They are given entry into the world.
It's just a matter of themhaving another opportunity to come
(24:23):
into the world.
Well, I really commend you fortackling that topic.
It's a hard one.
It is.
I can't even comment because I.
I haven't, you know, I'm a guy.
Yeah.
It's sensitive and it's ahyperbolic topic, and it can hit
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a lot of heated buttons forpeople, you know, whether it's through
because of religion or becauseof their own personal beliefs.
And I.
You know, one thing aboutsocial media that's good, it connects
people.
Another thing is there arepeople out there that say some stupid
things.
So please, if you've gotsomething stupid to say, please don't
comment below.
Right, right.
(25:06):
What were you going to say?
No, I was just saying thatanytime we take life as being sacred
and then it always goes down.
When does life start?
But the way you answered it,it's not.
When life starts, yourconnection with that person is still
there.
Right.
And it's really interestingwith babies too.
(25:28):
The soul.
You can look into a baby'seyes when they're newborns and it's
just pure and they're sweet and.
But there's not almost nothing there.
Do you know what I mean?
Where it's almost like glassyeyed, A glassy eyed look that they
give you.
They're still making sense of,of shapes and colors and things.
(25:49):
You know, they're.
They're just.
There's not a full evolutionthat's taken place in there.
It's not the same as the twoyear old, I was gonna say, dragging
their yellow blanket all around.
And that has its own opinionsand favors.
Dad.
And it's a different energy.
Likes eating peas but notcarrots, right?
(26:11):
Yeah, it's a different energy.
So it's not that the souldoesn't exist in those younger children.
It's that it hasn't developed.
It hasn't developed, hasn'texpanded, it hasn't fleshed out.
Like it's just not filled out.
It doesn't have color yet to it.
(26:33):
Energy.
So it's potential still.
It's like soul potentialthat's there that hasn't been realized.
Well said.
Okay.
All right.
Thank you, Kayla.
Yes, thank you, Kayla.
We move on.
Oh, I just knew I was going tobe one of those people who talked
too much and got cut off.
My boss actually will time myvoice messages that I leave to him
(26:56):
and just like text me the number.
I'm sorry.
So anyway, I was saying my dadis 93 and he is still alive.
So the fact that I got thisvisitation, I was like, oh my gosh.
I told my husband, I said, I'mafraid that I'm going to get a phone
call from my mom this morningtelling me that my dad passed.
Well, that didn't happen.
(27:17):
My dad is still alive and well.
So now I'm wondering.
I mean, I have a few theories,but I don't want to guess about this.
I'm wondering if it'spreparing me for something coming
with my dad, you know, ifmaybe he did pass away a little bit
in his sleep that night.
And that's why he was quietand confused or, you know, it kind
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of made me doubt whether I didtruly understood the difference.
Understand the differencebetween visitations and dreams.
So I'm hoping you can clearthat up for me.
Thank you again and again.
Sorry for being so long winded.
Take care.
I love that my listeners canlisten to the call.
Ins and energies are so different.
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People's energies.
The range of energies is justso incredible.
So I think Tom would say sheprobably has a lot of air in her
chart because she's a communicator.
So she had a dream strongfeeling that her dad was going to
die.
Without having moreinformation, it's hard to fully give
(28:22):
my explanation for it, like 100%.
But I will say this.
If you had a dream and you'rehaving this strong feeling, this
almost dread that someone'sgoing to die.
That's what it feels like whenthe other side is telling you that
person's going to die.
(28:43):
Now for me, because I can hearthe other side, the communications
in various ways, theycommunicate various ways.
There's nuances to how they communicate.
Sometimes it's straight uplike, hey, your dad's gonna die at
67 of a massive heart attack.
Which is what I was told withmy dad and spent two years trying
(29:07):
to prevent it.
Most of you know the storycause I've written about it in my
books.
So for me, that was thecommunication for a lot of people.
And don't dismiss this feeling.
If you have a very strongfeeling that your dad's gonna die.
I will say he's 93.
So it's probably present ofmind already to her, you know, something
(29:29):
she might worry about.
But there's like this addedweight on her.
This, this feeling, this knowingness.
It's a knowingness that's a prediction.
When it's a knowingness andyou just know it deep inside side,
you're reading the energy,you're seeing what's going to happen.
You're feeling it coming.
It's a very real experiencefor her.
(29:54):
This strong feeling that he's dying.
I would say if people havethose feelings, that's when you need
to make amends with the person.
Say what you need to say,Visit them as much as you need to
visit them and be at peacewith that.
They're gonna slip away.
Because here's the thing.
(30:14):
Whether he dies this year ornot, it is a nine year.
So the chances are high.
Because a nine Year is a yearof endings.
It takes people out that arebarely hanging on.
So heads up for all of you.
If you've got somebody elderlyor sick in your family, whether they
went into remission or not,this year is gonna have a way of
(30:34):
bringing things from leftfield, out of left field that decisively.
So there's an energy this yearof completion, of finish, an end.
So if she's having thisfeeling, she knows what she needs
to do to be all right with him passing.
And you just have to find thatpeace within yourself.
(30:55):
You know, he's 93.
He's not, you know, 53, whereyou're really trying to buy him more
time.
Sure.
So this is more of a matter of she's.
My.
My feeling is that she's.
It's a small prediction fromthe other side or heads up that he's
going to be going, thatthey're going to have him, that she
(31:17):
doesn't have to worry abouthim, and for her to go check on him,
talk to him, love on him, whatever.
But this is.
This is the exit coming up onthe on ramp.
So I guess the question is, did.
He have or off ramp?
Sorry.
Well, I guess depends which side.
So if he had one foot on theother side at night like you said,
(31:40):
maybe he did slip over.
Would that.
And maybe it could be a visit.
But then you're saying, well,maybe it's just the other side getting
her ready so she'll know whatit could be.
I think it's more of apremonition is my sense, rather than
a visit.
Right.
Okay.
I mean, I've.
So it might feel the same toher and they're just getting her
ready.
They're just.
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Well, that's what he's goingto feel like on the other side.
Exactly.
So they could be presenting toher what he will feel like after
he dies and that things won'tbe so different, you know, that he'll
feel clear of mind and focused and.
Okay, well, it sounds like shehas a great relationship with her
dad and that she will continueto have a great relationship.
(32:24):
Yeah, it sounds like that willadd to this, though.
There are women.
And I feel like I need to saythis for all the mothers out there
who worry that their child'sgoing to die and there's way too
many layers to sort through onthis one.
But they'll get a feeling.
And I hear from a lot ofmothers when I bring their kids through
that when they were in thehospital having the child or holding
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the child right after havingthem there was a sense of dread that
they knew they weren't goingto have them for long.
So that is a very real thingfor women to have, that premonition.
But then some moms, we allworry that something's going to happen
(33:09):
to our kids, and so then webecome sure of it.
And then our own.
Right, Right.
Our own worry turns into aparanoia, and then we try and wrap
them in bubble wrap and notlet them be part of the world.
And we can't do that either.
You know, they have to have ayoung life.
You have to let them blossom and.
(33:32):
And you can stunt their growthif you don't give them some space
to figure out who they are.
So there's.
There's a fine balance momshave to strike.
But I just wanted to say forall the moms out there that heads
snapped up and they're like,oh, my God, I had that feeling about
my child.
I knew that's normal.
(33:53):
We all worry about thatbecause we feel so connected to our
children.
So I don't want you to thinkthat because you have that feeling
that it's going to happen andthat your child's going to die, that's.
Most of the time, that's notgoing to be the case.
One of the times where I dofind that the premonitions seem particularly
(34:15):
accurate is right aftersomebody's given bir if they have
that ominous feeling in the hospital.
And I've heard that a lot fromthe women, the mothers, but also
even the children that I'vebrought through will say, you knew
when I was born that I wasyours on loan.
And the moms will say, I knewI wasn't going to have him that long.
I knew it then.
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Which I find frightening andastounding all at the same time,
how connected we really are toour children.
And then to live with thatfeeling, knowing that every day you're,
like drinking them in withyour eyes and your heart and your
mind, just taking them inbecause you want to hold on to them
so badly.
In some instances, I thinkwhen moms do that, when they're really
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savoring the children and ineach moment with them, I think sometimes
those moms get more qualitytime with their kids than the moms
that aren't worried about it.
Right.
And there are moms out therethat aren't worried about it.
They're like, he'll be all right.
Right.
So that makes sense.
Yeah.
Moms.
Moms of various shades and.
(35:21):
And colors of light.
Some are good, some aren't asgood, and.
But I do find that most momswill have that sixth sense when it
comes to their kid.
We know when they're lying tous and a lot of moms know when their
kids lying to them, but theydon't want to address it or believe
it.
And then they pretend thatit's not really a lie.
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It's like, come on, you know,it's lie, girl.
So there's so much to talkabout when it comes to motherhood
and intuition and premonitions.
Maybe we'll do an episode onthat if I have some Collins call
in about premonitions you'vehad about your child or experiences
that you've had with yourchild where you knew they were lying.
(36:01):
And I bet there's some funnystories as I know I have some funny
ones of my own that I'll sharefor that episode.
So why don't you go ahead andgive us a call at 802-332-3811.
I would love to hear the mom stories.
Well, thank you for being mysounding board and my partner in
crime today.
(36:22):
And thank you to my listenersfor tuning in.
Tune in next week for a freshepisode of the Dead Life.
I'm Allison Dubois.
This is THE Dead Life.
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