MASTERCLASS | Unlock Your Unapologetic Feminine Powe, Discover the hidden gifts that make you magnetic AF

The world is shifting. The old, control-driven, masculine-dominated systems are cracking, and we’re being called to something bigger—an awakening of your unapologetic feminine power. This isn’t about gender—it’s about reclaiming the intuitive, magnetic, creative energy that’s always lived inside you.

In this masterclass, part of The Unapologetic Feminine Awakening: Rebel, Rise, Radiate I reveal the 9 sacred feminine superpowers that make you instantly magnetic, authentic, and unstoppable. These aren’t abstract concepts—they’re practical, easy-to-integrate practices to call your power back and embody the unapologetic woman you were always meant to be.

For centuries, we’ve been conditioned to overthink, people-please, and chase external validation. That leaves us anxious, disconnected, and drained. But the discomfort you feel? That’s not weakness—it’s your power calling to be unleashed.

Inside this masterclass, you’ll learn to:
🎤 Harness intuition to stop second-guessing and start trusting yourself
🎤 Surrender control and open to aligned opportunities
🎤 Transform emotions into fuel for action and growth
🎤 Set intentions that magnetize what you desire—without attachment
🎤 Cultivate presence to reclaim your power in the now
🎤 Build authentic, heart-centered connections
🎤 Embody radical authenticity to attract aligned people and opportunities
🎤 Master your energy by reclaiming it from what drains you

When you stop suppressing your feminine superpowers, you stop giving your energy away. You become magnetic AF—not by trying harder, but by radiating from your unapologetic center. Your personal awakening contributes to collective transformation.

This isn’t just content to consume—it’s a masterclass in unapologetic feminine power, complete with complementary journal prompts, affirmations, and guided practices so you can start embodying your superpowers today.

Your most powerful, magnetic, unapologetic self is waiting. Are you ready to rise?

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Episode Transcript

MARIA @THEFEMMECAST (00:02):
there is something so magical happening
right now Like you have no idea.
Oh my God, welcome back to theshow.
You guys, I am so excited tohave you here.
Welcome If you're new.
We are starting a new six partseries here on the Femcast and
that is, you know, this feminineawakening.
We're doing a feminineawakening edition.

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Rebel, rise and radiate intothe feminine power that nature
intended for you, that Godintended for you.
Universe, source, whatever youresonate with.
Okay, and I say that it's sucha magical moment right now.
I always feel the most powerfulin a thunderstorm.

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I don't know why I love to sitback and watch thunderstorms.
I'm obsessed with thunder, I'mobsessed with rain, I'm obsessed
with lightning.
I used to actually like woulddrive my car to the beach after
a big storm so I could watch thelightning as it would move away
and kind of like hover, like ata distance over the water.
It was just such a beautifullight show and as I'm recording

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this because I usually record inthe morning, when the lighting
is nice and bright, it isthunderstorming.
Right now it is so dark I havemy lamps on to actually light up
the room because it's that dark.
So it's first thing in themorning although it probably
doesn't look like it if you'reseeing this on video anywhere
and the rain and the thunderoutside and the lightning so you

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might hear some thunder in thebackground is just miraculous.
So this, I'm gonna take this asa sign that this is exactly
where we're supposed to be rightnow and this is exactly what
we're supposed to be talkingabout in this moment, and I'm
feeling so charged, and I hopeyou are too.
Okay.
So today is the first part ofthis six part series.

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There's going to be sixepisodes to follow where we're
going to be going deeper intothis conversation about, you
know, feminine and masculineenergies.
You know where we kind of tooka wrong turn and you know
beliefs that are kind ofblocking us from really stepping
into our power and how we kindof heal both of these energies.
Then I just want to start thisconversation by reiterating that

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we all carry both masculine andfeminine energy and we both
need to learn how to have ahealthy relationship with both
of those energies, and that'swhat's been blocking us in many
ways.
Now, yes, as you know, we areall being invited, men and women

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.
Doesn't matter what your genderis.
It doesn't matter what yoursexual orientation is.
That has nothing to do with theconversation.
Everybody on earth, as humans,are being asked to step into and
embody more of their feminineenergy, because we have been

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living in a very masculine, verypatriarchal society for
centuries and that we're seeingthe cracks in that foundation.
We're seeing everythingstarting to break apart.
Okay, we're seeing where thatway of living, that system of
thinking, is just not workinganymore.
Um, we need to tap back in toour feminine, okay, um, or at

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least be able to harmonize thetwo energies.
Right, that's actually theultimate goal.
The ultimate goal is toharmonize the two energies, um,
within each and every one of us.
Now, everybody will lean alittle bit more masculine or a
little bit more feminine, andthat's fine, and that's also not
gender specific, okay, um, itdoes often dictate who you're in

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best suited in relationshipwith.
So, if you tend to lean alittle bit more feminine,
sometimes you're better.
You know, when you match withsomebody who is a little bit
more masculine, it balances outthe energy between the two and
it creates harmony.
But it has again, I cannotstress this enough, you guys, it
has nothing to do with gender.

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It has nothing to do withsexual orientation.
Okay, that is not part of theconversation here today.
If that's the conversation thatyou were hoping for, I'm sorry
to disappoint you, but that isnot what we're bringing to the
table today.
Okay, all right.
So this episode is really foryou.
If you've ever felt like you,just you know, um, this episode

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is really for you.
If you've ever felt like you,just you know you wanted to do
more, or you should be doingmore, or you should be doing
some something else, or there'ssomething more to life, or you
know you're just feeling unsureof where you're even supposed to
be, what you're, or what itlooks like.
And that's kind of the momentthat I had when I went through
my awakening, right Is that Ikind of felt and I've talked
about this so many times on thepodcast there was that moment
where I was laying on the beach,where I was just like like fuck
, there's got to be more to lifethan this.
You know, I closed my eyes andI was watching the water like

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kind of glisten off in thedistance and I didn't know this
at the time, but glisten off inthe distance, and I didn't know
this at the time.
But I was basically going intoa meditative state and I heard a
voice say to me there's so muchmore for you out there.
If you would be willing what wasthe word?
If you would just be willing togo for it or be willing to
leave, or basically be willingto make a move right, like, have

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the courage to go for it rightand go into the unknown.
And that's often where thisjourney begins it begins in the
unknown.
And so today we're going to betalking about the nine.
I think I narrowed it down tonine.
There's many, but these are thenine sacred feminine
superpowers that, once you startto like I'm going to give you

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some practices and some toolsand tips and techniques to do
this you can, in minutes, tapinto your most powerful, most
authentic, most magnetic self.
Okay, and it all begins withembracing the unknown, embracing
what's what you can't see infront of you, embracing
uncertainty, embracing thequestion marks that may be

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looming over your life, and justtrusting yourself as you move
through the process.
Right.
So it's a completely it's not asurrendered state like.
It is a state of surrender, butit's not where you're not
taking.
You know, sometimes I thinksurrender is misinterpreted as
kind of laying back and doingnothing.
It's not.
That's not what this is about.

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This is surrendering control,this is surrendering
overthinking, this issurrendering attachment work.
So these are some of the thingsthat we're good at, the themes
we're going to be talking abouttoday.
The truth is, you know, you maybe feeling, I know you may be
feeling unsure of what to donext and you feel this sense of
powerlessness to do anythingabout it, or uncertainty of

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where to go or what to do.
Just know that, if you'refeeling that you're not alone,
okay, the truth is that the painand discomfort that we feel
when we deny or suppress ourfeminine power which I can't
stress this enough Like thisfeminine power was instilled in

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humans, humans for a verypowerful reason.
We need like this is how weconnect with a divine, this is
how we create, this is how wenurture, this is how we love,
this is how we're meant to movethrough life, if you think of it
as feminine energy is reallythat intuition, that healing,

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that nurturing, that inspiredcreativity.
Yes, we're here to create life,but we're also here to create
many other things.
Okay, um, but and, and, and.
Then, you know, the masculine ismore of the structure, the, the
, the foundations, the building,the protection, the, you know,

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like the, the, the logic, right,but the logical mind.
And then we've got the creativemind right, the higher level,
the higher wisdom, the higherperspective, right, and so these
two energies need to worktogether.
The problem is is that as asociety, we've leaned so much

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into our masculine qualities,men and women alike, that we've
completely disconnected from ourfeminine.
And when we balance these twoenergies, we as beings become
freaking unstoppable.
And, if you ask me, I don'tthink it was an accident that we
were kind of limited orconditioned to rely very heavily

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on our masculine energy becausethere's somebody out there that
doesn't want us in our mostempowered state, which our most
empowered state is.
When we start to harmonize bothof these energies within
ourselves and within each other,with with each other, so, um,
so here's the thing.
Um, if you're feeling thediscomfort, right.

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If you're feeling that, oh, Ineed to be doing something, or
there's gotta be more to lifethan this, or I know I'm
supposed to be doing more, but Ihave no freaking idea what that
looks like or what I'm supposedto be even doing.
I just know that I just want tocrawl out of my own skin right
now, because I know this isn'tit.
It's okay, I've been there.
And that's what's happening whenthese energies start to awaken

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within you, they start to becomethis energetic force that is
unattainable anymore, and themore we hold on to it, the more
uncomfortable it gets.
And it truly is miraculous thatit does that, because it's
actually begging us to let itout and let it be seen and and
to really harness it and use itto our advantage, because that's
how we're meant, that's howwe're meant to be in this world,

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that's that's the energy we'remeant to lean on in this world,
right, and so suppressing it,the more uncomfortable it gets.
It's actually a blessing,because it's actually forcing
you to kind of you know, veryintentionally unleash this.
You know, secret, sacred partof you out into the world.
Know that, and I'm just goingto make this point and then

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we'll go on to the.
You know, talking about thedifferent superpowers.
Like I said before, tapping intothis energy, like using the
tools and the techniques thatI'm going to be sharing with you
on this episode will literallyhave you tapping into your most

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powerful, most magnetic versionof yourself within minutes.
Okay, so you know you can usethem all at once.
You know binge watch this wholeepisode, keep it somewhere so
you can kind of refer back to it.
I'll try and put some posts upto kind of as like use as quick
reference guides, but so makesure you're following me on

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Instagram for that at theFemcast.
However, you know you don'thave to use them all at once,
all at the same time, all everyday.
You can kind of interchange.
If you want to focus on one ata time, if you want to use them
interchangeably as situationscome up, you know that's
entirely up to.
If you want to use theminterchangeably as situations
come up, you know that'sentirely up to you how you want
to use these and use them toyour advantage.

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But please know, when you startto fully use and integrate these
into your life, this is whenyou really step into and embody
that most empowered, sacred,feminine version of yourself and
you are capable of creatingpowerful change and
transformation, not just inyourself but within people

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around you.
Now that change can't be forced.
Okay, I want to make thatperfectly clear.
Just because we're goingthrough this transformation, we
have this incredible experience.
I do.
I see this all the time.
I see my clients do it.
I used to do it.
Oh my God, I had this.
Like we go home to our like ourboyfriends and our husbands and
we're like, oh my God, I triedthis amazing practice today.
You have to try Right, and westart to force like all our

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personal development and shitonto them.
That's not how this works.
Just be in the energy of and Ialways say this with everything,
with everything we do inpersonal development and energy
healing.
Be in your most empowered stateand then just hang back, just
embody it and watch the effectsthat it might have on people

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around you.
Okay, we never want to cram.
We never want to cram ourideologies or whatever on people
around us.
That's just not cool.
Our ideologies or whatever onpeople around us, that's just
not cool.
That's just not how we rollhere.
Okay, please don't do that.
Okay, so here we go.
This is going to be so much funand I cannot wait.
And please know that what we'regoing to talk about today, like

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the techniques I'm going togive you, of course they're
going to feel a little weird oruncomfortable or maybe some
uneasiness at first.
Some of them might even feelflat out wrong to you.
That's okay and that is becauseI want you to remember, we have

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been conditioned for centuriesto not tap into these
superpowers, because I believethat, as beings, it makes us way
too fucking powerful for somepeople, and so I'm just going to
leave that there.
If you caught my last episodewith Crystal Dawn, you'll
understand what I'm talkingabout.
Okay, all right, now here we go.
Nine sacred feminine superpowersthat are guaranteed to make you

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unstoppable and magnetic, andall of them focusing on taking
your power back from theexternal, bringing it back to
the internal.
So external, that can bethoughts too, because we're
worried about something going onoutside of ourselves.
We're thinking about stuffgoing on outside ourselves
things, people, places, thingswe're attached to.
We're going to take our powerback from all of that.

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We're going to reel it all inand bring it back into your
center.
Okay, and that's where all yourpower lies.
So, um, number one intuition.
So, um, first and foremost,most powerful sacred feminine
superpower.
I believe we all have theability to tap into this in the
most powerful way.
I'm going to move my leg herebecause it's getting very
uncomfortable.
I'm hoping I don't punch my mic.

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Okay, there we go, kick my mic.
So here's the thing Without ourintuition right, which we've we
talk about it, we say you know,oh, but my, you know, I listen
to my instincts.
The reality is is that, as asociety, we have taught for

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generations that we need to bein our mind in order to make
decisions, in order to navigatelife, in order to tap into
knowledge and wisdom.
And it's not to say that themind is not a valuable thing.
Of course it is Like we needagain, we need logic too.
We need both masculine andfeminine expressions of this

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energy.
But we can't rely on the mindalone, because sometimes the
mind gets you know, it can beimpressionable.
It can only take its cues fromwhat it knows, what it sees to
be true, what it sees as factand what it sees as possible in
the world around it.
Well, sometimes we are capablethan so much more than we even

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realize.
Sometimes there's so much morefor us out there that we can't
see or comprehend, and so that'swhy having a strong connection
to your intuition is so vitallyimportant.
When I left my job and when Iwent down, you know, when I did
the whole burning down my lifething, and I knew that there was
something more for me out thereand I had no idea what it was.
And you know, I did thismeditation that I shared with a

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class, that I did a couple lastweek.
I shared this meditation whereyou kind of, you know, step into
the future version of yourselfand in your most embodied state.
And I remember I was speaking.
I was speaking in front of anaudience.
I could see the lights and Icould see that there was a lot

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of people, like it was almostlike.
I can't remember if I see theoutlines of their heads or I saw
their eyes, but I couldn't seetheir faces.
That's all I remember.
I remember seeing that I was ona stage, the lights were kind
of blinding me and there was alot of people in the audience
but I could not see their facesand I was standing in front of a
mic and talking, right, andhere's the thing At the time I

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got the impression okay, yes,I'm supposed to be a public
speaker, but why couldn't I seethe faces?
This is why I could not see thefaces, because I was going to
start a podcast.
I don't even know if podcastingwas a thing at the time and if
it was, it was very new.
So my logical mind would neverhave sent me down that path.
I had to rely on my intuitionto get here, otherwise I never

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would have like, I never wouldhave saw the way.
I would have totally missed itif I was relying on my head,
because podcasting wasn't even areality, right?
So you see how sometimes yourintuition can guide you places
that your mind never could.
So, when it comes to tappinginto your intuition and this is
going to take time, you know Ialways tell my clients and we do
a lot of work on, you knowhelping them to harness the

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power of their intuition.
I am one of those coaches,slash healers that I don't like
to keep my clients with me, likeI don't believe in having
lifetime clients.
I like to graduate my clients.
My clients aren't leaving atthe end of six months a year at
most, but that's rare, usuallysix months.
If they're not leaving at theend of six months fully

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empowered to tap into theirsacred feminine superpowers and
manage their own emotions anduse them to create alchemy in
their life, I'm doing somethingwrong.
Okay, that's not to say I'mresponsible for your healing.
Obviously, everybody'sresponsible for their own
healing, but I give you thetools and the techniques to do
all this.
So for yourself.

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So one of the first things wealways tap into is intuition.
So what I always tell people isokay.
So here's what I, here's what Ialways want people to do when,
when, when, they're working withme.
I want you to move through lifetrying to make as many small
decisions with your intuition asyou can.
This is how you're going toflex the muscle, make it
stronger and also build trust.
We're going to go way over intime.

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Today, guys, this is like afull-on masterclass, like this
is not a normal episode.
So just keep that in mind andmaybe keep a journal with you as
well.
But again, I'm going to besending out some materials on my
Instagram to kind of give yousome cheat sheets on this.
So make sure you're followingme at the Femcast.
So for intuition a practicethat I always love to share with

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my clients again you know, makesure you're making all your
small decisions intuitively.
So, what to eat for lunch today?
What should I wear today?
Um, where?
Which route do I want to shouldI take to work?
Be careful with the eatingthing, because sometimes your
body will tell you that you wanta cheeseburger but you don't.
So be careful with that one, oryour body will tell you that,
yeah, you should totally hook upwith that hot guy that you've

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been eyeing, but you shouldn't.
So be careful.
Be careful, but you'll knowwhen it's your intuition, and
here's how I always describeintuition.
Intuition is that quiet voicethat you can barely hear beneath
the surface, and that's whymeditation is so important right
when you quiet the mind.

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That's why meditation is soimportant, right when you quiet
the mind.
That's why meditation is soimportant, because when we can
get the mind quiet, we canactually hear our intuition more
clearly, that voice that'spanicked and frantic in your
mind.
Oh my god, don't go there,don't do that.
Oh my god, they're going tojudge you.
That is not your intuition,that is your fear.
Just acknowledge it.
You don't even have to shame it, you don't have to.

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You can just acknowledge thisand be like okay, I hear you.
All right, I'm just going tocheck in with what my intuition
is telling me, though instead.
Okay, so that's how you knowyou're speaking to your
intuition and what I like to do.
I like to treat the intuition asa very binary tool, in that it

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likes to answer yes or noquestions, or this or that
questions.
Right, should I go to themovies today and listen to the
answer.
Should I wear the red dress orthe green dress and listen for
the answer?
Do I want broccoli as myvegetable tonight or do I want

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Brussels sprouts?
My intuition will never fuckingsay Brussels sprouts.
Just saying that's a good test.
You can test it too, right, andso practice making small
decisions like that.
I want you to become reallyaware of what your yeses feel

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like, what your no's feel likeand also what you're like when
you're making a this or that,what your choice like, what
you're choosing, feels like okay.
So for me, my yeses and what Ichoose feels very open, it feels
very light.
It feels very open.
It feels very light, it feelsvery expansive, almost

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energizing, and it makes me feellike a sense of relief, right,
when I tap into what my yesfeels like.
My no feels very restrictive,very constricted, it feels very
dark.
It feels like contracting right, and that's how I know it's a
no or that's not the right path,right?
So if I'm driving to the marketon a Saturday and I'm saying to
myself, okay, should I take themain road or should I take the

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side streets?
Here, if I say take the mainroad I'm immediately
constricting because I knowthere's going to be lots of
traffic on the main road.
There's a farmer's market goingon and it's creating parking
and driving chaos.
So if I take the side streets,I feel like I feel open, I feel
expansive, I feel like I can behearing the birds chirping as
I'm driving to the market, right.

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So that's where I know my routeis and that's how I make a lot
of my decisions throughout theday.
And as you start to use thismuscle and flex it and
strengthen it, you can start touse it for the bigger decisions.
And another good practice thatI'm going to share with you,
that I want you to start toimplement, is I want you to
journal not just what it feels,what your yeses feel like, what

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your no feels like and what yourchoice, like option of choice,
feels like, which will feel alot like your yes, right, but I
also want you to journal on whathappens when you follow your
intuition versus when you don't.
So this is all strengtheningand building trust strengthening
your intuition and buildingtrust in it and building trust
in yourself.
Your intuition and buildingtrust in it and building trust

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in yourself, because for many ofus, you know, this does take
time because we have made baddecisions or we have been too
much in our head and it has sentus down the wrong path.
And we do overthink andoverworry and overanalyze about
every little fucking thing andfor many of us, like I, used to
get stuck in complete indecision, like I wouldn't do anything

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because I couldn't decide, and Iwould constantly be going back
and forth and back and forth andback what if this happens?
What if that happens?
And this worst case scenarioand that worst case, oh my God,
it was exhausting, and do youknow how much energy that burns.
This is where the magnetismpart comes in, because now we're
freeing up all that mentalenergy that you've been kind of

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using just to, like you know,keep that brain turning, and now
we're actually going to now beturning that outward.
This whole process is abouttaking all of the energy that
you've been putting into andworrying there's something
coming through.
Hang on, I'm trying to explainthis because I'm feeling it, but

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I'm trying.
I'm having a hard time tryingto articulate what's coming
through.
You've been putting all yourenergy and focus, yes, based on
what you're fearing, what you'rethinking, what they're going to
think, what they're going tosay and what the right thing to
do is and what the wrong thingto do and what's the worst thing
that can happen, and all theseworst case scenarios floating

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through your mind.
So you're constantly externallyfocused and because you're
externally focused, your energy,your energy, your life force,
energy, your energy, your lifeforce energy is sucked in to
like it's inside, trying to like, decipher and think through all
this information and processall this data and and create all
like, use all this momentumjust to process your thoughts

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and make decisions.
We are going to reverse that.
You are going to focus onfeeling internally, how you feel
internally, and letting that beyour guidance.
So now all that energy ispushed out as magnetic energy.
Wow, I actually have neverexplained it that way before you

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heard it here.
First, you guys Okay, okay.
So that was a while to get usthrough the first one, so this
might be a two hour episode.
Okay, number two surrender.
So, and number two and numberthree are actually very closely
aligned, so I'm going to try andbe as clear as I can when I'm
speaking about them so theydon't sound like they overlap.

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But basically, surrender is youknow.
Sound like they overlap, butbasically surrender is.
You know, this is what we do,this is what we use when we're
constantly worrying about thethings that we have no control
over, and this is part of whatinspired this whole series is
I've not been having a good timewatching the news like and

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seeing what's going on in theworld.
Like it's it's not fun, likeit's not.
It has me, um, I've actuallybeen going through an
existential crisis, actually, ifI'm being quite honest, of like
, how do I live in a world wherethis is happening?
Because I don't know, um, but Ido know that this is a sign of

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this great feminine awakening.
And if you don't understand whyall of this that's happening
right now is a sign of a greatfeminine awakening, if you've
ever been through an awakeningexperience, you know it's always
darkest right before the dawn.
You know things get fuckingcrazy as hell right before
you're about to go through theawakening, triggering starts to
happen.
Your ego starts to get louderand start screaming because it

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senses change and transformationand healing coming and it
scares the crap out of it, andso it does everything to try and
distract you and and and drawyou back down into um.
You know what you've alwaysknown to be true, to kind of
keep you where you're at becausethat's what feels safe, and I
do believe that that's what'shappening on a larger collective

(26:45):
scale right now.
And like that is not to putlight on anything that's
happening in the world today,that does not excuse anything
that's happening in the worldtoday, that does not make light
of people's hardships andsuffering, and we're not even
going to go down that road.
But all of that to say, whenyou start to, I believe, when we

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all start to harness thisenergy, each of us individually,
that creates a cascading rippleeffect from one person to the
next, to the next, to the next.
When we focus on changingourselves and changing our
internal state and our energeticstate, we have the power to
influence those around us.
They influence more people andthen more people.
Before we know it, we have acollective change and

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transformation happening, but ithas to start with ourselves.
Okay, so, um, surrender isworrying about the things that
we can control.
We have no control over whathappens in the news cycle.
We have no control a lot of thetimes over you know what our
leaders choose to do.
You know, yeah, we can protest,yeah, we can do this and that,

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whatever, but at the end of theday, they're going to do what
they want to do, right?
So, instead of worrying aboutwhat you can't control because,
again, that's just using all ofyour life force, energy, to try
and make sense of all of thisand try and figure out a route
for you to do something whenreally there's not I mean
there's.
There are things we can do.

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It's not to say that we'recompletely helpless, but you
know everything.
You know we'll only know thepath of how we can make an
impact when we surrender,because here's the thing, when
we're in our head trying tofigure it out, all we're doing.

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All we're doing is oh my God,how do I stop this person, how
do I stop that person, how do Ikeep this from happening?
And that's not the path.
The path might be very indirect,right.
The path might be, again, notto pull on this as an example,
but the path might be to start apodcast about something that
you're passionate about andthat's going to create a ripple

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effect of change.
Or maybe the path is starting agroup in your community of
like-minded individuals andcreating more of a grassroots
movement.
Or, you know, maybe the path isstarting a group in your
community of like-mindedindividuals and creating more of
a grassroots movement.
Or maybe your path is simplylike being the ground or the
grounding force in your familyor in your community, to bring

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people together, to be the voiceof reason.
Whatever For each individual,it's going to be the voice of
reason.
Whatever For each individual,it's going to be different,
right, and so the only way wecan tap into what that correct
path is, or what the solutionsare, or how we fix things that
seem to be out of our control,is to surrender it, to let it go
to a higher power and trustthat we're going to receive the
guidance through our intuition,which we worked on in the

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previous one, of what to do nextwhen the time is right, without
trying to force it.
So what I usually like to dowith this, this is a very simple
practice.
If there's anything that I'mworried about or obsessing over
or can't stop thinking about,I'm going to literally see it.
I'm going to see two hands infront of me and I'm going to
literally see this like a box,like a gift box or a lock box or

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something, or even a cloud,whatever, what a bubble, thought
bubble, whatever works for youand I just literally like
imagine taking it out of my headslowly, putting it into divine
hands and saying I'm giving thisover to you because I know, I
know that you have access towisdom and solutions that I just

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can't I can't see right now.
So I'm putting this in yourhands and I'm trusting that it's
going to be taken care of tothe highest good for everyone
involved, and then just lettingit go.
And then, every time thatthought comes into my mind, I
keep doing that over and overagain, until it's slow and I you
know if feelings come up asyou're thinking it.
It's important to feel thosefeelings and we're going to talk
about that in number four.

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But and so acknowledge thosefeelings and acknowledge that
they're there and validate whyyou're feeling that way, but
then still keep giving it over.
Keep giving it over and askyourself what can I do right now
?
Or, if you, what, what do Ifeel guided to do right now?
Or where do I want to put myenergy and focus and intention

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right now?
What is within my power?
Right?
And then just keep shiftingyour thoughts to where your
power is and that takes you awayfrom this idea where I feel
powerless to do anything and itbrings you back to.
But actually I do have power todo something right and it
brings you back to.
But actually I do have power todo something right.
It just may not be the big thing, right?
Maybe it's a little, maybe it'snot the big fire, maybe you

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can't put up the big fire, butmaybe you can put out a little
fire, right, that's going toeventually contribute to the big
fire and make it even bigger,right?
You know what I mean.
So we have to get, we have toget out of that blocker white
thinking and we have to get outof that black or white thinking
and we have to get out of.
But this is the problem and Ican't fix it and therefore I
can't do anything.
There is something we can alldo and sometimes that thing, you
know again, the inspirationwill come when it's ready, when

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you're ready to receive it, andit may not even make sense.
It may not make sense, it mayseem totally random.
Trust it, just trust it, andtrust where it is leading you
and try to use this a littleless.
Okay, detachment this is veryimportant, especially actually

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in relationship.
Believe it or not, this is theone thing that's going to
actually transform your romanticrelationships like tenfold, but
it's also like a really goodpractice just in general, and
this is really about detachingfrom outcomes.
This is about not needingthings to work out a certain way
that your mind again your mindis telling you they need to work

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out.
I love this person.
I need to marry them.
We need to be together forever,happily, ever after this.
I love this person.
I need to marry them.
We need to be together forever,happily, ever after.
I need to have $10,000 in mybank account by Friday.
I need to have this job,otherwise I will never be happy.
I won't survive.
This has been the answer to myprayers and if I don't get this,
then I'm a failure.

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I need this business to work.
If I don't get this business towork, then I'll never make it
in life.
Like I'm literally going to dieof starvation.
I'm painting all these likegrim, like all of.
Some of these are thoughts thatI've had.
A lot of them are thoughts thatmy clients have had, but some
of these are thoughts that I'vehad in the past and I laugh
because it's true.

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But when we attach to somethingand we attach this energy of
need to it.
We number one.
We naturally repel it.
That's number one.
So, whether it's a relationship, a job, a circumstance, a
financial situation, a promotion, you know, whatever it is that

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we've attached to, right, thatneedy attachment energy is going
to push it away.
Okay, and that's actually, Ithink, by divine design, because
, ultimately, our soul knows wehave everything we need within
ourselves in order to be ourhighest version of ourselves,

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right?
So when we think we needsomething that's giving power to
something else, to say I can'tbe whole or complete without
that thing, and our soul's likefuck that, yeah, you can Like,
yeah, you can, you absolutelycan be whole and complete
without that thing.
Right and honestly, like beingon this journey that I've been

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on going through this, likefeminine healing, feminine
awakening that I've been goingthrough like I started, like
back in 2012,.
Everything that I thought thatI needed, I had to lose and
literally learn to walk againwithout those things Money,
relationships, career, like allthe things that I got worth and

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value out of were literallyripped right out of my life more
than once, more than once, andI basically had to stand firmly
in my own worth without thosethings, and that was like.
That felt like a slow, painfuldeath to me, because so much of
my worth and value came fromthese external things that I

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validated my existence with,basically Right.
And it wasn't until I had toface life without those things
that I really started to see whoI was and what my soul wanted
to create in this life and what,what.
What my soul wanted to createin this life and what it is that
I brought like to the world.

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Right, um, and that was.
That was probably, I think, theout of all the things that I,
you know, the bigtransformations that I had, like
over like the last, like 10years, I think that was probably
the biggest one.
I think it took the longest umof all of them.
And there was, it was amulti-layer approach to healing,
with that, you know, cominginto those beliefs.

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But I do believe that you knowyou can take a head start and
not have to go through the longroute the way I did and take an
inventory.
You know, what is it that youthink you need in your life,
right, what is it that you thinkyou need and that you can't
live without?
And even to this day, sometimes, like I, like I'll panic, like,
oh my god, like stupid example,but like I have the cutest dog

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in the world, you guys and Ilove her to bits.
And sometimes like I worryabout the day that I lose her
and like like oh my god, pleasedon't leave and hurt mama one
day, and I'll start crying onher ass.
And she's looking at me likethe fuck is wrong with you woman

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, like I'm fine, right, and thenso.
And then I have to bring myselfback to know you know what, no
matter what happens, I will loveyou and I will be grateful that
I had you and I know that Iwill be okay, right, and I will
just feel that love that I havein my heart for her, right, and
that kind of.
That kind of helps me to movethrough that experience.
But I'm and that's a comedicrelief example of how this could
look.
It could look as being afraidto lose a loved one.

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It could look as being afraidto lose a partner.
It could be afraid afraid oflosing a job.
It could be afraid of losingmoney, a home.
All of these are very scarythings, right, and so we don't
want to think about losing them.
We don't want to think aboutlife without them.
If somebody says well, whatwould you do if you lost your

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spouse or your house or your jobor your career?
Like you lost your license oneday.
Like how would that feel foryou?
Right, and it can feel veryoverwhelming, and that's when we
know we have a lot ofattachment, right?
Or what if this relationshipdidn't work out?
What if he never called youback?
What if he's not the one?
You know that can that canbring up a lot of like I don't

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even want to go there kind ofenergy, right?
That's when you know you'reattached.
That's when you know you'reattached to an outcome.
And while I think you knowmanifesting for a certain result
is great, but I do think weneed to surrender and detach
from the outcome, even ifanytime we're wanting to
manifest anything, becausesometimes you know what the

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universe really does know betterfrom what our ego tells us we
want or thinks that we need tohave, you know.
So start to pay attention tothose things that you're afraid
to lose, because as soon asyou're afraid to lose something,
you've already lost yourself.
You've already lost yourselfbecause you're already
bargaining bits and pieces ofyourself in order to keep said

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thing in your life thatrelationship, that money, that
house, that job, right as soonas you're afraid of losing it.
You've already started likewhat's it called Gambling away
little bits of yourself, tryingto hold on to that thing,
whatever that thing is.
So start to pay attention towhat are those things that
you're afraid to be without,what are those things that

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you're, you know, maybe subtlykind of giving parts of yourself
away in order to keep into yourlife?
And how can you create somedistance from those things?
Or how can you paint apossibility?
I mean, you can't keep yourdistance from your job, but how
can you open up to thepossibilities of other career
opportunities out there for youthat you could actually do enjoy
?
You know, start to make a list,start to look at what other

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possibilities are out there foryou.
You know, if it doesn't workout with this partner, or if
this marriage doesn't survive,you know, maybe there are a
million other people out therefor you that you could be
happily ever after with.
You know, or you know, maybelife looks completely different.
The point is is that we have toopen ourselves up to other
possibilities.

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That's not to say that we'regoing to go after them.
That's not what this exerciseis about this exercise is about
this person, this place.
This thing is not the be all,end all and I will be fine, no
matter what, and then justbreathe into the emotion,
whatever that is, that fear,that anxiousness, that
attachment?
You know, with my dog maybe forme it was you know it started

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as anxious attachment, but whenI calm myself down and I bring
myself back to healthyattachment, I'm able to just
focus on the love that I havefor her right now, in this
moment, right, and so you get tocultivate the emotion that you
want instead, regardless of whatthe circumstances may bring.

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And I think that's the importantthing, because when we're
attached to something, it'sbecause that person, place or
thing makes us feel somethingthat we don't think we can feel
for ourselves.
So what is that emotion thatthey're making you feel and how
can you tap into that on yourown?
So for me, like with my dog,the example I gave it's pure

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love, right, it's pure,unconditional love.
So I recognize my fear, Irecognize that, no matter what,
I will be okay and I will begrateful for the love that she's
brought to my life, and then Ijust focus on that love and I
just see her face and I feel thelove in my heart and I let that
expand and that then brings inmore of that into my reality.
Okay, okay, why do I feel?

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No, we didn't, we didn't skipanything.
Okay, number four emotionalalchemy.
So for many of us, we've learnedto suppress most of our emotion
.
Okay, and this has been verydeliberate, and this is a lot of
the work that I do.
If you've ever worked with meone-on-one, you know that we do
this a lot.
I believe that emotions are ourmost powerful energy and

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resource, and I think the reasonwhy we've all been discouraged
by feeling them is because itdoes keep us very much in a
disempowered state where we'renow reliant reliant on the world
around us to make us feelsomething that we can't tap into
internally.
And the reason why we have thatproblem is because we've been

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taught to shut off all of ournegative emotion, or what the
world sees as negative emotion.
Right, teachings for this wentback as far as, like you know,
biblical times, you know?
Well, I actually don't know.
I don't know when the story ofPandora was written.
Actually, it's a myth, right,mythology is a big thing in my
house.
I grew up with orthodox.

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I don't know when Pandora, thestory of Pandora was written.
To be honest, I don't.
I don't have a clue.
What I do know is that Pandorawas given a box by her husband
and she was told never to everever open said box.
Okay, okay, yeah, tell, give awoman a box and tell her never
to open it and see what happens.

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It's almost like.
It's almost like.
But he wanted her to open thebox, like he was begging her to.
Okay, honey, here's a box, butyou have to promise me you're
not gonna open it.
Okay, yeah, sure he was.
It was like he was basicallybegging her to open.
Please, I beg you to.
As soon as I leave the housefor work, as soon as I'm out the
door and I hop in my car, assoon as you hear my car out of
the driveway, open that fucking,you know, but anyway.

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So in doing so, she unleashedall this like toxic emotion onto
humanity.
Right, so right away.
You know, we're conditioned notto feel our feelings.
We're conditioned not to feelrage.
We're conditioned not to feelanger.
We're conditioned not to feelhate.
We're conditioned not to feelguilt or shame, all of which has

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kept us codependent on theworld around us to distract us
from the emotions that we'reholding onto and suppressing
inside.
So now we're dependent on theworld around us to distract us
from the emotions that we'reholding onto and suppressing
inside.
So now we're dependent on theworld around us to make us feel
anything other than all of theshit that we've suppressed
internally.
So we need our environment tomake us feel joy.
We need our environment to makeus feel love.

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We need our environment to makeus feel peace and harmony.
And that's just bullshit, right?
And because we have all thesuppressed stuff going on inside
, it's completely mucked up ourenergetic signature.
We're like all a bunch ofhighly strung, emotionally

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charged ping pong balls in aping pong machine, like firing
off on one another Because we'reholding on to so much
internally and we're acting itout like we're acting it out and
projecting it on one anotherand harming one another and
hurting one another andprojecting our crap on one
another instead of actuallydoing the internal work.

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When we start to reverse that,when we start to actually feel
through all of our emotional,when we start to feel through
the uncomfortable emotions andstart to process them and allow
them to be there and to movethrough this and to express
themselves and, to you know, usethem as powerful guideposts in
our life right, as markers, asdirectional errors and guides.

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Once we allow those emotions tokind of move through us gently
and just kind of be present withthem in the process and breathe
our way through them until theykind of naturally settle down,
then we can tap into any emotionwe want, and we don't need
anyone or anything externally tomake us feel that way.
Like, imagine not having to goout and buy a new outfit to feel

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good about yourself.
Imagine not needing somebodylike the perfect man to propose
to you on one foot in order tofeel lovable.
Imagine not having to you know,mortgage your life away to have
this amazing home that youcan't really afford until you've
mortgaged yourself for the next50 years to pay it off, to feel

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good about yourself and to feellike you're successful.
You know All these things, that,all these ways that we would
take our power back if we couldactually stop help, like seeking
our outside world to soothe us,to distract us, to convince us

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that we don't need to worryabout our worth, or or all the
the emotions that we're avoiding, that we've buried so deep
inside.
We can just keep turning to theworld and stay addicted to it
to distract us from it, ratherthan making the conscious choice
to say no, I'm going toactually move through and
acknowledge and enjoy feeling myfeelings and trust that it's

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all helping and aiding myevolution in a beautiful way,
even if it is uncomfortable inthe moment it's going to pass.
You know, we're meant to feeleverything.
We're meant to feel and processevery emotion.
We're meant to feel it fully,and it's all meant to expand us,
it's all meant to transform us,even the stuff that we've been

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told is bad, even from thepersonal development community.
We've been told it's bad.
It's not, it's what we thinkabout it that makes it bad.
We think it's bad.
We've been told it's bad.
It's not.
It's what we think about itthat makes it bad.
We think it's bad, we've beentold it's bad, and so, therefore
, we think it's bad.
And so when we think it, weimmediately start to spiral that
we're doing something wrong.
We're nuts, we're nuts.
Yeah, it's uncomfortable, yeah,we don't like it.

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But the worst thing we can do is, number one, suppress it.
And number two, project it,which usually comes after we've
suppressed it long enough, westart projecting it on people
around us, right?
So what if we just felt it?
What if we just felt it andallowed it to be there and
didn't make it mean anythingabout who we are, what we're
worth or what we deserve in thislife, and just allow it to be
present and allow it to guide us, and allow it to deliver a
message for us in terms of howwe want to live and shape our

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life, and then just let it, likeyou know, think of it as a
guest coming over for coffee,like they're going to come,
they're going to tell youeverything they need to tell you
.
They're going to get it all offthe chest and be like, okay, I
got to go now, I got to go pickup the kids from school, boom
out, and now you can move on anddo whatever else you wanted to
do or feel whatever else youwanted to feel, because you've
allowed, you were present withit and you allowed it to be

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there and you allowed it to liveits purpose.
Because, believe it or not,every emotion has a purpose and
once it's done, you can choose.
Okay, now I want to.
I felt that hate, I felt thatanger, I felt that rage.
Now I just want to tap into alittle bit of peace, or maybe I
want to tap into some joy, whichis something that I've actually
been working on a lot latelyAfter doing a lot of rage

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processing over the last coupleof weeks.
Let me be clear so how do youdo this?
So you feel it fully, you sitwith that emotion.
You try not to distract orsoothe yourself from it.
Just let it be there.
Have a good cry.
If you need to Scream into adistract or soothe yourself from
it, just let it be there.
Have a good cry.

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If you need to Scream into apill, rage, journal it out,
whatever makes it easier to getthat those emotions moving, you
know, depending on whether ornot you're in a parasympathetic
state or whatever, you know, ifyou feel depressed, you know you
can just journal it out or cryit out.
If you feel like, where it'svery activated and aggressive,

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you could, you know, have a like, you know, rigorous workout.
You could punch a pillow, youknow whatever in that moment is
going to help you move throughthat emotion in a way that feels
aligned.
Just, you know, just do that.
And then, you know, once youkind of started to calm yourself
down, you feel like you'vecried enough, you've screamed
enough, you punched enough,you've written enough.

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You just ask that emotion.
Why are you here?
What is it that you're tryingto show me or tell me that I'm
not seeing?
And how do I apply that to mylife today?
And just allow that to be thereand then think about what that
message means.
Why is that message showing up?
Where have you maybe, like,maybe, betrayed yourself a
little bit or kind of wentagainst what you deem valuable

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or important to you, or where tomaybe need to set boundaries?
And then you know, once you'vekind of figured out how that
applies to your life and and andwhat you're going to do with it
, then choose a differentemotion, you know.
Choose a different emotion, um,and you have the power to do
that, but don't do that untilyou've come back to neutral.

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Okay, very, very, veryimportant.
Um, okay.
Number five we have more.
This might need to be atwo-part episode, you guys, this
is getting long.
So intention number five isintention.
So hoping that the world isgoing to create what you want it
to create is a waste of time.

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We know this.
We have to create our days andour experiences with intention.
Um, this is where we're takingour power.
We're not giving our power awayto the people, places and
things around us to show up theway we want them to.
We are going to take that powerback and choose how we want
things to work out.
Now.
We're not.

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We are not going to put ourintentions on how other people
show up.
That is their choice, okay.
Remember that everybody hasfree will choice and you may not
agree with what they're doingor like it, but that is their
choice, okay.
The important thing is is thatyou set the intention for what

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you want.
So, what do you want out ofyour work experience today?
What do you want to get out ofyour day tomorrow?
What do you want to get out ofthis conversation that you're
going to have with this personthat's been kind of weighing on
you for the last like severaldays?
You know, think about whateverthe thing is, whether it's your
day the next day, or if you'redoing this in the morning, the

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day that you're about to have,or the work that you're going to
walk into, the meeting thatyou're going to walk into, the
conversation that you're goingto walk into I want you to set
an intention and decide how youwant things to work out for you,
or how you want to feel at theend of it when it's done, even
though it may not look the same.

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Like you know, if you're working, if you're walking into a
difficult conversation, thatperson might be upset.
You know they might not likewhat you have to say, and that's
okay, right, but how do youwant to feel at the end of it?
I want to feel like I've saidmy piece.
I want to feel like I've saideverything that I've had to say
and I don't want to have thatawful feeling like I left
something unsaid.
But I also want to feel goodabout how I said it, like I want

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to do it in a way that um isalignment with my values, so
that I'm I'm you know I'm, I'mdoing it in a respectful way,
right, in a way, not in a waythat I feel icky about after you
know, and maybe that's anintention.
So it's all about you, notabout other people.
It's about you and how you feeland what you take from

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something and how you walk awayfrom something.
Okay, so set that intentionalways before you know if it's
like just, I try to do thisactually in the morning, every
morning when I do my morningpractice, but you can do it the
night before you go to bed, oryou can just do it when you have
, like, big events coming up.
You know you.
Maybe if you have a date comingup, a first date, maybe you're

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setting the intention that youknow what.
No matter what, I'm going tohave a good time, I'm going to
show up as my best self.
I'm going to show up as my bestself.
I'm going to feel confident, um, and I'm just going to let the
pieces fall where they may.
You know, um, and so that isreally taking your power back
from people, places and thing tomake you feel something, and
you're choosing how you're goingto feel at the end of it,

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regardless of how situationsunfold.
Okay, let's see what else havewe got here, oh, and then you
know, once you've kind of setyour intention, I want you to
see and feel what that outcomewill look like or feel like for
you, like what would it feel tobe in that, in that energy, when

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it's all said and done, andthen be grateful for it as in as
though, as though it's alreadyhappened, but very important
again.
Going back to number three, wehave to remain very unattached
from that outcome of what, likehow the other person's showing
up, how things are going tounfold, like.

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All of that stuff is not up tous.
Everything in life is aco-creation.
Yes, we have a say, but so doeseveryone else, and so does our
highest good has a say, but sodoes everybody else's highest
good, and if what you want orwhat you've decided is best for
you is not in the highest goodof everyone involved, you're
going to have a really hard timewith that one.
The same Okay, sixence, soimportant, and this is something

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that I think for the longesttime I struggled with.
I still have to pull myselfback sometimes, because I am a
bit of a daydreamer too.
So this is about worrying aboutthings that have happened,
worrying about things that mayhappen in the future, or not
even worrying, like thinking,thinking about things or

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worrying about things that havehappened, worrying or thinking
about things that might or thathaven't happened yet, or about
thinking or worrying aboutsomething that's going on in a
whole other part of the world ofwhere you are right and that
you have no control over.
Again, what do you have controlover?
Right?
Bring yourself back to whereyou are right now, not the past,

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not the future, not imaginingbeing someplace else.
Oh my God, if I have one moredaydream about me being like in
Hawaii, surfing, I'm going tolose my shit and actually the
last thing that I want right nowis to travel.
The last thing I want right nowis to travel, maybe a short
trip, but not a lengthy triplike that.
My whole body aches justthinking about it right now,

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actually.
So you know, always bringyourself back to the present
moment where you are right now.
Right here, right now, in thismoment, when you feel yourself
kind of floating off to anothertimeline, space or reality,
bring yourself back to thepresent moment.
This is where all your power is.

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Again.
Your energy is out there, yourmind is out there.
Your mind is out there, so yourenergy is all up in here
processing it.
We're going to bring all ofyour feeling and your knowing
and your sensory, your senses,here so that your energy can be
out there working for you andmagnetizing for you.
Okay, so a good, a good way todo this.

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The hard part really is catchingyourself.
That's the hard part.
Once you've caught yourself,it's pretty easy.
You're going to go through yourfive senses.
What do you smell, what do yousee, what do you hear, what do
you feel?
Right, wait, taste.
I'm like I'm forgetting one.
What do you taste?
So, activate all your fivesenses in this moment.

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What do you see, what do youhear, what do you feel, what do
you smell, what do you taste?
And that will help bring youback to the present moment in
reality.
And keep doing that until youcan kind of you know, imagine
yourself kind of anchoring inthere and anchor into that
present moment, and keep doingthat until you feel like you've
anchored in and that you're nolonger like kind of floating off

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into the ether somewhere.
I'm telling you, I was notoriousfor this.
I was always daydreaming aboutsomething.
Daydreaming can be greatbecause it's like a
visualization exercise, but itcan also yank you out of the
present moment if you can't becontent with where you are.
Manifestation is great, likeit's great to visualize things
and set intentions, but if youcan't be happy where you are
right now or find some sort ofjoy or something to feel good,

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it's that feel good energy, it'show you feel, that magnetizes
what you manifest, right.
And so that's why, like feelingyour uncomfortable emotions is
so important because otherwiseit just gets stuck in you and
that's where you're manifestingfrom.
You actually want to feel them,you actually want to move
through them, you actually wantto allow them to take all the

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time that they want to movethrough you and then, when
you're neutral, choose adifferent emotion.
Right?
There's always ebb and flow,always, and we need to honor
that.
We've been focused too much ontrying to deny one half of who
we are as human beings, one halfof our energy, one half of our
identity, one half of ouremotional experience, and put

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all our focus onto the otherhalf.
Right, we can't.
We have to learn to live andplay in both, otherwise why even
like, that's the whole part,that's, the miracle of being a
human being is that we get tolive in duality, right?
So we have to stop avoidingduality.
I think that's the humancondition that I think gets us

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into trouble all the time.
Okay, number, should we end thishere?
I'm debating you guys.
I have three more.
Okay, let's just try and getthrough these quickly if we can.
Okay, so number seven isconnection.
So this is really important,especially if you are a people
pleaser.
Okay, you're always worryingabout what to say, what people

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are thinking, how they'reperceiving you, what witty thing
to say next in order to beliked or entertaining or or not
to trigger somebody or not toupset somebody.
You know connection is, youknow we've made it mean, I don't
know, I don't know how we gothere, but connection has become,
if you're, especially if you're, a people pleaser, connection

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has become all about how we'reportrayed or perceived or, um,
how we're portrayed or perceivedor how we show up versus and
this is what connection reallyis active listening and relaxing
into the moment with someone,with, you know, inter exchanging

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with someone and being able tokind of meet them at the heart.
That's where connection happens.
It happens in the heart space.
But again, we're all up in here, all up in here, and we're
trying to think of what to sayand what's witty and what's
funny and what's right andwhat's true and what do they
want to hear versus.
How does this feel being in thisinteraction with this person?

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You still get to haveboundaries, right, you still get
to have boundaries.
You still get to practicediscernment.
Of course that never goes away.
But how can you settle into anexperience with somebody that
nurtures and creates connection?
We do that by dropping into ourheart space and active
listening.
So feeling what the otherperson is saying, feeling what's

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coming across from them andrelaxing into that present
moment and being present withthem fully Again, not someplace
else, not having a conversationwith this person and thinking
about what your to-do list like,okay, this person better finish
saying what they're saying,because they're taking forever
to get this out and I go do amillion other things.
Right, we do this, we do this.
Like I have like hours of okay,I have like I still have like

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20 social media posts to plan.
So can we like get thisconversation on right?
And so you know how can we youknow we don't have to do this
every time, we don't, we don'talways have the time to drop
everything and you know,practice active listening with
everybody that we come intocontact with and so set the
boundary.
You know, now is not a goodtime for me, actually.

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Can we come back to this andcome back when you can be fully
present, be fully there?
So practice presence and thenpractice active listening and
feeling what that person istrying to tell you.
A really good exercise that I dooften when we do group sessions
is we get in front of oneanother.
I actually got this fromanother coach that I worked with

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in the beginning of my journey.
It's such a great exercise.
So, basically, you sit in frontof one another.
You don't say a word, or youcan do this one of two ways.
You can say something that's onyour mind or you can just stay
quiet and while you're talking,the other person is feeling what
you're saying and they'retotally attentive to what it is

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that you're saying, what it isthat you're the feeling that
you're putting across.
Then they write a littlemessage to you Again, and I've
seen this used where you know isjust thinking something, and
then that person is writing amessage back to you.
And that's actually morepowerful if you do it that way
and then you exchange.
You do that for one, each other, and then, once you're done,

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you exchange your messages.
Some of these messages that comethrough when just tuning into
people's energy and how theirenergy body is feeling, and
tuning into that and focusing onthat, like the way that people
feel, seen, witnessed and heard,is absolutely miraculous.

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You guys, okay, you basicallyjust want to relax into the
present moment and imaginefeeling what the other person is
saying, not just hearing it andreally imagining a
heart-to-heart connectionbetween them.
And you can see that as kind oflike, not an attachment, like a

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cord of attachment, but energy,kind of coming back and forth
from one heart to the other andmaking a heart connection with
that person.
And you can do this witheverybody.
It doesn't have to be just withpartners.
It could be with friends, itcould be with co-workers, it
could be with family members.
You can practice this witheverybody.
But again, be real about whenyou can and can't practice this,

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like if you don't have the timeto really connect with somebody
in that moment.
Be honest, you know, don't fakeit, because people can feel
that and that that actuallycreates that, creates a um, a
fracture in connection.
When we try to pretend likewe're really there and we're not
, that can be perceived as youknow we're not being, um,

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vulnerable, or it could beperceived as you know we're
being insensitive.
Or it could be perceived as youknow we're being insensitive.
You know, whatever the case maybe, be really honest about that
, okay.
Next number eight authenticityhiding who you are because of
what you think people will thinkor how they'll feel You're
afraid you won't be loved.
You know that is actuallysabotaging you more than you'll

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ever know.
We talked about this in aprevious episode.
Your authentic self, who youare at the core, is key to
attracting and magnetizing thepeople, places and things that
are going to light your soul onfire.
Okay, but if we keep hidingthat and pretending to be
something that we're not, that'swhy we keep attracting people,
places and things that don'treally align with us, that don't

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feel good to us, that kind ofdrain our energy to be around,
because they're not made for theauthentic version of who we are
.
They're made for some otherversion that we've fabricated
because that's what we think weneed to be.
So I shared this practice inanother episode a couple weeks
ago.
So same thing.

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I want you to take yourrelationships into three
categories for this.
Okay, I want you to take whoyou are with your friends, who
you are with your family and whoyou are at work, because that's
usually where we have the mostdiscrepancy, right?
I want you to take who you arewith your family, who you are
with your friends and who youare with work.
I want you to write down whoyou're being.
So characteristicscharacteristics I'm coming with

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and then you can write down,like, who you're being with each
of those groups and who are youhiding.
So what parts of yourselves areyou hiding?
So two lists for each, and ofthe ones that you're being, I
want you to scratch out anythingthat's fake Like, just scratch
it out.
Scratch out anything that's fakethat you're putting on a show
with, okay, and then I want youto see where you're being your

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most authentic self.
Usually this is with family orfriends, depending, right, and I
want you to imagine, like ifyou were to be all of who you
are.
Like, now that you've scratchedout the fake parts, you have a
good idea of who your authenticself is.
So how can you start to addsome of those parts to yourself

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that maybe you're hiding?
Or how do you like, how can youstop trying to pretend that
you're something that you're notin all of those different
buckets and what would that looklike?
And maybe it's justimplementing one at a time and
you know just showing the worldwho you are a little, slowly
right and slowly becoming.

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You know putting away this ideathat you have to constantly be
altering or confining, um, oryou know molding yourself to fit
your environment and justtrying to be as authentic as you
can across the board, causethat's what's actually going to
make you magnetic,understandably.

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You know there's stuff aboutyourself that you probably
wouldn't want to show Like I'm apotty mouth.
I probably wouldn't want tobring that to the office.
You know Probably wouldn't, andyou know I probably wouldn't be
as strategic as I am in theoffice when I am with family and
friends.
That's fine, I'm okay with that.
But everything else, everythingelse should be pretty

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consistent, you know.
So there will be some nuance,yes, but for the most part, your
personality, who you are,should be consistent with all
three boxes.
So keep checking those threecolumns, right, keep checking
those three columns to see howyou can move more parts of you,

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um, unhide more parts of you,show more parts of you.
And, you know, just keepscratching out the stuff that's
inauthentic until you become thefullest, most authentic and
express version of yourself.
In all of these circumstances,okay, um, and last but not least
, oh my God, we did it.
I think we're at.
Oh my God, we're at.

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An hour and five minutes, Ithink, give or take, because I
had to cut off the call inmidway.
Energy mastery and calling yourpower back.
This is really important.
You guys, this is going to bethe biggest thing in terms of
what makes you magnetic as younavigate the world around you.
We give our power away to somany people for approval, for

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permission, for a paycheck, fora grade to be chosen.
In relationship, like for somany things, we give our power
away to so many people and wejump through hoops trying to
gain that approval, permissionor the being chosen, or getting
the grade, or getting the raise,or getting the promotion or

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whatever.
And, like I said, this goesback to that whole attachment.
As soon as you think you needsomething, you've already kind
of lost a piece of yourself.
So this is where we start tocall all those pieces of you
back.
This is where we start to callyour power back.
Okay, so the first part to this.
There's two parts.
The first part to this is totake note what environments you

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feel energized by and whatenvironments you feel drained by
.
Okay, this is very, very, veryimportant.
So I want you to have like alist Again.
Maybe you can use the same listfamily, friends, work, and
obviously work will be draining,obviously, like you know I
always say like you know.
I mean I think everybody shoulddo the thing that they would do

(01:09:09):
for free, because then itdoesn't even feel like work.
Yes, I'm a firm believer ofthat and that's why, you know,
this is so important to me,because I do.
In many ways, there's a lot ofthe podcast like I pretty much
do do for free, like I don'treally make anything off the
podcast.
Yes, it brings me some clientshere and there, but, like I mean
, this is my passion.

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You know, this is somethingthat I truly enjoy doing and I
cannot wait for the opportunityto monetize it more.
This is something that I trulyenjoy doing and I cannot wait
for the opportunity to monetizeit more.
But you know, that being said,many people, we always have to
do things that we don't want to,not always, sometimes.
Okay, here's the thing this isshifting and I'm not ready to

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have this conversation just yethere on the podcast.
But we are shifting out of thisparadigm where we feel like we
need to trade our time andenergy for money.
That's all shifting, but thatis not my conversation.
I will leave it.
I'm not ready to have that justyet.
What I am ready to say rightnow is that, yeah, there'll be
some trading time for money andyou'll be having to.

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You know we all have to dothings that you know maybe we
don't really enjoy that much,Like I know that there's some
aspects of even just thebusiness that I don't really
enjoy a hell of a lot.
Like I don't appreciate all theback end work.
I don't.
I don't appreciate trying to,you know, create the emails and

(01:10:38):
the landing pages, and it's notfun for me, you know.
But I do have to do it and itis part of, you know, living my
passion and doing the thingsthat I love doing, and maybe one
day I'll be able to hiresomebody to do that part for me,
but for now I do it on my own.
So, but the point is, overall,you should, it should be
something that you get somethingout of that gives you some sort
of energy back, which this doesright.
So, yes, although I have to dosome tasks that are draining and

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tedious I don't want to do itbut for the purpose of this,
overall, when I'm looking at it,I do get energy back because
I'm doing something that I feelvery passionate, excited about,
and we should all have that.
And if you don't have that inyour career, find it.
Find a project that excites youin your workplace, or find a
department that you can likevolunteer with to get that

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experience from, or find amentor that can do something to
give you that, because that isvery important.
I just got completely derailed.
So you're going to assess thosethree areas.
You know your relationships,your friendships, your family,
your work.
Where do you feel your energycome alive?
Where do you feel your energypumped and flourishing, and

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where do you feel it sort ofbecoming depressed or depleted?
Pay attention and, once youstart to get a clear picture of
what is creating more energy foryou, do more of those things
and less of the stuff thatdeplete you.
That's going to help bring yourenergy back online and get you

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back into your magnetic state.
And then another thing that youcan do is you start to call
your energy back from all thepeople, places and things that
you gave it away to.
So these are the people whobroke your heart.
These are the people who madeyou feel insecure.
Maybe they cheated on you,maybe they lied to you.
Maybe they mistreated you.
Maybe they took advantage ofyou.
Maybe they bullied you.
Maybe they put you down, maybe,whatever, whatever they fired
you.
You know all those people thatyou kind of left a piece of

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yourself with because you feltyou didn't feel like you were
good enough, or you felt likeyou know, that experience that
you had with them somehow madeyou feel less about yourself or
less worthy or not, as made youfeel not good enough or not
valuable enough or whatever,whatever enough you imagine.

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Or this can also be and I'veused this many times if there's
somebody in your life where youfeel like you're constantly
thinking about them and they'reconstantly on your mind, or
you're always afraid of whatthis person's going to think of
you, right?
We have that one person whereyou know when you, when you're
deciding on whether or not to dosomething, you always say, well
, how's that person going torespond, right, or what are they

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going to think, or whatreaction are they going to have?
Or maybe it's just evensometimes it's somebody who you
know you had a relationship withor an exchange with and for
some reason they're still onyour mind, like ages later,
years later, even right.
That's when you know there'slike a power imbalance in that
dynamic.
So here's a practice that Ilove to share with my clients

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and I do with myself many, many,many times.
So you're going to imaginethere's an energetic cord
between you.
Okay, so this is a visualizationexercise.
So you're going to imaginethere's an energetic cord
between you and said thing.
You can even do this with money, because so much of our world
has taught us to be dependentand give our power away to money

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.
So you can take your money backfrom your power by doing this,
and I've done this quite a bit.
So what you're going to do isyou're going to imagine a chord
between you and person or saidthing, and what you're going to
do is you're going to imaginethe energies between you
balancing out.
You give back what's theirs, youtake back what's yours.
You give back what's theirs,you take back what's yours, you

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even out the playing field andthen you start to see yourself
getting bigger and stronger andelevated and then, when you feel
complete, you snip that cord.
It's like a cord cuttingceremony, but it's different.
You know, just, you know Idon't like cord cutting
ceremonies, because peoplealways forget the important part
, which is to rebalance theenergy between the two energies.
Right, sometimes we cut thecord before we've done the

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balancing and we end up feelingwe're never incomplete, but we
feel incomplete, we feel likethere's still like something off
balance between the two.
So bring the energies intobalance.
First, take back what's yours,give back what is theirs.
Do this in the highestvibration of love and light,

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obviously, and then cut the cordbetween the two of you and send
them off.
Just if you can send them off,if they're still in your life,
then I love you.
But please stop.
Can't put up a boundary rightso that if you can do one of
these nine things every day,pick and choose whatever floats

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your boat.
Maybe try each of thesepractices for the next nine days
, one a day, or maybe do oneevery day for one week to really
like whatever.
Whatever works for you, butliterally doing one of these is
enough to get your energy backand magnetized within minutes.
Because, again, remember you're.

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You're taking back, worryingand attaching to what's going on
externally and what yourenvironment is doing and what
people in your environment doing.
You're bringing all that powerback internally and conserving
all that mental energy thatyou've been wasting trying to
process all that data andinformation.
And now your energy can be outthere in the world making a

(01:16:10):
magnetic impact in doing whatit's supposed to do for you.
So let me know which one ofthese really spoke to you.
I'm really curious.
Remember we had nine?
I know it's a lot.
So again, I'm going to try andpost like a cheat sheet on my
carousels or something on mysocial medias.
So make sure you're following meat the Femcast and there's also

(01:16:32):
going to be there's also goingto be a download for you.
I'm going to leave the detailsdown below where you can get
this masterclass, plus all theother series in the playlist.
Plus you're going to getaffirmations and journal prompts
to really just start to what'sit called just energetically

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integrate everything that we'retalking about here today.
Just energetically integrateeverything that we're talking
about here today.
And then the followingconversations are really going
to be more about you know howsome of these you know
restrictions or oppressions, howthey've impacted us through
time, how did the evolution ofthe feminine and how she's kind
of come to this point of healingand rising, and some of some of

(01:17:14):
the hindrances and supportsthat have kind of come along the
way, and how we can continue tosupport this journey forward as
a collective.
So really, really, reallypowerful conversations.
I can't wait to share them withyou guys, until next time.
Massive love.