Let me tell you about the loneliest kind of growth.
It's the kind where you're doing all the work—reading the books, going to therapy, listening to the podcasts, doing the exercises—while he's... doing nothing.
You're learning about attachment styles and emotional regulation and how to communicate better.
You're working on yourself. Growing. Changing. Evolving.
And he's just... the same.
Still reacting the same way. Still avoiding the same conversations. Still operating from the same playbook he's had for twenty years.
And when you try to share what you're learning?
When you try to invite him into the process?
He’s not interested in hearing much about it.
So what now? What do you do when you’re the one changing?
That’s what today’s episode is all about.
This is Episode 6 of the series: "Marriage Conversations Midlife Besties Are Having (But Afraid to Say Out Loud)."
I'm Jennifer Roskamp, and this is The Intentional Midlife Mom podcast.
Let's dive in.
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