September 25, 2024 • 34 mins
I’m back this week taking you through the chaos of the past month and a half. **if you only knew the REAL truth**
Here’s what we’re catching up on!
- Updates on momma Cindy’s hip replacement recovery
- The whirlwind of moving into our new house
- Humorous anecdotes about my excessive wedding registry – I clearly thought I was entertaining an army!
- My fav – the ‘quirks’ of adulting **melts on the floor**
- Hiring someone to quit your job for you, apparently that’s a thing now
More importantly, I delve into advice on letting go of control. YES I KNOW! A triple Taurus giving actual advice on letting go of control. It’s important though.
I also reflect on how to handle overwhelming life changes. Not as much advice on that one because I’m currently navigating that in-between myself. ;) Tune in for a mix of humor, personal experiences, and life lessons as I walk you through my recent hectic but exciting journey.
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RODECaster Pro Multichanne (00:06):
Hey, hey, hey, welcome back to
another episode of the inbetween.
I'm your host, Elizabeth Cheney.
Oh man, it's been a whirlwind.
I feel like the past.
Maybe not quite two months, buta month and a half.
Uh, it's been a minute since youand I, since me and you had a
heart to heart, a one on one.
Uh, but before we go anyfurther, hello to Kelly Mondora,
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last week's guest.
I hope you enjoyed that episodeas much as I did.
She is awesome.
Quite an incredible person, uh,really happy our paths cross.
It was great to interview her.
so yeah, check out her hashtagright in the fight campaign
starting October 1st.
Big shout to Kelly for making iton the podcast, but moving
forward, moving on, moving downthe road, if you will.
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If you're watching this oryou're watching a clip Well, you
wouldn't be watching a clip ifyou're watching this.
You know what?
I just I don't even you knowwhat?
I don't know where I was goingwith that thought.
So we're just gonna stop rightthere I'm just gonna go ahead
and warn you all there may beseveral moments of just utter
chaos utter confusion utter Whatdid she just say and not in like
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a little scandalous, but uh, isshe okay?
Did that make any kind of sense?
Maybe she should get intopolitics.
I'm just kidding, but I'mbummed.
Uh, but if you're watching this,um, you're going to see a very
sterile background.
Uh, that's what I'm jokinglysaying.
All the books, all the art, allthe color is gone.
And I was wearing a white shirtbecause I feel like this is my
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uniform right now.
Everything's packed this andthat.
I don't know where, well, I knowwhere everything is, but it's
just, it's chaos.
We'll get into it.
We'll get into it.
But Um, it's so white, I satdown to get to record and I was
like, Whoa, I, this, I mean,wow.
Okay.
And as I'm like talking, I canactually hear a slight echo.
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So hopefully that doesn'ttranslate too much on the audio.
Uh, didn't realize how much allmy shit buffered the sound.
Go figure.
But, uh, all by background, veryhospital feeling, very, uh,
clean, sterile, opposite of myvibe.
I was like, I need color.
Well, as I am going through allmy clothes, like all five pieces
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that are still here at thisapartment, I'm like, I have
nothing really that I couldthrow on.
So I am wearing my wedding robe.
The really nice robe that Ibought myself on my bridesmaids
on my wedding.
It's a kimono robe.
Kim and Ono.
Kim Ono.
it's called Kim and Ono.
But anyways, I think it's thesesisters, two sisters that own
the brand, and they make reallynice, uh, kimonos and robes.
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So, that is my pop of colortoday, my robe.
So, fun fact, this was part ofthe wedding, so there's a
little, like, history of Liz.
I'm sure you all care so muchabout that.
You know, one day down the road,you're gonna go to Liz Trivia.
They're gonna say, who made herwedding robe?
And you're gonna know theanswer.
I'm just kidding.
I hope that's never a questionon trivia, because that's
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freaking creepy.
But moving on, moving on.
So, it's been a minute.
I feel like so much life hashappened, yet, at the same time,
I have to keep grounding myselfthat, nope, nope, we're taking
one day at a time.
It may feel like a year, butit's really only been a month.
Man, what I would give to beback in NYC.
And yes, I know I owe you all anepisode on that.
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Mama Cindy's doing good afterrecovery, you know, and all the
chaos that has ensued in my lifethe past month and a half.
You know, my mom got surgery inthe process.
It was, uh, her hip replacement.
I think I've talked about thisbefore.
And also don't worry, this isnot a HIPAA breach because she
said I could talk to you aboutit.
Okay.
Okay.
But anyways, she is a trooper.
She's a fighter.
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That's where I get it fromstrength, Cindy, the strength,
but she is recovering reallywell.
And she is hoping to get theother hip done later this year,
like in November.
And the therapist, because likePT comes like the day after you
know, they said, hey, it's alittle ambitious, but we'll see
how today goes and how the restof your therapy goes for the
next 12 weeks or however long itis.
And we'll go from there.
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Well, after the first session,they're like, Cindy, you're
doing so good.
I don't see why you can't getthat hip in November.
So.
Shout out to my mom for being abadass, love you babe, and, uh,
shout out for her recovery goingwell.
So we are aiming for that secondhip and then gosh darn, she's
going to be like a bionic woman.
It's really cool though because,um, my, I've mentioned this
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several times on the podcast, mymom is handicapped and part of
her handicap, like what causesthe handicap, so to speak, Is,
was going to be replaced by thiship replacement.
So, well, it's replaced theright word.
Like, you know what I mean?
Whatever causes the hip, the,the handicap is getting
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replaced.
That is the right word.
Okay.
Someone's going to stopexplaining myself now.
So awkward removes her books andbackground.
And I feel like a fish out ofwater.
I don't even know what to do.
I have a podcast.
I feel like I'm in court.
Court is in session.
God, this robe definitelyactually gives that vibe.
Anyways, Cindy's doing great.
Love that.
I was able to take care of her,get away for a few days.
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things at the house are movingalong splendidly.
When this episode comes out,it'll be the day that our
internet, fingers crossed, isgetting installed.
So, let us hope! That we are, weare rejoicing, we are
celebrating the freaking AT& Tfiber being installed because
there has been the hold up ingetting there and it has not
been fun living in two differentplaces.
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Wait, let me just stop rightthere.
I haven't lived in my home atall.
I've been living in myapartment, but going back and
forth, honestly using my car.
My SUV to take loads over, but Igotta say me and Stan, we've
done some work and we got to getall of our wedding gifts out of
storage, which was likeChristmas all over again.
It was so exciting we just putso much in storage.
I have long forgotten what allwe got.
Plus we haven't used it.
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You know what I mean?
Cause it's been storage.
So getting to, yeah.
Unpack and set up the kitchenwas actually so much fun because
it was all new stuff.
I was like, oh, oh But I willjust pause there and tell you
just some interesting fun factsabout me apparently as I was
registering for these items, sogo any further, we all know that
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I was very depressed in the year2021, 2020, you know, all that
shit I've talked about.
If you're new here, just go backto some episodes or just keep
listening because I'm sure atsome point in the near future
I'll talk about it again.
But anyways, I digress.
We went through our mentalhealth battles.
And even though I did not knowit at the time, when I got
married I was actually verydepressed.
So, I find everything that I'mabout to say very funny.
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Uh, well, funny but also like,we're not gonna say sad, we're
gonna say hopeful.
So even though I wasn't in agreat place, clearly I was
hoping for the best.
So, the amount of serveware, theamount of dishware, if I'm being
honest, the amount of stemwarethat I now own, that is now in
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my home, is Unreal.
It is not okay.
It is, are you birthing an army?
Are you planning to host everysoiree and every party known to
man for the foreseeable future?
I mean, I got I don't even know,like 18 plates, like 18 sets of
your setting plates, likeplates, bowls, silverware, mini
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plates, salad bowls.
Uh, 48 pieces in total ofstemware.
Now granted some of thatincluded a little bit of my own
that I already had, but I mean,I got eight glasses of one wine
glass, eight glasses of another,eight of champagne flutes, and
I'm just like.
Who do I think I am?
Let me ask you guys a question.
How much wine do you think Idrink in a week?
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Actually, let's just stop rightthere.
How much wine do you think Idrink in a month?
I'll tell you right now, maybe aglass, and it's never at my own
apartment.
It's normally out or at afriend's.
So, I, yeah, I don't know.
I just kept opening boxes, andit was more stemware, more
dishware, more serveware, bowls,trays, I don't know.
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Spoons, spatulas, forks, I justIt's, you know what?
All I gotta say is, the barbecueis at the stater's.
I'm hosting everyone, we'regonna have a party.
It's gonna be a great timebecause guess what?
I have all the serveware anddishware to serve you.
To let you eat comfortably.
To give you a great time.
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Yeah, my aunt was joking.
She was like, well, you couldlike gift some of these things
to people since you have so manyand I'm like, I don't even know
who gave me what.
Wouldn't that be just absolutelyhysterically embarrassing?
I'd laugh about it later, butI'd probably want to die if it
actually happened, where I givesomebody, you know, four of
these said 2, 700, 000 glassesof wine I have.
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Glasses of wine?
There's no wine in it.
I don't even know why I saidthat.
Wine?
Glasses?
My god, my brain is goingeverywhere.
But anyway, they get in, they'relike, uh, this looks oddly
familiar.
And then I'm like, hmm, I'mgonna go, I am gonna just slowly
evaporate out of your presence.
I digress.
Wow.
I don't know what it is.
I don't know if it's like theempty space or maybe it's the
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robe, but, or maybe you knowwhat, it's just the fact that I
haven't been here in what feelslike weeks.
It's just nice.
I'm feeling a little hyper.
Last time I felt like this on anepisode, I feel like I was all
over the place making weirdcomments and talking about who,
what, where, when, why, to whatextent.
So we'll see where this goes.
Uh, part of all the crazinessthough, is just the fact that, I
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bought a house and, uh, there'sa lot to be done and a lot to do
and, uh, you know, the biggesttheme in this whole motherfuckin
process that I have learnedother than this is not, uh,
buying a house is not for theweak and buying a house is so
freaking complicated but that'sa whole different conversation
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that I am not smart enough totalk about even though I just
went through it, but let me tellyou.
I don't know if I trust it.
Anyways, I digress.
I digress! The point I was goingto say is one thing that I have
had to just accept and I havechanneled and led this entire
process with is letting go.
(10:19):
I said it, letting go.
And as a triple Taurus, thatfeels like sacrilege, but, You
just gotta let go of control,and you have to ride the wave,
and you have to just let everyother thing pause.
One might call it surviving, andyou know, I too, especially a
year or two ago, would havedefinitely called it surviving.
(10:40):
But it's not surviving, it'shonestly self care.
I said, you know what, I got topause this podcast because why
am I going to force myself tomake content that honestly is
probably going to suck becauseI'm so stressed out and just,
you know, it is what it is.
Try to post content here andthere, but don't worry about the
episodes right now.
The internet, that's been thebiggest thing because that
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really weighed on, well, what dowe do about moving in?
Well, like I speak, how to stayat the apartment cause we got to
work and then this, this, that,that, and it's like, Oh, let go
of control.
We're just going to slowly startto move shit.
And then as I look around and asyou can see, clearly we have
moved some shit.
And you know, we're, we'redonating a lot of furniture
cause we're a lot of it's stuffthat we've had for years, some
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hand me downs, whatever.
And now we're getting our niceadult stuff.
We're getting our grownup stuff.
Cause apparently I'm a grownup,even though like I feel like the
biggest fake out there, man,yeah, I'm like, mom, did you
feel like a grownup when youwere grown up?
You're still a grown up.
And she's like, looks at me likeI'm crazy and I'm like, Alright,
moving on.
But, We have done a lot and I'mproud of us because in the midst
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of all this crazy, I've had babyshowers, I've had bridal
showers, my mom had surgery,work, we're planning this huge
work event, and I'm like, Wow,gosh, I had a bachelorette, I
have another bachelorette thisweekend, yes, hurricane's coming
through and we're going on abachelorette, so that's gonna be
fun, and then I go straight intosaid work meeting, but then
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guess what?
I get to enjoy my home.
yeah, I may not get to enjoy itquite, uh, quite now, once we
get this internet tomorrow.
But I'm gonna get to enjoy it ina week.
And then the real magic gets tohappen.
we get to move in.
We get to live there.
I can tell you, after eachvisit, I feel like the momentum
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and excitement builds.
Every time we take a load to thehouse, do this, do that,
whatever.
It's like, ooh, this is ourhouse, and we have a couch now,
and like a really nice bed, andit's, I'm not going to say it's
starting to come together by anymeans.
No, girl, we got to pay.
We're going to have so muchcolor.
All I got to say is the wholemaximalist style.
That's how ours is going to belike, you're going to walk in
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going, Ooh, nice wallpaper,wall, love, color, love, color,
ceiling.
Yes, yes, yes.
Uh, it's all on my head and onmy Pinterest board, but can't
wait to see how it turns out.
But to reach visit, it's like,It's starting to feel more like
it's ours, more like it's ourhome, more like I want to be
here.
I don't want to be at theapartment.
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I just want to be here.
We've met all of our neighborsand they're so nice and it's so
cool and like you can sense thecommunity and I have been
craving that for so long and Themagic that's going to happen
with the podcast.
Oh, the podcast.
I don't even know what I'm goingto do yet.
Like, do I want some really cooleclectic, not eclectic.
I don't know where I was goingwith that, but some really cool
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bookshelves and things where Ikind of want to do a wallpaper
wall with like a bunch ofdifferent art and then like a
neon sign up my logo.
And now saying that out loud,I'm like, yep, that's it.
You know what?
Not even going to pull that's ajury's not out on that because
she hasn't made a decision.
Court adjourned.
So many exciting things.
And so, in the letting go ofcontrol, I have had to, weirdly
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enough, not worry about thefuture.
Oddly enough, all my racingthoughts, although I am
combating them and dealing withthem, it's just quieting the
noise more than I have in myentire life.
It's telling myself, hey, whyare we concerned that we're
gonna drop the ball?
We don't ever drop the ball.
And I don't mean to say that Ialways freaking do it.
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Sometimes I do fail, but I neverdropped the ball because failing
like whatever the situation isor whatever the failure quote
unquote is, you know, failurecould be just not working out.
You know what I mean?
I deal with it, but I'm never,never on my ass.
I always land on my feet.
I was better myself.
I never dropped the ball.
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So I had to keep Kind ofreframing this like overwhelming
narrative of intrusive thoughtsbecause there was only a
bajillion of them because therewas so many things to do and
there still is, are so manythings to do.
I was just like, mm, man,there's a lot to do, but I'm
going to focus on one thing at atime because I can't do that
because, well, I can't move inquite yet.
Well, I can't do that because Idon't have internet.
(14:56):
Well, I can't do that because Ican't cancel my lease until the
20th.
Well, I can't do that because,well, that hasn't started yet.
What can I do?
And quit worrying about all thethings that still have to get
done but they can't be done atthis moment.
And it's been so freeing, it hasbeen so freeing, it's been so
relaxing, it's been, um,relaxing.
Why the fuck did I use thatword?
(15:18):
Um, hmm, looks like I'm startinga daydream over here.
It has been freeing though.
Maybe I want to say relaxing,it's relaxing for me because
normally I'm used to my brainShe's firing off on all cinders
at every single second of theday, what it feels like, but
she's been doing it and, uh, I'mnot beating myself up.
You know, a little bit earliertoday, actually, I was kind of
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in my head about things causelike I had a moment of peace,
like packed a lot.
Okay, I was going to do this.
I have my plan for the day.
I'd done this for work.
I was going to record this,this, this, and then it kind of
set in like.
How I haven't been as consistentwith the podcast, how I haven't
posted as much as I was gettingreally good at and the cadence
of and this and this and thatand that and and then I had this
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thought like thinking back tolast week's episode with Kelly
when she was talking about Iliosand how she started it and like
you know sometimes you take sixsteps forward or you take one
step forward take six steps backIt's so true, and as I was
thinking about that thismorning, or earlier today,
where, whoo, you know, startingto get a little imposter
syndrome for a moment, because,you know, when my brain's not
stressed about all this moveshit, it's like, what else can
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we feed on to make Elizabethinsecure?
Uh, and that's when, you know,my, my Jiminy Cricket side goes,
uh uh, no, we've done betterhere, don't know why I made him
a, with a British accent, butthere we are.
And so I just, pause and I'mlike, it's okay.
You feel like you're takingsteps back because you haven't
been as consistent, and sure,the engagement, the algorithm,
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these social media apps are madat you, why don't you use us?
yes, But really it's like sevensteps forward because it's this
house, what I've beenmanifesting and hoping and
praying for.
And now it's here and it's likethe foundation, the, the build,
the grounding that I need andI've been craving and to have
this cool ass space that'scompletely my own and huh.
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That is going to be exciting.
And then also to have a placewhere I can invite people as
guests to come if they want to.
You know, if we can't make itsomewhere to a studio or
something, like, it'll be alegit studio home office where I
could invite them in and it'snot weird.
It's not cramped.
It's not, where are you going tosit?
You want to sit on the floor?
So, I don't know what's going onin your life, but I'm sure we
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all have our own can ofoverwhelming worms.
And my advice, unsolicitedadvice at that I guess, if
you're in a situation of justoh, there's so much to do, what
do I do, oh my gosh, oh my gosh,oh my gosh, maybe you just feel
anxious in general.
Work on letting go of controland reminding yourself it's all
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gonna work out, I always get itdone.
What can I focus on right thismoment?
If it helps, make a list of allthe things you've got to do, but
then like prioritize what's themost important thing and then
block everything out.
Make a new list if you have to.
That's what I did.
I like made a list of everythingso I felt good getting it out of
my head, like better, morecomfortable, more comfortable
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with myself.
And then I made a list of thethings that are most important.
And then each day I have justpulled apart from the original
initial list, making thepriorities of the day.
And then sometimes I'm like, youknow what, this requires too
much bandwidth for me.
This needs to go back on thelist, to deal with like once we
kind of get more settled in thehouse.
And that's okay.
And so, really, the biggestdifference I think is, is just
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reminding myself, hey, you gotthis.
It's okay, you don't have to befreaking out, worrying about
every single nickel, dime,penny.
Like in your head, you're gonnafigure it all out.
You always do.
You need to trust yourself more.
I think it comes down to thatbecause as much work and, you
know, progress as I've made onmyself, I think there's one
intrusive thought that I, Idon't really think I've really
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combated too much, which is thatyou gotta get all done.
Oh, you're stressed.
You gotta get all done.
If it's not gonna get done.
And I never, like, interjectedthat thought to be like, Mmm,
but you always get it done, sowhy are we so stressed?
Life would feel so much betterif you weren't stressed about
stupid shit that you always getdone anyway.
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And I've just kind of adoptedthat and it's been thriving, so.
She says that with a mechanicallaugh.
I have a migraine.
I have a, I've had a migrainefor four days now.
Um, I think it's like lack ofsleep.
I had a global entry interviewat 6 30 in the morning, Monday,
I scheduled it that early.
So that is me, myself and I, I'mthe only problem for that.
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this was like months ago and Imean this appointment cause like
that's how far in advance youget through this.
And I woke up at five 30 and Iwas like, absolutely not.
Absolutely not.
Absolutely not.
We are going back to bed.
I cannot function.
Like I don't even think I'd beable to drive at that point.
I was so exhausted.
I think collectively the pastmonth and a half I've, I've
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gotten, I don't know, three fullnights worth of sleep.
As you can see these beautifulbags and yes, you know, this is
the real authentic me.
I'm not even going to like hideit with makeup.
Also I keep my kimono, mykimono, whatever the heck it's
called.
Keeps getting caught in thestupid.
Handle, so excuse me if I looklike, awkward.
Another thing I can't wait tohave with the podcast, like
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cool, cute little chairs thatalso don't like, you know.
If you're listening and notwatching this, you're like, what
is she having a seizure rightnow?
What is happening?
Don't worry.
We're not, we're good.
We're healthy ish.
Um, we're doing good.
but that is essentially a 22minute spiel of what's been
going on in my life.
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Where have I been mentally andhow am I doing?
So we're surviving, we're selfcaring, we are letting go of
things that we can't control andwe are not worrying about
getting everything done rightthis moment.
Oh man, maybe I'm just burnt outtoo.
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Like today I was talking to oneof my coworkers and I was like,
you know, I don't even think I'moverwhelmed.
I think I'm past that.
I think I'm just.
Burnout.
But, burnout also, I don't know.
What is burnout?
Like, I'm talking like I frickinknow these things like I'm a
psychologist.
Not that burnout is an actual,like, psychological term.
But, uh, you know, I, I thinkit's exhaustion, but also I
think it's just, you arefocusing on what you have to
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focus on, prioritizing what youneed to prioritize,
compartmentalizing what youmight need to compartmentalize,
and it's going to be fine.
It's going to be great.
even if I had that one lapsemoment earlier today where I was
like, I'm a failure and thatposted a lot of content,
ignoring all the things in mylife that are causing me to be
distressed.
So we're doing good.
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We're doing good.
Even though it's been chaos, Idid work with one of my friends
who is a brilliant writer tohelp me come up with some copy
for our speaking of somekeynotes and things that I want
to pitch myself in the new yearto like different groups,
companies, networking events.
I think I've mentioned thisbefore, but we got together like
two weeks ago, week and a halfago, and I'm not going to say
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anything yet in the podcast.
It's still in the incubator, inthe brainstorming session, in
the draft mode, well, it's notbrainstorming draft mode is
better.
But with that said, the thingsthat we came up with, they are
so freaking good, like wisdom,wisdom, good.
I need a trademark that, but youknow, I just, I just want to
humble brag.
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It's going to be amazing.
It's going to be a huge, huge.
I'm just kidding.
Well, I'm not just kidding.
I'm sure it will be, but I'mjust wanting to brag on my
girlfriend, Rebecca.
She is such a genius, a creativegenius.
She's such a whiz, but she cameup with some marketing gold
keynote gold.
I cannot wait.
Also shout out to my friends,Rosa and Brittany for always
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encouraging me on the speakingpath.
Okay.
Okay.
Um, Let's see.
What else?
Oh, remember how I'm always liketalking about T Mobile?
Fuck you, T Mobile.
Screw me over with my bill eachmonth trying to get it handled
well.
Long story long, I adulted sowell, I ended up switching to
Verizon and I'm now saving 45 amonth.
month.
I'm very proud of myself onthat.
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And I'm bragging because like Isaid earlier in the episode, I
still feel like I am an imposteradult.
So it's nice to, you know,recognize when I've done adult
things and, uh, stuck it to theman kind of thing.
No more screwing me over TMobile.
No more.
Bridesmaids 2 apparently ishappening.
(23:39):
That is exciting.
one of my top five favoritemovies, Bridesmaids is
definitely up there.
I was so obsessed with thatmovie when it first came out
that I actually googled the, uh,the script and read it
completely.
So when you watch that moviewith me and you're like, wow,
you know, almost every line, Ijust need you to know that I'm
not weird.
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I just read the script and I wasobsessed with it.
I have no idea what it's about.
I just saw the movie poster, sohopefully it wasn't like AI and
fake, cause that's gonna suck.
It was like a reputable, likelegit site, so.
But now that I say that outloud, I don't even remember what
it was.
I just saw the poster and I waslike, wow! But, uh, no, I think
it's happening.
I'm pretty sure it's happening.
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Because I asked some people andthey said it was happening.
So I think it's happening.
lots of new TV coming out.
Speaking of TV, one of mygirlfriends, Anna, she was like,
you need to watch UnsolvedMysteries.
And I'm thinking, I don't needto watch that because with my
imagination and paranoia andanxiety, that is a recipe for,
uh, nightmares and I'm not goingto go to bed.
And I just bought a house.
(24:40):
So, even more so, I don't needto go do that.
Well.
I watched the episode, She TellsMe, and the episode is about
someone being murdered in theirbasement.
And I watched the whole thingright before I went to bed.
I mean, who am I?
Maybe I'm desensitized right nowbecause like I'm overwhelmed and
burned out, right?
Right?
Oh, wait.
No, I'm not overwhelmed.
That's what I said earlier.
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I'm letting go of control.
So maybe I'm letting go of myanxiety and inhibitions.
Release your inhibitions.
The rest is still unwritten inthe words of Natasha
Bendingfield.
Uh, but anyways.
Unsolved Mysteries, Body in theBasement.
Uh, it was very bloody, I'm notgonna lie.
I, I can't, I didn't know theycould show that kind of shit.
I don't, I don't know, whatever.
(25:22):
I don't watch this TV, so maybethey do.
But it was very fascinating.
Uh, don't wanna get too muchinto it, but, Let's just say it
went from like the husband tosomebody intruding to did she
do, like, was it suicide?
Then it was like did the husbandhire somebody to kill her?
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I don't, it was, it was wild.
So if you want a veryperplexing, case, which I guess
that's why it's unsolvedmysteries.
Go check out body in thebasement.
I think it's the most recentseason.
again, let me preface, I do notwatch this kind of TV.
So take that with a grain ofsalt.
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But I thought it was veryinteresting and then I listened
to a podcast about it and it wasvery rewarding to have my
assumptions and like things thatI noticed and picked out, agreed
upon.
So.
Not saying I'm a detective, butI am saying I'm perceptive.
Wow.
That should be some PI slogan.
If that isn't already, if you'rea PI person, give me a call for
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all your marketing needs becauseDan, that was good.
She's still got it.
She's still got it.
And she still hasn't doneimprov, but she can be funny.
Okay.
That's enough of that.
looking at the rest of my notes.
For today's episode.
Oh, big shout out to friends whocheck in on you.
I made a funny video earlierthis week about, well, I think
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it was funny again.
I think I'm funny, but a videoof just like, Oh, life is chaos.
And I don't know what sleep isand these bags are nuts, but I
am surviving.
And my girlfriend Tiara, uh,reached out to me and she's
like, so make sure you're okay.
And I was just like, Oh, youknow, I'm eating like shit.
I feel fab because like in themiddle of all this chaos, I have
decided to see a new doctor torehabilitate my shoulder.
So I am like, you know, Learninghow to use it again because
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apparently I wasn't using itcorrectly.
Oh God.
pray for the day my body feelsnormal again.
It's going to happen though.
It's going to happen because Iam only 33 years young.
I have a whole long life, so I'mgoing to get better.
Anyways, I digress.
With that said, I haven't beenable to work out as much as
usual, so that's probably addingto my stress because I don't
have that outlet, you know?
And she was like that all ofthis is temporary the bad eating
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that this that it's alltemporary just remind yourself
of that Even though it'soverwhelming even though it
feels like chaos, even thoughagain a thousand to do's it is
temporary You have to remindyourself of that.
And I say this out loud toremind myself, you know, like
that is how you ground.
That is how you do it.
It is temporary.
You're going to get through itbecause you always do.
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You made it this far.
That is powerful.
But I tell you what, I'mexhausted.
Adulting is just, not what Ithought I was going to be as a
kid.
I'll tell you that right meow,right meow, but to close things
out, remember how we used tohave like in between the
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innerwebs, what's going onaround the, around the world?
I don't know.
I, I couldn't even tell youwhat's going on in my city or my
state, let alone the country,other than it's an election year
and yikes.
But, I get this newsletter everymorning.
It's like a business technewsletter they had a very
interesting, cover story.
Well, cover story is probablythe wrong word, but, like, top
story for their, theirnewsletter.
And I think this was, like, afew weeks ago.
(28:38):
And I printed it out, because Iwas like, this is just, wow.
I know the job market sucks.
Uh, I know I have definitelylike put a pause in my search.
Cause again, life is chaos.
Why am I going to throw another,another chaos bomb in the
process in the mitts?
I am not, that is again.
Boundary and letting go ofcontrol.
I can't deal.
(28:59):
I can't manage but you know whatin a month Maybe I can and
that's okay because a month isnot that far away So with that
said even though I and everyoneI know looking for a job think
it sucks Apparently an industrythat is thriving is companies
that you pay to quit on yourbehalf.
Yes, you heard that, right?
Would you pay a company to quityour job for you?
(29:21):
So I just want to read a few ofthe highlights and things from
this article So they start offby saying anyone who's had a bad
job is fantasized aboutscreaming I quit before storming
out of the office But quittingin reality can be an anxiety
producing process filled withuncomfortable interactions This
is the hustle daily newsletter,by the way, and whoever is their
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writer is just really good Ilove reading.
They are very conversational,very funny, very comedic, very
smart, very articulated, but,uh, shout out to the Hustle
Daily.
Probably should have given themcredit before I just turned to
reading.
But anyways, um, I digress.
So, for workers who just can'tcope, resonation agencies that
promise to make quitting morepainless have emerged, per the
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Wall Street Journal.
So, there's a company calledExit, which quits on behalf of
10, 000 clients a year for likearound 140, and offers 50
percent off for repeatcustomers, and then Moe Murray,
which means I can't do thisanymore in Japanese, has
received 11, 000 ish inquiriesfrom clients in the last year.
(30:25):
So for about 150, they will helpyou, um, they will help full
time workers quit their jobs andnegotiate with employers.
So, interesting.
Right, like talk about anxiety.
you know, I'm not saying I'veever enjoyed quitting a job, but
I definitely ain't gonna spendthat kind of money to quit on my
behalf, if you know what I mean.
(30:46):
But then it goes into anotherpart of this whole weird
quitting debacle, which Ithought was interesting too.
So group work.
Quitting isn't the onlyunpleasant corporate task that
employees are looking tooffload.
Workers are finding creativeways to call in backup.
Quote, shadow stand ins arebeing employed by workers who
are secretly outsourcing partsor all of their jobs.
(31:08):
Um, interesting.
So You, I mean, Hey, like morebang, more buck, I guess, so to
speak, then it says thatMicrosoft's 2024 work trend
index found that 78 percent ofAI users are bringing their own
AI tools to work.
However, I want to point out thetime of AI users.
So this is like the thing thatlike statistics are so stupid
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about.
It's like, Oh, this is a reallyhigh statistic, but like what
they failed to mention is like,it's a very low statistic that
they're actually surveying orpulling this from.
Granted, I have no idea themetrics of this said statistic,
but I'm just giving.
Thank you.
My two cents on statistics.
You still with me?
Okay, the last thing I want tocall out or point out from this
article they meant to say.
One in four Gen Zers saidthey've brought a parent to a
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job interview.
And one quarter have had theirparents apply to a job on their
behalf.
Um, according to a resumetemplates.
com survey that surveyed 1.
5 thousand people.
Again, it's not a very bigpopulation.
However, I am curious how manyof you have ever had a parent
quit on your behalf?
Anybody, trust me, I, I will getmy mother to do as much as I can
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get away with on my behalf.
Well, can you call them?
Well, can you deal with it?
Can you, can you pretend to beme?
You know, I knew I, I leveled upwhen I had to get my own dentist
and make those appointments.
'cause there's just somethingabout, graduating from your
childhood dentist and you'relike, oh man, I'm leaving the
nest.
I'm getting my big girl dentist.
But, uh, man, gosh, quitting myjob.
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Hell, I wish Cindy would workfor me.
I digress.
I digress.
So that's what's going on now.
everybody is miserable.
I'm just kidding.
No, everyone loves each other.
No, but apparently the jobmarket sucks and people are
still paying People to quit ontheir behalf.
I wonder what that means like Iguess like are you paying for
them to write the email for youthe resignation letter cuz like
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that parts the easy part thehard part is the face to face
All right, we're gathered heretoday to give you my resignation
like I don't think they're doingthat for you And if they are
well damn that is my hats off toyou, that's that's pretty badass
pretty baller pretty ballsy thisis where I can't help myself.
I have to say, Don't burnbridges.
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Just FYI, you never know.
I'm not saying you have to keepthe bridge, but be careful that
it's a bridge worth burning.
You know what I mean?
but hey, sometimes you gotta dowhat you gotta do.
So, on that note, I'm gonna go,gotta go take a load to the
house, you know, getting closerand closer.
We're manifesting that friggininternet getting installed
tomorrow because Girl needs it.
(33:42):
My husband needs it.
We need it.
It's time to be in this housebecause obviously this
background is boring and Youknow, you know, you know Clippy
clap, clippy clap, clippy clapAnyways, I wish you the best.
I hope you enjoyed this week'sepisode I'm gonna try to get one
out next Wednesday, but it mightbe next Thursday because of that
work event But hey, it should befrom the house, even though it's
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not gonna be like set up oranything like that yet You It'd
be cool, right?
It won't be a white background,I'll tell you that right now,
and maybe I might not be wearinga robe, I might be wearing like
regular clothes, normal clothes,colorful clothes, I don't know,
now I'm going crazy, now I needto go.
So on that note, I wish you allthe best week, weekend, be safe,
especially if you were in thatHurricane Helene's path, not
looking too good out there, andI will see you next week on an
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all new InBetween.
Elizabeth (34:29):
If you're not doing so already, you can follow me on
Instagram at in dot between podand at Elizabeth Cheney
underscore, and then at the inbetween podcast on tick tock and
YouTube.
I appreciate you.
Thanks for hanging in there.
Sorry I've been a little MIAhere and there, but don't worry
your girl is on the right path,on the right move, and we will
get back to our scheduledprogramming very, very soon.
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Alright, I will talk to you nextweek.
Bye!
Hey, hey, hey, welcome back to
another episode of the inbetween.
I'm your host, Elizabeth Cheney.
Oh man, it's been a whirlwind.
I feel like the past.
Maybe not quite two months, buta month and a half.
Uh, it's been a minute since youand I, since me and you had a
heart to heart, a one on one.
Uh, but before we go anyfurther, hello to Kelly Mondora,
(00:29):
last week's guest.
I hope you enjoyed that episodeas much as I did.
She is awesome.
Quite an incredible person, uh,really happy our paths cross.
It was great to interview her.
so yeah, check out her hashtagright in the fight campaign
starting October 1st.
Big shout to Kelly for making iton the podcast, but moving
forward, moving on, moving downthe road, if you will.
(00:53):
If you're watching this oryou're watching a clip Well, you
wouldn't be watching a clip ifyou're watching this.
You know what?
I just I don't even you knowwhat?
I don't know where I was goingwith that thought.
So we're just gonna stop rightthere I'm just gonna go ahead
and warn you all there may beseveral moments of just utter
chaos utter confusion utter Whatdid she just say and not in like
(01:14):
a little scandalous, but uh, isshe okay?
Did that make any kind of sense?
Maybe she should get intopolitics.
I'm just kidding, but I'mbummed.
Uh, but if you're watching this,um, you're going to see a very
sterile background.
Uh, that's what I'm jokinglysaying.
All the books, all the art, allthe color is gone.
And I was wearing a white shirtbecause I feel like this is my
(01:35):
uniform right now.
Everything's packed this andthat.
I don't know where, well, I knowwhere everything is, but it's
just, it's chaos.
We'll get into it.
We'll get into it.
But Um, it's so white, I satdown to get to record and I was
like, Whoa, I, this, I mean,wow.
Okay.
And as I'm like talking, I canactually hear a slight echo.
(01:55):
So hopefully that doesn'ttranslate too much on the audio.
Uh, didn't realize how much allmy shit buffered the sound.
Go figure.
But, uh, all by background, veryhospital feeling, very, uh,
clean, sterile, opposite of myvibe.
I was like, I need color.
Well, as I am going through allmy clothes, like all five pieces
(02:17):
that are still here at thisapartment, I'm like, I have
nothing really that I couldthrow on.
So I am wearing my wedding robe.
The really nice robe that Ibought myself on my bridesmaids
on my wedding.
It's a kimono robe.
Kim and Ono.
Kim Ono.
it's called Kim and Ono.
But anyways, I think it's thesesisters, two sisters that own
the brand, and they make reallynice, uh, kimonos and robes.
(02:40):
So, that is my pop of colortoday, my robe.
So, fun fact, this was part ofthe wedding, so there's a
little, like, history of Liz.
I'm sure you all care so muchabout that.
You know, one day down the road,you're gonna go to Liz Trivia.
They're gonna say, who made herwedding robe?
And you're gonna know theanswer.
I'm just kidding.
I hope that's never a questionon trivia, because that's
(03:01):
freaking creepy.
But moving on, moving on.
So, it's been a minute.
I feel like so much life hashappened, yet, at the same time,
I have to keep grounding myselfthat, nope, nope, we're taking
one day at a time.
It may feel like a year, butit's really only been a month.
Man, what I would give to beback in NYC.
And yes, I know I owe you all anepisode on that.
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Mama Cindy's doing good afterrecovery, you know, and all the
chaos that has ensued in my lifethe past month and a half.
You know, my mom got surgery inthe process.
It was, uh, her hip replacement.
I think I've talked about thisbefore.
And also don't worry, this isnot a HIPAA breach because she
said I could talk to you aboutit.
Okay.
Okay.
But anyways, she is a trooper.
She's a fighter.
(03:45):
That's where I get it fromstrength, Cindy, the strength,
but she is recovering reallywell.
And she is hoping to get theother hip done later this year,
like in November.
And the therapist, because likePT comes like the day after you
know, they said, hey, it's alittle ambitious, but we'll see
how today goes and how the restof your therapy goes for the
next 12 weeks or however long itis.
And we'll go from there.
(04:06):
Well, after the first session,they're like, Cindy, you're
doing so good.
I don't see why you can't getthat hip in November.
So.
Shout out to my mom for being abadass, love you babe, and, uh,
shout out for her recovery goingwell.
So we are aiming for that secondhip and then gosh darn, she's
going to be like a bionic woman.
It's really cool though because,um, my, I've mentioned this
(04:29):
several times on the podcast, mymom is handicapped and part of
her handicap, like what causesthe handicap, so to speak, Is,
was going to be replaced by thiship replacement.
So, well, it's replaced theright word.
Like, you know what I mean?
Whatever causes the hip, the,the handicap is getting
(04:51):
replaced.
That is the right word.
Okay.
Someone's going to stopexplaining myself now.
So awkward removes her books andbackground.
And I feel like a fish out ofwater.
I don't even know what to do.
I have a podcast.
I feel like I'm in court.
Court is in session.
God, this robe definitelyactually gives that vibe.
Anyways, Cindy's doing great.
Love that.
I was able to take care of her,get away for a few days.
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things at the house are movingalong splendidly.
When this episode comes out,it'll be the day that our
internet, fingers crossed, isgetting installed.
So, let us hope! That we are, weare rejoicing, we are
celebrating the freaking AT& Tfiber being installed because
there has been the hold up ingetting there and it has not
been fun living in two differentplaces.
(05:33):
Wait, let me just stop rightthere.
I haven't lived in my home atall.
I've been living in myapartment, but going back and
forth, honestly using my car.
My SUV to take loads over, but Igotta say me and Stan, we've
done some work and we got to getall of our wedding gifts out of
storage, which was likeChristmas all over again.
It was so exciting we just putso much in storage.
I have long forgotten what allwe got.
Plus we haven't used it.
(05:54):
You know what I mean?
Cause it's been storage.
So getting to, yeah.
Unpack and set up the kitchenwas actually so much fun because
it was all new stuff.
I was like, oh, oh But I willjust pause there and tell you
just some interesting fun factsabout me apparently as I was
registering for these items, sogo any further, we all know that
(06:17):
I was very depressed in the year2021, 2020, you know, all that
shit I've talked about.
If you're new here, just go backto some episodes or just keep
listening because I'm sure atsome point in the near future
I'll talk about it again.
But anyways, I digress.
We went through our mentalhealth battles.
And even though I did not knowit at the time, when I got
married I was actually verydepressed.
So, I find everything that I'mabout to say very funny.
(06:40):
Uh, well, funny but also like,we're not gonna say sad, we're
gonna say hopeful.
So even though I wasn't in agreat place, clearly I was
hoping for the best.
So, the amount of serveware, theamount of dishware, if I'm being
honest, the amount of stemwarethat I now own, that is now in
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my home, is Unreal.
It is not okay.
It is, are you birthing an army?
Are you planning to host everysoiree and every party known to
man for the foreseeable future?
I mean, I got I don't even know,like 18 plates, like 18 sets of
your setting plates, likeplates, bowls, silverware, mini
(07:24):
plates, salad bowls.
Uh, 48 pieces in total ofstemware.
Now granted some of thatincluded a little bit of my own
that I already had, but I mean,I got eight glasses of one wine
glass, eight glasses of another,eight of champagne flutes, and
I'm just like.
Who do I think I am?
Let me ask you guys a question.
How much wine do you think Idrink in a week?
(07:45):
Actually, let's just stop rightthere.
How much wine do you think Idrink in a month?
I'll tell you right now, maybe aglass, and it's never at my own
apartment.
It's normally out or at afriend's.
So, I, yeah, I don't know.
I just kept opening boxes, andit was more stemware, more
dishware, more serveware, bowls,trays, I don't know.
(08:07):
Spoons, spatulas, forks, I justIt's, you know what?
All I gotta say is, the barbecueis at the stater's.
I'm hosting everyone, we'regonna have a party.
It's gonna be a great timebecause guess what?
I have all the serveware anddishware to serve you.
To let you eat comfortably.
To give you a great time.
(08:30):
Yeah, my aunt was joking.
She was like, well, you couldlike gift some of these things
to people since you have so manyand I'm like, I don't even know
who gave me what.
Wouldn't that be just absolutelyhysterically embarrassing?
I'd laugh about it later, butI'd probably want to die if it
actually happened, where I givesomebody, you know, four of
these said 2, 700, 000 glassesof wine I have.
(08:51):
Glasses of wine?
There's no wine in it.
I don't even know why I saidthat.
Wine?
Glasses?
My god, my brain is goingeverywhere.
But anyway, they get in, they'relike, uh, this looks oddly
familiar.
And then I'm like, hmm, I'mgonna go, I am gonna just slowly
evaporate out of your presence.
I digress.
Wow.
I don't know what it is.
I don't know if it's like theempty space or maybe it's the
(09:12):
robe, but, or maybe you knowwhat, it's just the fact that I
haven't been here in what feelslike weeks.
It's just nice.
I'm feeling a little hyper.
Last time I felt like this on anepisode, I feel like I was all
over the place making weirdcomments and talking about who,
what, where, when, why, to whatextent.
So we'll see where this goes.
Uh, part of all the crazinessthough, is just the fact that, I
(09:35):
bought a house and, uh, there'sa lot to be done and a lot to do
and, uh, you know, the biggesttheme in this whole motherfuckin
process that I have learnedother than this is not, uh,
buying a house is not for theweak and buying a house is so
freaking complicated but that'sa whole different conversation
(09:57):
that I am not smart enough totalk about even though I just
went through it, but let me tellyou.
I don't know if I trust it.
Anyways, I digress.
I digress! The point I was goingto say is one thing that I have
had to just accept and I havechanneled and led this entire
process with is letting go.
(10:19):
I said it, letting go.
And as a triple Taurus, thatfeels like sacrilege, but, You
just gotta let go of control,and you have to ride the wave,
and you have to just let everyother thing pause.
One might call it surviving, andyou know, I too, especially a
year or two ago, would havedefinitely called it surviving.
(10:40):
But it's not surviving, it'shonestly self care.
I said, you know what, I got topause this podcast because why
am I going to force myself tomake content that honestly is
probably going to suck becauseI'm so stressed out and just,
you know, it is what it is.
Try to post content here andthere, but don't worry about the
episodes right now.
The internet, that's been thebiggest thing because that
(11:02):
really weighed on, well, what dowe do about moving in?
Well, like I speak, how to stayat the apartment cause we got to
work and then this, this, that,that, and it's like, Oh, let go
of control.
We're just going to slowly startto move shit.
And then as I look around and asyou can see, clearly we have
moved some shit.
And you know, we're, we'redonating a lot of furniture
cause we're a lot of it's stuffthat we've had for years, some
(11:24):
hand me downs, whatever.
And now we're getting our niceadult stuff.
We're getting our grownup stuff.
Cause apparently I'm a grownup,even though like I feel like the
biggest fake out there, man,yeah, I'm like, mom, did you
feel like a grownup when youwere grown up?
You're still a grown up.
And she's like, looks at me likeI'm crazy and I'm like, Alright,
moving on.
But, We have done a lot and I'mproud of us because in the midst
(11:47):
of all this crazy, I've had babyshowers, I've had bridal
showers, my mom had surgery,work, we're planning this huge
work event, and I'm like, Wow,gosh, I had a bachelorette, I
have another bachelorette thisweekend, yes, hurricane's coming
through and we're going on abachelorette, so that's gonna be
fun, and then I go straight intosaid work meeting, but then
(12:07):
guess what?
I get to enjoy my home.
yeah, I may not get to enjoy itquite, uh, quite now, once we
get this internet tomorrow.
But I'm gonna get to enjoy it ina week.
And then the real magic gets tohappen.
we get to move in.
We get to live there.
I can tell you, after eachvisit, I feel like the momentum
(12:28):
and excitement builds.
Every time we take a load to thehouse, do this, do that,
whatever.
It's like, ooh, this is ourhouse, and we have a couch now,
and like a really nice bed, andit's, I'm not going to say it's
starting to come together by anymeans.
No, girl, we got to pay.
We're going to have so muchcolor.
All I got to say is the wholemaximalist style.
That's how ours is going to belike, you're going to walk in
(12:48):
going, Ooh, nice wallpaper,wall, love, color, love, color,
ceiling.
Yes, yes, yes.
Uh, it's all on my head and onmy Pinterest board, but can't
wait to see how it turns out.
But to reach visit, it's like,It's starting to feel more like
it's ours, more like it's ourhome, more like I want to be
here.
I don't want to be at theapartment.
(13:09):
I just want to be here.
We've met all of our neighborsand they're so nice and it's so
cool and like you can sense thecommunity and I have been
craving that for so long and Themagic that's going to happen
with the podcast.
Oh, the podcast.
I don't even know what I'm goingto do yet.
Like, do I want some really cooleclectic, not eclectic.
I don't know where I was goingwith that, but some really cool
(13:30):
bookshelves and things where Ikind of want to do a wallpaper
wall with like a bunch ofdifferent art and then like a
neon sign up my logo.
And now saying that out loud,I'm like, yep, that's it.
You know what?
Not even going to pull that's ajury's not out on that because
she hasn't made a decision.
Court adjourned.
So many exciting things.
And so, in the letting go ofcontrol, I have had to, weirdly
(13:52):
enough, not worry about thefuture.
Oddly enough, all my racingthoughts, although I am
combating them and dealing withthem, it's just quieting the
noise more than I have in myentire life.
It's telling myself, hey, whyare we concerned that we're
gonna drop the ball?
We don't ever drop the ball.
And I don't mean to say that Ialways freaking do it.
(14:13):
Sometimes I do fail, but I neverdropped the ball because failing
like whatever the situation isor whatever the failure quote
unquote is, you know, failurecould be just not working out.
You know what I mean?
I deal with it, but I'm never,never on my ass.
I always land on my feet.
I was better myself.
I never dropped the ball.
(14:35):
So I had to keep Kind ofreframing this like overwhelming
narrative of intrusive thoughtsbecause there was only a
bajillion of them because therewas so many things to do and
there still is, are so manythings to do.
I was just like, mm, man,there's a lot to do, but I'm
going to focus on one thing at atime because I can't do that
because, well, I can't move inquite yet.
Well, I can't do that because Idon't have internet.
(14:56):
Well, I can't do that because Ican't cancel my lease until the
20th.
Well, I can't do that because,well, that hasn't started yet.
What can I do?
And quit worrying about all thethings that still have to get
done but they can't be done atthis moment.
And it's been so freeing, it hasbeen so freeing, it's been so
relaxing, it's been, um,relaxing.
Why the fuck did I use thatword?
(15:18):
Um, hmm, looks like I'm startinga daydream over here.
It has been freeing though.
Maybe I want to say relaxing,it's relaxing for me because
normally I'm used to my brainShe's firing off on all cinders
at every single second of theday, what it feels like, but
she's been doing it and, uh, I'mnot beating myself up.
You know, a little bit earliertoday, actually, I was kind of
(15:39):
in my head about things causelike I had a moment of peace,
like packed a lot.
Okay, I was going to do this.
I have my plan for the day.
I'd done this for work.
I was going to record this,this, this, and then it kind of
set in like.
How I haven't been as consistentwith the podcast, how I haven't
posted as much as I was gettingreally good at and the cadence
of and this and this and thatand that and and then I had this
(16:00):
thought like thinking back tolast week's episode with Kelly
when she was talking about Iliosand how she started it and like
you know sometimes you take sixsteps forward or you take one
step forward take six steps backIt's so true, and as I was
thinking about that thismorning, or earlier today,
where, whoo, you know, startingto get a little imposter
syndrome for a moment, because,you know, when my brain's not
stressed about all this moveshit, it's like, what else can
(16:22):
we feed on to make Elizabethinsecure?
Uh, and that's when, you know,my, my Jiminy Cricket side goes,
uh uh, no, we've done betterhere, don't know why I made him
a, with a British accent, butthere we are.
And so I just, pause and I'mlike, it's okay.
You feel like you're takingsteps back because you haven't
been as consistent, and sure,the engagement, the algorithm,
(16:45):
these social media apps are madat you, why don't you use us?
yes, But really it's like sevensteps forward because it's this
house, what I've beenmanifesting and hoping and
praying for.
And now it's here and it's likethe foundation, the, the build,
the grounding that I need andI've been craving and to have
this cool ass space that'scompletely my own and huh.
(17:10):
That is going to be exciting.
And then also to have a placewhere I can invite people as
guests to come if they want to.
You know, if we can't make itsomewhere to a studio or
something, like, it'll be alegit studio home office where I
could invite them in and it'snot weird.
It's not cramped.
It's not, where are you going tosit?
You want to sit on the floor?
So, I don't know what's going onin your life, but I'm sure we
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all have our own can ofoverwhelming worms.
And my advice, unsolicitedadvice at that I guess, if
you're in a situation of justoh, there's so much to do, what
do I do, oh my gosh, oh my gosh,oh my gosh, maybe you just feel
anxious in general.
Work on letting go of controland reminding yourself it's all
(17:55):
gonna work out, I always get itdone.
What can I focus on right thismoment?
If it helps, make a list of allthe things you've got to do, but
then like prioritize what's themost important thing and then
block everything out.
Make a new list if you have to.
That's what I did.
I like made a list of everythingso I felt good getting it out of
my head, like better, morecomfortable, more comfortable
(18:15):
with myself.
And then I made a list of thethings that are most important.
And then each day I have justpulled apart from the original
initial list, making thepriorities of the day.
And then sometimes I'm like, youknow what, this requires too
much bandwidth for me.
This needs to go back on thelist, to deal with like once we
kind of get more settled in thehouse.
And that's okay.
And so, really, the biggestdifference I think is, is just
(18:38):
reminding myself, hey, you gotthis.
It's okay, you don't have to befreaking out, worrying about
every single nickel, dime,penny.
Like in your head, you're gonnafigure it all out.
You always do.
You need to trust yourself more.
I think it comes down to thatbecause as much work and, you
know, progress as I've made onmyself, I think there's one
intrusive thought that I, Idon't really think I've really
(19:02):
combated too much, which is thatyou gotta get all done.
Oh, you're stressed.
You gotta get all done.
If it's not gonna get done.
And I never, like, interjectedthat thought to be like, Mmm,
but you always get it done, sowhy are we so stressed?
Life would feel so much betterif you weren't stressed about
stupid shit that you always getdone anyway.
(19:22):
And I've just kind of adoptedthat and it's been thriving, so.
She says that with a mechanicallaugh.
I have a migraine.
I have a, I've had a migrainefor four days now.
Um, I think it's like lack ofsleep.
I had a global entry interviewat 6 30 in the morning, Monday,
I scheduled it that early.
So that is me, myself and I, I'mthe only problem for that.
(19:45):
this was like months ago and Imean this appointment cause like
that's how far in advance youget through this.
And I woke up at five 30 and Iwas like, absolutely not.
Absolutely not.
Absolutely not.
We are going back to bed.
I cannot function.
Like I don't even think I'd beable to drive at that point.
I was so exhausted.
I think collectively the pastmonth and a half I've, I've
(20:06):
gotten, I don't know, three fullnights worth of sleep.
As you can see these beautifulbags and yes, you know, this is
the real authentic me.
I'm not even going to like hideit with makeup.
Also I keep my kimono, mykimono, whatever the heck it's
called.
Keeps getting caught in thestupid.
Handle, so excuse me if I looklike, awkward.
Another thing I can't wait tohave with the podcast, like
(20:28):
cool, cute little chairs thatalso don't like, you know.
If you're listening and notwatching this, you're like, what
is she having a seizure rightnow?
What is happening?
Don't worry.
We're not, we're good.
We're healthy ish.
Um, we're doing good.
but that is essentially a 22minute spiel of what's been
going on in my life.
(20:49):
Where have I been mentally andhow am I doing?
So we're surviving, we're selfcaring, we are letting go of
things that we can't control andwe are not worrying about
getting everything done rightthis moment.
Oh man, maybe I'm just burnt outtoo.
(21:10):
Like today I was talking to oneof my coworkers and I was like,
you know, I don't even think I'moverwhelmed.
I think I'm past that.
I think I'm just.
Burnout.
But, burnout also, I don't know.
What is burnout?
Like, I'm talking like I frickinknow these things like I'm a
psychologist.
Not that burnout is an actual,like, psychological term.
But, uh, you know, I, I thinkit's exhaustion, but also I
think it's just, you arefocusing on what you have to
(21:32):
focus on, prioritizing what youneed to prioritize,
compartmentalizing what youmight need to compartmentalize,
and it's going to be fine.
It's going to be great.
even if I had that one lapsemoment earlier today where I was
like, I'm a failure and thatposted a lot of content,
ignoring all the things in mylife that are causing me to be
distressed.
So we're doing good.
(21:52):
We're doing good.
Even though it's been chaos, Idid work with one of my friends
who is a brilliant writer tohelp me come up with some copy
for our speaking of somekeynotes and things that I want
to pitch myself in the new yearto like different groups,
companies, networking events.
I think I've mentioned thisbefore, but we got together like
two weeks ago, week and a halfago, and I'm not going to say
(22:13):
anything yet in the podcast.
It's still in the incubator, inthe brainstorming session, in
the draft mode, well, it's notbrainstorming draft mode is
better.
But with that said, the thingsthat we came up with, they are
so freaking good, like wisdom,wisdom, good.
I need a trademark that, but youknow, I just, I just want to
humble brag.
(22:35):
It's going to be amazing.
It's going to be a huge, huge.
I'm just kidding.
Well, I'm not just kidding.
I'm sure it will be, but I'mjust wanting to brag on my
girlfriend, Rebecca.
She is such a genius, a creativegenius.
She's such a whiz, but she cameup with some marketing gold
keynote gold.
I cannot wait.
Also shout out to my friends,Rosa and Brittany for always
(22:57):
encouraging me on the speakingpath.
Okay.
Okay.
Um, Let's see.
What else?
Oh, remember how I'm always liketalking about T Mobile?
Fuck you, T Mobile.
Screw me over with my bill eachmonth trying to get it handled
well.
Long story long, I adulted sowell, I ended up switching to
Verizon and I'm now saving 45 amonth.
month.
I'm very proud of myself onthat.
(23:18):
And I'm bragging because like Isaid earlier in the episode, I
still feel like I am an imposteradult.
So it's nice to, you know,recognize when I've done adult
things and, uh, stuck it to theman kind of thing.
No more screwing me over TMobile.
No more.
Bridesmaids 2 apparently ishappening.
(23:39):
That is exciting.
one of my top five favoritemovies, Bridesmaids is
definitely up there.
I was so obsessed with thatmovie when it first came out
that I actually googled the, uh,the script and read it
completely.
So when you watch that moviewith me and you're like, wow,
you know, almost every line, Ijust need you to know that I'm
not weird.
(23:59):
I just read the script and I wasobsessed with it.
I have no idea what it's about.
I just saw the movie poster, sohopefully it wasn't like AI and
fake, cause that's gonna suck.
It was like a reputable, likelegit site, so.
But now that I say that outloud, I don't even remember what
it was.
I just saw the poster and I waslike, wow! But, uh, no, I think
it's happening.
I'm pretty sure it's happening.
(24:19):
Because I asked some people andthey said it was happening.
So I think it's happening.
lots of new TV coming out.
Speaking of TV, one of mygirlfriends, Anna, she was like,
you need to watch UnsolvedMysteries.
And I'm thinking, I don't needto watch that because with my
imagination and paranoia andanxiety, that is a recipe for,
uh, nightmares and I'm not goingto go to bed.
And I just bought a house.
(24:40):
So, even more so, I don't needto go do that.
Well.
I watched the episode, She TellsMe, and the episode is about
someone being murdered in theirbasement.
And I watched the whole thingright before I went to bed.
I mean, who am I?
Maybe I'm desensitized right nowbecause like I'm overwhelmed and
burned out, right?
Right?
Oh, wait.
No, I'm not overwhelmed.
That's what I said earlier.
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I'm letting go of control.
So maybe I'm letting go of myanxiety and inhibitions.
Release your inhibitions.
The rest is still unwritten inthe words of Natasha
Bendingfield.
Uh, but anyways.
Unsolved Mysteries, Body in theBasement.
Uh, it was very bloody, I'm notgonna lie.
I, I can't, I didn't know theycould show that kind of shit.
I don't, I don't know, whatever.
(25:22):
I don't watch this TV, so maybethey do.
But it was very fascinating.
Uh, don't wanna get too muchinto it, but, Let's just say it
went from like the husband tosomebody intruding to did she
do, like, was it suicide?
Then it was like did the husbandhire somebody to kill her?
(25:43):
I don't, it was, it was wild.
So if you want a veryperplexing, case, which I guess
that's why it's unsolvedmysteries.
Go check out body in thebasement.
I think it's the most recentseason.
again, let me preface, I do notwatch this kind of TV.
So take that with a grain ofsalt.
(26:03):
But I thought it was veryinteresting and then I listened
to a podcast about it and it wasvery rewarding to have my
assumptions and like things thatI noticed and picked out, agreed
upon.
So.
Not saying I'm a detective, butI am saying I'm perceptive.
Wow.
That should be some PI slogan.
If that isn't already, if you'rea PI person, give me a call for
(26:26):
all your marketing needs becauseDan, that was good.
She's still got it.
She's still got it.
And she still hasn't doneimprov, but she can be funny.
Okay.
That's enough of that.
looking at the rest of my notes.
For today's episode.
Oh, big shout out to friends whocheck in on you.
I made a funny video earlierthis week about, well, I think
(26:48):
it was funny again.
I think I'm funny, but a videoof just like, Oh, life is chaos.
And I don't know what sleep isand these bags are nuts, but I
am surviving.
And my girlfriend Tiara, uh,reached out to me and she's
like, so make sure you're okay.
And I was just like, Oh, youknow, I'm eating like shit.
I feel fab because like in themiddle of all this chaos, I have
decided to see a new doctor torehabilitate my shoulder.
So I am like, you know, Learninghow to use it again because
(27:11):
apparently I wasn't using itcorrectly.
Oh God.
pray for the day my body feelsnormal again.
It's going to happen though.
It's going to happen because Iam only 33 years young.
I have a whole long life, so I'mgoing to get better.
Anyways, I digress.
With that said, I haven't beenable to work out as much as
usual, so that's probably addingto my stress because I don't
have that outlet, you know?
And she was like that all ofthis is temporary the bad eating
(27:34):
that this that it's alltemporary just remind yourself
of that Even though it'soverwhelming even though it
feels like chaos, even thoughagain a thousand to do's it is
temporary You have to remindyourself of that.
And I say this out loud toremind myself, you know, like
that is how you ground.
That is how you do it.
It is temporary.
You're going to get through itbecause you always do.
(27:54):
You made it this far.
That is powerful.
But I tell you what, I'mexhausted.
Adulting is just, not what Ithought I was going to be as a
kid.
I'll tell you that right meow,right meow, but to close things
out, remember how we used tohave like in between the
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innerwebs, what's going onaround the, around the world?
I don't know.
I, I couldn't even tell youwhat's going on in my city or my
state, let alone the country,other than it's an election year
and yikes.
But, I get this newsletter everymorning.
It's like a business technewsletter they had a very
interesting, cover story.
Well, cover story is probablythe wrong word, but, like, top
story for their, theirnewsletter.
And I think this was, like, afew weeks ago.
(28:38):
And I printed it out, because Iwas like, this is just, wow.
I know the job market sucks.
Uh, I know I have definitelylike put a pause in my search.
Cause again, life is chaos.
Why am I going to throw another,another chaos bomb in the
process in the mitts?
I am not, that is again.
Boundary and letting go ofcontrol.
I can't deal.
(28:59):
I can't manage but you know whatin a month Maybe I can and
that's okay because a month isnot that far away So with that
said even though I and everyoneI know looking for a job think
it sucks Apparently an industrythat is thriving is companies
that you pay to quit on yourbehalf.
Yes, you heard that, right?
Would you pay a company to quityour job for you?
(29:21):
So I just want to read a few ofthe highlights and things from
this article So they start offby saying anyone who's had a bad
job is fantasized aboutscreaming I quit before storming
out of the office But quittingin reality can be an anxiety
producing process filled withuncomfortable interactions This
is the hustle daily newsletter,by the way, and whoever is their
(29:42):
writer is just really good Ilove reading.
They are very conversational,very funny, very comedic, very
smart, very articulated, but,uh, shout out to the Hustle
Daily.
Probably should have given themcredit before I just turned to
reading.
But anyways, um, I digress.
So, for workers who just can'tcope, resonation agencies that
promise to make quitting morepainless have emerged, per the
(30:04):
Wall Street Journal.
So, there's a company calledExit, which quits on behalf of
10, 000 clients a year for likearound 140, and offers 50
percent off for repeatcustomers, and then Moe Murray,
which means I can't do thisanymore in Japanese, has
received 11, 000 ish inquiriesfrom clients in the last year.
(30:25):
So for about 150, they will helpyou, um, they will help full
time workers quit their jobs andnegotiate with employers.
So, interesting.
Right, like talk about anxiety.
you know, I'm not saying I'veever enjoyed quitting a job, but
I definitely ain't gonna spendthat kind of money to quit on my
behalf, if you know what I mean.
(30:46):
But then it goes into anotherpart of this whole weird
quitting debacle, which Ithought was interesting too.
So group work.
Quitting isn't the onlyunpleasant corporate task that
employees are looking tooffload.
Workers are finding creativeways to call in backup.
Quote, shadow stand ins arebeing employed by workers who
are secretly outsourcing partsor all of their jobs.
(31:08):
Um, interesting.
So You, I mean, Hey, like morebang, more buck, I guess, so to
speak, then it says thatMicrosoft's 2024 work trend
index found that 78 percent ofAI users are bringing their own
AI tools to work.
However, I want to point out thetime of AI users.
So this is like the thing thatlike statistics are so stupid
(31:30):
about.
It's like, Oh, this is a reallyhigh statistic, but like what
they failed to mention is like,it's a very low statistic that
they're actually surveying orpulling this from.
Granted, I have no idea themetrics of this said statistic,
but I'm just giving.
Thank you.
My two cents on statistics.
You still with me?
Okay, the last thing I want tocall out or point out from this
article they meant to say.
One in four Gen Zers saidthey've brought a parent to a
(31:53):
job interview.
And one quarter have had theirparents apply to a job on their
behalf.
Um, according to a resumetemplates.
com survey that surveyed 1.
5 thousand people.
Again, it's not a very bigpopulation.
However, I am curious how manyof you have ever had a parent
quit on your behalf?
Anybody, trust me, I, I will getmy mother to do as much as I can
(32:17):
get away with on my behalf.
Well, can you call them?
Well, can you deal with it?
Can you, can you pretend to beme?
You know, I knew I, I leveled upwhen I had to get my own dentist
and make those appointments.
'cause there's just somethingabout, graduating from your
childhood dentist and you'relike, oh man, I'm leaving the
nest.
I'm getting my big girl dentist.
But, uh, man, gosh, quitting myjob.
(32:38):
Hell, I wish Cindy would workfor me.
I digress.
I digress.
So that's what's going on now.
everybody is miserable.
I'm just kidding.
No, everyone loves each other.
No, but apparently the jobmarket sucks and people are
still paying People to quit ontheir behalf.
I wonder what that means like Iguess like are you paying for
them to write the email for youthe resignation letter cuz like
(33:01):
that parts the easy part thehard part is the face to face
All right, we're gathered heretoday to give you my resignation
like I don't think they're doingthat for you And if they are
well damn that is my hats off toyou, that's that's pretty badass
pretty baller pretty ballsy thisis where I can't help myself.
I have to say, Don't burnbridges.
(33:21):
Just FYI, you never know.
I'm not saying you have to keepthe bridge, but be careful that
it's a bridge worth burning.
You know what I mean?
but hey, sometimes you gotta dowhat you gotta do.
So, on that note, I'm gonna go,gotta go take a load to the
house, you know, getting closerand closer.
We're manifesting that friggininternet getting installed
tomorrow because Girl needs it.
(33:42):
My husband needs it.
We need it.
It's time to be in this housebecause obviously this
background is boring and Youknow, you know, you know Clippy
clap, clippy clap, clippy clapAnyways, I wish you the best.
I hope you enjoyed this week'sepisode I'm gonna try to get one
out next Wednesday, but it mightbe next Thursday because of that
work event But hey, it should befrom the house, even though it's
(34:06):
not gonna be like set up oranything like that yet You It'd
be cool, right?
It won't be a white background,I'll tell you that right now,
and maybe I might not be wearinga robe, I might be wearing like
regular clothes, normal clothes,colorful clothes, I don't know,
now I'm going crazy, now I needto go.
So on that note, I wish you allthe best week, weekend, be safe,
especially if you were in thatHurricane Helene's path, not
looking too good out there, andI will see you next week on an
(34:28):
all new InBetween.
Elizabeth (34:29):
If you're not doing so already, you can follow me on
Instagram at in dot between podand at Elizabeth Cheney
underscore, and then at the inbetween podcast on tick tock and
YouTube.
I appreciate you.
Thanks for hanging in there.
Sorry I've been a little MIAhere and there, but don't worry
your girl is on the right path,on the right move, and we will
get back to our scheduledprogramming very, very soon.
(34:52):
Alright, I will talk to you nextweek.
Bye!
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