239. From Roommates to In Love again: How Coaching Transformed our Marriage – with Sebastian Smelko

Feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? Learn how igniting your marriage through relationship coaching enhances everything in life.

In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell interviews her client Sebastian Smelko—an accomplished lawyer, and a devoted husband and father—about how relationship coaching helped him and his wife turn their “roommate-style” marriage into a deeply connected partnership.

Sebastian opens up about the mindset shifts, personal growth, and inner work that reignited his connection with his wife. 

This is an honest, hopeful conversation about taking responsibility, embracing vulnerability, and building lasting love. If you’ve ever wondered how relationship coaching works, this conversation will convey what’s possible when relationship coaching is coupled with a deep desire to reignite your marriage.

 

In this episode:

• Break the roommate cycle with vulnerability and self-awareness
• Use workplace skills like problem-solving to build connection
• It’s essential to own your role in order to create real change
• Grow individually to deepen love and intimacy

 

About The Guest:

Sebastian Smelko is a husband, father of two, and an attorney. He and his wife are private coaching clients of Alexandra.

 

Resources mentioned:

“How to Ask your Woman for Sex (so she’s more likely to say Yes)” Alexandra’s upcoming masterclass for men:

https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/yes/

 

Initiating, Alexandra’s program for educated, successful men:

https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/initiating

 

 

 

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Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book

 

Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully: 
www.alignedhotmarriage.com

 

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