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What does freedom really look like for Americans in 2025? On this week’s episode of The Heavyweight Podcast, we’re taking the gloves off to talk truth about identity, culture, dating, and the pressure to unlearn what no longer serves us.

🔥 Cultural Influence vs. Representation:
From braids and locks to slang and sound, we examine the difference between being celebrated and being copied. Why are Black styles embraced on non-Black bodies but labeled “unprofessional” when worn by us? This discussion peels back the layers of cultural appropriation, demanding we look deeper than surface trends.

💘 Dating Standards & Social Media Myths:
One host keeps it all the way real with: “If I’m into you, I want to be where you at. I don’t give a damn where it’s at.” 🙌 That raw truth leads to a refreshing critique of materialism, clout-chasing, and the viral nonsense that’s misrepresenting what real women want in relationships.

🧠 Breaking Generational Cycles:
We go deep into healing, parenting, and learning to see value in yourself before chasing validation from others. From betrayal to accountability, the conversation turns powerful, shedding light on how we can stop repeating what hurt us—and raise the next generation differently.

As always, expect unfiltered honesty, bold perspectives, and some laughs to keep it light. Whether you're here for the cultural convo, relationship realness, or emotional growth, this episode is one you won’t want to miss.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Heavyweight Podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
The message behind saying the title of the
Heavyweight Podcast is to beable to say that we can weigh in
on some heavy shit.
What we're talking about isimportant from every aspect of
it.
It's a heavy weight.
It's not just about physicalweight, but the weight of things
that can weigh our minds.
So I think it's dope that wecan have this conversation.

Speaker 3 (00:30):
Yeah, can we call that pumpkin trumpkin ah, yes,
it does look like him, that'sfunny okay, okay is a hell of a
drug then stop doing it

Speaker 5 (00:41):
how you think I lost that weight.

Speaker 4 (00:47):
What's up, everybody?
It's your girl Dance the Diva.
Back with another episode ofthe Heavyweight Podcast.

Speaker 5 (00:52):
Yay, yay.

Speaker 4 (00:54):
I'm back here today with these three gentlemen and
this beautiful lady returning tovisiting as a guest star here
with us.
Everybody introduce yourself.

Speaker 1 (01:06):
I'm Kevin Wendell Ellis.

Speaker 5 (01:10):
I'm just the nigga to the right of dance.

Speaker 4 (01:13):
Period.

Speaker 2 (01:15):
I'm some random guy they call McFly.

Speaker 3 (01:17):
My favorite and I'll go with Miss Lady.

Speaker 4 (01:20):
And Miss Lady.
How was everybody's week Good?

Speaker 1 (01:24):
Interesting, interesting, interesting.
How.
I don't know if I can say awhole lot, but we'll see.
I'll know more next week.

Speaker 4 (01:32):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (01:35):
You know how Dr Dre fucked up when he had that apple
shit yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:40):
Okay, what about you Mo?

Speaker 5 (01:45):
It's cool.
Life, the life of the life.

Speaker 4 (01:48):
Always Okay, I hear you.

Speaker 5 (01:49):
Always.
You know, shit just costs money.

Speaker 4 (01:53):
Everything costs money, everything I will say
this.

Speaker 5 (01:57):
I found out the reason why I can't get a truck
this year.
This is why I can't get a truck.

Speaker 4 (02:00):
Okay, why?

Speaker 5 (02:02):
Because I pay $10,000 a year for gymnastics.

Speaker 4 (02:05):
Damn, that's all right.
Baby girl going all the way,it's going to pay off.
She's going to buy a nice bighouse and a nice truck.

Speaker 5 (02:12):
So all y'all out there keep asking when I'm going
to have another one.
I can't fucking afford anotherone, so stop asking.
Well, because I still got tofeed it.
That don't include to feed it.
I was going to say the odds ofbeing in the same sport is low.

Speaker 4 (02:24):
You're going to stop paying my girl like she eat a
lot Because they're both ingymnastics here, and one's good,
the other is like you're havingfun.
Your kids.
Are you talking about your kids?

Speaker 1 (02:34):
Yeah, yeah, you got to be honest.

Speaker 5 (02:39):
And Des.
Just so you know that girl atea half a pot of chicken noodle
soup.
Yesterday, Damn Was the puppy?

Speaker 2 (02:45):
Did she have a soda on the side?

Speaker 5 (02:46):
No, no, but she wanted one.
Mom, can I have a poppy Aww?

Speaker 4 (02:52):
No.

Speaker 5 (02:52):
Get your ass some water.
Yeah, that's it.
Life is lifin'.
Shit costs money and no oxtails.
Can't afford them.

Speaker 4 (03:01):
He said I ain't even on the oxtail bracket right now.
I'm about to start selling dickfor oxtails.
You still won't be able toafford them.
Mcfly Shit, I can drop it off.
Quality dick how was your week?
Shit.
How was your week?
Mcfly Huh?
How was your week?

Speaker 2 (03:13):
I got to go after that.

Speaker 4 (03:14):
Yep, you dropping off quality dick too.
Yeah that, just just justliving, just living, just living
.
We missed you.
Are you living life like it'sgolden, living my life like
living my life?

Speaker 5 (03:30):
and I'm hoeing.
Hey, you ain't talking.

Speaker 4 (03:31):
We ain't got to your weekend.

Speaker 2 (03:32):
Let's calm down let's get the details, let's go ahead
, let's get your week.

Speaker 1 (03:35):
That's, that's fine what about you?

Speaker 3 (03:38):
I'm not in these streets hoeing, but I had a good
week.

Speaker 4 (03:43):
I ain't really in the streets hoeing either.
I'm not really.
Yeah, you hoeing the bedroom.
I'm not.
I'm not.
I'm not in these streets hoeing, but I had a good week.
I ain't really in the streetshoeing either.
I'm not really in the streets.
Yeah, you hoeing the bedroom.
I'm not in there hoeing either.
We've already discussed this.
When I get elderly and theteeth come out, that's when I'll
be out there living my life andI'm hoeing gonna get you a
sponsorship.
I'm gonna be out there makingmoney and not letting them make
me.

Speaker 3 (04:04):
Only fans Show your feet.

Speaker 4 (04:06):
You niggas buy feet pictures out here.
Did you see what I?
You niggas purchase feetpictures.

Speaker 5 (04:11):
Did you see the video I sent you earlier this week?

Speaker 2 (04:13):
I haven't yeah.

Speaker 5 (04:15):
The nigga said Only Fans is fucking up the game
because these girls want GoPro.
They won't go for a porn starbecause they only fit my feet.

Speaker 4 (04:24):
Ain't no need to.
Anytime a nigga want topurchase a toe, they don't need
to go.

Speaker 5 (04:28):
I'm going to put my feet up, go on a knee finder
they all say that too theyabsolutely can tell

Speaker 4 (04:31):
tell the tax man, I know your feet look like you can
dip it in the water and catchdinner.

Speaker 1 (04:35):
I know it do didn't they find out how that shit work
?
They, uncle Sam, said hey, oh,you ain't gonna find it, don't
worry, we get it.

Speaker 4 (04:46):
Anyway, these questions were cultivated by you
guys.
I put a request out there foreverybody to send in their
questions so we can play alittle game of question roulette
and you guys deliver.
So thank everybody for doingthat.
I have one question inparticular.

Speaker 5 (05:00):
I want y'all to know that she took the time off to
type these shits up.
Did, print them out, did, andthen cut them Did, did.
Indeed, she put a lot moreeffort.
I would have had a list.

Speaker 1 (05:10):
I don't have no children.
I have to slide my arts andcrafts in.
She loves arts and crafts.

Speaker 4 (05:16):
I know, you fucking had, and they're hating on my
shoes again.

Speaker 3 (05:21):
Your shoes are fucking lame shoes again.

Speaker 4 (05:22):
You know the thing about it is it's just real hard
to be a bad bitch in a room fullof regular niggas.

Speaker 5 (05:26):
The shoes today are actually kind of nice though.

Speaker 4 (05:27):
These shoes are fire.

Speaker 2 (05:29):
I like these shoes.
Thank you very much.
You're sort of animal.

Speaker 4 (05:32):
Thank you very much.
I'm regular every day.

Speaker 2 (05:35):
No, I'm never a regular bitch.
I'm never a regular bitch.

Speaker 5 (05:39):
The thing is this okay.

Speaker 4 (05:40):
It's hard to be a bad bitch in a room for the niggas
that just want you to be fuckingregular.

Speaker 2 (05:44):
I just don't want my bitch killed in the process,
that's all fuck you.

Speaker 5 (05:48):
McFly, I'll get you a credit.

Speaker 4 (05:51):
Though, dad, you be trying to coordinate, I'll be
coordinate, listen your girl beon, okay, and listen.
I set a trend for the other bigbitches that's just what it is
other big bitches hold on nigga.
I set a trend for the other bigbitches.
Okay, the other big bitchescome, they see, they say okay,
this bitch, she put that shit on, put that shit on too.
Then they feel confident.

Speaker 5 (06:11):
So now y'all can't make jokes about the other big
bitches, but you should do that,though.
What was you going to say, areyou?

Speaker 2 (06:18):
conflicted with all the memes and pictures of
Muppets going around, since you,in fact killed Muppets?

Speaker 1 (06:26):
She's not at all.
She's like ooh, that makes somegood shit.
It sure the fuck will, it surethe fuck will.

Speaker 4 (06:31):
All y'all do is make me think of what can I wear.
That's the next craziest thing.
That was crazier than the lastthing I wore before and get out
here and set a trend, becausethat's exactly what happens.

Speaker 1 (06:42):
I like it, do it.

Speaker 3 (06:43):
Yeah, I'll be hating on it, be yourself, be original,
fuck what people say.

Speaker 1 (06:49):
Oh Lord.

Speaker 5 (06:51):
This nigga's high again.
Shut up, McFly.

Speaker 4 (06:55):
Snuff-a-luck-us, oh Snuff-a-luck-us.

Speaker 5 (07:00):
Oh well, you got everything you need.
On Sesame Street, you had pimps, hoes oh my God, crack heads.

Speaker 4 (07:05):
Who was the pimp?
The Count?
All right, we're going to goahead and start off.
The Count was the pimp.
Take a question.

Speaker 3 (07:10):
You had a gay couple?
He probably was.

Speaker 4 (07:13):
He got the cereal too , Then that cereal was kind of
cracking you had a gay coupledown there.

Speaker 3 (07:32):
Okay, this is from Terry.
What are your thoughts on the?

Speaker 4 (07:33):
illusion that we are free and the belief that Blacks
are the minority in the country.
I came here for you.

Speaker 2 (07:36):
Thank you, terry Wait what so Terry wants to?

Speaker 4 (07:39):
know what is your thoughts on the illusion that we
live in a free life and thatBlacks are the minority in this
country Is that what you'reasking.

Speaker 1 (07:51):
Is that an illusion?

Speaker 4 (07:52):
It is an illusion.
It is definitely an illusion.
You think we're free now.

Speaker 1 (07:56):
No, about Blacks being minorities.
We definitely not.

Speaker 4 (07:59):
But it's a two-part question.
So the first part of thequestion is what's your thought
of the illusion that we're freeLike?
Do you believe that we're free?
Do you believe it's an illusion?
What are your thoughts on that?
And then the second part of thequestion is listened to my dad.

Speaker 3 (08:12):
Black people definitely are, only free to a
degree, because there's a stigmaattached to the
African-American culture andthen as far as us being the

(08:33):
minority absolutely notHispanics are coming through
because if you really thinkabout it, if you sat down at a
welfare office right now and Iwalked in and a Hispanic person
that basically has nothing andthey have kids here, they're
going to get benefits.
Before I do as far as likewelfare, and everything else so

(08:55):
but I say that we are not theminority because I feel like
that culture is coming throughand taking up all the resources
educationally, financially,across the board.

Speaker 4 (09:08):
That's just my opinion.
I don't think we're theminority.
I definitely think we're themajority and I think we're the
blueprint and I think that weare what sets the trend.
I do want to be just touch baseon something you just said.
Although you are alight-skinned woman, when they
see you, they see a nigga.
They don't think you white.
Is that what a you?
Or a I?
This a nigga?
So what a you?
Nigga?

(09:28):
In two fucking K's.
They don't see you and see awhite woman Because, of course,
black women have the Eve genes.
So we really don't know untilyou tell us if you have a white
parent or if you're just one ofthe miraculous black Black woman
got born in that period, one ofthe miraculous black people

(09:50):
that come from all the beautifulthings that we can create as
black people, but nobody seesyou and thinks this is a white
woman.
They see you and be like that'sa nigga.
So the same things that willpossibly, could possibly happen
to me could also possibly happento you, true?
Yes, mcfly, what you think?

(10:10):
You think we're the minority.
In terms of minority, and whatclarification I assume that he
means like it's less of us.
That's how I took it.
Like is it less of us?
Are we the bottom of the barrel?
That's how I took it.
Like is it less of us?
Are we the bottom of the barrel?
That's how I took it.
I didn't speak to him on thephone so I don't know, but

(10:31):
that's how I took it.

Speaker 2 (10:32):
I think, in the frame of what they want us to be
perceived as.
Yes, I feel like I guess it's acombination of what you said
we're a minority, to a degreeonly by their status, what you
said we're a minority to adegree only by their status.
But we are the.
We are the trendsetters of whatthis country thrives off of.
If we're not here, they don'thave much of a culture.

Speaker 4 (10:54):
Absolutely, absolutely Across the board.
They barely got salt and pepperPeriod Across the board and I'm
glad you said that because thatties into the question that I
said I was going toautomatically ask.
It ties into that.
I'm glad you said that.
What about you guys?
What do you think?

Speaker 1 (11:06):
I'm like having good, I mean you got his glasses.

Speaker 5 (11:10):
When I hear minority.

Speaker 1 (11:11):
I think minority numbers yeah, yeah so that's
what it is.

Speaker 2 (11:15):
It's like.

Speaker 1 (11:16):
what the fuck else are you asking?
That would be influence.
That's not a number to me.
Yeah, so yes, what about thefirst part that we're free?
You feel free, I didn't answerthat.
I feel free in my own sense,yeah, hmm, so Okay, I feel like

(11:37):
you have to allow yourself toeither be constrained or Be
confined, I don't know.
Be free.

Speaker 4 (11:49):
Do you feel free, McFly.

Speaker 2 (11:52):
I think it's in the terms of what they want or allow
us to be.
I mean, it's all perspectiveyou can feel free and what your
parameters are of free.
But I don't think anyone'struthfully 100 percent free.

Speaker 4 (12:09):
I think we're learning with this current
administration that none of usare free, unless you got some
money.
And even they are, you knowconfining to someone else, and
even they are you know,confining to someone else.
So let me ask you because andI'm asking you this because I
noticed that a lot of times whenwe, when we have cultural
questions, you mention yourlight skin.

(12:30):
Do you feel free?

Speaker 3 (12:33):
No, and I think the thing is I'm glad you brought
that up because it's I'm like onthat like pole, like dividing
pole.
There are people that look atme as a Black woman, but there
are some people that bring upthe fact that I'm biracial and I
shouldn't be tapping into theculture because I'm only half
white and half Black.
And so for me again, I wasraised by a Black father who

(12:57):
basically lets me know about allthe stigmatization that comes
along with being anAfrican-American.
I think everybody here makes avalid point, but I would have to
agree to a degree we are notfree.
To a degree we are not.

Speaker 4 (13:08):
I want you to hold on horn in on that.
Um, what you just mentionedabout being biracial, when we
get to this question as well,okay, because I heard something
else she.

Speaker 5 (13:20):
She said it right okay.

Speaker 2 (13:23):
You made a face.

Speaker 5 (13:24):
I'm sorry, I just heard something else.
What'd you hear?

Speaker 2 (13:29):
I'm not going to repeat it, something with horn,
I'm assuming I said hone in.

Speaker 3 (13:33):
Hone not horn day.

Speaker 5 (13:35):
It was this.
It was this, it was this.

Speaker 4 (13:40):
What'd I say, hone in ?

Speaker 2 (13:41):
You thought you said horny, or what.

Speaker 4 (13:43):
Living my life, saying I'm hone in.
I would just say, what'd I say?

Speaker 5 (13:45):
How we in you thought you said horny or what, living
my life paying them home with me.
I would just say that Blackpeople like Kevin I agree with
Kevin Numbers wise we're aminority, we don't outnumber
them at all, but that doesn'tmean that we are a minority as
far as numbers, but we are themajority as far as culture,
absolutely.

Speaker 4 (14:03):
Absolutely Not Minority as far as numbers, but
we are the majority as far asculture, absolutely, absolutely.
Not you.

Speaker 5 (14:07):
Everything black is imitated and duplicated and they
try to whitewash it.

Speaker 1 (14:12):
Get that, but that's influence.
That's why I don't go off thatquestion.

Speaker 4 (14:15):
Okay, we're not going to put another question just
yet.
I'm going to actually ask thisquestion, can I?
Yeah, go ahead, go ahead, goahead, let them cook.

Speaker 5 (14:21):
Go ahead.
Can I finish?
Go ahead.
I don't believe that we arefree.
I think we're free within theconstructs of the system, of the
limit of freedom that thesystem provides, but we're still
part of the system, and so,since we can't operate outside
the system freely without beingpunished by the system, then
we're not free.

Speaker 4 (14:41):
And I agree.
But I think everybody is partof the system.
There's just levels to thesystem.

Speaker 5 (14:46):
No, this nigga's outside the system.

Speaker 4 (14:48):
Who outside the system?
Trump.

Speaker 5 (14:50):
No, he ain't outside the system.

Speaker 4 (14:52):
He a puppet like everybody else, because they
already told him what's her name.

Speaker 2 (14:55):
Crockett yeah, you want to get this hand off, baby.

Speaker 4 (14:58):
And Jasmine Crockett told him to stop being Putin's
hoe.
Oh, being Putin's hoe.
Oh, my God, I love her.

Speaker 5 (15:02):
I want to see Jasmine in a sundress.

Speaker 4 (15:04):
Me too, jasmine, and if you see this, wear a sundress
, baby Shit, because definitelydefinitely love Jasmine.
You know, jasmine PerkinsMm-hmm, that's a bad bitch.
She is.
That's a bad bitch.
I'm going to ask this questionbecause it actually ties into
what kind of that's a lot ofwords.
The answer I got from you, you,you and you, because this girl
didn't ask.
First of all, this question isfrom Candace.

(15:25):
Candace, done, asked me thisquestion more than once, but she
is not the only white woman toask me this shit this week.
So I'm going to ask thisquestion so that our white women
viewers that keep asking me thesame question can hear the
answer.
I really am interested in whatyour answer is, because she does

(15:46):
want to know about mixed raceas well.
You're gonna answer no, I wasgonna answer a question.
I thought that was anyway, and Ifeel like you probably got
something interesting to say too.
Okay, so this is a longquestion, but this is what she
asked.
She wants to know, in a worldfull of diversity even with
people that are trying to wipethe diversity out and blended

(16:06):
and mixed cultures, what exactlyis considered cultural
appropriation and what isconsidered embracing the culture
.
For example, she says can awhite woman have braids, dreads
or locks yes, they're calledlocks With gems and jewels,

(16:28):
because she loves the look andit makes her feel confident, or
is that considered appropriation?
She wants to know.
Does the answer change if youhave Black children or if you
are mixed race yourself?

Speaker 2 (16:46):
Let me, what is it?
Go ahead.

Speaker 3 (16:47):
Go ahead, do you?

Speaker 2 (16:48):
need clarification.
I just want to know whathappened to black children.

Speaker 5 (16:52):
We're going to get there because I'm going to
answer that Because the blackchildren gives them association.

Speaker 3 (16:55):
It gives them the right to pass.
That's what it is.

Speaker 5 (17:02):
They think because they're a white person with
black children, they'reassociated to the black
community because their kids arepart of a community.

Speaker 4 (17:06):
And that's where you hear the most people say a nigga
.
And then they say, well, I'mnot racist because my kids is
black.
Well, baby, you can't say niggawith a motherfucking rock, you
can't say it with a fox nigga.
You can't say it here, youcan't say it there.

Speaker 3 (17:17):
All right, Dr Sue.
So I want to chime in on thatand kind of piggyback on what
you're saying.

Speaker 4 (17:22):
And let me be, candace is actually a really
sweet woman and she do not meanno harm at all.
I really think that she just istrying to find her way in a
world where people, where it'shard for her to just figure out,
like what's appropriate, whatcan I say, what can I do.
I literally had another womanask me this week could she wear

(17:42):
a bonnet as a white woman orwould that be girl?
I said cover up your damn hair,girl.
Your hair is fucking Cover yourhair up.

Speaker 5 (17:49):
Shit, it's not a problem.
Does she have dry scalp?
If she does not, then no you sogoddamn angry.
The issue becomes I'mgatekeeping everything black.

Speaker 4 (17:58):
Appropriation and a problem for me when we, as black
women, had to have a law passedto be able to wear our hair how
it naturally grows outside ofour head.
Be able to wear our hair how itnaturally grows outside of our
head, be able to wear braids towork.
You don't see a lot of.

Speaker 5 (18:12):
Let me catch a black woman with a fur on a sundress.

Speaker 4 (18:15):
My God, you don't see a lot of news anchors and the
people in the public eye withbraids in their hair.
We have to have a law passedand then Kim Kardashian gets her
ass up there and calls themboxer braids, and then it's the
most beautiful thing ever.
That's where the issue comes in, when we're told our big
behinds and our very voluptuousfigures are unattractive and

(18:37):
animalistic if you will.
But then when a white woman goget a bbl, it's the sexiest
thing you ever seen.
That's where the appropriationcomes in.
It's okay for you to want towear braids if you, that's your
thing.
If you just needed me to braidyour hair, baby, next time, next
time you're in California, justcall me, I'll get you right.
But when it comes to a pointwhere us, as the culture that
are creating these amazingthings, are getting put down,

(18:59):
it's even down to rap.
They're telling rappers oh,don't rap about this, don't rap
about that, you're this, you'rethat, you're ghetto, you're this
and that, this, your that, yourghetto, your this and that.
And then Eminem pops up andhe's the greatest white rapper
ever.

Speaker 2 (19:10):
I love Eminem and I'm not dissing him no.

Speaker 4 (19:12):
Eminem.
Bashing will be tolerated,However.
But I'm just saying this is awhite man and they embraced it
and they accepted it, but whenit's black people, it's a
problem.
That's where the issue comes infor me.

Speaker 5 (19:24):
Marshall did not appropriate.

Speaker 4 (19:26):
I didn't say he did, but what I'm saying is he was
more welcome and accepted than alot of other black rappers.
He had skill.
It doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter because, atthe end of the day, for me, yes,
he does have skill.
I'm going to take it away fromhis skill, but what I'm saying
is it's a bunch of motherfuckingrappers right now underground I
can name you a good 15 of themthat got skill and probably a

(19:46):
little bit more skill than hisass, but they embraced him.
They embraced him.
They.
He talked about his hood, hisghetto, his lifestyle, whatever.
And it was not one time sayingoh, this is ghetto, that he's
saying these things.
They embraced the fact.
Oh my god, marshall, this iswhat he went through, but when
it's us doing it, it's a problem.
That's where the appropriationcomes in.
I couldn't wait to answer thisone, candace Girl.
Thank you.

Speaker 3 (20:07):
So I like how Ma was saying earlier as going into
that there's no problem foranybody white, Black, Hispanic,
anybody to wear braids, locks.
If that's what you want to rockit, rock it.
If that's part of who you feellike you are, rock it.
It shouldn't matter.
There should not be a stigmaattached with how you present

(20:27):
yourself as long as you'reappropriate.
But what I have seen is whereyou do see white women, Hispanic
women, women that are not Black, because they do have biracial
kids, feel like they can act outof context and unfortunately
that's when they start trying todiminish the Black culture
because that's what they see andso they try to replicate that,

(20:48):
because that's what they feel itis is acceptable.
And again, having biracial kidsdoes not give you a pass to act
culturally biased in my opinion, Absolutely and it does not
give you a pass to certainthings like I don't care if you
have 10 black kids, If you're awhite woman.
Don't say the N-word, don't saythat that does not give you the

(21:09):
right.
Don't show up to a barbecuehitting the side of your head
talking about oh and this andthat, no, we're not doing that.

Speaker 4 (21:15):
Because that's not being Black, no, that's being
stereotypical.

Speaker 3 (21:18):
Correct, and that's where I think the culture has
that fine line.
You have people who are white,hispanic, who love the Black
culture, who don't go outside ofthat, and then you have the
stereotypical part, and so Ijust for me, be who you're going
to be, but if you feel like youwant to take it a notch up,

(21:38):
represent the African-Americanculture appropriately.

Speaker 4 (21:41):
Exactly.
And it goes back to say andthis is not Candace at all,
because, candace, I hadn't evenseen that lady date a Black man.
I don't know if she dated Blackmen or not.
I don't never seen that ladydate a black man.
I don't know if she date blackmen or not, I don't know.
But I feel the same way when itcomes to women that are dating
black men.
If you're going to take someblack dick, I need you to take
some black issues as well.
When that man is going throughit, you try to understand his

(22:02):
issues as well.
That's an issue for me too,because I feel like as soon as
the going get tough for theblack man you run, they come
right back to us who they left.
So I gotta lord, I'm gonna getcanceled.
Let me shut the fuck somebodyelse before I get canceled,
because I'll have to go on arampage.

Speaker 2 (22:19):
Somebody help to get uh, to answer the question, I I
feel like, if you're it's, Ifeel like it doesn't become
cultural appropriation if you'reunderstanding where it comes
from and paying respect to whereit comes from and you represent
it accordingly, as far as, ifyou like, dreads, braids, etc.

Speaker 3 (22:43):
You understand Locks.
Please, please, please, Thankyou locks.

Speaker 2 (22:52):
Please, please, please, thank you.
Anyway, if you like any of thesehairstyles, understand where
they come from, pay homage torespect.
I don't think it's necessarilyappropriate and if you're just
saying that you understand whereit comes from and you're
rocking it because you like thehairstyle.
But I think it has been a lotof cultural appropriation,
especially in our society andentertainment, because they'll
highlight the braids, locks, etcetera by people and then act as

(23:15):
if they don't know where itcame from.
So you'll see it on televisionand you're like, what the fuck?
And they will, oh yeah,so-and-so, rock this and it's
like, but you're not even giventhe proper credit to where it
came from.
You're just making it seem likethe first time you ever seen
this representation of braids orwhatever was on people of
different colors.
So, uh, from my understandingit's if you're gonna, if you're

(23:37):
gonna do it and you like thehairstyle, candace, by all means
, rock it, but just understandand respect where it came from I
agree, that's well said I wasjust trying to get back on track
because you, you guys, stuckout.
You made it something else.
I was like goddamn, I'm lost.

Speaker 4 (23:57):
Somebody will me back in because I'm about to go on a
rampage.
Do y'all have anything to?

Speaker 1 (24:00):
say Nothing.
I agree with McClary.
I said go with your heart.
Yeah, don't do that you know.
I can't agree.
Force somebody to do somethingthey ain't gonna do.
If they gonna show you who theyare, then let them be who they
are.
That's what it is like.
I don't know why we make itsuch a thing where it's like, if
you're asking for understanding, I get that, but if you're
asking because you think you'redoing it and I'm not saying

(24:22):
that's what she's doing, thenyou already know where your
heart's at.
So it's like I don't need tolike cut the bullshit out, I
don't need it.
It's answered.
That's how I see it.
I like this, kevin what's inthat cup?

Speaker 4 (24:35):
tequila, tequila, kevin.
Okay, thank you, candace, thatwas a great question and we did
go on a rampage, but you gotmultiple answers out of us.
What is this we?

Speaker 2 (24:52):
Yeah, that was y'all.

Speaker 4 (24:55):
Is this not a we?

Speaker 2 (24:57):
In that moment it was not.

Speaker 4 (25:00):
I turned and said we Went on a rampage One more time.

Speaker 2 (25:04):
One more time.
Friend, I said we, I don't givea damn and we got.
Friend, I said it.
Some people didn't know youwere Eminem in the chat.

Speaker 4 (25:09):
I don't give a damn.

Speaker 1 (25:10):
And we got cut.

Speaker 4 (25:13):
I don't care, and I like Eminem.
I do.
I think he's a great rapper.

Speaker 5 (25:19):
What about you, like Marshall?

Speaker 4 (25:21):
Ain't that the same nigga?

Speaker 5 (25:23):
Well Slim.

Speaker 4 (25:24):
Same nigga San and all of them niggas, same nigga.
You want to put the questions?
No, I don't why you're such anasshole I don't feel like
reading here.

Speaker 1 (25:35):
We'll put it right there I'm not reading shit.

Speaker 4 (25:37):
I'm not reading shit well, this one you can answer,
since you answered it onlinealready.
This one's for Marcus, andMarcus wants to know where does
beauty begin?

Speaker 5 (25:46):
what then wants to know where does?

Speaker 4 (25:47):
beauty begin.
But then and then he wanted toknow I don't forgot what else,
what he else he said, because hesaid then, what did he ask you?
Answer the damn question theman asked you online, I don't
remember.
He says beauty is from within.

Speaker 1 (26:00):
Everybody agree, yeah it starts at the heart.

Speaker 3 (26:03):
Same shit everything starts at the heart you could be
fine as all get out and have anugly ass soul.

Speaker 4 (26:09):
I don't think beauty is tied to how you look
physically, it's about how youtreat people.
I think it's totally tied tohow you treat people.
And I say that because I'vebeen physically attracted to
people, because they're so sweetand the way that they move, and
then they piss me off, and thenthey say they're damn cute,
them all.

Speaker 5 (26:29):
I mean men say all the time Men say all the time
sweet and the way that they move, and then they piss me off.
Then they can say they're damncute to me.
Men say all the time youunderstand, we can be attracted
to personality.

Speaker 2 (26:36):
That's beautiful within.
I just wish more peopleunderstood that.

Speaker 1 (26:40):
I also could see somebody and be like, as long as
she don't talk, we cool.

Speaker 5 (26:46):
I smashed a six with great personality, over a ten
any day.

Speaker 2 (26:49):
Oh yeah, I will say that I've seen in a lot of
instances.

Speaker 5 (26:53):
But I got a 10 at home, so I don't care.

Speaker 2 (26:54):
In a lot of instances I've seen where a woman that I
didn't necessarily findattractive in the beginning
started talking and herpersonality came out and you're
like, oh, I get it.
Yeah, I get it, I completelyget it.
The personality will win meover every time.
So I, I get it, I completelyget it, the personality will win
me over every time I get it.

Speaker 4 (27:13):
Okay.
Okay, John wants to know, nothating daddy, but John wants to
know why is it so hard forMexican men to get and date
black women?

Speaker 5 (27:25):
I don't think it's hard at all.

Speaker 3 (27:28):
Is that hard, baby, you don't watch the show, baby
baby, you don't watch the show.

Speaker 4 (27:34):
Cause when that deuce from the south was on this
motherfucker here, baby.

Speaker 5 (27:37):
I'm saying is it?

Speaker 2 (27:38):
cause.
I didn't see that on here atall is.

Speaker 5 (27:40):
John Mexican he is.
This is not a Mexican manproblem, this is a John problem.
Got to be baby cause when deucefrom the south.

Speaker 4 (27:47):
Look what then?
And that other one from See?

Speaker 2 (27:50):
that's kind of hard to say, because if that's the
person you say, all John needsis a ponytail like that.

Speaker 4 (27:55):
Yeah, baby, put that shit in a bun and it's done.

Speaker 2 (27:59):
Baby, I'm letting you know, right now okay, John, get
a ponytail on some tattoos.

Speaker 4 (28:04):
My inbox went crazy when they was on here.
So I'm like you know right nowthey could definitely get it.
What?
If he's balding no.
I don't think he's balding,he's actually a handsome man he
went to high school with us.
I'll tell you who it is after.

Speaker 2 (28:17):
To be fair, the videos I've sent you, those new
men with laces it's possible Ican do them, so if you want one,
I can do them.

Speaker 5 (28:29):
So if you want one, I can get the glue.
I'm going to just show it oneday with a Gumby, I can do them.

Speaker 4 (28:33):
I can do them.
So if you want one, I got you.

Speaker 3 (28:34):
Then I'm going to put it like this.

Speaker 4 (28:35):
I got you.

Speaker 1 (28:37):
It's possible, anything's possible, john.

Speaker 4 (28:39):
No, honestly.

Speaker 5 (28:43):
I think it's you All I say get your swag up.
You gotta have swag to dealwith black women.
Absolutely, you can't out.
There be copying paste and dry.

Speaker 1 (28:52):
You gotta find somebody.
Dog, you just keep shooting atthe ones that don't want you.
It's cool.

Speaker 5 (28:56):
No, the ones he want, he needs swag.

Speaker 1 (28:58):
Yeah, but they.

Speaker 5 (29:01):
He can get the emo black girl.
No problem, you right.

Speaker 2 (29:07):
But you know what Did you say?
The emo, yeah, I think you'reright.
Does he wear the same hairstuff for the no, it's the the
little.

Speaker 4 (29:15):
Yeah, my life, you wait, okay, wait, wait, remember
, remember you told me, youremember, you told me you see
somebody and they told you thatthey knew me a couple of weeks
ago it's him, oh, it's him.

Speaker 3 (29:25):
So yeah, you get the emo girl, you get the head on
the nail you did, he didn.
He ain't getting no ponytailthough.

Speaker 1 (29:30):
He not getting, no, no.

Speaker 3 (29:32):
He ain't getting no ponytail he, so he ain't getting
no ponytail.

Speaker 4 (29:34):
You not going to get the same women that Doocy
Scrappy get.

Speaker 5 (29:39):
See, the thing is, this is what I personally love
about black women.
Black women are not all thesame.
Right there, there's literallya different shade of black women
.
You can get 10 different shades, 10 different hairstyles, 10
different personalities, 10different sets of interests.
You just got to find the one.
You probably just not the onesyou attracted to.
They just not attracted to you.

(29:59):
That means you got to step yourswagger.

Speaker 4 (30:01):
Yes, yes, this is true.
I don't believe in swag Shityou just ain't going to get the
same ones that dudes from theSouth can get you.
I don't believe in swag Shit.

Speaker 2 (30:09):
You just saying I'm going to get the same ones that
dudes from the South and ScrappyG get, but you can get you a
little.
I don't call it swag.

Speaker 5 (30:14):
What you got?
What'd you call it?
What'd you call it Me?

Speaker 2 (30:17):
It's swag.
Swag is about confidence.
I hate the word swag, okay.

Speaker 5 (30:25):
It's about confidence .
Okay, sometimes I take the coolout of my walk and I'm still
the coolest person in the room.
I see, that's what you getPeriod, Okay period.
You said cool nigga.
Now I thought about you takingout a pack of cools out your
pocket.
It's been a while.

Speaker 3 (30:42):
It's been a while.

Speaker 4 (30:43):
This is from.

Speaker 3 (30:44):
Sharif, can men be both hood and a gentleman, or
does one identity cancel out theother?

Speaker 4 (30:52):
You can be both.
Yes, for sure, I like a goodhood gentleman.
To be honest with you, them theones that I be looking for.
Here's the thing.

Speaker 5 (30:57):
Here's the thing you can be hood when dealing with
personal problems and personalsituations, but then when you
come home to your lady, you agentleman.
Yes, yes, your lady is the oneplace when you come home to your
lady, you, a gentleman, yes,yes, your lady is the one place
where you're supposed to be soft.

Speaker 1 (31:14):
I'm going to say this Don't be only hood.

Speaker 2 (31:16):
if you're from the hood, nigga Like if you didn't
grow up that way, you know whatI mean, though I don't.

Speaker 1 (31:20):
Some niggas want to pretend to be a certain way, and
it's like don't.

Speaker 4 (31:24):
This man is probably the most.
I know him too.
This is probably he.
I can't even explain.

Speaker 5 (31:29):
Like Kendrick.
When Kendrick named them highschools, he pissed a lot of
people off.
Say that shit.
When he named them high schools, yeah.
Because I know what he wastalking about.
At the end of the day, that'shood, yeah.

Speaker 1 (31:41):
He's from there, he is there.

Speaker 4 (31:50):
You know man is.
Personally, I think he is theepitome of someone who
previously had a hood mentalityand has all the way turned his
swag up to a complete gentleman.

Speaker 5 (31:55):
Complete respectful man, but my question is exactly
what you consider to be hood?
Yeah, that's what I'm saying,because you got people who grew
up in the hood, that grew up tobe professional and they don't.
They're not.

Speaker 3 (32:06):
There's nothing about them that's stereotypical.

Speaker 1 (32:15):
Shout out to Ryan Coogler professional, and they
don't.
They're not.
There's nothing about them.
That's stereotypical to me.
I think that makes you stillhood.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
Center is you're up there, because to me, when you
start talking like that, you'restarting.
The movie centers michael bjordan, the director you don't
see how hood he is, but he'svery professional no, but I'm a
google I think, I think we'remaking a stereotype going off
what kevin said, I think Iassociate hood with A stereotype
.

Speaker 5 (32:29):
Not a stereotype, it's just a mentality, because,
like, it's just your set,because everybody know, in
certain neighborhoods you got tohave a certain rules of
survival, so you just carrythose with you.
That don't mean you act like astereotype.
You just know the rules.
Like I know, when I'm incertain places, my head's on the
floor, I can't relax.

Speaker 4 (32:45):
Yeah relax, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (32:53):
So I mean, yeah, I just when I hear that, it seems
like that's how people.

Speaker 4 (32:55):
All right, I'm not gonna ask nothing that's fucking
shit.

Speaker 2 (32:56):
I didn't say anything .

Speaker 4 (32:57):
I hadn't said anything you wanted me to answer
questions.
Yeah, I wasn't gonna interruptyou.

Speaker 2 (33:01):
Okay, I'm just saying um, I personally feel like
because a lot of the dudes thatI knew that grew up in the hood
it was a difference between youcan still to me convey hood,
like he says hood understandingbecause you're trying to survive
.
But I think the the whole thingis what you're trying to do
with it.
Are you trying to progress outof this?

(33:22):
Are you stuck in that mentalityso you can have, you can
approach certain things with ahood understanding because that
was the way you survived, but atthe end of the day, day yeah,
what are you trying to do withthis?
Are you trying to stay stuck inthe hood or are you trying to
get out of it?

Speaker 5 (33:33):
It's the epitome of street smarts and book smarts.

Speaker 3 (33:38):
My dad grew up on the east side of Riverside.
He knows what it's like to bepoor.
But if you look at where he'sat right now, circumstantially
he lives and owns his housebecause he rose above what he
wanted to.
And again it's about mentalityyou either stay stagnant or you
rise above it, and again,there's nothing wrong with
having that hoodness in you ifit's built within you.

(34:00):
But again, doing dual roles isdefinitely feasible, possible
and happens all the time.
You have people that will be inthese streets doing some shit
and go home to their familieslike they didn't do anything,
because they know how tomultitask and balance.

Speaker 1 (34:17):
If you're in the streets doing some shit, then
you ain't going to balance itthat long.

Speaker 3 (34:21):
No, I know.
But, there are people that dothat every day.

Speaker 1 (34:23):
It depends on the shit you're doing, that's what
I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (34:25):
But when you say doing some shit, I, I'm saying,
but when you say, doing some,shit, I'm taking that as moving
away.

Speaker 1 (34:30):
You're doing some shit.
You know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (34:33):
Yeah, Gang banging Eventually, that runs the fuck
out.

Speaker 5 (34:34):
No you're right Smoking that smoke Gang banging
yeah.

Speaker 4 (34:41):
That was the worst song I ever made in history.
That's the greatest song.
I love Smokey alone.

Speaker 5 (34:46):
He is a national treasure that nigga did the most
Sipping that wine.

Speaker 2 (34:53):
Because it's all about trying to get better.
Because I know a lot of dudesthat I grew up with that are in
prison for life dead, and youwouldn't think that I grew up
around them but my dad went outof his way to raise me to stay
the fuck away from it and notnecessarily believe that that
was the thing to idolize.
And a lot of friends I knewidolized like minister society.

(35:14):
Yeah, they looked at that shitand said that's what they want
to be and I'm like there's nofuture.
Yeah, so I just know I stayedaway from it, but when you talk
to me you'll never think thatthat that was my upbringing.
You just I just understood thatthe whole point was to get the
fuck out of it.
So if you keep that as a Sharif, keep that mentality, man, just

(35:35):
believe that you're trying todo better and what you're doing
better, for ain't nothing wrongwith coming from there.
Just don't stay stuck in it.

Speaker 5 (35:44):
Like 100.
And when the nigga that see youtrying to do better ask you if
you think you better than them,just say no, I'm just more
motivated.

Speaker 4 (35:52):
Period.

Speaker 2 (35:54):
See, I would've said Go ahead and say it.
I would say yeah If they askedme that and if they had the
nerve to ask me yes, I think I'mbetter than you.

Speaker 1 (36:04):
I might not say that I'd be like I'm better than this
shit though, or better than Iwas yesterday.
Yeah, I'm not this shit.

Speaker 5 (36:14):
This don't define me, sorry, because the niggas with
the hood mentality will see youtrying to progress as a sign of
you thinking you're superior.
I'm superior just better than Iwas.

Speaker 1 (36:22):
Some do some don't Some do.

Speaker 4 (36:24):
yeah, Not all of them , but some do.

Speaker 5 (36:30):
But that's the insecurity thing, I think.
Oh, most definitely.

Speaker 4 (36:32):
Well, Damn Well, Candace wants to know God damn.
We back with Candace.
This is her last question.
We're going to start chargingCandace, Because Candace your
question.

Speaker 2 (36:42):
She gets the discount because she went to North.

Speaker 4 (36:44):
Yes, and she's so sweet, I love her.
I think she's the sweetest damnlady Like.
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 5 (36:49):
I just told y'all 10,000.
We ain't giving no discount.
She is so sweet.

Speaker 2 (36:52):
You're a JW North alumni.
You're good, you're good.

Speaker 4 (36:59):
I'm going to answer this question, but I don't have
children, so don't nobody comefor me in the comments because I
don't have kids, because I hatewhen people tell me I don't.
So there is a huge differencein parenting nowadays.
With the amount of entitlementof today's youth and their
blatantly disrespectful Shouldwe go back to old school
parenting, yes, yes.
Or is there a gentle, or is youtrying to beat your kids?

(37:20):
Gentle parenting does not work.
Or is gentle?
Well, hold on.
Does gentle parenting work andor?
Or parenting work and or or?
Does we need to incorporateconsistency with the gentle?
Degenerate whoop that ass.

Speaker 2 (37:39):
I answered that go ahead.
I'm a psych major, so I got adifferent.

Speaker 4 (37:44):
I got a different opinion.

Speaker 5 (37:45):
I'm a psych major, so I don't.

Speaker 4 (37:46):
I don't, honestly.
I think that we were fuckingabused for real.
For real we were.
I don't think I was abused cool.
I think every asshole I got Ideserve that's cool.
Uh, I don't think so.
I think I think gentleparenting can work.
Um, if you're consistent withit from the beginning, like you
can't set your kid with a toneyou be beating ass.
And now you just all of asudden want to be gentle because
that's not going to work,because now they're accustomed

(38:08):
to discipline being this way.
Also we're expected.
We can't expect for little asskids to be able to function as
adults.
They're learning.
So I don't think beating ass is, but I don't have children that
are on my nerves every day.
Also, the one that's in myhouse is quiet you do my stepson
is very quiet, so he's verychill.

(38:29):
We ain't got to say nothing tohim twice, and so I guess I just
been blessed with theopportunity to be able to be a
part of a gentling parentsituation.
But I don't think you need tobe chill when I have children.
I won't be hitting them.

Speaker 5 (38:43):
I will say this I do think that kids today are a lot
softer than we were and Iattribute most of that,
especially when it comes to mydaughters, because she's in a
different environment than I was.
I was in an environment where Ihad to be tough, I had to stand
up for myself because I hadcousins fucking with me, I had
people on the block fucking withme.
So I had to be tough, I had tobe outspoken, I had to speak my

(39:04):
mind because again, I couldn'tgo home and say shit because why
you tell, tell him, because myass, be at home for not doing
shit out there in the street.
So I don't think necessarilythat we need to go back to that,
because I do understand thatit's a, it's a generation where,
at least for the way we parent,is that we try to explain to
her the why things are the waythey are now and we're not

(39:27):
saying we she ain't never beenpopped or none of that, because
there are things that requirethat but it's extreme.
Now she's not getting nowhereclose to what I was getting, but
we try to make it to a point towhere she understands the
mentality behind theconsequences.
So we always tell her that inlife you always have a choice

(39:49):
and every choice has aconsequence.
So if you make this choice, beprepared for the consequence.
And that's all I ask her.

Speaker 2 (39:55):
So a question I have for everyone at the table Do you
get any kind of PTSD when youhear a belt pop?

Speaker 4 (40:03):
Yeah, no, hell yeah.

Speaker 2 (40:05):
I get triggered memories.
I do too.
I do too.

Speaker 5 (40:08):
I don't because a normal belt is not going to do
it, because I got whooped by anold retirement belt that was
like a half inch thick leather.
So if I get, if I see threesticks laying next to each other
, I might, I might, you know.

Speaker 2 (40:20):
You ever cry for the belt?

Speaker 5 (40:22):
No that would have made it worse.

Speaker 4 (40:25):
Yeah, no.

Speaker 2 (40:26):
Do you ever get used to the beatings and then pretend
?
And they realize that you werelying like you're pretending to
cry Never been there.

Speaker 5 (40:33):
No, I try to.
No, I was a great actor towardsthe end.

Speaker 4 (40:37):
I can see where me being hit as a child has made me
in my adult life not and yelledat as a child for everything,
made me not really know how tohandle pressure situations.
If you yell at me I'm going topanic because I'm used to being
yelled at.

Speaker 5 (40:56):
I didn't say damn Damn what you gonna panic.

Speaker 2 (41:00):
Did you take that as a yell?
I did.

Speaker 3 (41:06):
But but going by what you were saying, I honestly
think that fear is moreimportant than anything.
Your kids have to have anatural fear of you because,
like I don't, brooklyn has beenspanked I put my hands on her
before, but it's not often.
It's for the major things whereit's like dang, you didn't hear
my tone she's more tone trainedthan anything where if I say,

(41:27):
hey, I need you to do something,and she claps back.
I'm like this is what we'redoing.
Like you heard what I just said.
But because kids are more softtoday, I feel like you don't
necessarily have to beat on themlike we used to be hitting
stuff, but I definitely thinkthat they have to have a defined
fear of us that hey, if I dothis, I know I'm going to get in

(41:48):
trouble, because, unfortunately, because kids are so privileged
today with technology andeverything else, they don't
understand the importance ofearning what they get.
They think it's supposed to begiven to them.

Speaker 5 (41:59):
And to that point I will say that what I had to
learn is that there's adifference between mom tone and
dad tone.
Yes, absolutely so my daughterdoes have a healthy fear of me,
because when I turn it up andshe get my man voice she, she,
she stops in her tracks like, oh, dad, serious, I better.
I better adjust my attituderight now because I'm not going
to like how this is going.
She understands that and sheunderstands that we, she, she.

(42:24):
Now she's in a situation whereshe understands that she has to
earn everything.
She gets Nothing, nothing'sgiving to you.
The only thing I'm required todo is make sure you have
somewhere to lay your head andfood in your stomach.
Yep.

Speaker 1 (42:42):
And you only have to give.
She know that, kevin, you'redeep in thought, bro, I'm not,
I'm just.
I don't know tequila, I don'tknow, I'm just because I'm still
like learning.
So what the fuck do?
I know we got two little kidsyou learn one so you got
experience each one's different,each one's way different you
know what I mean, so but wecan't say one way is one way,
and then we said another way isanother, but you got one
gangster though she is, butshe's, but she's not too.

Speaker 5 (43:00):
So cute In the same way.

Speaker 1 (43:01):
But she's in that stage of pushing the line.
She's my favorite.
You know what I mean.
So sometimes certain thingsdon't work and sometimes certain
things do work.
So it's just a balance offiguring out who the fuck your
kid is and going off of theirpersonality.
That's what we used to not do.

Speaker 3 (43:16):
The crazy thing to add to what you're saying.
As they get older, it gets moreintense, because the one thing
that we, as parents, forget isthat our kids have feelings.

Speaker 5 (43:24):
Well, they're people.

Speaker 3 (43:25):
Well, they are, and I say that just because I've had
to learn how to skirt around,because Brooklyn's going to be
13 and she's in middle school,seeing a bunch of different
things that we were not exposedto, like I took her phone back
in November and have not givenit back, and so many parents are

(43:46):
like, oh my gosh, you can'tstay connected.
She didn't, she lost it, shelost her privilege.
But you do have to understandyour child and that who they are
, the struggles that they'redealing with daily, cause the
world is not like it was when wewere in middle school.
It is not and it's it's justinsane, because I always tell
her you have big feelings, Ihave big feelings too.
You cry.
I cry If you need time toyourself, but the biggest thing

(44:06):
is just making sure you talk toyour kids.
Yes, communication, you have to, because I know it's the
wildest thing, but we've alreadyhad conversations about sex and
she's 12.

Speaker 5 (44:15):
No, that shit ain't wild.
That's not wild at all.

Speaker 3 (44:17):
Well, kids are having sex in the bathroom at her
school.
You got to be kidding that aswell and kids are going behind
the park and doing this thingand everything else.
And the biggest thing that Ican tell her, as I always tell
her, I prefer you don't do that,but if you feel like this is
something you do, you need tocome to me.
You want your kids to be ableto come to you, but if you're so
stuck on beating that ass allthe time to put your

(44:38):
authoritative boots, you're notgoing to get what you need for
them to come to you to feelcomfortable, because they're
going to be too scared andthey're going to go find another
source.

Speaker 5 (44:46):
And that's the hard balance, because you have to be
a place of support and authorityat the same time.
Facts and those are twoconflicting movements at the
same time, because you have tounderstand, like we.
We it's really hard, but we doour best to explain things to my
child, which really goesagainst every completely I was

(45:09):
raised, ain't no goddamnexplanation.
I said nigga, sit your ass down.
You sit your ass down.
I don't have to explain why Itold you to do something.
But in my, in my journey as afather, I try to explain to her.
So when and sometimes I I stilldo the old school shit I just
sit back and watch.
And when she hurt herself, I'msaying now let's talk about why
you hurt yourself and let's talkabout what I told you
previously to avoid this.
So we do try to have theconversations and I think for us

(45:33):
I know it has worked.
Tell us everything.
It's ridiculous.
Sometimes she don't shut thatup.

Speaker 3 (45:39):
Sometimes she over tells but you want that, but you
want that.
No, I'll tell your mama.
But no, that it's just wild,because today's world is not
like it was back in the day.
It is not, and you have toprepare your kids Because they
came back in.
You ain't lying.
What grade is she in?
She's in seventhth.

(45:59):
She goes to University Heightson University.

Speaker 4 (46:01):
Yes, yeah, I was bad at uni.
I ain't gonna lie.

Speaker 5 (46:03):
I was on the.
When did you stop being mad?
That's the question.
That's my next question.

Speaker 4 (46:08):
I actually was a very good kid.
I started being bad at uni wetalking, dominique?

Speaker 5 (46:13):
I don't believe none of these.

Speaker 4 (46:15):
Dominique was the bad one.

Speaker 2 (46:16):
I don't believe that.
So you ratted on her.
Yeah, that's what she did.
She was a rat.

Speaker 4 (46:20):
Oh, I knew you was a rat.
Because only once, only onetime, did I and I wasn't ratting
on her.
My mom was trying to spank herand she was running around the
couch and my mom was chasing herand I got tired of my mama
trying to catch her breath, so Istick my foot out and tripped
her ass to be late for work.
Dominique was eight.
I was 18.
I had a good-ass job.
I was going to be late for myjob.

Speaker 2 (46:41):
And you're the adult.

Speaker 4 (46:43):
Whoop her ass, mama, so we can go.
Let's fucking go, because thisis ridiculous.
I'm ready to fucking go.

Speaker 5 (46:50):
Dominique, if you want to jump her.

Speaker 2 (46:51):
I'll help you.
If you want to come on the showand air her out, you're more
than welcome.

Speaker 4 (46:56):
I'll tell you my own shit.
I was mad as fucking UD, but Ihad interpersonal things going
on that should not have happenedto a child and I was going to
school and taking it out on thekids.
So it wasn't that I was just.

Speaker 5 (47:10):
That's why you mean to me, I got it.

Speaker 4 (47:12):
I'm not mean to you.
I'm so loving to you.
I really am.

Speaker 2 (47:15):
She's mean to me.

Speaker 4 (47:21):
She cussed me out when we first started.
What?

Speaker 2 (47:23):
pull up the evidence.

Speaker 4 (47:23):
I ain't never been mean to you.

Speaker 2 (47:23):
It's the beginning of the episode.

Speaker 4 (47:24):
I ain't never been mean to you.
You always been my favoritewe're on the tape wrong with?
That you told me to shut upcause you needed to stop.
I needed you to put your.
I didn't want to just deny itin a minute at the same time go

(47:44):
ahead and ask one of these andthen I'm gonna ask because these
are the last four where nobodyelse is duplicated okay sean,
why are today's women so pickywhen it comes to where men take
them on dates?
we're not, we're not you pickingpicky bitches.
Um, the bitch who said shedidn't want to go to the
cheesecake factory should havebeen at mcdonald's.

(48:06):
I don't even know why the fuckshe got her ass on the internet
talking like that.
I mean I hope she see this.
Shit.
Man, you ain't even that damncute now.
Your little outfit you had onwas cute and you was put
together, but to be thinkingthat you need to be at somebody
five star restaurant, no, Idon't think that women are picky
.
I think women have beenneglected, and some women, not
all because I I want to be.

(48:26):
If I'm into you and I'minterested, I want to be where
you at.
I don't give a damn where it'sat, if we at mcdonald's, if we
at the park, if we in the car,if we, I just want to be where
you at.
I just want to be vibing,talking to you, getting to know
you, bonding period, don't givea fuck where it's at.
But I think women are neglecteda lot.
It's very much um dates andthings are put on the back

(48:47):
burner a lot.
I'll see you at the corner ofmy eye, a nigga, and I'm gonna
let you know that shit right nowokay I can see you.
Thank you, that's you this niggaI feel like I feel like dates
and things are put on the backburner.
And then women, some women,when they tell them, oh, stand
up for yourself and say this iswhat you want.
They just go over the fuckboard and they need to sit the

(49:08):
fuck down.
I don't think women really care.
Where dates are she lying?

Speaker 2 (49:13):
I'm gonna I'm gonna take a note from Dave Chappelle
here.
Right, oh man, what's that?
You remember the killing themsoftly here?
Right, oh man, what's that?
You remember the Killing themSoftly stand-up?
Right, of course, is that afucking baby?
Remember the whole statementwhen he was like is chivalry
dead?
And he was like, yes, chivalryis dead.
Woman fucked it up how.

Speaker 1 (49:34):
They don't tell you to listen.

Speaker 2 (49:37):
I feel like women, the women that are being
misrepresented by their fellowwoman online.
So, if if, is it Sean, is thata question you may feel?
You, too, may feel that this isnot the case, but there's a lot
of women representing you,saying that this is the case
that Sean is now being subjectto, because they are influenced

(49:59):
by Is Sean a man or a woman?

Speaker 4 (50:02):
It's a man and I can respect what you're saying.
We are being misrepresented.

Speaker 2 (50:05):
You're being misrepresented by the
representation of what is thenorm now.
So like when he goes online, oreven the women that go online
and watch that and go yeah,that's how we should act are now
going into the world, givingthat energy towards the men that
are trying to date them.
So you might want to check thewoman, because I do think women

(50:27):
are now becoming in that beliefnot all women, but there are
certain women that have thatbelief that are now going into
the world.

Speaker 4 (50:35):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (50:35):
I agree.

Speaker 4 (50:36):
I agree.
And women y'all do got to stophopping online and saying this
outlandish that shit is stupidlike it's stupid as shit like
you.
Money has nothing to do withhow you vibing with somebody, if
that energy is there yeah, itdoesn't, though?

Speaker 2 (50:52):
I'm just saying for me for me as a woman, in this
statement, you two are theminority, but now the women are
starting to believe what they'reseeing online and now they're
going into the worldrepresenting that Women need to
get online more.
And say it because I honestlyfeel like.

Speaker 4 (51:06):
I can buy money with anybody, I can have more money
than you.
It doesn't really matter, it'snot about that.
Are we vibing?
Are we meshing?
Well, is your conversation good?
Are you making me laugh?
Are you making me smile?
That's how I feel about it.
Well, I would rather sit downand have a McChicken, and I'm
such a love the cheesecake fence.

Speaker 3 (51:23):
I do too, but it's unfortunate because there's that
stigma attached.
You have women over here thatuse men for their money and you
have women over here that wantto be with a man who has no
money.
So you get a happy medium, butunfortunately the stereotypical
part of women in today's societyis it is and again, if a woman
is not secure within herself toknow what she wants from a man,

(51:45):
then she's going to go the routeof take me to Fleming's instead
of take me to the CheesecakeFactory.

Speaker 4 (51:50):
My thing is, Cheesecake Factory gives you
free bread, fleming's doesn'tGirl, and that crusted chicken,
romano, at the damn CheesecakeFactory that shit is fiery if
you get a crusted chicken Romanothat's nice, but don't do that
it is.

Speaker 5 (52:04):
She said, you get free bread.
And then if somebody?

Speaker 1 (52:07):
said I'm taking you to Fleming's, you do.
I'm not going to get free breadsticks, no.

Speaker 3 (52:12):
But you misunderstood .
Don't give me no options.
I'm not saying that going toFleming's is a bad thing, but
that should not.
You should not turn down a dateand having someone's time if
they want to take you there.
I'm not saying it's theseniggas' fault.

Speaker 1 (52:24):
Nobody want to say that it's a lot of niggas taking
a bunch of bum-ass bitches thatdon't deserve to go to these
places and they think that's thestandard.
So now these bum-ass bitchesare saying this and then it's
like well, you taking this bumof this.
Why the fuck?

Speaker 4 (52:37):
I gotta go to applebee's chili and you made
that because I ain't never heardyou call nobody no, bum ass
bitch so you made that shit fromthe spirit, because I ain't
never heard you call now thisnigg.
Call somebody a bum ass bitch,maybe you.

Speaker 1 (52:50):
I ain't never heard nobody well, there's a bunch of
bum ass bitches getting gooddinners, and that's that's not
fair.

Speaker 3 (52:58):
So yeah, spot on, spot on.

Speaker 4 (53:00):
So bottom line.
If you want to go on a date, weit doesn't matter, we like to
do sky fact, yes, talk, talk.
First figure out who you'retalking to yeah, definitely
figure out who you're talking to.

Speaker 5 (53:11):
I just think it's levels for now.
I don't.
Yeah, I'm not.
I'm taking you to Starbucksfirst and I agree with that.

Speaker 4 (53:18):
I agree with that.
You should not have to go broke.
That's still $4.

Speaker 1 (53:21):
I was about to say I'm about to go to the mom and
pop homie.

Speaker 2 (53:24):
I agree with you, we're still getting an
understanding of who we aretowards each other no Monday
night, the $1 night.

Speaker 1 (53:32):
I agree with that.

Speaker 4 (53:32):
You shouldn't have to go broke just to show a bitch
that you're interested in herperiod, point blank.

Speaker 2 (53:37):
I'm not going broke and I don't know you.
You're still trying to figureout what's on the flip side.

Speaker 4 (53:43):
I also need the niggas who don't have gold to
stop calling bitches golddiggers.
If they don't have gold to dig,no one's digging for you so
that shit is just ridiculous.

Speaker 5 (53:54):
I'm gonna say, if I take you to the swimming, pool.

Speaker 1 (53:57):
Don't say my name before I do.
What did you say?

Speaker 2 (54:00):
don't do that that was a little awkward that was a
little awkward, false, hey,kevin if Fleming's is attached,
it come with Dick hey, fleming,kevin, yeah he said it we ain't
gonna never be at VictoriaGardens at the same time if we

(54:20):
going anywhere.

Speaker 5 (54:21):
Yep he said if you, we ain't gonna never be at
Victoria Gardens at the sametime If we going anywhere with
white tablecloth.

Speaker 2 (54:27):
Is that Marissa over there?
Oh yeah, At the end of thenight.
It's gonna be some.

Speaker 4 (54:32):
It's gonna be, it's some.
He finna hand out someding-a-ling.

Speaker 2 (54:36):
Go buy wires in the bathroom.
How's the night going?

Speaker 1 (54:41):
You know you're getting some dick tonight, right
?
That's a skit, homie.
That's a skit, I like it.

Speaker 4 (54:46):
That is a fire, ass skit, I tell you.
A la carte mean buff that assopen.

Speaker 5 (54:55):
That's what that mean .
That's what that mean.
That's what that mean.

Speaker 4 (54:59):
So, basically, sean, if you take a bitch to a nice
place, it's a la carte.
You need to make sure that youare prepared to hand out some
dick that evening.

Speaker 1 (55:06):
Just don't make it rapey, but don't, don't just do
it to hand up, because you'regonna set this.
You know, bum ass bitches,don't do it, alright.
One more right.
She said three more.
All this is we can just.
We can just, all right.
One more right she said threemore.

Speaker 4 (55:22):
Oh, that's just one.
We can do this last one.
We can do three more, we can dothree, we can do eight.
Natasha wants to know why areblack men and black women always
beefing in front of company?

Speaker 1 (55:33):
I heard her voice when she said that she want to
know why Beefing in front ofcompany I can explain this
because I know her, so I knowwhat she has she talking about
like couples, couples.

Speaker 5 (55:39):
Yeah, that's what I want to know.

Speaker 4 (55:40):
No, she want to know why the fuck are we always on
the goddamn internet talkingshit to each other and about
each other?
I can tell you that because Iknow her.

Speaker 5 (55:46):
For their own internet doing it because it
gets views and likes and they'regetting paid off being seen on
the internet.
But the majority of blackpeople I know are not in front
of people going off at eachother.

Speaker 4 (56:03):
No, I don't know any black people, so ask yourself
why you in these type of circles.
She ain't.
She ain't Because I know her.
She's not in this type ofcircle, but obviously we see
this coming down our timelineand honestly I think a lot of

(56:32):
times we're pitted against eachother.

Speaker 5 (56:35):
I mean groomed taught by definition.

Speaker 4 (56:44):
It's not a, it's not a rapey term.
I I don't mean rapey, I don'tum I would I understand.

Speaker 5 (56:49):
What you're saying is that we're not gonna say, we're
not gonna say all, but wethere's not all there is a
portion of the black communitythat are not taught how to
behave within one anotherexactly, exactly and people need
to understand that your silenceis the is the loudest you can
ever be.

Speaker 4 (57:04):
Absolutely, and I also think that, because it's so
expected of us, people waitlike please don't get it twisted
.
White people is at homefighting with their white ass
husbands too but they just ain'ton the internet, yeah.
It's behind closed doors.
Yeah, it's behind closed doors.
I guess they have a differentlevel of respect for each other

(57:25):
to where they don't even puttheir business out there in a
street like that.

Speaker 1 (57:31):
We've seen enough Reddits to know yeah, yes.

Speaker 5 (57:33):
You just signed the video for them.

Speaker 1 (57:35):
The shitty part is don't this go back to what we
was talking about the hood andall that shit?

Speaker 2 (57:40):
where it's just like.

Speaker 1 (57:40):
Oh well, then shut the fuck up, put that shit in
the closed doors, like you said.

Speaker 4 (57:45):
Yeah, it definitely needs to be.
We need to go back to a placeof respect for each other,
period, period, across the boardfriendships, relationships.
We need to handle our businessand learn how to better
communicate, but behind closeddoors.

Speaker 5 (57:59):
I agree, definitely I agree.
But to communicate better,people got to take
accountability.

Speaker 4 (58:05):
Absolutely Accountability is the name of
the game.

Speaker 5 (58:06):
Accountability is one of the things that people dodge
.

Speaker 4 (58:09):
Yeah, it's the name of the game.

Speaker 5 (58:11):
They'll show up with audacity before they show up
with accountability.

Speaker 4 (58:14):
A fistful of it, baby .
But I agree, I definitely agree.
Accountability has to be thefirst staple in communicating
properly, because now you haveto be like, okay, what part did
I take in us getting here?

Speaker 5 (58:24):
You are Never mind.

Speaker 1 (58:29):
Yeah, what?
Nigga Nothing.
I know what he's saying, butit's nothing.
It's cool, it's not bad.

Speaker 2 (58:34):
First off, you attack the Muppets.
It's not bad, it's not bad.

Speaker 4 (58:42):
One day y'all gonna admit that your girl got swag
you cut them off at the foot.
Please, please, get you anotherbig bitch to get up on this
show.
That's swagger than me.
How much time you got.

Speaker 2 (58:57):
Call somebody nigga.

Speaker 4 (58:58):
I got plenty of time Call somebody nigga there, get
the Care Bear, stare, callsomebody nigga Call for I can't.

Speaker 5 (59:01):
I got plenty of time.

Speaker 1 (59:01):
Call somebody, nigga, there was a Care Bear stare
involved what you talking about,and then you sent me a picture
of a.

Speaker 4 (59:06):
Care Bear.
I'm not going to let that slidebecause I ain't got to see you
since you sent me the picture ofthe Care Bear.

Speaker 1 (59:14):
That was Ava's Care Bear it she fucked that care
bear up.

Speaker 5 (59:20):
I ain't gonna, I'm not gonna lie.
When I saw it I said oh blessher heart she tried.

Speaker 4 (59:26):
I need you listeners out there.
If y'all like how your girl getdown with her swag, please let
let the niggas know, becausethey hate you don't even know.

Speaker 5 (59:34):
Validation comes from within.

Speaker 4 (59:35):
I don't need it, I don't already tell you who I am.

Speaker 5 (59:37):
I don't already tell you how cool I am.

Speaker 4 (59:39):
I don't need it, stop asking for it.

Speaker 5 (59:40):
It comes to me.
Y'all be like oh my god, lookat her shoes.

Speaker 4 (59:42):
Niggas, be like oh my god, can you make me some?
Nigga every time we just thinkit's funny.

Speaker 2 (59:46):
I like to laugh.
All of you know I like to laugh.
I'm not saying that you don'thave.
I hate the word sweat, I'm notsaying to laugh.
I hate the word to laugh.
So the fact that I don't thinkit's bad.
I just think it's funny thatthey look like Muppets.

Speaker 1 (01:00:02):
Prince wore a blouse in a basketball game.

Speaker 5 (01:00:04):
Game.

Speaker 1 (01:00:06):
Blouses, swag still right, I think.

Speaker 4 (01:00:12):
We're going to talk about Prince, because Prince can
put your bitch heels on rightnow and fuck your bitch in her
heels.

Speaker 5 (01:00:16):
I was saying Prince is the only nigga that can tuck
his Well if he did that.

Speaker 1 (01:00:18):
Then we did a seance.

Speaker 5 (01:00:19):
Prince is the only nigga that can tuck his leggings
in his boots and still get yourwoman.

Speaker 4 (01:00:23):
And get your bitch.
Yes.

Speaker 1 (01:00:26):
And he can steal your bitch.
We got, we got period.

Speaker 4 (01:00:28):
Maybe I'm just morbid Period and I'ma wanna see it
all no he can't.

Speaker 1 (01:00:33):
If he doing that, I'ma leave him.

Speaker 3 (01:00:35):
This.

Speaker 4 (01:00:36):
This is a good one, we have two more, y'all.

Speaker 3 (01:00:40):
Go ahead, Marcus.
How can you start to break thegenerational curse and plant a
seed of change and actually seeresults?

Speaker 5 (01:00:47):
Do right, you start with yourself and you teach your
children yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:00:51):
Yep, yep, it trickles down.

Speaker 2 (01:00:53):
So Marcus had two, it's.

Speaker 4 (01:00:55):
Marcus.

Speaker 2 (01:00:56):
Marcus had two.
Could it have changed one ofthem?
Like Marquise, I feel like youhave more people given no, no,
him and Candace were together.

Speaker 1 (01:01:09):
Like you said, it starts with you.

Speaker 2 (01:01:10):
Change her name to Candice.
A little bit more variety inthere.

Speaker 5 (01:01:15):
You said that shit, I thought about Anabese.
I went straight to Oz, I wentto the fucking.

Speaker 1 (01:01:18):
Game of Thrones, and this is shit I be dealing with.
About Eta Bici, I will tradethe eyes, eta Bici.

Speaker 4 (01:01:21):
I went to the fucking Game of Thrones and it's the
shit I be dealing with Some morevariety.
I be missing you sometimes.
What's the shit I be?

Speaker 5 (01:01:27):
doing.
The next question is from EtaBici.
I be sitting here like.

Speaker 1 (01:01:29):
I don't even know what the fuck is Eta Bici.

Speaker 2 (01:01:38):
I don't even know what Oz is.
We should listen to Killshot.

Speaker 5 (01:01:42):
No, we're not doing that.

Speaker 4 (01:01:44):
So yes, marcus, to answer your question, you do
need to start with yourself.
Also, I think we need to stoplooking to the people who gave
us the generational curses forhealing.
Them niggas ain't healed.
They ain't going to do nothing,but keep on bringing you back
to where the fuck you're tryingto get away from.
I think we need to stop turningto them for the healing and
looking for them to fulfillthose voids that they left in us

(01:02:05):
.
Fill them voids ourselves andthen make sure that we're not
giving it to our children andpassing it down to them and be
happy doing right, doing it theright way.
Doing it the right way, make itlook good, don't have to be like
I'm just trying to get by.

Speaker 2 (01:02:19):
I'm doing it.
Legitimately, that's why I wearbraids.

Speaker 5 (01:02:23):
Sometimes I'm like nigga, I can just sell one kilo.
Why One kilo?

Speaker 3 (01:02:30):
I'll be good.
Okay, so you don't have to be agenerous.

Speaker 4 (01:02:35):
Okay, okay, okay.
What's the last question?
Y'all stressing me out becauseyou wearing braids, because your
daddy wear afro and you overhere trying to sell a kilo,
leave me alone.

Speaker 2 (01:02:42):
You just said, to break the generational curses.

Speaker 4 (01:02:45):
I did it and did and did.
This is anonymous.
Question um bullshit.

Speaker 1 (01:02:51):
It's an anonymous you wrote it, we know she didn't
want me to say her name oh, Ithought you wrote it, he's like
anonymous.
I know the answer to themotherfucking question.

Speaker 4 (01:02:59):
This is how do you allow someone to come in and
love you correctly when you havehad a relationship full of
betrayal?

Speaker 2 (01:03:06):
I'm going to tell you yeah, you go ahead.
Who was that?
By Des.

Speaker 4 (01:03:09):
No, this ain't by me, this ain't by me.
I don't need no answers likethat Dukes didn't hurt me what
you mean deuce didn't hurt mewhat you mean?

Speaker 2 (01:03:22):
no, I'm talking about just to add to love correctly.

Speaker 4 (01:03:24):
Call me, show up.
I'm kidding, I'm kidding, um,no, I and I.
I have an answer for this and Ido.
You have an answer.
A female did ask this, so maybetake this really quick.
Okay, go ahead girl.
Yeah, you do, child, okay, gofor it.
Um, I would say that you needto heal yourself first before

(01:03:46):
you even allow somebody in totry to come in to love you
correctly.
Now, I'm a firm believer thatyou, you can heal yourself
within the relationship that youare trying to leave, um, but
once you feel like thoseprevious issues aren't bothering
you no more, then you should beable to go ahead and let
somebody else.
If you still are saying I'mscared, and you know I'm scared,

(01:04:09):
they're gonna do me like thelast person.
You still hurting from the lastperson.
So heal from that shit firstand then go ahead and move to
the next I kind of agree withthat, yeah that's how I feel be
open, honest.

Speaker 1 (01:04:18):
Yeah, definitely, yeah, definitely.
Open, honest, because it couldtake a long time to heal
everything.
You might not be fully healed,but you might fall.
But at least, when you fall, behonest.

Speaker 2 (01:04:28):
Don't let somebody be like, oh well, it's like they
need to know too, that's niceBecause, yeah, because you could
be going into something new andyou don't want to necessarily
be like wait on me, figure itout.
Let me figure it out before westart it.
It's like hey, just understand,I'm dealing with some shit On
that journey I'm going to havesome stumbles.

Speaker 4 (01:04:47):
Yeah, definitely I agree, just basically
self-healing, deal with thatfirst and then go from there,
definitely, so you don't takeanything from the past.

Speaker 1 (01:05:01):
He just wanted to get some pound cake.

Speaker 4 (01:05:03):
Oh, y'all want me to answer Me too.
Did she make some?
Yeah, can I?

Speaker 5 (01:05:06):
answer yeah, of course.
No, that's mine.
I'm trying to pound cake too.

Speaker 4 (01:05:11):
You're going to pound cake too.
I would say you said Are youtrying to pound some cake?

Speaker 5 (01:05:16):
You just got that, get it.
You just got that Giddy.

Speaker 4 (01:05:21):
I'm a rapper.
Can you read it one more time?
Yes, the anonymous person wantsto know how do you allow
someone to come in and love youcorrectly when all you've had in
your relationships arerelationships full of betrayal?

Speaker 5 (01:05:38):
Okay.
So I would first say that youhave to once again learn how to
love yourself, because youcannot expect someone to love
you to the point to fill thevoid you can't fill within
yourself.
So I feel like the first thingyou have to do is understand and
realize where you fall short inloving yourself.
So you got to do so, you got todo work with yourself.
Second thing I would say isthat when you go into the new
situation, you cannot bring thebaggage from the past with you.

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New situation you cannot bringthe baggage from the past with
you.
You cannot let that person comein in a deficit and expect them
to be more and repair what thelast person has done.
You have to take that newperson as a new experience, as a
new beginning.
But you cannot fully do thatholding on from things from the
past.
So you have to go forward witha clean slate, being fully
physically and mentally healedfrom your past traumas, and go

(01:06:22):
and walk into that new situation, a new relationship, in full
faith, in full effort and fullcontent in your heart with who
you are going forward.

Speaker 4 (01:06:32):
Absolutely, absolutely.
And although I do believe thatself-love is definitely the very
first component, try to tellyourself hey, you get this right
with the right person.
Their love could even make youblossom even further.
Don't be afraid to love again.
It's going to be okay, girl.

Speaker 2 (01:06:50):
And then you get to have your cakes pound.

Speaker 1 (01:06:54):
And eat it too.

Speaker 4 (01:06:57):
I'm sorry girl.

Speaker 5 (01:07:02):
I'm also going to say you have to.
If you've had a series ofbetrayals, you have to take
accountability and look atyourself and ask yourself why
are you picking the same type ofman over and over?

Speaker 4 (01:07:13):
again.
You definitely got to type.

Speaker 5 (01:07:14):
You definitely got to type because maybe your type
don't fit what you need.

Speaker 2 (01:07:18):
Yeah, and types don't necessarily just fall into race
either.
You could date everybody underthe sun, and they'll still have
certain aspects and personalitytraits that are very similar, so
you can be like oh well, he'sblack, he's white.
Trust me, there's a trend goingon and you might just want to

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identify the trend of what drawsyou to all of them.
Regardless and race doesn'tchange types Types are a type.

Speaker 4 (01:07:47):
Definitely.
I agree.
I had that same issue.
That's a topic for anotherepisode but I was able to
identify exactly why what type Iwas picking and exactly why I
was picking that type, and thatactually helped me a lot.

Speaker 5 (01:07:57):
So definitely identify why you are still
picking that same type of dudeand find somebody that that
challenges your trauma, not letyou fall into it yes, come
through, maurice.

Speaker 4 (01:08:10):
That was a.
He get on my nerve y'all, buthe be coming through sometime.
Anybody else got anything Iain't got nothing, I just said.
At the end of the rainbowyou'll get your pounds cake okay
, alright, so that's all thequestions we have for you guys
today.
This has been another episodeof the heavyweight podcast yay,

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Speaker 5 (01:08:42):
Bye till next time peace, peace that's a wrap,
y'all.

Speaker 1 (01:08:47):
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