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January 29, 2025 57 mins

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In this episode, you’ll hear my conversation with Amy McPhie Allebest, a writer, teacher, and feminist historian whose work has helped shape my understanding of patriarchy and expand my worldview. In her podcast, Breaking Down Patriarchy, Amy offers thought-provoking insights that inspire continued learning about the roots of patriarchy in society. Today, she shares some of those powerful ideas and personal stories, which I hope you find valuable as I have. Here’s what we cover:

  • How “good girl” programming contributes to white feminism and upholding patriarchy
  • Why feelings of fear, guilt, and shame create barriers to open-mindedness
  • Several tools for accepting discomfort in order to effectively engage with learning about patriarchy
  • Why working to educate yourself is a valuable first step from silence to speaking up
  • How to create a space for yourself where it's safe to learn and change your mind
  • Why grieving your past beliefs or harm you’ve caused is essential to moving forward
  • The importance of generosity and understanding in growing from what you learn instead of self-blaming

I can't wait for you to listen. 

Check out these reading recommendations from Amy:
This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color
Books by bell hooks
Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde
Caste by Isabel Wilkerson

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https://breakingdownpatriarchy.com/podcast/ 

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