March 24, 2025 • 52 mins
What does it feel like to be running on empty? The Heavyweight crew gets real about recognizing when our tanks are low and shares powerful strategies for refilling them.
From physical symptoms like anxiety and exhaustion to emotional signs like irritability and frustration, the hosts open up about how burnout affects them. "When I'm on empty, my responses are short, very sarcastic. Don't ask me no dumb shit," one host admits. That raw honesty sparks a deep conversation about resilience, boundaries, and self-care.
Mindfulness emerges as a crucial tool, but as the crew points out, "Being mindful is one of the hardest things to be." They dive into personal stories of navigating loss, violence, and overwhelming stress—proving that resilience isn’t about avoiding hardship but learning to take it one step at a time.
If you're feeling drained by work, relationships, or life's constant pressures, this episode will give you practical strategies for bouncing back stronger. Join the conversation and find strength in the struggle. 💪
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Heavyweight Podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:04):
The message behind saying the title of the
Heavyweight Podcast is to beable to say that we can weigh in
on some heavy shit.
What we're talking about isimportant from every aspect of
it.
It's a heavy weight.
It's not just about physicalweight, but the weight of things
that can weigh our minds.
So I think it's dope that wecan have this conversation.
Who knows if this is the braidside and that's the hat side, or
(00:34):
what I guess yeah, what's good?
this is episode 191 of theheavyweight podcast.
I am your anti-social host andnever your favorite.
Stedder McFly, back again withthis lady and these two guys.
Go ahead and state your namefor the beautiful people out
there.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Kevin W W Like A&W Like.
W Like G-dubs Like.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
George.
You just remind me of something, Kevin it's your boy, Molito.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
I'm your girl, Des the Diva.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Well, my daughter couldn't say W when she learned
the alphabet, because she alwayssay said, what were you?
Speaker 2 (01:06):
aww, that's cute.
I hope you got it on tape,santa that's cute.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
Oh, I do.
I listen to it all the time.
That's super cute because she abig kid now how were your weeks
?
Cool, man cool, it was cool,you know yeah it's not funny.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Oddly, a lot of the same as last, but good, good,
I'm good.
Speaker 4 (01:28):
So you good, yeah, you good, yeah.
You need a drink as Tupac said,the Hennessy don't help see
somebody put a Tupac you knowwhat I felt it in my spirit when
he did it too, thank you yeah,the week was good.
(01:48):
Grind, that's it.
Grind, don't stop getting readyfor state.
In a couple weeks we finna showup and show out, have our
matching sweaters on shirts.
And you know, be in thereyelling, drive out with a trophy
, yeah.
And if we don't, we still inthe motherfucker and the space
to nationals.
And you know, I'm being thereyelling, drive out with a trophy
, yeah.
And if we don't we still in themotherfucker and the space to
nationals.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
She's good, you guys are going to nationals.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
Yeah, I'm hoping that she sticks with this and I get
my money back.
I bet you will.
You will Shoot my dad.
I bought you a house.
Oh baby, you don't have to dothat.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
But, where's that my week was good.
Mcfly, how was your week?
Speaker 4 (02:30):
Just a thumbs up.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
For Shizzle it was all sixes and sevens.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Like.
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Like shoe size.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Like craps.
More like you ever Sixes andSevens.
Like they talk about peoplegoing crazy.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
No, do you need to call the hotline?
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Yeah, you, okay, I'm tired, Like I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
I get that.
What is that?
Speaker 4 (02:56):
That's a new one for me.
I ain't never heard of Sixesand Sevens.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
You never like Uh-uh.
Tech N9ne had an album calledSixes and Sevens.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
No, it's not Tech.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
N9ne.
See, I missed it.
I missed it, I didn't know it.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
No, Uh-uh no.
Speaker 4 (03:09):
Don't look over here, because you know I don't know.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
No, I never heard it.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
That's the new one, okay.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
That must be an artist thing.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
It's either an artist thing or a white thing, because
it's the same.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I believe it.
I don't know the white stuff.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
I'm shocked that Kevin don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
I know I'm kind of shocked too, I'm kind of shocked
too.
He was with some real whitepeople, Saw six and sevens buddy
.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
I'm the expert on nigga shit.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Yes, yes, nigga, nigga shit.
I don't know neither the whiteshit or the nigga shit.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
I'm just here.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
neither the white shit or the nigga shit, I'm just
here lies see that you saidthat shit, I just said shut up
both of y'all there's gonna bean extra on BAPS.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
I could not have been no extra.
I hate that damn movie.
I could not have been no extra.
I cannot stand that movie.
I do not like that movie.
I don't do ghetto, shit likethat.
I do not like that movie.
But they're cute, but they'renot like long long, this is
(04:22):
medium, yeah, this is medium.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
When you go like long long, this is medium.
Yeah, that's regular, this ismedium, yeah this is medium.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
When you go in there, you be like this is medium, I
do medium for you, this ismedium.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Damn, damn.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
The thoughts of Des and Des are.
Des I'm not nah.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Listen in my defense.
I can't help it, okay, I just.
It just comes out okay.
It just comes out okay.
Racism I'm sure she saidsomething to me in her language.
Oh, I'm sure, yeah, so there'sthat.
We even now.
Wow, we even.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
She can't help it.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
That's how the lady said who did my nails?
Speaker 1 (04:59):
I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
She's from Cambodia.
She's cute we black we allowed.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
That's what we get.
That's our reparations rightRight.
Racism, I'm good, what is it?
Appropriation, oh shit.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Guess we'll get to the shenanigans yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Wait, stop shenanigans.
Again Running on empty Shit mycar Because goddamn gas again,
running on empty shit my carbecause goddamn gas is almost.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Oh hi, it's giraffe, coachy, yeah what are common
signs that you're running low onenergy and hope, and how do you
recognize them?
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I feel it physically.
I get heart palpitations whenI'm running low on energy and
stuff like that, so I can feelit physically.
I get heart palpitations whenI'm running low energy and stuff
like that, so I can feel itphysically.
Um, and I have anxiety.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
So there's that when you're on, when you're low in
energy, you have anxiety yeah,if I haven't slept, well,
anxiety, I can't.
Did you just sing the Dochisong?
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I don't know that lady's songs.
I know who she is, but I don'tknow the words to Not Now song
that lady sang Not.
Now not a song that woman sang.
Now I'm happy for her, but justain't really listened to her
album yet.
I'm going to.
Yeah, that's one I'm going to.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Yeah, that's one plan I can get behind, yeah.
Yeah, I will listen to it.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I will listen to it.
I just don't know.
Just ain't had the chance toyet.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
I will say for me, when I'm on Empty man, my
irritability level was at athousand.
I'm very, very short, I'm short, I'm very, very short, I'm
short.
My responses are short, verysarcastic.
Don't ask me, no, dumb shit.
Because you're going to get adumb ass answer.
And then you know, the firstsight of a pillow are my wife's
(06:55):
titties.
I'm asleep.
Put my head in them, titties.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
That doesn't work for me.
I ain't going to sleep.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Oh no, no, I'm going to sleep.
Oh no, oh boy.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
You just jumping on his bullshit ass, god damn it,
that's not bullshit.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Don't nobody want to hear y'all talk like that.
That's not bullshit.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Y'all nasty no the motherfucker with the backpack
is calling us nasty.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
I show up with what God equipped me with.
She got a whole backpack ofextras.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
I have to make sure that when I'm with these bitches
, oh, that's good stuff.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
Yeah, that's just like so, yeah, I'm irritable.
That's when I'm running like,when I'm like when I'm running
on empty physically, when I'mrunning on empty emotionally,
like Kevin always says, I justgotta cry it out, cry it out,
reset, cry it out, then get my.
Oh, he said it.
You always say cry it out, cryit out, and then you, you know
(08:05):
this little bitch ass nigga.
I did not say that, sir.
I did not say that if you tookit that way, I'm sorry, I don't
yeah, but you know, I agree,when I'm emotionally exhausted
it's been a good cry.
A good cry because most of thetime when I'm emotionally
exhausted I think about mygrandparents and that just
(08:28):
doubles the cry.
And then, you know, a good crymakes you see shit different.
You're like okay, let me gotake care of business now.
Feel refreshed.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
I'm getting a lot more irritable with my
Physically or mentally.
I think both and I'm trying.
I gotta not do that.
That shit ain't fair nobody,because it's like it ain't your
fault, my bad.
Speaker 4 (08:51):
So a lot of sorry's have been said, the reason why
you tired.
Nah, because I wouldn't beworking like this if your ass
wouldn't you nah shit.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
If only they knew what I nevermind.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
I don't want to my greatest motivation and my
greatest.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
I do want to like rage, though like a rage room me
too, I've never done that, I'venever like, so I should do that
.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
I just thought about you signing up for like an
escape room.
It's dead room.
They're like what are you doing?
I'm looking for clothes.
Turn this shit up.
This ain't a rage room.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
So Isolation, a lot to deal with it and, like I said
, I want to try that thoughwe're going to go do a rage room
.
Speaker 4 (09:50):
Rage room Yep.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
I'm down.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
I just like breaking shit.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
There's one in uh Temecula, temecula yeah, yeah,
let's do it, I'm down.
You down, we can record it.
You gonna tear some shit up.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
We could record it.
You can are, we are, we are weallowed to like put?
Speaker 2 (10:09):
pictures of people on shit?
Yes, you can, you can't you can.
You go online and you just bookthe spot and I think they're in
30 minute increments and, yes,you can bring people, you can't
bring pictures of people oh, Iwas like that sounds like a
homicide pictures.
You can bring the pictures topeople.
Yes, you can.
We've been to Purge.
Yes, you can.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
Well bring pictures.
I can totally see it going thatway.
You got this nigga chained uplike oh it wasn't my bad, I
think I read the descriptionwrong Living back in the car.
We'll just.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Never know, though, with the way this economy is,
they'll be like pay a littlemore and we'll let you do it.
Yeah, hit the rager.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
When I hit low energy , I tend to notice I start to
feel like I'm getting physicallysick and I'm low on energy.
And then, uh, I kind of getreal, like I kind of tune out.
When I'm like spicy, yeah, Ijust so.
Um, and that's usually myidentifier is like, oh shit,
(11:19):
like I'm, because I know my bodywill physically just start
being like hey man, you got alittle scratchy throat right now
and you, you're like damn, Iwasn't sick.
Speaker 4 (11:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
But your body will be like but you feel like you're
getting sick, physically sickyeah.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
And then when?
Speaker 3 (11:33):
I recharge and you go back to normal that's usually
my telltale sign.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
That's not low energy , that's exhaustion.
You are exhausted at that point.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
Now what's exhaustion niggas, when you fall asleep at
a stoplight.
Who the hell did that?
I've done that that was a trainoh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I fell asleep we had a dude do that at work, but that
motherfucker just stayed asleephe said I'm here now.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
He just woke up and was like oh shit, nobody want me
just went around theneighborhood, mcfly called me to
wake me up cause I was I waslegit knocked out.
He started snoring.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
I was tired we were having a conversation and he was
like man, I'm stuck behind thisdamn train.
I was sitting here.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
I was like oh, oh shit, oh, you was getting it.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Holy shit, yeah.
And then I called him back.
He said, man, if you hadn'tcalled me back, he's out.
I think I was going to roll thefucking tractor.
I said, shit, yeah, because younever put the brake on, never
put the brake on.
Exhausted, yeah, she got firedfor that.
Speaker 4 (12:44):
I wouldn't yeah, because you never put the brake
on.
Never put the brake onexhausted yeah she got fired for
that.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I wouldn't.
I wouldn't have.
She didn't put her brake on andthen got in her car and got on
her phone and then ripped abunch of shit out, like another
driver was like I can't evenjustify this shit, oh my god
that's crazy but yeah, that's.
Yeah, yeah, physically yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
And then hope.
I don't know, I hope, I usuallyhope.
I guess I can see anxiousnesswith hope, like kind of getting
giddy.
Start randomly doing shit likethat.
Speaker 4 (13:23):
Oh, okay, when you have hope.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
When you're losing low on hope.
Speaker 4 (13:26):
That's what the additional question is oh, my
bad.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
I take it a different because I'm like I don't think
I get low on hope.
That's one thing I can stillhave somehow.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
I know, sometimes, when I feel like I'm at my limit
, I take personal days.
I'll take days where I donothing.
If it ain't going to make mesmile, I don't do it.
So I'll lay in bed.
I'll go to my office.
I'm not laughing at you.
(14:00):
I'll go to my office and maybewatch a video, maybe watch a,
play a video game or somethingthat's what I was thinking when
I'm irritable or like in that.
I'm someone low on hope.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Or yeah, anytime I feel low on anything.
Video games don't do it LikeI'll get super like.
Nah, fuck that man, I'msupposed to do a video game?
Speaker 4 (14:20):
Hold on, I never said it worked.
That's what I was saying, Isaid I'd make an attempt to.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
I just got a game when I'm over there and I'm like
I keep fucking losing.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
That's the last thing I'm trying to do.
Speaker 4 (14:34):
But I'll spend holidays just in bed, just me,
and normally an old show thatwas me last week.
Watch some Golden Girls.
That's not my favorite show.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
It's a good week.
You know, watch some GoldenGirls.
That's not my favorite show.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
It's a good show, but like that's the go-to.
I swear to God, it is I swearto God, she have all type of
Golden Girls shit in her house,oh man.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
I watched it last week.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
I learned something about me last week.
What was that?
Uh-oh, I can't hear or watchdumb shit when I'm physically
sick.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Why what?
Speaker 3 (15:05):
happened.
Speaker 4 (15:06):
It irritates me in my soul.
Like you ever watch theGoldbergs.
I need the example.
What were you watching?
I was watching Goldbergs, right, Okay?
Speaker 3 (15:14):
And I couldn't help but notice I kept skipping
episodes because that niggaBarry, the older brother, kept
doing dumb shit.
So somehow I'm laying there andI can hear it and I'm already
fucking.
I have a fever, I'm fucking hot, sweating, and I'm hearing this
shit.
I said, oh, that dumb nigga,and I would skip the next song.
Like fuck, like every.
I was like not like 10 episodesskipped after.
(15:37):
I'm like I can't watch theGoldbergs.
That's funny.
Sick Cause this nigga was doingdumb shit every episode.
Sick cause this nigga was doingdumb shit every episode like
that's like me.
Speaker 4 (15:48):
That's like when I watch my 600 pound life and I'm
like they gonna take they fatass and they gonna lie on them.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
They can't lie to that doctor cause his ass.
He not tolerate that shit.
I'm a picky eater.
You're 600 pounds.
You're not a picky eater what?
Speaker 4 (16:05):
I tell my I watch that shit.
I'm a picky eater.
You're 600 pounds, You're not apicky eater, what I watched
that shit so much.
My wife, uh Phoenix, come inthe room like dad really this
again, it's hilarious.
I said this is a.
It's hilarious, the daddy ismotivation, because what the
hilarious part was?
The part you tomorrow does the,the, the doctor, he that that,
that nigga is the king ofsavages.
He don't give a fuck.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
With a straight face.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
He told this one bitch.
He said you eating?
Speaker 2 (16:30):
enough for the rest of the year.
Yeah, he did.
Oh man, that was the same bitchthat said she was picky.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
That made me think of Devin the Dude.
Devin the Dude's the greatest.
He had a song called Leave Em,and it was all about going to a
party with some bitches.
He had a song called Leave Em,and it was all about going to a
party with some bitches.
And then, when he gets there,his rap line is what the fuck is
this big bitch here?
I should have bought a 16 ouncebeer.
Speaker 4 (17:00):
What.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
I was like that's rude as fuck, that's only rude.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
It was a tandem, but it was good yeah it was fun, I
do that shit too.
I don't even watch it, I belistening to it.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
I be like man shit your ass.
It gets super irritating.
You're like what the fuck, dude?
Speaker 1 (17:17):
I had a friend who was like that when he wasn't
sick.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
And he just legit.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
Somebody said something and he just looked at
me and was like stupidity shouldbe punished.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
I was like, damn, that was a good shirt.
That was a good shirt.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
I was like god damn, like how punished do you mean?
That was a good shirt alrighty.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
did everyone answer Simone, alright.
What strategies have you foundthe most effective?
And?
Did everyone answer Mm-hmm,simone, all right.
What strategies have you foundthe most effective in regaining
energy and hope when feelingdrained?
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Sleep.
Yeah, I want my answer Rest.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Sleep, are you fucking Shit?
That's how you get your energyup.
Speaker 4 (18:03):
Shit, shit, shit shit .
I mean.
I mean she doing most of thework I'm just laying there oh
man, this is fucking ridiculous.
After I wake up from that nap,I'll be like what you need, baby
, I got it now get your chakrasaligned.
I got you she just bring it outof me.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
She bring it out sounds like a snake that comes
up.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
Yeah, not touching that one rest, uh rest.
Speaker 4 (18:33):
A good cry helps hot tub.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
I like the hot tub time with my baby.
Uh, alone time.
I do a lot of different things.
Haven't done the the weatherhasn't permitted, but going out
and doing like golf or somethinga little bit outdoorsy.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
I haven't.
I wasn't able to walk outsidebecause of the weather recently
and it kind of it's fucking withme.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
I can see that.
Yeah, it's definitely part ofyour routine too.
I miss it Cause I going it'sdefinitely part of your routine
too.
Speaker 4 (19:03):
I miss it because, like going back to the gym the
second time to walk in thetreadmill I'm like man, I'd
rather be outside well, look atthese ugly motherfuckers, I
don't think these niggas in heresweating.
Oh damn nigga, when they werecompression socks there's a
nigga at my gym that wearscompression pants like the
(19:25):
leggings, with nothing over them.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Oh, he just balls out .
I mean, it just balls out.
Somebody should tap him likehey my man, that's not how that
goes.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
And he'd be around there comfortable.
He black, oh he white.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
That ain't no nigga shit.
Speaker 4 (19:45):
I'm like bro, come on .
Speaker 1 (19:48):
You know what?
Never mind.
I just got to stop watchingTikTok.
I got to stop thinking in myhead it's fucked up.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
It's not right.
I was watching TikTok yesterday, right?
I don't know why it became likethe cereal trend, ice cream, oh
.
And they became like the cereal.
Speaker 4 (20:06):
Trend ice cream.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
And they have the.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
Rice Krispie, ice cream sandwiches.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
That shit look delicious and.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
I'm looking at those goddamn.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
You ain't seen it, it's like a thick ass Rice.
Speaker 4 (20:17):
Krispie tree.
My wife sent that shit to me.
I said now, if they make thatshit with chocolate ice cream,
give me 10 of them.
That's what.
I said Because I love a goddamnRice Krispie treat.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I wanted them to dip it in one half of it in
chocolate, or drizzle somechocolate on the top.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
There's a strawberry flavor to it and I looked up,
it's a strawberry.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
The ice cream is strawberry.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
This woman in here if she sees that it's over.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
My mom just experimented.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
I looked it up and I just made this Like mom, yeah,
I'll eat it.
Speaker 4 (20:46):
I was on board to a boy say you only get three in a
box.
I said hold on, nigga.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
What it's like 30 bucks too.
Speaker 4 (20:50):
It's like $15.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
According to the TikTok, I said it was like that
was their limit before theyended up having a bunch of death
due to diabetes.
Speaker 1 (20:59):
Yeah, Like fuck, like what niggas overdid it, yeah
got gout.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
I got gout in my pinky toe, but yeah, they look
good, though they're big I couldprobably eat one a week.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
I just want.
I don't know if it's delicious.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
The next question I don't even know if we answered
the question.
Speaker 3 (21:22):
We should start talking about food.
I just saw that show therecause now I'm hungry, let's
answer.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
I don't even know if we answered the question.
We should start talking aboutfood.
I just saw that show there.
Because now I'm hungry, let'sask the question again.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
I'm going to be honest what strategies have you
found most effective for?
Speaker 2 (21:35):
regaining energy.
We answered that.
We answered that.
What's the next one?
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Yeah, R&R Time with my baby.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
How important is setting small, achievable goals
and recovery process.
Speaker 4 (21:47):
Setting small, achievable goals is is important
Period.
It's essential, it's period.
Speaker 3 (21:52):
So you're going to go get the rice crispy treats, or
you guys fucked up.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
I hope you know that.
Yeah, I know, for the nextepisode you're gonna come in and
my mom's just gonna have twopound cakes.
Speaker 4 (22:14):
I'll be here on time let me know, cause I'm gonna
bring ice cream just give me allair like but I definitely
believe that you need to.
You need to have a main goal,but you need to have micro goals
along the way, yeah, so thatway you can feel like you're
achieving on your way to thegoal.
(22:34):
So even like, for instance, mewith the weight loss right, I
set a goal of what number I wantto see by the end of the week,
and so if I meet that goal, okay, good, I'm doing good.
If I don't meet that goal, Ineed to go a little harder.
Number I want to see every bythe end of the week.
And so if I meet that goal,okay, good, I'm doing good.
If I don't meet that goal, Ineed to go a little harder.
I need to make up, and a lot oftimes I can look and say, well,
this is why I know where Ifucked up.
But things like that, like evenlike in life, like okay, if I
(22:56):
can, if I can make this muchmoney by this much time, okay,
ok.
So now I know if this is thenumber, I know how much I got to
average, I know what I got towork on.
Hey, I want to complete this, Iwant to have this built by this
time.
Ok, what am I doing?
But I think the small goalshelp you achieve the big goals
and it helps you stay motivated,because the more it's like it's
(23:18):
a mental thing, the more.
The more you check off, themore you want to check off, so
it actually drives you to get tothe end.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
I agree get to the end.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
I agree it's pretty essential, like you said, in
life, but especially in thattime, because you want to have
something to be, have a victory.
We always stay like so you'vegot to have some sort of win.
As we, like you said,achievable goals.
So set something that is almostlike a daily something you
normally do, but make sure youdo it, yeah.
(23:45):
So I think it's almost like adaily something you normally do,
but make sure you do it.
Yeah, so I think it's everythingyeah because, yeah, it's like
goals, like you said, give youthe motivation to do more, keep
going and try more.
Try to get to something.
And I think it's importantperiod because sometimes people
don't set goals and they just go.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Go for it.
Yeah, it's like what are yougoing for?
The small goals help you pourinto your own cup.
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:11):
My wife is a huge advocate of.
Like every January, what arethe goals for the year?
I love that.
So now you're not just going.
So it kind of gives you apurpose.
It gives each month a purposethat we're working towards.
Going back to the small goals,I saw this trainer and what he
said was on TikTok, I think whathe said, what I thought was
(24:33):
genius.
He said if you want to go tothe gym and you want to get in
the habit of going to the gym,he said, just go to the gym.
He said, the first week go tothe gym, Just walk in, Walk out.
Now, if you do something,that's great, If you don't, you
win.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
I did that with comedy not too long ago, I'm not
going to lie.
I showed up to the place and Iwas like, oh man, you guys are
doing good and I just left.
Speaker 4 (24:56):
I just left, but I mean, he was basically teaching
about just getting the mindsetgetting the mindset, getting the
routine, because eventually, ifyou go two, three weeks
straight, eventually you'regonna start doing a little
something.
It may be a five minutes here,10 minutes there, but you, you
know, it's just.
It's about just the action ofgetting up and doing something.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
Yeah, and giving yourself grace, I think is is
important, right, because you'regonna fall sometimes have a
little grace for yourself.
Speaker 4 (25:25):
What'd you say nothing?
Speaker 1 (25:27):
oh, this line thing again.
Yeah, I thought he said ahundred Oreos.
I was like god damn yeah, theyin the line mm-mm.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
Dang, I want some Oreos see damn.
Speaker 4 (25:41):
So let me get some Oreos and some Rice Kool.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
I like chimed in here with y'all.
I already said, I agree, youknow, I already said a few
little things.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
I didn't hear a ooh child she said, she said
sprinkle, sprinkle go E40 it'sMcFly time.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
What do you think McFly?
Where are do you think McFly?
Speaker 1 (26:02):
no, where are you?
Oh, he gonna hit you, like hityou with the drink oh, nah, nah,
nah, nigga, he's gonna see thisthrough.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
I said it already.
I said I feel like that they'reessential.
It's like pouring into your owncup.
You did say that.
I said that I did like thatline.
That was nice.
It I said that I did like thatline, that was nice.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
That's all I got Go Andy.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Must have done the beat, ho Devo.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
I said in the beginning where is the Rice
Krispie Treats?
That was my oh they ain't readyyet.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
No, nah, man, she don't even know yet.
I'm going to show her thisepisode and she'll be like, oh
y'all really want she gonna makethem some scratch.
Who Tammy yeah?
Speaker 2 (26:45):
you call your mama, tammy.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
She don't even eat sweets and just be making stuff
and I'm like I like it.
That's good, thanks, appreciateit what?
Speaker 2 (26:54):
how good is you heard of stuff right now?
Cut this damn short episodeshort we're gonna collectively
have diabetes what are youthinking like?
Speaker 3 (27:15):
I don't know he's gonna go down a path cause when
you said we're gonna mutuallyhave diabetes, I thought like
everybody got got matching chopsoff feet.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (27:28):
Well anyway, oh my, that's the only nigga I've seen
trolling about his foot yeah.
He said I grew my foot back andI'm like who the fuck is that?
Levar Ball?
Speaker 4 (27:38):
the basketball dad I believe that he kept the foot.
He asked for the foot back.
He probably got the shit onright to the house.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
That would be insane Mudgee.
Speaker 4 (27:47):
My God, you want to see my foot.
No, nick, I do not want to seeit.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
Anyway, what role does mindfulness and self-care
play in maintaining yourresilience?
Speaker 4 (27:56):
Everything, oh my gosh, yeah, everything,
everything.
Being mindful is one of thehardest things to be absolutely,
it almost.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
You have to practice daily while being mindless is
common.
Yes, yeah, yeah, that's becausemost people think that they're
mindful when they're not orthey're just mindful of self, or
not even mindful of self.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
I guess just they're only mindful of their emotion
emotion itself.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
Yeah, yeah, but it's, it's everything, it's every,
it's everything.
Cause when you're mindful,you're able to dissect what's
going on internally andexternally and you can see the
factors in real time of what'saffecting your mood, what's
affecting your current reality,what's affecting your decision
making.
And, like Des was saying, it issomething that you have to.
(28:48):
It's something that you have toactively work towards to
maintain, because even if you'rea mindful person, you're going
to have gaps in the day and inyour life where you're not being
mindful, because we're allhuman, we can all be triggered
by something, and when you'retriggered, that's one of the
hardest times to be mindful,because now you're being fueled
(29:12):
by emotion, and when you're inemotion and it's passion,
emotion, regardless whether it'sanger, fear, love or whatever
the case may be when you're inthat and it's that strong of a
force, it's hard to step outsideof that and actually be mindful
of the situation.
So when you're not mindful,that's when the situations come
up that hurt you the most,because you can't protect
(29:33):
yourself, because you're notrealizing you need to be
protected.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Yeah, mindfulness also can go into the point of uh
, because I was, I agree withyou, but it's like uh also, you
don't necessarily have torecognize everything, just
knowing that something is a miss.
Is, I think, uh sometimesenough, like because if you just
(30:02):
don't or you just ignoreeverything, you don't even know
that something is amiss?
Is, I think, sometimes enough,like because if you just don't
or you just ignore everything,you don't even know that
something's?
Speaker 4 (30:12):
off, then you won't even know that you got something
to correct.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
So you got to trust your gut feelings.
That's like doing the work asfar as going to your doctor.
You might not know what thefuck's wrong with you, but you
know something's wrong.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Man, I got to be better.
I know when I said the wholeendoscopy thing.
Speaker 3 (30:32):
oh, what's wrong?
I said, well, I don't know,that's what I'm trying to find
out.
Speaker 1 (30:35):
I think I need an MRI , but I don't even know how to
do that.
Speaker 4 (30:38):
You go to your doctor and request it.
Right, I thought they deny somesometimes I mean they have to
have a medical reason for it.
But if you tell them what'sgoing on, I mean legally they
have to check it out.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
It's giving you your symptoms.
You can't just walk up in thereand be like I just got an MRI,
but you'd be like I have X, yand Z and that aligns with an
MRI being needed to, you know,investigate.
Speaker 4 (31:02):
I mean you can lie into one.
You go to the emergency roomand say I got this, but it's
really and my pain is at a 10.
Then they're going to do allthe tests and throw you in the
room.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
I'm not good at faking.
They'll just look at me and belike, yeah, I mean so?
Yeah, that's.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
That would suck you fake it.
You go through the MRI Likenigga.
I was just playing, I didn'tknow it was like that.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
They're like damn, you fucked up.
Speaker 4 (31:33):
I just, I just thought about Joe Budden's story
when he had the MRI and how hewas freaking out and he was like
when the ball broke and he wasfreaking out and he was like
when the ball broke and he wastrying to get out and he
couldn't get out Like yo, my manShout out to Joe.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
I don't like him.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
At least you're mindful of that yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:02):
Very mindful.
At least you're mindful of that.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Yeah, very mindful, I think that's I mean that's
important though, so you knowwhat the fuck to stay away from
too you're like them niggas overthere not for me.
No, they just gonna cause me tobe angry, but that's a good one
.
I didn't even think about thataspect like health-wise, yeah
yeah.
If you don't know.
Speaker 4 (32:27):
I know it irritates her, but now, when my wife
complains about anything, Ialways go.
So what do you want to do aboutit?
You want to go in, or are youBecause, if you don't want to go
in, why are we talking about it?
You want to go in?
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
You sound a lot like me.
Speaker 2 (32:40):
I'm trying to not be yeah, maybe she just wants to
talk.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
I'm going to listen to it again, if you're coming to
me with a problem, I know wherehe's coming from, so you're
just going to be hurt you'recoming to me with a problem.
Speaker 4 (32:54):
Do you want to go in, because I'll take you right now
, I'll drop what I'm doing or doyou want to make an appointment
?
How are we doing this?
Speaker 1 (32:59):
but hearing him say it, I feel like that's probably
how I say it and I'm like itsounds aggressive yeah, it
sounds a little.
It sounds a little aggressiveso you, but what you're saying
makes sense, yeah you just soundaggressive saying it, but what
you're saying does make sense.
Speaker 3 (33:17):
Are we calling aggressive?
Because I you're saying doesmake sense.
Are we calling?
Speaker 4 (33:20):
aggressive Because I'm black.
Speaker 3 (33:21):
No, I'm just trying to figure out is aggressive a
new way of saying.
It Sound like an asshole.
That's the way.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
I was trying to what?
I was trying to ease it.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
He was guiding you there.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
Because I'm like aggressive, it just sounds like
an asshole thing to say at themoment.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
Oh, so you're sick, but you don't want to do nothing
.
What are we doing?
You want to put the plate down.
I'll stop eating.
I'll stop eating.
Speaker 4 (33:48):
If you ain't sick, then just stop talking about it.
I'll take you in right now.
Speaker 1 (33:50):
You ain't take no medicine, nothing.
But yes, I do sound like thatnow.
Fuck, so you're realizing yousound like an asshole.
Speaker 3 (33:58):
Real time.
Speaker 4 (34:00):
Do you see how mindful you are?
Again Real time, right therehe's being mindful.
Speaker 3 (34:04):
That's funny, that's good, that's gold.
That's gold.
You know how many times.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
I've said some shit like that, like well, why don't
you just take something?
Ah shit, woo shit.
Thank you guys.
That's healing.
Now I have to apply it.
Speaker 3 (34:26):
Are we mindfulness?
Yeah, I already said that yeah.
So how can listeners leveragetheir support networks to help
them bounce back?
Speaker 1 (34:35):
How can listeners Leverage?
What do you mean?
Yeah, or just reach out.
I guess it would go back towhat we were saying before, like
, but it's not necessarily in asense of it's like tell somebody
talk, because a lot of us justhold shit in and don't you?
Speaker 3 (34:51):
gotta communicate recognize that there's an issue
see shout out on it, you gotta,you gotta communicate shout out
to them, shout out to formermembers and holding shit in my
god, oh my god that just poppedin my head when he said that
(35:13):
whole shit and I was like thathappened.
Yeah, we learned that thatwasn't healthy I know what
you're talking about.
Speaker 4 (35:19):
Yeah, you gotta communicate.
Yeah, you gotta communicatebecause, um, I mean, you can
have all the experience.
We learned that that wasn'thealthy.
I know what you're talkingabout.
Yeah, you got to communicate.
Yeah, you got to communicatebecause, um, I mean, you can
have all the experience you wantfrom the past, but if you're
not communicating that to theproper people, you're going to
just keep going in circles inthe same situation over and over
again.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
And know your, your, your, your, your, your friend
group.
Know who's done what, beenthrough what.
Who's the person you should gotalk to.
Like some of your friends,you're like, hey, man, that's
the wrong advice.
And I knew that was going to bethe wrong advice, so it's like
know that stuff.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
Yeah, you definitely have to be aware of your
resources and when to use whatresource.
Speaker 1 (35:57):
Yeah, I agree, Call the party friend when you're
like nigga, I won't think aboutit.
I'm like, oh, I got just theplace for you.
All right, let's go.
Midget strip club.
I'm still looking for one thefuck oh wait, it's little people
, little person strip club.
We're still trying that.
Yes.
Speaker 4 (36:17):
We're not going to go down that.
That happened.
It did happen.
I just need to know if it's athing or not.
Are you going?
Speaker 3 (36:23):
Is it a rabbit hole?
Speaker 1 (36:25):
I have a healthy fear of small people.
In Texas, if you go type inlittle person but not little
person, they say, I'll just sayit.
They got sites that say midgetsfor sale or midgets for rent
and I'm like what, you can justrent humans like what what is
(36:47):
this?
Speaker 3 (36:48):
is it half price?
Speaker 1 (36:51):
I feel like it's probably double.
It's a novelty.
Okay, I got it, we got it yeahturn it left next question not,
is it half price?
Speaker 4 (37:07):
don't repeat it next so what are?
Speaker 3 (37:12):
buy one, get one.
What are some inspiring storiesof overcoming hopelessness and
finding renewed purpose?
Anybody of overcominghopelessness and finding renewed
purpose?
Anybody got some stories.
Speaker 1 (37:24):
Hopelessness.
Speaker 2 (37:25):
I mean, I always share my story about that,
Whereas you know I've gonethrough the six miscarriages,
but I still try to help othersas they're going through their
situations and I still haven't,even being over 40, I still
haven't given up hope on havingchildren.
I just know that it's going tobe a more difficult journey and
there's other options.
(37:46):
But most people in mycircumstance would be like fuck
this, I'm done, I'm not going totry to do this anymore.
But me personally, I feel likethis is God's way of using me
and I literally feel that way.
Had I not gone through whatI've gone through, I wouldn't
know how to help other women andhow to be gentle and how to be
(38:08):
able to give them that grace andextend myself to them.
So I definitely think thatthat's been my biggest testimony
when it comes to that type of asituation.
Speaker 4 (38:21):
Give us hope.
Kevin Give us hope.
Kevin give us hope.
Speaker 1 (38:22):
I don't know if that's hope I was thinking.
When I got that eviction noticeon my college apartment I was
like, well, what am I gonna do?
I kinda figured it out and gotmy shit together.
Well, not right away, it took awhile, but it took some
(38:43):
recognize.
It made me recognize some shitin like fight to be better.
Like I didn't run home I thinkthat's what I did is I didn't
run back home Like I stayedwhere I was at and I was like,
nah, I gotta be a man to figurethis shit out.
I did this to myself.
There was help along the way, alot of help, and thank you to
(39:03):
all those people.
But it took me to go through it, to come out on the other side
of that as a better person.
Cause I feel like if I wouldhave just took the easy route,
came back home, lived home andjust whatever it was, I wouldn't
have been in the same positionin my life as I am now, like
I've been.
I think I would have been likeI don't know, maybe a bratty
(39:26):
bitch or something, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Bratty, bratty bitch bratty bitch, something I don't
know.
Speaker 3 (39:34):
brady, brady bitch, brady bitch, my god, you build
character that when you stay,yeah, um, I was thinking.
This happened recently.
I was in riverside by north andI was driving over there by
patterson park because I used tolive there when I was four.
Speaker 2 (39:51):
And I was thinking about.
Speaker 3 (39:53):
I was telling the story about how living in these
apartments right by the park andhow we used to lay it on the
ground or the floor duringdrive-bys, and I was telling the
story about my mom Using thebed sheets to climb down the the
alleyway.
And I showed the alleyway behindthe apartment and I was
(40:16):
thinking, goddamn like the tolook at it now the distance yeah
, that the fact that me drivingover here at this age and having
a house and not like, yeah, itwas, it was a, it was a hope for
me, because I I still see this.
You know kids my age orwhatever, uh, growing up that
(40:38):
still live in that same area andit's like it's still possible,
it's still hope, I'm proofpositive that you can't get out
of a situation like that,because yeah I saw a lot of kids
that didn't make it out of thatsituation.
So it's like, yeah, it's, if Ican be that, hope for people to
say, hey, man like that, shit.
Look at stutter.
Stutter went from living in thesame neighborhood as us and now
(40:59):
he has a fucking house and nowhe has benefits or now you know
like he could have just aseasily said what's the point,
but he didn't Still be drivingthrough there.
I drove through there that dayfor Buck's thing.
Okay, I stopped by the park andcame through and just drove by
(41:20):
and was like damn.
Speaker 1 (41:21):
Well, they're laughing, because last time I
saw that nigga, he took me inthe middle of there.
He was like, hey, take me tothis liquor store right here.
And I was like, nigga, whathe's like, I'm going to be quick
.
Nigga, what he's like I'm goingto be quick.
And I'm like you better be.
We ain't supposed to be here,you can.
Speaker 2 (41:33):
Right.
Speaker 3 (41:38):
Yeah, but yeah, I use that as hope.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
Because I remember thinking this is some weird shit
to live in.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
It's nuts when you look at certain places Like shit
.
When we went to Texas, I wasjust like, just like damn you
could tell why.
This is just the way it is.
They didn't have like houses inthe area, like everything was
apartments, and I'm like you putthis many people in one spot
like crime's happening.
So it's like damn like this isdesigned.
(42:07):
But yeah, that's the way theysaid motherfuckers gotta learn
to look outside and be like Igotta get the fuck out of here,
but need examples.
Speaker 4 (42:22):
I'll just say that it's always gonna seem worse
than what it is at first,because it's a new experience
and you're going to feel likethere's nothing you can do.
There's nothing you canpurchase or buy or no action you
can take to get about thesituation, and that couldn't be
(42:46):
any farther from the truth.
The first thing you have to doto start to attain your hope is
change your mindset on thesituation, control what you can
control and there's always goingto be setbacks that's life and
when you realize that all youcan really do is control the
decision you made.
So if you take the steps tomake the right decision and you
(43:08):
know you're taking the rightdecisions, there's always going
to be hope that the outcome willbe one that's favorable for you
, regardless of the situation.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
Yeah, I agree, that was well said.
Speaker 1 (43:26):
It is what it is.
I just feel like hating becausehe want to be my hater.
Speaker 4 (43:33):
I said I said I would hate on you if you needed me to
.
I'm trying to get you tosupport your needs.
Speaker 1 (43:39):
It's drive-by, nigga, that shit sucks.
Speaker 4 (43:48):
If I'm driving by your house daily wasting my gas
that's love.
Speaker 1 (43:51):
It's going to be some extra hate too.
Speaker 4 (43:53):
That's more love than hate.
Speaker 1 (43:54):
I drove way out here.
I'm going to throw somethingworse than that.
Speaker 3 (43:57):
What are some practical tips for maintaining a
positive outlook duringchallenging times?
Speaker 1 (44:03):
I'm thinking it almost goes into what you said
just there.
This ain't the worst, as my momalways said.
Said this too shall passnothing's permanent.
Speaker 4 (44:15):
I incorporate a lot of prayer don't let 60 seconds
determine your move, for for sixhours or for an hour or a day
or a day, allow that, allow whathappened to exist in that time
and then go for it.
(44:36):
Go for it in in your best, inyour best mind frame.
Speaker 1 (44:40):
You can yeah, I think I find myself saying a lot like
well, that's done, like thedeed is done itself.
How do I respond?
That's what matters.
So prayer talk, motivationitself.
How do I respond?
That's what matters.
So prayer talk, motivation ornot motivation?
Speaker 3 (44:56):
no, I can't think.
Speaker 2 (45:00):
Meditation?
Oh, definitely meditation, I'msorry, what'd you say?
Speaker 3 (45:05):
Take it all in increments.
Speaker 2 (45:06):
Oh that's good.
Speaker 1 (45:08):
Well, they say best way to eat an elephant, one bite
at a time yeah digestiblepieces what his brain.
Speaker 2 (45:20):
I'm tired of y'all.
Speaker 1 (45:22):
I swear to god I be just oh lord oh cause he?
Speaker 3 (45:27):
they said that's the best you can.
I know it sounds sexual causethe brain goes there, but that's
how I've approached a lot ofshit.
I looked at a situation and waslike, fuck, I got a lot of
fucking work ahead of me, but ifI can just take it in
increments- you just approach itlike a math problem.
Order operation before you knowit, you're closer to the finish
(45:52):
line than you are to the.
Speaker 4 (45:56):
Don't do PEMDAS.
Speaker 3 (46:00):
That's how I approach that shit.
Speaker 1 (46:04):
Little bits at a time , but don't do PEMDAS If you go
on Facebook and you look in thecomments you realize that we're
divided as a nation on math.
Oh, no, Like the answer's 32.
You're like no, you got to dothis first.
Speaker 4 (46:27):
I'm not arguing with nobody, who don't even write
shit down on paper.
Speaker 2 (46:32):
You're not going to argue with anybody.
Everybody answers yeah, we didMost people don't write shit
down on paper.
I'm saying these kids.
Speaker 4 (46:37):
They do everything on fucking computers now.
Speaker 3 (46:39):
How can listeners integrate lessons from their
past experiences to buildresilience for their future
challenges?
And that just made me thinkabout what you read the other
day at work.
Speaker 4 (46:50):
What I read.
Speaker 3 (46:51):
Yeah, when it said, you were interpreted to say
intimate.
Speaker 4 (46:56):
Oh yeah, you should.
Speaker 2 (47:00):
You should naturally be taking the challenges and the
lessons that you learn andintegrating them to what you're
doing, because if you're not,you're going to keep doing that
same stupid shit and keeplearning that same stupid lesson
.
Speaker 3 (47:09):
That is true.
Speaker 4 (47:09):
That's right.
I agree with what Dan said.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
And you learn your boundaries.
Thank you nigga, you learn yourboundaries.
Speaker 3 (47:17):
You should have just hit him with the retort.
Speaker 1 (47:20):
What.
Speaker 3 (47:20):
What he always says.
Speaker 2 (47:22):
Oh, I'm not saying that.
Nah, don't like what he said,I'm not gonna say it.
This is a whole day we gotthrough with his ass not saying
it.
Speaker 1 (47:33):
Stop trying to get me involved.
He keep looking over.
Speaker 4 (47:37):
He thought it Kevin, I look your way, so you don't
say nothing.
You're my safe place, so everytime you look, you got something
to say.
You're like I'm not going tosay it, kevin, if I look this
way, she going to give me a lookand I'm not going to say it.
Look at, kevin, if I look thisway, she's going to give me a
look and I'm like fuck it.
Speaker 2 (47:57):
I mean we can go to her.
I guess that's growth,restraint, restraint.
Speaker 3 (48:04):
See, you said that's growth, and then she said nut,
and I was like see.
Speaker 2 (48:08):
She said nut, I didn't know.
Speaker 3 (48:10):
She said nut, if you.
But what I my brain interpretedwhen you said that's growth nut
, I was like see, I'm tired ofy'all.
Speaker 2 (48:19):
What's the next?
Somebody answer this shit.
Speaker 1 (48:21):
I said you yeah, you're learning boundaries and
things like that.
Like, by doing things like thatintegrating you also learn what
you're not going to do.
That's one thing we forgetabout.
Yep, it's like I'm not doingthat.
Speaker 3 (48:36):
I noticed I said it a lot at work.
Speaker 4 (48:38):
What I'm not going to do.
I'm not doing that.
I also think that resiliencecomes from constantly making the
hard decision.
Speaker 2 (48:47):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (48:48):
Regardless of the outcome or the effect of the
outcome to those around you.
Making the hard decision,because every decision is not
going to be a great one and alot of times the choices are
just shitty, but you always haveto make the best decision for
your current situation when Ithink of work, I think of work.
Speaker 3 (49:15):
I think it's interesting Maybe it's the
freedom of when we got FMLA andwhat it gave us and empowering
us with certain things is whenyou start seeing what your
coworkers are willing to gettaken advantage of with and what
you see management is willingto take advantage of them with,
and then you're coming as thekind of like the, the variable
(49:36):
that they're not used to.
You get to see both sides ofthat shit, because the energy
from management will be likewhat the fuck?
You mean, you're not doing this, like you're, we're telling you
to do it and you're like I'mnot doing that, and they get
kind of so like, oh, the nerveof this uppity, like that's what
it starts to feel like thenerve of this uppity mother
thinking that he's not gonna dowhat we told him to do I keep my
(49:56):
pinky up I start using certainwords and they're like he's not
dumb, he's gonna sue us but youdefinitely see that when you
realize what your, what poweryou have, when you see what your
co coworkers are willing to letslide, you're like hmm.
Speaker 1 (50:17):
Yeah, I'm like that's not safe.
Though what are you a pussyLike, sure, sure.
But I'm not doing it, so callme all the names you want.
Might want to call Carl andhave him do it, because Kev
ain't Winslow.
Speaker 3 (50:35):
I can't hear that name anymore.
Speaker 1 (50:37):
He said he came out and talked about it.
I don't know if he denied beingat the party.
Speaker 3 (50:44):
I can't who oh.
Speaker 4 (50:47):
Carl Carl at the titty party.
Speaker 1 (50:49):
Oh man Fucking Playing when he got his cheek
popped Getting fucked oh, carlCarl at the titty party.
Oh man Fucking.
Getting fucked, that's stillfucking he's not the plow.
He's not the plow.
Speaker 2 (51:02):
Carl Winslow, the dad .
Speaker 1 (51:06):
He leaned into the joke.
Speaker 4 (51:10):
Oh my god, he leaned into the joke.
Speaker 2 (51:12):
Ha ha, ba-dum-tsh oh my God, who said he was at the
Diddy party?
I forgot who it said.
Speaker 1 (51:20):
They said he was there getting blown out.
It was one of the by Diddy,wasn't it like a Was it Cat I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (51:28):
I just know it was somebody that came for it, yeah.
Speaker 4 (51:32):
No Cat, said Professor Overby he did say it
was Professor.
Speaker 2 (51:36):
I did hear him say that.
Speaker 1 (51:37):
Yeah, he said that.
I feel like somebody was in aninterview talking about Carl
Winslow getting yeah and henever really.
He's like man, I ain't gay andthey're like so.
Speaker 2 (51:49):
He didn't deny it, he's still alive.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (51:54):
Carl, he ain't that old, family matters, ain't that
old?
Speaker 2 (51:57):
yeah, I know family matters isn't that old, but I
didn't know that, carl, you justthought, cause he obese?
Speaker 3 (52:01):
no, no alright, I have to know.
With.
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Speaker 4 (52:22):
Peace.
Speaker 1 (52:26):
Sweating.
That's a wrap y'all.
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Welcome to the Heavyweight Podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:04):
The message behind saying the title of the
Heavyweight Podcast is to beable to say that we can weigh in
on some heavy shit.
What we're talking about isimportant from every aspect of
it.
It's a heavy weight.
It's not just about physicalweight, but the weight of things
that can weigh our minds.
So I think it's dope that wecan have this conversation.
Who knows if this is the braidside and that's the hat side, or
(00:34):
what I guess yeah, what's good?
this is episode 191 of theheavyweight podcast.
I am your anti-social host andnever your favorite.
Stedder McFly, back again withthis lady and these two guys.
Go ahead and state your namefor the beautiful people out
there.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Kevin W W Like A&W Like.
W Like G-dubs Like.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
George.
You just remind me of something, Kevin it's your boy, Molito.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
I'm your girl, Des the Diva.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Well, my daughter couldn't say W when she learned
the alphabet, because she alwayssay said, what were you?
Speaker 2 (01:06):
aww, that's cute.
I hope you got it on tape,santa that's cute.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
Oh, I do.
I listen to it all the time.
That's super cute because she abig kid now how were your weeks
?
Cool, man cool, it was cool,you know yeah it's not funny.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Oddly, a lot of the same as last, but good, good,
I'm good.
Speaker 4 (01:28):
So you good, yeah, you good, yeah.
You need a drink as Tupac said,the Hennessy don't help see
somebody put a Tupac you knowwhat I felt it in my spirit when
he did it too, thank you yeah,the week was good.
(01:48):
Grind, that's it.
Grind, don't stop getting readyfor state.
In a couple weeks we finna showup and show out, have our
matching sweaters on shirts.
And you know, be in thereyelling, drive out with a trophy
, yeah.
And if we don't, we still inthe motherfucker and the space
to nationals.
And you know, I'm being thereyelling, drive out with a trophy
, yeah.
And if we don't we still in themotherfucker and the space to
nationals.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
She's good, you guys are going to nationals.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
Yeah, I'm hoping that she sticks with this and I get
my money back.
I bet you will.
You will Shoot my dad.
I bought you a house.
Oh baby, you don't have to dothat.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
But, where's that my week was good.
Mcfly, how was your week?
Speaker 4 (02:30):
Just a thumbs up.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
For Shizzle it was all sixes and sevens.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
Like.
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Like shoe size.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Like craps.
More like you ever Sixes andSevens.
Like they talk about peoplegoing crazy.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
No, do you need to call the hotline?
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Yeah, you, okay, I'm tired, Like I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
I get that.
What is that?
Speaker 4 (02:56):
That's a new one for me.
I ain't never heard of Sixesand Sevens.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
You never like Uh-uh.
Tech N9ne had an album calledSixes and Sevens.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
No, it's not Tech.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
N9ne.
See, I missed it.
I missed it, I didn't know it.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
No, Uh-uh no.
Speaker 4 (03:09):
Don't look over here, because you know I don't know.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
No, I never heard it.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
That's the new one, okay.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
That must be an artist thing.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
It's either an artist thing or a white thing, because
it's the same.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I believe it.
I don't know the white stuff.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
I'm shocked that Kevin don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
I know I'm kind of shocked too, I'm kind of shocked
too.
He was with some real whitepeople, Saw six and sevens buddy
.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
I'm the expert on nigga shit.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Yes, yes, nigga, nigga shit.
I don't know neither the whiteshit or the nigga shit.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
I'm just here.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
neither the white shit or the nigga shit, I'm just
here lies see that you saidthat shit, I just said shut up
both of y'all there's gonna bean extra on BAPS.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
I could not have been no extra.
I hate that damn movie.
I could not have been no extra.
I cannot stand that movie.
I do not like that movie.
I don't do ghetto, shit likethat.
I do not like that movie.
But they're cute, but they'renot like long long, this is
(04:22):
medium, yeah, this is medium.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
When you go like long long, this is medium.
Yeah, that's regular, this ismedium, yeah this is medium.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
When you go in there, you be like this is medium, I
do medium for you, this ismedium.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Damn, damn.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
The thoughts of Des and Des are.
Des I'm not nah.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Listen in my defense.
I can't help it, okay, I just.
It just comes out okay.
It just comes out okay.
Racism I'm sure she saidsomething to me in her language.
Oh, I'm sure, yeah, so there'sthat.
We even now.
Wow, we even.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
She can't help it.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
That's how the lady said who did my nails?
Speaker 1 (04:59):
I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
She's from Cambodia.
She's cute we black we allowed.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
That's what we get.
That's our reparations rightRight.
Racism, I'm good, what is it?
Appropriation, oh shit.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Guess we'll get to the shenanigans yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Wait, stop shenanigans.
Again Running on empty Shit mycar Because goddamn gas again,
running on empty shit my carbecause goddamn gas is almost.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Oh hi, it's giraffe, coachy, yeah what are common
signs that you're running low onenergy and hope, and how do you
recognize them?
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I feel it physically.
I get heart palpitations whenI'm running low on energy and
stuff like that, so I can feelit physically.
I get heart palpitations whenI'm running low energy and stuff
like that, so I can feel itphysically.
Um, and I have anxiety.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
So there's that when you're on, when you're low in
energy, you have anxiety yeah,if I haven't slept, well,
anxiety, I can't.
Did you just sing the Dochisong?
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I don't know that lady's songs.
I know who she is, but I don'tknow the words to Not Now song
that lady sang Not.
Now not a song that woman sang.
Now I'm happy for her, but justain't really listened to her
album yet.
I'm going to.
Yeah, that's one I'm going to.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Yeah, that's one plan I can get behind, yeah.
Yeah, I will listen to it.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I will listen to it.
I just don't know.
Just ain't had the chance toyet.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
I will say for me, when I'm on Empty man, my
irritability level was at athousand.
I'm very, very short, I'm short, I'm very, very short, I'm
short.
My responses are short, verysarcastic.
Don't ask me, no, dumb shit.
Because you're going to get adumb ass answer.
And then you know, the firstsight of a pillow are my wife's
(06:55):
titties.
I'm asleep.
Put my head in them, titties.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
That doesn't work for me.
I ain't going to sleep.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Oh no, no, I'm going to sleep.
Oh no, oh boy.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
You just jumping on his bullshit ass, god damn it,
that's not bullshit.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Don't nobody want to hear y'all talk like that.
That's not bullshit.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Y'all nasty no the motherfucker with the backpack
is calling us nasty.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
I show up with what God equipped me with.
She got a whole backpack ofextras.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
I have to make sure that when I'm with these bitches
, oh, that's good stuff.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
Yeah, that's just like so, yeah, I'm irritable.
That's when I'm running like,when I'm like when I'm running
on empty physically, when I'mrunning on empty emotionally,
like Kevin always says, I justgotta cry it out, cry it out,
reset, cry it out, then get my.
Oh, he said it.
You always say cry it out, cryit out, and then you, you know
(08:05):
this little bitch ass nigga.
I did not say that, sir.
I did not say that if you tookit that way, I'm sorry, I don't
yeah, but you know, I agree,when I'm emotionally exhausted
it's been a good cry.
A good cry because most of thetime when I'm emotionally
exhausted I think about mygrandparents and that just
(08:28):
doubles the cry.
And then, you know, a good crymakes you see shit different.
You're like okay, let me gotake care of business now.
Feel refreshed.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
I'm getting a lot more irritable with my
Physically or mentally.
I think both and I'm trying.
I gotta not do that.
That shit ain't fair nobody,because it's like it ain't your
fault, my bad.
Speaker 4 (08:51):
So a lot of sorry's have been said, the reason why
you tired.
Nah, because I wouldn't beworking like this if your ass
wouldn't you nah shit.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
If only they knew what I nevermind.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
I don't want to my greatest motivation and my
greatest.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
I do want to like rage, though like a rage room me
too, I've never done that, I'venever like, so I should do that
.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
I just thought about you signing up for like an
escape room.
It's dead room.
They're like what are you doing?
I'm looking for clothes.
Turn this shit up.
This ain't a rage room.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
So Isolation, a lot to deal with it and, like I said
, I want to try that thoughwe're going to go do a rage room
.
Speaker 4 (09:50):
Rage room Yep.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
I'm down.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
I just like breaking shit.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
There's one in uh Temecula, temecula yeah, yeah,
let's do it, I'm down.
You down, we can record it.
You gonna tear some shit up.
Speaker 4 (10:07):
We could record it.
You can are, we are, we are weallowed to like put?
Speaker 2 (10:09):
pictures of people on shit?
Yes, you can, you can't you can.
You go online and you just bookthe spot and I think they're in
30 minute increments and, yes,you can bring people, you can't
bring pictures of people oh, Iwas like that sounds like a
homicide pictures.
You can bring the pictures topeople.
Yes, you can.
We've been to Purge.
Yes, you can.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
Well bring pictures.
I can totally see it going thatway.
You got this nigga chained uplike oh it wasn't my bad, I
think I read the descriptionwrong Living back in the car.
We'll just.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Never know, though, with the way this economy is,
they'll be like pay a littlemore and we'll let you do it.
Yeah, hit the rager.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
When I hit low energy , I tend to notice I start to
feel like I'm getting physicallysick and I'm low on energy.
And then, uh, I kind of getreal, like I kind of tune out.
When I'm like spicy, yeah, Ijust so.
Um, and that's usually myidentifier is like, oh shit,
(11:19):
like I'm, because I know my bodywill physically just start
being like hey man, you got alittle scratchy throat right now
and you, you're like damn, Iwasn't sick.
Speaker 4 (11:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
But your body will be like but you feel like you're
getting sick, physically sickyeah.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
And then when?
Speaker 3 (11:33):
I recharge and you go back to normal that's usually
my telltale sign.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
That's not low energy , that's exhaustion.
You are exhausted at that point.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
Now what's exhaustion niggas, when you fall asleep at
a stoplight.
Who the hell did that?
I've done that that was a trainoh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I fell asleep we had a dude do that at work, but that
motherfucker just stayed asleephe said I'm here now.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
He just woke up and was like oh shit, nobody want me
just went around theneighborhood, mcfly called me to
wake me up cause I was I waslegit knocked out.
He started snoring.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
I was tired we were having a conversation and he was
like man, I'm stuck behind thisdamn train.
I was sitting here.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
I was like oh, oh shit, oh, you was getting it.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Holy shit, yeah.
And then I called him back.
He said, man, if you hadn'tcalled me back, he's out.
I think I was going to roll thefucking tractor.
I said, shit, yeah, because younever put the brake on, never
put the brake on.
Exhausted, yeah, she got firedfor that.
Speaker 4 (12:44):
I wouldn't yeah, because you never put the brake
on.
Never put the brake onexhausted yeah she got fired for
that.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I wouldn't.
I wouldn't have.
She didn't put her brake on andthen got in her car and got on
her phone and then ripped abunch of shit out, like another
driver was like I can't evenjustify this shit, oh my god
that's crazy but yeah, that's.
Yeah, yeah, physically yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
And then hope.
I don't know, I hope, I usuallyhope.
I guess I can see anxiousnesswith hope, like kind of getting
giddy.
Start randomly doing shit likethat.
Speaker 4 (13:23):
Oh, okay, when you have hope.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
When you're losing low on hope.
Speaker 4 (13:26):
That's what the additional question is oh, my
bad.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
I take it a different because I'm like I don't think
I get low on hope.
That's one thing I can stillhave somehow.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
I know, sometimes, when I feel like I'm at my limit
, I take personal days.
I'll take days where I donothing.
If it ain't going to make mesmile, I don't do it.
So I'll lay in bed.
I'll go to my office.
I'm not laughing at you.
(14:00):
I'll go to my office and maybewatch a video, maybe watch a,
play a video game or somethingthat's what I was thinking when
I'm irritable or like in that.
I'm someone low on hope.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Or yeah, anytime I feel low on anything.
Video games don't do it LikeI'll get super like.
Nah, fuck that man, I'msupposed to do a video game?
Speaker 4 (14:20):
Hold on, I never said it worked.
That's what I was saying, Isaid I'd make an attempt to.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
I just got a game when I'm over there and I'm like
I keep fucking losing.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
That's the last thing I'm trying to do.
Speaker 4 (14:34):
But I'll spend holidays just in bed, just me,
and normally an old show thatwas me last week.
Watch some Golden Girls.
That's not my favorite show.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
It's a good week.
You know, watch some GoldenGirls.
That's not my favorite show.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
It's a good show, but like that's the go-to.
I swear to God, it is I swearto God, she have all type of
Golden Girls shit in her house,oh man.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
I watched it last week.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
I learned something about me last week.
What was that?
Uh-oh, I can't hear or watchdumb shit when I'm physically
sick.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Why what?
Speaker 3 (15:05):
happened.
Speaker 4 (15:06):
It irritates me in my soul.
Like you ever watch theGoldbergs.
I need the example.
What were you watching?
I was watching Goldbergs, right, Okay?
Speaker 3 (15:14):
And I couldn't help but notice I kept skipping
episodes because that niggaBarry, the older brother, kept
doing dumb shit.
So somehow I'm laying there andI can hear it and I'm already
fucking.
I have a fever, I'm fucking hot, sweating, and I'm hearing this
shit.
I said, oh, that dumb nigga,and I would skip the next song.
Like fuck, like every.
I was like not like 10 episodesskipped after.
(15:37):
I'm like I can't watch theGoldbergs.
That's funny.
Sick Cause this nigga was doingdumb shit every episode.
Sick cause this nigga was doingdumb shit every episode like
that's like me.
Speaker 4 (15:48):
That's like when I watch my 600 pound life and I'm
like they gonna take they fatass and they gonna lie on them.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
They can't lie to that doctor cause his ass.
He not tolerate that shit.
I'm a picky eater.
You're 600 pounds.
You're not a picky eater what?
Speaker 4 (16:05):
I tell my I watch that shit.
I'm a picky eater.
You're 600 pounds, You're not apicky eater, what I watched
that shit so much.
My wife, uh Phoenix, come inthe room like dad really this
again, it's hilarious.
I said this is a.
It's hilarious, the daddy ismotivation, because what the
hilarious part was?
The part you tomorrow does the,the, the doctor, he that that,
that nigga is the king ofsavages.
He don't give a fuck.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
With a straight face.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
He told this one bitch.
He said you eating?
Speaker 2 (16:30):
enough for the rest of the year.
Yeah, he did.
Oh man, that was the same bitchthat said she was picky.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
That made me think of Devin the Dude.
Devin the Dude's the greatest.
He had a song called Leave Em,and it was all about going to a
party with some bitches.
He had a song called Leave Em,and it was all about going to a
party with some bitches.
And then, when he gets there,his rap line is what the fuck is
this big bitch here?
I should have bought a 16 ouncebeer.
Speaker 4 (17:00):
What.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
I was like that's rude as fuck, that's only rude.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
It was a tandem, but it was good yeah it was fun, I
do that shit too.
I don't even watch it, I belistening to it.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
I be like man shit your ass.
It gets super irritating.
You're like what the fuck, dude?
Speaker 1 (17:17):
I had a friend who was like that when he wasn't
sick.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
And he just legit.
Speaker 1 (17:25):
Somebody said something and he just looked at
me and was like stupidity shouldbe punished.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
I was like, damn, that was a good shirt.
That was a good shirt.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
I was like god damn, like how punished do you mean?
That was a good shirt alrighty.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
did everyone answer Simone, alright.
What strategies have you foundthe most effective?
And?
Did everyone answer Mm-hmm,simone, all right.
What strategies have you foundthe most effective in regaining
energy and hope when feelingdrained?
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Sleep.
Yeah, I want my answer Rest.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Sleep, are you fucking Shit?
That's how you get your energyup.
Speaker 4 (18:03):
Shit, shit, shit shit .
I mean.
I mean she doing most of thework I'm just laying there oh
man, this is fucking ridiculous.
After I wake up from that nap,I'll be like what you need, baby
, I got it now get your chakrasaligned.
I got you she just bring it outof me.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
She bring it out sounds like a snake that comes
up.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
Yeah, not touching that one rest, uh rest.
Speaker 4 (18:33):
A good cry helps hot tub.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
I like the hot tub time with my baby.
Uh, alone time.
I do a lot of different things.
Haven't done the the weatherhasn't permitted, but going out
and doing like golf or somethinga little bit outdoorsy.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
I haven't.
I wasn't able to walk outsidebecause of the weather recently
and it kind of it's fucking withme.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
I can see that.
Yeah, it's definitely part ofyour routine too.
I miss it Cause I going it'sdefinitely part of your routine
too.
Speaker 4 (19:03):
I miss it because, like going back to the gym the
second time to walk in thetreadmill I'm like man, I'd
rather be outside well, look atthese ugly motherfuckers, I
don't think these niggas in heresweating.
Oh damn nigga, when they werecompression socks there's a
nigga at my gym that wearscompression pants like the
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leggings, with nothing over them.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Oh, he just balls out .
I mean, it just balls out.
Somebody should tap him likehey my man, that's not how that
goes.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
And he'd be around there comfortable.
He black, oh he white.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
That ain't no nigga shit.
Speaker 4 (19:45):
I'm like bro, come on .
Speaker 1 (19:48):
You know what?
Never mind.
I just got to stop watchingTikTok.
I got to stop thinking in myhead it's fucked up.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
It's not right.
I was watching TikTok yesterday, right?
I don't know why it became likethe cereal trend, ice cream, oh
.
And they became like the cereal.
Speaker 4 (20:06):
Trend ice cream.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
And they have the.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
Rice Krispie, ice cream sandwiches.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
That shit look delicious and.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
I'm looking at those goddamn.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
You ain't seen it, it's like a thick ass Rice.
Speaker 4 (20:17):
Krispie tree.
My wife sent that shit to me.
I said now, if they make thatshit with chocolate ice cream,
give me 10 of them.
That's what.
I said Because I love a goddamnRice Krispie treat.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I wanted them to dip it in one half of it in
chocolate, or drizzle somechocolate on the top.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
There's a strawberry flavor to it and I looked up,
it's a strawberry.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
The ice cream is strawberry.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
This woman in here if she sees that it's over.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
My mom just experimented.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
I looked it up and I just made this Like mom, yeah,
I'll eat it.
Speaker 4 (20:46):
I was on board to a boy say you only get three in a
box.
I said hold on, nigga.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
What it's like 30 bucks too.
Speaker 4 (20:50):
It's like $15.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:52):
According to the TikTok, I said it was like that
was their limit before theyended up having a bunch of death
due to diabetes.
Speaker 1 (20:59):
Yeah, Like fuck, like what niggas overdid it, yeah
got gout.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
I got gout in my pinky toe, but yeah, they look
good, though they're big I couldprobably eat one a week.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
I just want.
I don't know if it's delicious.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
The next question I don't even know if we answered
the question.
Speaker 3 (21:22):
We should start talking about food.
I just saw that show therecause now I'm hungry, let's
answer.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
I don't even know if we answered the question.
We should start talking aboutfood.
I just saw that show there.
Because now I'm hungry, let'sask the question again.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
I'm going to be honest what strategies have you
found most effective for?
Speaker 2 (21:35):
regaining energy.
We answered that.
We answered that.
What's the next one?
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Yeah, R&R Time with my baby.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
How important is setting small, achievable goals
and recovery process.
Speaker 4 (21:47):
Setting small, achievable goals is is important
Period.
It's essential, it's period.
Speaker 3 (21:52):
So you're going to go get the rice crispy treats, or
you guys fucked up.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
I hope you know that.
Yeah, I know, for the nextepisode you're gonna come in and
my mom's just gonna have twopound cakes.
Speaker 4 (22:14):
I'll be here on time let me know, cause I'm gonna
bring ice cream just give me allair like but I definitely
believe that you need to.
You need to have a main goal,but you need to have micro goals
along the way, yeah, so thatway you can feel like you're
achieving on your way to thegoal.
(22:34):
So even like, for instance, mewith the weight loss right, I
set a goal of what number I wantto see by the end of the week,
and so if I meet that goal, okay, good, I'm doing good.
If I don't meet that goal, Ineed to go a little harder.
Number I want to see every bythe end of the week.
And so if I meet that goal,okay, good, I'm doing good.
If I don't meet that goal, Ineed to go a little harder.
I need to make up, and a lot oftimes I can look and say, well,
this is why I know where Ifucked up.
But things like that, like evenlike in life, like okay, if I
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can, if I can make this muchmoney by this much time, okay,
ok.
So now I know if this is thenumber, I know how much I got to
average, I know what I got towork on.
Hey, I want to complete this, Iwant to have this built by this
time.
Ok, what am I doing?
But I think the small goalshelp you achieve the big goals
and it helps you stay motivated,because the more it's like it's
(23:18):
a mental thing, the more.
The more you check off, themore you want to check off, so
it actually drives you to get tothe end.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
I agree get to the end.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
I agree it's pretty essential, like you said, in
life, but especially in thattime, because you want to have
something to be, have a victory.
We always stay like so you'vegot to have some sort of win.
As we, like you said,achievable goals.
So set something that is almostlike a daily something you
normally do, but make sure youdo it, yeah.
(23:45):
So I think it's almost like adaily something you normally do,
but make sure you do it.
Yeah, so I think it's everythingyeah because, yeah, it's like
goals, like you said, give youthe motivation to do more, keep
going and try more.
Try to get to something.
And I think it's importantperiod because sometimes people
don't set goals and they just go.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Go for it.
Yeah, it's like what are yougoing for?
The small goals help you pourinto your own cup.
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:11):
My wife is a huge advocate of.
Like every January, what arethe goals for the year?
I love that.
So now you're not just going.
So it kind of gives you apurpose.
It gives each month a purposethat we're working towards.
Going back to the small goals,I saw this trainer and what he
said was on TikTok, I think whathe said, what I thought was
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genius.
He said if you want to go tothe gym and you want to get in
the habit of going to the gym,he said, just go to the gym.
He said, the first week go tothe gym, Just walk in, Walk out.
Now, if you do something,that's great, If you don't, you
win.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
I did that with comedy not too long ago, I'm not
going to lie.
I showed up to the place and Iwas like, oh man, you guys are
doing good and I just left.
Speaker 4 (24:56):
I just left, but I mean, he was basically teaching
about just getting the mindsetgetting the mindset, getting the
routine, because eventually, ifyou go two, three weeks
straight, eventually you'regonna start doing a little
something.
It may be a five minutes here,10 minutes there, but you, you
know, it's just.
It's about just the action ofgetting up and doing something.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
Yeah, and giving yourself grace, I think is is
important, right, because you'regonna fall sometimes have a
little grace for yourself.
Speaker 4 (25:25):
What'd you say nothing?
Speaker 1 (25:27):
oh, this line thing again.
Yeah, I thought he said ahundred Oreos.
I was like god damn yeah, theyin the line mm-mm.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
Dang, I want some Oreos see damn.
Speaker 4 (25:41):
So let me get some Oreos and some Rice Kool.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
I like chimed in here with y'all.
I already said, I agree, youknow, I already said a few
little things.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
I didn't hear a ooh child she said, she said
sprinkle, sprinkle go E40 it'sMcFly time.
Speaker 2 (25:59):
What do you think McFly?
Where are do you think McFly?
Speaker 1 (26:02):
no, where are you?
Oh, he gonna hit you, like hityou with the drink oh, nah, nah,
nah, nigga, he's gonna see thisthrough.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
I said it already.
I said I feel like that they'reessential.
It's like pouring into your owncup.
You did say that.
I said that I did like thatline.
That was nice.
It I said that I did like thatline, that was nice.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
That's all I got Go Andy.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Must have done the beat, ho Devo.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
I said in the beginning where is the Rice
Krispie Treats?
That was my oh they ain't readyyet.
Speaker 1 (26:36):
No, nah, man, she don't even know yet.
I'm going to show her thisepisode and she'll be like, oh
y'all really want she gonna makethem some scratch.
Who Tammy yeah?
Speaker 2 (26:45):
you call your mama, tammy.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
She don't even eat sweets and just be making stuff
and I'm like I like it.
That's good, thanks, appreciateit what?
Speaker 2 (26:54):
how good is you heard of stuff right now?
Cut this damn short episodeshort we're gonna collectively
have diabetes what are youthinking like?
Speaker 3 (27:15):
I don't know he's gonna go down a path cause when
you said we're gonna mutuallyhave diabetes, I thought like
everybody got got matching chopsoff feet.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (27:28):
Well anyway, oh my, that's the only nigga I've seen
trolling about his foot yeah.
He said I grew my foot back andI'm like who the fuck is that?
Levar Ball?
Speaker 4 (27:38):
the basketball dad I believe that he kept the foot.
He asked for the foot back.
He probably got the shit onright to the house.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
That would be insane Mudgee.
Speaker 4 (27:47):
My God, you want to see my foot.
No, nick, I do not want to seeit.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
Anyway, what role does mindfulness and self-care
play in maintaining yourresilience?
Speaker 4 (27:56):
Everything, oh my gosh, yeah, everything,
everything.
Being mindful is one of thehardest things to be absolutely,
it almost.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
You have to practice daily while being mindless is
common.
Yes, yeah, yeah, that's becausemost people think that they're
mindful when they're not orthey're just mindful of self, or
not even mindful of self.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
I guess just they're only mindful of their emotion
emotion itself.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
Yeah, yeah, but it's, it's everything, it's every,
it's everything.
Cause when you're mindful,you're able to dissect what's
going on internally andexternally and you can see the
factors in real time of what'saffecting your mood, what's
affecting your current reality,what's affecting your decision
making.
And, like Des was saying, it issomething that you have to.
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It's something that you have toactively work towards to
maintain, because even if you'rea mindful person, you're going
to have gaps in the day and inyour life where you're not being
mindful, because we're allhuman, we can all be triggered
by something, and when you'retriggered, that's one of the
hardest times to be mindful,because now you're being fueled
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by emotion, and when you're inemotion and it's passion,
emotion, regardless whether it'sanger, fear, love or whatever
the case may be when you're inthat and it's that strong of a
force, it's hard to step outsideof that and actually be mindful
of the situation.
So when you're not mindful,that's when the situations come
up that hurt you the most,because you can't protect
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yourself, because you're notrealizing you need to be
protected.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Yeah, mindfulness also can go into the point of uh
, because I was, I agree withyou, but it's like uh also, you
don't necessarily have torecognize everything, just
knowing that something is a miss.
Is, I think, uh sometimesenough, like because if you just
(30:02):
don't or you just ignoreeverything, you don't even know
that something is amiss?
Is, I think, sometimes enough,like because if you just don't
or you just ignore everything,you don't even know that
something's?
Speaker 4 (30:12):
off, then you won't even know that you got something
to correct.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
So you got to trust your gut feelings.
That's like doing the work asfar as going to your doctor.
You might not know what thefuck's wrong with you, but you
know something's wrong.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Man, I got to be better.
I know when I said the wholeendoscopy thing.
Speaker 3 (30:32):
oh, what's wrong?
I said, well, I don't know,that's what I'm trying to find
out.
Speaker 1 (30:35):
I think I need an MRI , but I don't even know how to
do that.
Speaker 4 (30:38):
You go to your doctor and request it.
Right, I thought they deny somesometimes I mean they have to
have a medical reason for it.
But if you tell them what'sgoing on, I mean legally they
have to check it out.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
It's giving you your symptoms.
You can't just walk up in thereand be like I just got an MRI,
but you'd be like I have X, yand Z and that aligns with an
MRI being needed to, you know,investigate.
Speaker 4 (31:02):
I mean you can lie into one.
You go to the emergency roomand say I got this, but it's
really and my pain is at a 10.
Then they're going to do allthe tests and throw you in the
room.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
I'm not good at faking.
They'll just look at me and belike, yeah, I mean so?
Yeah, that's.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
That would suck you fake it.
You go through the MRI Likenigga.
I was just playing, I didn'tknow it was like that.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
They're like damn, you fucked up.
Speaker 4 (31:33):
I just, I just thought about Joe Budden's story
when he had the MRI and how hewas freaking out and he was like
when the ball broke and he wasfreaking out and he was like
when the ball broke and he wastrying to get out and he
couldn't get out Like yo, my manShout out to Joe.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
I don't like him.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
At least you're mindful of that yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:02):
Very mindful.
At least you're mindful of that.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Yeah, very mindful, I think that's I mean that's
important though, so you knowwhat the fuck to stay away from
too you're like them niggas overthere not for me.
No, they just gonna cause me tobe angry, but that's a good one
.
I didn't even think about thataspect like health-wise, yeah
yeah.
If you don't know.
Speaker 4 (32:27):
I know it irritates her, but now, when my wife
complains about anything, Ialways go.
So what do you want to do aboutit?
You want to go in, or are youBecause, if you don't want to go
in, why are we talking about it?
You want to go in?
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
You sound a lot like me.
Speaker 2 (32:40):
I'm trying to not be yeah, maybe she just wants to
talk.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
I'm going to listen to it again, if you're coming to
me with a problem, I know wherehe's coming from, so you're
just going to be hurt you'recoming to me with a problem.
Speaker 4 (32:54):
Do you want to go in, because I'll take you right now
, I'll drop what I'm doing or doyou want to make an appointment
?
How are we doing this?
Speaker 1 (32:59):
but hearing him say it, I feel like that's probably
how I say it and I'm like itsounds aggressive yeah, it
sounds a little.
It sounds a little aggressiveso you, but what you're saying
makes sense, yeah you just soundaggressive saying it, but what
you're saying does make sense.
Speaker 3 (33:17):
Are we calling aggressive?
Because I you're saying doesmake sense.
Are we calling?
Speaker 4 (33:20):
aggressive Because I'm black.
Speaker 3 (33:21):
No, I'm just trying to figure out is aggressive a
new way of saying.
It Sound like an asshole.
That's the way.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
I was trying to what?
I was trying to ease it.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
He was guiding you there.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
Because I'm like aggressive, it just sounds like
an asshole thing to say at themoment.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
Oh, so you're sick, but you don't want to do nothing
.
What are we doing?
You want to put the plate down.
I'll stop eating.
I'll stop eating.
Speaker 4 (33:48):
If you ain't sick, then just stop talking about it.
I'll take you in right now.
Speaker 1 (33:50):
You ain't take no medicine, nothing.
But yes, I do sound like thatnow.
Fuck, so you're realizing yousound like an asshole.
Speaker 3 (33:58):
Real time.
Speaker 4 (34:00):
Do you see how mindful you are?
Again Real time, right therehe's being mindful.
Speaker 3 (34:04):
That's funny, that's good, that's gold.
That's gold.
You know how many times.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
I've said some shit like that, like well, why don't
you just take something?
Ah shit, woo shit.
Thank you guys.
That's healing.
Now I have to apply it.
Speaker 3 (34:26):
Are we mindfulness?
Yeah, I already said that yeah.
So how can listeners leveragetheir support networks to help
them bounce back?
Speaker 1 (34:35):
How can listeners Leverage?
What do you mean?
Yeah, or just reach out.
I guess it would go back towhat we were saying before, like
, but it's not necessarily in asense of it's like tell somebody
talk, because a lot of us justhold shit in and don't you?
Speaker 3 (34:51):
gotta communicate recognize that there's an issue
see shout out on it, you gotta,you gotta communicate shout out
to them, shout out to formermembers and holding shit in my
god, oh my god that just poppedin my head when he said that
(35:13):
whole shit and I was like thathappened.
Yeah, we learned that thatwasn't healthy I know what
you're talking about.
Speaker 4 (35:19):
Yeah, you gotta communicate.
Yeah, you gotta communicatebecause, um, I mean, you can
have all the experience.
We learned that that wasn'thealthy.
I know what you're talkingabout.
Yeah, you got to communicate.
Yeah, you got to communicatebecause, um, I mean, you can
have all the experience you wantfrom the past, but if you're
not communicating that to theproper people, you're going to
just keep going in circles inthe same situation over and over
again.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
And know your, your, your, your, your, your friend
group.
Know who's done what, beenthrough what.
Who's the person you should gotalk to.
Like some of your friends,you're like, hey, man, that's
the wrong advice.
And I knew that was going to bethe wrong advice, so it's like
know that stuff.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
Yeah, you definitely have to be aware of your
resources and when to use whatresource.
Speaker 1 (35:57):
Yeah, I agree, Call the party friend when you're
like nigga, I won't think aboutit.
I'm like, oh, I got just theplace for you.
All right, let's go.
Midget strip club.
I'm still looking for one thefuck oh wait, it's little people
, little person strip club.
We're still trying that.
Yes.
Speaker 4 (36:17):
We're not going to go down that.
That happened.
It did happen.
I just need to know if it's athing or not.
Are you going?
Speaker 3 (36:23):
Is it a rabbit hole?
Speaker 1 (36:25):
I have a healthy fear of small people.
In Texas, if you go type inlittle person but not little
person, they say, I'll just sayit.
They got sites that say midgetsfor sale or midgets for rent
and I'm like what, you can justrent humans like what what is
(36:47):
this?
Speaker 3 (36:48):
is it half price?
Speaker 1 (36:51):
I feel like it's probably double.
It's a novelty.
Okay, I got it, we got it yeahturn it left next question not,
is it half price?
Speaker 4 (37:07):
don't repeat it next so what are?
Speaker 3 (37:12):
buy one, get one.
What are some inspiring storiesof overcoming hopelessness and
finding renewed purpose?
Anybody of overcominghopelessness and finding renewed
purpose?
Anybody got some stories.
Speaker 1 (37:24):
Hopelessness.
Speaker 2 (37:25):
I mean, I always share my story about that,
Whereas you know I've gonethrough the six miscarriages,
but I still try to help othersas they're going through their
situations and I still haven't,even being over 40, I still
haven't given up hope on havingchildren.
I just know that it's going tobe a more difficult journey and
there's other options.
(37:46):
But most people in mycircumstance would be like fuck
this, I'm done, I'm not going totry to do this anymore.
But me personally, I feel likethis is God's way of using me
and I literally feel that way.
Had I not gone through whatI've gone through, I wouldn't
know how to help other women andhow to be gentle and how to be
(38:08):
able to give them that grace andextend myself to them.
So I definitely think thatthat's been my biggest testimony
when it comes to that type of asituation.
Speaker 4 (38:21):
Give us hope.
Kevin Give us hope.
Kevin give us hope.
Speaker 1 (38:22):
I don't know if that's hope I was thinking.
When I got that eviction noticeon my college apartment I was
like, well, what am I gonna do?
I kinda figured it out and gotmy shit together.
Well, not right away, it took awhile, but it took some
(38:43):
recognize.
It made me recognize some shitin like fight to be better.
Like I didn't run home I thinkthat's what I did is I didn't
run back home Like I stayedwhere I was at and I was like,
nah, I gotta be a man to figurethis shit out.
I did this to myself.
There was help along the way, alot of help, and thank you to
(39:03):
all those people.
But it took me to go through it, to come out on the other side
of that as a better person.
Cause I feel like if I wouldhave just took the easy route,
came back home, lived home andjust whatever it was, I wouldn't
have been in the same positionin my life as I am now, like
I've been.
I think I would have been likeI don't know, maybe a bratty
(39:26):
bitch or something, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Bratty, bratty bitch bratty bitch, something I don't
know.
Speaker 3 (39:34):
brady, brady bitch, brady bitch, my god, you build
character that when you stay,yeah, um, I was thinking.
This happened recently.
I was in riverside by north andI was driving over there by
patterson park because I used tolive there when I was four.
Speaker 2 (39:51):
And I was thinking about.
Speaker 3 (39:53):
I was telling the story about how living in these
apartments right by the park andhow we used to lay it on the
ground or the floor duringdrive-bys, and I was telling the
story about my mom Using thebed sheets to climb down the the
alleyway.
And I showed the alleyway behindthe apartment and I was
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thinking, goddamn like the tolook at it now the distance yeah
, that the fact that me drivingover here at this age and having
a house and not like, yeah, itwas, it was a, it was a hope for
me, because I I still see this.
You know kids my age orwhatever, uh, growing up that
(40:38):
still live in that same area andit's like it's still possible,
it's still hope, I'm proofpositive that you can't get out
of a situation like that,because yeah I saw a lot of kids
that didn't make it out of thatsituation.
So it's like, yeah, it's, if Ican be that, hope for people to
say, hey, man like that, shit.
Look at stutter.
Stutter went from living in thesame neighborhood as us and now
(40:59):
he has a fucking house and nowhe has benefits or now you know
like he could have just aseasily said what's the point,
but he didn't Still be drivingthrough there.
I drove through there that dayfor Buck's thing.
Okay, I stopped by the park andcame through and just drove by
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and was like damn.
Speaker 1 (41:21):
Well, they're laughing, because last time I
saw that nigga, he took me inthe middle of there.
He was like, hey, take me tothis liquor store right here.
And I was like, nigga, whathe's like, I'm going to be quick
.
Nigga, what he's like I'm goingto be quick.
And I'm like you better be.
We ain't supposed to be here,you can.
Speaker 2 (41:33):
Right.
Speaker 3 (41:38):
Yeah, but yeah, I use that as hope.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
Because I remember thinking this is some weird shit
to live in.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
It's nuts when you look at certain places Like shit
.
When we went to Texas, I wasjust like, just like damn you
could tell why.
This is just the way it is.
They didn't have like houses inthe area, like everything was
apartments, and I'm like you putthis many people in one spot
like crime's happening.
So it's like damn like this isdesigned.
(42:07):
But yeah, that's the way theysaid motherfuckers gotta learn
to look outside and be like Igotta get the fuck out of here,
but need examples.
Speaker 4 (42:22):
I'll just say that it's always gonna seem worse
than what it is at first,because it's a new experience
and you're going to feel likethere's nothing you can do.
There's nothing you canpurchase or buy or no action you
can take to get about thesituation, and that couldn't be
(42:46):
any farther from the truth.
The first thing you have to doto start to attain your hope is
change your mindset on thesituation, control what you can
control and there's always goingto be setbacks that's life and
when you realize that all youcan really do is control the
decision you made.
So if you take the steps tomake the right decision and you
(43:08):
know you're taking the rightdecisions, there's always going
to be hope that the outcome willbe one that's favorable for you
, regardless of the situation.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
Yeah, I agree, that was well said.
Speaker 1 (43:26):
It is what it is.
I just feel like hating becausehe want to be my hater.
Speaker 4 (43:33):
I said I said I would hate on you if you needed me to
.
I'm trying to get you tosupport your needs.
Speaker 1 (43:39):
It's drive-by, nigga, that shit sucks.
Speaker 4 (43:48):
If I'm driving by your house daily wasting my gas
that's love.
Speaker 1 (43:51):
It's going to be some extra hate too.
Speaker 4 (43:53):
That's more love than hate.
Speaker 1 (43:54):
I drove way out here.
I'm going to throw somethingworse than that.
Speaker 3 (43:57):
What are some practical tips for maintaining a
positive outlook duringchallenging times?
Speaker 1 (44:03):
I'm thinking it almost goes into what you said
just there.
This ain't the worst, as my momalways said.
Said this too shall passnothing's permanent.
Speaker 4 (44:15):
I incorporate a lot of prayer don't let 60 seconds
determine your move, for for sixhours or for an hour or a day
or a day, allow that, allow whathappened to exist in that time
and then go for it.
(44:36):
Go for it in in your best, inyour best mind frame.
Speaker 1 (44:40):
You can yeah, I think I find myself saying a lot like
well, that's done, like thedeed is done itself.
How do I respond?
That's what matters.
So prayer talk, motivationitself.
How do I respond?
That's what matters.
So prayer talk, motivation ornot motivation?
Speaker 3 (44:56):
no, I can't think.
Speaker 2 (45:00):
Meditation?
Oh, definitely meditation, I'msorry, what'd you say?
Speaker 3 (45:05):
Take it all in increments.
Speaker 2 (45:06):
Oh that's good.
Speaker 1 (45:08):
Well, they say best way to eat an elephant, one bite
at a time yeah digestiblepieces what his brain.
Speaker 2 (45:20):
I'm tired of y'all.
Speaker 1 (45:22):
I swear to god I be just oh lord oh cause he?
Speaker 3 (45:27):
they said that's the best you can.
I know it sounds sexual causethe brain goes there, but that's
how I've approached a lot ofshit.
I looked at a situation and waslike, fuck, I got a lot of
fucking work ahead of me, but ifI can just take it in
increments- you just approach itlike a math problem.
Order operation before you knowit, you're closer to the finish
(45:52):
line than you are to the.
Speaker 4 (45:56):
Don't do PEMDAS.
Speaker 3 (46:00):
That's how I approach that shit.
Speaker 1 (46:04):
Little bits at a time , but don't do PEMDAS If you go
on Facebook and you look in thecomments you realize that we're
divided as a nation on math.
Oh, no, Like the answer's 32.
You're like no, you got to dothis first.
Speaker 4 (46:27):
I'm not arguing with nobody, who don't even write
shit down on paper.
Speaker 2 (46:32):
You're not going to argue with anybody.
Everybody answers yeah, we didMost people don't write shit
down on paper.
I'm saying these kids.
Speaker 4 (46:37):
They do everything on fucking computers now.
Speaker 3 (46:39):
How can listeners integrate lessons from their
past experiences to buildresilience for their future
challenges?
And that just made me thinkabout what you read the other
day at work.
Speaker 4 (46:50):
What I read.
Speaker 3 (46:51):
Yeah, when it said, you were interpreted to say
intimate.
Speaker 4 (46:56):
Oh yeah, you should.
Speaker 2 (47:00):
You should naturally be taking the challenges and the
lessons that you learn andintegrating them to what you're
doing, because if you're not,you're going to keep doing that
same stupid shit and keeplearning that same stupid lesson
.
Speaker 3 (47:09):
That is true.
Speaker 4 (47:09):
That's right.
I agree with what Dan said.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
And you learn your boundaries.
Thank you nigga, you learn yourboundaries.
Speaker 3 (47:17):
You should have just hit him with the retort.
Speaker 1 (47:20):
What.
Speaker 3 (47:20):
What he always says.
Speaker 2 (47:22):
Oh, I'm not saying that.
Nah, don't like what he said,I'm not gonna say it.
This is a whole day we gotthrough with his ass not saying
it.
Speaker 1 (47:33):
Stop trying to get me involved.
He keep looking over.
Speaker 4 (47:37):
He thought it Kevin, I look your way, so you don't
say nothing.
You're my safe place, so everytime you look, you got something
to say.
You're like I'm not going tosay it, kevin, if I look this
way, she going to give me a lookand I'm not going to say it.
Look at, kevin, if I look thisway, she's going to give me a
look and I'm like fuck it.
Speaker 2 (47:57):
I mean we can go to her.
I guess that's growth,restraint, restraint.
Speaker 3 (48:04):
See, you said that's growth, and then she said nut,
and I was like see.
Speaker 2 (48:08):
She said nut, I didn't know.
Speaker 3 (48:10):
She said nut, if you.
But what I my brain interpretedwhen you said that's growth nut
, I was like see, I'm tired ofy'all.
Speaker 2 (48:19):
What's the next?
Somebody answer this shit.
Speaker 1 (48:21):
I said you yeah, you're learning boundaries and
things like that.
Like, by doing things like thatintegrating you also learn what
you're not going to do.
That's one thing we forgetabout.
Yep, it's like I'm not doingthat.
Speaker 3 (48:36):
I noticed I said it a lot at work.
Speaker 4 (48:38):
What I'm not going to do.
I'm not doing that.
I also think that resiliencecomes from constantly making the
hard decision.
Speaker 2 (48:47):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (48:48):
Regardless of the outcome or the effect of the
outcome to those around you.
Making the hard decision,because every decision is not
going to be a great one and alot of times the choices are
just shitty, but you always haveto make the best decision for
your current situation when Ithink of work, I think of work.
Speaker 3 (49:15):
I think it's interesting Maybe it's the
freedom of when we got FMLA andwhat it gave us and empowering
us with certain things is whenyou start seeing what your
coworkers are willing to gettaken advantage of with and what
you see management is willingto take advantage of them with,
and then you're coming as thekind of like the, the variable
(49:36):
that they're not used to.
You get to see both sides ofthat shit, because the energy
from management will be likewhat the fuck?
You mean, you're not doing this, like you're, we're telling you
to do it and you're like I'mnot doing that, and they get
kind of so like, oh, the nerveof this uppity, like that's what
it starts to feel like thenerve of this uppity mother
thinking that he's not gonna dowhat we told him to do I keep my
(49:56):
pinky up I start using certainwords and they're like he's not
dumb, he's gonna sue us but youdefinitely see that when you
realize what your, what poweryou have, when you see what your
co coworkers are willing to letslide, you're like hmm.
Speaker 1 (50:17):
Yeah, I'm like that's not safe.
Though what are you a pussyLike, sure, sure.
But I'm not doing it, so callme all the names you want.
Might want to call Carl andhave him do it, because Kev
ain't Winslow.
Speaker 3 (50:35):
I can't hear that name anymore.
Speaker 1 (50:37):
He said he came out and talked about it.
I don't know if he denied beingat the party.
Speaker 3 (50:44):
I can't who oh.
Speaker 4 (50:47):
Carl Carl at the titty party.
Speaker 1 (50:49):
Oh man Fucking Playing when he got his cheek
popped Getting fucked oh, carlCarl at the titty party.
Oh man Fucking.
Getting fucked, that's stillfucking he's not the plow.
He's not the plow.
Speaker 2 (51:02):
Carl Winslow, the dad .
Speaker 1 (51:06):
He leaned into the joke.
Speaker 4 (51:10):
Oh my god, he leaned into the joke.
Speaker 2 (51:12):
Ha ha, ba-dum-tsh oh my God, who said he was at the
Diddy party?
I forgot who it said.
Speaker 1 (51:20):
They said he was there getting blown out.
It was one of the by Diddy,wasn't it like a Was it Cat I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (51:28):
I just know it was somebody that came for it, yeah.
Speaker 4 (51:32):
No Cat, said Professor Overby he did say it
was Professor.
Speaker 2 (51:36):
I did hear him say that.
Speaker 1 (51:37):
Yeah, he said that.
I feel like somebody was in aninterview talking about Carl
Winslow getting yeah and henever really.
He's like man, I ain't gay andthey're like so.
Speaker 2 (51:49):
He didn't deny it, he's still alive.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (51:54):
Carl, he ain't that old, family matters, ain't that
old?
Speaker 2 (51:57):
yeah, I know family matters isn't that old, but I
didn't know that, carl, you justthought, cause he obese?
Speaker 3 (52:01):
no, no alright, I have to know.
With.
That being said, this has beenepisode 191 of the Heavyweight
Podcast.
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Speaker 4 (52:22):
Peace.
Speaker 1 (52:26):
Sweating.
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