October 24, 2024 • 30 mins
Unlock the power of healthy masculinity and elevate your relationships, leadership, and well-being. In this episode, you're going to learn about the true essence of healthy masculine energy—rooted in emotional intelligence, empathy, and purposeful leadership.
You'll also learn how breaking free from outdated norms of toxic masculinity can deepen your connections, foster trust, and lead to a more balanced, fulfilling life. Through personal stories and practical insights, we explore how traits like accountability, providing security, and living a mission-driven life can transform your partnerships, career, and overall happiness.
Join me as we explore how collaboration beats competition and how embracing vulnerability can lead to both personal and professional success. Discover the habits and mindset shifts that help men reduce stress, nurture meaningful connections, and live with greater purpose. Don’t miss out on this journey toward a healthier, more empowered version of yourself.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
In this episode, we're discussing the topic of
the healthy masculine.
When men start operating intheir healthy masculine,
everything in their life beginsto improve, from health
relationships to creating wealth.
Enjoy this enlightening episode.
Why is it important tounderstand the healthy masculine
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?
The reason being is it's soimportant is because toxic
masculinity has plagued societyfor eons and until we break
those toxic patterns, peace willnever ensue on this planet.
Hello and welcome to the jamesgranstrom podcast.
In this episode, we're lookingat the topic of embracing the
healthy masculine.
This episode the peace willnever ensue on this planet.
Hello and welcome to the JamesGarnstrom podcast.
In this episode, we're lookingat the topic of embracing the
healthy masculine.
This episode aims to inspiremen to become more balanced,
healthier versions of themselvesin their masculine energy.
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Because what this really does?
It promotes emotionalintelligence, it promotes
strength, it promotes empathyand it promotes responsible
leadership.
Why is this important and whyis it important to understand
the healthy masculine?
The reason being is becausetoxic masculinity has plagued
society for eons and until webreak those toxic patterns,
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peace will never ensue on thisplanet.
Peace will never ensue in thesociety and it's really
important that when we reallylearn to step into our healthy
versions of ourselves.
We're never going to want tohurt anything or anybody, and
until we understand thatwell-being abounds everywhere
and that it is our job and ourduty to behave accordingly, in
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harmony with the planet and inharmony with others, we are
always going to be stuck in thiscycle of pain.
So until we change our ways,things will just perpetuate.
So it's really important formen right now to understand the
healthy masculine energy,because it's going to promote
incredible relationships thatare peaceful and will be able to
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deal with stress and challengein positive ways.
When you come from a positionof the healthy masculine energy,
it's also going to make womenfeel a lot safer and feel more
relaxed that they don't have tostep into their masculine energy
to go and provide, because it'sso important that we understand
the energy that we hold as menis also affecting everything
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around us, and if we're lookingat things in a toxic way, we're
only going to perpetuate thatwhich we don't want, which is
dissatisfying to us anyway.
So if we want change and youwant to be an agent for change,
then understanding the healthymasculine is imperative for
greater sense of happiness, agreater sense of peace and
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greater relationships.
And in this episode.
What I'm going to do is I'mgoing to share with you the
behaviors that the healthymasculine does and what he
doesn't do, so you've got realclarity so that you can begin to
operate in this new energy.
This, I hope, inspires so manymen out there to become better
versions of themselves, ratherthan just watching society
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continue to play out in toxicways.
So let's look at some of thebehaviors of what the healthy
masculine has and what heoperates in.
Number one, he has emotionalavailability and he has
emotional vulnerability.
This means that he can be openin his communication and opened
with his feelings.
Years ago, this was not me and Iwasn't able to express my
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emotions freely.
I would just say everything toeverybody.
Yeah, I'm fine when underneaththe surface surface I wasn't
fine because I was alwayswanting to put on the bravado
that are.
You know, I was doing greatwhen underneath, I was really
suffering.
And when we look at things andpeople who are succeeding on the
outside world even if we lookat Liam Payne, who's just been
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in the the news recently fromthe boy band One Direction the
external world can show thatthere's a lot of happiness and a
lot of success, but theinternal world can be crumbling,
and so until we operate fromthis healthy masculine energy,
we're going to feel sufferinginside, and I knew that this was
me years ago, when I wasn'table to communicate my emotions
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and be open and be vulnerable.
So it's such an important partfor us to be able to express our
emotions freely.
I remember once a buddy of minecame up to me and he goes how
are you?
And I was like, I'm fine, hegoes.
I don't believe you.
And I said, no, I'm fine.
And he goes.
Well, I don't believe you.
He goes until you can reallytell me how you feel.
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Uh, you know, I can't really bethere for you.
And it made me go away andthink.
And it made me go away and openmy heart to realize that
another man could literally beable to just receive my
vulnerability, which I thoughtwas very weird, because my
father had that yeah, I'm fineand would never express his
emotions, had that yeah, I'mfine and would never express his
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emotions.
So that's how we learn.
We learn from our fathers thehealthy or the toxic traits of
masculinity and until we breakthe cycle, it's always going to
perpetuate.
So the healthy masculine isemotionally available not only
to himself but to others, andparticularly the feminine, so he
can share his emotions, he canshare his feelings and recognize
that it actually allows thefeminine to draw, can share his
emotions, he can share hisfeelings and recognize that it
actually allows the feminine todraw more into him and trust him
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more if he's able to expresshis emotions and vulnerability
more freely and opencommunication.
But also, simultaneously, itworks in men's relationships
when we are able to open ourhearts and speak our truths to
one another in a brotherhoodwhere we can say this is how I'm
feeling and you know it's tough, or whatever.
If we're able to do that, itcreates health, it creates
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vitality, that we can actuallyexpress our emotions freely,
which is very healthy.
The whole idea of being able toexpress your emotions freely,
to have emotional availabilityand to have emotional
vulnerability is because what itreally does is.
It builds connection betweenourselves and others and
ultimately, when we are beingreceived in our vulnerability,
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it draws us closer to oneanother.
Now imagine that in a societywhere we're able to actually
speak openly and freely to oneanother, instead of putting on
the brave pretense thateverything's okay when it isn't
really, it only takes one personto really listen to your pain
if you're experiencing achallenge, for you to feel heard
and for you to feel seen andfor you, in that moment, to heal
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Now.
The second on the list of ahealthy masculine trait is the
masculine will takeresponsibility for everything,
whether it's good or bad.
He can own his mistakes, he canown his challenges and he can
own his choices now, whetherthat's in relationships, career
or in other things, instead ofblaming external figures or
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blaming the world for not beingperfect or not being right or
this or that, he really takesresponsibility for all things
that happen, because all thingsthat happen to him are a
reflection of his internal world.
And when he's able to takeresponsibility, he's not blaming
anybody else.
He's manning up, he's facingthe challenge and he's trying to
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resolve challenges that are infront of him.
When you take responsibility,you gain power.
This is a very healthymasculine trait.
Number three he looks to supportand uplift others wherever he
goes.
When a man is in his healthymasculine, he's not trying to
get power over other people.
He's trying to uplift, he'strying to support, he's trying
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to mentor.
To a certain extent, he'strying to encourage others to
grow in their own way.
The healthy masculine looks toempower rather than discourage,
looks to empower others ratherthan think there's any
competition.
Essentially, he's a mentor ofsorts, and as soon as I stepped
into doing mentoring andcoaching and sharing these
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podcasts, I noticed that I hadmore energy, I had more good
feelings about myself and what Iwas doing.
And as soon as you startoperating from this particular
energy, trying to empower otherpeople rather than think I've
got more than you, when youstart to empower, we see that
life is really just a team game.
When you start to empower, wesee that life is really just a
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team game.
And when you ask anymulti-millionaire or billionaire
, you always want to ask thisquestion what traits did you
require in order to get thatlevel of success?
And you'll often find that itwas trying to help as many
people along the way as well ashelping yourself.
The next thing on the list thata healthy masculine energy has
is he respects boundaries.
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Now, the healthy masculineunderstands that there are
boundaries in intimacy, inrelationships and in business
and in family and in everything.
And when he respects theboundaries with other people and
doesn't overstep them, whathe's doing is he's operating in
his healthy masculine, becausewhen you have boundaries you
create health, you create anenergetic health about.
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This is what I will do and thisis what I will not do.
And what it's also doing isit's creating respect and
respect for ourselves, respectfor our partners, respect for
the feminine.
This is really huge in beingable to create these boundaries,
and these boundaries arecreated by the healthy masculine
on purpose.
To say these are the limits ofwhat I will do and what I will
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not do.
And unless you haveself-control, unless you have
self-discipline, you're onlygoing to overstep the mark.
And in toxic masculinity,people always overstep the mark,
they always disrespectboundaries and this has caused a
lot of pain and suffering.
In toxic masculinity, peoplealways overstep the mark, they
always disrespect boundaries andthis has caused a lot of pain
and suffering in the past,particularly to the feminine
energy.
So if we're looking to becomehealthy masculine energy, we
have to put healthy boundariesup in place, because then it
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means we're not leaking energyand it means we're creating more
respect and love all around us.
We're creating more respect andlove all around us.
The next thing on the list.
The next thing on the list isembracing collaboration versus
competition.
Now, in sport, we havecompetition because it's fun.
But in life, if we're competingagainst people the whole time,
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what we're really doing is we'resaying we're separate from
other people.
But what I've noticed thatthere's this universal law of
oneness and when we're lookingto collaborate with others,
we're also uplifting ourselvesas well as other people, which
taps into this universalprinciple of oneness, meaning
there is only one of us indifferent forms, in different
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fragments.
So when we help one another,we're actually creating a
beautiful energy of power andmore good stuff comes to you.
It's a bit like saying, the moreyou collaborate, the more green
lights you're going to get.
The more you try to competewith other people, the more red
lights you're going to get,because that's going to create
way more stress.
Competition creates way morecortisol in the bloodstream.
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But but collaboration opens theheart.
Collaboration opens the mind tocreative ideas.
So when we can collaboraterather than compete, we're going
to find ourselves stepping intothe healthy masculine.
In my case, when I startedlooking to collaborate with
other people in work and inbusiness and trying to share
community with other people,share audience with this podcast
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, with other guests, it justbecame such a fun experience and
whilst I do a lot of thesepodcasts just sharing my own
insights and my own experiencesand my own stories.
It's so fun to collaborate withother people, so look in your
experience where can youcollaborate rather than think
you need to compete, becausealso, when you're competing,
competing you're also kind ofcomparing and comparison is the
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thief of joy.
So let's look at some of thethings that the healthy
masculine doesn't do.
What does he avoid?
He doesn't suppress hisemotions, and the reason being
is because he doesn't suppresshis emotions for fear of looking
weak.
The old toxic masculinity waslike hide that weakness, because
that weakness showedvulnerability and ultimately,
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until we really open our heartsand share our vulnerability,
we're never going to have decentconnection with other people or
our partners or our spouses isalways that you can open your
heart through connection, by notsuppressing your emotions, but
by opening yourself and beingmore vulnerable, because that
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breeds a deeper connectionbetween ourselves and other
people.
This creates way more harmonyand more satisfying
relationships.
The second thing the healthymasculine doesn't do is he
doesn't engage in toxiccompetitiveness.
Now we talked about thisbriefly before.
The healthy masculine doesn'tneed to prove himself to anybody
, because he's got enoughvalidation already that he's
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good enough.
So what he's doing is he'savoiding toxic competitiveness
because he has no need to bebetter than others, because he
already has a healthy sense ofself.
He already has self-validationand high self-esteem.
It's usually when we don't havehigh self-esteem that we're
looking to prove our worthinessthrough competition.
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But this is actually backwards.
We need to show it to ourselvesfirst, rather than doing it in
toxic competitiveness.
Instead of having thesedestructive patterns, he focuses
instead on improving himself.
The next thing the healthymasculine always tries to avoid
is objective, is objectivity andthe control of others, because
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when we're trying to controlothers, what we're really doing
is we have a lack of control.
Underneath the surface, it'salways backwards.
I remember my father alwayswanted to control everything,
and even me.
I felt like I've been such acontrol freak and as soon as I
began to surrender, as soon as Ibegan to let go, there was no
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need to control others.
Just let them be.
Now, if you've got kids, ofcourse you need to monitor them
and manage them, but if we'retrying to control our partners,
if we're trying to controleverything, what we're really
doing is not trusting life.
We're not trusting thateverything has a way of
unfolding beautifully for us.
So toxic masculinity would tryto control, whereas healthy
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masculinity would trust, and soespecially in partners and in
the feminine energy.
You don't need to control yourpartner.
You don't need to control women, and we don't need to see them
as objects.
We see them as hearts and soulsand minds and as beautiful
beings that create life ratherthan take life.
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The man biologically gives theseed to the woman, and when he
gives the seed, she turns thatseed and receives it into an egg
and creates life through her.
What marvelous miracle is that?
And so it is our job, ratherthan to look at her, the
feminine, as an object, butrather as a gift.
That's when everything changes.
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The feminine is a gift to themasculine and we need to protect
and provide and cherish thatfeminine, because she creates
life.
The man will provide a house,but the woman will turn it into
a home.
These are the types of thingsthat the healthy masculine
really understands, and as soonas we begin to understand that
that's our job as a man toprovide and protect and cherish
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and nurture the feminine, shewill open her heart and in doing
so, we will get the gift of herbeautiful feminine energy, and
that can transform us men intomaking incredible amounts of
money, very successful inbusiness and feeling very proud,
happy, healthy and wealthy.
We don't want to just be happyand healthy, we want to be happy
, healthy and wealthy.
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We don't want to just be happyand healthy, we want to be happy
, healthy and wealthy andsuccessful.
And we can only do that when weoperate in our healthy,
masculine.
I'll never forget.
I met a family in London whowere from America.
They were billionaire familyand the the man was in his 70s
and his wife too, was in her 70s.
They had kids, grandkids, andthey ran a very, very successful
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business and they went aroundshaking hands and being polite
to absolutely everybody and Inoticed that there was something
about this man that wasdifferent.
He respected his wife, he stillwas chivalrous, he went around
shaking everybody's hands to saythank you so much for working
here and was genuinelyinterested in people.
And I thought, oh my golly,this is someone who's giving so
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much time, who's created anabsolute fortune and an empire
and still absolutely loves hiswife, and they both look
fantastic and they're in their70s.
I thought this is a model ofhealthy living, of someone who's
happy, healthy and wealthy, andthese people had genuine love
and respect for one another,whilst having a business that's
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absolutely thriving.
I saw that as such a rare thingand it really inspired me that
that's what I want to be likeone day, and I noticed that this
particular man really operatedthese healthy masculine traits.
So the next thing on the listthat the healthy masculine
doesn't do is he doesn't fearvulnerability.
He understands thatvulnerability is a strength, not
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a weakness.
And when I look back in my case, when I started becoming a
little bit more vulnerable opencommunication with my feeling
that's when things got a lotbetter for me.
My relationships deepened, andmy relationships with women
deepened as well, but it didn'tdeepen when I was constantly
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trying to say I was okay when Iwasn't okay, and so that was
something that I had to learn onmy journey.
And the next thing that thehealthy masculine really doesn't
do is he doesn't rely onaggression and violence to solve
problems.
This is toxic old school.
This is what our forefathersdid.
This is what my ancestors did.
My ancestors are vikings andthis is what they did, and I
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told my dad before he died.
I told him.
I said look, I want to changethat pattern and break that
pattern, but I didn't realize itwas going to be understanding
that I needed to operate in thehealthy masculine, to change
those patterns of the past, tocreate and inspire and uplift
more men to be in their healthymasculine.
When I was reading about healthand wanting to become way more
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healthy, because my health wasin a very poor state over 20
years ago, little did I realizeit was also about the mental
understanding of what thehealthy masculine was, yet alone
the biological, physical,emotional and spiritual parts of
health as well.
So, instead of using aggression, the healthy masculine relies
on listening, he relies onunderstanding.
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He relies on listening.
He relies on understanding.
He relies on being empathetic.
He relies on patience.
Boy, that was something I'vereally had to learn patience,
because patience isn't somethingthat you're born with, it's
something that you have topractice.
So where can you hold yourtongue?
Where can you stop sayingsomething that you know is going
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to hurt somebody?
Because ultimately, we'realways going to hurt somebody at
some point and make a mistake.
But how good are you at sayingsorry if you know you've done
wrong?
And if we're always trying torely on using aggression to get
things done, then ultimatelywe're only going to cause more
stress and strain in ourrelationships, in society on the
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planet, in business, incommerce, and and that's never
going to be a life that's goingto be rewarding, because we're
just going to perpetuate thatnegative cycle.
So we have to let go of theneed for aggression and we need
to encourage more patience,creativity, understanding,
empathy to solve problems andchallenges that are presented to
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us.
That's what a real leader woulddo.
So let's look at some of thehabits now, of what the healthy
masculine does is he's calm, hepractices calmness.
Now, how does he get tocalmness?
Through listening, throughsitting, still by being
self-reflective, by perhapshaving a meditation practice.
Calmness is a superpower andwhen you're operating in your
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healthy masculine, you can becalm even under adversity, even
under challenge.
This is something that I had topractice and I didn't know that
I had that until I was goingthrough real challenges,
particularly in the death ofpeople close to me.
You're never gonna know who youare until you're really tested
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and calmness will really be oneof the gifts that you can bring
to the table when there's realchallenge going on.
So, however, you get to calm.
It is something you need tocultivate in your life, because
you're not born with it, but itis something that you need to
practice.
The next thing that's a habit ofthe healthy masculine is
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looking to provide for thefemales, looking to provide
security, provision, care.
You know, like I mentionedearlier, the masculine will buy
the house, but the feminine willturn it into a home, and when
we come from this position ofnot doing things 50-50, but
literally the man provides, theneverything's going to change.
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Now I really made a grave errorthinking that it was 50-50
years ago, and this caused somuch strain on my personal
relationships which actuallycaused it to end.
When I realized I needed tolook after the feminine in my
life, whoever it was, whetherit's my mother's, my sister's or
even my partner, I needed torecognize that I was to take
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care of them.
Now, this is such a huge traitand it was only about a week or
two ago that I sent my wholefamily out for lunch, even
though I was in a differentcountry.
I sent all my girls, meaning mymom and my two sisters in my
life.
I sent them out for lunch andthat it was, the check had been
taken care of, and they sent methe most beautiful message that
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made me feel so full of life,made me feel so proud, made me
feel so strong.
This little act of love that Iwas inspired to do just came out
of thinking.
This is what the healthymasculine would do, and I don't
want to make it out to be a bigdeal, but it was a big deal to
them because they felt really,really cared for and that made
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me feel really powerful in mymasculine.
So if you want to do somethingfor your family, always take
care of them, pick up the check,don't let them pay, so the
healthy masculine will provide.
He will find a way to provide,and until you step into that
role, then you're only going tohave stress and strain on your
relationships.
The nicked habit of the healthymasculine is owning it when
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you're wrong, because you'regoing to be wrong from time to
time.
But when you own it, itreleases resistance, and a lot
of us always want to keep beingright, but when you keep being
being right, all you're doing ispersisting in red lights.
You're persisting in resistanceand what you resist will keep
persisting.
So what we really need to do isown it when you've made a
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mistake, own it when you'rewrong.
Say you're sorry, because thisactually builds trust,
recognizing that you can look atyourself going.
I can't believe.
I didn't see that.
I can't believe that's causedyou pain.
I'm sorry.
And and let me move on Again.
These are certain things thatI've had to learn along the way
that when I'm wrong, I own it.
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The next thing when a man is inhis power and is healthy,
masculine, he's making decisionsthat will empower other people
and, whatever the decision is,the feminine will trusting in in
him when he makes a series ofgood decisions.
And when women stop actuallytrusting men, it's because he's
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now not operating in his healthymasculine.
So it's really important thatin them, in the healthy
masculines, you learn to makegood choices.
You learn to make gooddecisions so that the woman can
be free to be herself and thatenergy that she possesses
enriches us, opens our hearts tomore power, responsibility and
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even success.
And there's this really bigchapter in think and grow rich
by napoleon hill, and it's aboutgreat men have great women
behind them, and so the reasonbeing is because when he's
operating in his healthymasculine, her feminine presence
and encouragement and belief inhim because he makes a series
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of good choices, even if he'snot rich yet, will eventually
allow him to make greaterdecisions.
For them both that will attractgood happiness, good health and
good fortune.
Now this is just energy at play,because when the man is in his
healthy masculine, the femininefeels safe.
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When the man is not in hishealthy masculine, in his toxic
masculinity, he causes stressand strain and it's always a
dissatisfying relationship.
So it's so important to reallyown the behaviors of the healthy
masculine.
So once again, the feminineenergy wants to know her man is
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making good decisions and aseries of good decisions, so she
can feel safe and at peace, soshe's not having to operate a
fight or flight for the family,because when she does that she's
going to freak out and thiscauses a lot of stress on
relationships.
So the more you're making goodchoices and good decisions from
whatever the cards are in frontof you, the feminine energy will
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respect that because you'remaking decisions.
But if you're not making anydecisions and she has to start
making the decisions, that'sgoing to cause a lot of stress.
So the healthy masculine hasthe power to make a series of
good choices and decisions.
And, last but not least, thehealthy masculine has the
ability to say no.
He's got self-control, he's gotself-discipline, he takes care
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of his body, he takes care ofhis mind, he can say no to sex,
he can have healthy boundaries.
If you can't say no to thesecertain things and, by the way,
most men are quite weak at beingable to have self-control and
self-discipline you are nevergoing to have a high level of
self-respect or respect fromothers until you have your own
disciplines and self-controls inplace.
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And the feminine energy findsmen very attractive when men
have the ability to controlthemselves and say no.
They find this very, veryalluring and magnetic.
And it's so important for usmen to be able to have
self-control and self-disciplineand the ability to say no even
when you really want it.
This is going against impulse.
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Going what against is the bestdecision.
That's right in front of me, andthe healthy masculine also is
so engaged with his mission.
His mission must come first,even above the feminine energy
to a certain extent, because hismission is what drives him, his
purpose, his vision, and whenhe can say no to the feminine
because he's working on hismission is what drives him, his
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purpose, his vision, and when hecan say no to the feminine
because he's working on hismission.
This again provides a lot offoundational support in the
relationship, because she seeshim as a man who has drive, this
becomes very attractive and shecan trust him to make good
decisions.
When we're operating in ahealthy masculine, you have to
have your mission and yourpurpose, and that comes when
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your purpose and your missionare aligned.
And in my case, when I'velooked at my mission, my mission
is to uplift, to heal, toinspire and to help people
become more self-aware andempowered, happier, healthier
and wealthier.
When I've looked at this andI've looked at my own mission,
this has not only been healingfor me.
It's healing for other peopleas well.
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So look at what your missionand your purpose is, because
when you start living it, youwill be tapping into a healthy
masculine.
So, in conclusion, most men havelearned through society and
usually through family, thatthere are quite several toxic
traits of masculinity that don'tserve us through family, that
there are quite several toxictraits of masculinity that don't
serve us and we're starting tooutgrow because it's causing
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more stress and strain on ourrelationships as society and the
world changes.
But as a new earth begins tounfold before us, when we start
stepping into the healthiestenergetic patterns within
ourselves and what we've beentalking about today is the
healthy masculine things beginto shift before us, we start to
feel way better about ourselves,we start to feel more empowered
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, we start to feel calmer, westart to feel more relaxed, we
start to attract way more moneyinto our experience and our
emotions are more centered.
This is the second chakra, thisis the the just below the
abdomen.
When we start to become calmer,more emotionally stable human
beings, we create more peace onearth and we start to attract
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more abundance into our lives aswell.
The healthy masculine willattract way more abundance into
his life when he startsoperating with a lot of these
habits that I've shared with youtoday.
So, in conclusion, what habitscould you start activating today
?
Has this episode been food forthought?
I know when I first startedtrying to tap into my healthy
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masculine, it was very difficult, but I know it's been perhaps
one of the greatest journeysI've ever embarked on, because I
feel so much better aboutmyself.
I remember years ago feelingsuch discontent within myself,
and that's because I wasn'toperating in the healthy
masculine.
But as soon as I started toemploy more of these traits and
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behaviors, my life andeverything began to change
around it.
So I wonder what habits youcould start to employ today that
will improve the quality ofyour life and the quality of
your relationships and thequality of your bank balance.
I hope you've enjoyed thisepisode and, as always, thank
you for all the people whosupport the show, thank you for
all the people who subscribe tothe show.
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You guys make this.
So thank you so much and untilthe next episode, I wish you a
wonderful weekend and greenlights all the way.
In this episode, we're discussing the topic of
the healthy masculine.
When men start operating intheir healthy masculine,
everything in their life beginsto improve, from health
relationships to creating wealth.
Enjoy this enlightening episode.
Why is it important tounderstand the healthy masculine
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?
The reason being is it's soimportant is because toxic
masculinity has plagued societyfor eons and until we break
those toxic patterns, peace willnever ensue on this planet.
Hello and welcome to the jamesgranstrom podcast.
In this episode, we're lookingat the topic of embracing the
healthy masculine.
This episode the peace willnever ensue on this planet.
Hello and welcome to the JamesGarnstrom podcast.
In this episode, we're lookingat the topic of embracing the
healthy masculine.
This episode aims to inspiremen to become more balanced,
healthier versions of themselvesin their masculine energy.
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Because what this really does?
It promotes emotionalintelligence, it promotes
strength, it promotes empathyand it promotes responsible
leadership.
Why is this important and whyis it important to understand
the healthy masculine?
The reason being is becausetoxic masculinity has plagued
society for eons and until webreak those toxic patterns,
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peace will never ensue on thisplanet.
Peace will never ensue in thesociety and it's really
important that when we reallylearn to step into our healthy
versions of ourselves.
We're never going to want tohurt anything or anybody, and
until we understand thatwell-being abounds everywhere
and that it is our job and ourduty to behave accordingly, in
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harmony with the planet and inharmony with others, we are
always going to be stuck in thiscycle of pain.
So until we change our ways,things will just perpetuate.
So it's really important formen right now to understand the
healthy masculine energy,because it's going to promote
incredible relationships thatare peaceful and will be able to
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deal with stress and challengein positive ways.
When you come from a positionof the healthy masculine energy,
it's also going to make womenfeel a lot safer and feel more
relaxed that they don't have tostep into their masculine energy
to go and provide, because it'sso important that we understand
the energy that we hold as menis also affecting everything
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around us, and if we're lookingat things in a toxic way, we're
only going to perpetuate thatwhich we don't want, which is
dissatisfying to us anyway.
So if we want change and youwant to be an agent for change,
then understanding the healthymasculine is imperative for
greater sense of happiness, agreater sense of peace and
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greater relationships.
And in this episode.
What I'm going to do is I'mgoing to share with you the
behaviors that the healthymasculine does and what he
doesn't do, so you've got realclarity so that you can begin to
operate in this new energy.
This, I hope, inspires so manymen out there to become better
versions of themselves, ratherthan just watching society
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continue to play out in toxicways.
So let's look at some of thebehaviors of what the healthy
masculine has and what heoperates in.
Number one, he has emotionalavailability and he has
emotional vulnerability.
This means that he can be openin his communication and opened
with his feelings.
Years ago, this was not me and Iwasn't able to express my
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emotions freely.
I would just say everything toeverybody.
Yeah, I'm fine when underneaththe surface surface I wasn't
fine because I was alwayswanting to put on the bravado
that are.
You know, I was doing greatwhen underneath, I was really
suffering.
And when we look at things andpeople who are succeeding on the
outside world even if we lookat Liam Payne, who's just been
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in the the news recently fromthe boy band One Direction the
external world can show thatthere's a lot of happiness and a
lot of success, but theinternal world can be crumbling,
and so until we operate fromthis healthy masculine energy,
we're going to feel sufferinginside, and I knew that this was
me years ago, when I wasn'table to communicate my emotions
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and be open and be vulnerable.
So it's such an important partfor us to be able to express our
emotions freely.
I remember once a buddy of minecame up to me and he goes how
are you?
And I was like, I'm fine, hegoes.
I don't believe you.
And I said, no, I'm fine.
And he goes.
Well, I don't believe you.
He goes until you can reallytell me how you feel.
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Uh, you know, I can't really bethere for you.
And it made me go away andthink.
And it made me go away and openmy heart to realize that
another man could literally beable to just receive my
vulnerability, which I thoughtwas very weird, because my
father had that yeah, I'm fineand would never express his
emotions, had that yeah, I'mfine and would never express his
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emotions.
So that's how we learn.
We learn from our fathers thehealthy or the toxic traits of
masculinity and until we breakthe cycle, it's always going to
perpetuate.
So the healthy masculine isemotionally available not only
to himself but to others, andparticularly the feminine, so he
can share his emotions, he canshare his feelings and recognize
that it actually allows thefeminine to draw, can share his
emotions, he can share hisfeelings and recognize that it
actually allows the feminine todraw more into him and trust him
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more if he's able to expresshis emotions and vulnerability
more freely and opencommunication.
But also, simultaneously, itworks in men's relationships
when we are able to open ourhearts and speak our truths to
one another in a brotherhoodwhere we can say this is how I'm
feeling and you know it's tough, or whatever.
If we're able to do that, itcreates health, it creates
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vitality, that we can actuallyexpress our emotions freely,
which is very healthy.
The whole idea of being able toexpress your emotions freely,
to have emotional availabilityand to have emotional
vulnerability is because what itreally does is.
It builds connection betweenourselves and others and
ultimately, when we are beingreceived in our vulnerability,
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it draws us closer to oneanother.
Now imagine that in a societywhere we're able to actually
speak openly and freely to oneanother, instead of putting on
the brave pretense thateverything's okay when it isn't
really, it only takes one personto really listen to your pain
if you're experiencing achallenge, for you to feel heard
and for you to feel seen andfor you, in that moment, to heal
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Now.
The second on the list of ahealthy masculine trait is the
masculine will takeresponsibility for everything,
whether it's good or bad.
He can own his mistakes, he canown his challenges and he can
own his choices now, whetherthat's in relationships, career
or in other things, instead ofblaming external figures or
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blaming the world for not beingperfect or not being right or
this or that, he really takesresponsibility for all things
that happen, because all thingsthat happen to him are a
reflection of his internal world.
And when he's able to takeresponsibility, he's not blaming
anybody else.
He's manning up, he's facingthe challenge and he's trying to
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resolve challenges that are infront of him.
When you take responsibility,you gain power.
This is a very healthymasculine trait.
Number three he looks to supportand uplift others wherever he
goes.
When a man is in his healthymasculine, he's not trying to
get power over other people.
He's trying to uplift, he'strying to support, he's trying
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to mentor.
To a certain extent, he'strying to encourage others to
grow in their own way.
The healthy masculine looks toempower rather than discourage,
looks to empower others ratherthan think there's any
competition.
Essentially, he's a mentor ofsorts, and as soon as I stepped
into doing mentoring andcoaching and sharing these
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podcasts, I noticed that I hadmore energy, I had more good
feelings about myself and what Iwas doing.
And as soon as you startoperating from this particular
energy, trying to empower otherpeople rather than think I've
got more than you, when youstart to empower, we see that
life is really just a team game.
When you start to empower, wesee that life is really just a
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team game.
And when you ask anymulti-millionaire or billionaire
, you always want to ask thisquestion what traits did you
require in order to get thatlevel of success?
And you'll often find that itwas trying to help as many
people along the way as well ashelping yourself.
The next thing on the list thata healthy masculine energy has
is he respects boundaries.
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Now, the healthy masculineunderstands that there are
boundaries in intimacy, inrelationships and in business
and in family and in everything.
And when he respects theboundaries with other people and
doesn't overstep them, whathe's doing is he's operating in
his healthy masculine, becausewhen you have boundaries you
create health, you create anenergetic health about.
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This is what I will do and thisis what I will not do.
And what it's also doing isit's creating respect and
respect for ourselves, respectfor our partners, respect for
the feminine.
This is really huge in beingable to create these boundaries,
and these boundaries arecreated by the healthy masculine
on purpose.
To say these are the limits ofwhat I will do and what I will
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not do.
And unless you haveself-control, unless you have
self-discipline, you're onlygoing to overstep the mark.
And in toxic masculinity,people always overstep the mark,
they always disrespectboundaries and this has caused a
lot of pain and suffering.
In toxic masculinity, peoplealways overstep the mark, they
always disrespect boundaries andthis has caused a lot of pain
and suffering in the past,particularly to the feminine
energy.
So if we're looking to becomehealthy masculine energy, we
have to put healthy boundariesup in place, because then it
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means we're not leaking energyand it means we're creating more
respect and love all around us.
We're creating more respect andlove all around us.
The next thing on the list.
The next thing on the list isembracing collaboration versus
competition.
Now, in sport, we havecompetition because it's fun.
But in life, if we're competingagainst people the whole time,
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what we're really doing is we'resaying we're separate from
other people.
But what I've noticed thatthere's this universal law of
oneness and when we're lookingto collaborate with others,
we're also uplifting ourselvesas well as other people, which
taps into this universalprinciple of oneness, meaning
there is only one of us indifferent forms, in different
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fragments.
So when we help one another,we're actually creating a
beautiful energy of power andmore good stuff comes to you.
It's a bit like saying, the moreyou collaborate, the more green
lights you're going to get.
The more you try to competewith other people, the more red
lights you're going to get,because that's going to create
way more stress.
Competition creates way morecortisol in the bloodstream.
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But but collaboration opens theheart.
Collaboration opens the mind tocreative ideas.
So when we can collaboraterather than compete, we're going
to find ourselves stepping intothe healthy masculine.
In my case, when I startedlooking to collaborate with
other people in work and inbusiness and trying to share
community with other people,share audience with this podcast
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, with other guests, it justbecame such a fun experience and
whilst I do a lot of thesepodcasts just sharing my own
insights and my own experiencesand my own stories.
It's so fun to collaborate withother people, so look in your
experience where can youcollaborate rather than think
you need to compete, becausealso, when you're competing,
competing you're also kind ofcomparing and comparison is the
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thief of joy.
So let's look at some of thethings that the healthy
masculine doesn't do.
What does he avoid?
He doesn't suppress hisemotions, and the reason being
is because he doesn't suppresshis emotions for fear of looking
weak.
The old toxic masculinity waslike hide that weakness, because
that weakness showedvulnerability and ultimately,
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until we really open our heartsand share our vulnerability,
we're never going to have decentconnection with other people or
our partners or our spouses isalways that you can open your
heart through connection, by notsuppressing your emotions, but
by opening yourself and beingmore vulnerable, because that
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breeds a deeper connectionbetween ourselves and other
people.
This creates way more harmonyand more satisfying
relationships.
The second thing the healthymasculine doesn't do is he
doesn't engage in toxiccompetitiveness.
Now we talked about thisbriefly before.
The healthy masculine doesn'tneed to prove himself to anybody
, because he's got enoughvalidation already that he's
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good enough.
So what he's doing is he'savoiding toxic competitiveness
because he has no need to bebetter than others, because he
already has a healthy sense ofself.
He already has self-validationand high self-esteem.
It's usually when we don't havehigh self-esteem that we're
looking to prove our worthinessthrough competition.
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But this is actually backwards.
We need to show it to ourselvesfirst, rather than doing it in
toxic competitiveness.
Instead of having thesedestructive patterns, he focuses
instead on improving himself.
The next thing the healthymasculine always tries to avoid
is objective, is objectivity andthe control of others, because
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when we're trying to controlothers, what we're really doing
is we have a lack of control.
Underneath the surface, it'salways backwards.
I remember my father alwayswanted to control everything,
and even me.
I felt like I've been such acontrol freak and as soon as I
began to surrender, as soon as Ibegan to let go, there was no
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need to control others.
Just let them be.
Now, if you've got kids, ofcourse you need to monitor them
and manage them, but if we'retrying to control our partners,
if we're trying to controleverything, what we're really
doing is not trusting life.
We're not trusting thateverything has a way of
unfolding beautifully for us.
So toxic masculinity would tryto control, whereas healthy
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masculinity would trust, and soespecially in partners and in
the feminine energy.
You don't need to control yourpartner.
You don't need to control women, and we don't need to see them
as objects.
We see them as hearts and soulsand minds and as beautiful
beings that create life ratherthan take life.
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The man biologically gives theseed to the woman, and when he
gives the seed, she turns thatseed and receives it into an egg
and creates life through her.
What marvelous miracle is that?
And so it is our job, ratherthan to look at her, the
feminine, as an object, butrather as a gift.
That's when everything changes.
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The feminine is a gift to themasculine and we need to protect
and provide and cherish thatfeminine, because she creates
life.
The man will provide a house,but the woman will turn it into
a home.
These are the types of thingsthat the healthy masculine
really understands, and as soonas we begin to understand that
that's our job as a man toprovide and protect and cherish
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and nurture the feminine, shewill open her heart and in doing
so, we will get the gift of herbeautiful feminine energy, and
that can transform us men intomaking incredible amounts of
money, very successful inbusiness and feeling very proud,
happy, healthy and wealthy.
We don't want to just be happyand healthy, we want to be happy
, healthy and wealthy.
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We don't want to just be happyand healthy, we want to be happy
, healthy and wealthy andsuccessful.
And we can only do that when weoperate in our healthy,
masculine.
I'll never forget.
I met a family in London whowere from America.
They were billionaire familyand the the man was in his 70s
and his wife too, was in her 70s.
They had kids, grandkids, andthey ran a very, very successful
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business and they went aroundshaking hands and being polite
to absolutely everybody and Inoticed that there was something
about this man that wasdifferent.
He respected his wife, he stillwas chivalrous, he went around
shaking everybody's hands to saythank you so much for working
here and was genuinelyinterested in people.
And I thought, oh my golly,this is someone who's giving so
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much time, who's created anabsolute fortune and an empire
and still absolutely loves hiswife, and they both look
fantastic and they're in their70s.
I thought this is a model ofhealthy living, of someone who's
happy, healthy and wealthy, andthese people had genuine love
and respect for one another,whilst having a business that's
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absolutely thriving.
I saw that as such a rare thingand it really inspired me that
that's what I want to be likeone day, and I noticed that this
particular man really operatedthese healthy masculine traits.
So the next thing on the listthat the healthy masculine
doesn't do is he doesn't fearvulnerability.
He understands thatvulnerability is a strength, not
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a weakness.
And when I look back in my case, when I started becoming a
little bit more vulnerable opencommunication with my feeling
that's when things got a lotbetter for me.
My relationships deepened, andmy relationships with women
deepened as well, but it didn'tdeepen when I was constantly
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trying to say I was okay when Iwasn't okay, and so that was
something that I had to learn onmy journey.
And the next thing that thehealthy masculine really doesn't
do is he doesn't rely onaggression and violence to solve
problems.
This is toxic old school.
This is what our forefathersdid.
This is what my ancestors did.
My ancestors are vikings andthis is what they did, and I
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told my dad before he died.
I told him.
I said look, I want to changethat pattern and break that
pattern, but I didn't realize itwas going to be understanding
that I needed to operate in thehealthy masculine, to change
those patterns of the past, tocreate and inspire and uplift
more men to be in their healthymasculine.
When I was reading about healthand wanting to become way more
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healthy, because my health wasin a very poor state over 20
years ago, little did I realizeit was also about the mental
understanding of what thehealthy masculine was, yet alone
the biological, physical,emotional and spiritual parts of
health as well.
So, instead of using aggression, the healthy masculine relies
on listening, he relies onunderstanding.
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He relies on listening.
He relies on understanding.
He relies on being empathetic.
He relies on patience.
Boy, that was something I'vereally had to learn patience,
because patience isn't somethingthat you're born with, it's
something that you have topractice.
So where can you hold yourtongue?
Where can you stop sayingsomething that you know is going
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to hurt somebody?
Because ultimately, we'realways going to hurt somebody at
some point and make a mistake.
But how good are you at sayingsorry if you know you've done
wrong?
And if we're always trying torely on using aggression to get
things done, then ultimatelywe're only going to cause more
stress and strain in ourrelationships, in society on the
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planet, in business, incommerce, and and that's never
going to be a life that's goingto be rewarding, because we're
just going to perpetuate thatnegative cycle.
So we have to let go of theneed for aggression and we need
to encourage more patience,creativity, understanding,
empathy to solve problems andchallenges that are presented to
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us.
That's what a real leader woulddo.
So let's look at some of thehabits now, of what the healthy
masculine does is he's calm, hepractices calmness.
Now, how does he get tocalmness?
Through listening, throughsitting, still by being
self-reflective, by perhapshaving a meditation practice.
Calmness is a superpower andwhen you're operating in your
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healthy masculine, you can becalm even under adversity, even
under challenge.
This is something that I had topractice and I didn't know that
I had that until I was goingthrough real challenges,
particularly in the death ofpeople close to me.
You're never gonna know who youare until you're really tested
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and calmness will really be oneof the gifts that you can bring
to the table when there's realchallenge going on.
So, however, you get to calm.
It is something you need tocultivate in your life, because
you're not born with it, but itis something that you need to
practice.
The next thing that's a habit ofthe healthy masculine is
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looking to provide for thefemales, looking to provide
security, provision, care.
You know, like I mentionedearlier, the masculine will buy
the house, but the feminine willturn it into a home, and when
we come from this position ofnot doing things 50-50, but
literally the man provides, theneverything's going to change.
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Now I really made a grave errorthinking that it was 50-50
years ago, and this caused somuch strain on my personal
relationships which actuallycaused it to end.
When I realized I needed tolook after the feminine in my
life, whoever it was, whetherit's my mother's, my sister's or
even my partner, I needed torecognize that I was to take
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care of them.
Now, this is such a huge traitand it was only about a week or
two ago that I sent my wholefamily out for lunch, even
though I was in a differentcountry.
I sent all my girls, meaning mymom and my two sisters in my
life.
I sent them out for lunch andthat it was, the check had been
taken care of, and they sent methe most beautiful message that
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made me feel so full of life,made me feel so proud, made me
feel so strong.
This little act of love that Iwas inspired to do just came out
of thinking.
This is what the healthymasculine would do, and I don't
want to make it out to be a bigdeal, but it was a big deal to
them because they felt really,really cared for and that made
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me feel really powerful in mymasculine.
So if you want to do somethingfor your family, always take
care of them, pick up the check,don't let them pay, so the
healthy masculine will provide.
He will find a way to provide,and until you step into that
role, then you're only going tohave stress and strain on your
relationships.
The nicked habit of the healthymasculine is owning it when
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you're wrong, because you'regoing to be wrong from time to
time.
But when you own it, itreleases resistance, and a lot
of us always want to keep beingright, but when you keep being
being right, all you're doing ispersisting in red lights.
You're persisting in resistanceand what you resist will keep
persisting.
So what we really need to do isown it when you've made a
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mistake, own it when you'rewrong.
Say you're sorry, because thisactually builds trust,
recognizing that you can look atyourself going.
I can't believe.
I didn't see that.
I can't believe that's causedyou pain.
I'm sorry.
And and let me move on Again.
These are certain things thatI've had to learn along the way
that when I'm wrong, I own it.
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The next thing when a man is inhis power and is healthy,
masculine, he's making decisionsthat will empower other people
and, whatever the decision is,the feminine will trusting in in
him when he makes a series ofgood decisions.
And when women stop actuallytrusting men, it's because he's
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now not operating in his healthymasculine.
So it's really important thatin them, in the healthy
masculines, you learn to makegood choices.
You learn to make gooddecisions so that the woman can
be free to be herself and thatenergy that she possesses
enriches us, opens our hearts tomore power, responsibility and
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even success.
And there's this really bigchapter in think and grow rich
by napoleon hill, and it's aboutgreat men have great women
behind them, and so the reasonbeing is because when he's
operating in his healthymasculine, her feminine presence
and encouragement and belief inhim because he makes a series
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of good choices, even if he'snot rich yet, will eventually
allow him to make greaterdecisions.
For them both that will attractgood happiness, good health and
good fortune.
Now this is just energy at play,because when the man is in his
healthy masculine, the femininefeels safe.
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When the man is not in hishealthy masculine, in his toxic
masculinity, he causes stressand strain and it's always a
dissatisfying relationship.
So it's so important to reallyown the behaviors of the healthy
masculine.
So once again, the feminineenergy wants to know her man is
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making good decisions and aseries of good decisions, so she
can feel safe and at peace, soshe's not having to operate a
fight or flight for the family,because when she does that she's
going to freak out and thiscauses a lot of stress on
relationships.
So the more you're making goodchoices and good decisions from
whatever the cards are in frontof you, the feminine energy will
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respect that because you'remaking decisions.
But if you're not making anydecisions and she has to start
making the decisions, that'sgoing to cause a lot of stress.
So the healthy masculine hasthe power to make a series of
good choices and decisions.
And, last but not least, thehealthy masculine has the
ability to say no.
He's got self-control, he's gotself-discipline, he takes care
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of his body, he takes care ofhis mind, he can say no to sex,
he can have healthy boundaries.
If you can't say no to thesecertain things and, by the way,
most men are quite weak at beingable to have self-control and
self-discipline you are nevergoing to have a high level of
self-respect or respect fromothers until you have your own
disciplines and self-controls inplace.
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And the feminine energy findsmen very attractive when men
have the ability to controlthemselves and say no.
They find this very, veryalluring and magnetic.
And it's so important for usmen to be able to have
self-control and self-disciplineand the ability to say no even
when you really want it.
This is going against impulse.
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Going what against is the bestdecision.
That's right in front of me, andthe healthy masculine also is
so engaged with his mission.
His mission must come first,even above the feminine energy
to a certain extent, because hismission is what drives him, his
purpose, his vision, and whenhe can say no to the feminine
because he's working on hismission is what drives him, his
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purpose, his vision, and when hecan say no to the feminine
because he's working on hismission.
This again provides a lot offoundational support in the
relationship, because she seeshim as a man who has drive, this
becomes very attractive and shecan trust him to make good
decisions.
When we're operating in ahealthy masculine, you have to
have your mission and yourpurpose, and that comes when
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your purpose and your missionare aligned.
And in my case, when I'velooked at my mission, my mission
is to uplift, to heal, toinspire and to help people
become more self-aware andempowered, happier, healthier
and wealthier.
When I've looked at this andI've looked at my own mission,
this has not only been healingfor me.
It's healing for other peopleas well.
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So look at what your missionand your purpose is, because
when you start living it, youwill be tapping into a healthy
masculine.
So, in conclusion, most men havelearned through society and
usually through family, thatthere are quite several toxic
traits of masculinity that don'tserve us through family, that
there are quite several toxictraits of masculinity that don't
serve us and we're starting tooutgrow because it's causing
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more stress and strain on ourrelationships as society and the
world changes.
But as a new earth begins tounfold before us, when we start
stepping into the healthiestenergetic patterns within
ourselves and what we've beentalking about today is the
healthy masculine things beginto shift before us, we start to
feel way better about ourselves,we start to feel more empowered
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, we start to feel calmer, westart to feel more relaxed, we
start to attract way more moneyinto our experience and our
emotions are more centered.
This is the second chakra, thisis the the just below the
abdomen.
When we start to become calmer,more emotionally stable human
beings, we create more peace onearth and we start to attract
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more abundance into our lives aswell.
The healthy masculine willattract way more abundance into
his life when he startsoperating with a lot of these
habits that I've shared with youtoday.
So, in conclusion, what habitscould you start activating today
?
Has this episode been food forthought?
I know when I first startedtrying to tap into my healthy
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masculine, it was very difficult, but I know it's been perhaps
one of the greatest journeysI've ever embarked on, because I
feel so much better aboutmyself.
I remember years ago feelingsuch discontent within myself,
and that's because I wasn'toperating in the healthy
masculine.
But as soon as I started toemploy more of these traits and
(29:22):
behaviors, my life andeverything began to change
around it.
So I wonder what habits youcould start to employ today that
will improve the quality ofyour life and the quality of
your relationships and thequality of your bank balance.
I hope you've enjoyed thisepisode and, as always, thank
you for all the people whosupport the show, thank you for
all the people who subscribe tothe show.
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You guys make this.
So thank you so much and untilthe next episode, I wish you a
wonderful weekend and greenlights all the way.
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