October 20, 2025 • 28 mins
Think your anger is the problem? The real block isn’t that you feel rage, resentment, or frustration—it’s that you’ve been conditioned to silence it. To suppress it. To make it wrong. But what if your anger isn’t a curse… it’s a compass?
In this powerful episode of The Femme Cast, we dive deep into the energetic and emotional cost of suppression—and how bottling your emotions quietly drains your energy, kills your magnetism, and stalls your manifestation. You’ll discover the four hidden ways unprocessed anger sabotages your purpose and potential:
This is not another “just think positive” conversation. It’s a no-bypass journey into emotional alchemy—where we explore how to give your anger motion, meaning, and purpose so your nervous system can finally feel safe holding the expansion you’ve been manifesting.
We’ll talk about:
🎤 the cost of emotional containment (and how it dulls your magnetism)
🎤 how projection and people-pleasing create chaos and self-betrayal loops
🎤 anger as an initiation into power, clarity, and self-respect
🎤 why mindset tools fail without body-level processing
🎤 how to move up the emotional scale without bypassing your truth
🎤 reframing manifestation from “outcome first” to “feeling first”
When you stop stuffing down your emotions and start listening to them, everything shifts—your energy steadies, your boundaries sharpen, and your desires finally have space to land. You stop chasing flow and start embodying it. You stop seeking validation and start radiating power.
If you’ve ever wondered why your affirmations collapse by Wednesday, why your manifestations feel like stop-and-go traffic, or why your “high-vibe” practices leave you exhausted—this is your missing link. Your body can’t hold a mindset it’s fighting.
This episode is your invitation to turn rage into radiance, resentment into recalibration, and anger into the alchemical fire that forges your next evolution.
Ready to stop shrinking for others? Let this episode be your sign → Step into your Unapologetic Era: https://thefemmecast.com/breakthrough
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Hey guys, what is up and welcome back to the show.
(00:02):
I am so excited and gratefulthat you guys are here.
Welcome if you're new.
We are continuing down thejourney through the rage series
and um, you know, how we copewith emotions of anger, rage,
and resentment, especially ifyou resonate with being a people
pleaser.
This series is totally for you.
(00:22):
Um if you haven't listened tothe first two episodes, go ahead
and have a listen to those afteryou're done here.
But stay with me, don't leave.
Um, today what I really wantedto talk about is just to give
you some motivation why you wantto do this work and the four
ways that um not moving through,acknowledging, processing,
(00:44):
healing, whatever you want tocall it, um, your stored anger,
rage, and resentment isliterally blocking your own
success, your energy, yourmagnetism, your purpose, your
impact, your influence,everything that you're here to
do, be and create.
And it's also blocking yourdesires.
Like it is blocking you on somany levels.
(01:06):
And I really want, there's onething I really want to say
before we get into it today.
It is not feeling anger or rageor resentment that blocks you
from success or the things thatyou want, or your
manifestations, or money, orlove, or career, or whatever,
whatever it is you're trying tocall into this life.
(01:26):
It is not the anger, thepresence of anger, rage, and
resentment that is blocking you.
It is you're suppressing it oryou're projecting it.
It is the unhealthy ways thatwe've learned to cope with anger
or resentment or rage that fucksit up and gets us into trouble
(01:48):
every single time.
If you can learn to be presentand move through these emotions
in a healthy way, the world isyour fucking oyster.
Like, seriously, like luckyfucking you, you finally like
found the secret to life.
Like, honestly.
Um, but you know, having saidthat, I want to give you some
motivation to do the work.
So here's four ways that, youknow, holding on to and and and
(02:13):
repressing and denying some ofthese emotions or projecting
them is actually like doing moreharm than good and holding you
back from what it is that youreally want.
And here's the kicker.
You might be suppressing itbecause you think that
acknowledging it is gonna be thething that blocks you, but it's
not like the very thing thatyou're doing that you think is
actually good for you is thevery thing that's fucking
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blocking you.
It's not feeling the shit andmoving through it and
acknowledging it and beingpresent with it.
So just sit and be present withit.
And I promise you, all thisstuff will start to unfold for
you.
Um, it's so crazy how thatworks.
And I I honestly, like Isometimes I blame the personal
development community for that,but we'll get into that in
another episode.
Um, so number one, when werepress emotions like anger,
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rage, and um resentment, theseare all very powerful emotions,
especially rage, right?
So when we're trying to containit, suppress it, deny it,
pretend that it's not there,ignore it, and just kind of move
through life, there's a lot ofenergy that that takes.
Like a lot.
Okay.
It's exhaust, it's physicallydraining your body.
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It is draining you of yourmagnetism because all of your
energy is actually beingfunneled towards controlling and
containing that rage because ittakes that much energy to
control and contain it.
So instead of your energy beingout there in the world, creating
magic for you and attracting foryou and bringing in all the
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right people, places, and thingsfor you, it's too busy trying to
contain all your rage or dealingwith the aftermath of your
projections.
Either way, your energy iscompletely being wasted.
Your magnetism is being wasted.
Everything that keeps you intothis beautiful energetic flow of
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everything you're here to do,be, and create is literally
occupied with all of the ragethat you're refusing to deal
with.
Okay.
And so you lose when yourmagnetism is shut off or um, you
know, being funneled or used nonnot productively.
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Um, you're you're you're youknow, you're you're not you're
not out there in your essence.
You're not out there being whothe world created you to be and
do doing the shit and making themoves you came here to to do.
You know, you're just not being,you're just your life force
energy is literally draining.
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And this is where oftentimesburnout happens because we've
got so much of our energy andour magnetism wrapped up and
trying to control and the rageand and and suppress it and keep
it down and put out the fires ofour our projections have
created, right?
We've got all our energy tied upinto that that we can't let our
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energy be out there doing thework for us.
So, who's doing the work?
We are in the physical.
We're hustling, we're grinding,we're pushing, we're fighting
for things to happen instead ofletting the magnetism do it for
us.
And so, not to mention, youknow, how much energy is being
drained just by you knowcontaining all of that.
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And so what ends up happening iswe end up in burnout.
We end up burnt out, we end upexhausted, we end up depleted,
we end up unmotivated becausewe're supposed to be using our
energy, our magnetism out theremaking moves, making shit
happen, not in here trying tocontrol and contain and
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suppress, right?
That is not how this works.
Um and so that's where ourenergy stores are being
depleted, literally right fromunder our noses.
Okay.
And so, right, so what you wantto do is actually start to take
that energy away from containingand suppressing and cleaning up
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the chaos, the mess, the hotmess we've created, and putting
it out there where it works forus, right?
This is a process.
This is not something thathappens overnight.
It happens in stages.
It starts with letting go ofcontrolling the rage, it starts
with letting go of cleaning upthe mess, it starts with letting
go of the projections,processing the rage.
And then once we start to dothat effortlessly, our our
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magnetism, our energy starts toflow outwardly, where we can
start to create and work workwith universal energy to start
um really being who we came hereto be and making the impact we
came here to make, right?
Um unrealized potential isanother cost.
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Like I said, not just because ofyour magnetism, right?
Like that's the one part of it,right?
The magic, your essence, yourspark, your life force, all
that's being zapped right out ofyou, yes.
But also the wisdom that theanger holds for you about where
you're supposed to be placingboundaries, where you're
supposed to be saying fuckingno, where you're supposed to be
saying yes, fuck yeah, my soulwants that.
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Where you're supposed to be likeraising your standards, raising
the bar in your expectations,what you will and won't
tolerate.
All these things are vital,vital to being who it is that
you came here to be.
The world has taught youboundaries are bad.
The world has taught you thatasking for what you want is bad.
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The world has taught you thatputting your needs first is bad,
asking yourself what you want isbad.
All these things are bad, bad,bad, bad, bad.
But the reality is, is thatthese are really good, noble
things for you to do, not justbecause how do I put this?
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Your soul, like you know, youknow your blueprint, you know
why you're here, and your soulis drawn to doing the things
that are going to bring you inalignment with your purpose.
And so when we start todeliberately choose ourselves
and prioritize our needs and ourgifts and our goals and our
ambitions and our inspirations,that we start to trust in the
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flow.
We start to trust in what ourguidance is telling us.
We start to trust in the naturalinclinations of what we're
wanting and desiring forourselves and for our life.
This leads us down the path topurpose.
Anger, rage, and resentment isshowing you where you're turning
your back on all of that, whereyou are betraying yourself when
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it comes to all of that.
Because the world has hardwiredyou to prioritize everyone
else's needs, their feelings,their wants, their desires, let
them cross your boundaries, letthem, like, you know, do all
these things because you thinkthat's the good thing to do.
But actually, what you're doingis a disservice because in doing
that, you're not able to be inyour fullest potential and the
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fullest expression of yourself.
You are some watered-downversion that you have created in
order to keep everyone elsearound you happy instead of
living up to your potential,which is hard.
And that that's where thechallenge is.
So that's why sometimes,oftentimes, personal growth is
not in the path of leastresistance.
It's in the path of the mostfucking resistance, actually,
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because it's the stuff thatyou're hardwired not to do.
Like, I don't know how else tosay this.
Like, if you're meant to be outthere speaking, you're gonna be
afraid to use your voice.
If you're meant to be out therevisible in front of audiences,
in front of people, or on socialmedia, you are literally going
to be afraid to be seen.
If you're if your uh purpose isto be out there helping people
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break toxic patterns, chancesare you've had a ton of toxic
conditioning in yourrelationships.
All of which, by the way, isreally vital information that
you are going to completely missif you're not listening to
paying attention and givingspace for your anger and for
your resentment and for yourrage to guide you in the way
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that it's trying so desperatelyto guide you along your path to
reaching your fullest potentialin this life.
And so um, we need to startpaying attention.
We need to start listening, weneed to stop suppressing,
avoiding, and bypassing andprojecting and making it mean
something about us that's justnot true.
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Um, you know, that's all basedon conditioning that I believe
has really been trying to keepus out of our power for
centuries.
Um next is it's completelymucking up with your energetic
signature, right?
Emotions are energy in motion.
Okay.
And I want you to pay attentionto this part.
Emotions are energy in motion,and we've heard that said a
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thousand times, right?
So, and we've also heard thatenergy cannot be what's it
called?
Um, created or destroyed.
It can only be um like changedform, transformed, right?
So if it can't be created ordestroyed, it can only be
transformed.
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And if it's constantly moving,if it's energy and mo, if
emotions are energy in motionand it's constantly moving, why
the fuck are we trying tocontain it and hold it in and
pretend that it's not there?
Right?
How do we think we're making itbetter by projecting it out into
the world?
Or what are we what are wesaying when we make it mean
something about who we are andwhat we're worth and how lovable
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we are and how deserving we are?
None of that is true.
The all energy emotions areenergy and motion, they cannot
be created or destroyed, theycan only be transformed.
So start fucking transformingthem.
The power of your emotions is inthe transmutation of them.
Nothing will manifest faster oris more powerful in terms of a
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manifestation tool than youremotions.
Everything we do in order tomanifest is to trigger an
emotion.
Affirmations, mantras,visualizations, vision boards,
all of these things,meditations, they're all
designed to make us feelsomething.
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Because yes, it's good tobelieve, but it's in the feeling
that we manifest.
Emotions are what manifest.
And so if we're holding on toall of this anger and rage and
resentment, and we're notletting it move like it's meant
to, transform like it's meantto.
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We're just holding it andstuffing it down and pretending
that it's not there, that isfucking up our energy, that is
messing with our energeticsignature.
It is gonna keep us in a cycleof constantly attracting what we
don't want and blocking what wedo because it wants us to pay
attention to what it is tryingto say.
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And the problem is that we keepignoring it, suppressing it,
projecting it, making it meansomething about ourselves.
We're not, we're not using it,we're not feeling it, we're not
moving through it the way it ismeant to work, we're just
keeping it stuck energy.
That then puts us in a patternof manifesting shit we don't
want, puts us in a mindset of Isuck, I don't deserve good
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things, I must be doing thiswrong, I must be doing
manifestation wrong, there mustbe something wrong with me.
Enter more psychoticmanifestations we don't want.
Do you see where the cycle justkeeps perpetuating?
And you know, when we do themindset work, when we do the
visualizations and we feel moneyis good, money loves me.
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Love comes easily.
Everyone loves me.
I find love that isunconditional, but we do all
these affirmations and we startto believe them, we feel the
emotions.
And the minute something happensout there in the world that
triggers the um the dualitywithin us, the contradictory
emotion that's stuck, whetherit's the anger, rage,
resentment, whatever's going on,we immediately our mindset
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completely shifts to theopposite.
We complete, we keep it's hardto hold that positive mindset.
Whereas if we do the work on theemotional body and do the work
there and pay attention to whatour emotions are trying to tell
us and how they're trying toguide us and how they want us to
move through this life,especially when we're talking
about anger, rage, andresentment, and we start to
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apply those to our daily life,then the mindset work becomes
easy because we don't have allthis anger, rage, and resentment
that we're trying to burybeneath the surface.
And we're not projecting allthis crap onto our relationships
or telling us ourselves allthese stories about how much we
suck because we're angry all thetime.
Right now, the mindset work iseasy.
Now the visualizations are easyto connect to and if you have an
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emotional experience.
Like now, all these tools becomeeasier because they're not in
resistance to what's going on,they're not, they're not in
complete opposition to what'sgoing on inside of you and
creating this like painful tugof war that often happens when
we're trying to manifest goodshit, especially if we're
holding on to a lot of stuffthat we're not paying attention
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to.
Suppressed emotions will fuckwith your manifestations.
Trust me on this, okay?
Um, because it creates thispush-pull tug of war energy that
will drive you bonkers and haveyou think that you are doing
everything wrong.
So, yes, well, the affirmationsare good, the mindset techniques
are good, the visualizations,all good stuff, but focus on the
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inner experience, focus on yourinner world more than your outer
world.
The problem is that withmanifestation, we always put too
much focus on what we'remanifesting.
We pay very little attention tohow those manifestations make us
feel.
If you really want to like flipthis on its ass, and this is a
totally unrelated thing that I'mpoint that I'm gonna make.
But if you can, if you can, youknow, there's an art to breaking
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the codependency to yourmanifestations in that if you
can think of it as everythingthat you want to manifest, it's
because it's trying to make youfeel something.
Because deep down you want tofeel something.
You want to manifest the partnerbecause you want to feel love.
You want to manifest this moneybecause you want to feel safe,
secure, empowered.
You want to manifest the familybecause you want to feel joy,
you want to feel support, youwant to feel belonging.
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Start to manifest that also allthose emotions within yourself
and watch your reality start tochange.
But it has to, it's an internaljob.
And that's really why we oftenwant external things.
And when we get there, to whenwe get to joy, when we get to
bliss, when we get to love, whenwe get to security, when we get
to all these things, yeah, wemay still want those things, or
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maybe we don't want them anymorebecause really we've learned we
don't need them.
Our soul can create thosefeelings for itself.
Maybe we want different things,better things.
Who knows?
The point is that we have tobreak this attachment to
manifesting people, places, andthings in order for us to feel a
certain way.
Our emotions are our own.
We own them, we have tocultivate them.
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And that's where suppressingyour emotions and not moving
through them, moving through theexperience of whatever it is
that you're repressing orignoring or avoiding or
projecting and making it meansomething bad about yourself,
moving through those so that wecan start to access the emotion
that we want, start to manifestwhat we want.
Are you are you are you pickingup what I'm putting down?
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Okay, there's nothing morepowerful than doing the
emotional alchemical work totransmute and transform your
emotional experience.
That's where your power lies inall of this.
And they've been lying to you,telling you.
Um, lastly, and and this iswhere I mean, this is this leads
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into what exactly what we'vebeen talking about.
It is blocking, suppressing youremotions and not feeling them
and not honoring them, and notmoving through them, and not,
you know, picking up the littlenuggets of wisdom that it has
for you and and and uh doingeverything in your power to
avoid feeling them or projectingthem onto other people.
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It is literally blocking yourascension.
Okay.
If you've ever seen thatinverted cone of the energetics
of emotions, right, where itkind of ranks vibrationally,
right?
I hate that word, but it kind ofranks emotions from low vibe to
high vibe, from shame toascension, right?
It's this inverted funnel.
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Um, starts with shame, guilt,and it goes into um grief,
anger, I can't remember whatthey are.
Grief, anger, um, pride,courage, neutrality, and you
know, up into the higher, youknow, love, peace, bliss,
ascension.
Um that is the very roughversion of it, but you get you
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get the gist of what I'm saying.
So basically what it's saying isthat everything below in the
lower half of the cone is lowvibrational, everything on the
top half of the cone is highvibrational, and it's an
inverted cone, right?
So the widest is at the top.
Um while I agree and disagreewith many parts of this theory,
I don't believe any emotion islow vibrational.
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I only believe it's lowvibrational if we get stuck
there.
If we don't move through it, ifwe don't process it properly.
So if we get stuck in shame,yes, it's low vibrational.
If we get stuck in grief, yes,it's low vibrational.
If we get stuck in anger, rage,and resentment, yes, it is low
vibrational.
Not the lowest, shame and guiltare the lowest.
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Um, but anger, rage, andresentment, and I think it's
they only have anger on thecone, but anger is kind of
lumped up with rage andresentment, a bunch of other
ones.
Um, but basically, you know, ifwe get stuck there, yes, it does
become low vibrational.
But if we learn to move throughthe cone and move through the
emotional experience and ascendup to ascension, that is the
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work.
There is nothing low vibrationalabout that.
We are meant to have as humans,we are meant to experience every
single emotion under the sun andmove through it and experience
it and still come back toascension.
We're not meant to deny orrepress anything.
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We're not meant to feel bad orshameful about anything.
That just creates more shame.
Right?
There's nothing that we feelthat makes us a bad person, an
unloving person, an unkindperson, right?
Especially as a people pleaser,like, oh my God, like, am I a
bad person if I'm not alwaysfeeling love and joy and
gratitude?
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No, you're human.
Fuck that.
Like, you know, we're meant tofeel all of it.
It only becomes low vibrationalwhen we get stuck, right?
And in many cases, we can't jumpfrom guilt and shame to
ascension.
We have to evolve slowly, stepby step, through the different
emotions.
So we have to honor where we arein that chart.
And if we if we choose to hateon ourselves because we're in
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we're in hate and uh anger andrage and resentment, we have to
know by suppressing it, we'reblocking our ascension into the
higher levels because we have tomove through that before we can
get to those higher levels ofascension.
Okay.
Nothing you feel is bad.
Nothing.
It is what we choose to do withit that defines who we are, what
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we're aligned with, and whatwe're energetically calling in.
Okay.
That is what it boils down to.
There is so much power to beexperienced and feeling all of
your emotions, especially theanger, the resentment, the rage,
because that is literally whatis guiding you on your path to
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reaching your fullest potential.
It is telling you where you'reabandoning yourself, where your
boundaries are being crossed,where you need to take a stand
for yourself and what youdeserve in this life, and raise
your standards and what you'resettling for.
All of that is beingcommunicated through your anger
and the anger that you keepignoring that turns to
resentment, and the resentmentthat you keep ignoring that
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turns to rage.
Pay attention.
I promise you, it will changeyour life if you do.
Next episode, we're going to betalking about some tools and
techniques to move through angerand rage.
So stick around.
You'll wanna, you won't want tomiss that episode.
If you have questions, if youhave comments, if you want to
let me know what resonated, youcan um we'll leave it in the
comments below wherever you'reseeing this.
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You can email me at maria at thefemcoach.com.
You can send me a DM on at thaton Instagram at the femcast.
I'd love to hear from you guys.
I don't always respond, but I dotry to.
But every single one of yourrest's messages is read and
appreciated, and and I'm sograteful for.
And who knows, you just mightinspire another episode of the
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podcast.
So until next time, you guys,massive love.
Hey guys, what is up and welcome back to the show.
(00:02):
I am so excited and gratefulthat you guys are here.
Welcome if you're new.
We are continuing down thejourney through the rage series
and um, you know, how we copewith emotions of anger, rage,
and resentment, especially ifyou resonate with being a people
pleaser.
This series is totally for you.
(00:22):
Um if you haven't listened tothe first two episodes, go ahead
and have a listen to those afteryou're done here.
But stay with me, don't leave.
Um, today what I really wantedto talk about is just to give
you some motivation why you wantto do this work and the four
ways that um not moving through,acknowledging, processing,
(00:44):
healing, whatever you want tocall it, um, your stored anger,
rage, and resentment isliterally blocking your own
success, your energy, yourmagnetism, your purpose, your
impact, your influence,everything that you're here to
do, be and create.
And it's also blocking yourdesires.
Like it is blocking you on somany levels.
(01:06):
And I really want, there's onething I really want to say
before we get into it today.
It is not feeling anger or rageor resentment that blocks you
from success or the things thatyou want, or your
manifestations, or money, orlove, or career, or whatever,
whatever it is you're trying tocall into this life.
(01:26):
It is not the anger, thepresence of anger, rage, and
resentment that is blocking you.
It is you're suppressing it oryou're projecting it.
It is the unhealthy ways thatwe've learned to cope with anger
or resentment or rage that fucksit up and gets us into trouble
(01:48):
every single time.
If you can learn to be presentand move through these emotions
in a healthy way, the world isyour fucking oyster.
Like, seriously, like luckyfucking you, you finally like
found the secret to life.
Like, honestly.
Um, but you know, having saidthat, I want to give you some
motivation to do the work.
So here's four ways that, youknow, holding on to and and and
(02:13):
repressing and denying some ofthese emotions or projecting
them is actually like doing moreharm than good and holding you
back from what it is that youreally want.
And here's the kicker.
You might be suppressing itbecause you think that
acknowledging it is gonna be thething that blocks you, but it's
not like the very thing thatyou're doing that you think is
actually good for you is thevery thing that's fucking
(02:34):
blocking you.
It's not feeling the shit andmoving through it and
acknowledging it and beingpresent with it.
So just sit and be present withit.
And I promise you, all thisstuff will start to unfold for
you.
Um, it's so crazy how thatworks.
And I I honestly, like Isometimes I blame the personal
development community for that,but we'll get into that in
another episode.
Um, so number one, when werepress emotions like anger,
(02:58):
rage, and um resentment, theseare all very powerful emotions,
especially rage, right?
So when we're trying to containit, suppress it, deny it,
pretend that it's not there,ignore it, and just kind of move
through life, there's a lot ofenergy that that takes.
Like a lot.
Okay.
It's exhaust, it's physicallydraining your body.
(03:21):
It is draining you of yourmagnetism because all of your
energy is actually beingfunneled towards controlling and
containing that rage because ittakes that much energy to
control and contain it.
So instead of your energy beingout there in the world, creating
magic for you and attracting foryou and bringing in all the
(03:42):
right people, places, and thingsfor you, it's too busy trying to
contain all your rage or dealingwith the aftermath of your
projections.
Either way, your energy iscompletely being wasted.
Your magnetism is being wasted.
Everything that keeps you intothis beautiful energetic flow of
(04:03):
everything you're here to do,be, and create is literally
occupied with all of the ragethat you're refusing to deal
with.
Okay.
And so you lose when yourmagnetism is shut off or um, you
know, being funneled or used nonnot productively.
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Um, you're you're you're youknow, you're you're not you're
not out there in your essence.
You're not out there being whothe world created you to be and
do doing the shit and making themoves you came here to to do.
You know, you're just not being,you're just your life force
energy is literally draining.
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And this is where oftentimesburnout happens because we've
got so much of our energy andour magnetism wrapped up and
trying to control and the rageand and and suppress it and keep
it down and put out the fires ofour our projections have
created, right?
We've got all our energy tied upinto that that we can't let our
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energy be out there doing thework for us.
So, who's doing the work?
We are in the physical.
We're hustling, we're grinding,we're pushing, we're fighting
for things to happen instead ofletting the magnetism do it for
us.
And so, not to mention, youknow, how much energy is being
drained just by you knowcontaining all of that.
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And so what ends up happening iswe end up in burnout.
We end up burnt out, we end upexhausted, we end up depleted,
we end up unmotivated becausewe're supposed to be using our
energy, our magnetism out theremaking moves, making shit
happen, not in here trying tocontrol and contain and
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suppress, right?
That is not how this works.
Um and so that's where ourenergy stores are being
depleted, literally right fromunder our noses.
Okay.
And so, right, so what you wantto do is actually start to take
that energy away from containingand suppressing and cleaning up
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the chaos, the mess, the hotmess we've created, and putting
it out there where it works forus, right?
This is a process.
This is not something thathappens overnight.
It happens in stages.
It starts with letting go ofcontrolling the rage, it starts
with letting go of cleaning upthe mess, it starts with letting
go of the projections,processing the rage.
And then once we start to dothat effortlessly, our our
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magnetism, our energy starts toflow outwardly, where we can
start to create and work workwith universal energy to start
um really being who we came hereto be and making the impact we
came here to make, right?
Um unrealized potential isanother cost.
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Like I said, not just because ofyour magnetism, right?
Like that's the one part of it,right?
The magic, your essence, yourspark, your life force, all
that's being zapped right out ofyou, yes.
But also the wisdom that theanger holds for you about where
you're supposed to be placingboundaries, where you're
supposed to be saying fuckingno, where you're supposed to be
saying yes, fuck yeah, my soulwants that.
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Where you're supposed to be likeraising your standards, raising
the bar in your expectations,what you will and won't
tolerate.
All these things are vital,vital to being who it is that
you came here to be.
The world has taught youboundaries are bad.
The world has taught you thatasking for what you want is bad.
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The world has taught you thatputting your needs first is bad,
asking yourself what you want isbad.
All these things are bad, bad,bad, bad, bad.
But the reality is, is thatthese are really good, noble
things for you to do, not justbecause how do I put this?
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Your soul, like you know, youknow your blueprint, you know
why you're here, and your soulis drawn to doing the things
that are going to bring you inalignment with your purpose.
And so when we start todeliberately choose ourselves
and prioritize our needs and ourgifts and our goals and our
ambitions and our inspirations,that we start to trust in the
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flow.
We start to trust in what ourguidance is telling us.
We start to trust in the naturalinclinations of what we're
wanting and desiring forourselves and for our life.
This leads us down the path topurpose.
Anger, rage, and resentment isshowing you where you're turning
your back on all of that, whereyou are betraying yourself when
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it comes to all of that.
Because the world has hardwiredyou to prioritize everyone
else's needs, their feelings,their wants, their desires, let
them cross your boundaries, letthem, like, you know, do all
these things because you thinkthat's the good thing to do.
But actually, what you're doingis a disservice because in doing
that, you're not able to be inyour fullest potential and the
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fullest expression of yourself.
You are some watered-downversion that you have created in
order to keep everyone elsearound you happy instead of
living up to your potential,which is hard.
And that that's where thechallenge is.
So that's why sometimes,oftentimes, personal growth is
not in the path of leastresistance.
It's in the path of the mostfucking resistance, actually,
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because it's the stuff thatyou're hardwired not to do.
Like, I don't know how else tosay this.
Like, if you're meant to be outthere speaking, you're gonna be
afraid to use your voice.
If you're meant to be out therevisible in front of audiences,
in front of people, or on socialmedia, you are literally going
to be afraid to be seen.
If you're if your uh purpose isto be out there helping people
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break toxic patterns, chancesare you've had a ton of toxic
conditioning in yourrelationships.
All of which, by the way, isreally vital information that
you are going to completely missif you're not listening to
paying attention and givingspace for your anger and for
your resentment and for yourrage to guide you in the way
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that it's trying so desperatelyto guide you along your path to
reaching your fullest potentialin this life.
And so um, we need to startpaying attention.
We need to start listening, weneed to stop suppressing,
avoiding, and bypassing andprojecting and making it mean
something about us that's justnot true.
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Um, you know, that's all basedon conditioning that I believe
has really been trying to keepus out of our power for
centuries.
Um next is it's completelymucking up with your energetic
signature, right?
Emotions are energy in motion.
Okay.
And I want you to pay attentionto this part.
Emotions are energy in motion,and we've heard that said a
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thousand times, right?
So, and we've also heard thatenergy cannot be what's it
called?
Um, created or destroyed.
It can only be um like changedform, transformed, right?
So if it can't be created ordestroyed, it can only be
transformed.
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And if it's constantly moving,if it's energy and mo, if
emotions are energy in motionand it's constantly moving, why
the fuck are we trying tocontain it and hold it in and
pretend that it's not there?
Right?
How do we think we're making itbetter by projecting it out into
the world?
Or what are we what are wesaying when we make it mean
something about who we are andwhat we're worth and how lovable
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we are and how deserving we are?
None of that is true.
The all energy emotions areenergy and motion, they cannot
be created or destroyed, theycan only be transformed.
So start fucking transformingthem.
The power of your emotions is inthe transmutation of them.
Nothing will manifest faster oris more powerful in terms of a
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manifestation tool than youremotions.
Everything we do in order tomanifest is to trigger an
emotion.
Affirmations, mantras,visualizations, vision boards,
all of these things,meditations, they're all
designed to make us feelsomething.
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Because yes, it's good tobelieve, but it's in the feeling
that we manifest.
Emotions are what manifest.
And so if we're holding on toall of this anger and rage and
resentment, and we're notletting it move like it's meant
to, transform like it's meantto.
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We're just holding it andstuffing it down and pretending
that it's not there, that isfucking up our energy, that is
messing with our energeticsignature.
It is gonna keep us in a cycleof constantly attracting what we
don't want and blocking what wedo because it wants us to pay
attention to what it is tryingto say.
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And the problem is that we keepignoring it, suppressing it,
projecting it, making it meansomething about ourselves.
We're not, we're not using it,we're not feeling it, we're not
moving through it the way it ismeant to work, we're just
keeping it stuck energy.
That then puts us in a patternof manifesting shit we don't
want, puts us in a mindset of Isuck, I don't deserve good
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things, I must be doing thiswrong, I must be doing
manifestation wrong, there mustbe something wrong with me.
Enter more psychoticmanifestations we don't want.
Do you see where the cycle justkeeps perpetuating?
And you know, when we do themindset work, when we do the
visualizations and we feel moneyis good, money loves me.
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Love comes easily.
Everyone loves me.
I find love that isunconditional, but we do all
these affirmations and we startto believe them, we feel the
emotions.
And the minute something happensout there in the world that
triggers the um the dualitywithin us, the contradictory
emotion that's stuck, whetherit's the anger, rage,
resentment, whatever's going on,we immediately our mindset
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completely shifts to theopposite.
We complete, we keep it's hardto hold that positive mindset.
Whereas if we do the work on theemotional body and do the work
there and pay attention to whatour emotions are trying to tell
us and how they're trying toguide us and how they want us to
move through this life,especially when we're talking
about anger, rage, andresentment, and we start to
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apply those to our daily life,then the mindset work becomes
easy because we don't have allthis anger, rage, and resentment
that we're trying to burybeneath the surface.
And we're not projecting allthis crap onto our relationships
or telling us ourselves allthese stories about how much we
suck because we're angry all thetime.
Right now, the mindset work iseasy.
Now the visualizations are easyto connect to and if you have an
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emotional experience.
Like now, all these tools becomeeasier because they're not in
resistance to what's going on,they're not, they're not in
complete opposition to what'sgoing on inside of you and
creating this like painful tugof war that often happens when
we're trying to manifest goodshit, especially if we're
holding on to a lot of stuffthat we're not paying attention
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to.
Suppressed emotions will fuckwith your manifestations.
Trust me on this, okay?
Um, because it creates thispush-pull tug of war energy that
will drive you bonkers and haveyou think that you are doing
everything wrong.
So, yes, well, the affirmationsare good, the mindset techniques
are good, the visualizations,all good stuff, but focus on the
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inner experience, focus on yourinner world more than your outer
world.
The problem is that withmanifestation, we always put too
much focus on what we'remanifesting.
We pay very little attention tohow those manifestations make us
feel.
If you really want to like flipthis on its ass, and this is a
totally unrelated thing that I'mpoint that I'm gonna make.
But if you can, if you can, youknow, there's an art to breaking
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the codependency to yourmanifestations in that if you
can think of it as everythingthat you want to manifest, it's
because it's trying to make youfeel something.
Because deep down you want tofeel something.
You want to manifest the partnerbecause you want to feel love.
You want to manifest this moneybecause you want to feel safe,
secure, empowered.
You want to manifest the familybecause you want to feel joy,
you want to feel support, youwant to feel belonging.
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Start to manifest that also allthose emotions within yourself
and watch your reality start tochange.
But it has to, it's an internaljob.
And that's really why we oftenwant external things.
And when we get there, to whenwe get to joy, when we get to
bliss, when we get to love, whenwe get to security, when we get
to all these things, yeah, wemay still want those things, or
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maybe we don't want them anymorebecause really we've learned we
don't need them.
Our soul can create thosefeelings for itself.
Maybe we want different things,better things.
Who knows?
The point is that we have tobreak this attachment to
manifesting people, places, andthings in order for us to feel a
certain way.
Our emotions are our own.
We own them, we have tocultivate them.
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And that's where suppressingyour emotions and not moving
through them, moving through theexperience of whatever it is
that you're repressing orignoring or avoiding or
projecting and making it meansomething bad about yourself,
moving through those so that wecan start to access the emotion
that we want, start to manifestwhat we want.
Are you are you are you pickingup what I'm putting down?
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Okay, there's nothing morepowerful than doing the
emotional alchemical work totransmute and transform your
emotional experience.
That's where your power lies inall of this.
And they've been lying to you,telling you.
Um, lastly, and and this iswhere I mean, this is this leads
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into what exactly what we'vebeen talking about.
It is blocking, suppressing youremotions and not feeling them
and not honoring them, and notmoving through them, and not,
you know, picking up the littlenuggets of wisdom that it has
for you and and and uh doingeverything in your power to
avoid feeling them or projectingthem onto other people.
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It is literally blocking yourascension.
Okay.
If you've ever seen thatinverted cone of the energetics
of emotions, right, where itkind of ranks vibrationally,
right?
I hate that word, but it kind ofranks emotions from low vibe to
high vibe, from shame toascension, right?
It's this inverted funnel.
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Um, starts with shame, guilt,and it goes into um grief,
anger, I can't remember whatthey are.
Grief, anger, um, pride,courage, neutrality, and you
know, up into the higher, youknow, love, peace, bliss,
ascension.
Um that is the very roughversion of it, but you get you
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get the gist of what I'm saying.
So basically what it's saying isthat everything below in the
lower half of the cone is lowvibrational, everything on the
top half of the cone is highvibrational, and it's an
inverted cone, right?
So the widest is at the top.
Um while I agree and disagreewith many parts of this theory,
I don't believe any emotion islow vibrational.
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I only believe it's lowvibrational if we get stuck
there.
If we don't move through it, ifwe don't process it properly.
So if we get stuck in shame,yes, it's low vibrational.
If we get stuck in grief, yes,it's low vibrational.
If we get stuck in anger, rage,and resentment, yes, it is low
vibrational.
Not the lowest, shame and guiltare the lowest.
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Um, but anger, rage, andresentment, and I think it's
they only have anger on thecone, but anger is kind of
lumped up with rage andresentment, a bunch of other
ones.
Um, but basically, you know, ifwe get stuck there, yes, it does
become low vibrational.
But if we learn to move throughthe cone and move through the
emotional experience and ascendup to ascension, that is the
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work.
There is nothing low vibrationalabout that.
We are meant to have as humans,we are meant to experience every
single emotion under the sun andmove through it and experience
it and still come back toascension.
We're not meant to deny orrepress anything.
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We're not meant to feel bad orshameful about anything.
That just creates more shame.
Right?
There's nothing that we feelthat makes us a bad person, an
unloving person, an unkindperson, right?
Especially as a people pleaser,like, oh my God, like, am I a
bad person if I'm not alwaysfeeling love and joy and
gratitude?
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No, you're human.
Fuck that.
Like, you know, we're meant tofeel all of it.
It only becomes low vibrationalwhen we get stuck, right?
And in many cases, we can't jumpfrom guilt and shame to
ascension.
We have to evolve slowly, stepby step, through the different
emotions.
So we have to honor where we arein that chart.
And if we if we choose to hateon ourselves because we're in
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we're in hate and uh anger andrage and resentment, we have to
know by suppressing it, we'reblocking our ascension into the
higher levels because we have tomove through that before we can
get to those higher levels ofascension.
Okay.
Nothing you feel is bad.
Nothing.
It is what we choose to do withit that defines who we are, what
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we're aligned with, and whatwe're energetically calling in.
Okay.
That is what it boils down to.
There is so much power to beexperienced and feeling all of
your emotions, especially theanger, the resentment, the rage,
because that is literally whatis guiding you on your path to
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reaching your fullest potential.
It is telling you where you'reabandoning yourself, where your
boundaries are being crossed,where you need to take a stand
for yourself and what youdeserve in this life, and raise
your standards and what you'resettling for.
All of that is beingcommunicated through your anger
and the anger that you keepignoring that turns to
resentment, and the resentmentthat you keep ignoring that
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turns to rage.
Pay attention.
I promise you, it will changeyour life if you do.
Next episode, we're going to betalking about some tools and
techniques to move through angerand rage.
So stick around.
You'll wanna, you won't want tomiss that episode.
If you have questions, if youhave comments, if you want to
let me know what resonated, youcan um we'll leave it in the
comments below wherever you'reseeing this.
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You can email me at maria at thefemcoach.com.
You can send me a DM on at thaton Instagram at the femcast.
I'd love to hear from you guys.
I don't always respond, but I dotry to.
But every single one of yourrest's messages is read and
appreciated, and and I'm sograteful for.
And who knows, you just mightinspire another episode of the
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podcast.
So until next time, you guys,massive love.
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