August 28, 2025 • 36 mins
What if the deepest betrayal wasn’t his cheating… but the way you abandoned yourself to keep him?
For years, I punished myself for his infidelity. I believed if I could just be prettier, sexier, happier, or more “positive,” he would change. I gaslit myself into denial, ignored my intuition, and became a version of me that wasn’t even real—just to hold on to a relationship that was already crumbling.
But here’s the truth I wish someone had told me: you are not responsible for how someone else shows up in a relationship. Their choices reflect them, not your worth.
In this raw and deeply personal episode of The Femme Cast, I share:
🎤How self-blame keeps you stuck in betrayal cycles
🎤The “toxic glow-up” that started as punishment but unexpectedly built my strength
🎤The liberating mindset shift that allowed me to finally walk away
🎤Why someone else’s betrayal has nothing to do with your value
🎤How to reclaim your power by deciding the role people get to play in your life based on how they actually show up
This is more than a story about infidelity—it’s an invitation to stop punishing yourself, to start honoring your worth, and to finally step into the love, freedom, and expansion you’re meant for.
If you’ve ever felt like you weren’t “enough” or blamed yourself for someone else’s betrayal, this episode will shift something deep inside of you.
Are you healing from cheating? Betrayal? A heartbreak that not only broke your heart but broke your life?
If so, join me for She Rises: A FREE & LIVE 90-minute healing and activation experience for the woman ready to alchemize the pain of lies, betrayal, and being cheated on into unapologetic power, radiant confidence, and the woman she was always meant to be.
Betrayal doesn’t get the final word — you do.
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MARIA @THEFEMMECAST (00:00):
Hey guys, what is up and welcome back to
the show.
I am so excited and grateful tohave you guys here.
Welcome.
If you're new, you're probablyhearing a hum in the background
and I do apologize for that.
I realized that you could hearit on the last episode.
I have my AC on.
It is quite loud, it is quitehot out, but there's and I was
gonna turn it off just for thetime the sake of recording, like
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I usually do, but I don't knowwhy I forgot this time.
But now there's a festivalgoing on, there's a lot of noise
in the background and there'ssome guy singing that really has
no business singing right now.
So I'm going to leave the AC onand you're just going to have
to put up with the hum becauseit's drowning out all the other
background noise and it's alsohelped me to keep me comfortable
(00:40):
.
So grin and bear, if you can,my perimenopausal internal
temperature.
Well, thank you for putting upwith it, trust me.
Okay, so today I wanted to talkabout the moment that I stopped
punishing myself for hischeating and how I took my power
back and my self-worth back,and you know, from all of that
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and just sort of the shift orthe mindset shift that was
beneath all of that.
And this was like this was nota like one moment, sort of like
switch that went off.
This was a gradual unfolding.
So I'm just going to kind ofout, like lay out, how this all
kind of unfolded.
You know, take what resonates,leave the rest right is what I
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always like to say.
So let's go back to the pointwhere you know I had recently
realized what was happening inthe relationship and after a
period of fighting and screaming, and you know, trying to get to
the bottom of screaming and youknow trying to get to the
bottom of things and you knowtrying to get to, you know, an
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admission or a confession ofsome sort or an account, you
know just just waiting for himto take accountability for
something.
You know it wasn't any place,it wasn't anything I was going
to get, and I think I needed toaccept that.
And you know there was also,you know I was also starting to
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fear that you know, if we didn'tput this to bed soon, that I
would lose him and I was notready to go there.
And I think the reason why Iwas fighting so hard for a
confession is because I neededthat so that we could heal us,
in order to feel like I couldheal myself within the
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connection, so I could trust himagain, so that we could work
towards rebuilding ourrelationship again.
Because, deep down, I didn'twant to leave and I needed that
in order to stay.
I wasn't getting it and I stillwasn't leaving.
So, again, self-betrayal, right, I'm betraying myself and what
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I felt like I needed in theconnection in order to be able
to rebuild on a solid ground.
I said, okay, I'm not gettingthat, I'm going to continue to
try.
And said, okay, I'm not gettingthat, I'm going to continue to
try and rebuild this whateverway I can.
So, again, I betrayed myselfhere and, knowing that I
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couldn't get the confession,knowing that I couldn't get the
accountability that I waslooking for, I started to now
live in denial.
I started to now think you knowwishful thinking.
Well, maybe he's, he is tellingme the truth, maybe I can
believe him.
Maybe nothing happened, maybeit was all in my head, even
though there was just part of mewas just screaming like are you
freaking mad?
Like do you need a fluorescentlight before you trust yourself?
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Um of of what was going on inthat relationship?
Um, and so I ignored that.
I I did my best to ignore itfor a very long time and I tried
to live in denial.
But you know, at the same time,you know, knowing there was,
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like there was a deep part of methat believed what I saw and
what I felt was very real andthat it did actually happen.
So now I went on this bender.
Of all the ways, this was myfault.
I wasn't pretty enough.
I let myself go.
I got too fat, which I wasn't,but this was my head telling me
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okay, I'm not.
This wasn't.
What I'm saying is my owninternal, this is my own
internal dialogue of what I wassaying to myself.
Okay, um, I am not by any meansjudging another woman out there
.
This is, this is how I wasjudging myself so harshly.
You let yourself go.
You got fat, you got you're,you're just you're, you're not,
you're not sexy anymore.
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Like, look at you, like, why,why wouldn't he cheat on you?
You haven't been taking care ofyourself.
You know you're negative allthe time.
You're complaining all the time.
You're like whining all thetime You're, you know, crying
all the time.
You're miserable, like, if yousay anything, if you bring it up
again, he's just going to getagitated, he's just going to
leave.
You know, he's just going towalk away's gonna, he's, he's
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just gonna be another fight it's, and maybe this one, you know
he's not gonna come back fromright.
So I started to put all my focusand attention into how I could
be more of what he needed.
Um, I, you know, this was wheremy, my relationship, you know,
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yo-yo dieting really, reallybegan.
Um, and I started doing allthese crazy fat diets, trying to
lose weight, and you know Iwould.
I would go through the cycle oflosing a ton of weight and then
putting it all back on again.
Um, I, so I was going throughall these crazy fad diets.
I started going to the gym, Istarted working out, I started
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taking better care of myself, Istarted, which I mean all good
things if it's coming from ahealthy place and if you're
doing it in healthy ways, whichoftentimes I wasn't.
You know, let's be honest,right, I was basically punishing
myself and trying to fix myselfand make myself feel like I was
good enough in order to keep,you know, this relationship
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intact and in order to keep himfrom, you know, wandering
anyplace else.
Right, I started to change how Iwould show up in the
relationship.
I tried to be more positive,change how I would show up in
the relationship.
I tried to be more positive.
I tried to be happier.
I tried to pretend likeeverything was okay.
When it was not okay, it was sonot okay.
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There was a part of me that wasscreaming and I was showing up
like this, like I don't know,like this alter version of me in
this alter universe, um, whowas like, always positive and
optimistic and, and you know, uh, trying to, to think positive
about everything.
And I know these are, I knowthese are all good things and I
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know that these are things thatwe all talk about in the
personal development community,but not when it is like
bypassing some serious pain andturmoil, right.
That's when it becomes toxic.
When you start to like gaslightyourself into believing that
you feel better, that you'rehappier, that you're thinking
positive, that you believepositive things and that you're
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grateful.
When, really deep down, there'slike thinking positive, that
you believe positive things andthat you're grateful, when,
really deep down, there's like aburning inside of you, that is
like wanting to scream.
That is bypassing, that is nothealthy and what you're
basically doing is basicallyyou're putting this faulty
facade of a you know a redesignsurface level redesign when the
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foundation is crumbling, likeunderneath it.
You know what I mean.
If we're talking in terms oflike home design, right, it's
like painting a new.
It's like painting your house,redecorating it, putting in all
the upgrades, creating thatbeautiful home that you've
always wanted, and thefoundation is literally rotting
and falling apart.
Literally is what you're doing,right.
So that's what I was doing.
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I was pretending that everythingwas okay.
I was pretending thateverything was happy.
I was positive.
I was trying to.
I was doing everything that Icould to be more successful in
my career and try and move aheadthere.
I was doing everything that Icould to be this better version
of me.
But it wasn't for me, it was forhim, and that was where the
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imbalance was right.
That's where the unhealthinesswas, that's where the toxicity
was.
I was doing it all for him andhis approval, so that he
wouldn't, you know, stray fromthe relationship and wander off
with someone else.
You know, I wanted to be moreloving, I wanted to be prettier,
I wanted to be sexier, I wantedto be who he wanted me to be in
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order for him to be interestedin me and, yes, on the surface
level, our relationship got alot happier and we got along a
lot better, but we still weredisconnected, like there was.
There was no intimacy left inour relationship.
Um, even the friendship haddwindled.
We hardly talked anymore.
Um, it was all just verysurface level and polite right
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Is the best way that I can putit Um, and all the while, I was
ignoring what I, what I wasreally feeling and believing.
So it wasn't really me who waspresent in that relationship.
I don't know who that was, man,that was some sort of like a,
you know, stepford partner ofsome sort.
The good thing, the good thingin all of this even though it
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was coming from a very unhealthyplace and I was doing it in a
lot of unhealthy ways the goodthing in all of this is what was
happening is I was goingthrough this external glow up,
putting all this work in myself,that I started to shift
internally.
As a result, all the workingout, all of the moving forward
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in my career and trying to thinkpositive and, you know,
creating more positiveconnections and interactions in
my life, I did actually start tofeel different.
So I did actually start toshift internally.
You know, I started to feelmore confident in myself.
I started to feel a little bitmore empowered.
I started to feel a little bitclearer, feel a little bit more
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empowered.
I started to feel a little bitclearer.
I started to feel like I don'tthink I realized it in the
moment, I don't think I'm evenrealizing until now that I'm
talking about it it's finallyclicking.
I think in that moment I wasfinally starting to feel safe in
a life that he wasn't a part of, because I was starting to
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create this life for myself.
That did not, it began asrevolving around him, but it was
actually what it was actuallydoing, is, it was actually
supporting my own personalgrowth.
And now I kind of, I think, wascoming into this realization
that I could be out of thisconnection and still feel okay
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and still be okay.
I was, I was, I was cultivatingthe confidence, the personal
power, the strength in order tomake that foundational, that,
that, that, that that monumentalshift of leaving this
connection.
And eventually, you know, I gotthe strength and I needed to
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walk away completely right andto be able to make that decision
and feel good and aligned aboutit and empowered with it, like
I didn't.
But yeah, it was scary.
Of course it was scary, but Iknew it was the right thing to
do and I was unwavering in that,and I don't think I'm not good
enough and feeling like I neededto create this false version of
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myself to feel good enough tobe in that connection, even
though, aside from all of that,it did actually start to shift
me and empower me internally,and it was because I started to
have this internal shift.
It started to reflect andproject itself externally in the
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decisions that I was making.
So now I started makinghealthier choices about my body.
I started being more confidentand being able to ask for what I
want.
At work I put myself up forlike an awesome fucking
promotion.
I you know, I started.
I started really taking myhealth and fitness very
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seriously and I started to seereal results.
I really started to put effortinto cultivating healthier
relationships and friendships inmy life.
I started to look at somepassions and interests, like
dance and other things that Ihad put on the back burner for
so long because I had made thisconnection the central focus.
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So what started as a reallytoxic sort of self-worth deficit
sort of approach to making ahealthier relationship actually
ended up creating a solidfoundation for me to feel strong
enough to leave this connection.
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Now.
Eventually, you know,eventually, when I did leave
this connection, I had todeconstruct a lot of that and
get to the bottom of the issues.
That kind of led me to believethat I was the reason for the
infidelity, I was the reason forthe betrayal, I was the reason
for the cheating, because Iwasn't enough.
In some way, shape or form, Ihad to go back and undo all that
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and get to the core of thathealing and then rebuild myself
up again.
But there is something to besaid for the power of doing
things for your own betterment,I think you know I'm trying to
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deconstruct this and reverseengineer this so that people can
apply it to their life.
If you're doing it because youthink that you want to make
yourself a better partner, abetter girlfriend, a better
whatever, you know that'ssomething that I would honestly
say start there first, like whydo you think it's your fault?
You know?
Why do you think that you'rethe reason that they left and
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where does that belief come from?
I would start there first.
But you know there is somethingto be said for how can you make
a fuller life for yourself, howcan you start to do things for
yourself that make you feelbetter, but do it for you.
You know, don't do it for them.
Do it because it makes you feelgood, because it makes you feel
confident and it makes you feelempowered.
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And that is the biggest lessonand takeaway from that
experience that I can share withyou, and that is a huge part of
what we're going to be talkingabout in that upcoming
masterclass on September 15th,depending on when you're seeing
this September 15th, 2025.
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So, depending on when you'relistening to, this, doing
together is how can you takewhat's happened to you and use
it as fuel to create a betterexperience for yourself.
But doing it from a place ofthis is what I truly want and
this is what I truly aspiretowards.
Not from a place of wanting toavoid getting cheated on or
abandoned or rejected again, andnot from a place of feeling
like I'm not getting good enoughand it's my fault that they did
that, but from a real place ofyou know, I would really love
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that for me and I would reallylove to give that to me, and I
feel like it would be anempowering thing to do for me.
You know, coming from thatplace, I think that's the really
important thing, butnonetheless, you know I did it
from an unhealthy place andeventually it gave me the
strength that I needed to walkaway.
So, c'est la vie, everythingworked out for the, you know,
for the greater good.
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And you know, I did go back anddid a lot and did a lot of the
underlying healing work of why Idefaulted to.
It was obviously something, itwas a deficit in me that
obviously led to the betrayaland the infidelity and the
cheating and the lying.
But years later and I meanyears later, after
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deconstructing a lot of mypatterns and belief systems and
doing a lot of the internal workand really coming back to this
idea of, you know, choosing selfabove everyone and everything
else, one thing I one bigexperience, learning experience
that I had is that, you know, weare not responsible for the
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choices or the actions thatpeople make on a day-to-day.
We're only responsible forourselves.
Right, and I think that, youknow, when I was younger even as
a child probably, you know, Ialways believed that the way
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people were acting around melike if they were acting in an
unloving way, it's because I didsomething to make them not love
me If they were acting in amean way.
I did something to make themfeel like, to make them treat me
meanly If, if I, if theyabandoned or rejected me or, you
know, bullied me or made fun ofme or criticized me, it was
because of something I did Right.
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And you know, and that is a verycodependent, um, thought like
thought pattern.
That's a very like like that.
That is a very codependentthought pattern.
That is very typical of apeople pleaser, where we look at
the people around us and howthey're treating us.
If they're not treating us theway that we want to be treated,
it means that we did somethingwrong in order to make them
treat us that way, and so weimmediately default to well, how
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do I need to be?
Who do I need to be, in orderto get them to treat me the way
that I want to be treated?
So I did a lot of work ondeconstructing all of that and
allowing people to just bepeople, allowing people to just
be who they are and, you know,being able to say that they're
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responsible for who they are andI am responsible for who I am
and who I am in a relationshipdoes not is not what decides how
they show up or what determinesthey show up, right.
So I can now look at people andI can, you know.
I can see them, I can witnessthem, I can love.
I can love certain things aboutthem.
I can witness them, I can love,I can love certain things about
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them.
I can not love certain thingsabout them.
But depending on who they areand who they show me, and how
they show up in the relationship, I can decide what role they
get to play.
I no longer subscribe to thispattern or belief that if
somebody treats me the way in away that I don't like, that I
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immediately default to.
What can I do differently toget them to treat me the way I
want them to know?
If you treat me in a way that Idon't like, I simply just you
know.
I make a call as to whether ornot you're going to be playing a
role in my life, whether or notwe're going to be in
relationship together.
And if we are going to be inrelationship together, what kind
of relationship is that goingto be Like?
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This is the point.
You know, when you start to,when you start to choose
yourself.
You start to choose yourrelationships.
You no longer try tomanufacture relationships that
treat you the way that you wantto be treated, and expending all
your energy trying to figureout who you need to show up as
in order to create therelationships that you want.
You just basically get to beyourself, trust that that's
enough, and look at the peoplewho are around you and get to
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decide.
You get to choose, based onwhat you want in your
relationships, who gets to fitthose roles, those categories in
your life, and then make ahealthy and informed decision
from there and not feel like youneed to adjust yourself
constantly or show up as adifferent version of yourself in
order so that they can treatyou better and love you more and
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accept you into their circle orinto a relationship or into a
friendship or whatever.
And that has been the biggestshift for me.
And so when I did that, Irealized somewhere in all of
that you know, I realized, youknow, okay, so if I were to take
what I've just learned, youknow, going through that process
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of, of, you know unlearningthis idea that people treat me
as a reflect, how people treatme as a reflection of, of of how
they perceive me, me as areflection of how they perceive
me and really making it aboutgiving them back ownership and
accountability for their ownactions, knowing what I know.
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Now there was a moment where Iwent back and I said, okay, well
, what does that mean for thatrelationship?
Like, I mean, we started offgreat, we were happy, we seem to
be anyway, and then all of thathappens.
So how do I apply that to allof that?
And what I started to realize asI was reflecting back, there
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was a part of him, I think, thatwas always somewhat emotionally
unavailable.
I think he was really good attelling me what I wanted to hear
and what I needed to hear, buthe wasn't very good at sharing
what he was feeling.
He wasn't really good at movingthrough a lot of um emotion.
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Um, there was a lot of bottledup stuff with him that he just
wasn't looking at and wasn'tmoving like, wasn't really
paying attention to Um, and Ithink there was also a lot of
insecurities there that hewasn't moving like, wasn't
really paying attention to, andI think there was also a lot of
insecurities there that hewasn't sharing, and so maybe
that's where the infidelityhappened.
I'm not sure.
I'm not sure.
All I can say is I finally cameto the realization.
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You know that the you know, thereason why it all happened had
nothing to do with me and how Iwas showing up or or who I was,
and whether or not I was goodenough, pretty enough, thin
enough, sexy enough, smartenough, financially like
successful enough.
It didn't.
None of that mattered.
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What mattered, the only reasonwhy he did what he did, was he.
You know, there was something,there was something going on
with him that he wasn't feelingcomfortable with and he needed
an outlet or a distraction from.
Because here's the thing.
And I came to this realizationwhen, when we're in relationship
with people, it doesn't matterwhat we do, you know, it does
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not matter what we do.
It does not matter we will.
Of course we can make mistakes.
Of course we can do shittythings, we can suck.
You know, sometimes we have ourown issues and triggers that we
need to work through.
We have our own personalevolution.
We have our own personaltransformation, our own healing
to experience.
If it was a healthy relationship, if it was really a healthy
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relationship, if there was aproblem, he would have come to
talk to me about it.
Instead he chose the path ofgoing outside of the
relationship and, you know,sleeping with other people and
building and creatingrelationships with other people.
That was his choice to do that.
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He did not have to do that.
You know it wasn't like, yes,obviously we had our fair share
of problems, like everybody does, but you know, it wasn't like
there was ever.
You know, there was nothingthat I don't think we could have
, could not have worked through.
So obviously there was somethingdeeper going on, beneath the
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surface, that he could not face,that he didn't feel good
talking about that.
He didn't feel comfortablesharing with me or discussing
with me or moving through withme or experiencing with me or
even owning up to, and so hetook the easy A, he took the
easy out and kind of wentoutside of his relationship or
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whatever distraction he neededto move to avoid whatever was
going on with him.
So it had everything to do withhim and absolutely nothing to
do with me.
And again, that's not to say Ididn't fuck up somehow.
I'm sure I did, I'm sure I diddid, I'm sure I did.
But and this was the big butand this was the big realization
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in a healthy relationship whereboth parties are committed to
one another and coming from ahealthy, emotionally mature and
emotionally evolved place, youcan come together and have that
conversation and say let's workthrough our issues.
We didn't do that, you know.
He chose the path of goingoutside the relationship and
then I, you know, chose the pathof, you know, first fighting,
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then denial, then finally movingon and saying you know what I
deserve better, which took avery long time.
But, you know, when it comesdown to, you know why I went
through down this whole likerabbit hole of trying to blame
myself.
First, it's because there wasthis part of me that didn't
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believe that she was good enough.
It was because there was thispart of me that felt like I was
responsible for how peopletreated me, because if they
didn't treat me well, it'sbecause I didn't show up well
enough or good enough.
You know what I mean.
If they didn't treat me good,it's because I didn't show up
well enough or good enough.
You know what I mean.
If they didn't treat me good,it's because I didn't show up in
a good enough way, and if Ishowed up in a good enough way,
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they would be treating me good,and so I had to undo all of that
to get to a place where I couldsay number one I'm not
responsible for how you treat me, that is your decision.
Right, that's number one.
And number two, being able tostand solid within myself to say
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I know I will find somebody, Iknow I'm good enough to find
somebody who will treat me welland I can say no to anybody who
shows up that doesn't knowingthat I will be okay on my own
until I find somebody who treatsme the way that I know I
deserve to be treated.
And I no longer need tosubscribe to this belief that I
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need to somehow coerce, trick,manipulate or just change or
alter myself in such a way thatis going to inspire somebody to
treat me the way that I want tobe treated.
And I think that was the bigsort of energetic moment where
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the if you talk about energyhealing and energetic cords I
think that was the moment thatthe cord between us literally
split and I was able to finallylet that go and let that
relationship go, because Ifinally detached from this
narrative that it was somehow myfault that he cheated, that he
lied, that he manipulated me andthat he broke my heart, and I
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was able to come back to.
Yeah, sure, I probably wasn'tperfect, I'm sure I was very,
very, very flawed.
I had a lot of unworthinessissues that were coming out in
so many other ways Maybe not youknow specifically.
Well, maybe they were showingup and how I was showing up in
that relationship.
But you know, I was trying todo all the right things.
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I was trying to do all the goodthings according to what I knew
to be right and good.
But knowing that, you know, ifit was a really healthy
relationship or if we were atleast two emotionally mature
individuals, we could have cometogether, we could have talked
about what was happening, wecould have talked about what we
needed to work on and not godown that path.
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But you know that choice wasmade.
He acted accordingly and youknow, I separated myself from
taking responsibility for thatdecision that he made and that
was the most empowering thingthat I ever did and it was
rooted in this idea that we arenot responsible for how other
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people show up, that we are notresponsible for how other people
show up we are not to defaultto.
If somebody is not treating usgood, then obviously that's a
representation of how goodenough we are or aren't.
You know that is a falsenarrative that I think many of
us have, especially if you're apeople pleaser, that you've kind
of, you know, taken on rightand it really is.
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It really is a whole othertrauma, trauma adaptation, where
you think that you know, you'vekind of you kind of go through
as a child, you kind of gothrough your life and you see
where people are happy with youand where people aren't, and you
kind of use that as sort of amap to guide who it is you're
supposed to be, so that peoplewill love you, right, and that's
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a very loose, simple definitionfor a very complex behavior.
But that is what is at theheart of what was happening for
me.
So once I deconstructed allthat, I was able to separate his
decisions and his actions frommy worthiness.
And I think that's theimportant thing when you can
separate their actions and theirdecisions from your worthiness,
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what that means about you andhow good enough you are or
aren't, when you can separatethose two things, then you're
able to make healthier decisionsas to, you know, being able to
see people for who they are andthen deciding whether or not
they get to play a part in yourlife story or not, and you get
to make those decisions rightand you don't need to alter
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yourself in any way, shape orform.
Sure, we all have work to do.
Again, like I can't stress thatenough, we all have work to do,
we all have shit, we all havequirks, we all can improve
ourselves.
But if you have to changeyourself to be in a relationship
with someone, for them to treatyou well, then that's not a
healthy relationship.
Your relationships really needto be able to see you for who
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you are and you know what.
If they don't, you'll have areally hard time creating an
intimate connection with anybody.
Because intimacy comes withbeing vulnerable and being fully
seen, and I know that can be ascomfortable as fuck as fuck for
a lot of you, um, but it's trueit.
Real intimacy, real connection,just comes with being able to
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relax into being fully seen forwho you really are.
Um, all of you, all the messybits, just allowing it to take
up space, not having to hide itall the time, not having to,
like you know, put on this maskall the time.
Just really being able to beyou and allowing yourself to be
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witnessed is really what createsreal intimate connections with
people.
And then and you know, ifthat's something that you're,
that you struggle with, work onthat, work on feeling safe,
being yourself, work on feelingenough being yourself so that
someone can fully see you Right,and that that is a lot of the
work that we do together when wework together, and that's a lot
of the work that we're going tobe doing in the masterclass.
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So I hope I will see you there.
I hope that this episode youknow, you know really resonated
for you.
Let me know what you take awayfrom it in the comments below or
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Until next time, you guys,massive love.
Hey guys, what is up and welcome back to
the show.
I am so excited and grateful tohave you guys here.
Welcome.
If you're new, you're probablyhearing a hum in the background
and I do apologize for that.
I realized that you could hearit on the last episode.
I have my AC on.
It is quite loud, it is quitehot out, but there's and I was
gonna turn it off just for thetime the sake of recording, like
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I usually do, but I don't knowwhy I forgot this time.
But now there's a festivalgoing on, there's a lot of noise
in the background and there'ssome guy singing that really has
no business singing right now.
So I'm going to leave the AC onand you're just going to have
to put up with the hum becauseit's drowning out all the other
background noise and it's alsohelped me to keep me comfortable
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.
So grin and bear, if you can,my perimenopausal internal
temperature.
Well, thank you for putting upwith it, trust me.
Okay, so today I wanted to talkabout the moment that I stopped
punishing myself for hischeating and how I took my power
back and my self-worth back,and you know, from all of that
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and just sort of the shift orthe mindset shift that was
beneath all of that.
And this was like this was nota like one moment, sort of like
switch that went off.
This was a gradual unfolding.
So I'm just going to kind ofout, like lay out, how this all
kind of unfolded.
You know, take what resonates,leave the rest right is what I
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always like to say.
So let's go back to the pointwhere you know I had recently
realized what was happening inthe relationship and after a
period of fighting and screaming, and you know, trying to get to
the bottom of screaming and youknow trying to get to the
bottom of things and you knowtrying to get to, you know, an
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admission or a confession ofsome sort or an account, you
know just just waiting for himto take accountability for
something.
You know it wasn't any place,it wasn't anything I was going
to get, and I think I needed toaccept that.
And you know there was also,you know I was also starting to
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fear that you know, if we didn'tput this to bed soon, that I
would lose him and I was notready to go there.
And I think the reason why Iwas fighting so hard for a
confession is because I neededthat so that we could heal us,
in order to feel like I couldheal myself within the
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connection, so I could trust himagain, so that we could work
towards rebuilding ourrelationship again.
Because, deep down, I didn'twant to leave and I needed that
in order to stay.
I wasn't getting it and I stillwasn't leaving.
So, again, self-betrayal, right, I'm betraying myself and what
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I felt like I needed in theconnection in order to be able
to rebuild on a solid ground.
I said, okay, I'm not gettingthat, I'm going to continue to
try.
And said, okay, I'm not gettingthat, I'm going to continue to
try and rebuild this whateverway I can.
So, again, I betrayed myselfhere and, knowing that I
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couldn't get the confession,knowing that I couldn't get the
accountability that I waslooking for, I started to now
live in denial.
I started to now think you knowwishful thinking.
Well, maybe he's, he is tellingme the truth, maybe I can
believe him.
Maybe nothing happened, maybeit was all in my head, even
though there was just part of mewas just screaming like are you
freaking mad?
Like do you need a fluorescentlight before you trust yourself?
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Um of of what was going on inthat relationship?
Um, and so I ignored that.
I I did my best to ignore itfor a very long time and I tried
to live in denial.
But you know, at the same time,you know, knowing there was,
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like there was a deep part of methat believed what I saw and
what I felt was very real andthat it did actually happen.
So now I went on this bender.
Of all the ways, this was myfault.
I wasn't pretty enough.
I let myself go.
I got too fat, which I wasn't,but this was my head telling me
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okay, I'm not.
This wasn't.
What I'm saying is my owninternal, this is my own
internal dialogue of what I wassaying to myself.
Okay, um, I am not by any meansjudging another woman out there
.
This is, this is how I wasjudging myself so harshly.
You let yourself go.
You got fat, you got you're,you're just you're, you're not,
you're not sexy anymore.
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Like, look at you, like, why,why wouldn't he cheat on you?
You haven't been taking care ofyourself.
You know you're negative allthe time.
You're complaining all the time.
You're like whining all thetime You're, you know, crying
all the time.
You're miserable, like, if yousay anything, if you bring it up
again, he's just going to getagitated, he's just going to
leave.
You know, he's just going towalk away's gonna, he's, he's
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just gonna be another fight it's, and maybe this one, you know
he's not gonna come back fromright.
So I started to put all my focusand attention into how I could
be more of what he needed.
Um, I, you know, this was wheremy, my relationship, you know,
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yo-yo dieting really, reallybegan.
Um, and I started doing allthese crazy fat diets, trying to
lose weight, and you know Iwould.
I would go through the cycle oflosing a ton of weight and then
putting it all back on again.
Um, I, so I was going throughall these crazy fad diets.
I started going to the gym, Istarted working out, I started
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taking better care of myself, Istarted, which I mean all good
things if it's coming from ahealthy place and if you're
doing it in healthy ways, whichoftentimes I wasn't.
You know, let's be honest,right, I was basically punishing
myself and trying to fix myselfand make myself feel like I was
good enough in order to keep,you know, this relationship
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intact and in order to keep himfrom, you know, wandering
anyplace else.
Right, I started to change how Iwould show up in the
relationship.
I tried to be more positive,change how I would show up in
the relationship.
I tried to be more positive.
I tried to be happier.
I tried to pretend likeeverything was okay.
When it was not okay, it was sonot okay.
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There was a part of me that wasscreaming and I was showing up
like this, like I don't know,like this alter version of me in
this alter universe, um, whowas like, always positive and
optimistic and, and you know, uh, trying to, to think positive
about everything.
And I know these are, I knowthese are all good things and I
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know that these are things thatwe all talk about in the
personal development community,but not when it is like
bypassing some serious pain andturmoil, right.
That's when it becomes toxic.
When you start to like gaslightyourself into believing that
you feel better, that you'rehappier, that you're thinking
positive, that you believepositive things and that you're
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grateful.
When, really deep down, there'slike thinking positive, that
you believe positive things andthat you're grateful, when,
really deep down, there's like aburning inside of you, that is
like wanting to scream.
That is bypassing, that is nothealthy and what you're
basically doing is basicallyyou're putting this faulty
facade of a you know a redesignsurface level redesign when the
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foundation is crumbling, likeunderneath it.
You know what I mean.
If we're talking in terms oflike home design, right, it's
like painting a new.
It's like painting your house,redecorating it, putting in all
the upgrades, creating thatbeautiful home that you've
always wanted, and thefoundation is literally rotting
and falling apart.
Literally is what you're doing,right.
So that's what I was doing.
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I was pretending that everythingwas okay.
I was pretending thateverything was happy.
I was positive.
I was trying to.
I was doing everything that Icould to be more successful in
my career and try and move aheadthere.
I was doing everything that Icould to be this better version
of me.
But it wasn't for me, it was forhim, and that was where the
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imbalance was right.
That's where the unhealthinesswas, that's where the toxicity
was.
I was doing it all for him andhis approval, so that he
wouldn't, you know, stray fromthe relationship and wander off
with someone else.
You know, I wanted to be moreloving, I wanted to be prettier,
I wanted to be sexier, I wantedto be who he wanted me to be in
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order for him to be interestedin me and, yes, on the surface
level, our relationship got alot happier and we got along a
lot better, but we still weredisconnected, like there was.
There was no intimacy left inour relationship.
Um, even the friendship haddwindled.
We hardly talked anymore.
Um, it was all just verysurface level and polite right
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Is the best way that I can putit Um, and all the while, I was
ignoring what I, what I wasreally feeling and believing.
So it wasn't really me who waspresent in that relationship.
I don't know who that was, man,that was some sort of like a,
you know, stepford partner ofsome sort.
The good thing, the good thingin all of this even though it
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was coming from a very unhealthyplace and I was doing it in a
lot of unhealthy ways the goodthing in all of this is what was
happening is I was goingthrough this external glow up,
putting all this work in myself,that I started to shift
internally.
As a result, all the workingout, all of the moving forward
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in my career and trying to thinkpositive and, you know,
creating more positiveconnections and interactions in
my life, I did actually start tofeel different.
So I did actually start toshift internally.
You know, I started to feelmore confident in myself.
I started to feel a little bitmore empowered.
I started to feel a little bitclearer, feel a little bit more
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empowered.
I started to feel a little bitclearer.
I started to feel like I don'tthink I realized it in the
moment, I don't think I'm evenrealizing until now that I'm
talking about it it's finallyclicking.
I think in that moment I wasfinally starting to feel safe in
a life that he wasn't a part of, because I was starting to
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create this life for myself.
That did not, it began asrevolving around him, but it was
actually what it was actuallydoing, is, it was actually
supporting my own personalgrowth.
And now I kind of, I think, wascoming into this realization
that I could be out of thisconnection and still feel okay
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and still be okay.
I was, I was, I was cultivatingthe confidence, the personal
power, the strength in order tomake that foundational, that,
that, that, that that monumentalshift of leaving this
connection.
And eventually, you know, I gotthe strength and I needed to
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walk away completely right andto be able to make that decision
and feel good and aligned aboutit and empowered with it, like
I didn't.
But yeah, it was scary.
Of course it was scary, but Iknew it was the right thing to
do and I was unwavering in that,and I don't think I'm not good
enough and feeling like I neededto create this false version of
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myself to feel good enough tobe in that connection, even
though, aside from all of that,it did actually start to shift
me and empower me internally,and it was because I started to
have this internal shift.
It started to reflect andproject itself externally in the
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decisions that I was making.
So now I started makinghealthier choices about my body.
I started being more confidentand being able to ask for what I
want.
At work I put myself up forlike an awesome fucking
promotion.
I you know, I started.
I started really taking myhealth and fitness very
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seriously and I started to seereal results.
I really started to put effortinto cultivating healthier
relationships and friendships inmy life.
I started to look at somepassions and interests, like
dance and other things that Ihad put on the back burner for
so long because I had made thisconnection the central focus.
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So what started as a reallytoxic sort of self-worth deficit
sort of approach to making ahealthier relationship actually
ended up creating a solidfoundation for me to feel strong
enough to leave this connection.
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Now.
Eventually, you know,eventually, when I did leave
this connection, I had todeconstruct a lot of that and
get to the bottom of the issues.
That kind of led me to believethat I was the reason for the
infidelity, I was the reason forthe betrayal, I was the reason
for the cheating, because Iwasn't enough.
In some way, shape or form, Ihad to go back and undo all that
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and get to the core of thathealing and then rebuild myself
up again.
But there is something to besaid for the power of doing
things for your own betterment,I think you know I'm trying to
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deconstruct this and reverseengineer this so that people can
apply it to their life.
If you're doing it because youthink that you want to make
yourself a better partner, abetter girlfriend, a better
whatever, you know that'ssomething that I would honestly
say start there first, like whydo you think it's your fault?
You know?
Why do you think that you'rethe reason that they left and
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where does that belief come from?
I would start there first.
But you know there is somethingto be said for how can you make
a fuller life for yourself, howcan you start to do things for
yourself that make you feelbetter, but do it for you.
You know, don't do it for them.
Do it because it makes you feelgood, because it makes you feel
confident and it makes you feelempowered.
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And that is the biggest lessonand takeaway from that
experience that I can share withyou, and that is a huge part of
what we're going to be talkingabout in that upcoming
masterclass on September 15th,depending on when you're seeing
this September 15th, 2025.
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So, depending on when you'relistening to, this, doing
together is how can you takewhat's happened to you and use
it as fuel to create a betterexperience for yourself.
But doing it from a place ofthis is what I truly want and
this is what I truly aspiretowards.
Not from a place of wanting toavoid getting cheated on or
abandoned or rejected again, andnot from a place of feeling
like I'm not getting good enoughand it's my fault that they did
that, but from a real place ofyou know, I would really love
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that for me and I would reallylove to give that to me, and I
feel like it would be anempowering thing to do for me.
You know, coming from thatplace, I think that's the really
important thing, butnonetheless, you know I did it
from an unhealthy place andeventually it gave me the
strength that I needed to walkaway.
So, c'est la vie, everythingworked out for the, you know,
for the greater good.
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And you know, I did go back anddid a lot and did a lot of the
underlying healing work of why Idefaulted to.
It was obviously something, itwas a deficit in me that
obviously led to the betrayaland the infidelity and the
cheating and the lying.
But years later and I meanyears later, after
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deconstructing a lot of mypatterns and belief systems and
doing a lot of the internal workand really coming back to this
idea of, you know, choosing selfabove everyone and everything
else, one thing I one bigexperience, learning experience
that I had is that, you know, weare not responsible for the
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choices or the actions thatpeople make on a day-to-day.
We're only responsible forourselves.
Right, and I think that, youknow, when I was younger even as
a child probably, you know, Ialways believed that the way
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people were acting around melike if they were acting in an
unloving way, it's because I didsomething to make them not love
me If they were acting in amean way.
I did something to make themfeel like, to make them treat me
meanly If, if I, if theyabandoned or rejected me or, you
know, bullied me or made fun ofme or criticized me, it was
because of something I did Right.
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And you know, and that is a verycodependent, um, thought like
thought pattern.
That's a very like like that.
That is a very codependentthought pattern.
That is very typical of apeople pleaser, where we look at
the people around us and howthey're treating us.
If they're not treating us theway that we want to be treated,
it means that we did somethingwrong in order to make them
treat us that way, and so weimmediately default to well, how
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do I need to be?
Who do I need to be, in orderto get them to treat me the way
that I want to be treated?
So I did a lot of work ondeconstructing all of that and
allowing people to just bepeople, allowing people to just
be who they are and, you know,being able to say that they're
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responsible for who they are andI am responsible for who I am
and who I am in a relationshipdoes not is not what decides how
they show up or what determinesthey show up, right.
So I can now look at people andI can, you know.
I can see them, I can witnessthem, I can love.
I can love certain things aboutthem.
I can witness them, I can love,I can love certain things about
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them.
I can not love certain thingsabout them.
But depending on who they areand who they show me, and how
they show up in the relationship, I can decide what role they
get to play.
I no longer subscribe to thispattern or belief that if
somebody treats me the way in away that I don't like, that I
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immediately default to.
What can I do differently toget them to treat me the way I
want them to know?
If you treat me in a way that Idon't like, I simply just you
know.
I make a call as to whether ornot you're going to be playing a
role in my life, whether or notwe're going to be in
relationship together.
And if we are going to be inrelationship together, what kind
of relationship is that goingto be Like?
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This is the point.
You know, when you start to,when you start to choose
yourself.
You start to choose yourrelationships.
You no longer try tomanufacture relationships that
treat you the way that you wantto be treated, and expending all
your energy trying to figureout who you need to show up as
in order to create therelationships that you want.
You just basically get to beyourself, trust that that's
enough, and look at the peoplewho are around you and get to
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decide.
You get to choose, based onwhat you want in your
relationships, who gets to fitthose roles, those categories in
your life, and then make ahealthy and informed decision
from there and not feel like youneed to adjust yourself
constantly or show up as adifferent version of yourself in
order so that they can treatyou better and love you more and
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accept you into their circle orinto a relationship or into a
friendship or whatever.
And that has been the biggestshift for me.
And so when I did that, Irealized somewhere in all of
that you know, I realized, youknow, okay, so if I were to take
what I've just learned, youknow, going through that process
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of, of, you know unlearningthis idea that people treat me
as a reflect, how people treatme as a reflection of, of of how
they perceive me, me as areflection of how they perceive
me and really making it aboutgiving them back ownership and
accountability for their ownactions, knowing what I know.
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Now there was a moment where Iwent back and I said, okay, well
, what does that mean for thatrelationship?
Like, I mean, we started offgreat, we were happy, we seem to
be anyway, and then all of thathappens.
So how do I apply that to allof that?
And what I started to realize asI was reflecting back, there
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was a part of him, I think, thatwas always somewhat emotionally
unavailable.
I think he was really good attelling me what I wanted to hear
and what I needed to hear, buthe wasn't very good at sharing
what he was feeling.
He wasn't really good at movingthrough a lot of um emotion.
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Um, there was a lot of bottledup stuff with him that he just
wasn't looking at and wasn'tmoving like, wasn't really
paying attention to Um, and Ithink there was also a lot of
insecurities there that hewasn't moving like, wasn't
really paying attention to, andI think there was also a lot of
insecurities there that hewasn't sharing, and so maybe
that's where the infidelityhappened.
I'm not sure.
I'm not sure.
All I can say is I finally cameto the realization.
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You know that the you know, thereason why it all happened had
nothing to do with me and how Iwas showing up or or who I was,
and whether or not I was goodenough, pretty enough, thin
enough, sexy enough, smartenough, financially like
successful enough.
It didn't.
None of that mattered.
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What mattered, the only reasonwhy he did what he did, was he.
You know, there was something,there was something going on
with him that he wasn't feelingcomfortable with and he needed
an outlet or a distraction from.
Because here's the thing.
And I came to this realizationwhen, when we're in relationship
with people, it doesn't matterwhat we do, you know, it does
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not matter what we do.
It does not matter we will.
Of course we can make mistakes.
Of course we can do shittythings, we can suck.
You know, sometimes we have ourown issues and triggers that we
need to work through.
We have our own personalevolution.
We have our own personaltransformation, our own healing
to experience.
If it was a healthy relationship, if it was really a healthy
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relationship, if there was aproblem, he would have come to
talk to me about it.
Instead he chose the path ofgoing outside of the
relationship and, you know,sleeping with other people and
building and creatingrelationships with other people.
That was his choice to do that.
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He did not have to do that.
You know it wasn't like, yes,obviously we had our fair share
of problems, like everybody does, but you know, it wasn't like
there was ever.
You know, there was nothingthat I don't think we could have
, could not have worked through.
So obviously there was somethingdeeper going on, beneath the
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surface, that he could not face,that he didn't feel good
talking about that.
He didn't feel comfortablesharing with me or discussing
with me or moving through withme or experiencing with me or
even owning up to, and so hetook the easy A, he took the
easy out and kind of wentoutside of his relationship or
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whatever distraction he neededto move to avoid whatever was
going on with him.
So it had everything to do withhim and absolutely nothing to
do with me.
And again, that's not to say Ididn't fuck up somehow.
I'm sure I did, I'm sure I diddid, I'm sure I did.
But and this was the big butand this was the big realization
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in a healthy relationship whereboth parties are committed to
one another and coming from ahealthy, emotionally mature and
emotionally evolved place, youcan come together and have that
conversation and say let's workthrough our issues.
We didn't do that, you know.
He chose the path of goingoutside the relationship and
then I, you know, chose the pathof, you know, first fighting,
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then denial, then finally movingon and saying you know what I
deserve better, which took avery long time.
But, you know, when it comesdown to, you know why I went
through down this whole likerabbit hole of trying to blame
myself.
First, it's because there wasthis part of me that didn't
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believe that she was good enough.
It was because there was thispart of me that felt like I was
responsible for how peopletreated me, because if they
didn't treat me well, it'sbecause I didn't show up well
enough or good enough.
You know what I mean.
If they didn't treat me good,it's because I didn't show up
well enough or good enough.
You know what I mean.
If they didn't treat me good,it's because I didn't show up in
a good enough way, and if Ishowed up in a good enough way,
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they would be treating me good,and so I had to undo all of that
to get to a place where I couldsay number one I'm not
responsible for how you treat me, that is your decision.
Right, that's number one.
And number two, being able tostand solid within myself to say
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I know I will find somebody, Iknow I'm good enough to find
somebody who will treat me welland I can say no to anybody who
shows up that doesn't knowingthat I will be okay on my own
until I find somebody who treatsme the way that I know I
deserve to be treated.
And I no longer need tosubscribe to this belief that I
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need to somehow coerce, trick,manipulate or just change or
alter myself in such a way thatis going to inspire somebody to
treat me the way that I want tobe treated.
And I think that was the bigsort of energetic moment where
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the if you talk about energyhealing and energetic cords I
think that was the moment thatthe cord between us literally
split and I was able to finallylet that go and let that
relationship go, because Ifinally detached from this
narrative that it was somehow myfault that he cheated, that he
lied, that he manipulated me andthat he broke my heart, and I
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was able to come back to.
Yeah, sure, I probably wasn'tperfect, I'm sure I was very,
very, very flawed.
I had a lot of unworthinessissues that were coming out in
so many other ways Maybe not youknow specifically.
Well, maybe they were showingup and how I was showing up in
that relationship.
But you know, I was trying todo all the right things.
(27:24):
I was trying to do all the goodthings according to what I knew
to be right and good.
But knowing that, you know, ifit was a really healthy
relationship or if we were atleast two emotionally mature
individuals, we could have cometogether, we could have talked
about what was happening, wecould have talked about what we
needed to work on and not godown that path.
(27:45):
But you know that choice wasmade.
He acted accordingly and youknow, I separated myself from
taking responsibility for thatdecision that he made and that
was the most empowering thingthat I ever did and it was
rooted in this idea that we arenot responsible for how other
(28:06):
people show up, that we are notresponsible for how other people
show up we are not to defaultto.
If somebody is not treating usgood, then obviously that's a
representation of how goodenough we are or aren't.
You know that is a falsenarrative that I think many of
us have, especially if you're apeople pleaser, that you've kind
of, you know, taken on rightand it really is.
(28:30):
It really is a whole othertrauma, trauma adaptation, where
you think that you know, you'vekind of you kind of go through
as a child, you kind of gothrough your life and you see
where people are happy with youand where people aren't, and you
kind of use that as sort of amap to guide who it is you're
supposed to be, so that peoplewill love you, right, and that's
(28:53):
a very loose, simple definitionfor a very complex behavior.
But that is what is at theheart of what was happening for
me.
So once I deconstructed allthat, I was able to separate his
decisions and his actions frommy worthiness.
And I think that's theimportant thing when you can
separate their actions and theirdecisions from your worthiness,
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what that means about you andhow good enough you are or
aren't, when you can separatethose two things, then you're
able to make healthier decisionsas to, you know, being able to
see people for who they are andthen deciding whether or not
they get to play a part in yourlife story or not, and you get
to make those decisions rightand you don't need to alter
(29:39):
yourself in any way, shape orform.
Sure, we all have work to do.
Again, like I can't stress thatenough, we all have work to do,
we all have shit, we all havequirks, we all can improve
ourselves.
But if you have to changeyourself to be in a relationship
with someone, for them to treatyou well, then that's not a
healthy relationship.
Your relationships really needto be able to see you for who
(30:00):
you are and you know what.
If they don't, you'll have areally hard time creating an
intimate connection with anybody.
Because intimacy comes withbeing vulnerable and being fully
seen, and I know that can be ascomfortable as fuck as fuck for
a lot of you, um, but it's trueit.
Real intimacy, real connection,just comes with being able to
(30:21):
relax into being fully seen forwho you really are.
Um, all of you, all the messybits, just allowing it to take
up space, not having to hide itall the time, not having to,
like you know, put on this maskall the time.
Just really being able to beyou and allowing yourself to be
(30:44):
witnessed is really what createsreal intimate connections with
people.
And then and you know, ifthat's something that you're,
that you struggle with, work onthat, work on feeling safe,
being yourself, work on feelingenough being yourself so that
someone can fully see you Right,and that that is a lot of the
work that we do together when wework together, and that's a lot
of the work that we're going tobe doing in the masterclass.
(31:06):
So I hope I will see you there.
I hope that this episode youknow, you know really resonated
for you.
Let me know what you take awayfrom it in the comments below or
in an email or wherever you'reseeing this, or feel free to DM
me at the fem cast on InstagramI always love to hear from you
guys and wherever you're seeingthis on Spotify or iTunes or
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wherever, please leave apositive rating and review.
Share this episode withsomebody who needs it.
Until next time, you guys,massive love.
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