May 20, 2025 • 38 mins
Have you been feeling an overwhelming resistance to the very life you’ve worked so hard to build?
You're not alone—and it’s not just burnout.
In this raw, soul-stirring episode of The Femme Cast, I’m pulling back the curtain on a collective uprising happening in women’s bodies, minds, and spirits—a full-body no more to the self-sacrificing systems we’ve been conditioned to uphold for generations.
This isn’t about needing a break.
This is about your soul shutting down the performance. It’s a sacred rebellion against the lie that your worth is measured by how much you give, do, and endure.
Inside this episode, I share:
- A channeled message I received during the full moon that cracked me wide open
- The deeply personal story of how I walked away from a 15-year relationship, my career, and a life that looked “perfect” on paper—but felt like slow soul-death
- The truth behind this resistance: it’s not weakness—it’s awakening
- Why logic, pushing, and productivity hacks only deepen the ache
- A gentle 3-step process to start breaking free: Let go. Create space. Follow joy.
You’ll also hear real takeaways from women in my community—those who feel like they’re breaking down, but are actually breaking free.
If you've tried to "push through" and it's only made things worse…
If your body, your heart, your energy are screaming “I just can't do this anymore”...
This is your permission slip. Your wake-up call. Your divine redirection.
You are not lazy. You are not broken. You are waking up.
There’s also a powerful journaling invitation waiting for you inside—one that might shift everything.
🎧 Tune in now and discover what’s waiting for you on the other side of resistance.
Your heart already knows the way.
Now it’s time to listen.
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MARIA @THEFEMMECAST (00:00):
Hey you guys, what is up?
Welcome back to the show.
I am so excited and grateful tohave you here.
I was not planning on recordingtoday.
That was not at all the plan.
I was actually watching thelast.
I was catching up on episodesof, or re-watching the last few
episodes of, the Handmaid's Tale, getting ready for the new
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release, the episode, therelease of the new episode
coming up tomorrow, as we likeget ready to for, like, the
finale, which I'm going to miss,this show, but anyway, I was
having a conversation with afriend today and we were talking
about the resistance that we'refeeling to everything that we
do on a normal day to day and itreally resonated with the
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message that I had put out inthe recording the other day.
And so she's feeling it.
The ladies in my networkinggroup are feeling it and it just
seems like every woman that Italk to on some level is feeling
this resistance and this isn'tthe usual.
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This isn't the usual.
Oh my gosh, I'm doing too much,I'm tired, I'm burnt out, I
need a break.
We've been feeling that fordecades.
This is different.
This is a complete shutdown ofour faculties, basically Our
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body, our mind.
Our body, our mind, our energy,our heart is just saying no, no
more, I don't want to do thisanymore.
It is literally energeticallydigging its heels into the
ground, saying I ain't doingthis shit no more, like I'm not,
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you know, and I realized, okay,well, you know, if so many
women are feeling this and it'syou know, so many women are
experiencing differentsituations, different, you know
circumstances, but the same kindof feeling.
There's got to be somethingbigger going on here.
And so I think this is where Idon't know.
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Maybe this is why I was, youknow, kind of feeling the pull
to kind of channel again.
Now, today's the day of thefull moon, as I'm talking to you
guys, and shortly after thefull moon, something just told
me to pick up my pen and startwriting, and so here's what I
wrote.
Here's what kind of camethrough.
I'm going to try and read it asbest I can, but unfortunately,
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when I do this, my handwritinggets very messy very quickly.
So I'm going to try and do thisas best I can.
The world has done everything inits power to make you believe
that you're not enough, to makeyou believe that you have to
work harder, be stronger, givemore, expect less and to derive
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your worth, respect and valuefrom endless sacrifice.
The more you do, the more yougive, the more worthy you
believe yourself to be, becausethat is what the world has
taught you.
But that is an illusion, atrick to keep you in a
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disempowered state, a lie thathas been told to you again and
again and again for generations.
But this lie is falling awaynow and everything that you're
feeling is real.
The resistance that you'refeeling is real.
The resistance that you feel istwofold.
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One, you're starting to feelthe lie, the truth, sorry.
One, you're starting to feelthe lie, the truth, sorry.
You're starting to feel the lieand you're no longer willing to
participate.
And two, you're remembering whoyou really are.
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Every part of you body, mind,soul and spirit is a divine
masterpiece, chosen and designedfor a particular purpose.
You are divine co-creation andyou are remembering.
Everything you're feeling isreal, even though you're trying
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to push through it.
Keep going, logic your way outof it, reason with your energy
and your well-being just to dothat little bit more.
That feels so hard.
But your logic will never getyou where you're meant to be,
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neither will your pushing andstriving.
Slow, quiet, pause, whereyou're meant to be.
Neither will your pushing andstriving, slow, quiet.
Pause, be still and listen, notto the noise around you or to
the endless thoughts that tellyou you need to be doing more
and pushing through, but to yourheart, to the stillness, to the
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quiet that's within.
You will know what to do.
So take from that what you will.
I have felt this energy before.
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When I felt this before, it wasway more intense, and this was
when I had walked away from a 15year relationship.
I had walked away from mycareer.
It had gotten to the pointwhere I literally felt like I
you know I had this likeaversion to my life, like I
would break.
I felt like I could break outin hives just thinking about my
life.
It just felt so wrong andmisaligned for me and I remember
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this all too well and Iremember, you know, that was
when I kind of blew it all up.
I blew up the career, I blew upthe relationship, I blew up
most of my friendships.
I walked away from all of it.
I rented out my apartment and Ipacked my bags and I moved to
Southeast Asia for six monthswhy not, you know?
Um, and it was there that youknow, I really got away from all
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the noise in my head telling mewho I was supposed to be and
actually started to listen towho I was meant to be.
And you know there is a ton ofnoise out there.
There is a ton of opinions,there is a ton of expectations,
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demands, requirements,commitments there's all sorts
coming at you from all kinds ofdifferent directions.
You know we're not just evenlisten, we're not even just
talking about relationshipsanymore.
We're talking about career iscompeting for our attention, for
our care, that needs oursupport.
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And while we're running arounddoing all these things and,
believe me, I feel it too as acaregiver for my parents as
we're running around doing allthese things, we're completely
depleting ourselves and there'sa disempowering or a this
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illusion that we need to alwaysbe doing more.
And I don't know.
You know, like the message said, you know this is a
disempowering, this is, this isa lie that's been told to us to
keep us in a disempowered state.
And you know, maybe we've beenin this.
We've been.
You know these stories and thesebeliefs have been handed down
from generation to generation togeneration.
I know they have in my family.
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I see it in everyone in myfamily.
I see the women just constantlyworking harder, giving more,
expecting less, taking on moreand more until they just can't
do anymore, and they just keepgoing.
And no matter how hard thingsget, no matter how much of a
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push they feel, no matter howtired their soul is and crying
for for rest, for sleep, for apause, they just keep pushing
through it.
And I don't.
I think we're in a place rightnow where we're not meant to
push through it anymore.
I think I think we've done itfor quite some time, but I think
we're at the point right nowwhere it's just it's getting
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harder, and it's it'sintentional, it's intentional,
it's intentionally gettingharder so that we break the
pattern.
And this is literally our souldigging its heels into the
ground, saying I don't want todo this anymore.
It's not to say that we don't.
We don't, you know, we don'twant to show up to life, we
don't want to do this anymore.
It's not to say that we don't.
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We don't, you know, we don'twant to show up to life, we
don't want to do the participateand do the things that we want
to do and take care of our lovedones and and and do all the
things that it means to be incommunity with other people and
in relationship with otherpeople.
But I think, to the extent thatwe've been doing, it is
changing.
And I think that you know andthis isn't for everybody, I know
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this message is not foreverybody, but I know there's
many of you out there who havebeen raised to believe that and
I'm not just talking aboutfamily, I'm talking about the
world around you, raised youthis way, like the world taught
us, that we, you know, we givemore.
We're to give more than weexpect in return.
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We're not to ask for too much.
We're supposed to, um, you know, accommodate as best we can
when somebody needs something.
We're supposed to put ourselveslast, put everybody else's
needs first.
We're supposed to take care ofeverybody else's wellbeing.
And you know kind of not, youknow what I'm trying to say Like
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it's, it's kind of a mindsetthat this, this loop cycle that
we've been perpetuating.
Every time we go through thecycle, it gets worse and worse
and worse.
We take on more and more andmore.
We receive less and less andless and we've literally reached
a gridlock point on thatbehavior and our spirit, our
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soul, our whatever, is basicallysaying no, we ain't doing this
and we ain't doing this anymore,we ain't playing this game
anymore.
It is over, it is done.
And the digging we're diggingour heels into the ground
because we, no matter how muchwe try to convince ourselves,
and logically it makes sense forus to do it here.
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Physically and energetically itjust does not feel aligned
anymore and we know it and weare fighting it tooth and nail.
And you know, I always, Ialways say divine solutions when
the exasperation of the problemalso becomes a solution.
Well, the exasperation of theoverdoing, the overgiving, the
overpleasing and theself-abandoning and the
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self-sacrificing has come to apoint where we just cannot do it
anymore.
We are exhausted, we are tired,we are depleted, we are burnt
out and we are sayingenergetically, physically and
mentally and emotionally no.
And with that no will come aton of discomfort, will come a
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ton of self-doubt and insecurity, a lot of blame, shame and
guilt that we're going to feelbecause we're not doing all the
things we're supposed to bedoing, we're not taking on all
the responsibility, we're notaccomplishing everything that we
used to accomplish, we're notbeing everything to everyone
anymore and that is going to beuncomfortable as fuck,
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especially if you resonate withbeing a people pleaser, but it
is an important part of ourevolution, because I believe
that what is happening and thisis what I learned when I went
through this phase many, many,many years ago is that number
one, this process is a gentleunfolding.
You're not going to find theanswers right away.
You have to make space for theanswers to show up, and this is
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what we talked about in the lastepisode.
So, making space for theanswers to show up, to be guided
to where it is that you'resupposed to be going and what
you're supposed to be spendingyour time with, even if that
guidance says slow the fuck down, pause, do nothing, just like
the message said.
But there is another layer tothis, a deeper layer, a more
powerful layer to this, and thatis that, because we've been on
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this hamster wheel of doing andgiving and caretaking and
self-sacrificing andself-abandoning, we've actually
veered from what it is that wewere created for.
And I thought that was in here,but maybe I lost it in the
rewrite because I wrote it againso that it would be clear.
But there was something in hereabout yeah, chosen and designed
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for a particular purpose,no-transcript.
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For other people, the purposecan be very different.
I believe we all have a purposeof coming and returning to love
and returning to peace andremembering our power in the
co-creative process, but thenthere's also, like I think, ways
in which we contribute to thegreater good.
So, when we get so inundatedwith to-dos and support and
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caregiving and tasking andself-sacrificing and not
sleeping and our body being inpain because we've been doing so
much, or we're exhausted, ourbody being in pain because we've
been doing so much, or we'reexhausted and we haven't slept
because we've been working 45hour work weeks and you know
we're still not making enough tocover all the bills that we
need to pay.
So we need to, you know, put inmore it stops.
We need to slow down.
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We need to find ways to slowdown, to take a pause, take a
timeout, take a breath.
Be with our thoughts sorry, notour thoughts.
Be with our emotional body.
Feel what our body feels like.
Where is their energy stuck inour body?
What is the emotion that'sstuck there?
What is it trying to tell us?
How can we be more still?
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How can we move through lifemore slowly?
How can we move through lifemore intentionally?
How can we take a moment to letour mind be still so that maybe
, just maybe, we might actuallyhear what it is that we want and
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what our heart is asking for.
Because I do believe that ourdesires, our wants, our dreams,
none of it is random.
I don't believe that.
I believe that we are giftedwith certain wishes, desires,
dreams, aspirations, becausethat's what basically leads us
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down the path to our purpose,directly or indirectly.
And so those little nudges todo the little things that make
no sense logically, you know,like packing it up and moving to
Asia for six months, right,logically made no sense, but I
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did it and it was important forme on my journey and breaking my
own cycles and being able to dothis work.
Um, and you know, sometimes youknow it could be a simple thing
.
It could be a simple thing liketake time out.
I know you're busy, stop, taketime out of your day, go for the
walk in the park, go grab acoffee at the coffee shop.
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You know you've been wanting togo there.
You keep putting it off becauseyou keep doing your to-do list,
but I need you to just go tothe coffee shop.
You go to the coffee shop, youmeet somebody and you find out
that I don't know.
Maybe they're a soulmatefriendship that you've been, you
know, wanting to and prayingfor and calling into your life.
Or maybe they have some advicefor you.
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You meet somebody that has someadvice for you that leads you
down the path into anotherdirection in your life that
maybe you wouldn't have thoughtof how you not interacted with
that person.
We have to look at all theclues and any time we're getting
the nudge or the push or the,you know that little, that
little, the nudge or the push orthe, you know that little, that
little, not in here, notmentally, in our hearts, it's
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that quiet, little whisper thatsays you should go to the park,
you should go to the cafe, youshould pack it all up and go to
Asia for six months.
You won't regret it.
I know you're scared but it'sgoing to be okay.
Those little voices areimportant.
No-transcript.
And the first time I heard my Idon't know what you want to call
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it inner knowing, higher self,higher wisdom, whatever.
I had no clue what meditationwas, didn't even have a
spiritual practice.
Spirituality to me was going tochurch a couple times a year,
for, like the high holidays, Iwas laying on the beach with my
then partner and it was so clear.
It was so clear that after 15years, like we were just miles
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apart, like there was like wewere on the same Island, but
there was an ocean between us.
Okay, um, we could not befarther from each other in terms
of values, in terms of desiresand goals in life, like we had
just drifted so far from wherewe started.
And I remember, you know, layingon the beach that day and I was
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looking out on the water and itwas like magic hour right.
So the water's like really likesparkly and it's always so
magical that's why it's calledmagic hour, but anyway.
But I was laying on the beachand I was looking at the water,
I was watching it just kind ofsparkle in the sunlight as the
sun was going down.
And I remember saying to myselfthere has got to be more to
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life than this.
And I kid you not, I just keptlooking at the sparkles, kept
looking, kept looking, keptlooking.
Before I knew it, they startedto kind of merge into one
another and almost became kindof hazy.
I didn't realize it at the time, but I was actually meditating,
is what was happening.
So, as I was in this unconsciousmeditation.
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My eyes were kind of halfclosed and I heard a voice.
You have no idea what's waitingfor you if you only had the
courage to walk away.
And I remember I looked around,I looked left, I looked right,
I looked behind me, I lookedeverywhere.
I looked left, I looked right,I looked behind me, I looked
everywhere.
I'm like there was nobodyaround me.
Who the fuck said that?
Who the fuck actually said?
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Who in the actual fuck justsaid those words to me?
And there was nobody.
And I sat there and I rememberwe went to dinner that night and
I was like she's like jaw tothe ground and I was like he's
like john to the ground, likecompletely like speechless,
trying to figure out, one, whothis voice was.
And two, the fuck is out therewaiting for me that I have no
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idea, that I have to like youknow so.
So this you know that have tolike disrupt my life now.
So this feeling that I need todisrupt my life, that's not been
a lie, that's actually real.
Whatever this is that's goingon right now, obviously there's
something behind it that I'm notquite understanding.
And then, if I disrupt all ofthis and I walk away from all of
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this.
The fuck does my life look likeafter I do that?
And the reality is you don'tknow when.
You're on this journey, andthis is kind of what I was
telling the friend of mine thismorning as we were chatting.
This is a process of unfolding.
It is a gentle unfolding and aletting go of everything that's
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not serving you and making spacefor what does.
That is the assignment today.
The assignment today is toslowly and surely start to look
at all the things that you'redoing on a day-to-day that are
draining you, that are feelingreally, really, really, really,
really, really, like I meanreally hard.
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This feels like you're tryingto swim through quicksand.
Okay, that's what this feelslike.
So look at all the things thatare feeling really, really,
really hard.
Write them down.
Can you eliminate some of thosethings?
Can you?
If you can't eliminate them,can you do them less?
Can you make those thingssomehow?
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If you have to do them andthere's no getting out of it you
must, must, must, must do them.
Can you make them somewhat moreenjoyable or can you get some
support?
Not everything is going to fallby the wayside right away.
Again, this is a gentleunfolding, but if you can take
even one to two of those thingsoff your list and slowly start,
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slowly start taking some ofthose things away.
Go one at a time.
If you have to Take the firstthing off that you can take off
today, just doing that alonewill create so much energy and
space and momentum for you to beable to just have a time out,
listen to your inside voice andmaybe that inside voice will
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give you something else that youwant to fill that time with.
Or maybe it won't, maybe it'sjust a matter of making time.
The important thing is you knowit's a three-step process.
First you let go of the thingsthat aren't serving you and then
, in doing so, you get so muchmore energy because you're no
longer fighting yourself, you'reno longer fighting against the
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resistance to the things thatyou don't want to be doing, and
so in doing so, you start to getsome of your energy and your
inspiration back.
Then you create space.
Then you have time, you haveenergy, you have surplus in
order for ideas, inspiration,intuition to kind of come in and
help you fill in some of thegaps and fill in some of the you
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know answer some of thequestion marks for you, right?
Then the third step is to startto do the things that actually
do excite you, that do bring youjoy, that do inspire you, that
do energize you and slowly youcome out of this funk and you
emerge into this higher,elevated expression of who you
are.
But it is a gentle unfolding inhow this happens.
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Sorry, I just hit my mic.
It is a gentle unfolding at howthis happens.
It doesn't just happenovernight.
You have to start the lettinggo first, and that's the part we
have the most fuckingresistance with, because one we
have too many stories about howthat makes us invaluable and
unworthy as a human being.
We don't do all the things thatwe used to do.
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There's so much story wrappedin that situation.
Number one there's so muchstory and I like wrapped around
the idea of doing nothing.
What do you mean do nothing?
You mean to tell me that I'msupposed to not be productive
for a couple of hours a week ora day, or like, can it be one
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hour a week?
Is that enough of unproductivetime for, like the universe, to
come in and, like you know, giveme my what's it called?
My game plan.
Be okay with doing nothing.
That's going to beuncomfortable.
So the letting go reallyfucking uncomfortable, the
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sitting around and doing nothingand waiting for spirit to show
up and give you the marchingorders totally fucking
uncomfortable.
Then taking the time out to dothe things that actually inspire
you, that bring you joy, thatlight you up, that elevate you
also uncomfortable because whathave we been taught not to do?
We've been taught to notprioritize needs, to put our
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needs, our desires, our wants,our everything on the back
burner, because everybody else'sneeds comes first, because
everybody else's needs comesfirst.
But the path to purpose is thepath of letting go of all the
things that aren't serving, ofsitting quietly in the stillness
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and being able to be there andbe present with it and then
taking aligned action on thethings that we're guided to do.
That that in itself is theunfolding, and there is a story
every step of the way giving youa thousand and one reasons
telling you not to do that.
And you wonder why we live in aworld where we're all walking
around feeling so fuckingunfulfilled, burnt out and
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wondering is it ever going toget any fucking better?
Or is this all there is to life?
Because I can guarantee youthat there's not.
This is not all there is.
There is so much more, justlike the voice said to me that
day.
There's so much more waitingfor you out there, if you would
only have the courage to leave.
And I did six months later,something like that, months
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later, something like that.
So what do we take from this?
Allow the unfolding, start tolook at your life and start to
make a list of all the thingsthat you know are draining you.
This is your first step.
Start to look at all the thingsthat you know are draining you.
Take one thing at a time off ofthat list.
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Keep going until you can't takeoff anymore.
Okay, I don't want you to put,I don't want to put you in a
position where you're likeliterally blowing up your life.
That's not what this is about.
But Listen, we all have thingsthat we tell ourselves that we
have to do every single fuckingday that we don't actually have
to.
We really, when we break itdown, we don't actually have to.
We really, when we break itdown, we don't actually have to.
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The world is not going to endif we don't do laundry this week
.
Okay, yeah, people will mighthave to rewear a few things, or
maybe they have to whatever,like you know, like, or maybe we
do less than we normally do.
You know, maybe this is not theweek that we have to clean the
baseboards.
Or, you know, maybe this is,you know, maybe this is not the
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week to be taking I don't knowextra classes or something, or
or or or taking on extraresponsibility that we don't
need to be doing.
I can think of a million thingsthat I do every single week that
I don't need to be doing, likeI, you know, maybe I do need to
prep my meals because I like tobe healthy, but maybe, just
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maybe, I can make simplerrecipes, right?
Maybe they don't all need to belike gourmet nutrition recipes.
Maybe they can just be simple,little recipes, right?
Maybe I can simplify that way.
Or, you know, I've got 30things on my to-do list this
week.
If they don't all get done,it's not going to be the end of
the world.
If I can get 10 of them done,I'm in good shape.
You know, maybe I don't have todo all 30 this week.
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Maybe I don't have to put it.
You know, I used to do this allthe time.
I did it very recently.
I, I, maybe I don't have to putup my hand for an extra project
at work.
Maybe thing, I can takeadvantage of the slow time right
now and use it as time to toreflect and reconnect and get
centered and and not have topush to strive to do more Right?
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And I mean, there's times wherewe're totally busy at work and
we can't, we don't have thatluxury.
And then there's, you know,there's times like where you're
pulling your hair out becauseyou can't get through your day
and you feel completelyoverwhelmed.
Well, can you maybe ask forhelp, right?
Or is there again in yourworkday things that you can kind
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of you know, let go of.
That don't need to get donethis week.
You're just doing it becauseyou want to start.
You know what I mean.
Like, just I challenge you tolook at everything on your list
and see if you can.
You know, look at the thingsthat are draining.
You See if you can knock offone or two things this week and
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just either put them off, dothem less or just take them off
altogether.
Those are your three options.
You can put them off for a week, you can take them off the list
altogether and say, no, I'mjust not fucking doing this
anymore.
Or do less, or get support.
You know, put it in those fourbuckets and start to make time,
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start to slow down, and there isa real invitation here for you
not to run out and try and fillthat time with other things.
Be in the stillness, be quiet,rest, hydrate, journal, close
your eyes, self-reflect, feelwhat's coming up for you, feel,
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feel the emotions in your body,feel what they're trying to tell
you.
Um, this is truly, truly, trulypowerful.
It takes time, again, it's notgoing to happen overnight.
It does take time, and this isso much more than relationships.
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I will say this, though Like wetalk about relationships a lot
here on the Femcast, obviously,and breaking toxic relationship
patterns, 95% of my energywasted has gone to toxic
relationship patterns.
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But the benefits of breakingthose toxic patterns has been in
all areas of life, literallycareer, family, relationships,
all of it.
And so you know we have tostart realizing there's a huge
cost to constantly being in thisplace of um, where we're
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running our cup dry.
You know where we're um runningon empty, where we're depleting
our energy and our resources,and the cost of doing this is
the quality of our relationships, the situation of our finances,
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our success at work, themaintenance of our home.
You know, everything takes ahit when you're energetically
burning yourself out doingthings you're not supposed to be
doing, when you start to takeyour energy back from those
things.
And you know, for me, toxicrelationships as a focus when I
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took my energy back from allthose toxic sorry, there's
motorcycles going by when I tookmy energy back from the circus
I was running in the circles, Iwas running around toxic
relationships.
I had so much energy and spaceand time that I could do so many
amazing things with energy andspace and time that I could do
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so many amazing things with.
But we have to make thatintentional choice to say, okay,
I recognize I'm in resistance,I recognize that my spirit is
literally digging its heels inthe ground and wants me to stop,
so I am going to pay attention.
Here are the things that feelreally fucking hard right now.
I'm going to make a list.
Maybe there's going to be 30things on this list.
I keep saying 30, 30 things onthis list.
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Maybe I'll take off one thisweek, maybe two.
Maybe I'll take off one morenext week.
Maybe this one I'll get somehelp with.
Maybe this one I'll just putoff for now because it's not
urgent.
I can deal with it later.
Okay, this one I kind of have todo.
How can I make it?
How can I break it up or makeit a not so energetically
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draining task?
What can I do to make it better?
Is there a way I can do itbetter?
Maybe is there a differentprocess I can take.
Can I break it up into smallerparts?
Can I I don't know listen tomusic while I do it and have a
glass?
You know, whatever it is, do itand, you know, give yourself
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permission to do the thing thatmakes you feel good.
Because I think that's thepiece that's been missing in all
of this is because we've beenprogrammed to believe that we're
not good enough.
We've, you know, subconsciously, you know, adopted this belief
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that we have to keep workinghard and keep pushing and keep
striving, even if it doesn'tfeel good.
You know, no pain, no gain andall that bullshit.
Right, it's almost like we'vebeen brainwashed to believe that
it's bad to do something thatfeels good to our soul, because
we're meant to work hard, we'remeant to push through, we're
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meant to fight through thatresistance we're meant to.
Oh, you know, my mind istelling me to stop.
But I'm just gonna keep going.
I'm not gonna quit bullshit,permission given to do what
feels good.
And if you can't do what feelsgood, at least make what you
have to do feel better in someway and give yourself that
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permission today and giveyourself the permission to Let
go of the things that aren'tserving you.
Make some space for theuniverse to come in and bless
you with ideas, with support,with inspiration.
You have no idea what's waitingfor you on the other side If
you just stop running on thatdamn hamster wheel that someone
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somewhere decided we should alldo in order to feel worthy.
Decided we should all do inorder to feel worthy, because
that's the thing that's beendisempowering us since probably
the beginning of time.
But anyway, I'm not going toget all biblical.
So I love you guys.
Until next time, massive love.
Hey you guys, what is up?
Welcome back to the show.
I am so excited and grateful tohave you here.
I was not planning on recordingtoday.
That was not at all the plan.
I was actually watching thelast.
I was catching up on episodesof, or re-watching the last few
episodes of, the Handmaid's Tale, getting ready for the new
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release, the episode, therelease of the new episode
coming up tomorrow, as we likeget ready to for, like, the
finale, which I'm going to miss,this show, but anyway, I was
having a conversation with afriend today and we were talking
about the resistance that we'refeeling to everything that we
do on a normal day to day and itreally resonated with the
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message that I had put out inthe recording the other day.
And so she's feeling it.
The ladies in my networkinggroup are feeling it and it just
seems like every woman that Italk to on some level is feeling
this resistance and this isn'tthe usual.
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This isn't the usual.
Oh my gosh, I'm doing too much,I'm tired, I'm burnt out, I
need a break.
We've been feeling that fordecades.
This is different.
This is a complete shutdown ofour faculties, basically Our
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body, our mind.
Our body, our mind, our energy,our heart is just saying no, no
more, I don't want to do thisanymore.
It is literally energeticallydigging its heels into the
ground, saying I ain't doingthis shit no more, like I'm not,
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you know, and I realized, okay,well, you know, if so many
women are feeling this and it'syou know, so many women are
experiencing differentsituations, different, you know
circumstances, but the same kindof feeling.
There's got to be somethingbigger going on here.
And so I think this is where Idon't know.
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Maybe this is why I was, youknow, kind of feeling the pull
to kind of channel again.
Now, today's the day of thefull moon, as I'm talking to you
guys, and shortly after thefull moon, something just told
me to pick up my pen and startwriting, and so here's what I
wrote.
Here's what kind of camethrough.
I'm going to try and read it asbest I can, but unfortunately,
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when I do this, my handwritinggets very messy very quickly.
So I'm going to try and do thisas best I can.
The world has done everything inits power to make you believe
that you're not enough, to makeyou believe that you have to
work harder, be stronger, givemore, expect less and to derive
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your worth, respect and valuefrom endless sacrifice.
The more you do, the more yougive, the more worthy you
believe yourself to be, becausethat is what the world has
taught you.
But that is an illusion, atrick to keep you in a
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disempowered state, a lie thathas been told to you again and
again and again for generations.
But this lie is falling awaynow and everything that you're
feeling is real.
The resistance that you'refeeling is real.
The resistance that you feel istwofold.
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One, you're starting to feelthe lie, the truth, sorry.
One, you're starting to feelthe lie, the truth, sorry.
You're starting to feel the lieand you're no longer willing to
participate.
And two, you're remembering whoyou really are.
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Every part of you body, mind,soul and spirit is a divine
masterpiece, chosen and designedfor a particular purpose.
You are divine co-creation andyou are remembering.
Everything you're feeling isreal, even though you're trying
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to push through it.
Keep going, logic your way outof it, reason with your energy
and your well-being just to dothat little bit more.
That feels so hard.
But your logic will never getyou where you're meant to be,
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neither will your pushing andstriving.
Slow, quiet, pause, whereyou're meant to be.
Neither will your pushing andstriving, slow, quiet.
Pause, be still and listen, notto the noise around you or to
the endless thoughts that tellyou you need to be doing more
and pushing through, but to yourheart, to the stillness, to the
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quiet that's within.
You will know what to do.
So take from that what you will.
I have felt this energy before.
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When I felt this before, it wasway more intense, and this was
when I had walked away from a 15year relationship.
I had walked away from mycareer.
It had gotten to the pointwhere I literally felt like I
you know I had this likeaversion to my life, like I
would break.
I felt like I could break outin hives just thinking about my
life.
It just felt so wrong andmisaligned for me and I remember
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this all too well and Iremember, you know, that was
when I kind of blew it all up.
I blew up the career, I blew upthe relationship, I blew up
most of my friendships.
I walked away from all of it.
I rented out my apartment and Ipacked my bags and I moved to
Southeast Asia for six monthswhy not, you know?
Um, and it was there that youknow, I really got away from all
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the noise in my head telling mewho I was supposed to be and
actually started to listen towho I was meant to be.
And you know there is a ton ofnoise out there.
There is a ton of opinions,there is a ton of expectations,
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demands, requirements,commitments there's all sorts
coming at you from all kinds ofdifferent directions.
You know we're not just evenlisten, we're not even just
talking about relationshipsanymore.
We're talking about career iscompeting for our attention, for
our care, that needs oursupport.
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And while we're running arounddoing all these things and,
believe me, I feel it too as acaregiver for my parents as
we're running around doing allthese things, we're completely
depleting ourselves and there'sa disempowering or a this
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illusion that we need to alwaysbe doing more.
And I don't know.
You know, like the message said, you know this is a
disempowering, this is, this isa lie that's been told to us to
keep us in a disempowered state.
And you know, maybe we've beenin this.
We've been.
You know these stories and thesebeliefs have been handed down
from generation to generation togeneration.
I know they have in my family.
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I see it in everyone in myfamily.
I see the women just constantlyworking harder, giving more,
expecting less, taking on moreand more until they just can't
do anymore, and they just keepgoing.
And no matter how hard thingsget, no matter how much of a
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push they feel, no matter howtired their soul is and crying
for for rest, for sleep, for apause, they just keep pushing
through it.
And I don't.
I think we're in a place rightnow where we're not meant to
push through it anymore.
I think I think we've done itfor quite some time, but I think
we're at the point right nowwhere it's just it's getting
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harder, and it's it'sintentional, it's intentional,
it's intentionally gettingharder so that we break the
pattern.
And this is literally our souldigging its heels into the
ground, saying I don't want todo this anymore.
It's not to say that we don't.
We don't, you know, we don'twant to show up to life, we
don't want to do this anymore.
It's not to say that we don't.
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We don't, you know, we don'twant to show up to life, we
don't want to do the participateand do the things that we want
to do and take care of our lovedones and and and do all the
things that it means to be incommunity with other people and
in relationship with otherpeople.
But I think, to the extent thatwe've been doing, it is
changing.
And I think that you know andthis isn't for everybody, I know
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this message is not foreverybody, but I know there's
many of you out there who havebeen raised to believe that and
I'm not just talking aboutfamily, I'm talking about the
world around you, raised youthis way, like the world taught
us, that we, you know, we givemore.
We're to give more than weexpect in return.
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We're not to ask for too much.
We're supposed to, um, you know, accommodate as best we can
when somebody needs something.
We're supposed to put ourselveslast, put everybody else's
needs first.
We're supposed to take care ofeverybody else's wellbeing.
And you know kind of not, youknow what I'm trying to say Like
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it's, it's kind of a mindsetthat this, this loop cycle that
we've been perpetuating.
Every time we go through thecycle, it gets worse and worse
and worse.
We take on more and more andmore.
We receive less and less andless and we've literally reached
a gridlock point on thatbehavior and our spirit, our
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soul, our whatever, is basicallysaying no, we ain't doing this
and we ain't doing this anymore,we ain't playing this game
anymore.
It is over, it is done.
And the digging we're diggingour heels into the ground
because we, no matter how muchwe try to convince ourselves,
and logically it makes sense forus to do it here.
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Physically and energetically itjust does not feel aligned
anymore and we know it and weare fighting it tooth and nail.
And you know, I always, Ialways say divine solutions when
the exasperation of the problemalso becomes a solution.
Well, the exasperation of theoverdoing, the overgiving, the
overpleasing and theself-abandoning and the
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self-sacrificing has come to apoint where we just cannot do it
anymore.
We are exhausted, we are tired,we are depleted, we are burnt
out and we are sayingenergetically, physically and
mentally and emotionally no.
And with that no will come aton of discomfort, will come a
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ton of self-doubt and insecurity, a lot of blame, shame and
guilt that we're going to feelbecause we're not doing all the
things we're supposed to bedoing, we're not taking on all
the responsibility, we're notaccomplishing everything that we
used to accomplish, we're notbeing everything to everyone
anymore and that is going to beuncomfortable as fuck,
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especially if you resonate withbeing a people pleaser, but it
is an important part of ourevolution, because I believe
that what is happening and thisis what I learned when I went
through this phase many, many,many years ago is that number
one, this process is a gentleunfolding.
You're not going to find theanswers right away.
You have to make space for theanswers to show up, and this is
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what we talked about in the lastepisode.
So, making space for theanswers to show up, to be guided
to where it is that you'resupposed to be going and what
you're supposed to be spendingyour time with, even if that
guidance says slow the fuck down, pause, do nothing, just like
the message said.
But there is another layer tothis, a deeper layer, a more
powerful layer to this, and thatis that, because we've been on
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this hamster wheel of doing andgiving and caretaking and
self-sacrificing andself-abandoning, we've actually
veered from what it is that wewere created for.
And I thought that was in here,but maybe I lost it in the
rewrite because I wrote it againso that it would be clear.
But there was something in hereabout yeah, chosen and designed
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for a particular purpose,no-transcript.
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For other people, the purposecan be very different.
I believe we all have a purposeof coming and returning to love
and returning to peace andremembering our power in the
co-creative process, but thenthere's also, like I think, ways
in which we contribute to thegreater good.
So, when we get so inundatedwith to-dos and support and
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caregiving and tasking andself-sacrificing and not
sleeping and our body being inpain because we've been doing so
much, or we're exhausted, ourbody being in pain because we've
been doing so much, or we'reexhausted and we haven't slept
because we've been working 45hour work weeks and you know
we're still not making enough tocover all the bills that we
need to pay.
So we need to, you know, put inmore it stops.
We need to slow down.
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We need to find ways to slowdown, to take a pause, take a
timeout, take a breath.
Be with our thoughts sorry, notour thoughts.
Be with our emotional body.
Feel what our body feels like.
Where is their energy stuck inour body?
What is the emotion that'sstuck there?
What is it trying to tell us?
How can we be more still?
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How can we move through lifemore slowly?
How can we move through lifemore intentionally?
How can we take a moment to letour mind be still so that maybe
, just maybe, we might actuallyhear what it is that we want and
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what our heart is asking for.
Because I do believe that ourdesires, our wants, our dreams,
none of it is random.
I don't believe that.
I believe that we are giftedwith certain wishes, desires,
dreams, aspirations, becausethat's what basically leads us
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down the path to our purpose,directly or indirectly.
And so those little nudges todo the little things that make
no sense logically, you know,like packing it up and moving to
Asia for six months, right,logically made no sense, but I
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did it and it was important forme on my journey and breaking my
own cycles and being able to dothis work.
Um, and you know, sometimes youknow it could be a simple thing
.
It could be a simple thing liketake time out.
I know you're busy, stop, taketime out of your day, go for the
walk in the park, go grab acoffee at the coffee shop.
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You know you've been wanting togo there.
You keep putting it off becauseyou keep doing your to-do list,
but I need you to just go tothe coffee shop.
You go to the coffee shop, youmeet somebody and you find out
that I don't know.
Maybe they're a soulmatefriendship that you've been, you
know, wanting to and prayingfor and calling into your life.
Or maybe they have some advicefor you.
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You meet somebody that has someadvice for you that leads you
down the path into anotherdirection in your life that
maybe you wouldn't have thoughtof how you not interacted with
that person.
We have to look at all theclues and any time we're getting
the nudge or the push or the,you know that little, that
little, the nudge or the push orthe, you know that little, that
little, not in here, notmentally, in our hearts, it's
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that quiet, little whisper thatsays you should go to the park,
you should go to the cafe, youshould pack it all up and go to
Asia for six months.
You won't regret it.
I know you're scared but it'sgoing to be okay.
Those little voices areimportant.
No-transcript.
And the first time I heard my Idon't know what you want to call
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it inner knowing, higher self,higher wisdom, whatever.
I had no clue what meditationwas, didn't even have a
spiritual practice.
Spirituality to me was going tochurch a couple times a year,
for, like the high holidays, Iwas laying on the beach with my
then partner and it was so clear.
It was so clear that after 15years, like we were just miles
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apart, like there was like wewere on the same Island, but
there was an ocean between us.
Okay, um, we could not befarther from each other in terms
of values, in terms of desiresand goals in life, like we had
just drifted so far from wherewe started.
And I remember, you know, layingon the beach that day and I was
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looking out on the water and itwas like magic hour right.
So the water's like really likesparkly and it's always so
magical that's why it's calledmagic hour, but anyway.
But I was laying on the beachand I was looking at the water,
I was watching it just kind ofsparkle in the sunlight as the
sun was going down.
And I remember saying to myselfthere has got to be more to
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life than this.
And I kid you not, I just keptlooking at the sparkles, kept
looking, kept looking, keptlooking.
Before I knew it, they startedto kind of merge into one
another and almost became kindof hazy.
I didn't realize it at the time, but I was actually meditating,
is what was happening.
So, as I was in this unconsciousmeditation.
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My eyes were kind of halfclosed and I heard a voice.
You have no idea what's waitingfor you if you only had the
courage to walk away.
And I remember I looked around,I looked left, I looked right,
I looked behind me, I lookedeverywhere.
I looked left, I looked right,I looked behind me, I looked
everywhere.
I'm like there was nobodyaround me.
Who the fuck said that?
Who the fuck actually said?
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Who in the actual fuck justsaid those words to me?
And there was nobody.
And I sat there and I rememberwe went to dinner that night and
I was like she's like jaw tothe ground and I was like he's
like john to the ground, likecompletely like speechless,
trying to figure out, one, whothis voice was.
And two, the fuck is out therewaiting for me that I have no
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idea, that I have to like youknow so.
So this you know that have tolike disrupt my life now.
So this feeling that I need todisrupt my life, that's not been
a lie, that's actually real.
Whatever this is that's goingon right now, obviously there's
something behind it that I'm notquite understanding.
And then, if I disrupt all ofthis and I walk away from all of
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this.
The fuck does my life look likeafter I do that?
And the reality is you don'tknow when.
You're on this journey, andthis is kind of what I was
telling the friend of mine thismorning as we were chatting.
This is a process of unfolding.
It is a gentle unfolding and aletting go of everything that's
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not serving you and making spacefor what does.
That is the assignment today.
The assignment today is toslowly and surely start to look
at all the things that you'redoing on a day-to-day that are
draining you, that are feelingreally, really, really, really,
really, really, like I meanreally hard.
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This feels like you're tryingto swim through quicksand.
Okay, that's what this feelslike.
So look at all the things thatare feeling really, really,
really hard.
Write them down.
Can you eliminate some of thosethings?
Can you?
If you can't eliminate them,can you do them less?
Can you make those thingssomehow?
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If you have to do them andthere's no getting out of it you
must, must, must, must do them.
Can you make them somewhat moreenjoyable or can you get some
support?
Not everything is going to fallby the wayside right away.
Again, this is a gentleunfolding, but if you can take
even one to two of those thingsoff your list and slowly start,
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slowly start taking some ofthose things away.
Go one at a time.
If you have to Take the firstthing off that you can take off
today, just doing that alonewill create so much energy and
space and momentum for you to beable to just have a time out,
listen to your inside voice andmaybe that inside voice will
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give you something else that youwant to fill that time with.
Or maybe it won't, maybe it'sjust a matter of making time.
The important thing is you knowit's a three-step process.
First you let go of the thingsthat aren't serving you and then
, in doing so, you get so muchmore energy because you're no
longer fighting yourself, you'reno longer fighting against the
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resistance to the things thatyou don't want to be doing, and
so in doing so, you start to getsome of your energy and your
inspiration back.
Then you create space.
Then you have time, you haveenergy, you have surplus in
order for ideas, inspiration,intuition to kind of come in and
help you fill in some of thegaps and fill in some of the you
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know answer some of thequestion marks for you, right?
Then the third step is to startto do the things that actually
do excite you, that do bring youjoy, that do inspire you, that
do energize you and slowly youcome out of this funk and you
emerge into this higher,elevated expression of who you
are.
But it is a gentle unfolding inhow this happens.
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Sorry, I just hit my mic.
It is a gentle unfolding at howthis happens.
It doesn't just happenovernight.
You have to start the lettinggo first, and that's the part we
have the most fuckingresistance with, because one we
have too many stories about howthat makes us invaluable and
unworthy as a human being.
We don't do all the things thatwe used to do.
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There's so much story wrappedin that situation.
Number one there's so muchstory and I like wrapped around
the idea of doing nothing.
What do you mean do nothing?
You mean to tell me that I'msupposed to not be productive
for a couple of hours a week ora day, or like, can it be one
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hour a week?
Is that enough of unproductivetime for, like the universe, to
come in and, like you know, giveme my what's it called?
My game plan.
Be okay with doing nothing.
That's going to beuncomfortable.
So the letting go reallyfucking uncomfortable, the
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sitting around and doing nothingand waiting for spirit to show
up and give you the marchingorders totally fucking
uncomfortable.
Then taking the time out to dothe things that actually inspire
you, that bring you joy, thatlight you up, that elevate you
also uncomfortable because whathave we been taught not to do?
We've been taught to notprioritize needs, to put our
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needs, our desires, our wants,our everything on the back
burner, because everybody else'sneeds comes first, because
everybody else's needs comesfirst.
But the path to purpose is thepath of letting go of all the
things that aren't serving, ofsitting quietly in the stillness
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and being able to be there andbe present with it and then
taking aligned action on thethings that we're guided to do.
That that in itself is theunfolding, and there is a story
every step of the way giving youa thousand and one reasons
telling you not to do that.
And you wonder why we live in aworld where we're all walking
around feeling so fuckingunfulfilled, burnt out and
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wondering is it ever going toget any fucking better?
Or is this all there is to life?
Because I can guarantee youthat there's not.
This is not all there is.
There is so much more, justlike the voice said to me that
day.
There's so much more waitingfor you out there, if you would
only have the courage to leave.
And I did six months later,something like that, months
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later, something like that.
So what do we take from this?
Allow the unfolding, start tolook at your life and start to
make a list of all the thingsthat you know are draining you.
This is your first step.
Start to look at all the thingsthat you know are draining you.
Take one thing at a time off ofthat list.
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Keep going until you can't takeoff anymore.
Okay, I don't want you to put,I don't want to put you in a
position where you're likeliterally blowing up your life.
That's not what this is about.
But Listen, we all have thingsthat we tell ourselves that we
have to do every single fuckingday that we don't actually have
to.
We really, when we break itdown, we don't actually have to.
We really, when we break itdown, we don't actually have to.
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The world is not going to endif we don't do laundry this week
.
Okay, yeah, people will mighthave to rewear a few things, or
maybe they have to whatever,like you know, like, or maybe we
do less than we normally do.
You know, maybe this is not theweek that we have to clean the
baseboards.
Or, you know, maybe this is,you know, maybe this is not the
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week to be taking I don't knowextra classes or something, or
or or or taking on extraresponsibility that we don't
need to be doing.
I can think of a million thingsthat I do every single week that
I don't need to be doing, likeI, you know, maybe I do need to
prep my meals because I like tobe healthy, but maybe, just
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maybe, I can make simplerrecipes, right?
Maybe they don't all need to belike gourmet nutrition recipes.
Maybe they can just be simple,little recipes, right?
Maybe I can simplify that way.
Or, you know, I've got 30things on my to-do list this
week.
If they don't all get done,it's not going to be the end of
the world.
If I can get 10 of them done,I'm in good shape.
You know, maybe I don't have todo all 30 this week.
(27:03):
Maybe I don't have to put it.
You know, I used to do this allthe time.
I did it very recently.
I, I, maybe I don't have to putup my hand for an extra project
at work.
Maybe thing, I can takeadvantage of the slow time right
now and use it as time to toreflect and reconnect and get
centered and and not have topush to strive to do more Right?
(27:25):
And I mean, there's times wherewe're totally busy at work and
we can't, we don't have thatluxury.
And then there's, you know,there's times like where you're
pulling your hair out becauseyou can't get through your day
and you feel completelyoverwhelmed.
Well, can you maybe ask forhelp, right?
Or is there again in yourworkday things that you can kind
(27:45):
of you know, let go of.
That don't need to get donethis week.
You're just doing it becauseyou want to start.
You know what I mean.
Like, just I challenge you tolook at everything on your list
and see if you can.
You know, look at the thingsthat are draining.
You See if you can knock offone or two things this week and
(28:07):
just either put them off, dothem less or just take them off
altogether.
Those are your three options.
You can put them off for a week, you can take them off the list
altogether and say, no, I'mjust not fucking doing this
anymore.
Or do less, or get support.
You know, put it in those fourbuckets and start to make time,
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start to slow down, and there isa real invitation here for you
not to run out and try and fillthat time with other things.
Be in the stillness, be quiet,rest, hydrate, journal, close
your eyes, self-reflect, feelwhat's coming up for you, feel,
(28:53):
feel the emotions in your body,feel what they're trying to tell
you.
Um, this is truly, truly, trulypowerful.
It takes time, again, it's notgoing to happen overnight.
It does take time, and this isso much more than relationships.
(29:13):
I will say this, though Like wetalk about relationships a lot
here on the Femcast, obviously,and breaking toxic relationship
patterns, 95% of my energywasted has gone to toxic
relationship patterns.
(29:39):
But the benefits of breakingthose toxic patterns has been in
all areas of life, literallycareer, family, relationships,
all of it.
And so you know we have tostart realizing there's a huge
cost to constantly being in thisplace of um, where we're
(30:02):
running our cup dry.
You know where we're um runningon empty, where we're depleting
our energy and our resources,and the cost of doing this is
the quality of our relationships, the situation of our finances,
(30:24):
our success at work, themaintenance of our home.
You know, everything takes ahit when you're energetically
burning yourself out doingthings you're not supposed to be
doing, when you start to takeyour energy back from those
things.
And you know, for me, toxicrelationships as a focus when I
(30:51):
took my energy back from allthose toxic sorry, there's
motorcycles going by when I tookmy energy back from the circus
I was running in the circles, Iwas running around toxic
relationships.
I had so much energy and spaceand time that I could do so many
amazing things with energy andspace and time that I could do
(31:11):
so many amazing things with.
But we have to make thatintentional choice to say, okay,
I recognize I'm in resistance,I recognize that my spirit is
literally digging its heels inthe ground and wants me to stop,
so I am going to pay attention.
Here are the things that feelreally fucking hard right now.
I'm going to make a list.
Maybe there's going to be 30things on this list.
I keep saying 30, 30 things onthis list.
(31:34):
Maybe I'll take off one thisweek, maybe two.
Maybe I'll take off one morenext week.
Maybe this one I'll get somehelp with.
Maybe this one I'll just putoff for now because it's not
urgent.
I can deal with it later.
Okay, this one I kind of have todo.
How can I make it?
How can I break it up or makeit a not so energetically
(31:57):
draining task?
What can I do to make it better?
Is there a way I can do itbetter?
Maybe is there a differentprocess I can take.
Can I break it up into smallerparts?
Can I I don't know listen tomusic while I do it and have a
glass?
You know, whatever it is, do itand, you know, give yourself
(32:18):
permission to do the thing thatmakes you feel good.
Because I think that's thepiece that's been missing in all
of this is because we've beenprogrammed to believe that we're
not good enough.
We've, you know, subconsciously, you know, adopted this belief
(32:39):
that we have to keep workinghard and keep pushing and keep
striving, even if it doesn'tfeel good.
You know, no pain, no gain andall that bullshit.
Right, it's almost like we'vebeen brainwashed to believe that
it's bad to do something thatfeels good to our soul, because
we're meant to work hard, we'remeant to push through, we're
(33:00):
meant to fight through thatresistance we're meant to.
Oh, you know, my mind istelling me to stop.
But I'm just gonna keep going.
I'm not gonna quit bullshit,permission given to do what
feels good.
And if you can't do what feelsgood, at least make what you
have to do feel better in someway and give yourself that
(33:21):
permission today and giveyourself the permission to Let
go of the things that aren'tserving you.
Make some space for theuniverse to come in and bless
you with ideas, with support,with inspiration.
You have no idea what's waitingfor you on the other side If
you just stop running on thatdamn hamster wheel that someone
(33:42):
somewhere decided we should alldo in order to feel worthy.
Decided we should all do inorder to feel worthy, because
that's the thing that's beendisempowering us since probably
the beginning of time.
But anyway, I'm not going toget all biblical.
So I love you guys.
Until next time, massive love.
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