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Katie Kurpanek (00:00):
What has always
been true about you at your
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core, like, who were you in youryoungest self? Who were you as a
kid? What did you enjoy? Whatwere you passionate about? What
did you dream about?
Hello, mamas, welcome back tothe show. Today's episode, we
are just we're gonna go offscript here we are going to talk
in a way that is kind ofcompletely unrelated to the
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topics that I usually cover, butI hope that you will find
something valuable in it. Today,I am just in a season where I
have been really taking sometime to do, like a deep dive, do
some inner work. Do a whole lotof reflecting and releasing and
then receiving and just it's aconstant, ever evolving process.
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Over here, we are all an everevolving work of art, and there
is iteration after iteration ofyourself throughout life. That's
okay. I am telling myself, thatis okay. If we're staying
stagnant, if we're the same allthe time, then something's off.
We're not growing, right? Soeven just this year alone, when
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I'm recording this, it's 2024and I recently, you know, like
beginning of the year,rebranded, right? Even this
podcast, it was under adifferent name, my my business
that connects along with it wasunder a business, a different
name, and now everything is justhoned in and focused on the Eco
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minded mama, right? That's you.
That's me. We are eco mindedmamas. And I thought at the
beginning of the year that if Ijust rebrand and I do all this
work with my business coachthat, you know, all of a sudden,
it would just like, click, and Iwould just be like, Oh, I know
exactly what to talk about now,and I know exactly who I'm
talking to, and I do, in asense, I know who I'm talking
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to, and I'm so glad you're herewith me, but I've, I've been
still kind of like notfloundering, but just feeling
out like, what exactly do I talkabout? So all that to say, I
took the month of July off sothere hasn't been, you know, an
episode released in a little bitjust doing some of this deep
work. One of the central themesthat has continued to come up
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for me over and over and for somany of the close people in my
life that I've been talking to,is this idea of inner child
work, right and finding youknow, doing some digging what
has always been true about youat your core, like, who were you
in your youngest self? Who wereyou as a kid? What did you
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enjoy? What were you passionateabout? What did you dream about?
And how has that partly stayedthe same with you and grown with
you throughout time? So much ofit, I think, unfortunately, gets
stifled, or just we stuff itdown, because I don't know. We
go through experiences in lifethat that dim that light, or
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teach us that it's, you know,actually too scary or too risky
to, you know, continue on withthese dreams that we had or
something like that. I don'tknow there's, there's so much
you could go through trauma likewhatever it is that can change
or just make some of those partsof you go dormant, but I don't
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think they're ever fully gone.
And at the core of who you are,you know, there's this inner
child, that youngest version ofyourself, that's always been
there, that's always been true.
And so that's been like acentral theme that that has been
coming up in my life over andover and over with myself and
conversations with friends andcoaching. And so I've done a
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little digging into this, and Iam excited by what I'm finding,
and I just figured I would comeon here and share with you this
little update, just letting youknow why I've been taking a
little bit of a break, but alsoI'm coming back now, and
everything that we're going tobe talking about here, I'm just
believing it's going to bebetter than ever. It's going to
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be more, even more grounded thanthan it was before. So okay,
some of these things that I havefound to be true about myself,
consistently, the youngestversion of myself, the inner
child that's at my core. NowI'll list some of these things
off.
I have always been, and I am alover, a connector and a helper,
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if you know anything about theEnneagram, and if you've been
listening to this for a while,you know, I talk about the
Enneagram so much. I love thattool. It's so much more than
just like a Personality Typingsystem, you know, like you
always growing up, took thosedifferent personality quizzes or
whatever. But the Enneagram goesso much deeper than that. That's
a whole other thing we couldtalk about sometime, but look
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into it if you haven't already.
And out of the nine types, I ama type two, like fully deeply to
my core, I am a type two. So thetype two is the lover, or the.
Helper. And that's truly, like,who I've always been, even as a
child, I was like, just thatkind of funny, awkward kid who
would go up to somebody, youknow, in a classroom like that I
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never met first day, and justlike, hey, let's be best friends
and tell me everything aboutyour life. And like, just, let's
get to the deep stuff rightaway, and I've I've always been
that way. I want to makeconnections between other people
too, like I want other people tofeel included. I want them to
feel safe and seen and and tohave friendships and
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communities. So that's alwaysbeen super important to me. I
want the people in my life tofeel, oh yeah, I said this safe,
seen and deeply cared. Foranother thing that's been always
true about myself, I love words,whether it's writing or reading
or speaking, the written wordwords in general, are so
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powerful. There's so muchtransformative power there. And
I've always, always connected towords and my voice in that way,
I am an organized and systemsbased person. If my life feels
disorganized or I don't have asystem for something new, some
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new routine that's become partof it. Oh, I am out of whack. I
feel so disoriented when thatcomes up, and it just like
disperses into the rest of mylife and feels kind of chaotic
and my emotions are all over theplace. So I'm a very organized
systems based person. I want todo things efficiently. I don't
want to waste time just as muchas I don't want to waste
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anything literally here on thisearth, like we talk about a lot
on this podcast. Okay, anotherthing that's always been true, I
have big dreams. I have alwayshad big dreams, and I know that
I have the power to achievethem. I think ultimately, at my
core, I know that when I was akid, I much more so felt that
way. Just truly believed inmyself. Like, if I have this
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dream, all right, I'm going togo after it, and I'm going to
get it, I'm going to achieve it,and then you grow up, and then,
you know that kind of changes,and that confidence gets rocked
a bit. And I think that that'sstill true about me today, but I
often will stop and freeze nowas an adult, if I feel like,
wait a second, actuallyachieving that dream feels a
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little bit too scary or a littlebit too risky. Like, it's not
even so much the fear of what ifI can't make that happen. It's
more so the fear of what happensif it does happen, like, what if
I am actually successful? Thenwhat? Like, it can feel so scary
if I get caught up in the worryof letting other people down.
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That's a big one for me,especially because I am such a
lover and connector and peopleoriented person, I don't want to
let others down, and so oftenthat will cause me to stop and
freeze in the midst of goingafter those dreams. Okay?
Ultimately, I feel connected. Ihave always felt connected to
something greater than myselfand wanting to make an impact on
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this world that is everlasting,for lack of a better word, but
that's the word that comes to mymind, something that is greater
than myself and will leave alegacy, like legacy, or have a
ripple effect on nextgenerations. That's always been
true, and it's just looked alittle bit different throughout
my life as I've grown and thenthe final thing that I wrote
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down here, I want to see peoplethrive. I want to see them
succeed, and I want them to feelvalued and empowered as the best
versions of themselves thatlooked a little bit different
when I was a kid, trying tosupport people in doing that,
but it's still, ultimatelyalways been the same now. So
okay, why am I sharing all thiswith you? Probably, in some way,
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it's a little bit of just likeoutward processing and
reflecting that is helping me inthis process. But also, I think
that there's just so much powerin doing this kind of digging
for yourself and finding thesethings that are true about you
and have always been true. Andwhat is it at your core, inner
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child that you have maybedisconnected from and need to
reconnect with, or it's justdimmed and you need to bring
that back to life in the pastmonth, month and a half or so of
doing this kind of reflecting,I've been very on purpose about
releasing things that no longerfeel aligned with that like
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maybe I said yes to it at somepoint in my life, or I brought
it into my life at some point,whether it's a physical,
tangible thing, or it's like Anexperience or a work
opportunity, or relationship, orwhatever, that that no longer
feels aligned. Or maybe I saidyes to it for some reason, under
some pressure, but it justactually never felt aligned. It
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can be so hard, especially forlike people oriented beings.
Yes, to let those things go whenyou feel like you've committed
to them. And then so I've been,I've been doing work on
releasing that so I'mreflecting, I'm releasing. And
then the third thing isreceiving. So very consciously,
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trying to open myself up, toreceive what is meant for me,
what is aligned fully with who Iam at my core and what I've been
put on this earth to do. And sosomething interesting that has
come out of all of this work inthe past month and a half is
like a reignited dream to writea book. And I just put that out
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on social media, like a little,just a little teaser, of like,
Hey, this is something that'scoming, and I'm very excited
about it. This is something thatI have always dreamed of doing
when I was a kid. It was, like,one of the first things that I
ever thought when someone wouldask me, what do you do? What do
you want to do when you grow up?
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Like, I'm going to be an author,I'm going to write a book. And
then, you know, life happens andtime goes on and it doesn't
actually feel like feasible, orit didn't feel like a
financially they like, what'sthat word like, a financially
well off thing that I should bepursuing with my adult life and
and so for whatever reasons,this has been put off, and I've
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opted for safer choices, whatfelt safer for me.
This podcast is going tocontinue, but it's going to
become even better, because I'mfinally going to be connecting
it to something that is alsoaligned with my core self, which
is going to be this book, andwhatever comes after that. Maybe
there will be several books, Idon't know, but I feel like just
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opting for the podcast, or, youknow, a few years ago, it was a
blog. I've done video courses.
There's been several iterationsof my voice throughout the
years, and they've all kind offelt like a safer choice than
writing a book, because I thinkultimately, sitting down,
putting my head down, focusingon writing a book like I've
dreamed of doing, has felt tooscary, and it's felt a lot more
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intimate and vulnerable than theother ways that I've chosen to
share my voice over the years.
And I don't know, maybe for someof you, it's like, oh my gosh, I
would never like, I would somuch rather write a book or
something than have a podcast,because, you know, you're
putting your audible voice outinto the world, and that feels
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too scary. But for whateverreason, for me, writing a book
just has felt like such a bigfeat and very intimate and
vulnerable and permanent, Ithink it just, I don't know. I
don't know. So I'm still kind ofprocessing this, obviously, but
it's something that I'vecommitted to now, because it
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kept coming up over and over andover, and I just know that that
is my next step, that'ssomething that I need to do. And
the great thing, like somethingthat I feel great about over
this past year or more, of likeseveral iterations of my voice,
is that I've already done somuch of the foundational work to
bring this book to life, like somuch of the content that we've
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covered here on the podcast orin the video courses that I've
created the Eco minded mamacollective, that's also not
going away, by the way, but it'sjust going to become even more
connected, like the content inthe book, I think is going to
provide such a more solidfoundation for what we'll talk
about inside the Eco minded mamacollective, the online
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membership program. So it justis all, I don't know. It feels
like pieces are coming together,and so I'm just putting this out
in the world to update you andto basically hold myself
accountable to going after thisdream and not giving up on it
just because I feel afraid or itfeels too risky.
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Man, imposter syndrome is abeast. Like, I'm sure that you
have experienced this. Like, letme know. Send me a message if
you've experienced this in yourown life and chasing after your
own dreams, or feelingdisconnected from your inner
child, like imposter syndrome,and feeling like you don't
actually have what it takes, oryou don't actually have anything
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to offer this world, or who'sgonna listen to you anyway, like
all the awful, awful things thatplay in your head when you're
actually committing to somethingthat's so important, I feel like
it just gets heightened. Sothat's definitely going on, but
I feel like that's what peoplemean when they say to do it
afraid. You know, being braveisn't necessarily like you have
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no fear anymore. You're just abrave person without fear.
You're brave because you havefear. You're courageous because
fear is present. So fear andfeeling nervous and anxious,
even like all these things, aredefinitely present for me. But
I'm just choosing to do thisafraid. I'm choosing to to go
after it and to make it happen.
So there's my update. I i Like Isaid, I went off script. I tend
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to ramble a bit when I do that,but I hope that something was
helpful for you, um,encouraging, even just by
listening to my own outwardprocessing. And I would just
highly, highly recommend for youright now, whatever season of
life you're in to do some ofthat internal reflection and
digging into your own innerchild whenever you can, like,
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create a designated space fromit. Maybe you need to take a
break from something that you'vecommitted to, and you know,
really prioritize your yeses andyour your nos. Like, tune into
your body and feel out whatfeels like a strong yes for you
right now, and what is feelingmore of a no, like you're
hesitant to actually go throughwith something, or you're just
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you keep trying to work towardsit. Or if it's a relationship,
you keep trying to, like, workon that relationship, and you
just keep coming up against awall, whatever it is like pay
attention to those signs. Maybethat is something that you
should not be focusing your timeand energy on right now, and
instead, you could disconnectfrom that in order to reconnect
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with the internal work that youneed to be doing. So journaling
has been something that's beensuper helpful for me. Again, I'm
a words person, but find what'shelpful for you, if you have
some sort of creative outlet andand ask yourself those
questions, like, what has alwaysbeen true about you, your
younger self and your innerchild at your core, start
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listing those things out. Maybethey're different attributes, or
maybe they're different, likebeliefs that you've held on to
start to list that out, youknow, and find ways to reconnect
with your inner child in thelife that you're living right
now. And it may look really slowgoing or just kind of unsteady
and unsure of how to even dothis at the beginning, but the
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more that you get into thathabit and the more that you are
tuning into that part ofyourself, the bigger that she
will grow, or the easier it willbecome to hear her voice
speaking into you internally. SoI don't know if any of this is
making sense, but I am trustingthat by putting this out into
the world, anybody who isactually choosing to listen to
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this podcast is going to getsomething from it, like this
podcast is meant for you ifyou're here, if you're listening
to it. So there you go. There'smy little, like, completely
unrelated eco minded mama topicfor you today. And thank you for
being here and for listening.
And, oh, there is a new featurethat I want to tell you about. I
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just added this on to mypodcast, like hosting platform,
so if you click on the episodedescription, the show notes. One
of the first things that youshould be able to see is
something that says, like, sendKatie a message. It's a link. I
want you to click that link. Ifyou have a minute, it's like,
I'm getting a text message. It'snot actually going to my phone
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number. We are not actuallyexchanging phone numbers or any
kind of personal information,but it's just a link that allows
you to send me a direct message.
Unfortunately, this podcastplatform doesn't have a way for
me to respond to you in thatsame link, but I love receiving
these messages and hearing fromyou, and I can always give you a
shout out on social media or inthe next podcast episode. I
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would definitely love to hearyour thoughts around all of
this. So if you have somethingthat you want to share about
your own journey with your owninner child, work and healing,
or dreams that you have, or justany way that this podcast
resonated with you, maybe it'ssomething that you want to hear
about in my book, as I'mfocusing on eco minded mamas and
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living sustainably, all thethings that we normally talk
about that's going to be thefocus of this book. So if
there's something in particularthat you want to hear more
about, that you want to learnmore about, let me know. Click
the link in the show notes. Sendme a message. It's a really
great way to just directlycontact me. And yeah, I can't
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wait to hear from you and totalk with you next time, there
will be a little bit of a gap inbetween episodes for a couple
months, maybe even just onemonth, while I ease back into
this. So instead of every week,it may be every other week for a
little while, but we are gettingback into regular rhythms. Like
I said, this content is going tobecome better than ever, and so
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thank you for being here. I'm soglad to be with you, and I'll
talk to you next time.