October 2, 2025 • 43 mins
The label “angry feminist” has long been used to silence women, dismiss their voices, and keep them disempowered. But behind that label isn’t irrational rage—it’s centuries of generational trauma, systemic violence, and the deep desire for safety and equality.
In this unapologetic edition of The Feminine Awakening Series: Rebel, Rise, Radiate, I dismantle the stereotype of the “angry feminist” and reveal the truth: anger is not the enemy—it’s sacred wisdom. It’s the survival instinct of women who’ve been raped, beaten, harassed, and silenced for far too long.
Globally, 1 in 3 women experience physical or sexual violence—most often from an intimate partner. And yet, we’re still told to forgive quickly, to soften, to keep our hearts open… even when the world has not made itself safe for us.
I share my own story—being harassed, groped, and propositioned by men I trusted before I was even of age—and how those wounds shaped both my healing and my reclamation of feminine power. Like so many women, I still walk home with my keys spiked between my knuckles, check the back seat of my car, and text a friend before every first date. These are not signs of paranoia—they’re survival strategies.
But here’s the truth:
🎤 Anger is not a flaw—it’s a portal to liberation.
🎤 Boundaries are not walls—they’re proof of self-worth.
🎤 Healing isn’t about dismissing pain—it’s about transforming it into power.
🎤 True empowerment comes from balancing both masculine and feminine energies within us all.
This episode is more than a conversation—it’s a reclamation of voice, power, and possibility. Stop apologizing for your anger. Honor it as sacred. Use it to create a world where women are safe, valued, and free.
Ready to stop shrinking for others? Let this episode be your sign → Step into your Unapologetic Era: https://thefemmecast.com/breakthrough
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MARIA (00:00):
Hey guys, what is up?
And welcome back to the show.
I am so excited and grateful tohave you guys here.
Welcome if you're new.
Today is part three of theFeminine Awakening Edition.
Rebel, Rise and Radiate.
Please stop calling feministsangry feminists.
And maybe you haven't, andmaybe that's why you're here and
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you're listening to thisepisode.
But the world has got to stopcalling us feminists angry
feminists, or portraying us andlabeling us as angry feminists.
Um today we're going to talkabout the truth about feminism,
women, safety, and themasculine.
So, and if you haven't listenedto the masterclass episode yet,
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or the last couple of episodes,go listen to them now.
There is actually a link in theshow notes that'll give you
access to all of the um episodeswithin this playlist.
So there's going to be six intotal.
One is the master class, whichis the nine sacred feminine
superpowers, and then followedby five more episodes about how,
you know, our evolution andhealing the masculine and the
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feminine within, and how welearn to embody um our feminine
more.
So um sorry, I'm gettingnotifications.
Okay.
I've heard many people saythis, you know, oh, feminists
are just a bunch of angryfeminists, right?
Just portraying us as theseangry women who go around hating
on men, which I mean, yeah, youknow what, maybe there is some
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of those, but not all of us arelike that.
And I think that I think that,you know, this is again, I hate
to say this, but I think this ismore patriarchal conditioning
that is basically making womenfeel bad for being a feminist or
or deter wanting to deter womenfrom being a feminist.
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Because if you're a feminist,then you know, no one's gonna
love you, no one's gonna wantyou, you're never gonna be,
you're gonna, you're gonna die alonely cat lady, as some people
would love to call us.
Um by the way, I don't havecats.
Just saying.
Um, you know, like I it it isit is bad, it is more
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patriarchal conditioning to keepwomen and the feminine in a
disempowered state.
Now, I don't know if they'redoing this consciously or
unconsciously or subconsciously,but I don't know.
I'm finding it very hard tobelieve that they don't know
what they're doing when they dothis, you know?
It's like, you know, it's it'sit's the equivalent of like, and
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I see this all the time.
It's like, you know, somebodysteps into their power and
suddenly you make them feel likethat's somehow pad or butt
punishable, or they're gonna bealone if they do that, or no
one's gonna love them or wantthem.
Like, who's gonna want somebodylike you?
Right?
Or it's like the person who,you know, someone hurts you and
does a bad thing, and then whenyou call them out, you become
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the bad guy.
No.
Okay, we have to, we have tostart to be a little bit.
I'm not talking about beingguarded.
I am not talking about beinghateful or resentful towards
men.
There are many, I am tellingyou guys, there are many amazing
men out there who love being intheir heart space and who love
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opening their hearts up towomen.
Many.
And they are out there, butunfortunately, part of our task
is to be able to discern betweenthe two.
Okay, because they're not alllike that.
Just like not all women aregood women.
Like we're just people.
We're people, there are goodpeople, and there are bad
people.
And the reality is we need tobe able to discern between the
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two, and there's nothing wrongwith that.
And we need to be able to kindof stand up for ourselves and be
in our strength and set ourboundaries and be able to ask
what we want without beingashamed for that, like being
shamed for that, you know.
Um, so here's the thing.
Here's what I will say aboutthe feminist movement and the
healing that took place as aresult.
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Because, you know, I heard thisfrom a coach.
I heard a coach say this that,you know, all that's why when
you see feminists, they're allso angry.
They're angry, their carts areclosed off to men.
They've completely closed offto the masculine, you know.
Um, and it's like, because of,and and at first, you know, he
kind of said, you know, it'sbecause of, you know, centuries
of being oppressed and raped andstoned and burned at the cross.
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And and and, you know, but youknow, those days the the those
days are it's kind of likesaying, like, those days are
done.
Like, kind of like get beenthere, done that, get over it,
you know.
Um, and then, you know, kind ofwent on in one of his, you
know, um, what's it called, liveevents, making a woman who was
a rape victim look at a totalstranger of a man and say, you
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need to be able to see the Godin him, which is true.
We all have God within.
I believe that we do, but I'mnot about to tell a rape victim
to open her heart to a totalstranger and say and say, Hey,
you need to feel safe with thisdude, even though you have no
idea who he is.
You haven't like, no, no, wedon't do that.
We recognize, we have torecognize two things.
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There are good people on thisearth and there are bad people
on this earth, and that is justthe way it is.
Okay.
There are good energies andthere are bad energies, and we
need still need to practicediscernment.
Okay.
Um, and we need to be able tocall out when we're not being
treated fairly, when we're, youknow, we've gotten the short end
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of the stick, when ourboundaries aren't being
respected, when we're, you know,not given the opportunity to be
fully expressed and to be fullyourselves, when we're being
discriminated again against justfor being women, because it's
still happening.
And we get to say somethingabout it, and we get to say
something and not feel bad aboutit, and can still, and can
still be open-hearted, lovingwomen to the right person.
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Okay, again, discernment.
There was another point I wasgonna make to this.
Oh, that was the other point.
And the reality is is becausewe have good, but you know, we
have both good and bad people onthe planet, and you know, we're
all just kind of here, kind ofyou know, dwelling together.
And I I'm joking, but this isnot a joke.
There is still a ton ofviolence and crime that goes on
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against women.
Okay, women are attacked,raped, uh, and brutally abused
every day just for being women.
And I am not saying thatlightly.
Like the w like listen, we'vecome a long way, yeah, but we
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are not out of the woods yet.
I'm gonna read my notes nowbecause I want to make sure that
I don't I don't misquotesomething.
So globally, okay, and I checkthese stats with you know online
with Google and with ChatGPT,but globally, one in three women
will experience physical orsexual violence at the hands of
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a man, and most of those, mostof those will be from an
intimate partner.
Now, if that doesn't make youcrap your pants, I don't know
what will.
Okay, that accounts forapproximately, get this, a
staggering 641 million women.
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Okay.
None of this accounts for theones that go unreported because
the reality is that when, andI've I've been here where you,
you know, you got abused.
We don't know whether it wasemotional, for me it was more
emotional abuse.
It wasn't so much physicalabuse, but I have had my fair
share of uh what do you want tocall it?
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Like physical assaults, likesexual assaults, like not rape,
but where I was like gropedinappropriately or propositioned
inappropriately by somebodylike much older than me when I
was a child or when I was atwork and it was my boss, or you
know, when it was a totalstranger groping me, like, you
know, like at random and acrowded club, you know what I
mean?
Like roofing my drink.
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You know, these things happenand they they've I've
experienced them, and all of myfriends have experienced them.
We all have, you know, and itis still not a safe world for
women.
And we need to all, men andwomen, we need to, we need to
actually say it.
We need to actually call it outand say, hey, this is still not
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a safe world for a woman to bein.
And we need to make it safe.
So for all the men out therethat are like, you know,
preaching that, oh, you know,it's just, you know, women are
holding on to too much anger.
They need to open their hearts.
What are you gonna do to make asafe world for women?
Because we all need to be doingthat.
And if I'm gonna be called anangry feminist because I'm doing
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my part in doing that, then sofucking be it.
Call me an angry feminist.
Go for it.
But I am literally, I've I've,you know, I've done a lot of
work, you guys.
Like I did have a lot ofhealing to do because, like I
said, I was, you know,mistreated a lot by men.
I was um objectified a lot bymen, especially when I was
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younger and even when I wasolder and and and you know, kind
of making my way in my careerand in the workplace, you know.
Um, I was objectified by menagain and again and again.
And I had a lot of healing todo around that.
And I it really took a lot ofwork for me to be able to open
my heart up again um and feelsafe.
And you know what?
The only way I do that now isthrough a lot of discernment, a
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lot of discernment and reallybeing able to really assess who
those safe spaces are and reallytrusting and honoring what my
intuition is telling me andbeing unapologetic about when
it's telling me this isn't safe.
And and, you know, it happeneda couple months ago when I was
out there online dating again,where you know, somebody just
kept trying to get me alone.
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And I was like, listen, dude,not gonna happen.
Okay, I move at a glacial pace,deal with it.
Okay.
Um I am not gonna be alone witha total stranger.
That's just not how I do shitanymore.
Maybe that's how I did shitwhen I was younger, but I know
me.
I know, I know myself, I valuemyself, and I value um, you
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know, what I bring to the tablein a relationship, emotionally,
mentally, physically,energetically.
And I am not, I'm not, I am notgoing to put myself in a
situation where um, you know,I'm in a quiet um place with you
until I know for sure who youare and what you're all about.
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Because, you know, one in threewomen, guys, one in three
women, and most of them are fromintimate partners.
So, you know, and this personjust did not understand it,
couldn't understand why I keptputting up boundaries, couldn't
understand why I kept saying,you know, I prefer if we meet in
a public place, I prefer if,you know, whatever.
Couldn't get it.
So I cut it off very quickly.
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I think by like the second orthird date, I cut it off, or
like before the third date, Icut it off.
As we were getting ready forour third date, I think.
And I was like, no, I'm notplaying this game, you know, and
I've, you know, and it's it'snot, it's not because we're
angry.
It anger has nothing to do withit.
It's about being honest about,you know, the world we live in
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and being able to discern andset boundaries as we need to,
and being really clear andupfront about what we need in
order to feel safe.
So until we can create a safeworld where it's not dangerous
out there just because you're awoman and because you have long
hair, or because you're wearinga short skirt, or because you
know you're wearing like, youknow, whatever.
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This is this, this, this is howI choose to move through the
world.
I choose to move through theworld knowing that there are
amazing men out there.
And I've met so many of themwho have open hearts, who are
willing to love and respect awoman, to, to, to open their
heart to her and let her openher heart to him, and being able
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to be in this intimate,beautiful exchange with them,
and also, you know, being ableto like, you know, hold that
safe space, hold that structure,hold that foundation, right?
And being able to recognizethat not all men are like that.
And that's that's fine.
It's the evolution that we'removing through.
But I'm still gonna go outthere and I'm gonna, you know,
I'm gonna practice discernment.
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I'm gonna practice setting upboundaries, I'm gonna practice
expect expressing my truthunapologetically.
I'm gonna practice um, youknow, asking for what it is that
I need to feel safe in arelationship.
And if that's gonna be met withum pushback, then yeah, you are
gonna see an angry feminist.
I hate to say it, but bitch,it's what it is.
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Uh, and I'm okay with that.
Like, I am totally okay withthat.
But, you know, I kind of like Ikind of digress.
So, you know, let's talk about,let's go back because we talked
about this a little bit lastweek, and I want to kind of
touch back on this a little bitagain.
Feminists, uh the feministmovement in general, like femin,
fem women who identified asfeminists, yes, many of them
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were angry.
And to this this coach's point,yes, you know, we were healing
through a lot of generations oftrauma and abuse and persecution
and oppression and sexualviolence against women.
But like I said, we're notdone.
Like we're still here.
It's just, it's different now.
You know, it's a little bitmore socially acceptable trauma,
right?
And I'm laughing, but it's notfunny.
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Like, I, you know, when peoplesay, Yeah, but you know what?
Um, we we don't live in thosetimes anywhere, it's like, but
we do.
The crimes just look different.
But women are still beingpersecuted for being women and
still being assaulted just forbeing women.
And, you know, when I'm walkingdown the street, if I look a
certain way, if I walk a certainway, if somebody's around who
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thinks they have rights oraccess to my body, they will
take it.
You know, and it it it it'sit's and it even happens to men.
And it actually happens more tomen that we even know because
majority of men won't report it.
Because why?
Because they're not safe beingin their feminine, huh?
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Gee, I wonder.
Even this whole thing aboutlike how you're hearing online,
like I've I've heard some peoplesay this like this movement of
like how men are falling behindand women are getting ahead.
And it's like, well, maybethat's because men have not been
able to access their emotionalexperience.
Maybe that's because we need todo a better job as a society to
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create a safer environment formen to feel and heal a lot of
the emotions that they'reholding on to that keeps them
angry at women.
Maybe, right?
Maybe the healing is on bothsides of the aisle.
Sorry, but like, you know,like, yes, women have had to
heal a lot, and a lot of us aremoving through the healing right
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now, and we're in the thick ofit, and many of us have done
most of the work, and some of usare just getting started.
And it doesn't matter where youare on the journey, but the
important thing is that it's notjust our work to do, it's the
work of humanity as a whole.
We all need to heal and be morecomfortable being in our
feminine and create a safeenvironment for the feminine to
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thrive.
Safety is key.
So that's what we're gonna talkabout next is, you know, when
we created this feministmovement and you know, we
started to lay down it, itwasn't about anger towards men.
It was about creating equalityamong the sexes.
It was about never againdiscriminating on the basis of
sex, right?
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And creating a world where,whether man or woman, you had
equal access to voting rights,equal access to um to career, to
financial pay, to owningproperty, to having a bank
account.
Like these were the rights thatwe were fighting for as women,
okay?
We were fighting for our rightto vote, our right to be heard,
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our right to have a job, towork, to enter the workforce, to
go to school, um, to get adegree.
You know, this is what feministwas about.
Okay.
Were there some angry women inthere?
Sure.
Yeah, there were.
There were there were a lot ofangry women.
There still are.
But you know what?
Here's the thing.
As I said before in the lastepisode, you know, trauma needs
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safety to heal.
So what happened, I think, whenwe created the safe container
for the feminine for thefeminine to be reborn, what we
saw was just how fucking angryshe was of all the oppression,
the discrimination, the abuse,the persecution that that you
know, women have experienced forcenturies.
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And so a lot of women, what yousaw was a mass, and you're
still seeing it today, it's notdone yet.
Um, what you're seeing is thismass um purge, like this, this,
this um generational purge ofpast wounds that we've been
through in our lineage and pastlifetimes, that is just
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literally being unleashed on theplanet all at once.
So, what you're actually seeingis angry feminist is actually
an outpouring of the grief, ofthe rage, of the anger, of the
pain, of you know, all of theoppression and the abuse that
we've we've lived through againand again and again, again for
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centuries.
And I can attest to this.
I can attest to this.
I literally like, and we'lltalk about this in episode six,
but um, you know, when thefeminist movement, which was
about creating equality withinthe government, within our
schools, within our communities,within our um institutions, you
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know, that created that safecontainer for the feminist, the
feminine, the feminine that waswounded, that was hurt, that was
angry, that was full of rage,to be let out and to process all
of that sort emotion.
I'm my methods, if you'veworked with me, you know my
methods is, you know, emotionalalchemy and emotional
energetics.
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You know, we move throughunprocessed pain and trauma
that's stuck in the body, that'sstuck in the energy field.
We help you to move throughthat and we help you to process
that in a safe way, in anurturing way, in a way that
doesn't feel uncomfortable orscary.
And so that you could let itall out, let it be, and then
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move on and tapping into theemotion that's gonna help you
create what you want in yourlife.
This is essentially what'shappening on a collective scale
with the feminine, literally,like we're moving through and
processing generations ofemotions or trauma that we've
been holding on to forcenturies.
I said centuries one too manytimes.
But you know what I mean?
Like, and so I I get sofrustrated when people just go
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around and start labeling offall feminists as angry
feminists.
Like, we're not, and if we are,that's part of the healing too,
and that's okay.
And so, you know, ridiculingwomen for being angry about
oppression that's stillhappening, for being angry about
violence against women thatstill goes on today.
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Like, we're not out of thewoods, you guys.
Like, I'm so sick and tired ofpeople talking about it, like
it's something that happened inthe past, and we need to get
over it.
Oppression still exists,systemic oppression still
exists, violence against womenstill exists.
This it's in the stats.
One in three women willexperience some sort of sexual
or physical violence from a man,and most of them will be from
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an intimate partner.
These are real statistics, youguys.
Like, and I'm not saying thisto fear-monger you, I'm saying
this because we fucking stillhave work to do.
So go ahead, call me an angryfeminist if you so choose.
By all means, go for it.
I will continue to do thiswork, to speak up for women's
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rights, to speak up for fem forwomen's rights and for the
rights of and the and the andthe safe container for the
feminine to be in her beauty andher and her power and in her
creative, the creative lifeforce energy that she was put on
this earth to be, I willcontinue to fight for both of
those.
And I will continue to be asafe space for women who want to
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do this healing.
And I will continue to be thisvoice of, you know, what we're
just not gonna, like all the BSthat we're just not gonna
tolerate anymore.
Because I'll tell you onething, if the if life has taught
me anything, is that a lot ofthese beliefs that teach us to
doubt ourselves, that teach usto, and I've experienced this a
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lot in the spiritual community,you guys, not just about
feminine and and feminineenergetics and all that, like
manifestation, emotional, liketapping into your emotional, uh,
like emotional awareness.
There's a lot of judgment outthere, and there's a lot of
ideologies that are keeping usthis empowered.
The idea that we can't tap intoand fully feel our emotions,
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this idea that we have to alwaysbe positive, always be in love
and light, that we always, youknow, we always have to be in
gratitude and joy in order tomanifest good things.
Bullshit, bullshit.
The this thing that we alwaysneed to be able to forgive.
And if we're not forgiving,then um, yeah, for you know
what?
Yeah, for forgiveness is greatwhen you're ready.
You can't force it because whenyou force it, you almost set
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yourself up to re-traumatizeyourself, okay?
Um, and this whole idea thatyou know being angry is bad,
setting boundaries is bad.
You're a difficult person.
Um if you're a feminist, you'rean angry woman who's gonna end
up alone.
Um, you know, a a lonely catlady.
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Fine, buy me some cats, fuckoff.
Like, listen, we can love, andthis is where this is where I
think I want to leave this.
We can absolutely be inunconditional love, and we can
absolutely live with an openheart and still be angry.
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We can be in love and stillcall out bad behavior, we can be
in love and be open-hearted andstill be able to set healthy
boundaries with people and sayand be honest about what we will
and won't tolerate from them.
We can still be in love and anopen heart and still just be
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able to discern who we give ourtime and our energy to and who
we open ourselves up to andallow ourselves to be
vulnerable.
Both can coexist.
We don't have to feel bad forbeing angry anymore.
Angry is a very powerfulemotion.
It is a guide, it is a teacher,it is wisdom.
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We just need to learn how towork with it, right?
I think the mistake that we'vemade with anger, all of us, men
and women, is we've eithersuppressed it or projected it.
So we've either like swallowedit and let it live inside of us
somewhere, and and and you know,tried to pretend that it wasn't
didn't exist and it wasn'tthere when it actually really
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was, and it was creating amuckin our lives energetically.
Been there done that.
Or we've projected it ontoother people around it.
We've taken it out on otherpeople, we've we've spewed it in
our relationships in our lives,create saying and doing very
damaging, hurtful things.
Been there done that too.
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What can I say?
Um you know, but you know whathappens when we actually learn
to harness the power of movingthrough that and allowing it to
just be present and to do itswork because I'm telling you,
every emotion leads to alchemyif you let it.
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We just need to lead to learnhow to let it.
Okay.
Um, so I'm just gonna actuallyquickly take a peek of my notes
here and see if there's anythingthat I've missed because
there's so much I wanted to saytoday, and I I hope, I can only
hope that I articulated that ina way that actually made sense.
Because I realize like I said alot in a very short period of
time, we jumped back and forth,but you know, and I will say
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this, you know, to to the men,and I'm just seeing the notes
right now, and I just I lovethis, you know.
For one, well, not this part,but you know, for a woman who
has been, like I said,assaulted, like physically
assaulted, where I've beentouched inappropriately or
groped by somebody who, youknow, did not have my permission
to touch or grope me.
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From a woman who's been, youknow, roofied, um, and you know,
not in control of herfaculties.
And thank God she had some, youknow, good people around her
that were like watching out forher at the time.
For a woman who has beeninappropriately propositioned by
the adults in the room when shewas a child.
Um, I can remember, actually,this is a funny story.
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Um, when I talk about feminineanger.
So I think I was 11 years oldat the time.
And this friend of the familywho everyone seemed to like,
it's always the one thateveryone loves, you know, it's
always the one that everyoneloves that is the most
charismatic, that always makeswomen feel giddy.
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You know, it's always those,right?
Um, who was like, I was 11 atthe time.
I think he was like, I don'tknow, 50, right?
This older hokey man who wouldalways look at me like I like I
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was like, I don't know, a steakdinner, you know, at 11.
And it made me so uncomfortablethe way he looked at me.
Um and I can remember like, youknow, being because he was like
a friend of the family, and Ican remember like every time,
you know, the the the family waslike distracted or doing
things, he would always like betouching me under the table or
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looking at me or doing likeobscene things with his face and
his mouth.
And I just wanted to, I want tovomit in my mouth still now
when I think about it.
Like it was that offensive tome.
And I can remember, oh my god,one time we had gone to the
beach, we had a we had a familybeach day, and we were out there
and we were swimming in thewater, and um, you know, all of
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a sudden, like we're all outthere, we're all swimming, we're
all playing, and I was kind ofI don't know why, but I was kind
of like separate from everyoneelse.
I think I was looking atsomething in the water, or I
don't know.
Anyway, but either way, I waskind of like my family was all
like all over there, and I waskind of off in my own direction.
And all of a sudden, I feellike something grabbed me under
the water, and he literally likegrabbed my thighs and started
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like stroking his hand upward.
I kid you not, this big,beastly, like hulky man, like
50-year-old, big belly, probablyat least like maybe like 5'11,
maybe six feet.
Big, huge man.
And this little 11-year-oldgirl, he's underwater, like
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basically trying to like rope meand moving towards my crotch.
I at this point have had itbecause nobody's believing me.
Like, the I don't like the waythis guy's touching me.
And what did I do?
Oh, did my masculine step up tothe plate because that little
11-year-old girl, he wasunderwater, he had his head
underwater.
That little 11-year-old girlgrabbed his head.
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Actually, grabbed him by thethroat.
Oh my god, I can't believe Idid this.
Grabbed him by the throat andstarted holding his head
underwater because I was filledwith so much rage and anger.
And then I thank God my familywas like close by and they like
literally like pried me off ofhim.
Um, but it took like it tooklike five or six people to pry
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me off of him and like get himto let him go.
And my cousins were big dudesat the time, like they were
pretty strong, and it it tookthem, it took five of them to
like pry me off of this man, andso that he can kind of get up
above water and breathe again.
And let me tell you, he neverfucking touched me again ever
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after that.
Now, he wasn't the last personto make an attempt.
That wasn't the last, you know,time I had to deal with, you
know, people touching meinappropriately or uh, you know,
inappropriate propositions oranything like that in the
workplace and socialenvironments or whatever.
And, you know, there I had along journey of experiences like
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that from the time that I was11 years old till right up
until, you know, my corporatejob a few years ago, where, you
know, it was it was evidentlyclear that, you know, uh
somebody that I was working forhad other interests in me other
than just my work, right?
And it created a veryuncomfortable situation for me.
Um, and so, you know, I mean, Isay all this to say, you know,
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I had to, my, I literally had tostep into my masculine in that
moment because nobody wascreating a safe space for me.
And so I had to create thatsafe space for myself.
And the reality is, is that,you know, even though I've done
a lot of healing around this,and that's why I'm able to talk
about this so lightheartedly.
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I'm I'm not I'm not in aposition to talk about this in a
lighthearted way if I hadn'tdone the work on a lot of these
incidences that have happened tome in my life, um, you know,
repeatedly.
But, you know, the reality.
Is we still live in a worldthat is unsafe for women.
And so, you know, um, I stillwalk home with my keys clutched
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in my knuckles in case I have tolike, you know, hit somebody.
I still check the backseat ofmy car before I get into it.
You know, um, I still pick upmy phone and pretend to talk to
somebody on the phone when I'mwalking through a dark path or
whatever, and I don't feel safeat night.
And I see somebody around me,sometimes even in the daytime,
if I see someone around me who Iget like a weird vibe from,
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I'll pick up my phone and startpretending that I'm talking to
somebody on the phone.
Like I still have to do thesethings.
And that's because we have not,we have failed to create a
world that is safe for women.
Um, we still have a lot of workto do.
And, you know, calling us angryfeminists for um, you know,
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screaming for our rights andsetting our boundaries and and
trying to create a better world,a safer world for women, a more
equal world for women.
It's like, dude, maybe you needto do some healing.
You know, like maybe it's yourturn to do some of the healing
that you keep pushing on women,you know.
That's just maybe a little bit,right?
Um, because the reality isthat, you know, we shouldn't
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have to be, we shouldn't have toput our keys in our knuckles or
pick up our phone or you know,check our backseat of our car.
Or the worst part is textingyour friend to let them know
you're going out on a blind dateand this is where you're going,
and this is the person'sprofile and their name and where
you found them, just in caseyou happen to go missing the
next day.
You know what I mean?
Like, I mean, these are theseare really weird things.
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And again, even the whole umthe the inequality in pay, the
the fact that you know, so manyof our rights are being taken
away, depending on where youlive as women, you know, I we
still have work to do.
We're not done.
So if they're gonna call usangry feminists, fine.
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But the reality is, is we'renot gonna feel bad for fighting
for something that we as allhumans should have access to.
And it is actually our femininethat is begging for this.
It is actually our femininethat is begging for the safe
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container so that she couldfully relax and rest and be in
her creative mastery, in heremotional mastery, right?
Her her divine intelligence,her her magic.
She wants this.
So let's create it.
We have to create a world thatis safer for all of us, and that
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includes creating a world thatis safer for men to be in their
feminine energy because theyhaven't felt safe either.
And I think you know, to saythat this narrative that the key
to healing the relationship andlife and family is to put women
back in the home and besubmissive.
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I mean, I I that is that is howwe keep society, not women, but
society um in a disempoweredstate, men and women alike.
Because the reality is that,like I said, we have so much
creative power and energy aswomen, and there's so many
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things that we can do.
Yes, we can birth amazingchildren and we can raise
amazing families, but for manyof us, you know, the path is
very different.
For me, that was a lot of thattook a lot of healing.
I wanted children, I've alwayswanted children, but it never
happened for me.
And for years I was bitter andresentful about this, but now I
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realize, you know what, life wasjust meant to take me down a
different path.
And I couldn't have gone downthat path if I had children.
And so, and there's so manywomen out there who want
children so desperately, whocan't have them.
What are they like, do they dothey not hold a place in
society?
Like, you know, like there'sjust so many things where we
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make, we try to make thingsblack and white and they're not,
you know, we're so much morethan that.
And we carry so much more powerand wisdom and creation than
that.
And the more that we continueto oppress women and the
feminine, the real feminine, notthe feminine that, you know,
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we're being we're that is beingshoved in our throats right now
to serve a patriarchal agenda,but the real feminine, the real
feminine power.
And if you're, you know, if youwant to harness some of those
skills, you know, go back andcheck um the first part of the
series where I talked about thenine sacred feminine superpowers
that are literally gonna makeyou powerful and magnetic as
fuck.
I'm not even joking, um, withinminutes of doing some of those
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practices.
Okay.
I I really believe that we'redoing all of us an injustice by
not, if we don't create a safespace for that to flourish in
all of us.
Um and it's not like again,it's not the it's not this,
this, this picture that we'rebeing fed by a patriarchal
agenda that keeps us in adisempowered state, men and
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women.
It's actually coming into intobalance and harmonizing the
masculine and feminine withineach of us that makes us
powerful and unstoppable.
And they don't want you to knowthat.
Because how would they controlyou if you did?
They couldn't.
So keep leaning in.
The fact that they are gettingmore, the patriarchy is getting
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more aggressive, the fact thatthey're getting more offensive
with how much the lengths thatthey're going to to push these
ideologies onto us is proof thatthey are getting nervous.
So do not stop.
Do not stop.
I don't care if they call youan angry feminist, a lonely cat
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lady.
I don't care.
Keep going.
Okay.
Yes, there are fucking amazingmen out there who are fully
capable of being in their heartsand expressing emotion and
being in their feeling in theiremotional body and connecting on
such a deep level.
And then there are others whoaren't.
And that's fine because whatwe're doing is creating a safe
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world for the feminine to thrivein men and women and non-binary
and all people in general.
It's time that we let thefeminine out of the box.
It's time that we let Pandoraout of the box so that she can
work some magic in this worldbecause the world needs magic.
And that only starts when westart to balance those energies
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within ourselves.
So use your masculine, but alsouse and harness the power of
your feminine and try to useboth these sides of you.
So the feminine is, you know,the, and we'll talk more about
this.
The feminine is, you know, thefeeling, the intuition, um, the
emotional, the creative energy,and then the masculine is the
physical, the thought, thelogic, the strategy, right?
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The hunter, the gatherer,right?
So use both.
Use both to your advantage.
Be comfortable being in both.
That is when you tap into yourpower.
And as you start to do that,more and more people like we're
literally like we're creatinglike a like like a what's it
called?
Um, we're creating a movementthat starts with each and every
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one of us individually.
We can't teach people how tobe, I mean, we can.
We can share what we're doingand how we're learning, like I'm
doing with you guys, but it'sup to you if you want to follow
what I'm doing.
I'm just over here trying tolike balance these energies
within me, right?
And I'm sharing with you howI'm doing it and the nine
practices I shared last week,totally life-changing for me.
So have a look at those.
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The link is in the show notes.
Um, you can sign up to get theentire playlist, the journal
prompts, and the affirmations.
And I will see you guys herenext week with or next, no, not
next week, later this week.
Because I think this is this isgoing live on Monday.
So there'll be another episodeout on Thursday.
That is all for now, you guys.
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Until next time, massive love.
Hey guys, what is up?
And welcome back to the show.
I am so excited and grateful tohave you guys here.
Welcome if you're new.
Today is part three of theFeminine Awakening Edition.
Rebel, Rise and Radiate.
Please stop calling feministsangry feminists.
And maybe you haven't, andmaybe that's why you're here and
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you're listening to thisepisode.
But the world has got to stopcalling us feminists angry
feminists, or portraying us andlabeling us as angry feminists.
Um today we're going to talkabout the truth about feminism,
women, safety, and themasculine.
So, and if you haven't listenedto the masterclass episode yet,
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or the last couple of episodes,go listen to them now.
There is actually a link in theshow notes that'll give you
access to all of the um episodeswithin this playlist.
So there's going to be six intotal.
One is the master class, whichis the nine sacred feminine
superpowers, and then followedby five more episodes about how,
you know, our evolution andhealing the masculine and the
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feminine within, and how welearn to embody um our feminine
more.
So um sorry, I'm gettingnotifications.
Okay.
I've heard many people saythis, you know, oh, feminists
are just a bunch of angryfeminists, right?
Just portraying us as theseangry women who go around hating
on men, which I mean, yeah, youknow what, maybe there is some
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of those, but not all of us arelike that.
And I think that I think that,you know, this is again, I hate
to say this, but I think this ismore patriarchal conditioning
that is basically making womenfeel bad for being a feminist or
or deter wanting to deter womenfrom being a feminist.
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Because if you're a feminist,then you know, no one's gonna
love you, no one's gonna wantyou, you're never gonna be,
you're gonna, you're gonna die alonely cat lady, as some people
would love to call us.
Um by the way, I don't havecats.
Just saying.
Um, you know, like I it it isit is bad, it is more
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patriarchal conditioning to keepwomen and the feminine in a
disempowered state.
Now, I don't know if they'redoing this consciously or
unconsciously or subconsciously,but I don't know.
I'm finding it very hard tobelieve that they don't know
what they're doing when they dothis, you know?
It's like, you know, it's it'sit's the equivalent of like, and
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I see this all the time.
It's like, you know, somebodysteps into their power and
suddenly you make them feel likethat's somehow pad or butt
punishable, or they're gonna bealone if they do that, or no
one's gonna love them or wantthem.
Like, who's gonna want somebodylike you?
Right?
Or it's like the person who,you know, someone hurts you and
does a bad thing, and then whenyou call them out, you become
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the bad guy.
No.
Okay, we have to, we have tostart to be a little bit.
I'm not talking about beingguarded.
I am not talking about beinghateful or resentful towards
men.
There are many, I am tellingyou guys, there are many amazing
men out there who love being intheir heart space and who love
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opening their hearts up towomen.
Many.
And they are out there, butunfortunately, part of our task
is to be able to discern betweenthe two.
Okay, because they're not alllike that.
Just like not all women aregood women.
Like we're just people.
We're people, there are goodpeople, and there are bad
people.
And the reality is we need tobe able to discern between the
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two, and there's nothing wrongwith that.
And we need to be able to kindof stand up for ourselves and be
in our strength and set ourboundaries and be able to ask
what we want without beingashamed for that, like being
shamed for that, you know.
Um, so here's the thing.
Here's what I will say aboutthe feminist movement and the
healing that took place as aresult.
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Because, you know, I heard thisfrom a coach.
I heard a coach say this that,you know, all that's why when
you see feminists, they're allso angry.
They're angry, their carts areclosed off to men.
They've completely closed offto the masculine, you know.
Um, and it's like, because of,and and at first, you know, he
kind of said, you know, it'sbecause of, you know, centuries
of being oppressed and raped andstoned and burned at the cross.
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And and and, you know, but youknow, those days the the those
days are it's kind of likesaying, like, those days are
done.
Like, kind of like get beenthere, done that, get over it,
you know.
Um, and then, you know, kind ofwent on in one of his, you
know, um, what's it called, liveevents, making a woman who was
a rape victim look at a totalstranger of a man and say, you
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need to be able to see the Godin him, which is true.
We all have God within.
I believe that we do, but I'mnot about to tell a rape victim
to open her heart to a totalstranger and say and say, Hey,
you need to feel safe with thisdude, even though you have no
idea who he is.
You haven't like, no, no, wedon't do that.
We recognize, we have torecognize two things.
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There are good people on thisearth and there are bad people
on this earth, and that is justthe way it is.
Okay.
There are good energies andthere are bad energies, and we
need still need to practicediscernment.
Okay.
Um, and we need to be able tocall out when we're not being
treated fairly, when we're, youknow, we've gotten the short end
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of the stick, when ourboundaries aren't being
respected, when we're, you know,not given the opportunity to be
fully expressed and to be fullyourselves, when we're being
discriminated again against justfor being women, because it's
still happening.
And we get to say somethingabout it, and we get to say
something and not feel bad aboutit, and can still, and can
still be open-hearted, lovingwomen to the right person.
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Okay, again, discernment.
There was another point I wasgonna make to this.
Oh, that was the other point.
And the reality is is becausewe have good, but you know, we
have both good and bad people onthe planet, and you know, we're
all just kind of here, kind ofyou know, dwelling together.
And I I'm joking, but this isnot a joke.
There is still a ton ofviolence and crime that goes on
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against women.
Okay, women are attacked,raped, uh, and brutally abused
every day just for being women.
And I am not saying thatlightly.
Like the w like listen, we'vecome a long way, yeah, but we
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are not out of the woods yet.
I'm gonna read my notes nowbecause I want to make sure that
I don't I don't misquotesomething.
So globally, okay, and I checkthese stats with you know online
with Google and with ChatGPT,but globally, one in three women
will experience physical orsexual violence at the hands of
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a man, and most of those, mostof those will be from an
intimate partner.
Now, if that doesn't make youcrap your pants, I don't know
what will.
Okay, that accounts forapproximately, get this, a
staggering 641 million women.
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Okay.
None of this accounts for theones that go unreported because
the reality is that when, andI've I've been here where you,
you know, you got abused.
We don't know whether it wasemotional, for me it was more
emotional abuse.
It wasn't so much physicalabuse, but I have had my fair
share of uh what do you want tocall it?
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Like physical assaults, likesexual assaults, like not rape,
but where I was like gropedinappropriately or propositioned
inappropriately by somebodylike much older than me when I
was a child or when I was atwork and it was my boss, or you
know, when it was a totalstranger groping me, like, you
know, like at random and acrowded club, you know what I
mean?
Like roofing my drink.
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You know, these things happenand they they've I've
experienced them, and all of myfriends have experienced them.
We all have, you know, and itis still not a safe world for
women.
And we need to all, men andwomen, we need to, we need to
actually say it.
We need to actually call it outand say, hey, this is still not
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a safe world for a woman to bein.
And we need to make it safe.
So for all the men out therethat are like, you know,
preaching that, oh, you know,it's just, you know, women are
holding on to too much anger.
They need to open their hearts.
What are you gonna do to make asafe world for women?
Because we all need to be doingthat.
And if I'm gonna be called anangry feminist because I'm doing
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my part in doing that, then sofucking be it.
Call me an angry feminist.
Go for it.
But I am literally, I've I've,you know, I've done a lot of
work, you guys.
Like I did have a lot ofhealing to do because, like I
said, I was, you know,mistreated a lot by men.
I was um objectified a lot bymen, especially when I was
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younger and even when I wasolder and and and you know, kind
of making my way in my careerand in the workplace, you know.
Um, I was objectified by menagain and again and again.
And I had a lot of healing todo around that.
And I it really took a lot ofwork for me to be able to open
my heart up again um and feelsafe.
And you know what?
The only way I do that now isthrough a lot of discernment, a
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lot of discernment and reallybeing able to really assess who
those safe spaces are and reallytrusting and honoring what my
intuition is telling me andbeing unapologetic about when
it's telling me this isn't safe.
And and, you know, it happeneda couple months ago when I was
out there online dating again,where you know, somebody just
kept trying to get me alone.
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And I was like, listen, dude,not gonna happen.
Okay, I move at a glacial pace,deal with it.
Okay.
Um I am not gonna be alone witha total stranger.
That's just not how I do shitanymore.
Maybe that's how I did shitwhen I was younger, but I know
me.
I know, I know myself, I valuemyself, and I value um, you
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know, what I bring to the tablein a relationship, emotionally,
mentally, physically,energetically.
And I am not, I'm not, I am notgoing to put myself in a
situation where um, you know,I'm in a quiet um place with you
until I know for sure who youare and what you're all about.
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Because, you know, one in threewomen, guys, one in three
women, and most of them are fromintimate partners.
So, you know, and this personjust did not understand it,
couldn't understand why I keptputting up boundaries, couldn't
understand why I kept saying,you know, I prefer if we meet in
a public place, I prefer if,you know, whatever.
Couldn't get it.
So I cut it off very quickly.
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I think by like the second orthird date, I cut it off, or
like before the third date, Icut it off.
As we were getting ready forour third date, I think.
And I was like, no, I'm notplaying this game, you know, and
I've, you know, and it's it'snot, it's not because we're
angry.
It anger has nothing to do withit.
It's about being honest about,you know, the world we live in
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and being able to discern andset boundaries as we need to,
and being really clear andupfront about what we need in
order to feel safe.
So until we can create a safeworld where it's not dangerous
out there just because you're awoman and because you have long
hair, or because you're wearinga short skirt, or because you
know you're wearing like, youknow, whatever.
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This is this, this, this is howI choose to move through the
world.
I choose to move through theworld knowing that there are
amazing men out there.
And I've met so many of themwho have open hearts, who are
willing to love and respect awoman, to, to, to open their
heart to her and let her openher heart to him, and being able
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to be in this intimate,beautiful exchange with them,
and also, you know, being ableto like, you know, hold that
safe space, hold that structure,hold that foundation, right?
And being able to recognizethat not all men are like that.
And that's that's fine.
It's the evolution that we'removing through.
But I'm still gonna go outthere and I'm gonna, you know,
I'm gonna practice discernment.
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I'm gonna practice setting upboundaries, I'm gonna practice
expect expressing my truthunapologetically.
I'm gonna practice um, youknow, asking for what it is that
I need to feel safe in arelationship.
And if that's gonna be met withum pushback, then yeah, you are
gonna see an angry feminist.
I hate to say it, but bitch,it's what it is.
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Uh, and I'm okay with that.
Like, I am totally okay withthat.
But, you know, I kind of like Ikind of digress.
So, you know, let's talk about,let's go back because we talked
about this a little bit lastweek, and I want to kind of
touch back on this a little bitagain.
Feminists, uh the feministmovement in general, like femin,
fem women who identified asfeminists, yes, many of them
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were angry.
And to this this coach's point,yes, you know, we were healing
through a lot of generations oftrauma and abuse and persecution
and oppression and sexualviolence against women.
But like I said, we're notdone.
Like we're still here.
It's just, it's different now.
You know, it's a little bitmore socially acceptable trauma,
right?
And I'm laughing, but it's notfunny.
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Like, I, you know, when peoplesay, Yeah, but you know what?
Um, we we don't live in thosetimes anywhere, it's like, but
we do.
The crimes just look different.
But women are still beingpersecuted for being women and
still being assaulted just forbeing women.
And, you know, when I'm walkingdown the street, if I look a
certain way, if I walk a certainway, if somebody's around who
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thinks they have rights oraccess to my body, they will
take it.
You know, and it it it it'sit's and it even happens to men.
And it actually happens more tomen that we even know because
majority of men won't report it.
Because why?
Because they're not safe beingin their feminine, huh?
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Gee, I wonder.
Even this whole thing aboutlike how you're hearing online,
like I've I've heard some peoplesay this like this movement of
like how men are falling behindand women are getting ahead.
And it's like, well, maybethat's because men have not been
able to access their emotionalexperience.
Maybe that's because we need todo a better job as a society to
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create a safer environment formen to feel and heal a lot of
the emotions that they'reholding on to that keeps them
angry at women.
Maybe, right?
Maybe the healing is on bothsides of the aisle.
Sorry, but like, you know,like, yes, women have had to
heal a lot, and a lot of us aremoving through the healing right
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now, and we're in the thick ofit, and many of us have done
most of the work, and some of usare just getting started.
And it doesn't matter where youare on the journey, but the
important thing is that it's notjust our work to do, it's the
work of humanity as a whole.
We all need to heal and be morecomfortable being in our
feminine and create a safeenvironment for the feminine to
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thrive.
Safety is key.
So that's what we're gonna talkabout next is, you know, when
we created this feministmovement and you know, we
started to lay down it, itwasn't about anger towards men.
It was about creating equalityamong the sexes.
It was about never againdiscriminating on the basis of
sex, right?
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And creating a world where,whether man or woman, you had
equal access to voting rights,equal access to um to career, to
financial pay, to owningproperty, to having a bank
account.
Like these were the rights thatwe were fighting for as women,
okay?
We were fighting for our rightto vote, our right to be heard,
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our right to have a job, towork, to enter the workforce, to
go to school, um, to get adegree.
You know, this is what feministwas about.
Okay.
Were there some angry women inthere?
Sure.
Yeah, there were.
There were there were a lot ofangry women.
There still are.
But you know what?
Here's the thing.
As I said before in the lastepisode, you know, trauma needs
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safety to heal.
So what happened, I think, whenwe created the safe container
for the feminine for thefeminine to be reborn, what we
saw was just how fucking angryshe was of all the oppression,
the discrimination, the abuse,the persecution that that you
know, women have experienced forcenturies.
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And so a lot of women, what yousaw was a mass, and you're
still seeing it today, it's notdone yet.
Um, what you're seeing is thismass um purge, like this, this,
this um generational purge ofpast wounds that we've been
through in our lineage and pastlifetimes, that is just
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literally being unleashed on theplanet all at once.
So, what you're actually seeingis angry feminist is actually
an outpouring of the grief, ofthe rage, of the anger, of the
pain, of you know, all of theoppression and the abuse that
we've we've lived through againand again and again, again for
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centuries.
And I can attest to this.
I can attest to this.
I literally like, and we'lltalk about this in episode six,
but um, you know, when thefeminist movement, which was
about creating equality withinthe government, within our
schools, within our communities,within our um institutions, you
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know, that created that safecontainer for the feminist, the
feminine, the feminine that waswounded, that was hurt, that was
angry, that was full of rage,to be let out and to process all
of that sort emotion.
I'm my methods, if you'veworked with me, you know my
methods is, you know, emotionalalchemy and emotional
energetics.
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You know, we move throughunprocessed pain and trauma
that's stuck in the body, that'sstuck in the energy field.
We help you to move throughthat and we help you to process
that in a safe way, in anurturing way, in a way that
doesn't feel uncomfortable orscary.
And so that you could let itall out, let it be, and then
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move on and tapping into theemotion that's gonna help you
create what you want in yourlife.
This is essentially what'shappening on a collective scale
with the feminine, literally,like we're moving through and
processing generations ofemotions or trauma that we've
been holding on to forcenturies.
I said centuries one too manytimes.
But you know what I mean?
Like, and so I I get sofrustrated when people just go
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around and start labeling offall feminists as angry
feminists.
Like, we're not, and if we are,that's part of the healing too,
and that's okay.
And so, you know, ridiculingwomen for being angry about
oppression that's stillhappening, for being angry about
violence against women thatstill goes on today.
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Like, we're not out of thewoods, you guys.
Like, I'm so sick and tired ofpeople talking about it, like
it's something that happened inthe past, and we need to get
over it.
Oppression still exists,systemic oppression still
exists, violence against womenstill exists.
This it's in the stats.
One in three women willexperience some sort of sexual
or physical violence from a man,and most of them will be from
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an intimate partner.
These are real statistics, youguys.
Like, and I'm not saying thisto fear-monger you, I'm saying
this because we fucking stillhave work to do.
So go ahead, call me an angryfeminist if you so choose.
By all means, go for it.
I will continue to do thiswork, to speak up for women's
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rights, to speak up for fem forwomen's rights and for the
rights of and the and the andthe safe container for the
feminine to be in her beauty andher and her power and in her
creative, the creative lifeforce energy that she was put on
this earth to be, I willcontinue to fight for both of
those.
And I will continue to be asafe space for women who want to
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do this healing.
And I will continue to be thisvoice of, you know, what we're
just not gonna, like all the BSthat we're just not gonna
tolerate anymore.
Because I'll tell you onething, if the if life has taught
me anything, is that a lot ofthese beliefs that teach us to
doubt ourselves, that teach usto, and I've experienced this a
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lot in the spiritual community,you guys, not just about
feminine and and feminineenergetics and all that, like
manifestation, emotional, liketapping into your emotional, uh,
like emotional awareness.
There's a lot of judgment outthere, and there's a lot of
ideologies that are keeping usthis empowered.
The idea that we can't tap intoand fully feel our emotions,
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this idea that we have to alwaysbe positive, always be in love
and light, that we always, youknow, we always have to be in
gratitude and joy in order tomanifest good things.
Bullshit, bullshit.
The this thing that we alwaysneed to be able to forgive.
And if we're not forgiving,then um, yeah, for you know
what?
Yeah, for forgiveness is greatwhen you're ready.
You can't force it because whenyou force it, you almost set
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yourself up to re-traumatizeyourself, okay?
Um, and this whole idea thatyou know being angry is bad,
setting boundaries is bad.
You're a difficult person.
Um if you're a feminist, you'rean angry woman who's gonna end
up alone.
Um, you know, a a lonely catlady.
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Fine, buy me some cats, fuckoff.
Like, listen, we can love, andthis is where this is where I
think I want to leave this.
We can absolutely be inunconditional love, and we can
absolutely live with an openheart and still be angry.
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We can be in love and stillcall out bad behavior, we can be
in love and be open-hearted andstill be able to set healthy
boundaries with people and sayand be honest about what we will
and won't tolerate from them.
We can still be in love and anopen heart and still just be
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able to discern who we give ourtime and our energy to and who
we open ourselves up to andallow ourselves to be
vulnerable.
Both can coexist.
We don't have to feel bad forbeing angry anymore.
Angry is a very powerfulemotion.
It is a guide, it is a teacher,it is wisdom.
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We just need to learn how towork with it, right?
I think the mistake that we'vemade with anger, all of us, men
and women, is we've eithersuppressed it or projected it.
So we've either like swallowedit and let it live inside of us
somewhere, and and and you know,tried to pretend that it wasn't
didn't exist and it wasn'tthere when it actually really
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was, and it was creating amuckin our lives energetically.
Been there done that.
Or we've projected it ontoother people around it.
We've taken it out on otherpeople, we've we've spewed it in
our relationships in our lives,create saying and doing very
damaging, hurtful things.
Been there done that too.
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What can I say?
Um you know, but you know whathappens when we actually learn
to harness the power of movingthrough that and allowing it to
just be present and to do itswork because I'm telling you,
every emotion leads to alchemyif you let it.
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We just need to lead to learnhow to let it.
Okay.
Um, so I'm just gonna actuallyquickly take a peek of my notes
here and see if there's anythingthat I've missed because
there's so much I wanted to saytoday, and I I hope, I can only
hope that I articulated that ina way that actually made sense.
Because I realize like I said alot in a very short period of
time, we jumped back and forth,but you know, and I will say
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this, you know, to to the men,and I'm just seeing the notes
right now, and I just I lovethis, you know.
For one, well, not this part,but you know, for a woman who
has been, like I said,assaulted, like physically
assaulted, where I've beentouched inappropriately or
groped by somebody who, youknow, did not have my permission
to touch or grope me.
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From a woman who's been, youknow, roofied, um, and you know,
not in control of herfaculties.
And thank God she had some, youknow, good people around her
that were like watching out forher at the time.
For a woman who has beeninappropriately propositioned by
the adults in the room when shewas a child.
Um, I can remember, actually,this is a funny story.
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Um, when I talk about feminineanger.
So I think I was 11 years oldat the time.
And this friend of the familywho everyone seemed to like,
it's always the one thateveryone loves, you know, it's
always the one that everyoneloves that is the most
charismatic, that always makeswomen feel giddy.
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You know, it's always those,right?
Um, who was like, I was 11 atthe time.
I think he was like, I don'tknow, 50, right?
This older hokey man who wouldalways look at me like I like I
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was like, I don't know, a steakdinner, you know, at 11.
And it made me so uncomfortablethe way he looked at me.
Um and I can remember like, youknow, being because he was like
a friend of the family, and Ican remember like every time,
you know, the the the family waslike distracted or doing
things, he would always like betouching me under the table or
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looking at me or doing likeobscene things with his face and
his mouth.
And I just wanted to, I want tovomit in my mouth still now
when I think about it.
Like it was that offensive tome.
And I can remember, oh my god,one time we had gone to the
beach, we had a we had a familybeach day, and we were out there
and we were swimming in thewater, and um, you know, all of
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a sudden, like we're all outthere, we're all swimming, we're
all playing, and I was kind ofI don't know why, but I was kind
of like separate from everyoneelse.
I think I was looking atsomething in the water, or I
don't know.
Anyway, but either way, I waskind of like my family was all
like all over there, and I waskind of off in my own direction.
And all of a sudden, I feellike something grabbed me under
the water, and he literally likegrabbed my thighs and started
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like stroking his hand upward.
I kid you not, this big,beastly, like hulky man, like
50-year-old, big belly, probablyat least like maybe like 5'11,
maybe six feet.
Big, huge man.
And this little 11-year-oldgirl, he's underwater, like
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basically trying to like rope meand moving towards my crotch.
I at this point have had itbecause nobody's believing me.
Like, the I don't like the waythis guy's touching me.
And what did I do?
Oh, did my masculine step up tothe plate because that little
11-year-old girl, he wasunderwater, he had his head
underwater.
That little 11-year-old girlgrabbed his head.
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Actually, grabbed him by thethroat.
Oh my god, I can't believe Idid this.
Grabbed him by the throat andstarted holding his head
underwater because I was filledwith so much rage and anger.
And then I thank God my familywas like close by and they like
literally like pried me off ofhim.
Um, but it took like it tooklike five or six people to pry
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me off of him and like get himto let him go.
And my cousins were big dudesat the time, like they were
pretty strong, and it it tookthem, it took five of them to
like pry me off of this man, andso that he can kind of get up
above water and breathe again.
And let me tell you, he neverfucking touched me again ever
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after that.
Now, he wasn't the last personto make an attempt.
That wasn't the last, you know,time I had to deal with, you
know, people touching meinappropriately or uh, you know,
inappropriate propositions oranything like that in the
workplace and socialenvironments or whatever.
And, you know, there I had along journey of experiences like
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that from the time that I was11 years old till right up
until, you know, my corporatejob a few years ago, where, you
know, it was it was evidentlyclear that, you know, uh
somebody that I was working forhad other interests in me other
than just my work, right?
And it created a veryuncomfortable situation for me.
Um, and so, you know, I mean, Isay all this to say, you know,
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I had to, my, I literally had tostep into my masculine in that
moment because nobody wascreating a safe space for me.
And so I had to create thatsafe space for myself.
And the reality is, is that,you know, even though I've done
a lot of healing around this,and that's why I'm able to talk
about this so lightheartedly.
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I'm I'm not I'm not in aposition to talk about this in a
lighthearted way if I hadn'tdone the work on a lot of these
incidences that have happened tome in my life, um, you know,
repeatedly.
But, you know, the reality.
Is we still live in a worldthat is unsafe for women.
And so, you know, um, I stillwalk home with my keys clutched
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in my knuckles in case I have tolike, you know, hit somebody.
I still check the backseat ofmy car before I get into it.
You know, um, I still pick upmy phone and pretend to talk to
somebody on the phone when I'mwalking through a dark path or
whatever, and I don't feel safeat night.
And I see somebody around me,sometimes even in the daytime,
if I see someone around me who Iget like a weird vibe from,
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I'll pick up my phone and startpretending that I'm talking to
somebody on the phone.
Like I still have to do thesethings.
And that's because we have not,we have failed to create a
world that is safe for women.
Um, we still have a lot of workto do.
And, you know, calling us angryfeminists for um, you know,
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screaming for our rights andsetting our boundaries and and
trying to create a better world,a safer world for women, a more
equal world for women.
It's like, dude, maybe you needto do some healing.
You know, like maybe it's yourturn to do some of the healing
that you keep pushing on women,you know.
That's just maybe a little bit,right?
Um, because the reality isthat, you know, we shouldn't
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have to be, we shouldn't have toput our keys in our knuckles or
pick up our phone or you know,check our backseat of our car.
Or the worst part is textingyour friend to let them know
you're going out on a blind dateand this is where you're going,
and this is the person'sprofile and their name and where
you found them, just in caseyou happen to go missing the
next day.
You know what I mean?
Like, I mean, these are theseare really weird things.
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And again, even the whole umthe the inequality in pay, the
the fact that you know, so manyof our rights are being taken
away, depending on where youlive as women, you know, I we
still have work to do.
We're not done.
So if they're gonna call usangry feminists, fine.
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But the reality is, is we'renot gonna feel bad for fighting
for something that we as allhumans should have access to.
And it is actually our femininethat is begging for this.
It is actually our femininethat is begging for the safe
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container so that she couldfully relax and rest and be in
her creative mastery, in heremotional mastery, right?
Her her divine intelligence,her her magic.
She wants this.
So let's create it.
We have to create a world thatis safer for all of us, and that
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includes creating a world thatis safer for men to be in their
feminine energy because theyhaven't felt safe either.
And I think you know, to saythat this narrative that the key
to healing the relationship andlife and family is to put women
back in the home and besubmissive.
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I mean, I I that is that is howwe keep society, not women, but
society um in a disempoweredstate, men and women alike.
Because the reality is that,like I said, we have so much
creative power and energy aswomen, and there's so many
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things that we can do.
Yes, we can birth amazingchildren and we can raise
amazing families, but for manyof us, you know, the path is
very different.
For me, that was a lot of thattook a lot of healing.
I wanted children, I've alwayswanted children, but it never
happened for me.
And for years I was bitter andresentful about this, but now I
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realize, you know what, life wasjust meant to take me down a
different path.
And I couldn't have gone downthat path if I had children.
And so, and there's so manywomen out there who want
children so desperately, whocan't have them.
What are they like, do they dothey not hold a place in
society?
Like, you know, like there'sjust so many things where we
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make, we try to make thingsblack and white and they're not,
you know, we're so much morethan that.
And we carry so much more powerand wisdom and creation than
that.
And the more that we continueto oppress women and the
feminine, the real feminine, notthe feminine that, you know,
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we're being we're that is beingshoved in our throats right now
to serve a patriarchal agenda,but the real feminine, the real
feminine power.
And if you're, you know, if youwant to harness some of those
skills, you know, go back andcheck um the first part of the
series where I talked about thenine sacred feminine superpowers
that are literally gonna makeyou powerful and magnetic as
fuck.
I'm not even joking, um, withinminutes of doing some of those
(35:05):
practices.
Okay.
I I really believe that we'redoing all of us an injustice by
not, if we don't create a safespace for that to flourish in
all of us.
Um and it's not like again,it's not the it's not this,
this, this picture that we'rebeing fed by a patriarchal
agenda that keeps us in adisempowered state, men and
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women.
It's actually coming into intobalance and harmonizing the
masculine and feminine withineach of us that makes us
powerful and unstoppable.
And they don't want you to knowthat.
Because how would they controlyou if you did?
They couldn't.
So keep leaning in.
The fact that they are gettingmore, the patriarchy is getting
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more aggressive, the fact thatthey're getting more offensive
with how much the lengths thatthey're going to to push these
ideologies onto us is proof thatthey are getting nervous.
So do not stop.
Do not stop.
I don't care if they call youan angry feminist, a lonely cat
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lady.
I don't care.
Keep going.
Okay.
Yes, there are fucking amazingmen out there who are fully
capable of being in their heartsand expressing emotion and
being in their feeling in theiremotional body and connecting on
such a deep level.
And then there are others whoaren't.
And that's fine because whatwe're doing is creating a safe
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world for the feminine to thrivein men and women and non-binary
and all people in general.
It's time that we let thefeminine out of the box.
It's time that we let Pandoraout of the box so that she can
work some magic in this worldbecause the world needs magic.
And that only starts when westart to balance those energies
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within ourselves.
So use your masculine, but alsouse and harness the power of
your feminine and try to useboth these sides of you.
So the feminine is, you know,the, and we'll talk more about
this.
The feminine is, you know, thefeeling, the intuition, um, the
emotional, the creative energy,and then the masculine is the
physical, the thought, thelogic, the strategy, right?
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The hunter, the gatherer,right?
So use both.
Use both to your advantage.
Be comfortable being in both.
That is when you tap into yourpower.
And as you start to do that,more and more people like we're
literally like we're creatinglike a like like a what's it
called?
Um, we're creating a movementthat starts with each and every
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one of us individually.
We can't teach people how tobe, I mean, we can.
We can share what we're doingand how we're learning, like I'm
doing with you guys, but it'sup to you if you want to follow
what I'm doing.
I'm just over here trying tolike balance these energies
within me, right?
And I'm sharing with you howI'm doing it and the nine
practices I shared last week,totally life-changing for me.
So have a look at those.
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The link is in the show notes.
Um, you can sign up to get theentire playlist, the journal
prompts, and the affirmations.
And I will see you guys herenext week with or next, no, not
next week, later this week.
Because I think this is this isgoing live on Monday.
So there'll be another episodeout on Thursday.
That is all for now, you guys.
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Until next time, massive love.
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