June 30, 2025 • 35 mins
Feeling overwhelmed by the competing demands of post-divorce life? You're not alone. In this practical episode, I reveal the game-changing system that transformed my ability to juggle single parenting, career responsibilities, and personal well-being after my divorce.
A Practical Example Schedule:
- 6:00 - 6:30 AM: Morning meditation and journaling (Mental Health)
- 6:30 - 7:15 AM: Exercise (Physical Health)
- 7:15 - 8:00 AM: Family breakfast and morning prep (Family Time)
- 8:00 - 12:00 PM: Work or career-related tasks
- 12:00 - 12:30 PM: Lunch and nutrition planning (Physical Health)
- 12:30 - 1:00 PM: Financial management tasks (bills, budgeting)
- 1:00 - 5:00 PM: Work or professional responsibilities
- 5:00 - 6:00 PM: Children's activities or coordinating pick-ups/drop-offs
- 6:00 - 7:00 PM: Dinner and family connection time
- 7:00 - 7:30 PM: Household chores and cleaning
- 7:30 - 8:00 PM: Personal hobby or leisure activity
- 8:00 - 8:30 PM: Spiritual reflection or reading
- 9:00 - 9:30 PM: Evening wind-down, mindfulness or stretching (Mental Health)
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Episode Transcript
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hello and welcome to the show.
Thank you so much for beinghere this week.
Today's episode.
We have another installment ofpractical advice.
We haven't done one in a whileand we had something come up on
our group meeting this weekendthat I think is important for us
to talk about how to manage ourschedule.
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So we're going to talk aboutsome block scheduling.
But before we get into that,let me welcome some of the new
members to the Divorced Advocatecommunity Samson, brad, chirag,
ian, don and Chuck.
Welcome to the community.
If you are not part of thecommunity yet, check it out at
thedivorcedadvocatecom.
(00:44):
We've got all kinds ofresources there.
Also, I wanted to note we'vejust completed a brand refresh,
so if you do check out thewebsite again, you're going to
see that we've done some updatesthere.
A little bit of a note as wellthat in doing some updating with
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some of the resources as wellas the website, I found that
some links and some other thingshave been broken.
I want to sincerely apologizeabout that, but everything
should be working again.
But if there was a resourcethat you were trying to access
or there was something that youwere trying to do on the site
that you weren't able to do,please let me know and you can
(01:27):
email me at any time atjudeatthedivorcedadvocatecom and
I will get back to you on thator if there's just something
that's not working that you find, because sometimes I just these
things fall through the cracksand I apologize for that if that
was an experience that you'vehad.
But everything should be up andrunning and going smoothly
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again Now.
We're working on also someother upgrades to be coming to
the website as well.
We got a lot of great stuff inthe works now, so just be
prepared and be ready for thosethings.
Last note is that there was afeature that was offered through
the podcast platform callingText the Show.
(02:12):
It seems like that would besomething that you would be able
to text and text back andcommunicate.
So I've gotten several messagesfrom you all through the text
the show, the text the showfeature on the platform, but
unfortunately the platform doesnot allow me to text you back
and it does not allow me tocommunicate directly back with
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you at all.
Since most of this stuff werepersonal, specific or
specifically personalinformation, I didn't feel
comfortable sharing stuff backon the show.
So apparently that's themindset behind this is that it's
you text the show and then weread your whatever your your
text or your question on theshow.
But I've disengaged thatbecause it just doesn't make
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sense in the context of whatwe're using here.
So I just want to let you know.
If you sent me a text, I'vereceived it.
If you still want to get incontact with me and I haven't
responded to that text the show,just send me an email at jude,
at the divorce advocatecom, andagain I sincerely apologize.
And we try to implement newthings, try to find ways to
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communicate, try to find waysfor uh to to give you some more
resources.
We're going to have some ofthese glitches and I apologize
for that.
But on that note also, I wantedto encourage you to get on our
new Signal site.
We've got a new Signal site.
One of our members is managingthat.
He's doing a tremendous job ona regular basis and on a basis
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that other guys can support,other guys going through the
process just on a daily orminute-by-minute basis.
If any of you need to bereaching out to somebody or talk
to somebody or just being ableto vent a little bit, so you can
simply unsignal, download theSignal app and then you can
search for the Divorce Dadvocateand then get engaged that way.
So check it out All right.
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As you know, navigating thechallenges of divorce as a dad
often means juggling multiplepriorities simultaneously, and
we're faced with the complextask of co-parenting, which
involves not just emotionalsupport for your children, but
also a meticulous coordinationof their school activities,
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their extracurricular activities, their medical appointments,
their social engagements, etc.
Their social engagements, etcetera.
Alongside theseresponsibilities, we have to
manage our career obligationsthat demand our attention and
our energy and our focus.
Additionally, maintaininghousehold duties such as
cleaning, cooking, groceryshopping, home repairs and
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upkeep can become overwhelmingwithout proper structure.
In the midst of these competingdemands, your mental, emotional
, physical and spiritual health,which we always talk about, can
easily become neglected,leading to stress, leading to
burnout, leading to a diminishedquality of life.
However, there's a practicaland highly effective solution to
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help you regain control, manageresponsibilities more
effectively and efficiently andfoster a balanced lifestyle, and
this is called block scheduling.
Block scheduling involvesdividing your day into clear,
intentional segments or blocks,each dedicated to specific
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activities or responsibilities.
For divorced or divorcing dads,this structured approach offers
clarity, reduces stress,ensures essential self-care and
enhances your ability to managedaily tasks effectively.
So the impetus behind this wason our group call we had one of
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the guys who's got almost 100%custody of his kiddos and he was
lamenting the fact that it'svery challenging to basically
get everything done in a daywhich I can relate to.
There was a time where Iparented 100% for two and a half
years my daughters, and when Iwas going through that time I
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actually hired a business coachto help me with some of this and
what he did is he had me for anentire week document every 15
minutes of what I was doing inmy day and then for that week we
tallied everything that I wasdoing in a day and that meant
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like if I was just daydreamingfor 15 minutes or scrolling for
15 minutes or not doing anything, I was documenting that and you
would be amazed at the amountof time.
That is not productive time andif you are experiencing and
dealing with the challenge ofbeing a divorced dad which you
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are probably if you're listeningbut if you have kids 100% of
the time, that makes it, itexacerbates it even more and
makes it even a little bit morechallenging.
You don't have any of that timeoff.
So what we're going to talkabout is block scheduling.
So what is block scheduling?
And so then, what this businesscoach taught me was how to do
this block scheduling, and I candefinitively tell you it
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absolutely has changed my lifeand how productive I can be and
how much it takes the stressMost importantly, takes the
stress off of me not feelinglike I'm going to be able to, or
be able to, get everything donethat I need to get done.
So listen carefully, it's notgoing to be completely
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comprehensive.
If you want, I know thatthere's courses online.
You can Google block scheduling, check it out online.
Give me a call.
We can go through it more indetail and how to do it in your
schedule.
But something that I teach allthe guys now when we do private
coaching we talked about on ourgroup call on how to do that,
but it is absolutely amazing.
So what is it specifically?
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Block scheduling involvesorganizing your day into clear,
intentional segments or blocks,each block explicitly dedicated
to particular activities orresponsibilities.
So, instead of tackling taskshaphazardly or reacting
impulsively to whatever arises,block scheduling encourages
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deliberate planning andproactive decision making.
Time blocks we can ensurededicated attention for
essential duties such asco-parenting responsibilities,
children's school events,extracurricular activities.
Also our professionalobligations, our household tasks
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like cooking, cleaning, repairs, bill management, as well as,
and probably most importantly,our personal wellness activities
, including exercise, rest,emotional reflection and
spiritual practices.
The structured method minimizesdistractions, promotes
productivity, reduces stress and, importantly, ensures the
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critical aspects of our dailylife aren't inadvertently
neglected, ultimately enabling amore balanced and fulfilling
lifestyle.
So that's what it is in anutshell, but why would block
scheduling matter for divorcedads?
I alluded to it a little bit,but let me dive in a little bit
deeper.
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Divorce, as I stated and as youknow, if you're experiencing it
right now or have gone throughit, is draining, and the thing
that we don't talk about themost is it's logistically
demanding.
It's a complex blend ofpersonal stress and practical
challenges, is the best way Ican describe it.
You're tasked with managingyour own emotional landscape,
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from processing feelings ofgrief, anger, uncertainty, to
rebuilding your sense of selfand moving forward.
Simultaneously, you're alsonavigating delicate
relationships with your children, ensuring they feel supported,
secure and understood duringthis transition.
Additionally, interactions withyour former spouse require
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careful, often sensitivecommunication to effectively
co-parent, handle conflicts andset healthy boundaries.
On top of these interpersonaldynamics, you're also
interacting with your broaderfamily and social circle,
addressing their concerns,expectations or advice, which
can further compound emotionalstrain.
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Vice, which can furthercompound emotional strain.
Parallel to these emotionalchallenges are the numerous
practical responsibilities thatdemand our constant attention
Managing our finances, budgeting, meeting child support
obligations and ensuring, simply, our bills are paid promptly,
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all while maintaining afunctional household.
From cooking to nutritiousmeals, handling grocery shopping
, coordinating household choresto addressing unexpected repairs
, the logistical tasks can pileup and are numerous.
Structuring your day into clear, defined blocks will allow you
to methodically address each ofthese aspects of your complex
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responsibilities, restoringbalance to your life.
Block scheduling brings clarityto what you're doing and reduces
overwhelm by setting dedicatedtimes for each activity or task.
This focused approach fostersbetter productivity.
It absolutely, I promise you,will decrease your anxiety.
It enhances your mental claritybecause you know exactly what
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you're doing when you're doingit, and ensures you're able to
fill all your roles effectively,so nothing falls through the
cracks, ultimately helping youmove forward with greater
confidence and stability.
I tell you, I promise you, itwill change your life.
So what does this look like asan example in real life and
practically?
I'm going to break out justseven and you can, and these are
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just again.
I said this is going to be acursory view of block scheduling
, but I've broken down sevenimportant ones and then you can
break these down into evensmaller, different ones and you
can do it however you want inyour schedule, however you want
to do it in your schedule.
But these are some of the sevenreal main ones, and one is a
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mental health block.
And these first ones really arethe ones that I talk about all
the time in self-care, takingcare of yourself mentally,
emotionally, physically andspiritually.
First one is your mental healthblock.
Set aside daily blocks to focuson your mental wellness, and
that could mean journaling orreflection for 15 to 30 minutes.
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It could be meditation ormindful practice 10 or 20
minutes.
It could be counseling ortherapy sessions 30 to 60
minutes a week.
But make sure to get thosescheduled in.
The second one, or another one,is emotional and family support
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block.
Divorce as you know, goingthrough this can make us feel
isolated and even though we'refeeling isolated, our parenting
demands don't stop and theyremain high.
So make sure to block in thequality family time with your
kids, focusing on emotionalconnection and communication,
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time where you can be fullypresent, right Regular meetups
or calls with supported friendsor support groups, like our
Divorced Advocate group meeting.
And another important one isscheduled hobby or leisure
activities.
You've got to find that stuffjust to decompress whether it's
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finding something new, like Istarted playing pickleball a
little bit like a year, year anda half ago, or just running or
walking or whatever it might be,make sure to schedule it in
there.
The third and this kind ofdovetails into it is that
physical health block.
Your physical health is goingto directly influence your
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capacity to meet your dailydemands.
So if you're mentally,emotionally, physically,
spiritually you hear me talkabout it all the time, but I'm
going to say it again Mentally,emotionally, physically,
spiritually you hear me talkabout it all the time, but I'm
going to say it again Mentally,emotionally, physically,
spiritually grounded it's likethe four legs on a stool You're
going to be in good balance.
Your physical health is goingto also directly influence that
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capacity to meet these dailydemands.
Exercise such as workouts,running, cycling, yoga.
Schedule that 30 minutes a dayat least.
If you've got to startsomewhere small, start 10 or 15
minutes, work your way up to 30.
Hopefully, get up to more thanthat.
You've got to do it every dayif possible, but at least
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several times three, four, fivetimes a week.
Also, healthy meal prep andnutrition planning.
You can do that weekly orbiweekly.
I do that on the weekends andbuy groceries once on the
weekend for the first half ofthe week and then once during
the week for the second half ofthe week.
Medical checkups or wellnessappointments you're going to
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need to make sure to stay onthose.
Get your annual physicals done.
If you've got other stuff goingon, do not ignore that stuff.
Get it scheduled in.
You got to schedule in, it'llget done.
The next one and the final onearound the four legs the stools
of leg is the spiritual wellnessblock.
Don't ignore this, gentlemen.
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We're all spiritual beings.
Spiritual wellness block.
Don't ignore this, gentlemen.
We're all spiritual beings,whatever that means to you.
So cultivate that.
Spiritual health providesemotional grounding also.
So that could look like prayer,meditation or spiritual reading
15 to 30 minutes daily.
It could be participation incommunity gatherings or services
, or it could be as simple assome people connect and this is
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one of the things for meengaging with nature or quiet
reflection outdoors.
So it could be a hike.
It could be simply walking inthe park or by the lake or
something like that.
So, but do not do not neglectthat spiritual wellness block as
well.
Do not neglect that spiritualwellness block as well.
Number five is work and careerblock.
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Organize specific work-relatedresponsibilities clearly, very
clearly.
And this is huge if you aresomebody who is self-employed
and may be working out of thehome or might be working mobily.
But all the rest of it is hugetoo if you're working for
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somebody, because you've gotthose huge blocks and I'm going
to give you a real example of afake schedule here.
It's not necessarily myschedule coming up here, but
you've got those blocks maybefrom eight until 12, every
single day, where you're focusedin at your employer.
You got to be there and thenmaybe you have a lunch from 12
to one and then one to five.
So that eight to 12, one tofive, that's blocked for your
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focus on your job or whateverhours you get.
What I'm saying.
So that makes it even moreimportant to be able to schedule
that other stuff around, whatthose blocks are.
But if you're self-employed oryou work remotely or remotely,
schedule in what work you'resupposed to do within that work.
And so when I worked with thisbusiness coach, that's what he
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was specifically talking aboutbeing self-employed when are you
working on your marketing, whenare you working on your sales,
when are you figuring out whatyou're going to be planning for
the future and future offerings,et cetera.
He was working within thoseeight to 12 and one to five
blocks, but also in the rest ofmy life as well, and balancing,
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that is, when are you workingout and when are you meal
prepping and when are youspending time with the family
and what does that look?
All that stuff, so that careerblock, define the working hours
for the tasks and projects,dedicated administrative tasks
such as emails and meetings.
I'll just say turn off emailreminders, turn off reminders on
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your phone.
Just do it now.
Get rid of all of them.
They're a distraction.
They're meant to be adistraction.
They're meant to pull you awayfrom what you're doing.
You're gonna be amazed when youturn all that stuff and you
dedicate a 10 or 15 minute blockto checking your text messages
or checking your emails andresponding to emails and doing
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that stuff.
You're going to be so much moreproductive because you're not
going to get pulled.
They say something like ittakes like 11 minutes to get
refocused when you go from onetask to another.
So if you get distracted and Ithink it's 11 minutes, even if
it's not that much, even if it'sjust five minutes then that's
five minutes Every time you getpulled from one task to another
to get refocused on that newtask.
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Imagine if you do that 10 timesa day.
You get pulled away from whatyou're doing.
That's almost an hour that youlose in an entire day.
So turn those notifications offon your emails, on your phone.
All that, and then that'ssomething else that you're going
to schedule in there.
And then also professionaldevelopment and networking.
Those are some other examplesof what you can organize
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specifically within that work orcareer block.
Another one is financialmanagement block.
We've got bills to pay right,so clear financial planning is
going to reduce stress.
I would say it's been myexperience and probably the
experience that you're goingthrough Most of the guys I
talked to.
This is the most stressful partof all of this is the
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uncertainty around finances.
So if you can make sure toschedule time weekly or monthly
for bill payments, weekly andmonthly for budgeting, weekly
and monthly or monthly forfinancial reviews whether that's
just reviewing yourself or ifyou have a financial planner
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make sure to do that, dedicateblocks for managing your child
support or your alimonyresponsibilities so you can make
those payments on time, if youhave those, and then regularly
checking financial health,investments or saving goals.
And that can be, again, doingthat, weekly or monthly.
Checking your portfolios If youhave some some of us don't
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after divorce, right, and we'rerebuilding them, but you can
check on those and thenreallocate or whatever you might
need to be doing.
But make sure to block that inbecause, again, if you know
where you're at all the time andI do recognize, gentlemen,
sometimes that going throughthis process you're going to be
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really living paycheck topaycheck and it's going to be
difficult and stressful so someof this stuff might not make
sense, especially if you'redoing, but it should all make
sense Because when I'm talkingabout financial management and
maybe this is one thing we coulddo a whole podcast and I'm
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going to take a note on this is,even if you are living paycheck
to paycheck, then there arethings that you can be doing
within this block scheduling inorder to either further your
career, switch careers, earnmore money if you need to and I
know that was something that Istruggled to focus on when I had
to all of a sudden be parenting100% of the time with my
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daughters and my businessabsolutely tanked because I was
all of a sudden 100% responsiblefor doing everything, which is
one of the reasons I struggledso long, especially financially,
because then the business Icouldn't get my head around how
to do both things and be afull-time dad and try to run a
successful business.
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So by utilizing this andfiguring out ways to be very
productive in the time, you canfind more ways to make money,
different ways, further yourcareer, increase your income, et
cetera.
Okay, last one householdmanagement block.
Probably some of our leastfavorite ones, right.
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Maintaining a clean, functionalhome environment supports
overall stability.
So, while we might not like it,it's incredibly important to
create that environment for ourkids that's not cluttered
cluttered places're financiallyable to.
You can hire somebody that cancome in and do some of this
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stuff for you.
Home repairs or maintenance taxthe same thing.
If you enjoy doing that oryou've got the time to do it,
you can.
Grocery shopping and householdsupply inventory.
I told you a little bit earlierhow I schedule once on the
weekend, once during the middleof the week for grocery shopping
and meal planning.
So this will help you to breakall that down.
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So let me show you, let me justverbally tell you, kind of a
schedule, of an example schedule, and I will drop this into the
show notes for you so that youcan take a look at kind of what
I'm talking about.
So a practical example.
And so here's what you're doing.
You're literally schedulingyour entire day, every single
minute of the day.
So you're scheduling even yourbreaks.
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If you want to take some timeto do some doom scrolling, you
schedule that 15 minutes, right.
Or if you want to just takesome time at the end of the day
to watch a TV show, you're goingto schedule that 30 minutes or
an hour or whatever it might be.
But here's an example schedule.
6 to 6.30 am morning meditationand journaling.
That's that mental health block.
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6.30 to 7.15 am exercisewhatever that might be.
Maybe it's some weights, maybeit's going to the gym lifting,
maybe it's going for a run,maybe it's some weights, maybe
it's going to the gym lifting,maybe it's going for a run.
That's your physical healthblock.
7.15 to 8 am Family breakfastand morning prep.
That's that family time block.
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8 am to 12 pm Work orcareer-related tasks Again, if
you're working for somebody,then you can utilize this at
wherever you're wherever you'reworking too, and it's it will
absolutely change how productiveyou are and how how much stress
is relieved, because you'llknow everything's getting done.
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But if you're working forsomebody between that eight and
12, these are worker careerrelated tasks.
If you work for yourself orremotely, break out exactly what
you're doing between that eightand 12 and how you're doing it.
12 to 1230, lunch and nutritionplanning.
So maybe you're sitting thereand you're eating a little bit
of lunch, but maybe you're alsowriting your list for your
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groceries.
So that's your physical healthblock.
1230 to one o'clock so this isyour lunch break, right?
So if you're on a lunch breakand you should take a lunch
break even if you'reself-employed, that might not be
exactly every day, but you'regoing to probably have to take
part of that and do somethingother than just sit and eat
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lunch.
So, 1230 to one o'clockfinancial management tasks.
So you30 to one o'clockfinancial management tasks.
So you can be sitting and youcan be doing maybe your bills on
your phone or doing somebudgeting, checking your
investments or something likethat, or just reading about
investing or taking that time toread and learn something.
So that's 1230 to one, oneo'clock to five.
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Again, work or professionalresponsibilities, whatever that
looks like in your life.
5 to 6 pm children's activitiesor coordinating pickups and
drop-offs that's that familytime block.
6 to 7 pm dinner and familyconnection time.
And when I say dinner andfamily connection time, so
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you've got the dinner alreadyplanned find what that dinner or
that family connection timemight be and you can do
something every single day.
That could be.
Maybe it's a 15-minute walkaround the block.
My girls and I do that with thedog to this day, just to walk
around the block for 15 minutes,to just get out, spend some
time together.
Another one is conversationaround dinner.
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There's a game called RoseThorn Bud.
You can look it up and it's aprompt to have conversations
around dinner with each other.
So but schedule what that isand be prepared for what that's
going to look like.
7 to 7.30, household chores andcleaning.
7.30 to 8, personal hobby orleisure activity.
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Again, this could be that I'mgoing to just have some downtime
, I'm going to smoke a cigar,whatever it might be that you're
going to do.
8 to 8.30, spiritual reflectionor reading.
Again, don't ignore thatspiritual part of your life and
then, 9 to 9.30, evening, winddown, mindfulness or stretching,
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schedule that time and thenschedule when you're going to go
to bed also, so that could be9.30, I'm in bed, or 10 o'clock,
10.30, whatever that's going tobe, but schedule your sleep
also, because you've got to havethe appropriate amount of sleep
, all right.
So what are the benefits?
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How is this going to benefityou?
I alluded to the first one,which is reduced stress.
Why is this going to reduceyour stress If you have
everything clearly organized inyour day?
It's going to alleviate theanxiety from overlooking any
responsibilities.
Now, this doesn't always meanthat you're actually going to be
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able to get everything done allthe time, because things come
up and we're going to talk aboutthis in a second, about
constraints and some changes butyou're going to feel more
comfortable knowing that you'vegot time block, you're going to
get it done and you're not goingto forget about anything.
It's also going to improve yourrelationships.
Intentional family and emotionalwellness practice foster deeper
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connections, right?
So we're so busy If we havethis time blocked and we know
that we're getting this stuffdone.
Our finances are in place, thehousehold is looking like we
want it to.
It helps us to be more presentwith our kiddos.
In the time that we're spending, we're not thinking about all
the stuff we have to do, etcetera.
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So it's going to definitelyhelp your relationships with
your kiddos and others.
Enhanced health, because you'regoing to be consistently
exercising.
You're going to be consistentlyexercising.
You're going to have balancednutrition.
You're going to make sure thatyou're taking care of your
regular medical care.
This is all going to improveyour overall well-being.
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The financial stability, like Italked about, because you're
dedicating financial planningtime.
This is going to ensurelong-term security and reduce
stress and, if it's not yet,it's going to give you a plan
towards working towards thatright.
The last one more comfortableliving.
Basically, your householdmaintenance is going to be done.
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The house is going to be clean.
It's going to create a stable,comforting environment for you
and your kiddos, and that'sgoing to just especially if
those of you that don't reallylike structure and kind of buck
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structure, this one is going tobe a little more challenging for
you to implement in your life.
But hey, as we're going throughthis divorce process, there are
a few things that we can control.
Right, we can't control theoutcomes, we can't control
what's going on with our ex, orsoon to be ex, but we can
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control our schedule.
We control what we do with ourschedule, so this is one thing
that we can take control of.
So, and let me just be clear,it's not about creating rigid
constraints for those of youthat don't like constraints,
right it's about empoweringyourself to take intentional
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control over your day.
Okay, so life, especiallyduring this divorce process and
after, right Anytime, becauseit's dynamic and often
unpredictable.
Your schedule should alsoreflect flexibility so you can
adjust your blocks as your needsand your circumstances, your
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responsibilities evolve,allowing yourself room for the
unexpected and for otheropportunities for growth.
So if something happens, youcan move that block, you can
push your time out, you canreorganize it.
That's just how it works.
However, consistentlyprioritizing your personal
wellness mentally, emotionally,physically and spiritually is
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critical.
I'll say if there's one thing,if you're going to start, just
start with that.
Put that into your schedule andstart with I'm waking up with a
morning meditation or doingsome journaling.
I'm scheduling that in 15minutes in the morning.
I'm scheduling my exercise infor 30 minutes and then I'm
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scheduling in my food and howI'm going to be eating my lunch
and my dinner with myself, bymyself or with the kiddos, and
then I'm scheduling my time forspiritual reflections.
Just do those four things andstart with those four things and
then start filling everythingelse around that, but make sure
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that you get those in.
Equally important issafeguarding essential daily
duties like parenting, careerfinancing, home maintenance.
Ensuring these prioritiesaren't sacrificed during times
of stress or uncertainty, as adivorce or divorcing dad.
Practicing intentionalscheduling empowers you to be
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fully present.
Like I said, it allows you tobe fully focused, fully
organized and ultimately, willlead you to greater resilience,
greater strength and a healthier, more balanced life, not only
for yourself, but also for yourkiddos and any other loved ones
that rely on you.
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All right, gentlemen, that isblock scheduling in a nutshell.
I hope that you found somevalue in this.
I promise you, if you can workon figuring out how to do this,
it is going to greatly enhanceyour life and you're going to be
truly amazed at what you can do.
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I know there's a lot ofoverwhelm when you start in this
process, but if you can utilizethis, it will take away a ton
of that overwhelm.
Thanks so much for listeningtoday.
Please share this far and wide.
Leave us a comment on whateverpodcast platform you are
listening in and share it onsocial media so that every dad
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can get the support that theyneed and deserve.
Have a great week and God bless.
Hello and welcome to the show.
Thank you so much for beinghere this week.
Today's episode.
We have another installment ofpractical advice.
We haven't done one in a whileand we had something come up on
our group meeting this weekendthat I think is important for us
to talk about how to manage ourschedule.
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So we're going to talk aboutsome block scheduling.
But before we get into that,let me welcome some of the new
members to the Divorced Advocatecommunity Samson, brad, chirag,
ian, don and Chuck.
Welcome to the community.
If you are not part of thecommunity yet, check it out at
thedivorcedadvocatecom.
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We've got all kinds ofresources there.
Also, I wanted to note we'vejust completed a brand refresh,
so if you do check out thewebsite again, you're going to
see that we've done some updatesthere.
A little bit of a note as wellthat in doing some updating with
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some of the resources as wellas the website, I found that
some links and some other thingshave been broken.
I want to sincerely apologizeabout that, but everything
should be working again.
But if there was a resourcethat you were trying to access
or there was something that youwere trying to do on the site
that you weren't able to do,please let me know and you can
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email me at any time atjudeatthedivorcedadvocatecom and
I will get back to you on thator if there's just something
that's not working that you find, because sometimes I just these
things fall through the cracksand I apologize for that if that
was an experience that you'vehad.
But everything should be up andrunning and going smoothly
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again Now.
We're working on also someother upgrades to be coming to
the website as well.
We got a lot of great stuff inthe works now, so just be
prepared and be ready for thosethings.
Last note is that there was afeature that was offered through
the podcast platform callingText the Show.
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It seems like that would besomething that you would be able
to text and text back andcommunicate.
So I've gotten several messagesfrom you all through the text
the show, the text the showfeature on the platform, but
unfortunately the platform doesnot allow me to text you back
and it does not allow me tocommunicate directly back with
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you at all.
Since most of this stuff werepersonal, specific or
specifically personalinformation, I didn't feel
comfortable sharing stuff backon the show.
So apparently that's themindset behind this is that it's
you text the show and then weread your whatever your your
text or your question on theshow.
But I've disengaged thatbecause it just doesn't make
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sense in the context of whatwe're using here.
So I just want to let you know.
If you sent me a text, I'vereceived it.
If you still want to get incontact with me and I haven't
responded to that text the show,just send me an email at jude,
at the divorce advocatecom, andagain I sincerely apologize.
And we try to implement newthings, try to find ways to
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communicate, try to find waysfor uh to to give you some more
resources.
We're going to have some ofthese glitches and I apologize
for that.
But on that note also, I wantedto encourage you to get on our
new Signal site.
We've got a new Signal site.
One of our members is managingthat.
He's doing a tremendous job ona regular basis and on a basis
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that other guys can support,other guys going through the
process just on a daily orminute-by-minute basis.
If any of you need to bereaching out to somebody or talk
to somebody or just being ableto vent a little bit, so you can
simply unsignal, download theSignal app and then you can
search for the Divorce Dadvocateand then get engaged that way.
So check it out All right.
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As you know, navigating thechallenges of divorce as a dad
often means juggling multiplepriorities simultaneously, and
we're faced with the complextask of co-parenting, which
involves not just emotionalsupport for your children, but
also a meticulous coordinationof their school activities,
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their extracurricular activities, their medical appointments,
their social engagements, etc.
Their social engagements, etcetera.
Alongside theseresponsibilities, we have to
manage our career obligationsthat demand our attention and
our energy and our focus.
Additionally, maintaininghousehold duties such as
cleaning, cooking, groceryshopping, home repairs and
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upkeep can become overwhelmingwithout proper structure.
In the midst of these competingdemands, your mental, emotional
, physical and spiritual health,which we always talk about, can
easily become neglected,leading to stress, leading to
burnout, leading to a diminishedquality of life.
However, there's a practicaland highly effective solution to
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help you regain control, manageresponsibilities more
effectively and efficiently andfoster a balanced lifestyle, and
this is called block scheduling.
Block scheduling involvesdividing your day into clear,
intentional segments or blocks,each dedicated to specific
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activities or responsibilities.
For divorced or divorcing dads,this structured approach offers
clarity, reduces stress,ensures essential self-care and
enhances your ability to managedaily tasks effectively.
So the impetus behind this wason our group call we had one of
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the guys who's got almost 100%custody of his kiddos and he was
lamenting the fact that it'svery challenging to basically
get everything done in a daywhich I can relate to.
There was a time where Iparented 100% for two and a half
years my daughters, and when Iwas going through that time I
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actually hired a business coachto help me with some of this and
what he did is he had me for anentire week document every 15
minutes of what I was doing inmy day and then for that week we
tallied everything that I wasdoing in a day and that meant
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like if I was just daydreamingfor 15 minutes or scrolling for
15 minutes or not doing anything, I was documenting that and you
would be amazed at the amountof time.
That is not productive time andif you are experiencing and
dealing with the challenge ofbeing a divorced dad which you
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are probably if you're listeningbut if you have kids 100% of
the time, that makes it, itexacerbates it even more and
makes it even a little bit morechallenging.
You don't have any of that timeoff.
So what we're going to talkabout is block scheduling.
So what is block scheduling?
And so then, what this businesscoach taught me was how to do
this block scheduling, and I candefinitively tell you it
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absolutely has changed my lifeand how productive I can be and
how much it takes the stressMost importantly, takes the
stress off of me not feelinglike I'm going to be able to, or
be able to, get everything donethat I need to get done.
So listen carefully, it's notgoing to be completely
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comprehensive.
If you want, I know thatthere's courses online.
You can Google block scheduling, check it out online.
Give me a call.
We can go through it more indetail and how to do it in your
schedule.
But something that I teach allthe guys now when we do private
coaching we talked about on ourgroup call on how to do that,
but it is absolutely amazing.
So what is it specifically?
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Block scheduling involvesorganizing your day into clear,
intentional segments or blocks,each block explicitly dedicated
to particular activities orresponsibilities.
So, instead of tackling taskshaphazardly or reacting
impulsively to whatever arises,block scheduling encourages
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deliberate planning andproactive decision making.
Time blocks we can ensurededicated attention for
essential duties such asco-parenting responsibilities,
children's school events,extracurricular activities.
Also our professionalobligations, our household tasks
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like cooking, cleaning, repairs, bill management, as well as,
and probably most importantly,our personal wellness activities
, including exercise, rest,emotional reflection and
spiritual practices.
The structured method minimizesdistractions, promotes
productivity, reduces stress and, importantly, ensures the
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critical aspects of our dailylife aren't inadvertently
neglected, ultimately enabling amore balanced and fulfilling
lifestyle.
So that's what it is in anutshell, but why would block
scheduling matter for divorcedads?
I alluded to it a little bit,but let me dive in a little bit
deeper.
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Divorce, as I stated and as youknow, if you're experiencing it
right now or have gone throughit, is draining, and the thing
that we don't talk about themost is it's logistically
demanding.
It's a complex blend ofpersonal stress and practical
challenges, is the best way Ican describe it.
You're tasked with managingyour own emotional landscape,
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from processing feelings ofgrief, anger, uncertainty, to
rebuilding your sense of selfand moving forward.
Simultaneously, you're alsonavigating delicate
relationships with your children, ensuring they feel supported,
secure and understood duringthis transition.
Additionally, interactions withyour former spouse require
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careful, often sensitivecommunication to effectively
co-parent, handle conflicts andset healthy boundaries.
On top of these interpersonaldynamics, you're also
interacting with your broaderfamily and social circle,
addressing their concerns,expectations or advice, which
can further compound emotionalstrain.
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Vice, which can furthercompound emotional strain.
Parallel to these emotionalchallenges are the numerous
practical responsibilities thatdemand our constant attention
Managing our finances, budgeting, meeting child support
obligations and ensuring, simply, our bills are paid promptly,
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all while maintaining afunctional household.
From cooking to nutritiousmeals, handling grocery shopping
, coordinating household choresto addressing unexpected repairs
, the logistical tasks can pileup and are numerous.
Structuring your day into clear, defined blocks will allow you
to methodically address each ofthese aspects of your complex
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responsibilities, restoringbalance to your life.
Block scheduling brings clarityto what you're doing and reduces
overwhelm by setting dedicatedtimes for each activity or task.
This focused approach fostersbetter productivity.
It absolutely, I promise you,will decrease your anxiety.
It enhances your mental claritybecause you know exactly what
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you're doing when you're doingit, and ensures you're able to
fill all your roles effectively,so nothing falls through the
cracks, ultimately helping youmove forward with greater
confidence and stability.
I tell you, I promise you, itwill change your life.
So what does this look like asan example in real life and
practically?
I'm going to break out justseven and you can, and these are
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just again.
I said this is going to be acursory view of block scheduling
, but I've broken down sevenimportant ones and then you can
break these down into evensmaller, different ones and you
can do it however you want inyour schedule, however you want
to do it in your schedule.
But these are some of the sevenreal main ones, and one is a
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mental health block.
And these first ones really arethe ones that I talk about all
the time in self-care, takingcare of yourself mentally,
emotionally, physically andspiritually.
First one is your mental healthblock.
Set aside daily blocks to focuson your mental wellness, and
that could mean journaling orreflection for 15 to 30 minutes.
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It could be meditation ormindful practice 10 or 20
minutes.
It could be counseling ortherapy sessions 30 to 60
minutes a week.
But make sure to get thosescheduled in.
The second one, or another one,is emotional and family support
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block.
Divorce as you know, goingthrough this can make us feel
isolated and even though we'refeeling isolated, our parenting
demands don't stop and theyremain high.
So make sure to block in thequality family time with your
kids, focusing on emotionalconnection and communication,
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time where you can be fullypresent, right Regular meetups
or calls with supported friendsor support groups, like our
Divorced Advocate group meeting.
And another important one isscheduled hobby or leisure
activities.
You've got to find that stuffjust to decompress whether it's
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finding something new, like Istarted playing pickleball a
little bit like a year, year anda half ago, or just running or
walking or whatever it might be,make sure to schedule it in
there.
The third and this kind ofdovetails into it is that
physical health block.
Your physical health is goingto directly influence your
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capacity to meet your dailydemands.
So if you're mentally,emotionally, physically,
spiritually you hear me talkabout it all the time, but I'm
going to say it again Mentally,emotionally, physically,
spiritually you hear me talkabout it all the time, but I'm
going to say it again Mentally,emotionally, physically,
spiritually grounded it's likethe four legs on a stool You're
going to be in good balance.
Your physical health is goingto also directly influence that
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capacity to meet these dailydemands.
Exercise such as workouts,running, cycling, yoga.
Schedule that 30 minutes a dayat least.
If you've got to startsomewhere small, start 10 or 15
minutes, work your way up to 30.
Hopefully, get up to more thanthat.
You've got to do it every dayif possible, but at least
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several times three, four, fivetimes a week.
Also, healthy meal prep andnutrition planning.
You can do that weekly orbiweekly.
I do that on the weekends andbuy groceries once on the
weekend for the first half ofthe week and then once during
the week for the second half ofthe week.
Medical checkups or wellnessappointments you're going to
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need to make sure to stay onthose.
Get your annual physicals done.
If you've got other stuff goingon, do not ignore that stuff.
Get it scheduled in.
You got to schedule in, it'llget done.
The next one and the final onearound the four legs the stools
of leg is the spiritual wellnessblock.
Don't ignore this, gentlemen.
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We're all spiritual beings.
Spiritual wellness block.
Don't ignore this, gentlemen.
We're all spiritual beings,whatever that means to you.
So cultivate that.
Spiritual health providesemotional grounding also.
So that could look like prayer,meditation or spiritual reading
15 to 30 minutes daily.
It could be participation incommunity gatherings or services
, or it could be as simple assome people connect and this is
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one of the things for meengaging with nature or quiet
reflection outdoors.
So it could be a hike.
It could be simply walking inthe park or by the lake or
something like that.
So, but do not do not neglectthat spiritual wellness block as
well.
Do not neglect that spiritualwellness block as well.
Number five is work and careerblock.
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Organize specific work-relatedresponsibilities clearly, very
clearly.
And this is huge if you aresomebody who is self-employed
and may be working out of thehome or might be working mobily.
But all the rest of it is hugetoo if you're working for
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somebody, because you've gotthose huge blocks and I'm going
to give you a real example of afake schedule here.
It's not necessarily myschedule coming up here, but
you've got those blocks maybefrom eight until 12, every
single day, where you're focusedin at your employer.
You got to be there and thenmaybe you have a lunch from 12
to one and then one to five.
So that eight to 12, one tofive, that's blocked for your
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focus on your job or whateverhours you get.
What I'm saying.
So that makes it even moreimportant to be able to schedule
that other stuff around, whatthose blocks are.
But if you're self-employed oryou work remotely or remotely,
schedule in what work you'resupposed to do within that work.
And so when I worked with thisbusiness coach, that's what he
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was specifically talking aboutbeing self-employed when are you
working on your marketing, whenare you working on your sales,
when are you figuring out whatyou're going to be planning for
the future and future offerings,et cetera.
He was working within thoseeight to 12 and one to five
blocks, but also in the rest ofmy life as well, and balancing,
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that is, when are you workingout and when are you meal
prepping and when are youspending time with the family
and what does that look?
All that stuff, so that careerblock, define the working hours
for the tasks and projects,dedicated administrative tasks
such as emails and meetings.
I'll just say turn off emailreminders, turn off reminders on
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your phone.
Just do it now.
Get rid of all of them.
They're a distraction.
They're meant to be adistraction.
They're meant to pull you awayfrom what you're doing.
You're gonna be amazed when youturn all that stuff and you
dedicate a 10 or 15 minute blockto checking your text messages
or checking your emails andresponding to emails and doing
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that stuff.
You're going to be so much moreproductive because you're not
going to get pulled.
They say something like ittakes like 11 minutes to get
refocused when you go from onetask to another.
So if you get distracted and Ithink it's 11 minutes, even if
it's not that much, even if it'sjust five minutes then that's
five minutes Every time you getpulled from one task to another
to get refocused on that newtask.
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Imagine if you do that 10 timesa day.
You get pulled away from whatyou're doing.
That's almost an hour that youlose in an entire day.
So turn those notifications offon your emails, on your phone.
All that, and then that'ssomething else that you're going
to schedule in there.
And then also professionaldevelopment and networking.
Those are some other examplesof what you can organize
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specifically within that work orcareer block.
Another one is financialmanagement block.
We've got bills to pay right,so clear financial planning is
going to reduce stress.
I would say it's been myexperience and probably the
experience that you're goingthrough Most of the guys I
talked to.
This is the most stressful partof all of this is the
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uncertainty around finances.
So if you can make sure toschedule time weekly or monthly
for bill payments, weekly andmonthly for budgeting, weekly
and monthly or monthly forfinancial reviews whether that's
just reviewing yourself or ifyou have a financial planner
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make sure to do that, dedicateblocks for managing your child
support or your alimonyresponsibilities so you can make
those payments on time, if youhave those, and then regularly
checking financial health,investments or saving goals.
And that can be, again, doingthat, weekly or monthly.
Checking your portfolios If youhave some some of us don't
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after divorce, right, and we'rerebuilding them, but you can
check on those and thenreallocate or whatever you might
need to be doing.
But make sure to block that inbecause, again, if you know
where you're at all the time andI do recognize, gentlemen,
sometimes that going throughthis process you're going to be
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really living paycheck topaycheck and it's going to be
difficult and stressful so someof this stuff might not make
sense, especially if you'redoing, but it should all make
sense Because when I'm talkingabout financial management and
maybe this is one thing we coulddo a whole podcast and I'm
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going to take a note on this is,even if you are living paycheck
to paycheck, then there arethings that you can be doing
within this block scheduling inorder to either further your
career, switch careers, earnmore money if you need to and I
know that was something that Istruggled to focus on when I had
to all of a sudden be parenting100% of the time with my
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daughters and my businessabsolutely tanked because I was
all of a sudden 100% responsiblefor doing everything, which is
one of the reasons I struggledso long, especially financially,
because then the business Icouldn't get my head around how
to do both things and be afull-time dad and try to run a
successful business.
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So by utilizing this andfiguring out ways to be very
productive in the time, you canfind more ways to make money,
different ways, further yourcareer, increase your income, et
cetera.
Okay, last one householdmanagement block.
Probably some of our leastfavorite ones, right.
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Maintaining a clean, functionalhome environment supports
overall stability.
So, while we might not like it,it's incredibly important to
create that environment for ourkids that's not cluttered
cluttered places're financiallyable to.
You can hire somebody that cancome in and do some of this
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stuff for you.
Home repairs or maintenance taxthe same thing.
If you enjoy doing that oryou've got the time to do it,
you can.
Grocery shopping and householdsupply inventory.
I told you a little bit earlierhow I schedule once on the
weekend, once during the middleof the week for grocery shopping
and meal planning.
So this will help you to breakall that down.
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So let me show you, let me justverbally tell you, kind of a
schedule, of an example schedule, and I will drop this into the
show notes for you so that youcan take a look at kind of what
I'm talking about.
So a practical example.
And so here's what you're doing.
You're literally schedulingyour entire day, every single
minute of the day.
So you're scheduling even yourbreaks.
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If you want to take some timeto do some doom scrolling, you
schedule that 15 minutes, right.
Or if you want to just takesome time at the end of the day
to watch a TV show, you're goingto schedule that 30 minutes or
an hour or whatever it might be.
But here's an example schedule.
6 to 6.30 am morning meditationand journaling.
That's that mental health block.
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6.30 to 7.15 am exercisewhatever that might be.
Maybe it's some weights, maybeit's going to the gym lifting,
maybe it's going for a run,maybe it's some weights, maybe
it's going to the gym lifting,maybe it's going for a run.
That's your physical healthblock.
7.15 to 8 am Family breakfastand morning prep.
That's that family time block.
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8 am to 12 pm Work orcareer-related tasks Again, if
you're working for somebody,then you can utilize this at
wherever you're wherever you'reworking too, and it's it will
absolutely change how productiveyou are and how how much stress
is relieved, because you'llknow everything's getting done.
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But if you're working forsomebody between that eight and
12, these are worker careerrelated tasks.
If you work for yourself orremotely, break out exactly what
you're doing between that eightand 12 and how you're doing it.
12 to 1230, lunch and nutritionplanning.
So maybe you're sitting thereand you're eating a little bit
of lunch, but maybe you're alsowriting your list for your
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groceries.
So that's your physical healthblock.
1230 to one o'clock so this isyour lunch break, right?
So if you're on a lunch breakand you should take a lunch
break even if you'reself-employed, that might not be
exactly every day, but you'regoing to probably have to take
part of that and do somethingother than just sit and eat
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lunch.
So, 1230 to one o'clockfinancial management tasks.
So you30 to one o'clockfinancial management tasks.
So you can be sitting and youcan be doing maybe your bills on
your phone or doing somebudgeting, checking your
investments or something likethat, or just reading about
investing or taking that time toread and learn something.
So that's 1230 to one, oneo'clock to five.
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Again, work or professionalresponsibilities, whatever that
looks like in your life.
5 to 6 pm children's activitiesor coordinating pickups and
drop-offs that's that familytime block.
6 to 7 pm dinner and familyconnection time.
And when I say dinner andfamily connection time, so
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you've got the dinner alreadyplanned find what that dinner or
that family connection timemight be and you can do
something every single day.
That could be.
Maybe it's a 15-minute walkaround the block.
My girls and I do that with thedog to this day, just to walk
around the block for 15 minutes,to just get out, spend some
time together.
Another one is conversationaround dinner.
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There's a game called RoseThorn Bud.
You can look it up and it's aprompt to have conversations
around dinner with each other.
So but schedule what that isand be prepared for what that's
going to look like.
7 to 7.30, household chores andcleaning.
7.30 to 8, personal hobby orleisure activity.
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Again, this could be that I'mgoing to just have some downtime
, I'm going to smoke a cigar,whatever it might be that you're
going to do.
8 to 8.30, spiritual reflectionor reading.
Again, don't ignore thatspiritual part of your life and
then, 9 to 9.30, evening, winddown, mindfulness or stretching,
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schedule that time and thenschedule when you're going to go
to bed also, so that could be9.30, I'm in bed, or 10 o'clock,
10.30, whatever that's going tobe, but schedule your sleep
also, because you've got to havethe appropriate amount of sleep
, all right.
So what are the benefits?
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How is this going to benefityou?
I alluded to the first one,which is reduced stress.
Why is this going to reduceyour stress If you have
everything clearly organized inyour day?
It's going to alleviate theanxiety from overlooking any
responsibilities.
Now, this doesn't always meanthat you're actually going to be
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able to get everything done allthe time, because things come
up and we're going to talk aboutthis in a second, about
constraints and some changes butyou're going to feel more
comfortable knowing that you'vegot time block, you're going to
get it done and you're not goingto forget about anything.
It's also going to improve yourrelationships.
Intentional family and emotionalwellness practice foster deeper
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connections, right?
So we're so busy If we havethis time blocked and we know
that we're getting this stuffdone.
Our finances are in place, thehousehold is looking like we
want it to.
It helps us to be more presentwith our kiddos.
In the time that we're spending, we're not thinking about all
the stuff we have to do, etcetera.
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So it's going to definitelyhelp your relationships with
your kiddos and others.
Enhanced health, because you'regoing to be consistently
exercising.
You're going to be consistentlyexercising.
You're going to have balancednutrition.
You're going to make sure thatyou're taking care of your
regular medical care.
This is all going to improveyour overall well-being.
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The financial stability, like Italked about, because you're
dedicating financial planningtime.
This is going to ensurelong-term security and reduce
stress and, if it's not yet,it's going to give you a plan
towards working towards thatright.
The last one more comfortableliving.
Basically, your householdmaintenance is going to be done.
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The house is going to be clean.
It's going to create a stable,comforting environment for you
and your kiddos, and that'sgoing to just especially if
those of you that don't reallylike structure and kind of buck
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structure, this one is going tobe a little more challenging for
you to implement in your life.
But hey, as we're going throughthis divorce process, there are
a few things that we can control.
Right, we can't control theoutcomes, we can't control
what's going on with our ex, orsoon to be ex, but we can
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control our schedule.
We control what we do with ourschedule, so this is one thing
that we can take control of.
So, and let me just be clear,it's not about creating rigid
constraints for those of youthat don't like constraints,
right it's about empoweringyourself to take intentional
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control over your day.
Okay, so life, especiallyduring this divorce process and
after, right Anytime, becauseit's dynamic and often
unpredictable.
Your schedule should alsoreflect flexibility so you can
adjust your blocks as your needsand your circumstances, your
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responsibilities evolve,allowing yourself room for the
unexpected and for otheropportunities for growth.
So if something happens, youcan move that block, you can
push your time out, you canreorganize it.
That's just how it works.
However, consistentlyprioritizing your personal
wellness mentally, emotionally,physically and spiritually is
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critical.
I'll say if there's one thing,if you're going to start, just
start with that.
Put that into your schedule andstart with I'm waking up with a
morning meditation or doingsome journaling.
I'm scheduling that in 15minutes in the morning.
I'm scheduling my exercise infor 30 minutes and then I'm
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scheduling in my food and howI'm going to be eating my lunch
and my dinner with myself, bymyself or with the kiddos, and
then I'm scheduling my time forspiritual reflections.
Just do those four things andstart with those four things and
then start filling everythingelse around that, but make sure
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that you get those in.
Equally important issafeguarding essential daily
duties like parenting, careerfinancing, home maintenance.
Ensuring these prioritiesaren't sacrificed during times
of stress or uncertainty, as adivorce or divorcing dad.
Practicing intentionalscheduling empowers you to be
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fully present.
Like I said, it allows you tobe fully focused, fully
organized and ultimately, willlead you to greater resilience,
greater strength and a healthier, more balanced life, not only
for yourself, but also for yourkiddos and any other loved ones
that rely on you.
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All right, gentlemen, that isblock scheduling in a nutshell.
I hope that you found somevalue in this.
I promise you, if you can workon figuring out how to do this,
it is going to greatly enhanceyour life and you're going to be
truly amazed at what you can do.
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I know there's a lot ofoverwhelm when you start in this
process, but if you can utilizethis, it will take away a ton
of that overwhelm.
Thanks so much for listeningtoday.
Please share this far and wide.
Leave us a comment on whateverpodcast platform you are
listening in and share it onsocial media so that every dad
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can get the support that theyneed and deserve.
Have a great week and God bless.
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