The Functioning Hot Mess

I recently shared a concept with one of my coaching groups, and I knew I needed to bring it to you as well because I think it’s pretty powerful! 

I want you to think about gravity, and how it’s always around us, even when we don’t notice it; it can’t be taken away. The same thing is true for our personal power-it’s a massive force and energy that lives within us. I want to dive deeper into this topic today, because it’s so importan...

I had a fascinating conversation with someone at an event recently (one of my favorite things is to strike up conversations with complete strangers), and we were discussing what we had witnessed over the last two and a half years with the pandemic. We talked about all of our favorite places initially shutting down, the stress we were under, and ultimately, how our healthy coping mechanisms have changed.

Even though most of the lock...

The theme of ‘connection’ I’ve been doing is so important to me, and the topic I’m sharing about today is no different. Connecting with your partner is needed now, more than ever-especially with the huge disconnect we’re experiencing from real people in our society.

If you truly want to be with your partner and you’re willing to put in the work, you have to understand the evolution of a relationship, and recognize where you are in ...

When it comes to your kids, do you try to protect them by removing every discomfort they may experience? You want to keep them as safe as possible from the negativity and challenges that happen in life, but this actually ends up creating a disconnect (which is the opposite of what you’re trying to do).

I’ve learned that connecting with your kids can never be done as a one-size-fits-all approach (especially if you have multiple kids...

When you think about what your purpose is, do you think it’s your profession, or what you’re ‘good’ at doing? During childhood, we’re often asked what we want to be when we grow up, and it can feel like a lot of pressure (especially as we get older).

Our self-worth gets tied up in trying to meet other people’s (or even our own) expectations, but that’s just not how it should be. I want to dive more into your purpose, and specifical...

You probably know by now I love to really step back and observe every situation and everything going on in life, from a detached place. I actually teach this kind of practice in my mini-course, The Hot Mess Method, in order to create lasting change in your life, and I’ve been doing a lot more of it recently. 

I keep picking up the common theme of ‘disconnect’ with humanity; there is a lot of fear and hate going on, and it all stems...

I recently heard the phrase “stop hoping for a better past”, and while that maybe isn’t quite what you or I would expect to hear, it really hit home with me. We’ve all been through something in our past that really hurt our hearts, and we wish we could change. How much time, energy, and attention are you still giving to hoping for a better past though, and how is it affecting you now?

In today’s episode, I’m talking about:

-All o...

Do you remember when everything shut down two and a half years ago, and so many of us were in our homes with extra time to take care of the house, spend more time with our kids, etc.? Even though we were concerned about what was going on, it was pretty nice to just kick back and relax, and not have much of a set schedule. 

Unfortunately, this ended up leading to a major mental health crisis that has been tough for so many. With e...

I’m bringing back a listener-favorite episode today, and it’s all about relationships!

Sometimes, we bring in past beliefs, habits, and trauma we’ve experienced into new relationships-it can be easy to do so, because that’s what we know, and are used to. I want to dive into how this affects us and our relationships though, because it’s important work we need to do.

In today’s episode, I’m talking about:

-Really digging into wha...

Are you trying to stay in an unhealthy relationship because you’re worried about how a divorce will affect your kids? Maybe things have been bad for awhile, but you’re trying to stay because you think your kids will be negatively impacted. Whether you’re looking to stay in your relationship or you know it’s time to get out, there is no shortage of information, and it can be overwhelming to know what to do.

In today’s episode, I’m...

How many times have you told yourself that you would love to do something, but you just ‘don’t have the energy’? I’ve heard this from so many people, and I used to feel like this myself, but I learned to direct my energy in a different way, and it’s been a life changer for me! Through some consistent, healthy habits, I now know how to create the energy I need in my life, and I want to show you how you can too.

In today’s episode,...

Do you have big goals and dreams for your life, but you also allow excuses to get in the way? It’s pretty easy to let the chaos and uncertainty keep us from pursuing what we really want and need to do (especially over the last couple of years). If you just keep waiting around for things to get better though, you’ll be waiting forever! It’s time to stop that, and take positive action to make great things happen in your life.

In to...

Do you get nervous when you think about change? Maybe you recognize that you need some change in your life, but you wonder if it’s even possible, because you’ve already tried everything there is to try. Sound familiar? You probably feel pretty discouraged when you think about change, but I want you to understand that change is a choice, and it won’t actually happen until you start taking action.

In today’s episode, I’m talking ab...

Do you struggle to talk with your partner about finances? Do you feel like you are on opposite paths, and you’re not sure you’ll ever be able to see eye-to-eye on things? If you struggle in this area, you’re definitely not alone, but it can create a pretty crappy dynamic. Money and finances can be one of the biggest conflicts in relationships, so I want to help you uncover what may be happening with you and your partner, so you can...

If you’re someone who is constantly thinking about all of the things you “should” be doing in your life, this one's for you! I’m excited to bring you a special episode today from my Perfectly Imperfect Membership, and it’s all about the “shoulds” we carry around. I want you to become more aware of what is going on in your life, from the outside influences, as well as the inner fears and beliefs you have. 

In today’s episode, I’m ...

Have you ever thought to yourself “why am I not good enough”, or “why doesn’t he love me”? You’ve convinced yourself that something has to be wrong with you, and you don’t deserve better. If any of this rings true with you, I want you to know there IS a better way. I used to struggle with this type of thinking, but the good news is, you absolutely can change your mindset, and your life, for the better!

In today’s episode, I’m tal...

Do you tend to ignore that little voice that’s speaking to you when you’re going through hot mess moments? Whether you want to call it your intuition, your heart, your gut, your higher self, or something else, it’s there for a reason. Unfortunately, we like to tune it out and don’t think it matters (been there, done that), but over time, we can lose touch with it all together. I’ve learned how important it is to listen to my intuit...

Do you struggle to think about your past, because it’s too painful to dig into? Maybe you aren’t proud of some of the choices you’ve made, and you want to blame everyone else but yourself-you’re not ready to take ownership. I don’t want you to beat yourself up for feeling this way (we’re all human and make mistakes after all), but I do want to help you move forward, and make the positive progress you desire with your life.

In tod...

Have you ever felt so passionate about something, and started visualizing it becoming a reality? My guest on today’s episode, Vivianna Thomas, shares her story about going against the grain and pursuing her dream of starting her own beauty company in 2021.

Vivianna is a mother to 2 beautiful children and a wife to a federal police officer. She is the owner and founder of American Woman Beauty, and it is unlike any other beauty co...