Your communication (or lack of it) defines your reputation. Miss updates, ghost clients, or wait for someone else to ask, and you’ve already lost trust. In this episode, Jake and Steve break down why communication is the real differentiator in engineering—and how you can lead without authority by setting standards others can’t ignore. Not theory—practical, tactical advice.
Key Topics Covered
• Why silence creates anxiety and destroys trust even when the work is 95% done
• How “over-communication” beats under-communication every time
• The hidden cost of vague updates and missed cadences
• How engineers unknowingly drive clients and teammates crazy
• What 75+ architects revealed about their biggest pain points with engineers
• Turning communication into a competitive advantage in your career
• The difference between being dependable vs. being reactive
• How to set clear standards for updates and hold others accountable
• Using communication as leverage to show leadership without the title
• The mindset shift: updates aren’t optional—they’re part of the job
Actionable Steps
• Set explicit expectations for how and when you’ll update clients and teammates
• Err on the side of over-communicating—let them tell you to dial it back
• Use short, factual updates instead of silence when things slip
• Track commitments visibly so progress is never a guessing game
• Chase answers fast instead of sitting in uncertainty
• Reset the standard every time it’s missed—don’t let it slide
• Treat missed updates as process breakdowns, not personal attacks
• Run real-time lessons learned instead of waiting weeks for meetings
• Remove emotion—act quickly, calmly, factually when communication breaks
• Reinforce value by solving problems and reducing client anxiety
Who This Episode Is For
• Engineers frustrated with clients or teammates going dark
• High performers who want to stand out without a formal title
• Burned-out engineers tired of confusion, rework, and last-minute fire drills
• Early-career ICs who want to prove they can lead by action, not rank
• Anyone who’s ever thought, “I’m doing the work—why don’t they see it?”
Why It Matters
Technical skill gets you in the door. Communication keeps you in the room. The fastest way to show leadership, reduce stress, and gain visibility is by setting the standard others follow. When you eliminate uncertainty, you create clarity, trust, and opportunity.
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