How Soon Is Too Soon To Date After Spouse Dies

Her husband died 9 mths ago and knows the family will be upset if they know she's dating

Episode Transcript

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Now no backs to the Erica Showon g One Erica and Trevor and we
have Angela on the phone who hasa dating question for us and she needs
advice. Hey, Angela, what'sgoing on? Yeah? So I was
kind of wondering when is the appropriateamount of time to start dating after your
spouse pass is away? Okay,so did your spouse recently pass or in

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the life? Yeah, it washard. About nine months ago, you
know, he passed away from aheart condition. And then after that,
a guy I've known for years approachedme and we've secretly been going out,
and you know what the thing is, It is going really well, but
my family and my husband's family,who I still talk to, will absolutely
lose it, like legitimately lose it. And I also feel guilty. But

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the thing is is I'm really enjoyingmy time with him and it's been very
helpful. But you know, amI doing the right thing here? Well?
First of all, I'm so sorryabout the loss of your spouse because
that's horrific, and people even differentways. Obviously, Now would you feel
guilty Erica, like nine months afterdating somebody else? I mean it's different
for everybody, but I feel likeI would be single for probably a couple

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of years just to grow internally.So maybe you've gone through this unfortunately and
you can help Angela out. Whatshould she do? Nine months after her
husband died nine one nine eight sixzero one oh five to one? Is
it too soon to be dating?Do you? And if I see Erica
show, Angela wants to know whenis too soon to date after her spouse
who died nine months ago. She'sseeing somebody now. She's happy, but

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his family and her family are notgonna have it. Missy, what do
you think about the situation? Well, to be honest, I have not
been to this myself, but Ithink I mean, who can blame her?
She's heartbroken, she lost her husband, she fell in love again.
That's that's absolutely like, that's agift, that's amazing. So I do
think that she's got to be honestand she's gotta tell him some time has

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passed. It maybe hasn't been ayear, but like it has been nine
months. It's not like it wasnine days. Should go or something?
Okay, so you say go forit again. I think people grieve in
different ways, so to each hisown. I think the problem is like
publicizing it though, like be privateabout it. I feel like it's disrespectful
to your ex who just passed away. I could see that. At the

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same time, you can't always worryabout what people's opinions are about you.
Nine one, nine, eight,six h one oh five to one do
you? And of five as theair because show how soon is too soon
to date after your spouse passes?Angela is seeing somebody nine months after her
husband passed away, and she wantsto know if that's too soon. Bailey,
what do you think I would say? At least a year is a
respectable amount of time. Probably alittle longer depending on how long the relationship

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was. Yeah, I mean wetold her we were like, hey,
every to each his own, butI would probably be single for a while
just to regroup from that chapter ofmy life. Yes, agree, definitely.
I mean, if it was atwenty year relationship, you definitely want
longer than a year, you know, if it was six mins, Sorry,
maybe not easy to