March 21, 2025 • 31 mins
Hey hey hey! I'm back feeling more like myself than I have in months. What a fabulous feeling!
This week, I'm hoping to make you giggle about my life as a cartoon character, and also empower you that no matter how tough the journey gets, you will make it out. It's been a difficult past few months and my journey towards healing continues to remind me of the magic of what it means to truly live.
Recorded on the spring equinox, I discuss the significance of new beginnings, the importance of community, and the sheer wonder of that we get to exist at all.
I share a little bit about my Norway trip, but I'm saving that for a full recap episode - all I will say is I got the biggest sign I'm on the right path. What great reassurance can you ask for? I'm also talking about my amusing challenges as a single, independence-driven woman. Ahem, I almost didn't make it hanging a curtain rod. HA!
This week's episode is all about the importance of choosing oneself, seeking joy in the small and big moments, and always betting on yourself. I mean, what better person than yourself?
00:00 Welcome Back and Life Updates
00:59 Embracing the Spring Equinox
04:38 Community and Support Systems
06:44 Travel Goals and New Adventures
14:45 Home Improvement Challenges
21:54 Finding Magic in Life
30:42 Conclusion and Future Plans
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Elizabeth (00:06):
Hey, hey, hey, welcome back to an all new
episode of the in between I'myour host, Elizabeth Cheney, and
it's great to be back.
You know, I know it's been arough bumpy past couple of
months in terms of, you know,content and recording and life
things.
And if you are not sure what I'mtalking about, well, go back and
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listen to the most recentepisode, but I am going through
a major life transition.
Um, but.
It's all good.
Because, you know what?
We are in control of our fate.
We are in control of our fate,meaning we handle the things
that life throws at us, and, youknow?
If you have to crumble a littlebit, you let it.
If you persevere immediately,that's great for you.
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Otherwise, life is just acontinuous flow of beauty,
magic, and lessons.
Way to kick today's episode offon such an existential note.
But then again, That's basicallywho I am.
Anyways, I am recording this onthe, uh, the spring equinox,
the, uh, start of theastrological new year.
And sure, time is a socialconstruct.
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I don't necessarily believe init.
However, as an ADHD girly, I dolike structure in my routine.
So starts, finishes, things likethat.
I really like it.
So I am going to honor theastrological new year, I put
that in quotes, um, as the startto my new year.
One, because as I've alreadysaid multiple times, especially
in last episode, uh, the pastsix months have been horrible.
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Um, not the best.
We'll just call it a growingseason.
You know, back to that fakecomment I just said, I, um, I
let life, I don't let life justhappen to me.
I.
Get through it one way or theother, even if I have a
bajillion mental breakdowns andpanic attacks in the process.
Uh, but the spring equinox, soit's also representing the
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beginning of spring.
It's like the day where The day,it's the day, well, it is the
day, but it's the day wherelight and dark are equal during
the day.
So, hello seasonal depression,you can leave, goodbye, don't
let the door hit you on your wayout, because we are in the
process of receiving sunlight,good fortune, good juju, all of
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the things.
Um, all jokes aside, yes, thepast few months have felt
stagnant, that's one way to putit.
And I kept thinking to myself,all right.
You know, not to get too booboo, but I was hoping and also
just praying if you will OnceMarch comes around maybe things
in my life would start tofinally kind of move and they
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definitely have Are they fullspeed ahead?
Absolutely not, but we'regetting there.
We're getting there.
I only have a hundred things todo at this house I am a little
overwhelmed and I will talkabout that later.
But If there's one person I'llbet on, it's me.
That's something I always say.
And sometimes it's me justtrying to prove to myself that I
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can do it.
But, I mean, looking at my trackrecord, I almost always come
through.
And if I don't, it's because Ichanged my mind.
So, that's that.
But, cheers to the springequinox.
Cheers to sunlight.
Cheers to longer days.
Oh, gosh.
You know what's so funny is Iused to love winter.
And, I mean, I love the cold,but the long nights.
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Right?
And I gotta be honest, I don'tknow what I was on, but I can't
believe that was me, if thatmakes any sense.
I need the sunlight, I need tobe outside, I need to touch
grass.
Maybe it's just because life hasbeen lifing and, you know, I can
take all the positivity and allthe sunshine and all the
rainbows.
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but, I no longer care for thelong night, so maybe I'm out of
my vampire era and more in mybutterfly era.
Which kind of goes with my momsand I, we have this like little
thing that we say now is like,this is our butterfly year,
which now that I say that, I dothink we said that at the end of
2023 that 2024 was going to be,um, but little did we know 2024
was more the cocoon year andthis year will be the butterfly
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year.
So cheers to spring equinox,sunshine and butterfly years.
There we go.
I think that's a better cheers.
Uh, so what's been going on, um,besides major life changes,
which I am not gonna talk toomuch about, cause, you know,
you're still kind of in theprocess.
still kind of going through themotions, still kind of getting
all of that together.
And then also I'm not just goingto talk about that stuff just
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offhandedly.
I'm going to really put a lot oftime, attention and you know,
love, let's be real, love intothat type of content, divorce
content.
So we'll get there.
Uh, just know that.
Every single person who reachedout after the most recent
episode, which I'm not gonnalie, I was really surprised.
Not that I don't think I put outgreat content, but I had so many
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people reach out to me afterthat last episode.
So, I think you guys like me.
Uh, and you guys care, so that'sgreat.
Uh, but so much support, so manypeople reaching out saying that
they'd gone through somethingsimilar and they really
appreciated my words on it and,and just, I don't know.
It's nice to have community.
And every major life thing thatI've been through, I always come
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back to community, you have tofall on your community, whether
that's your friends, yourfamily, social media, people on
the internet, I don't know,reddit forums, whatever floats
your boat.
You know, when I lost Luna,community was huge, community
was huge.
So, getting through this, Idon't think I would be able to
if it weren't for my supportsystem.
And, you know, I look forward tounveiling more and just If
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anything, I'm feeling more ofthe introspection and the growth
that comes with this becauselike I said life can either
happen at you or you can grab itby the horns and deal with it as
you can and That doesn'tnecessarily mean your action and
you are going in at it.
No, it also means Sometimes youhave to rest.
Sometimes you have to sit.
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Sometimes you have to just putyour podcast on hold because
You, you got to survive andsurvival looks differently for
all people.
So, hopefully, We're getting outof our survival era.
I personally feel like mine isdefinitely fading, which is
great.
That fight or flight is nolonger Regulating my nervous
system, which gosh, I am veryhappy about that But I hope the
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same for you so Trying to getback into the regular cadence of
this whole thing.
Obviously the podcast is a bigdeal to me.
I'm going to work on speakingcontent this year.
I'm actually meeting withsomebody this week to work on
the website page for that.
So Sully, but surely I'm gettingback in the what's, what's a
good cheesy phrase I can addgetting back in the saddle.
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Oh man, you know, after Norway,which I'm going to try not to
talk too much about Norwaybecause me and Ashley and I are
going to record an episode thatreally like recaps that trip.
Just know that it was absolutelyincredible, absolutely healing
and absolutely what my heartneeded.
I saw the Northern Lights.
Oh my gosh, if you follow me onInstagram, social media, then
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you saw, you followed along andit was incredible when I tell
you the display that we got,even the tour guide was freaking
out.
I still need to kind of writeand think about just what that
meant for me and things likethat.
But it was an incredibleexperience.
Bucket list for sure.
If you are ever given theopportunity to see the Northern
Lights, I highly recommendbecause it is out of this world.
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it was magical.
And, you know, the more I putone foot in front of the other
and walk this path, the path ofhealing, the path of life,
whatever, it just reminds me howmuch magic there is in the
world.
And the magic is you.
The magic starts with you.
The magic is you.
You are the magic.
I am the magic.
All that to say, it waswonderful.
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It was, it was exactly what thedoctor ordered because as soon
as I got back, life was like,okay, great.
Glad you had fun.
Now let's just freaking go ballsto the wall.
Work's been crazy in a good way,but just, well, I mean, crazy is
never really good, but it's beenbusy.
So I've been distracted, butit's been crazy, but I'm really
proud of me and my team becausewe have gotten through all of
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the things that we had to do forthis huge new rollout.
And it's, it's kind of cool tosee the fruits of your labor.
We're, you know, we're about tolaunch and.
Whew, but I feel like I have notbeen able to slow down or keep
my feet tethered to the groundin two weeks since I got back,
so.
That's great.
Um, but that's okay.
That's okay.
I'll tell you this.
My priorities this year aregetting the podcast out.
Cool.
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Do some speaking engagements.
Cool.
I'm going to make money formyself and also travel.
I want to travel everywhere.
I've already set myself up forthis app called going.
I think it used to be a Scott'scheap flights.
Uh, I think it's like 5 a month.
Either way.
I can set like which airports Iwant.
So I did like.
Atlanta and New York.
Manifesting New York one day.
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Living there would be great, um,which, side note, I feel like a
ton of people have told me Ineed to move to New York.
Like, you have New York energy.
And even though I'm not sure ifthat'll ever happen, I can see
myself visiting there all thetime, I love the fact that
people think me, moi, I have NewYork energy.
Because that translates in myhead to cool.
Cool girl energy.
Um, or maybe just like reallyhigh energy, both of which I
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will accept and take.
But traveling, that is my goalthis year, so all my money,
besides like what little bitneeds to go into savings, is
going to go into travel.
So if you're looking for atravel buddy, call your girl.
Um, speaking of travel, well,unrelated to travel, but
speaking of abroad, don't thinkit's inappropriate or weird to
admit this on the podcast, but.
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I've been, the past couple ofmonths, like five, six months,
I've been looking intocitizenship by descent for the
EU because my, um, father'sfamily is from Eastern Europe,
and even though he was bornhere, um, there's lots of ties
there, and after doing my littlebit of research, I've learned
already so much about mybackground, I'm not gonna go too
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much into it because I actuallyjust hired somebody that's gonna
do it legitimately and do allthis research for me.
But basically I'll just saythis, really it's to find out
where am I eligible for thiscitizenship.
And there's like two options,possibly.
Granted, all my research hasbeen on the free internet, so
who knows if those resources aresuper accurate.
But as I uncover more, I willdefinitely share.
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Um, I'm really excited.
Um, and you know, if it doesn'twork out, at least I get to
learn a lot about my familyhistory.
Cause like, I legitimately don'tknow anything about that side of
the family, since they're notreally in my life.
So, you know, going abroad,perhaps going to get my EU
citizenship.
Lord knows things over here arenot the best.
That was one thing people inNorway kept asking, like, how is
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it over there?
How is your president?
You know, a few other questionsthat I'm not going to say here
on the podcast, and I'm justlike, Nervous laughter.
Haha.
It's great.
Just kidding.
Nervous laughter.
It's, uh, you know, it's, it's athing.
It's happening.
You know, this podcast is a formof entertainment, so I'm not
going to talk about politics.
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Just know that I have had to putmyself in a hole in a lot of
ways.
I've been paying attention toimmigration just because of
everything that I'm trying todo.
But other than that.
I just can't deal.
I feel like I have enoughfriends who post things so that
I am well, like I am updatedenough to be somewhat aware of
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what's going on but I tell youwhat, the more I learn the more
I just want to cry.
So, back to the hole, I've beenin enough holes the past six
months but I will put my headinto the political hole, that's
for sure.
So, that's that.
Since I've been back gettingback into the routine of things
trying to add a little bit moreorder to my life So I started
meal prepping which you knowIt's really nice when I don't
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have to worry about what I needto cook and it also helps me eat
Like the level that I need to beeating each day.
I'm trying to work on my fitnessgoals and like I need to take in
more protein.
And when you are A DHD andhyper-focused, you tend to skip
meals accidentally, notintentionally.
So if I want to see the fitnessgoals that I've set out for
myself as Shanna tells me that Ineed to eat more protein.
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So trying to do that mealprepping helps with that,
especially with like breakfastand lunch.
Dinner typically is the onlymeal that I do eat.
So that's great.
So now I eat eggs in themorning.
I eat an egg bake I eat yogurtwith chia seeds like I am just
so healthy.
I can't even I eat tomatoes Sidenote for those who know me Y'all
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know that I have been trying tomake myself like tomatoes for
like the better part of like myadult life.
I Now like them I'm proud of meproof that your taste buds do
change not that that is a superimportant point or fun fact
about Elizabeth But I think it'samazing that how was a silly why
I say silly But it was somethingthat I was like, I'm gonna make
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myself like tomatoes.
Damn it.
They are juicy They come in cutelittle sizes.
Everyone likes them I'm gonnamake myself like them because
they come in so many differentthings anyway, and it was a long
road It was a very long road.
But guess what?
I made it.
I mean, it's You know, if thereis anything that I have
succeeded in life, it isconvincing myself that certain
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foods I hated are delicious.
Because they are! Anyways, Idigress about that.
My mother won't get off my backabout getting a pet.
And I'm like, Mom, I just gotout of a situation where I was
responsible for everything andthen some and I would just like
a Period a brief period of nothaving to worry or be
responsible for anything Butmyself and as you can tell so
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far in this podcast I have beenworking hard towards my goals
and getting better with routineand structure and getting back
in the saddle I don't know whythat makes me giggle probably
because like me a cowgirlAnywho, uh, I say that as a
joke, like, I didn't grow up inthe country.
I absolutely grew up in thecountry.
Uh, bonfires and haystacks, thatwas my high school, middle
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school, and most of my younglife.
But, anyways, I digress.
Mom, is it that you want me toget a pet, or do you want the
pet?
Because I'll be like, Mom, I, Iwant to travel.
I, I, that's not fair for a dogor a cat.
And she's like, well, I couldwatch it.
And I'm like, well, maybe youunderestimate how much I
actually want to travel thisyear.
I can still watch the pet andI'm like, you're missing my
point.
Let me ask you this, is it thatyou want me to get a pet or do
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you want the pet?
mean I have thought aboutgetting a cat, because I do
think that's a little bit lessof a responsibility, but also I
know me and myself and I, and Idon't think I could handle
having a cat.
And traveling all the time.
It would be lonely.
It'd be sad.
And then, I can't get two cats.
Gosh, then, then, I reallyprobably wouldn't travel because
I'd feel bad.
I don't know.
I'm, I'm just rambling aboutanimals.
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All this to say my mom won't getoff my back about it.
And as much as I would love apuppy, I know it would bring me
a lot of joy.
Um, the pet that I'm trying to,trying to get right now is those
airline flights.
So, there she blows.
So that's fun.
Let's see other things thishouse as I mentioned earlier.
I'll get into that You know,It's expensive trying to furnish
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a house I've had to sell part ofmy soul to the devil himself
Jeff Bezos and buy a lot ofthings on Amazon and you know I
don't regret it Because you gotto do what you got to do is
sometimes capitalism wins.
So thank you Bezos for the veryI mean, I have to be honest,
it's like decent quality stuff,making my house look fabulous,
but, Teach his own, I guess.
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Hate me for it if you want, butshe's gotta do what she's gotta
do.
All that to say, slowly butsurely getting this place
together, um, I still have somuch art to hang.
That's one thing that I do needto figure out.
I need like a hundred frames.
That's dramatic.
I don't need that many frames,but I do need a lot of frames,
and frames are expensive.
And, you know, as much as I'dlove to be like, yeah, I'll just
make them myself, I have to knowmy limits and, uh, that's,
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that's one of them as much asI'd love to be an arts and
crafts girly.
I'm like, I can't do that andlearn the piano and do a podcast
and speak and do my job and dothis and do that.
you know, it's a beautiful thingto have so many interests, but I
cannot commit myself to 50, 000things because been there, done
that.
And let me tell you something,not much got done.
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So.
There is that.
But in terms of the home and allof that fun jazz, it is fun,
turning a home into your own.
You know what I mean?
I still have a long way to go,but I've bought rugs.
She bought rugs.
I bought ceiling fans.
I also bought curtains.
Curtains.
So the reason I bring up thecurtains is because as a single
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independent girly now, I wasalways independent girly, uh,
but now being alone, I've beendoing a lot of stuff on my own,
and I definitely have thisbelief that I can do anything
that I set my mind out to, whichis partially true, but sometimes
you need help.
So, for example, if you livealone, I highly recommend that
you don't try to hang curtains,like window curtains, curtain
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rod, by yourself.
So, I have really tall ceilingsin this house.
And I have this really big, big,beautiful window in the living
room and up until, like, thispast weekend there was just this
big, ugly, navy blue sheetcovering it.
I got blinds, but I didn't wantto do blinds with these windows
because they're, like, kind ofornate, like, they're really
pretty designed windows.
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So I was like, I'm going to keepthose and then get a big, big
curtain, so at night I can closeit, obviously, and then during
the day keep it open.
Well, I'm looking at the heightof this window and the wall and
I'm like, Is my ladder gonna getme up there?
Of course of course cuz remembera single independent lady over
here.
She can do everything.
She sets her mind to so here Iam on my tippy toes on the top
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step of this ladder Which Icringe even saying that cuz like
that should have been a clearsign that this was not the smart
move Because I'm on your I'm onmy tippy toes on the top part of
the ladder Also, think about meand my clumsiness and my
inability to, like, keep myself,like, balanced.
I feel like no matter, no matterthe core strength, I am always
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going to wobble.
That is for damn sure.
I've, I slipped, slopped,slapped all over Norway.
Ashley and I has lots ofevidence of it and it's not
because I, I was trying to beclumsy.
I just, I don't know.
I got weird knees.
That's all I have to say.
So here I am on top of theladder trying to hang this
curtain on my tippy toes and Istill can't even like basically
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see how I'm screwing this inwith the screw gun because I'm
just, I'm going off for lack ofbetter words vibes.
This looks right.
Like I mean, so many things donewrong, would definitely do it
differently now, but whatever.
So here I am, screwing in thescrews, trying to get this rod,
like the rod hangings up there.
And all of the sudden, like, Ifeel, I just feel myself start
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to sway back.
I was starting to fallcompletely backwards, and I just
reached out, and of course,like, what am I going to grab?
Thankfully, the crown molding ontop of the window sticks out
pretty far.
I grabbed that, which I guess Ihave really great hand strength
because I just, I mean literallythe molding of my window frame
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is what saved my life.
So here I was like, Oh my God,holding it.
And I'm like trying to get mybody to balance.
Like, like don't fall, don'tfall.
And I'm like, Oh my God, Ialmost just died.
I legitimately almost just died.
I looked down behind me as I'venow regained my balance.
And I'm like sweating profuselybecause that was like three
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seconds of sheer.
Fear, terror, panic, all of theabove.
I look behind me and I'm like, Iwould have absolutely broken my
neck.
Not that the latter is too toohigh, but the amount of shit I
had behind me, like tools, this,that, whatever, I would have
died.
I mean, hopefully not died, butI would have done some damage,
and all I could think about wasme just laying there, unable to
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find my phone, unable to doanything, and just, I don't
know, bleeding out, my bonesbreaking, oxygen being cut off,
I don't freaking know, nameevery worst case scenario and
that was running through myhead.
And then the next thought I hadwas, wow, as a single girl, do I
need to get life alert?
Geez.
And you know, a lot of peoplethat I've told that story to,
like, you need to get yourselflike a guy friend or someone
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that can come help you, like myneighbor, blah, blah, blah.
Like, look, I don't have a dad.
My grandpa's gone.
I don't really have a lot ofmasculine energy in my life.
So who are you going to call?
Nobody.
I have since found a few friendsthat were like, Elizabeth,
please don't kill yourself, Iwill help you next time.
Um, Ashley and his dad being oneof them, so that's great, but if
you want to adopt me and be mylittle helper, I would really
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appreciate it, because Lordknows I'm probably going to
continue to push the limits onwhat a single, hyper independent
girlie can do.
And I, I don't want to be not aslucky next time.
Well, wait, I definitely want tobe as lucky next time.
Wow, that did not come outcorrectly.
All I'm trying to say is I'mtrying to not break my neck next
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time.
So, do I get life alert or do Iask one of my homies, be like,
yo, If anything, can you justcome spot me?
Oh, man, but anyways Thecurtain's hung.
I am not going to say it looksgood, um, but it's hung and it
gets the job done.
And maybe one of these dayssomeone can come help me adjust
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it.
But, single girl hijinks, I havea feeling that there's going to
be a lot more of those because Iam, A walking, living cartoon
character.
I mean that as a compliment, butreally it just encompasses the
fact that I'm goofy, weird,weird things and quirky things
happen to me and I just smileand go with it.
I just vibe like, okay, ofcourse this is gonna happen
cause I'm a cartoon character.
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Uh, but that's okay.
That's okay.
It keeps life interesting.
You know, I live my life like amovie.
That's literally my mantra.
Oh, this shit hit the fan again,living my life like a movie.
This must be the plot point.
Lots of plot points recently,but, uh, hopefully we're now
like in the, the good part ofthe movie.
The drama hopefully hassubsided, geez.
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Ready for the next chapter.
But, um, all that said and done.
single girl escapades.
I can see them, I can see themcontinuing.
I can see more.
Let's see what she gets into.
Who knows what my travels maybring.
all my jokes and rambling aside,I gotta say, I am so excited for
this new chapter and what's tocome and where I'm going and all
of that exciting stuff.
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I've already started likereaching out to people who I met
last year about coming on thepodcast and getting back in the
flow of that.
And it just, it feels good.
dare I say, I feel alive.
Hmph! Hmph! Ah, and you know, Ireally do mean that.
And, I have to say, goingthrough what I've been through
the past six months, and assomebody who has had lots of
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crippling anxiety related to mypath, my future, my fate, my
dreams, all of that, Sometimesyou do have to slow down and you
have to compartmentalize, andyou have to take it one step at
a time.
Sometimes it's, it's one stepevery three days sort of thing.
And I kind of mentioned this onthe last episode, but you will
feel alive again no matter whatyou're going through.
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And I'm, I'm not gaslightingyou.
I'm not even gonna pretend toassume what hardships someone
may be going through, but youwill feel alive again, and as
long as you, you don't let lifehappen at you, you take the
tragedy, the confusion, theshitstorm rather, you take it as
it comes, and you, let it hityou the way it needs to, you let
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it transform you the way itneeds to, but you always get
back in the saddle, there's thatphrase again, you're going to be
okay.
You will feel alive again.
You will find the magic of life,the universe, the magic of what
it means to live.
Cause you know my favorite thingto ramble about with anyone who
will listen to me is about theuniverse, existentialism, and
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the fact that we exist.
You know, it's insane that weexist.
It's insane that we are livingour lives on this blue rock
floating through an infiniteuniverse Talking on podcasts,
writing emails, making ourselveslike tomatoes.
It's a beautiful thing.
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Our existence is here for aspeck.
Our entire existence is here fora speck.
So that means life is worthliving.
And I know we've seen thepositive posters probably in
grade school saying, do better,keep going forward, life is what
you make it, but truly life iswhat you make it.
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Don't get bogged down bysociety, don't get bogged down
by the bullshit.
If you're going through a periodof darkness and evolution, raise
his hand.
That's still, beautiful, that'sstill part of the story, that's
still part of your existence.
And that's kind of what I meanby, like, don't let life happen
at you.
You, you go with the flow oflife.
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And remember, sometimes it'sshitty.
And those moments are going tohappen.
We're going to suffer.
It's, we're existing in thisworld.
Yes, suffering is part of it.
But rather than focusing on thesuffering, I want you to focus
on the magic.
And even in all my darkest daysthe past six months, all the
moments where I was like, Oh myGod, how am I going to get
through this?
Like, fuh.
This is hard and you start roleplaying all the hindsight 2020s
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that got you here and you'relike, damn I let this happen
Okay, that's kidding.
I'm not gonna spiral there Buteven still I Didn't forget about
the magic.
Okay, that's a lie There wasdefinitely a few moments in my
despair where I was like, ohgosh, am I gonna make it out?
but Most importantly I did mostimportantly.
I didn't forget and mostimportantly the magic was still
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there And I think I mentionedthis last time as well.
I am sure the reflection,introspection on this whole
thing, this whole journey willcontinue to present itself
within weeks, months, years todate, but never lose sight of
the magic.
We are so back, baby.
We are so back.
I feel like myself again, evenmore so Norway help with that.
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Gosh, gosh, gosh, gosh.
You know, I just want to saythis.
If you need to heal, especiallyafter some major life shit,
highly highly recommend goingabroad.
I know not everyone financiallycan do that.
So maybe it's going just goingon a solo trip or something like
that, but travel.
Do something, take yourself outof the environment and just
reset.
Like, it was the best reset Icould have asked for.
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Northern Lights, bucket listitem.
I'm not saying you have to gohard or go home.
You know, go that big or go homekind of thing.
But do something for yourself.
Uh, cause it definitely kickstarted my healing journey and
that's what's, that's beautiful.
It's magical.
And when I tell you on, just tokind of continue on with the,
the magic line I've got goinghere.
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Again, with the Norway episodewith Ashley Anna, we'll talk
more about this, but I just wantto say, yes, seeing the Northern
Lights was definitely a bucketlist item, but it was a
spiritual experience.
And as you all know, it's beensomething I've been talking
about for the better part of ayear.
And when I tell you the NorthernLights showed out, they showed
out.
It was incredible, like, thewhole sky exploded into green,
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purple, pink.
It was so bright, it almostseemed like the sun was out.
Did I cry?
One thousand percent afterward.
Of course I did.
It's me, the emotional empathover here.
Of course I cried! But it washappy tears.
It was, it was the knowing thatI am on the right path.
It was the reassurance, thevalidation that I have been
seeking, that I have beenneeding from the universe to
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say, you're going to be okay.
You're doing the right thing.
Everything you've been throughis just all part of the larger
picture.
And I hope that my story, mystrength, my perseverance, if
you will, inspires you.
And, you know, I hope it helpsyou find the magic of life in
your own life.
I hope it helps you never toforget the magic.
Again, reminder, we go throughshit.
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We go through hardships.
But there is joy, there isabundance, and there is magic on
the other side of that.
least that's my two cents on it.
And again, you may not agreewith me, but uh, if you don't, I
would argue that your outlook onlife needs to change, because
life is beautiful, life is worthliving, and life is what you
make it.
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All those posters that we saw ingrade school, maybe they had
something to them.
So here we are, breakinggenerational trauma, child
wounds, healing, choosingourselves.
Don't know why I always talk inthird person, maybe I should get
that checked out, but I like it,so here we are.
Um, and also trying new things.
Tomatoes, make yourself likethem.
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I tried CrossFit.
Uh, don't know if I'm going tomake myself like that.
I was like, you know, fillingout the little thing, the waiver
you have to do before you go.
And it's like, do you have anyinjuries?
And I was like, I have upperbody injuries because of my car
accident, blah, blah, blah,blah, blah.
And so like, they're texting melike, we can't wait for you to
come.
Injuries, blah, blah, blah.
And I'm like, my shoulder, myshoulder, my shoulder, upper
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body, upper body, shoulder,hello.
Riddle me why when I show up,the freaking first exercise is
climbing a rope.
Oh my god, I, uh, hmm, I'm stillso sore, like I still can't even
like move my, up my right armover my head.
It hurts so bad, but she tried.
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Did she succeed?
No, but she tried.
Um, however, I do find it ironicthat I, I let them know multiple
times my upper body wasdefinitely something to be
considered and they're likegreat here We're gonna teach you
how to climb a rope But you knowwhat?
It's an adventure.
It's an adventure and thiscartoon character will take that
adventure gladly.
So All that to say I'm excitedfor the journey ahead I'm always
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excited.
Even when it seems like shit,I'm like, there is a light at
the end of this tunnel at somepoint, so I'm gonna get there.
And now, I definitely feel likeI am out of the tunnel.
I mean, I'm not out of the woodscompletely, but I think I'm out
of the tunnel.
I'm starting to feel thesunshine, and that's beautiful.
And with the spring equinox,spring here, somewhere around
the corner, all the travel thatI am manifesting in my future,
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dare I say, finding love?
Ugh, God.
Love, you know, that's a wholeother conversation, but I'm
going to find it and I'm goingto heal all the fricking child
wounds in the process.
Big one being I'm enough, I'menough and I'm not too much.
Uh, and I know I'm not the onlyperson who's ever felt that way.
And for any person that made usfeel that way, screw them big
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time.
Um, there's a lot of hiddenmessages in that statement right
there, but, uh, you're not toomuch.
And, you know, for the rightpeople, the right person, the
right partner.
You will be just perfect, socheers to living life, finding
the magic, and loving yourselftaking the full experience of
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this existence to your benefit,finding the joy in the small
moments, finding the joy in thebig moments.
Finding the strength to getthrough the bad moments, the sad
moments, the dark moments, andjust always remembering and
knowing that you're gonna makeit out.
And that's beautiful.
So on that note, I'm going toend this week's episode and we
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are gonna fingers crossed wecome back next week.
Uh, but, until then I'm justkind of taking the pressure off
myself because Lord knows I'vehad enough of that the past six
months, uh, but I'm gonna getthere.
Because, duh, I always bet onme.
That's what I say.
And it's nice to be known forsomeone who does what they say
they're gonna do.
So, I gotta uphold that mantra.
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You know what I mean?
You know what I mean.
Anyways, I hope you all arehaving a fantastic start to your
day, start to your spring.
And, um, I'll see you next timeon The In Between.
And if you're not doing soalready, you can follow me on
Instagram at in.
betweenpod and my personal atelizabethcheney underscore.
And then also on YouTube andpodcast.
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Find me there.
We can be friends.
We can kick it.
You know what I'm saying?
You know what I'm saying?
And like I said, if you'relooking for a travel buddy, give
me a holler.
although solo travel is totallyfine too.
Love that.
Anyways, you guys are the best.
Have the most magical day thatyou can manifest and I'll see
you next time.
I'm Elizabeth.
Bye.
Hey, hey, hey, welcome back to an all new
episode of the in between I'myour host, Elizabeth Cheney, and
it's great to be back.
You know, I know it's been arough bumpy past couple of
months in terms of, you know,content and recording and life
things.
And if you are not sure what I'mtalking about, well, go back and
(00:28):
listen to the most recentepisode, but I am going through
a major life transition.
Um, but.
It's all good.
Because, you know what?
We are in control of our fate.
We are in control of our fate,meaning we handle the things
that life throws at us, and, youknow?
If you have to crumble a littlebit, you let it.
If you persevere immediately,that's great for you.
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Otherwise, life is just acontinuous flow of beauty,
magic, and lessons.
Way to kick today's episode offon such an existential note.
But then again, That's basicallywho I am.
Anyways, I am recording this onthe, uh, the spring equinox,
the, uh, start of theastrological new year.
And sure, time is a socialconstruct.
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I don't necessarily believe init.
However, as an ADHD girly, I dolike structure in my routine.
So starts, finishes, things likethat.
I really like it.
So I am going to honor theastrological new year, I put
that in quotes, um, as the startto my new year.
One, because as I've alreadysaid multiple times, especially
in last episode, uh, the pastsix months have been horrible.
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Um, not the best.
We'll just call it a growingseason.
You know, back to that fakecomment I just said, I, um, I
let life, I don't let life justhappen to me.
I.
Get through it one way or theother, even if I have a
bajillion mental breakdowns andpanic attacks in the process.
Uh, but the spring equinox, soit's also representing the
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beginning of spring.
It's like the day where The day,it's the day, well, it is the
day, but it's the day wherelight and dark are equal during
the day.
So, hello seasonal depression,you can leave, goodbye, don't
let the door hit you on your wayout, because we are in the
process of receiving sunlight,good fortune, good juju, all of
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the things.
Um, all jokes aside, yes, thepast few months have felt
stagnant, that's one way to putit.
And I kept thinking to myself,all right.
You know, not to get too booboo, but I was hoping and also
just praying if you will OnceMarch comes around maybe things
in my life would start tofinally kind of move and they
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definitely have Are they fullspeed ahead?
Absolutely not, but we'regetting there.
We're getting there.
I only have a hundred things todo at this house I am a little
overwhelmed and I will talkabout that later.
But If there's one person I'llbet on, it's me.
That's something I always say.
And sometimes it's me justtrying to prove to myself that I
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can do it.
But, I mean, looking at my trackrecord, I almost always come
through.
And if I don't, it's because Ichanged my mind.
So, that's that.
But, cheers to the springequinox.
Cheers to sunlight.
Cheers to longer days.
Oh, gosh.
You know what's so funny is Iused to love winter.
And, I mean, I love the cold,but the long nights.
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Right?
And I gotta be honest, I don'tknow what I was on, but I can't
believe that was me, if thatmakes any sense.
I need the sunlight, I need tobe outside, I need to touch
grass.
Maybe it's just because life hasbeen lifing and, you know, I can
take all the positivity and allthe sunshine and all the
rainbows.
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but, I no longer care for thelong night, so maybe I'm out of
my vampire era and more in mybutterfly era.
Which kind of goes with my momsand I, we have this like little
thing that we say now is like,this is our butterfly year,
which now that I say that, I dothink we said that at the end of
2023 that 2024 was going to be,um, but little did we know 2024
was more the cocoon year andthis year will be the butterfly
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year.
So cheers to spring equinox,sunshine and butterfly years.
There we go.
I think that's a better cheers.
Uh, so what's been going on, um,besides major life changes,
which I am not gonna talk toomuch about, cause, you know,
you're still kind of in theprocess.
still kind of going through themotions, still kind of getting
all of that together.
And then also I'm not just goingto talk about that stuff just
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offhandedly.
I'm going to really put a lot oftime, attention and you know,
love, let's be real, love intothat type of content, divorce
content.
So we'll get there.
Uh, just know that.
Every single person who reachedout after the most recent
episode, which I'm not gonnalie, I was really surprised.
Not that I don't think I put outgreat content, but I had so many
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people reach out to me afterthat last episode.
So, I think you guys like me.
Uh, and you guys care, so that'sgreat.
Uh, but so much support, so manypeople reaching out saying that
they'd gone through somethingsimilar and they really
appreciated my words on it and,and just, I don't know.
It's nice to have community.
And every major life thing thatI've been through, I always come
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back to community, you have tofall on your community, whether
that's your friends, yourfamily, social media, people on
the internet, I don't know,reddit forums, whatever floats
your boat.
You know, when I lost Luna,community was huge, community
was huge.
So, getting through this, Idon't think I would be able to
if it weren't for my supportsystem.
And, you know, I look forward tounveiling more and just If
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anything, I'm feeling more ofthe introspection and the growth
that comes with this becauselike I said life can either
happen at you or you can grab itby the horns and deal with it as
you can and That doesn'tnecessarily mean your action and
you are going in at it.
No, it also means Sometimes youhave to rest.
Sometimes you have to sit.
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Sometimes you have to just putyour podcast on hold because
You, you got to survive andsurvival looks differently for
all people.
So, hopefully, We're getting outof our survival era.
I personally feel like mine isdefinitely fading, which is
great.
That fight or flight is nolonger Regulating my nervous
system, which gosh, I am veryhappy about that But I hope the
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same for you so Trying to getback into the regular cadence of
this whole thing.
Obviously the podcast is a bigdeal to me.
I'm going to work on speakingcontent this year.
I'm actually meeting withsomebody this week to work on
the website page for that.
So Sully, but surely I'm gettingback in the what's, what's a
good cheesy phrase I can addgetting back in the saddle.
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Oh man, you know, after Norway,which I'm going to try not to
talk too much about Norwaybecause me and Ashley and I are
going to record an episode thatreally like recaps that trip.
Just know that it was absolutelyincredible, absolutely healing
and absolutely what my heartneeded.
I saw the Northern Lights.
Oh my gosh, if you follow me onInstagram, social media, then
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you saw, you followed along andit was incredible when I tell
you the display that we got,even the tour guide was freaking
out.
I still need to kind of writeand think about just what that
meant for me and things likethat.
But it was an incredibleexperience.
Bucket list for sure.
If you are ever given theopportunity to see the Northern
Lights, I highly recommendbecause it is out of this world.
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it was magical.
And, you know, the more I putone foot in front of the other
and walk this path, the path ofhealing, the path of life,
whatever, it just reminds me howmuch magic there is in the
world.
And the magic is you.
The magic starts with you.
The magic is you.
You are the magic.
I am the magic.
All that to say, it waswonderful.
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It was, it was exactly what thedoctor ordered because as soon
as I got back, life was like,okay, great.
Glad you had fun.
Now let's just freaking go ballsto the wall.
Work's been crazy in a good way,but just, well, I mean, crazy is
never really good, but it's beenbusy.
So I've been distracted, butit's been crazy, but I'm really
proud of me and my team becausewe have gotten through all of
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the things that we had to do forthis huge new rollout.
And it's, it's kind of cool tosee the fruits of your labor.
We're, you know, we're about tolaunch and.
Whew, but I feel like I have notbeen able to slow down or keep
my feet tethered to the groundin two weeks since I got back,
so.
That's great.
Um, but that's okay.
That's okay.
I'll tell you this.
My priorities this year aregetting the podcast out.
Cool.
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Do some speaking engagements.
Cool.
I'm going to make money formyself and also travel.
I want to travel everywhere.
I've already set myself up forthis app called going.
I think it used to be a Scott'scheap flights.
Uh, I think it's like 5 a month.
Either way.
I can set like which airports Iwant.
So I did like.
Atlanta and New York.
Manifesting New York one day.
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Living there would be great, um,which, side note, I feel like a
ton of people have told me Ineed to move to New York.
Like, you have New York energy.
And even though I'm not sure ifthat'll ever happen, I can see
myself visiting there all thetime, I love the fact that
people think me, moi, I have NewYork energy.
Because that translates in myhead to cool.
Cool girl energy.
Um, or maybe just like reallyhigh energy, both of which I
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will accept and take.
But traveling, that is my goalthis year, so all my money,
besides like what little bitneeds to go into savings, is
going to go into travel.
So if you're looking for atravel buddy, call your girl.
Um, speaking of travel, well,unrelated to travel, but
speaking of abroad, don't thinkit's inappropriate or weird to
admit this on the podcast, but.
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I've been, the past couple ofmonths, like five, six months,
I've been looking intocitizenship by descent for the
EU because my, um, father'sfamily is from Eastern Europe,
and even though he was bornhere, um, there's lots of ties
there, and after doing my littlebit of research, I've learned
already so much about mybackground, I'm not gonna go too
(09:58):
much into it because I actuallyjust hired somebody that's gonna
do it legitimately and do allthis research for me.
But basically I'll just saythis, really it's to find out
where am I eligible for thiscitizenship.
And there's like two options,possibly.
Granted, all my research hasbeen on the free internet, so
who knows if those resources aresuper accurate.
But as I uncover more, I willdefinitely share.
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Um, I'm really excited.
Um, and you know, if it doesn'twork out, at least I get to
learn a lot about my familyhistory.
Cause like, I legitimately don'tknow anything about that side of
the family, since they're notreally in my life.
So, you know, going abroad,perhaps going to get my EU
citizenship.
Lord knows things over here arenot the best.
That was one thing people inNorway kept asking, like, how is
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it over there?
How is your president?
You know, a few other questionsthat I'm not going to say here
on the podcast, and I'm justlike, Nervous laughter.
Haha.
It's great.
Just kidding.
Nervous laughter.
It's, uh, you know, it's, it's athing.
It's happening.
You know, this podcast is a formof entertainment, so I'm not
going to talk about politics.
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Just know that I have had to putmyself in a hole in a lot of
ways.
I've been paying attention toimmigration just because of
everything that I'm trying todo.
But other than that.
I just can't deal.
I feel like I have enoughfriends who post things so that
I am well, like I am updatedenough to be somewhat aware of
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what's going on but I tell youwhat, the more I learn the more
I just want to cry.
So, back to the hole, I've beenin enough holes the past six
months but I will put my headinto the political hole, that's
for sure.
So, that's that.
Since I've been back gettingback into the routine of things
trying to add a little bit moreorder to my life So I started
meal prepping which you knowIt's really nice when I don't
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have to worry about what I needto cook and it also helps me eat
Like the level that I need to beeating each day.
I'm trying to work on my fitnessgoals and like I need to take in
more protein.
And when you are A DHD andhyper-focused, you tend to skip
meals accidentally, notintentionally.
So if I want to see the fitnessgoals that I've set out for
myself as Shanna tells me that Ineed to eat more protein.
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So trying to do that mealprepping helps with that,
especially with like breakfastand lunch.
Dinner typically is the onlymeal that I do eat.
So that's great.
So now I eat eggs in themorning.
I eat an egg bake I eat yogurtwith chia seeds like I am just
so healthy.
I can't even I eat tomatoes Sidenote for those who know me Y'all
(12:24):
know that I have been trying tomake myself like tomatoes for
like the better part of like myadult life.
I Now like them I'm proud of meproof that your taste buds do
change not that that is a superimportant point or fun fact
about Elizabeth But I think it'samazing that how was a silly why
I say silly But it was somethingthat I was like, I'm gonna make
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myself like tomatoes.
Damn it.
They are juicy They come in cutelittle sizes.
Everyone likes them I'm gonnamake myself like them because
they come in so many differentthings anyway, and it was a long
road It was a very long road.
But guess what?
I made it.
I mean, it's You know, if thereis anything that I have
succeeded in life, it isconvincing myself that certain
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foods I hated are delicious.
Because they are! Anyways, Idigress about that.
My mother won't get off my backabout getting a pet.
And I'm like, Mom, I just gotout of a situation where I was
responsible for everything andthen some and I would just like
a Period a brief period of nothaving to worry or be
responsible for anything Butmyself and as you can tell so
(13:27):
far in this podcast I have beenworking hard towards my goals
and getting better with routineand structure and getting back
in the saddle I don't know whythat makes me giggle probably
because like me a cowgirlAnywho, uh, I say that as a
joke, like, I didn't grow up inthe country.
I absolutely grew up in thecountry.
Uh, bonfires and haystacks, thatwas my high school, middle
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school, and most of my younglife.
But, anyways, I digress.
Mom, is it that you want me toget a pet, or do you want the
pet?
Because I'll be like, Mom, I, Iwant to travel.
I, I, that's not fair for a dogor a cat.
And she's like, well, I couldwatch it.
And I'm like, well, maybe youunderestimate how much I
actually want to travel thisyear.
I can still watch the pet andI'm like, you're missing my
point.
Let me ask you this, is it thatyou want me to get a pet or do
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you want the pet?
mean I have thought aboutgetting a cat, because I do
think that's a little bit lessof a responsibility, but also I
know me and myself and I, and Idon't think I could handle
having a cat.
And traveling all the time.
It would be lonely.
It'd be sad.
And then, I can't get two cats.
Gosh, then, then, I reallyprobably wouldn't travel because
I'd feel bad.
I don't know.
I'm, I'm just rambling aboutanimals.
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All this to say my mom won't getoff my back about it.
And as much as I would love apuppy, I know it would bring me
a lot of joy.
Um, the pet that I'm trying to,trying to get right now is those
airline flights.
So, there she blows.
So that's fun.
Let's see other things thishouse as I mentioned earlier.
I'll get into that You know,It's expensive trying to furnish
(14:55):
a house I've had to sell part ofmy soul to the devil himself
Jeff Bezos and buy a lot ofthings on Amazon and you know I
don't regret it Because you gotto do what you got to do is
sometimes capitalism wins.
So thank you Bezos for the veryI mean, I have to be honest,
it's like decent quality stuff,making my house look fabulous,
but, Teach his own, I guess.
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Hate me for it if you want, butshe's gotta do what she's gotta
do.
All that to say, slowly butsurely getting this place
together, um, I still have somuch art to hang.
That's one thing that I do needto figure out.
I need like a hundred frames.
That's dramatic.
I don't need that many frames,but I do need a lot of frames,
and frames are expensive.
And, you know, as much as I'dlove to be like, yeah, I'll just
make them myself, I have to knowmy limits and, uh, that's,
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that's one of them as much asI'd love to be an arts and
crafts girly.
I'm like, I can't do that andlearn the piano and do a podcast
and speak and do my job and dothis and do that.
you know, it's a beautiful thingto have so many interests, but I
cannot commit myself to 50, 000things because been there, done
that.
And let me tell you something,not much got done.
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So.
There is that.
But in terms of the home and allof that fun jazz, it is fun,
turning a home into your own.
You know what I mean?
I still have a long way to go,but I've bought rugs.
She bought rugs.
I bought ceiling fans.
I also bought curtains.
Curtains.
So the reason I bring up thecurtains is because as a single
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independent girly now, I wasalways independent girly, uh,
but now being alone, I've beendoing a lot of stuff on my own,
and I definitely have thisbelief that I can do anything
that I set my mind out to, whichis partially true, but sometimes
you need help.
So, for example, if you livealone, I highly recommend that
you don't try to hang curtains,like window curtains, curtain
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rod, by yourself.
So, I have really tall ceilingsin this house.
And I have this really big, big,beautiful window in the living
room and up until, like, thispast weekend there was just this
big, ugly, navy blue sheetcovering it.
I got blinds, but I didn't wantto do blinds with these windows
because they're, like, kind ofornate, like, they're really
pretty designed windows.
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So I was like, I'm going to keepthose and then get a big, big
curtain, so at night I can closeit, obviously, and then during
the day keep it open.
Well, I'm looking at the heightof this window and the wall and
I'm like, Is my ladder gonna getme up there?
Of course of course cuz remembera single independent lady over
here.
She can do everything.
She sets her mind to so here Iam on my tippy toes on the top
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step of this ladder Which Icringe even saying that cuz like
that should have been a clearsign that this was not the smart
move Because I'm on your I'm onmy tippy toes on the top part of
the ladder Also, think about meand my clumsiness and my
inability to, like, keep myself,like, balanced.
I feel like no matter, no matterthe core strength, I am always
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going to wobble.
That is for damn sure.
I've, I slipped, slopped,slapped all over Norway.
Ashley and I has lots ofevidence of it and it's not
because I, I was trying to beclumsy.
I just, I don't know.
I got weird knees.
That's all I have to say.
So here I am on top of theladder trying to hang this
curtain on my tippy toes and Istill can't even like basically
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see how I'm screwing this inwith the screw gun because I'm
just, I'm going off for lack ofbetter words vibes.
This looks right.
Like I mean, so many things donewrong, would definitely do it
differently now, but whatever.
So here I am, screwing in thescrews, trying to get this rod,
like the rod hangings up there.
And all of the sudden, like, Ifeel, I just feel myself start
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to sway back.
I was starting to fallcompletely backwards, and I just
reached out, and of course,like, what am I going to grab?
Thankfully, the crown molding ontop of the window sticks out
pretty far.
I grabbed that, which I guess Ihave really great hand strength
because I just, I mean literallythe molding of my window frame
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is what saved my life.
So here I was like, Oh my God,holding it.
And I'm like trying to get mybody to balance.
Like, like don't fall, don'tfall.
And I'm like, Oh my God, Ialmost just died.
I legitimately almost just died.
I looked down behind me as I'venow regained my balance.
And I'm like sweating profuselybecause that was like three
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seconds of sheer.
Fear, terror, panic, all of theabove.
I look behind me and I'm like, Iwould have absolutely broken my
neck.
Not that the latter is too toohigh, but the amount of shit I
had behind me, like tools, this,that, whatever, I would have
died.
I mean, hopefully not died, butI would have done some damage,
and all I could think about wasme just laying there, unable to
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find my phone, unable to doanything, and just, I don't
know, bleeding out, my bonesbreaking, oxygen being cut off,
I don't freaking know, nameevery worst case scenario and
that was running through myhead.
And then the next thought I hadwas, wow, as a single girl, do I
need to get life alert?
Geez.
And you know, a lot of peoplethat I've told that story to,
like, you need to get yourselflike a guy friend or someone
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that can come help you, like myneighbor, blah, blah, blah.
Like, look, I don't have a dad.
My grandpa's gone.
I don't really have a lot ofmasculine energy in my life.
So who are you going to call?
Nobody.
I have since found a few friendsthat were like, Elizabeth,
please don't kill yourself, Iwill help you next time.
Um, Ashley and his dad being oneof them, so that's great, but if
you want to adopt me and be mylittle helper, I would really
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appreciate it, because Lordknows I'm probably going to
continue to push the limits onwhat a single, hyper independent
girlie can do.
And I, I don't want to be not aslucky next time.
Well, wait, I definitely want tobe as lucky next time.
Wow, that did not come outcorrectly.
All I'm trying to say is I'mtrying to not break my neck next
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time.
So, do I get life alert or do Iask one of my homies, be like,
yo, If anything, can you justcome spot me?
Oh, man, but anyways Thecurtain's hung.
I am not going to say it looksgood, um, but it's hung and it
gets the job done.
And maybe one of these dayssomeone can come help me adjust
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it.
But, single girl hijinks, I havea feeling that there's going to
be a lot more of those because Iam, A walking, living cartoon
character.
I mean that as a compliment, butreally it just encompasses the
fact that I'm goofy, weird,weird things and quirky things
happen to me and I just smileand go with it.
I just vibe like, okay, ofcourse this is gonna happen
cause I'm a cartoon character.
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Uh, but that's okay.
That's okay.
It keeps life interesting.
You know, I live my life like amovie.
That's literally my mantra.
Oh, this shit hit the fan again,living my life like a movie.
This must be the plot point.
Lots of plot points recently,but, uh, hopefully we're now
like in the, the good part ofthe movie.
The drama hopefully hassubsided, geez.
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Ready for the next chapter.
But, um, all that said and done.
single girl escapades.
I can see them, I can see themcontinuing.
I can see more.
Let's see what she gets into.
Who knows what my travels maybring.
all my jokes and rambling aside,I gotta say, I am so excited for
this new chapter and what's tocome and where I'm going and all
of that exciting stuff.
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I've already started likereaching out to people who I met
last year about coming on thepodcast and getting back in the
flow of that.
And it just, it feels good.
dare I say, I feel alive.
Hmph! Hmph! Ah, and you know, Ireally do mean that.
And, I have to say, goingthrough what I've been through
the past six months, and assomebody who has had lots of
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crippling anxiety related to mypath, my future, my fate, my
dreams, all of that, Sometimesyou do have to slow down and you
have to compartmentalize, andyou have to take it one step at
a time.
Sometimes it's, it's one stepevery three days sort of thing.
And I kind of mentioned this onthe last episode, but you will
feel alive again no matter whatyou're going through.
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And I'm, I'm not gaslightingyou.
I'm not even gonna pretend toassume what hardships someone
may be going through, but youwill feel alive again, and as
long as you, you don't let lifehappen at you, you take the
tragedy, the confusion, theshitstorm rather, you take it as
it comes, and you, let it hityou the way it needs to, you let
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it transform you the way itneeds to, but you always get
back in the saddle, there's thatphrase again, you're going to be
okay.
You will feel alive again.
You will find the magic of life,the universe, the magic of what
it means to live.
Cause you know my favorite thingto ramble about with anyone who
will listen to me is about theuniverse, existentialism, and
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the fact that we exist.
You know, it's insane that weexist.
It's insane that we are livingour lives on this blue rock
floating through an infiniteuniverse Talking on podcasts,
writing emails, making ourselveslike tomatoes.
It's a beautiful thing.
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Our existence is here for aspeck.
Our entire existence is here fora speck.
So that means life is worthliving.
And I know we've seen thepositive posters probably in
grade school saying, do better,keep going forward, life is what
you make it, but truly life iswhat you make it.
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Don't get bogged down bysociety, don't get bogged down
by the bullshit.
If you're going through a periodof darkness and evolution, raise
his hand.
That's still, beautiful, that'sstill part of the story, that's
still part of your existence.
And that's kind of what I meanby, like, don't let life happen
at you.
You, you go with the flow oflife.
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And remember, sometimes it'sshitty.
And those moments are going tohappen.
We're going to suffer.
It's, we're existing in thisworld.
Yes, suffering is part of it.
But rather than focusing on thesuffering, I want you to focus
on the magic.
And even in all my darkest daysthe past six months, all the
moments where I was like, Oh myGod, how am I going to get
through this?
Like, fuh.
This is hard and you start roleplaying all the hindsight 2020s
(24:58):
that got you here and you'relike, damn I let this happen
Okay, that's kidding.
I'm not gonna spiral there Buteven still I Didn't forget about
the magic.
Okay, that's a lie There wasdefinitely a few moments in my
despair where I was like, ohgosh, am I gonna make it out?
but Most importantly I did mostimportantly.
I didn't forget and mostimportantly the magic was still
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there And I think I mentionedthis last time as well.
I am sure the reflection,introspection on this whole
thing, this whole journey willcontinue to present itself
within weeks, months, years todate, but never lose sight of
the magic.
We are so back, baby.
We are so back.
I feel like myself again, evenmore so Norway help with that.
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Gosh, gosh, gosh, gosh.
You know, I just want to saythis.
If you need to heal, especiallyafter some major life shit,
highly highly recommend goingabroad.
I know not everyone financiallycan do that.
So maybe it's going just goingon a solo trip or something like
that, but travel.
Do something, take yourself outof the environment and just
reset.
Like, it was the best reset Icould have asked for.
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Northern Lights, bucket listitem.
I'm not saying you have to gohard or go home.
You know, go that big or go homekind of thing.
But do something for yourself.
Uh, cause it definitely kickstarted my healing journey and
that's what's, that's beautiful.
It's magical.
And when I tell you on, just tokind of continue on with the,
the magic line I've got goinghere.
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Again, with the Norway episodewith Ashley Anna, we'll talk
more about this, but I just wantto say, yes, seeing the Northern
Lights was definitely a bucketlist item, but it was a
spiritual experience.
And as you all know, it's beensomething I've been talking
about for the better part of ayear.
And when I tell you the NorthernLights showed out, they showed
out.
It was incredible, like, thewhole sky exploded into green,
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purple, pink.
It was so bright, it almostseemed like the sun was out.
Did I cry?
One thousand percent afterward.
Of course I did.
It's me, the emotional empathover here.
Of course I cried! But it washappy tears.
It was, it was the knowing thatI am on the right path.
It was the reassurance, thevalidation that I have been
seeking, that I have beenneeding from the universe to
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say, you're going to be okay.
You're doing the right thing.
Everything you've been throughis just all part of the larger
picture.
And I hope that my story, mystrength, my perseverance, if
you will, inspires you.
And, you know, I hope it helpsyou find the magic of life in
your own life.
I hope it helps you never toforget the magic.
Again, reminder, we go throughshit.
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We go through hardships.
But there is joy, there isabundance, and there is magic on
the other side of that.
least that's my two cents on it.
And again, you may not agreewith me, but uh, if you don't, I
would argue that your outlook onlife needs to change, because
life is beautiful, life is worthliving, and life is what you
make it.
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All those posters that we saw ingrade school, maybe they had
something to them.
So here we are, breakinggenerational trauma, child
wounds, healing, choosingourselves.
Don't know why I always talk inthird person, maybe I should get
that checked out, but I like it,so here we are.
Um, and also trying new things.
Tomatoes, make yourself likethem.
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I tried CrossFit.
Uh, don't know if I'm going tomake myself like that.
I was like, you know, fillingout the little thing, the waiver
you have to do before you go.
And it's like, do you have anyinjuries?
And I was like, I have upperbody injuries because of my car
accident, blah, blah, blah,blah, blah.
And so like, they're texting melike, we can't wait for you to
come.
Injuries, blah, blah, blah.
And I'm like, my shoulder, myshoulder, my shoulder, upper
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body, upper body, shoulder,hello.
Riddle me why when I show up,the freaking first exercise is
climbing a rope.
Oh my god, I, uh, hmm, I'm stillso sore, like I still can't even
like move my, up my right armover my head.
It hurts so bad, but she tried.
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Did she succeed?
No, but she tried.
Um, however, I do find it ironicthat I, I let them know multiple
times my upper body wasdefinitely something to be
considered and they're likegreat here We're gonna teach you
how to climb a rope But you knowwhat?
It's an adventure.
It's an adventure and thiscartoon character will take that
adventure gladly.
So All that to say I'm excitedfor the journey ahead I'm always
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excited.
Even when it seems like shit,I'm like, there is a light at
the end of this tunnel at somepoint, so I'm gonna get there.
And now, I definitely feel likeI am out of the tunnel.
I mean, I'm not out of the woodscompletely, but I think I'm out
of the tunnel.
I'm starting to feel thesunshine, and that's beautiful.
And with the spring equinox,spring here, somewhere around
the corner, all the travel thatI am manifesting in my future,
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dare I say, finding love?
Ugh, God.
Love, you know, that's a wholeother conversation, but I'm
going to find it and I'm goingto heal all the fricking child
wounds in the process.
Big one being I'm enough, I'menough and I'm not too much.
Uh, and I know I'm not the onlyperson who's ever felt that way.
And for any person that made usfeel that way, screw them big
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time.
Um, there's a lot of hiddenmessages in that statement right
there, but, uh, you're not toomuch.
And, you know, for the rightpeople, the right person, the
right partner.
You will be just perfect, socheers to living life, finding
the magic, and loving yourselftaking the full experience of
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this existence to your benefit,finding the joy in the small
moments, finding the joy in thebig moments.
Finding the strength to getthrough the bad moments, the sad
moments, the dark moments, andjust always remembering and
knowing that you're gonna makeit out.
And that's beautiful.
So on that note, I'm going toend this week's episode and we
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are gonna fingers crossed wecome back next week.
Uh, but, until then I'm justkind of taking the pressure off
myself because Lord knows I'vehad enough of that the past six
months, uh, but I'm gonna getthere.
Because, duh, I always bet onme.
That's what I say.
And it's nice to be known forsomeone who does what they say
they're gonna do.
So, I gotta uphold that mantra.
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You know what I mean?
You know what I mean.
Anyways, I hope you all arehaving a fantastic start to your
day, start to your spring.
And, um, I'll see you next timeon The In Between.
And if you're not doing soalready, you can follow me on
Instagram at in.
betweenpod and my personal atelizabethcheney underscore.
And then also on YouTube andpodcast.
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Find me there.
We can be friends.
We can kick it.
You know what I'm saying?
You know what I'm saying?
And like I said, if you'relooking for a travel buddy, give
me a holler.
although solo travel is totallyfine too.
Love that.
Anyways, you guys are the best.
Have the most magical day thatyou can manifest and I'll see
you next time.
I'm Elizabeth.
Bye.
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