June 12, 2024 • 35 mins
We're back this week with some existential musings - oOoOo! Not sure if you've heard of A Trip To Infinity, a documentary on Netflix about infinity, but any time I watch it, I'm introspecting. I've also been in a creative rut the past week or two., so I'm sharing what's helped get me out of it. Between these themes, I've had some interesting musings that I wanted to share with you all, hence the main topic for this week's episode.
Here's a quick episode recap:
- How is it summer and I haven't been by a body of water?
- My body HURTS! These hips absolutely lie. Hello 33.
- Emotionally wrecking television - I'm looking at you Queen Charlotte!
- Emotionally wrecking movies - Inside Out 2; my body is ready
- Creative Ruts - ugh. How I got out and my advice for you to get of your own!
- Existential Musings - inspired by infinity; how I ground myself with our "speck" of existence and choosing to live loudly and boldly
- What does it mean to truly live?
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Elizabeth (00:06):
Hello, hello, hello.
Welcome back to another episodeof the In Between Podcast.
I'm your host, Elizabeth Cheney,and I hope you all are doing
fabulous.
Uh, before we get into today'sepisode, I just want to say,
hey, Last week's episode wasvery short.
I apologize.
I'm not gonna lie, your girl waskind of in a little bit of a rut
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creatively.
Uh, and I just had quickupdates.
But don't worry, your girl isback with a vengeance this week,
and I've got a whole list ofthings to talk about.
Because I've been introspectinI've been marinatin on some
existential thoughts.
It's getting a littlephilosophical over here.
Ooh, my favorite thing to do.
I'm just kidding.
Well, not really.
It is something I like to do,but I have a lot of favorite
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things I like to do.
Anywho, but before we get intoall of that, just want to say I
can't believe it is Junesomething or another.
What is it?
The second week of June?
And I have not been to a poolyet.
I have not been by any kind ofbody of water, not even a
bathtub if I'm going to becompletely honest with you
because our apartment only has ashower and yes, it kills me.
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Oh, it kills me.
Uh, but I haven't been to apool.
I haven't been to the lake.
Part of that is because, well,I, uh, am not looking forward to
facing that.
I know that's going to beemotional, so one might argue
I've been putting it off.
But also, I've been really busy,so there's that.
And then third, I've not been tothe ocean, but that's not
necessarily easily available.
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Um, but, hopefully we'll get tothe lake here soon, and I will
just deal with that emotionalmess as it hits and as it comes.
Uh, I know it's going to be goodand healing, but, you know.
It is what it is, which I saythis and I'm like, Oh, it makes
me wish I had a new puppy, butwe're waiting on getting a house
to do that.
And I was going to update youall on the housing front.
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There is no updates to be had.
It's just one of those things.
It's one of those things.
Not let it bother me.
I mean, Sure, it bothers me, butI'm not letting it take me down.
I'm just like, it's gonnahappen.
It's gonna happen.
Reminding myself that things canchange at the drop of a hat,
just like the house that we lostthat we were putting an offer on
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a few months ago.
That's okay.
That is okay.
Um, Anywho, your girl needs toget by some water.
Your girl needs to get by somebody of water.
Maybe I will this weekend.
We talked about going to thelake this weekend for Father's
Day, so maybe we will, maybe wewon't.
But we probably will, let's bereal.
Uh, another thing to, to, tobring to the podcast, cause here
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is all my truths, truths.
Um, let me tell you something.
My hips are really hurting.
So I'm 33, you know that jokethat everything starts to crick
crack, snap crackle pop kind ofthing when you turn, when you
turn 30?
You know, 30 is when I kind ofstarted my fitness routine.
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That's when I healed.
Excuse me, let me, let me justcheck myself.
Not when I healed my shoulder,but when we finally found out, I
don't know, four or five yearslater, what was going on with my
shoulder, which put me inanother round of physical
therapy, which then led me to myfitness routine.
But anywho, so 30, I was workingon my body, my physical health,
my mental health, because we allknow that was the year that
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you're a girl in a rock bottom.
Uh, I sing about that because,well, you know, it was a thing.
You listen to the podcast.
If you're new here, we'll golisten back to Opta, I probably
should post some of thoseepisodes, but I feel like I talk
about it all the time Anyways, Iramble and I digress hips, so
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It's not that I think oh, Iturned 33 and my hips have just
gone out on me But I am nowrealizing that whole slogan
Slogan that's hilarious thatwhole phrase that whole joke
that your body just starts to Idon't know Sabotage you, starts
to go against you.
It's, I'm starting to notice it.
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And it's not that I'm in chronicpain, I already have that
because of my car accidentinjuries.
But it's more, if I don'tstretch really, really hard
after a workout, I will not beable to walk, not even the next
day, I mean like within an hourand a half.
So my hips are so tight.
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I don't even know if I've evershared this on the podcast, but
I did this really Stupid thingon my, my bachelorette.
I was a COVID bachelorette.
We had a party bus because wecouldn't do anything.
So me and my few of my friends,we ran to party bus, drive
around.
And that's where we basicallygot hoot wild.
I don't even know if hoot wildis the thing.
I was gonna say hootin andhollerin and it came out hoot
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wild.
Anyways, there she goes again,mixing up her words and her
phrases.
Uh, but I, I, I love her.
I went to, well, let me firstsay I was not sober, all right?
I was not sober.
I was a little intoxicated, ifyou will.
And I thought, oh, I've beenstretching and doing yoga.
Maybe I can do a split.
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So I swung from the rafters, therafters, like the, like the bars
from the ceiling of the bus andlike jumped, plopped myself into
a split.
Well, the fun fact is well, Icouldn't do a split.
Drunk Liz, she thought she coulddo a split.
Reality Liz, not necessarily.
So I kind of fucked some shit upin my hip from that and I think
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that is actually what's drivinga lot of this hip pain because
I'm trying to really work on mymobility and it's like I think
I'm making progress, but it'slike highlighting.
Oh girl your hips are tight So Iknow I just kind of went off
about hip shit.
This is your PSA for all mylisteners It doesn't matter if
you're 21 if you're 27 if you're35 if you're 44 if you're 52 if
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you're 18 Stretch this is yourreminder to stretch your body is
gonna.
Thank you for later My goodness.
So, uh, yeah.
And I say all this because likemy left hip is hurting so bad
because of course I've spent somuch effort on the right hip
trying to fix it from my stupidsplit.
I've been ignoring the needs ofthe left.
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And now because everything'slike crisscross applesauce back
there, like I mean, I don'treally know the anatomy, but the
way my physical therapistexplained to me, it's like lots
of crisscross tendons.
I don't know.
Maybe I'm an idiot.
So for y'all listening, if youare a physical therapist or in
the medical field and you knowwhat the hell I'm talking about
and I just butcher that, well, Iam not.
Doctor or a physical therapistmyself, so I don't know but
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regardless.
Let's just go with this wholecrisscross applesauce tendons
thing The left side is nowhurting so now I'm like oh Liz
you You silly goose.
Why didn't you work on that sidewhen you're working on the right
side?
Huh, so we're just over heretrying to Get our body right.
And we haven't even had kidsyet.
So that is great.
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That's fun.
Oh boy.
Uh, you know, last week, one ofthe things I did update you on
was Queen Charlotte.
I started that.
I don't even know if I mentionedthis, but I had like 30 minutes
left to finish.
I finally finished the last 30minutes, like literally last
night.
Oh my.
I, when I tell you that showemotionally wrecked me, I.
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I was even surprised by how loudI was sobbing.
Like, I was alone, Stan was offwith his buddies, and I was
thinking to myself, Oh my God,if my neighbors are listening
right now, they can probablyhear me whine, because it's not
like these walls are very, very,very thick.
And I am just like, audiblylike, Huh, huh, oh, oh, this is
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so beautiful, oh my God.
Oh my gosh, that show, Fuck meup emotionally in the best way
and I don't even mean like oh Somuch heartbreak like in the best
way.
I know I mean like all that wasso good That was so freaking
warm and feel good and all thefeelings and all the warm
fuzzies And oh, I love love andthat was beautiful and there's
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such good actors.
That's like how I felt.
Oh My god, so if you havewatched Queen Charlotte We need
to talk now because I need tolike, I need to express, I need
to express my thoughts on thematter with somebody who's
watched it because, oh my gosh,chef's kiss.
I think that was, not eventhink, that was better than
Bridgerton.
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No hate, no shade of Bridgerton,but Queen Charlotte is so
beautiful, so raw, so real.
It tackles mental health in away that I haven't seen on any
kind of mainstream media,mainstream media.
Okay, when I say mainstream, Idon't necessarily mean those
indie films either, okay, sodon't come at me.
But, mm, mm, mm, God, that wasso good.
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And speaking of emotionallywrecked, Inside Out 2 comes out
this week.
I'm gonna go see it.
First off, love a good Pixarmovie.
Secondly, If you've seen InsideOut, then you know what I mean
by that movie emotionallywrecking you and that might have
emotionally wrecked you kind ofin the Oh my god, this was hard
and deep way.
Woo! If you haven't seen InsideOut, I'm just gonna say feelings
(09:17):
developing feelings aka complexfeelings.
You know what?
I'm definitely going to make mykids watch that movie through
puberty.
My, the kids I don't have.
But I will have one day and whenthey get to that point like all
right time for your lesson timeto watch inside Out take notes
everybody But yeah, I'm ready tosee inside out too.
I think they introduce a few newemotions one of them being
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anxiety.
So oh But that's gonna hit meright in the feels and maybe
feel a little too Real if youknow what I mean, but that's
okay.
I am ready for it So there'sthat Another thing is if you've
been following me on socialmedia, because I am assuming all
of you do.
If not, what have you been doingwith your life?
Get your ass on your socialmedia.
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Follow me right now.
Um, but my girl Sherry's was intown this weekend.
She came to visit me.
She was a podcast friend.
I met online and she's inBaltimore.
She came down to visit.
I showed her.
I showed her shoulder.
Yay.
I don't know why I was about tolike.
The A.
Does that even sound funny whenit comes out of my mouth?
I was about to show herHotlanta, which I did tell her
we don't call it Hotlanta, butlike, surprisingly, a lot of the
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places we went to eat, they hadlike a Hotlanta drink or dish.
So I'm like, hmm, is Hotlantalike a, do people say that now?
Cause I thought that was like,you don't say Hotlanta.
Anyways, I digress.
We were going to record anepisode together because as you
do in person, and, um, Wepartied a little too hard.
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For any of my locals, we went tothe Claremont Lounge, which is
quite a novelty experience.
I will say that.
Just Google it.
And you might only be able toGoogle it if you're over the age
of 21.
But it's a strip club here inAtlanta.
It's, when I say it's wild, it'snot necessarily like, wow, this
is the most insane shithappening, but I mean, it is,
(11:04):
it's wild.
Wild, like it's just not yourstereotypical strippers.
That's all I'm going to say.
Um, like there's one woman who'sgot to be like in her late 70s,
if not early 80s, and she isamazing.
Her name is Blondie and Iactually finally got to see her
perform.
She is like known in the city.
Anyways, we're going to get intoall of our adventures and all of
the fun.
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just the fun we had this wholeweekend.
But the day we're going torecord on Sunday and we woke up
and I was like, girl, my voiceis like gone.
You honestly might be able tokind of hear it now.
I was like, we can't record thisepisode because I'm be like, you
know, when we talk.
So, I will save all of thegiggles and fun and adventures
that we got into, uh, for laterbecause we are going to record
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our Atlanta recap episode laterthis week, so that will come out
next week.
then, uh, Steph Laffey, uh, uh,came on the podcast again.
If you remember, she was fromthe Introverted podcast.
Stay Introverted.
Her and I did a solo episode afew weeks ago, recorded one, so
she's going to be coming on inthe next few weeks.
And I'm trying to work out a fewother guests, so stay tuned,
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stay tuned.
But I just want to say, man,there is nothing like, ah, just
giggling with a girlfriend.
Just even a friend isn't a biggirlfriend, but just, I don't
know, you know when you meetpeople, this was our first time
meeting in person, right?
And we've talked on the phonemany, many times.
Like, we're friends.
But we finally got to meet andwe just clicked and it was so it
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was so awesome.
And let me tell you guys, likemy, I giggled and laughed so
hard this weekend.
I mean, who knows how many timesI almost peed my pants?
If I probably did pee my pantsto some extent, I could just be
like that.
And, uh, you know, I've been alittle bit in a creative funk
lately.
I think that's kind of why Ididn't feel really myself
completely on last week'sepisode.
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And.
I did a TikTok about thisearlier this week.
So if you're not following me onTikTok, here's another subtle
reminder, aka not so subtle, gofollow me.
Uh, but it was about being acreative writer and like things
that have been helping me getout of it.
And one of which was, you know,hanging out with Cher.
Hanging out with her and beingable to talk to her.
This is nothing against my otherfriends.
I love my friends and my otherfriends do help me with the
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podcast.
Help me get out of my head,whatever, whatever.
But there is something to sayabout talking to your creative
friends, like your friends whoare pursuing something similar,
whether it's a podcast, whetherit's being a content creator, a
vlogger, because you can, it'snot even just about running
ideas off each other, but likeyou are going to be a little bit
more well versed with what'strending or what tools you're
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using and things like that.
So.
I don't know.
It really, really, really helpedkind of take me out of the hole
that I was, I was in.
I didn't even realize I was, Iwas in a hole if I'm being
honest with you.
Um, but I just want to shout outto share and, and shout out to
your creative friends.
Like lean on them when you're inyour creative ruts because it's
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not like we talked aboutanything that I didn't already
know or believe in, but it waslike the reminder I needed.
so much.
And sometimes you just, you needsomeone to get you out of your
head.
So, there's that.
Can't wait for that episode.
I know it's going to be great.
Uh, let's see what else.
Ooh.
Haven't planned anything forNorway yet.
Oops.
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I'm going to, eventually.
But, uh, I, yeah, just haven'tdone it yet.
So, are we still going to go?
Yes, I hope.
But, Your girl needs to researcha little bit more because I
honestly have no idea what I'mdoing with this.
Um, but that's okay because I'msure it'll be great no matter
what.
Ah! Um, okay, so let's get alittle existential.
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Womp, womp, womp, womp.
Really weird sound effect forthat statement.
But, let's get a littleexistential.
So, I think I mentioned this alittle bit last week about
protecting my peace and wantingto, uh, What's the word I'm
looking for?
Like, I'm being more mindful ofthings that, Take away that
piece.
Give me a little bit ofnegativity.
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Maybe it's like intrusivethoughts.
Maybe they, I don't know, theyjust stress me out.
And it doesn't necessarily haveto, it's not like one thing in
particular I'm talking about,but I'm just in this evolution
of me, Elizabeth Cheney, uh, inself improvement, self
development.
I am, I'm being very cognizantand mindful of things that, ooh,
Why does this not make me feel100 percent or make me feel
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good?
Like, like, why does this makeme feel in any way less than?
That's what I'm being very, verymindful of.
And with that, in the past week,I've just really thinking,
introspecting, marinating onthis.
Hanging out with Cher thisweekend helped.
Like I said, that kind of tookme out of the creative rut I was
feeling, And that goes intoprotecting my peace because even
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though I'm talking aboutstressors or things that may
take away my, my self worth inany capacity, but protecting my
peace also means anxiety, stressthat shouldn't be there.
And I was getting in a creativerut because I think I was like
compounding stress.
So I have a lot of balls in theair, a lot of things that I
can't like quite talk aboutright now that I will here in
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due time.
You know, it's fine, I've gottenreally good at juggling the
different balls, but sometimesmaybe I've worked really well on
not getting stressed out orhaving negative thought pattern
about this one topic or this onething in my life, but then,
because maybe something hasn'tquite worked out yet, maybe I'm
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in a more stressful period.
Maybe there's a lot of shitgoing on at work.
I'll take that stress I wouldnormally put towards that thing
and I put it towards somethingelse.
So we're working on that again,being very mindful and cognizant
of our inner narrative and ourpeace.
Yes.
So with that said, one of thethings that I was in the
creative rut about was, I wascompounding my stress in what
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was really like a 3 in a scaleof 1 to 15.
Over time, it starts compoundingto like a level 12, level 15.
And then I just start spiraling.
And what really is not a bigdeal?
And, you know, you can do it inyour pastime, like your free
time, whatever.
Oh man, it gets me, gets mestunted and then I start
thinking about how I haven'tposted content or I should be
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posting more content becausethat's growth, baby, that's
growth, being consistent isgrowth and it's like, I get
immobilized.
I know part of this is ADHD andthat's been like a big, big
thing that I've been working onthe past year plus.
Um, and again, like I, sometimesI'm like, I am just giving all
my thoughts and feelings andemotions on this podcast, but
you know what, I know itresonates with some people and
also, you know, It's good totalk about this shit because we
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realize we're not all alone.
And also, it is my podcast.
Um, but anyways, It's funny, Isay all of this besides just
sharing my shit, but too, Ialways talk about starting.
Starting is the hardest part.
Get out of your own way.
Just do it.
Just record the episode.
Paint the picture.
Whatever.
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I was having the same problemwith posting content, filming
content, even guys.
I have so many funny, well, Ithink they're funny, funny ideas
for videos, maybe more deep,more like self love,
introspective, give you thefeels kind of ideas for videos
and isn't I truly think they'regood.
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And it's like, why can I notfilm them?
You get stunted, right?
So there's this quote, I'm a, Isubscribed to this newsletter by
James Clear who is the author ofAtomic Habits.
If you haven't read that book, Ihighly recommend, your girl
should probably actually readthat book herself, like reread
it again, cause I have read it,but he said, there is no right
time, but right now is the besttime.
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There is no right time, butright now is the best time.
It, feeds the mindset to start.
So getting out of my creativefunk this weekend, having my
friend take me out and remindme, Lizzie, why are you letting
these things compound and botheryou?
Get out of your own head andjust know that it's going to
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work out because you are makingthe efforts to get yourself out
of this situation, to make thischange in your life, to do these
things.
Don't stress out about nothappening yet.
Um, just know that it's going tohappen and sit in that allowing,
sit in the feeling that this isnot forever.
This is, this chapter is aboutto end.
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You are moving forward from thisone thing, from this other
thing.
Basically zoom out.
And it got me thinking, Ooh, Idid something that I try not to
forget about or try to losesight of.
Okay.
Um, but because I was lettingall this other stress take over
and manage my attention andmanage my creativity, kind of
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mentally blocked me from, fromstarting from doing whatever it
is, I'd lost track of my why andit was becoming a chore in my
head.
And granted we're talking likevery short windows of time here.
For all I know, this is still merecovering from almost burning
myself out in April.
Going back to my why.
It was the last step I needed inthe let's get out of the
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creative rut hole.
Get out of the creative rutbubble.
So find your community, yourcreative community.
Maybe you don't know anybodydirectly like in your life
personally that you see.
Even if you're not friends inperson, you can meet people
online to be frank with you.
Most, if not all of my creative,I say that in quotes friends
because I have creative friends,but I mean like friends who are
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actively pursuing some kind ofcareer as a creator, whether
it's a podcaster, a vlogger, anactor, a singer, whatever the
case may be, a performer.
Most of them came from theinternet.
Most of them I found onInstagram or TikTok, social
media, and we just connected.
Find your people, they arethere, I promise.
And what's even better, arethese people are like, within
your vicinity, like, your samelevel, so you get to not just
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come up together, but you canwork out all those, I don't
know, intrusive thoughts,negative thought patterns, all
of the things together.
I don't know if you rememberthis, but back, I think it was
toward the end of last year, um,When Joshua Darin was on, like
it was the last episode he wason, we talked about this.
Like find your neighborhood.
You don't want to be a king inthe castle.
You don't want to be a queen ofthe castle.
You want to be with yourneighbors in coming up the
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ladder because the top islonely.
Community is everything.
Two, be mindful of thecompounding stress.
Really check in with yourself.
If you're finding yourselfmentally blocked, you're not,
um, something is not meshingwell within yourself.
Like, you know, you're off.
Take note of that.
And does it really require thatlevel of stress?
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Is it really a 15 or is it morelike a 2?
And, if the stress is comingfrom a place of you trying to
make changes, you're trying tolike, for us, trying to buy a
house, and not being bogged downwith the apartment and still
being here and, and, you know,wanting a puppy and knowing I
can't get the puppy because Ihave this compounding stress
because this apartment and Ilove a house and I can't find a
house and the interest rates areso high and oh la la la la la oh
my god oh my god.
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Oh my god.
Sit in the knowing in theallowing that I will find a
house.
I'm going to find a house.
We got a brand new realtor andshe's badass and I love her.
She is exactly what I waslooking for to trust.
It's going to work out in theright timing.
And the timing that's best forme because there's a few other
things that I'm trying to get myshit together with, so to speak.
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And I, to be honest, would kindof like them to work out before
the house works out.
And again, when these things dowork out, I will be sharing all
of that on the podcast.
Do not worry.
Um, but it's still like holdingspace for, okay, these things
haven't happened yet.
These changes haven't happenedyet, but they're going to.
And I'm making efforts to thosechanges.
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I am taking actions to get mecloser to those resolutions, to
those conclusions, to the finishline, so to speak.
And three, remember your why.
Why do you want to be a contentcreator?
Why do you want to be apodcaster?
Why do you want to be aperformer?
Why do you want to be an actor?
Everyone has different reasons.
Even if your reason is just,well, I'm a skincare junkie and
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I love sharing all of thatinformation with people because
it's a crazy ass world out thereand I love connecting with
people and giving them part ofthe recommendations that I think
are really going to help them.
Wow.
That was a very oddly specificexample, but you get my point.
You get my point.
Go back to the why.
So for me, my why was, Well, Ienjoy doing this.
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It's like my creative outlet andI love connecting with people.
When I get messages from you allthat, that an episode resonated,
it was exactly the message youneeded to hear that week.
Ooh, it made you giggle orwhatever the case may be.
That brings me so much joy andthat, that revalidates the why.
This is why I do it.
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I want to entertain.
I want to empower.
But it's, it's easy to getbogged down and lose sight of
that.
Doesn't mean I suck.
Doesn't mean I don't care.
Doesn't mean the passion and thedrive aren't there.
But sometimes we need thatcheck.
So, reach out to your creativefriends.
Find your creative friends oneof my podcast girlies that I'm
friends with, we've been talkingabout doing kind of some
Friendship Siri episodes.
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Uh, not just about makingfriends as an adult, but like
you know, friend breakups,friend breaks, things like that.
And I wouldn't mind going into alittle bit of like how you find
your, communities.
Like, whether it's online, causeI don't know.
Sometimes you can't meet people.
Cool.
It's hard out there.
I'm busy.
I'm so damn busy.
How am I meeting people?
Online.
I'm telling you.
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Oh my gosh.
And um, on these notes ofprotecting our peace, Checking
in with yourself, going back toyour why, you know, getting out
of your ruts.
For me it was creative.
I want to zoom out and just geta little existential because I
do enjoy introspecting.
I do enjoy a good existentialmoment to conversation.
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There is this documentary onNetflix called A Trip to
Infinity, which, um, I highlyrecommend you watch it.
I'm obsessed.
I've watched it like four times,but it talks about the concept
of infinity, from a scientific,mathematical perspective, and
then it kind of segues intoinfinity, In space, like an
infinite universe.
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And then it goes into thisexistential philosophical
element of infinity.
Ooh, that's where like, mmm, Iwas just munching on that
information so hard, I loved it.
Like, to me, that documentary isthe intersection of my faith,
like what I believe spiritually,and science.
Hopefully you can chew on that.
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Highly recommend you watch it.
Um, it is very deep.
It is very philosophical.
I think anybody from anyreligious background would get
something from it.
But, I recently watched it andevery time I watch it, it really
gets me in some kind ofexistential kind of mindset,
which again, I do love.
I love it.
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So if you're ever down to getintrospective, just holler at
your girl because I'm into it.
Like I am that friend.
I can meet somebody at the, youknow, we're at the bar and a
restaurant route together onvacation.
I don't know.
I can meet a complete strangerin like within 10 minutes.
We are introspecting, we aretalking about the meaning of
life and all of those funthings.
So I am that person and I arguethat those people find me.
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And maybe it's just like we findour people, but there we go.
Anyways, on the note, the thingsthat I've been kind of
marinating on and I think I'vebeen introspective because of
the creative rut I've been in.
And here lately I've just beenthinking about like creating
meaning, and I, I do think itgoes into everything I'm talking
about today because I'mprotecting my peace.
I actually realized today intherapy that I think that is
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coming from a place of me tryingto heal my child wounds.
of this, this inferior feelingthat I don't belong.
Don't worry guys.
We just started unpacking thatin therapy and I told my
therapist, I was like, you know,uh, I plan on talking about this
on my podcast eventually.
So childhood traumas and childwounds.
They'll be coming to you.
I don't know, maybe a few weeks,maybe months.
We'll just see how that journeytakes us.
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but it all ties into protectingmy peace being.
Not even like the best versionof myself, but like the best
mental version of myself.
I want to be happy because Weare here for a speck.
All right, our existence is aspeck the reason I brought that
infinity documentary because itkind of talks about ideologies
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these these ideas and And I'dalready started to feel this way
in my own self improvement, myself development journey, but
it's like it being the universe,it being the world, it being
whatever you want it to be, butit being so vast, so big, so
infinite that you are so small,but that's what makes you big.
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And I'm really, really thinkingabout that and creating meaning
I've said this before, but like,I'm an existentialist.
Like I believe I put my purposein life.
It's not nihilistic necessarilybecause I, it's not that I.
Is it fate?
I have no idea.
All I know is I have my birthchart read several times and
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each time it's read I'm like,how do you know this shit about
me?
These are weirdly specificdetails.
So that's all I'm going to sayon that matter.
However, I do think that we havethe ability to choose.
Maybe it's more like, here's allthe infinite versions of how
your life could go based onchoice and they all have a path,
but you are still in theconductor seat.
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Does that make sense?
So, we are here for a speck oftime.
I have been really mindful ofthat and I'm not scared of death
in that sense of like, oh, I'mnot going to be able to
accomplish everything that Iwant to accomplish.
If I take that mindset, yeah,I'm probably not.
Instead of getting stressed outabout my speck of existence, I
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view it as, ooh, I am going totry everything that I can to
create the life that I want.
Because who says I can't?
Because I'm creating thismeaning in life.
Why get bogged down by stress?
Unnecessary stress?
Life is hard.
We're gonna have hardships.
But that is part of the beauty.
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The grief, like losing Loon, thefucking hardest thing I have
ever experienced.
in terms of emotional emptiness.
I mean, it's different than thedepression, but you know,
actually I wouldn't want tocompare because it's so
different, but I recognize thatpain is beauty at its core
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because of the love and theconnection that I had with her.
So I create meaning, I moveforward in life and try to
pursue everything, building thiscrazy, like, I don't know,
career with the podcast andbeing mindful of anything that
takes away from my self worth,my positivity, my, my success,
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because I'm only here for alittle bit of time.
And I want to experience as muchas I can.
I don't want to get bogged downby all the bullshit because
there's so much bullshit andthis is not me saying that I'm
turning an ignorant ear,ignorant eye to all the shit
going on in the world, but it'salso me saying I also have to
hold space for experiencinglife.
I think we lose sight on howspecial it is that we get to
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experience life and I'm nottrying to be gaslighting cause
we are all going through someshit.
Trust me.
I know.
I've been through some shit, butinstead of letting it take me
down, I'm going to be remindedfor this brief moment of time
that I get to exist in thisinfinite universe, It's not even
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about regrets.
It's just, love me more than theintrusive thought.
I love me more than someoneelse's ego.
I love me more than someoneelse's insecurity.
I can meet people where theyare, I can hold space for them,
but I can also protect myself.
You know, if you think about it,we are these little bitty tiny
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specks in the universe existingon this floating blue rock in
the middle of space.
It's insane.
If you think about it, it'sinsane.
It is insane that we exist, thatwe are alive, that we are
recording podcasts.
We are responding to emails.
We are in society, but it'sincredible at the same time too.
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It's insane.
Yes, but it's also incredible.
So think about that when you'restressing out about all the
little things, thinking about,Oh gosh, well, is this person
judging me?
Oh, oh my God.
Did, did my friend overthinkwhat I said?
Oh, did that come off the wrongway?
Oh, did I, did I mess up anemail because I misspelled this
word?
I'm None of that matters.
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Protect your peace.
Don't hide.
Don't go away.
Don't shut down.
Don't turn off.
No, no, no.
Protect your peace so you canexperience this insanely
incredible, beautiful life thatwe get to do.
Told you I was going to getexistential today.
Told you guys.
Mmm.
So with the existential thoughtsand all of this, like it's, it's
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also kind of helped me with whatI was talking about earlier with
the sitting in the knowing andthe allowing that it's going to
happen.
You're doing the work, you'remaking the gains towards what,
towards the thing.
So sit with that.
Don't let it stress you out.
Cause for me, it distracted meand took me out of the focus on
the pod and the content and allthe other goals and things that
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I got to do.
And sometimes we just need thatreminder to get out of our own
head.
Oh, man, I need that reminderoften.
But, you know, that's okay.
Like, this is part of who I am.
I'm always in my head.
I always got a thousand thoughtsrunning through my head any
given moment.
But over the years I've learnedhow to kind of manage it.
So that's, that's the joy.
That's the beauty.
So I embrace my, myimperfections and I, I find
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their value and strength.
And I use them to my advantage.
And now I'm at a point that whenI falter with that, well, I can
get back up a little bitquicker.
Or I can at least recognize,Ugh, I'm not doing so hot.
Let me just take a beat.
Let me rest.
And I say this to say, I'm notalways the best at that.
Especially with the rest thing.
I'm still working on that.
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But I've gotten a lot better.
So remember, protect your peace.
We're here for a speck of time.
But don't let that make you feelsmall.
Don't let that make you feel, ohmy gosh, all this pressure,
stress, anxiety that life isclosing in on you.
Absolutely not.
I want you to actually think thecomplete opposite.
I want you to think big.
Because we're small, it means tolive loud.
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It means to live big, to exist,and that's what I want to end
you on today.
So, I hope you enjoyed today'sepisode.
I feel like myself again, justneed a little recheck, so to
speak, um, and I'm really happyyou're here.
I hope you can be reminded thatyour existence is incredible.
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Sure, maybe a little insane, butabsolutely incredible.
And it is, it is your right toprotect your peace and to
experience life and live life toits fullest.
And to live it unabashedly andlive it confidently and go after
whatever it is your heart'sdesire.
I'm not trying to sound like aHallmark card.
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It just is what it is, babe.
So on that note, thank you somuch.
Stay tuned for next week.
We will have a Sherry's on thepodcast again, for the Atlanta
episode.
And I say this to say, assumingthat we are still recording this
weekend, in case somethinghappens, uh, but that is the
plan.
And, uh, if you're not doing soalready, I know I've mentioned
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my social media several times inthis week's episode, but.
Check me out on Instagram at indot between Pod and Elizabeth
Cheney.
Please follow up both accounts.
You can follow me on TikTok andYouTube at the Between podcast.
And if you are like, wait, whatwere all those things again, you
can just go to in between.co,the website and you can find all
(34:56):
my links there as well.
So thank you all for being here.
Thank you all for existing.
I love you.
I hope you love yourself.
You better.
If not, well, we'll work onthat.
And I will see you next week onan all new in between.
Until then I'm Elizabeth.
Bye.
Hello, hello, hello.
Welcome back to another episodeof the In Between Podcast.
I'm your host, Elizabeth Cheney,and I hope you all are doing
fabulous.
Uh, before we get into today'sepisode, I just want to say,
hey, Last week's episode wasvery short.
I apologize.
I'm not gonna lie, your girl waskind of in a little bit of a rut
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creatively.
Uh, and I just had quickupdates.
But don't worry, your girl isback with a vengeance this week,
and I've got a whole list ofthings to talk about.
Because I've been introspectinI've been marinatin on some
existential thoughts.
It's getting a littlephilosophical over here.
Ooh, my favorite thing to do.
I'm just kidding.
Well, not really.
It is something I like to do,but I have a lot of favorite
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things I like to do.
Anywho, but before we get intoall of that, just want to say I
can't believe it is Junesomething or another.
What is it?
The second week of June?
And I have not been to a poolyet.
I have not been by any kind ofbody of water, not even a
bathtub if I'm going to becompletely honest with you
because our apartment only has ashower and yes, it kills me.
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Oh, it kills me.
Uh, but I haven't been to apool.
I haven't been to the lake.
Part of that is because, well,I, uh, am not looking forward to
facing that.
I know that's going to beemotional, so one might argue
I've been putting it off.
But also, I've been really busy,so there's that.
And then third, I've not been tothe ocean, but that's not
necessarily easily available.
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Um, but, hopefully we'll get tothe lake here soon, and I will
just deal with that emotionalmess as it hits and as it comes.
Uh, I know it's going to be goodand healing, but, you know.
It is what it is, which I saythis and I'm like, Oh, it makes
me wish I had a new puppy, butwe're waiting on getting a house
to do that.
And I was going to update youall on the housing front.
(01:56):
There is no updates to be had.
It's just one of those things.
It's one of those things.
Not let it bother me.
I mean, Sure, it bothers me, butI'm not letting it take me down.
I'm just like, it's gonnahappen.
It's gonna happen.
Reminding myself that things canchange at the drop of a hat,
just like the house that we lostthat we were putting an offer on
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a few months ago.
That's okay.
That is okay.
Um, Anywho, your girl needs toget by some water.
Your girl needs to get by somebody of water.
Maybe I will this weekend.
We talked about going to thelake this weekend for Father's
Day, so maybe we will, maybe wewon't.
But we probably will, let's bereal.
Uh, another thing to, to, tobring to the podcast, cause here
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is all my truths, truths.
Um, let me tell you something.
My hips are really hurting.
So I'm 33, you know that jokethat everything starts to crick
crack, snap crackle pop kind ofthing when you turn, when you
turn 30?
You know, 30 is when I kind ofstarted my fitness routine.
(03:03):
That's when I healed.
Excuse me, let me, let me justcheck myself.
Not when I healed my shoulder,but when we finally found out, I
don't know, four or five yearslater, what was going on with my
shoulder, which put me inanother round of physical
therapy, which then led me to myfitness routine.
But anywho, so 30, I was workingon my body, my physical health,
my mental health, because we allknow that was the year that
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you're a girl in a rock bottom.
Uh, I sing about that because,well, you know, it was a thing.
You listen to the podcast.
If you're new here, we'll golisten back to Opta, I probably
should post some of thoseepisodes, but I feel like I talk
about it all the time Anyways, Iramble and I digress hips, so
(03:47):
It's not that I think oh, Iturned 33 and my hips have just
gone out on me But I am nowrealizing that whole slogan
Slogan that's hilarious thatwhole phrase that whole joke
that your body just starts to Idon't know Sabotage you, starts
to go against you.
It's, I'm starting to notice it.
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And it's not that I'm in chronicpain, I already have that
because of my car accidentinjuries.
But it's more, if I don'tstretch really, really hard
after a workout, I will not beable to walk, not even the next
day, I mean like within an hourand a half.
So my hips are so tight.
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I don't even know if I've evershared this on the podcast, but
I did this really Stupid thingon my, my bachelorette.
I was a COVID bachelorette.
We had a party bus because wecouldn't do anything.
So me and my few of my friends,we ran to party bus, drive
around.
And that's where we basicallygot hoot wild.
I don't even know if hoot wildis the thing.
I was gonna say hootin andhollerin and it came out hoot
(04:50):
wild.
Anyways, there she goes again,mixing up her words and her
phrases.
Uh, but I, I, I love her.
I went to, well, let me firstsay I was not sober, all right?
I was not sober.
I was a little intoxicated, ifyou will.
And I thought, oh, I've beenstretching and doing yoga.
Maybe I can do a split.
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So I swung from the rafters, therafters, like the, like the bars
from the ceiling of the bus andlike jumped, plopped myself into
a split.
Well, the fun fact is well, Icouldn't do a split.
Drunk Liz, she thought she coulddo a split.
Reality Liz, not necessarily.
So I kind of fucked some shit upin my hip from that and I think
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that is actually what's drivinga lot of this hip pain because
I'm trying to really work on mymobility and it's like I think
I'm making progress, but it'slike highlighting.
Oh girl your hips are tight So Iknow I just kind of went off
about hip shit.
This is your PSA for all mylisteners It doesn't matter if
you're 21 if you're 27 if you're35 if you're 44 if you're 52 if
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you're 18 Stretch this is yourreminder to stretch your body is
gonna.
Thank you for later My goodness.
So, uh, yeah.
And I say all this because likemy left hip is hurting so bad
because of course I've spent somuch effort on the right hip
trying to fix it from my stupidsplit.
I've been ignoring the needs ofthe left.
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And now because everything'slike crisscross applesauce back
there, like I mean, I don'treally know the anatomy, but the
way my physical therapistexplained to me, it's like lots
of crisscross tendons.
I don't know.
Maybe I'm an idiot.
So for y'all listening, if youare a physical therapist or in
the medical field and you knowwhat the hell I'm talking about
and I just butcher that, well, Iam not.
Doctor or a physical therapistmyself, so I don't know but
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regardless.
Let's just go with this wholecrisscross applesauce tendons
thing The left side is nowhurting so now I'm like oh Liz
you You silly goose.
Why didn't you work on that sidewhen you're working on the right
side?
Huh, so we're just over heretrying to Get our body right.
And we haven't even had kidsyet.
So that is great.
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That's fun.
Oh boy.
Uh, you know, last week, one ofthe things I did update you on
was Queen Charlotte.
I started that.
I don't even know if I mentionedthis, but I had like 30 minutes
left to finish.
I finally finished the last 30minutes, like literally last
night.
Oh my.
I, when I tell you that showemotionally wrecked me, I.
(07:31):
I was even surprised by how loudI was sobbing.
Like, I was alone, Stan was offwith his buddies, and I was
thinking to myself, Oh my God,if my neighbors are listening
right now, they can probablyhear me whine, because it's not
like these walls are very, very,very thick.
And I am just like, audiblylike, Huh, huh, oh, oh, this is
(07:51):
so beautiful, oh my God.
Oh my gosh, that show, Fuck meup emotionally in the best way
and I don't even mean like oh Somuch heartbreak like in the best
way.
I know I mean like all that wasso good That was so freaking
warm and feel good and all thefeelings and all the warm
fuzzies And oh, I love love andthat was beautiful and there's
(08:15):
such good actors.
That's like how I felt.
Oh My god, so if you havewatched Queen Charlotte We need
to talk now because I need tolike, I need to express, I need
to express my thoughts on thematter with somebody who's
watched it because, oh my gosh,chef's kiss.
I think that was, not eventhink, that was better than
Bridgerton.
(08:35):
No hate, no shade of Bridgerton,but Queen Charlotte is so
beautiful, so raw, so real.
It tackles mental health in away that I haven't seen on any
kind of mainstream media,mainstream media.
Okay, when I say mainstream, Idon't necessarily mean those
indie films either, okay, sodon't come at me.
But, mm, mm, mm, God, that wasso good.
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And speaking of emotionallywrecked, Inside Out 2 comes out
this week.
I'm gonna go see it.
First off, love a good Pixarmovie.
Secondly, If you've seen InsideOut, then you know what I mean
by that movie emotionallywrecking you and that might have
emotionally wrecked you kind ofin the Oh my god, this was hard
and deep way.
Woo! If you haven't seen InsideOut, I'm just gonna say feelings
(09:17):
developing feelings aka complexfeelings.
You know what?
I'm definitely going to make mykids watch that movie through
puberty.
My, the kids I don't have.
But I will have one day and whenthey get to that point like all
right time for your lesson timeto watch inside Out take notes
everybody But yeah, I'm ready tosee inside out too.
I think they introduce a few newemotions one of them being
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anxiety.
So oh But that's gonna hit meright in the feels and maybe
feel a little too Real if youknow what I mean, but that's
okay.
I am ready for it So there'sthat Another thing is if you've
been following me on socialmedia, because I am assuming all
of you do.
If not, what have you been doingwith your life?
Get your ass on your socialmedia.
(10:00):
Follow me right now.
Um, but my girl Sherry's was intown this weekend.
She came to visit me.
She was a podcast friend.
I met online and she's inBaltimore.
She came down to visit.
I showed her.
I showed her shoulder.
Yay.
I don't know why I was about tolike.
The A.
Does that even sound funny whenit comes out of my mouth?
I was about to show herHotlanta, which I did tell her
we don't call it Hotlanta, butlike, surprisingly, a lot of the
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places we went to eat, they hadlike a Hotlanta drink or dish.
So I'm like, hmm, is Hotlantalike a, do people say that now?
Cause I thought that was like,you don't say Hotlanta.
Anyways, I digress.
We were going to record anepisode together because as you
do in person, and, um, Wepartied a little too hard.
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For any of my locals, we went tothe Claremont Lounge, which is
quite a novelty experience.
I will say that.
Just Google it.
And you might only be able toGoogle it if you're over the age
of 21.
But it's a strip club here inAtlanta.
It's, when I say it's wild, it'snot necessarily like, wow, this
is the most insane shithappening, but I mean, it is,
(11:04):
it's wild.
Wild, like it's just not yourstereotypical strippers.
That's all I'm going to say.
Um, like there's one woman who'sgot to be like in her late 70s,
if not early 80s, and she isamazing.
Her name is Blondie and Iactually finally got to see her
perform.
She is like known in the city.
Anyways, we're going to get intoall of our adventures and all of
the fun.
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just the fun we had this wholeweekend.
But the day we're going torecord on Sunday and we woke up
and I was like, girl, my voiceis like gone.
You honestly might be able tokind of hear it now.
I was like, we can't record thisepisode because I'm be like, you
know, when we talk.
So, I will save all of thegiggles and fun and adventures
that we got into, uh, for laterbecause we are going to record
(11:46):
our Atlanta recap episode laterthis week, so that will come out
next week.
then, uh, Steph Laffey, uh, uh,came on the podcast again.
If you remember, she was fromthe Introverted podcast.
Stay Introverted.
Her and I did a solo episode afew weeks ago, recorded one, so
she's going to be coming on inthe next few weeks.
And I'm trying to work out a fewother guests, so stay tuned,
(12:09):
stay tuned.
But I just want to say, man,there is nothing like, ah, just
giggling with a girlfriend.
Just even a friend isn't a biggirlfriend, but just, I don't
know, you know when you meetpeople, this was our first time
meeting in person, right?
And we've talked on the phonemany, many times.
Like, we're friends.
But we finally got to meet andwe just clicked and it was so it
(12:31):
was so awesome.
And let me tell you guys, likemy, I giggled and laughed so
hard this weekend.
I mean, who knows how many timesI almost peed my pants?
If I probably did pee my pantsto some extent, I could just be
like that.
And, uh, you know, I've been alittle bit in a creative funk
lately.
I think that's kind of why Ididn't feel really myself
completely on last week'sepisode.
(12:51):
And.
I did a TikTok about thisearlier this week.
So if you're not following me onTikTok, here's another subtle
reminder, aka not so subtle, gofollow me.
Uh, but it was about being acreative writer and like things
that have been helping me getout of it.
And one of which was, you know,hanging out with Cher.
Hanging out with her and beingable to talk to her.
This is nothing against my otherfriends.
I love my friends and my otherfriends do help me with the
(13:13):
podcast.
Help me get out of my head,whatever, whatever.
But there is something to sayabout talking to your creative
friends, like your friends whoare pursuing something similar,
whether it's a podcast, whetherit's being a content creator, a
vlogger, because you can, it'snot even just about running
ideas off each other, but likeyou are going to be a little bit
more well versed with what'strending or what tools you're
(13:34):
using and things like that.
So.
I don't know.
It really, really, really helpedkind of take me out of the hole
that I was, I was in.
I didn't even realize I was, Iwas in a hole if I'm being
honest with you.
Um, but I just want to shout outto share and, and shout out to
your creative friends.
Like lean on them when you're inyour creative ruts because it's
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not like we talked aboutanything that I didn't already
know or believe in, but it waslike the reminder I needed.
so much.
And sometimes you just, you needsomeone to get you out of your
head.
So, there's that.
Can't wait for that episode.
I know it's going to be great.
Uh, let's see what else.
Ooh.
Haven't planned anything forNorway yet.
Oops.
(14:19):
I'm going to, eventually.
But, uh, I, yeah, just haven'tdone it yet.
So, are we still going to go?
Yes, I hope.
But, Your girl needs to researcha little bit more because I
honestly have no idea what I'mdoing with this.
Um, but that's okay because I'msure it'll be great no matter
what.
Ah! Um, okay, so let's get alittle existential.
(14:44):
Womp, womp, womp, womp.
Really weird sound effect forthat statement.
But, let's get a littleexistential.
So, I think I mentioned this alittle bit last week about
protecting my peace and wantingto, uh, What's the word I'm
looking for?
Like, I'm being more mindful ofthings that, Take away that
piece.
Give me a little bit ofnegativity.
(15:06):
Maybe it's like intrusivethoughts.
Maybe they, I don't know, theyjust stress me out.
And it doesn't necessarily haveto, it's not like one thing in
particular I'm talking about,but I'm just in this evolution
of me, Elizabeth Cheney, uh, inself improvement, self
development.
I am, I'm being very cognizantand mindful of things that, ooh,
Why does this not make me feel100 percent or make me feel
(15:29):
good?
Like, like, why does this makeme feel in any way less than?
That's what I'm being very, verymindful of.
And with that, in the past week,I've just really thinking,
introspecting, marinating onthis.
Hanging out with Cher thisweekend helped.
Like I said, that kind of tookme out of the creative rut I was
feeling, And that goes intoprotecting my peace because even
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though I'm talking aboutstressors or things that may
take away my, my self worth inany capacity, but protecting my
peace also means anxiety, stressthat shouldn't be there.
And I was getting in a creativerut because I think I was like
compounding stress.
So I have a lot of balls in theair, a lot of things that I
can't like quite talk aboutright now that I will here in
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due time.
You know, it's fine, I've gottenreally good at juggling the
different balls, but sometimesmaybe I've worked really well on
not getting stressed out orhaving negative thought pattern
about this one topic or this onething in my life, but then,
because maybe something hasn'tquite worked out yet, maybe I'm
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in a more stressful period.
Maybe there's a lot of shitgoing on at work.
I'll take that stress I wouldnormally put towards that thing
and I put it towards somethingelse.
So we're working on that again,being very mindful and cognizant
of our inner narrative and ourpeace.
Yes.
So with that said, one of thethings that I was in the
creative rut about was, I wascompounding my stress in what
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was really like a 3 in a scaleof 1 to 15.
Over time, it starts compoundingto like a level 12, level 15.
And then I just start spiraling.
And what really is not a bigdeal?
And, you know, you can do it inyour pastime, like your free
time, whatever.
Oh man, it gets me, gets mestunted and then I start
thinking about how I haven'tposted content or I should be
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posting more content becausethat's growth, baby, that's
growth, being consistent isgrowth and it's like, I get
immobilized.
I know part of this is ADHD andthat's been like a big, big
thing that I've been working onthe past year plus.
Um, and again, like I, sometimesI'm like, I am just giving all
my thoughts and feelings andemotions on this podcast, but
you know what, I know itresonates with some people and
also, you know, It's good totalk about this shit because we
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realize we're not all alone.
And also, it is my podcast.
Um, but anyways, It's funny, Isay all of this besides just
sharing my shit, but too, Ialways talk about starting.
Starting is the hardest part.
Get out of your own way.
Just do it.
Just record the episode.
Paint the picture.
Whatever.
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I was having the same problemwith posting content, filming
content, even guys.
I have so many funny, well, Ithink they're funny, funny ideas
for videos, maybe more deep,more like self love,
introspective, give you thefeels kind of ideas for videos
and isn't I truly think they'regood.
(18:22):
And it's like, why can I notfilm them?
You get stunted, right?
So there's this quote, I'm a, Isubscribed to this newsletter by
James Clear who is the author ofAtomic Habits.
If you haven't read that book, Ihighly recommend, your girl
should probably actually readthat book herself, like reread
it again, cause I have read it,but he said, there is no right
time, but right now is the besttime.
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There is no right time, butright now is the best time.
It, feeds the mindset to start.
So getting out of my creativefunk this weekend, having my
friend take me out and remindme, Lizzie, why are you letting
these things compound and botheryou?
Get out of your own head andjust know that it's going to
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work out because you are makingthe efforts to get yourself out
of this situation, to make thischange in your life, to do these
things.
Don't stress out about nothappening yet.
Um, just know that it's going tohappen and sit in that allowing,
sit in the feeling that this isnot forever.
This is, this chapter is aboutto end.
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You are moving forward from thisone thing, from this other
thing.
Basically zoom out.
And it got me thinking, Ooh, Idid something that I try not to
forget about or try to losesight of.
Okay.
Um, but because I was lettingall this other stress take over
and manage my attention andmanage my creativity, kind of
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mentally blocked me from, fromstarting from doing whatever it
is, I'd lost track of my why andit was becoming a chore in my
head.
And granted we're talking likevery short windows of time here.
For all I know, this is still merecovering from almost burning
myself out in April.
Going back to my why.
It was the last step I needed inthe let's get out of the
(20:08):
creative rut hole.
Get out of the creative rutbubble.
So find your community, yourcreative community.
Maybe you don't know anybodydirectly like in your life
personally that you see.
Even if you're not friends inperson, you can meet people
online to be frank with you.
Most, if not all of my creative,I say that in quotes friends
because I have creative friends,but I mean like friends who are
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actively pursuing some kind ofcareer as a creator, whether
it's a podcaster, a vlogger, anactor, a singer, whatever the
case may be, a performer.
Most of them came from theinternet.
Most of them I found onInstagram or TikTok, social
media, and we just connected.
Find your people, they arethere, I promise.
And what's even better, arethese people are like, within
your vicinity, like, your samelevel, so you get to not just
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come up together, but you canwork out all those, I don't
know, intrusive thoughts,negative thought patterns, all
of the things together.
I don't know if you rememberthis, but back, I think it was
toward the end of last year, um,When Joshua Darin was on, like
it was the last episode he wason, we talked about this.
Like find your neighborhood.
You don't want to be a king inthe castle.
You don't want to be a queen ofthe castle.
You want to be with yourneighbors in coming up the
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ladder because the top islonely.
Community is everything.
Two, be mindful of thecompounding stress.
Really check in with yourself.
If you're finding yourselfmentally blocked, you're not,
um, something is not meshingwell within yourself.
Like, you know, you're off.
Take note of that.
And does it really require thatlevel of stress?
(21:37):
Is it really a 15 or is it morelike a 2?
And, if the stress is comingfrom a place of you trying to
make changes, you're trying tolike, for us, trying to buy a
house, and not being bogged downwith the apartment and still
being here and, and, you know,wanting a puppy and knowing I
can't get the puppy because Ihave this compounding stress
because this apartment and Ilove a house and I can't find a
house and the interest rates areso high and oh la la la la la oh
my god oh my god.
(21:58):
Oh my god.
Sit in the knowing in theallowing that I will find a
house.
I'm going to find a house.
We got a brand new realtor andshe's badass and I love her.
She is exactly what I waslooking for to trust.
It's going to work out in theright timing.
And the timing that's best forme because there's a few other
things that I'm trying to get myshit together with, so to speak.
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And I, to be honest, would kindof like them to work out before
the house works out.
And again, when these things dowork out, I will be sharing all
of that on the podcast.
Do not worry.
Um, but it's still like holdingspace for, okay, these things
haven't happened yet.
These changes haven't happenedyet, but they're going to.
And I'm making efforts to thosechanges.
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I am taking actions to get mecloser to those resolutions, to
those conclusions, to the finishline, so to speak.
And three, remember your why.
Why do you want to be a contentcreator?
Why do you want to be apodcaster?
Why do you want to be aperformer?
Why do you want to be an actor?
Everyone has different reasons.
Even if your reason is just,well, I'm a skincare junkie and
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I love sharing all of thatinformation with people because
it's a crazy ass world out thereand I love connecting with
people and giving them part ofthe recommendations that I think
are really going to help them.
Wow.
That was a very oddly specificexample, but you get my point.
You get my point.
Go back to the why.
So for me, my why was, Well, Ienjoy doing this.
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It's like my creative outlet andI love connecting with people.
When I get messages from you allthat, that an episode resonated,
it was exactly the message youneeded to hear that week.
Ooh, it made you giggle orwhatever the case may be.
That brings me so much joy andthat, that revalidates the why.
This is why I do it.
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I want to entertain.
I want to empower.
But it's, it's easy to getbogged down and lose sight of
that.
Doesn't mean I suck.
Doesn't mean I don't care.
Doesn't mean the passion and thedrive aren't there.
But sometimes we need thatcheck.
So, reach out to your creativefriends.
Find your creative friends oneof my podcast girlies that I'm
friends with, we've been talkingabout doing kind of some
Friendship Siri episodes.
(24:03):
Uh, not just about makingfriends as an adult, but like
you know, friend breakups,friend breaks, things like that.
And I wouldn't mind going into alittle bit of like how you find
your, communities.
Like, whether it's online, causeI don't know.
Sometimes you can't meet people.
Cool.
It's hard out there.
I'm busy.
I'm so damn busy.
How am I meeting people?
Online.
I'm telling you.
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Oh my gosh.
And um, on these notes ofprotecting our peace, Checking
in with yourself, going back toyour why, you know, getting out
of your ruts.
For me it was creative.
I want to zoom out and just geta little existential because I
do enjoy introspecting.
I do enjoy a good existentialmoment to conversation.
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There is this documentary onNetflix called A Trip to
Infinity, which, um, I highlyrecommend you watch it.
I'm obsessed.
I've watched it like four times,but it talks about the concept
of infinity, from a scientific,mathematical perspective, and
then it kind of segues intoinfinity, In space, like an
infinite universe.
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And then it goes into thisexistential philosophical
element of infinity.
Ooh, that's where like, mmm, Iwas just munching on that
information so hard, I loved it.
Like, to me, that documentary isthe intersection of my faith,
like what I believe spiritually,and science.
Hopefully you can chew on that.
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Highly recommend you watch it.
Um, it is very deep.
It is very philosophical.
I think anybody from anyreligious background would get
something from it.
But, I recently watched it andevery time I watch it, it really
gets me in some kind ofexistential kind of mindset,
which again, I do love.
I love it.
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So if you're ever down to getintrospective, just holler at
your girl because I'm into it.
Like I am that friend.
I can meet somebody at the, youknow, we're at the bar and a
restaurant route together onvacation.
I don't know.
I can meet a complete strangerin like within 10 minutes.
We are introspecting, we aretalking about the meaning of
life and all of those funthings.
So I am that person and I arguethat those people find me.
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And maybe it's just like we findour people, but there we go.
Anyways, on the note, the thingsthat I've been kind of
marinating on and I think I'vebeen introspective because of
the creative rut I've been in.
And here lately I've just beenthinking about like creating
meaning, and I, I do think itgoes into everything I'm talking
about today because I'mprotecting my peace.
I actually realized today intherapy that I think that is
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coming from a place of me tryingto heal my child wounds.
of this, this inferior feelingthat I don't belong.
Don't worry guys.
We just started unpacking thatin therapy and I told my
therapist, I was like, you know,uh, I plan on talking about this
on my podcast eventually.
So childhood traumas and childwounds.
They'll be coming to you.
I don't know, maybe a few weeks,maybe months.
We'll just see how that journeytakes us.
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but it all ties into protectingmy peace being.
Not even like the best versionof myself, but like the best
mental version of myself.
I want to be happy because Weare here for a speck.
All right, our existence is aspeck the reason I brought that
infinity documentary because itkind of talks about ideologies
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these these ideas and And I'dalready started to feel this way
in my own self improvement, myself development journey, but
it's like it being the universe,it being the world, it being
whatever you want it to be, butit being so vast, so big, so
infinite that you are so small,but that's what makes you big.
(27:45):
And I'm really, really thinkingabout that and creating meaning
I've said this before, but like,I'm an existentialist.
Like I believe I put my purposein life.
It's not nihilistic necessarilybecause I, it's not that I.
Is it fate?
I have no idea.
All I know is I have my birthchart read several times and
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each time it's read I'm like,how do you know this shit about
me?
These are weirdly specificdetails.
So that's all I'm going to sayon that matter.
However, I do think that we havethe ability to choose.
Maybe it's more like, here's allthe infinite versions of how
your life could go based onchoice and they all have a path,
but you are still in theconductor seat.
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Does that make sense?
So, we are here for a speck oftime.
I have been really mindful ofthat and I'm not scared of death
in that sense of like, oh, I'mnot going to be able to
accomplish everything that Iwant to accomplish.
If I take that mindset, yeah,I'm probably not.
Instead of getting stressed outabout my speck of existence, I
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view it as, ooh, I am going totry everything that I can to
create the life that I want.
Because who says I can't?
Because I'm creating thismeaning in life.
Why get bogged down by stress?
Unnecessary stress?
Life is hard.
We're gonna have hardships.
But that is part of the beauty.
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The grief, like losing Loon, thefucking hardest thing I have
ever experienced.
in terms of emotional emptiness.
I mean, it's different than thedepression, but you know,
actually I wouldn't want tocompare because it's so
different, but I recognize thatpain is beauty at its core
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because of the love and theconnection that I had with her.
So I create meaning, I moveforward in life and try to
pursue everything, building thiscrazy, like, I don't know,
career with the podcast andbeing mindful of anything that
takes away from my self worth,my positivity, my, my success,
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because I'm only here for alittle bit of time.
And I want to experience as muchas I can.
I don't want to get bogged downby all the bullshit because
there's so much bullshit andthis is not me saying that I'm
turning an ignorant ear,ignorant eye to all the shit
going on in the world, but it'salso me saying I also have to
hold space for experiencinglife.
I think we lose sight on howspecial it is that we get to
(30:15):
experience life and I'm nottrying to be gaslighting cause
we are all going through someshit.
Trust me.
I know.
I've been through some shit, butinstead of letting it take me
down, I'm going to be remindedfor this brief moment of time
that I get to exist in thisinfinite universe, It's not even
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about regrets.
It's just, love me more than theintrusive thought.
I love me more than someoneelse's ego.
I love me more than someoneelse's insecurity.
I can meet people where theyare, I can hold space for them,
but I can also protect myself.
You know, if you think about it,we are these little bitty tiny
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specks in the universe existingon this floating blue rock in
the middle of space.
It's insane.
If you think about it, it'sinsane.
It is insane that we exist, thatwe are alive, that we are
recording podcasts.
We are responding to emails.
We are in society, but it'sincredible at the same time too.
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It's insane.
Yes, but it's also incredible.
So think about that when you'restressing out about all the
little things, thinking about,Oh gosh, well, is this person
judging me?
Oh, oh my God.
Did, did my friend overthinkwhat I said?
Oh, did that come off the wrongway?
Oh, did I, did I mess up anemail because I misspelled this
word?
I'm None of that matters.
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Protect your peace.
Don't hide.
Don't go away.
Don't shut down.
Don't turn off.
No, no, no.
Protect your peace so you canexperience this insanely
incredible, beautiful life thatwe get to do.
Told you I was going to getexistential today.
Told you guys.
Mmm.
So with the existential thoughtsand all of this, like it's, it's
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also kind of helped me with whatI was talking about earlier with
the sitting in the knowing andthe allowing that it's going to
happen.
You're doing the work, you'remaking the gains towards what,
towards the thing.
So sit with that.
Don't let it stress you out.
Cause for me, it distracted meand took me out of the focus on
the pod and the content and allthe other goals and things that
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I got to do.
And sometimes we just need thatreminder to get out of our own
head.
Oh, man, I need that reminderoften.
But, you know, that's okay.
Like, this is part of who I am.
I'm always in my head.
I always got a thousand thoughtsrunning through my head any
given moment.
But over the years I've learnedhow to kind of manage it.
So that's, that's the joy.
That's the beauty.
So I embrace my, myimperfections and I, I find
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their value and strength.
And I use them to my advantage.
And now I'm at a point that whenI falter with that, well, I can
get back up a little bitquicker.
Or I can at least recognize,Ugh, I'm not doing so hot.
Let me just take a beat.
Let me rest.
And I say this to say, I'm notalways the best at that.
Especially with the rest thing.
I'm still working on that.
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But I've gotten a lot better.
So remember, protect your peace.
We're here for a speck of time.
But don't let that make you feelsmall.
Don't let that make you feel, ohmy gosh, all this pressure,
stress, anxiety that life isclosing in on you.
Absolutely not.
I want you to actually think thecomplete opposite.
I want you to think big.
Because we're small, it means tolive loud.
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It means to live big, to exist,and that's what I want to end
you on today.
So, I hope you enjoyed today'sepisode.
I feel like myself again, justneed a little recheck, so to
speak, um, and I'm really happyyou're here.
I hope you can be reminded thatyour existence is incredible.
(33:55):
Sure, maybe a little insane, butabsolutely incredible.
And it is, it is your right toprotect your peace and to
experience life and live life toits fullest.
And to live it unabashedly andlive it confidently and go after
whatever it is your heart'sdesire.
I'm not trying to sound like aHallmark card.
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It just is what it is, babe.
So on that note, thank you somuch.
Stay tuned for next week.
We will have a Sherry's on thepodcast again, for the Atlanta
episode.
And I say this to say, assumingthat we are still recording this
weekend, in case somethinghappens, uh, but that is the
plan.
And, uh, if you're not doing soalready, I know I've mentioned
(34:36):
my social media several times inthis week's episode, but.
Check me out on Instagram at indot between Pod and Elizabeth
Cheney.
Please follow up both accounts.
You can follow me on TikTok andYouTube at the Between podcast.
And if you are like, wait, whatwere all those things again, you
can just go to in between.co,the website and you can find all
(34:56):
my links there as well.
So thank you all for being here.
Thank you all for existing.
I love you.
I hope you love yourself.
You better.
If not, well, we'll work onthat.
And I will see you next week onan all new in between.
Until then I'm Elizabeth.
Bye.
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