April 29, 2025 • 30 mins
Buckle up, punks! Auntie Robin gets raw about navigating personal catastrophe while the world seems to be falling apart around us. Life's "tower moments" – those periods when everything crumbles – aren't random acts of cosmic cruelty. They're necessary catalysts for transformation. Drawing from tarot symbolism, Robin explains how these breakdowns clear outdated structures so we can build something authentic from a clean foundation. Whether you're facing relationship collapse, career upheaval, or just feeling lost in America's current chaos, this episode offers practical wisdom for alchemizing pain into power. At the heart of personal growth lies a challenging question: What lesson am I supposed to learn from this situation or person? Robin shares her own revelations about standing in her power, reforming her people-pleasing tendencies, and learning to ask for help – something that previously felt impossible. She offers practical tools for identifying energy vampires versus soul family, including the simple but powerful practice of noticing how you feel after spending time with someone. Do they leave you energized and calm or anxious and depleted? Beyond personal transformation, Robin explores how building authentic community becomes essential survival strategy in uncertain times. Looking back at how communities functioned in the 1970s reveals forgotten practices of mutual aid – from local businesses extending credit during hard times to churches helping members pay utilities. These collective support systems represent something desperately needed as we face current social upheavals. Ready to transform your breakdown into breakthrough? This episode delivers both emotional validation and actionable wisdom for anyone feeling stuck in cycles of frustration. As Robin reminds us: "Life gets far more interesting and magical when you're learning and growing instead of living in fear." Join the journey and discover how what crumbles might actually set you free.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Hey, my younglings, my little punks, it is I, your
Auntie Robin.
I've been sitting here on andoff trying to figure out what
needs to be said, because it'sbeen a hell of a few months,
because last time, on a kickedcan, I dropped a good-sized bomb
on y'all Getting a divorce,selling my house, finding a new
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place to live and basicallyhaving a tower moment where the
world is crumbling and burningto the ground around me.
Well, here's the update, stillgoing through all that.
Still going through all that,and with a few sprinkles from
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the final episodes of the UnitedStates which, let's face it, is
leading us on the road tonowhere.
Come on inside.
Great, now I'm going to havethe talking heads going through
my brain, yeah, and then justhaving to deal with the mundane
daily life like work, payingbills, keeping the fuzzy kids
alive hell, keeping your realkids alive.
Are you taking care of yourselfmentally, physically?
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Have you remembered to take ashower, brush your teeth today?
It's a hell of a lot.
I'm not going to lie to youabout that.
It's a little rough out herefor fucking everyone and I'm
going to Gary Oldman, that shit,when I say everyone.
Now I know I promised a few newdiscoveries here on the hero's
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journey.
So today we're actually goingto do a side quest mission of
the hero's journey.
I'm actually going to talk toyou about what I call the tower
moment in this journey, becauseif you start this, you will
eventually go through this kindof moment, and why it's so
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important that you go through itand I do mean through.
There is no going around thisone, sorry, but seeing as which
that is something I'm currentlygoing through.
I can speak on that with somemotherfucking authority right
now, because I'm going to behonest with you, I'm having a
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little trouble focusing on thehealing journey right now when
my ego has got huge impostersyndrome, fear creeping, in
which I'm totally admitting toyou all right now, for my brain
is telling me how can I teachothers to get their life
together when mine looks likeit's spectacularly falling apart
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?
But that's where it's all aboutmindset and how to learn to
alchemize.
I just love that word alchemize.
It sounds like I'm a wizard,harry.
So I'm going to teach you howto magically transform your
words and your mindset tohopefully change your
circumstances.
I'll also be spending some timeon some small things that you
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can do to kind of help survivethe failing or the falling of
America, depending on how youwant to look at it, because it's
a trip watching all this godown here in America while
living here.
It's kind of a trip.
It's just not a trip that anyof us want to be on.
So hang on to your butts,because we are in it, people.
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So we worked on our beliefs thatwe grew up with and which one
of those we still believe, or isit bullshit that needs to go?
We still believe, or is itbullshit that needs to go,
because, let's face it, thethoughts that we had ingrained
in us as kids may not work forus as adults, but it is up to us
to figure that out and toreevaluate every so often to see
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if it is still what we believeBecause we got to choose.
It is still what we believebecause we got to choose God.
I love free will.
The other thing that we havediscussed is how we react to
events, comments and theday-to-day bullshit that we have
to deal with in our lives.
Are we more reactive, gettingangry or lashing out, or do we
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remain more calm, present whenstressful situations arise?
And we'll get back on to that,I'm hoping, next month, because
to truly step into your powerand be the most authentic badass
that you are, you kind of haveto deprogram yourself from the
world's expectations Hell, yourexpectations, your friends and
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family's expectations.
In other words, we got to clearout our human bullshit and let
me tell you, three-fourths of ithas been put upon you and you
get to choose what stays andgoes, because it's your life.
You don't need your parents'approval, you don't need your
friends.
It's just you, because there'sonly one thing in life that you
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can control your parents'approval.
You don't need your friends,it's just you, because there's
only one thing in life that youcan control and that is you.
I can't control my parents, myjob, none of it.
But I can control how I reactto things, events, people or
situations that come up in mylife.
It is the only control you got.
And once you realize that, it'skind of freeing, because during
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my little tower moment whensomebody would say something
that would offend me, I'd askthem would you mind repeating
what you just said?
My brain kind of blanked outpartway through that sentence
and then I watch them like ahawk as they repeat it back to
me and see if there's a look ontheir face like ooh, that is
kind of cringe, or if theyapologize.
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But if there is none of that,then I just try to exit myself
away from them as quick aspossible, because clearly they
don't have an issue with it andthey're entitled to their
beliefs, and I understand that Icannot change their mind.
Only they can change their mindwhen they are ready.
And this is how you know you'resurrounding yourself with the
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right people, which is one ofthe reasons why the hero's
journey is so important.
When people come and go in ourlives, it is because that we are
learning something from themand the situation, and once
we've learned that lesson, if itcomes back around again, but
with different people, it is tosee if we truly have learned it,
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and so then you can move onbeyond that and level yourself
up.
In that kind of regard, life iskind of like a video game Every
lesson you learn, you go to thenext level, but the end result
or outcome will be different foreach person, because we all
want different things in life.
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For some of us it's rescuingPrincess Peach, for some of it
it's creating a utopianMinecraft kingdom.
For other it's just gettingyour froggy ass across the road
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without dying, which is why,sometimes in life, we feel as if
we're stuck.
Well, if you feel stuck in thatcycle, only you can get
yourself out.
So ask yourself this what lessonam I supposed to learn from
this person or situation?
Really, ask yourself that andwrite down your answer.
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And ask yourself this aboutfive times, just to make sure
you're not lying to yourself.
So if you get a differentanswer each time, you know
you're lying to yourself because, boy, we do love to do that.
I'm just as guilty over here.
So these repeated events arenot happening to you.
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These repeated events are nothappening to you.
So if you constantly feel likeGod damn, why does all this shit
keep happening to me in thislife?
I just can't seem to catch abreak, you need to ask yourself
what lessons am I supposed tolearn from this?
Because these events or peopleare happening for you so you can
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level the fuck up and be thebadass, authentic human being
that you are.
Here's a hard truth that we allneed to realize.
We have forgotten how to live,especially here in America.
The price of admission intothis country lately has been a
little too influenced by theBorg on Star Trek.
You must assimilate to theUnited States standards,
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practices and morality, but thelast 45 years it has been all
about the money, the looks, andit has felt so very superficial
that we have forgotten about,well, our soul, our feelings,
which is one of the reasonsright now.
We, the kick-hand generations,feel so fucking lost right now
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and not sure how to navigate thebullshit that the previous
generations have thrust upon usand that we're currently dealing
with in our government.
I guess situationship right now, because none of the policies
or situations that they havecreated only align with their
values, not ours.
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We got to figure out what do webelieve in, because we're up to
bat to fix all of this shit.
So we need to collectively, asa group, figure ourselves out,
because the previous generationsdid not check themselves before
they wrecked themselves and wehave the opportunity right now
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to fix ourselves before wecontinue down the same cycle
that they did Remember.
Learn our lessons Now.
When we clear out the stuff inour lives that we figure out
doesn't belong to us, it has atendency to show up as a job
that really isn't right for usanymore, or people we're hanging
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around, or family members, oreven your spouse, who really
doesn't treat us well or westart seeing that we really
don't have a lot or anything incommon and we need to not be
around them anymore.
Maybe it is where we are living.
Maybe the people in ourcommunity don't make us feel
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safe or good about ourselves.
You will start to notice thesethings more and more once you
figure out your beliefs andrealize your value to this life
and how worthy you are of it andhow deserving you are of a good
life.
We all deserve and are worthyof a good life, but until we
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truly believe it at our core, itwon't happen.
The world is not out to get us,like they are saying, and
resources are just thatresources.
Some have limits and some don't.
But the world actually wants usto succeed.
But we have a tendency to get inour own way, not just sometimes
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, but all times, whether that'sa fear from previous experience,
fear from previous experienceor not having control but
remember we can only controlourselves, not others or
situations.
Or is it the fear of theunknown, which is one that I am
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totally on the struggle bus withright now?
But one thing is true on thisjourney, you will have to get
really comfortable in theuncomfortable and not knowing
how it's going to all work out.
This is where faith and trustcome in.
Not the easiest things to dowhen you have a turbulent past.
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And if you get through thatwithout a victim mentality of
everything is against you.
You are ahead of the curve,kids, but the victim mentality
has to go.
Hey, hey ho ho.
That victim mentality has to go.
Hey, hey ho ho.
Just a little cheer ofencouragement for you, because
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that shit right there is goingto keep you stuck.
Cheer of encouragement for youbecause that shit right there is
going to keep you stuck.
That is why you need to askyourself what lessons did I
learn?
Then things will start movingforward again for you.
It may not be fast.
It just depends on if you putyour oxygen mask on first before
helping others.
Are you taking care of yourneeds mentally, physically and,
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yes, even spiritually, at leastaccording to your beliefs?
You need to stoppeople-pleasing still working on
that one myself, but gettingstronger at it aka stop putting
other people's needs above yours.
Creating boundaries is a way ofstopping doing that.
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My big boundary right now is Iwill no longer invest my time,
money or energy into people whoare not investing in themselves
or at least trying to make theworld a better place.
I love it if they can do both,but they at least need to be
making themselves better.
Another one if somebody iscomplaining a lot about
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everything and everyone in theirlife, I will ask them yeah,
that sounds rough, but whatlessons did you learn from that
situation or person?
But what lessons did you learnfrom that situation or person?
If they haven't learnedanything, well, I may not be
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investing much of my time, moneyor energy into them either.
Another indicator that I use tosee if people are right for me.
Now I really look at how do Ifeel after I've hung out with
them.
Do I feel energized, happy, doI have a sense of calm around
them, or do I feel completelydrained, exhausted or anxious?
If I feel energized, happy orcalm, then I know these people
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are right for me, because mynervous system doesn't perceive
them as a threat.
But if I feel drained,exhausted or anxious hanging out
with you, that tells me thatyou may not be my people.
Those people might be more outfor my energy and my light and
are more takers than givers.
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If you feel anxious aroundsomebody, it's generally your
body's way of letting you knowthat there's something off with
this person or they aretriggering that response in you.
So ask yourself what is itabout this person that triggers
these anxious feelings?
Sit with it, hopefully in aquiet space.
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Sit with it, hopefully, in aquiet space.
Ask yourself what is it aboutthis person that is triggering
these anxious feelings in me?
Take a deep breath, ask thequestion again what is it about
this person that is triggeringthese anxious feelings in me?
And just kind of start focusingin on your breath and see if
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you answer yourself back.
Just don't freak out if you doLike.
We did this a while back, ifyou remember that far.
These are a few ways to find outif you're hanging out with the
right people, or your chosenfamily, or what some people call
your soul family.
And you can do this for yourco-workers, family, relatives,
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as well as your friends andpeople that you hang out with.
Because when you've beenworking on healing yourself,
working on those pasttransgressions and traumas, you
will realize that certain typesof people are repeatedly
involved in making you feel likeshit.
And once you see it, you can'tunsee it and you will not want
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to waste your time anymore withthose people and cut them out of
your life, which leads to thetower moment, leads to the tower
moment.
So the tower is a card in thetarot deck and the image of it
is kind of scary.
It's of a castle tower that'scracked, falling People are
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actually falling out of thetower.
There's generally lightningfire, just mass destruction and
devastation everywhere.
Mass destruction anddevastation everywhere.
The tower actually signifies adramatic shift where outdated
beliefs, illusions andstructures collapse, clearing a
path for a new beginning.
It serves as a wake-up call,inviting us to examine our
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foundations of our lives andconfront any false or limiting
aspects.
This change should be welcomebecause it allows us to build
something solid from a cleanslate, which is what we are
doing here, on the hero'sjourney breaking down those old
patterns and beliefs that nolonger serve us.
You need to break yourself downto the foundation so you can
rebuild with some new beliefs.
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Kind of sounds like what theUnited States is going through
right now.
Huh, so even though things arespectacularly falling apart
right now, it's actually allcoming miraculously together in
ways you're not going to be ableto see or understand.
But before every personalbreakthrough, you're going to
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have a breakdown.
It's never fun, extremelystressful, and you will be
tested.
So how are your patients?
And you will be tested.
So how are your patients?
How are you responding orreacting?
How are you in control of yourfear and anxiety?
Have you ditched the victimmentality?
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This is not happening to you.
It is happening for you throughthe lessons that you learn.
The lesson I needed to learn inmy tower moment was to stand in
my power and stand up for myselfwith grace and without anger.
I had to choose myself aboveothers, reforming the inner
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people pleaser, which women domore than you realize.
Also had to learn how to askfor help, which is so hard for
me, being so stubbornlyindependent, because this is
something I've never had muchluck with in my past.
But this time has beencompletely different.
I actually learned how to askpeople better Instead of just
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saying I need help.
I gave people a few days that Iwould need help with, to give
them a time frame.
I told them specifically whatwe would be doing and then I
left that time frame up to them.
How long can you give me?
It was incredible.
Plus, asking for a referral fora lawyer was really tough.
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It has been amazing and itreally made me feel as if I
wasn't alone anymore, thatpeople who care about me were
actually there for me when Ineeded it.
No idea up until this momentthat people actually gave a shit
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about me.
I had finally found a littlepiece of community which, if I'm
being honest, is what we reallyall crave deep down.
But once you are authenticallyyourself, people see it and
respond to it.
Now, not everybody respondspositively to authenticity, and
I think that we can look at theLBGTQ plus community here,
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especially lately, with moreemphasis on trans people, sadly,
who just want to authenticallybe themselves, who they are deep
down, who they are deep down.
If we look at who is hating onthem, I think ultimately those
haters are just mad at thembecause they're living out loud
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who they are, and they're justmad because they feel as if they
can't, or at least they feelthat they can't live out loud,
or at least they feel that theycan't live out loud.
But here's the plot twist theycan we all can actually but
you've got to do the work,you've got to go through the
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dark nights of the soul, you'vegot to face your fears, your
pain and trauma, and hopefullyyou haven't intertwined your
traumas with your personality,for you may be too scared to let
them go because you're notgoing to know who you are if you
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do.
I get that it's scary becomingsomeone new, because you've
never been that version ofyourself and, quite frankly, not
many people want to do that,because that shit right there is
not for the weak.
You have to have guts, you haveto have gumption.
You gotta grow a fucking vaginabecause you are going to take a
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pounding.
No delicate balls to be kickedhere, my punks, because life
gets far more interesting andmagical when you are learning
and growing and expandingthroughout your life, instead of
being stuck living in lack,living in fear of people, places
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or situations.
That's not living people.
That's not living people.
So yeah, the tower moment itisn't fun, but it is a necessary
part of the process to evolveinto your true, authentic self.
Besides trying to be a betterversion of yourself, then you
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have to add on everything thatthe current administration is
trying to do and attempting todo.
So how do we deal with that aswell?
To be honest, it's going to bechallenging to do both.
Trust me on that one.
I'm basically relying onStephen Colbert's opener just to
get caught up on the news witha side of humor instead of a
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straight up bullshit, that it is.
So what are some things that wecan do to resist against?
These are odd ones, but hereare some that might work.
Seeing as which we're in spring, I recommend building a garden.
If you don't have the space,try one of those vertical
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planters in which, like you, canplant many different types of
plants in one tall pot.
If you feel financiallystrapped right now, see if maybe
you and your neighbors can goin on it with you.
Building a community is key andvital to surviving this failing
country.
We are all going to need helpat some point in time during
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this difficult cycle, so we'regoing to have to start
cultivating that community inour local areas, for we need to
rely on each other.
Take a trip with me as I go backto the 70s here Now.
I was just about zero to eightduring this time period, but
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something happened more duringthe 70s than any other time
period that I was alive, atleast.
During the 70s than any othertime period that I was alive at
least.
Loving and helping yourneighbors was a huge thing.
I grew up in a town of about2,000 people and our churches
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and community actually helpedthe local people.
Churches would set aside partof its Sunday collection to help
people pay their electric gasphone or maybe even help pay
rent or mortgage if you neededassistance.
Also, there were no Walmarts orbig box stores.
Everything was local businessowners.
One of the craziest memories Ihad was going to the grocery
store with my mom and heractually putting groceries on
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credit with them until my dadgot paid.
And it wasn't just groceries.
The gas station down the streetalso did that for us as well.
But we could rely on thecommunity to help each other out
.
Unfortunately, over time peoplegot greedy and then stopped
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paying these things back andthese types of things eventually
stopped.
Not many churches have thesekind of programs anymore.
Like living in Oklahoma, wehear about Houston when it
floods every single time, andthere's this guy who owns a
furniture store and he opens hisstore every time for the
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community, to the people in itand gives them someplace safe
that they can sleep.
Now Texas is also kind of hometo some mega churches, and one
of those is Pastor Joel OsteenGuess, who locks up their church
compound every single time.
But God wants him to have a jetplane, even though his
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followers are hurting.
We need to open ourselves up tohelping others.
It doesn't take a lot of effortto treat others as you want to
be treated.
To be honest, that's the onlything I got out of the church
and during the 70s that reignedsupreme.
But the 80s came and changedall that.
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Now the look was everythingMoney and greed.
They became gods and hypocrisybecame king and hypocrisy became
king, and not much has changedsince.
I think about the music of the70s.
Looks were not everything.
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It was all about the sound andthe performance.
If some of those artists triedtoday to get their music career
off the ground, they would havenever been able to start ground.
They would have never been ableto start.
We need to look out for othersand help out when we can.
Everything nowadays has gottenbigger.
Local businesses are having ahard time competing with
corporations, and now we're evenmore of a global market which
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has a tendency to change things.
Once we get beyond theimmediate fuckery that is afoot,
maybe we can start focusing inon the world playing together
better.
But in the meantime, what elsecan we do?
It would be great if, locally,there was a place we could check
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out tools and home improvementstuff, or maybe art projects, or
it could even be like a freestore where people can drop off
their stuff and that they don'twant to use anymore and people
can take what they need.
This one gets tricky because wehave been so ingrained to
consume and take and think thatthings are scarce.
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But that concept is full ofshit.
We are consuming so muchbecause we're trying to fill the
emptiness inside of us, butwhen it comes down to it, when
you find yourself and you startloving yourself, you don't need
as much outside validationbecause you know you Plus.
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You'll get rid of these peoplearound you that only value you
for what they get.
You'll find your people, andwhen you find your people, you
want to spend more time withthem, and this will help fill
your cup more.
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Granted, what fills your cup isdifferent for everyone, but
there are others out there thatalso love what you love and love
you for who you are.
That is why a four-day workweek is needed, so we can have
one day just to clean, get yourlife organized, one day to run
errands and then the rest of thetime have fun with your family,
friends and explore yourpersonal interests and I don't
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know, actually maybe rest.
The grind just grinds you down,and I don't know about you.
But let's not do this anymore.
I want to live and enjoy mylife and have some fucking fun
again Doing some of the thingsthat I love to do.
That, my friend, is an Americandream.
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I think we can all get behind,and I think that is where I'm
going to end it today, with alittle hope.
Here's to the better times.
Punks, I hope you can bear withme during this awkward
transitional phase that I'mcurrently going through, but I
do have to say check with me ina couple months and you may be
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talking to a different personbecause, damn, when you go
through this much bullshit, itis building you for something.
I guess we'll have to find outwhat exactly it is that I'm
building.
Huh, till next month.
I'm not 100% sure what I'mgoing to be talking about.
It depends on how the monthgoes, but I will keep you
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informed.
Good night, punks.
Keep it real, keep it punk.
Hey, my younglings, my little punks, it is I, your
Auntie Robin.
I've been sitting here on andoff trying to figure out what
needs to be said, because it'sbeen a hell of a few months,
because last time, on a kickedcan, I dropped a good-sized bomb
on y'all Getting a divorce,selling my house, finding a new
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place to live and basicallyhaving a tower moment where the
world is crumbling and burningto the ground around me.
Well, here's the update, stillgoing through all that.
Still going through all that,and with a few sprinkles from
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the final episodes of the UnitedStates which, let's face it, is
leading us on the road tonowhere.
Come on inside.
Great, now I'm going to havethe talking heads going through
my brain, yeah, and then justhaving to deal with the mundane
daily life like work, payingbills, keeping the fuzzy kids
alive hell, keeping your realkids alive.
Are you taking care of yourselfmentally, physically?
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Have you remembered to take ashower, brush your teeth today?
It's a hell of a lot.
I'm not going to lie to youabout that.
It's a little rough out herefor fucking everyone and I'm
going to Gary Oldman, that shit,when I say everyone.
Now I know I promised a few newdiscoveries here on the hero's
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journey.
So today we're actually goingto do a side quest mission of
the hero's journey.
I'm actually going to talk toyou about what I call the tower
moment in this journey, becauseif you start this, you will
eventually go through this kindof moment, and why it's so
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important that you go through itand I do mean through.
There is no going around thisone, sorry, but seeing as which
that is something I'm currentlygoing through.
I can speak on that with somemotherfucking authority right
now, because I'm going to behonest with you, I'm having a
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little trouble focusing on thehealing journey right now when
my ego has got huge impostersyndrome, fear creeping, in
which I'm totally admitting toyou all right now, for my brain
is telling me how can I teachothers to get their life
together when mine looks likeit's spectacularly falling apart
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?
But that's where it's all aboutmindset and how to learn to
alchemize.
I just love that word alchemize.
It sounds like I'm a wizard,harry.
So I'm going to teach you howto magically transform your
words and your mindset tohopefully change your
circumstances.
I'll also be spending some timeon some small things that you
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can do to kind of help survivethe failing or the falling of
America, depending on how youwant to look at it, because it's
a trip watching all this godown here in America while
living here.
It's kind of a trip.
It's just not a trip that anyof us want to be on.
So hang on to your butts,because we are in it, people.
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So we worked on our beliefs thatwe grew up with and which one
of those we still believe, or isit bullshit that needs to go?
We still believe, or is itbullshit that needs to go,
because, let's face it, thethoughts that we had ingrained
in us as kids may not work forus as adults, but it is up to us
to figure that out and toreevaluate every so often to see
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if it is still what we believeBecause we got to choose.
It is still what we believebecause we got to choose God.
I love free will.
The other thing that we havediscussed is how we react to
events, comments and theday-to-day bullshit that we have
to deal with in our lives.
Are we more reactive, gettingangry or lashing out, or do we
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remain more calm, present whenstressful situations arise?
And we'll get back on to that,I'm hoping, next month, because
to truly step into your powerand be the most authentic badass
that you are, you kind of haveto deprogram yourself from the
world's expectations Hell, yourexpectations, your friends and
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family's expectations.
In other words, we got to clearout our human bullshit and let
me tell you, three-fourths of ithas been put upon you and you
get to choose what stays andgoes, because it's your life.
You don't need your parents'approval, you don't need your
friends.
It's just you, because there'sonly one thing in life that you
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can control your parents'approval.
You don't need your friends,it's just you, because there's
only one thing in life that youcan control and that is you.
I can't control my parents, myjob, none of it.
But I can control how I reactto things, events, people or
situations that come up in mylife.
It is the only control you got.
And once you realize that, it'skind of freeing, because during
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my little tower moment whensomebody would say something
that would offend me, I'd askthem would you mind repeating
what you just said?
My brain kind of blanked outpartway through that sentence
and then I watch them like ahawk as they repeat it back to
me and see if there's a look ontheir face like ooh, that is
kind of cringe, or if theyapologize.
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But if there is none of that,then I just try to exit myself
away from them as quick aspossible, because clearly they
don't have an issue with it andthey're entitled to their
beliefs, and I understand that Icannot change their mind.
Only they can change their mindwhen they are ready.
And this is how you know you'resurrounding yourself with the
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right people, which is one ofthe reasons why the hero's
journey is so important.
When people come and go in ourlives, it is because that we are
learning something from themand the situation, and once
we've learned that lesson, if itcomes back around again, but
with different people, it is tosee if we truly have learned it,
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and so then you can move onbeyond that and level yourself
up.
In that kind of regard, life iskind of like a video game Every
lesson you learn, you go to thenext level, but the end result
or outcome will be different foreach person, because we all
want different things in life.
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For some of us it's rescuingPrincess Peach, for some of it
it's creating a utopianMinecraft kingdom.
For other it's just gettingyour froggy ass across the road
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without dying, which is why,sometimes in life, we feel as if
we're stuck.
Well, if you feel stuck in thatcycle, only you can get
yourself out.
So ask yourself this what lessonam I supposed to learn from
this person or situation?
Really, ask yourself that andwrite down your answer.
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And ask yourself this aboutfive times, just to make sure
you're not lying to yourself.
So if you get a differentanswer each time, you know
you're lying to yourself because, boy, we do love to do that.
I'm just as guilty over here.
So these repeated events arenot happening to you.
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These repeated events are nothappening to you.
So if you constantly feel likeGod damn, why does all this shit
keep happening to me in thislife?
I just can't seem to catch abreak, you need to ask yourself
what lessons am I supposed tolearn from this?
Because these events or peopleare happening for you so you can
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level the fuck up and be thebadass, authentic human being
that you are.
Here's a hard truth that we allneed to realize.
We have forgotten how to live,especially here in America.
The price of admission intothis country lately has been a
little too influenced by theBorg on Star Trek.
You must assimilate to theUnited States standards,
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practices and morality, but thelast 45 years it has been all
about the money, the looks, andit has felt so very superficial
that we have forgotten about,well, our soul, our feelings,
which is one of the reasonsright now.
We, the kick-hand generations,feel so fucking lost right now
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and not sure how to navigate thebullshit that the previous
generations have thrust upon usand that we're currently dealing
with in our government.
I guess situationship right now, because none of the policies
or situations that they havecreated only align with their
values, not ours.
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We got to figure out what do webelieve in, because we're up to
bat to fix all of this shit.
So we need to collectively, asa group, figure ourselves out,
because the previous generationsdid not check themselves before
they wrecked themselves and wehave the opportunity right now
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to fix ourselves before wecontinue down the same cycle
that they did Remember.
Learn our lessons Now.
When we clear out the stuff inour lives that we figure out
doesn't belong to us, it has atendency to show up as a job
that really isn't right for usanymore, or people we're hanging
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around, or family members, oreven your spouse, who really
doesn't treat us well or westart seeing that we really
don't have a lot or anything incommon and we need to not be
around them anymore.
Maybe it is where we are living.
Maybe the people in ourcommunity don't make us feel
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safe or good about ourselves.
You will start to notice thesethings more and more once you
figure out your beliefs andrealize your value to this life
and how worthy you are of it andhow deserving you are of a good
life.
We all deserve and are worthyof a good life, but until we
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truly believe it at our core, itwon't happen.
The world is not out to get us,like they are saying, and
resources are just thatresources.
Some have limits and some don't.
But the world actually wants usto succeed.
But we have a tendency to get inour own way, not just sometimes
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, but all times, whether that'sa fear from previous experience,
fear from previous experienceor not having control but
remember we can only controlourselves, not others or
situations.
Or is it the fear of theunknown, which is one that I am
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totally on the struggle bus withright now?
But one thing is true on thisjourney, you will have to get
really comfortable in theuncomfortable and not knowing
how it's going to all work out.
This is where faith and trustcome in.
Not the easiest things to dowhen you have a turbulent past.
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And if you get through thatwithout a victim mentality of
everything is against you.
You are ahead of the curve,kids, but the victim mentality
has to go.
Hey, hey ho ho.
That victim mentality has to go.
Hey, hey ho ho.
Just a little cheer ofencouragement for you, because
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that shit right there is goingto keep you stuck.
Cheer of encouragement for youbecause that shit right there is
going to keep you stuck.
That is why you need to askyourself what lessons did I
learn?
Then things will start movingforward again for you.
It may not be fast.
It just depends on if you putyour oxygen mask on first before
helping others.
Are you taking care of yourneeds mentally, physically and,
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yes, even spiritually, at leastaccording to your beliefs?
You need to stoppeople-pleasing still working on
that one myself, but gettingstronger at it aka stop putting
other people's needs above yours.
Creating boundaries is a way ofstopping doing that.
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My big boundary right now is Iwill no longer invest my time,
money or energy into people whoare not investing in themselves
or at least trying to make theworld a better place.
I love it if they can do both,but they at least need to be
making themselves better.
Another one if somebody iscomplaining a lot about
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everything and everyone in theirlife, I will ask them yeah,
that sounds rough, but whatlessons did you learn from that
situation or person?
But what lessons did you learnfrom that situation or person?
If they haven't learnedanything, well, I may not be
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investing much of my time, moneyor energy into them either.
Another indicator that I use tosee if people are right for me.
Now I really look at how do Ifeel after I've hung out with
them.
Do I feel energized, happy, doI have a sense of calm around
them, or do I feel completelydrained, exhausted or anxious?
If I feel energized, happy orcalm, then I know these people
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are right for me, because mynervous system doesn't perceive
them as a threat.
But if I feel drained,exhausted or anxious hanging out
with you, that tells me thatyou may not be my people.
Those people might be more outfor my energy and my light and
are more takers than givers.
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If you feel anxious aroundsomebody, it's generally your
body's way of letting you knowthat there's something off with
this person or they aretriggering that response in you.
So ask yourself what is itabout this person that triggers
these anxious feelings?
Sit with it, hopefully in aquiet space.
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Sit with it, hopefully, in aquiet space.
Ask yourself what is it aboutthis person that is triggering
these anxious feelings in me?
Take a deep breath, ask thequestion again what is it about
this person that is triggeringthese anxious feelings in me?
And just kind of start focusingin on your breath and see if
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you answer yourself back.
Just don't freak out if you doLike.
We did this a while back, ifyou remember that far.
These are a few ways to find outif you're hanging out with the
right people, or your chosenfamily, or what some people call
your soul family.
And you can do this for yourco-workers, family, relatives,
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as well as your friends andpeople that you hang out with.
Because when you've beenworking on healing yourself,
working on those pasttransgressions and traumas, you
will realize that certain typesof people are repeatedly
involved in making you feel likeshit.
And once you see it, you can'tunsee it and you will not want
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to waste your time anymore withthose people and cut them out of
your life, which leads to thetower moment, leads to the tower
moment.
So the tower is a card in thetarot deck and the image of it
is kind of scary.
It's of a castle tower that'scracked, falling People are
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actually falling out of thetower.
There's generally lightningfire, just mass destruction and
devastation everywhere.
Mass destruction anddevastation everywhere.
The tower actually signifies adramatic shift where outdated
beliefs, illusions andstructures collapse, clearing a
path for a new beginning.
It serves as a wake-up call,inviting us to examine our
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foundations of our lives andconfront any false or limiting
aspects.
This change should be welcomebecause it allows us to build
something solid from a cleanslate, which is what we are
doing here, on the hero'sjourney breaking down those old
patterns and beliefs that nolonger serve us.
You need to break yourself downto the foundation so you can
rebuild with some new beliefs.
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Kind of sounds like what theUnited States is going through
right now.
Huh, so even though things arespectacularly falling apart
right now, it's actually allcoming miraculously together in
ways you're not going to be ableto see or understand.
But before every personalbreakthrough, you're going to
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have a breakdown.
It's never fun, extremelystressful, and you will be
tested.
So how are your patients?
And you will be tested.
So how are your patients?
How are you responding orreacting?
How are you in control of yourfear and anxiety?
Have you ditched the victimmentality?
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This is not happening to you.
It is happening for you throughthe lessons that you learn.
The lesson I needed to learn inmy tower moment was to stand in
my power and stand up for myselfwith grace and without anger.
I had to choose myself aboveothers, reforming the inner
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people pleaser, which women domore than you realize.
Also had to learn how to askfor help, which is so hard for
me, being so stubbornlyindependent, because this is
something I've never had muchluck with in my past.
But this time has beencompletely different.
I actually learned how to askpeople better Instead of just
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saying I need help.
I gave people a few days that Iwould need help with, to give
them a time frame.
I told them specifically whatwe would be doing and then I
left that time frame up to them.
How long can you give me?
It was incredible.
Plus, asking for a referral fora lawyer was really tough.
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It has been amazing and itreally made me feel as if I
wasn't alone anymore, thatpeople who care about me were
actually there for me when Ineeded it.
No idea up until this momentthat people actually gave a shit
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about me.
I had finally found a littlepiece of community which, if I'm
being honest, is what we reallyall crave deep down.
But once you are authenticallyyourself, people see it and
respond to it.
Now, not everybody respondspositively to authenticity, and
I think that we can look at theLBGTQ plus community here,
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especially lately, with moreemphasis on trans people, sadly,
who just want to authenticallybe themselves, who they are deep
down, who they are deep down.
If we look at who is hating onthem, I think ultimately those
haters are just mad at thembecause they're living out loud
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who they are, and they're justmad because they feel as if they
can't, or at least they feelthat they can't live out loud,
or at least they feel that theycan't live out loud.
But here's the plot twist theycan we all can actually but
you've got to do the work,you've got to go through the
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dark nights of the soul, you'vegot to face your fears, your
pain and trauma, and hopefullyyou haven't intertwined your
traumas with your personality,for you may be too scared to let
them go because you're notgoing to know who you are if you
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do.
I get that it's scary becomingsomeone new, because you've
never been that version ofyourself and, quite frankly, not
many people want to do that,because that shit right there is
not for the weak.
You have to have guts, you haveto have gumption.
You gotta grow a fucking vaginabecause you are going to take a
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pounding.
No delicate balls to be kickedhere, my punks, because life
gets far more interesting andmagical when you are learning
and growing and expandingthroughout your life, instead of
being stuck living in lack,living in fear of people, places
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or situations.
That's not living people.
That's not living people.
So yeah, the tower moment itisn't fun, but it is a necessary
part of the process to evolveinto your true, authentic self.
Besides trying to be a betterversion of yourself, then you
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have to add on everything thatthe current administration is
trying to do and attempting todo.
So how do we deal with that aswell?
To be honest, it's going to bechallenging to do both.
Trust me on that one.
I'm basically relying onStephen Colbert's opener just to
get caught up on the news witha side of humor instead of a
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straight up bullshit, that it is.
So what are some things that wecan do to resist against?
These are odd ones, but hereare some that might work.
Seeing as which we're in spring, I recommend building a garden.
If you don't have the space,try one of those vertical
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planters in which, like you, canplant many different types of
plants in one tall pot.
If you feel financiallystrapped right now, see if maybe
you and your neighbors can goin on it with you.
Building a community is key andvital to surviving this failing
country.
We are all going to need helpat some point in time during
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this difficult cycle, so we'regoing to have to start
cultivating that community inour local areas, for we need to
rely on each other.
Take a trip with me as I go backto the 70s here Now.
I was just about zero to eightduring this time period, but
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something happened more duringthe 70s than any other time
period that I was alive, atleast.
During the 70s than any othertime period that I was alive at
least.
Loving and helping yourneighbors was a huge thing.
I grew up in a town of about2,000 people and our churches
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and community actually helpedthe local people.
Churches would set aside partof its Sunday collection to help
people pay their electric gasphone or maybe even help pay
rent or mortgage if you neededassistance.
Also, there were no Walmarts orbig box stores.
Everything was local businessowners.
One of the craziest memories Ihad was going to the grocery
store with my mom and heractually putting groceries on
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credit with them until my dadgot paid.
And it wasn't just groceries.
The gas station down the streetalso did that for us as well.
But we could rely on thecommunity to help each other out
.
Unfortunately, over time peoplegot greedy and then stopped
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paying these things back andthese types of things eventually
stopped.
Not many churches have thesekind of programs anymore.
Like living in Oklahoma, wehear about Houston when it
floods every single time, andthere's this guy who owns a
furniture store and he opens hisstore every time for the
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community, to the people in itand gives them someplace safe
that they can sleep.
Now Texas is also kind of hometo some mega churches, and one
of those is Pastor Joel OsteenGuess, who locks up their church
compound every single time.
But God wants him to have a jetplane, even though his
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followers are hurting.
We need to open ourselves up tohelping others.
It doesn't take a lot of effortto treat others as you want to
be treated.
To be honest, that's the onlything I got out of the church
and during the 70s that reignedsupreme.
But the 80s came and changedall that.
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Now the look was everythingMoney and greed.
They became gods and hypocrisybecame king and hypocrisy became
king, and not much has changedsince.
I think about the music of the70s.
Looks were not everything.
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It was all about the sound andthe performance.
If some of those artists triedtoday to get their music career
off the ground, they would havenever been able to start ground.
They would have never been ableto start.
We need to look out for othersand help out when we can.
Everything nowadays has gottenbigger.
Local businesses are having ahard time competing with
corporations, and now we're evenmore of a global market which
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has a tendency to change things.
Once we get beyond theimmediate fuckery that is afoot,
maybe we can start focusing inon the world playing together
better.
But in the meantime, what elsecan we do?
It would be great if, locally,there was a place we could check
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out tools and home improvementstuff, or maybe art projects, or
it could even be like a freestore where people can drop off
their stuff and that they don'twant to use anymore and people
can take what they need.
This one gets tricky because wehave been so ingrained to
consume and take and think thatthings are scarce.
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But that concept is full ofshit.
We are consuming so muchbecause we're trying to fill the
emptiness inside of us, butwhen it comes down to it, when
you find yourself and you startloving yourself, you don't need
as much outside validationbecause you know you Plus.
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You'll get rid of these peoplearound you that only value you
for what they get.
You'll find your people, andwhen you find your people, you
want to spend more time withthem, and this will help fill
your cup more.
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Granted, what fills your cup isdifferent for everyone, but
there are others out there thatalso love what you love and love
you for who you are.
That is why a four-day workweek is needed, so we can have
one day just to clean, get yourlife organized, one day to run
errands and then the rest of thetime have fun with your family,
friends and explore yourpersonal interests and I don't
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know, actually maybe rest.
The grind just grinds you down,and I don't know about you.
But let's not do this anymore.
I want to live and enjoy mylife and have some fucking fun
again Doing some of the thingsthat I love to do.
That, my friend, is an Americandream.
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I think we can all get behind,and I think that is where I'm
going to end it today, with alittle hope.
Here's to the better times.
Punks, I hope you can bear withme during this awkward
transitional phase that I'mcurrently going through, but I
do have to say check with me ina couple months and you may be
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talking to a different personbecause, damn, when you go
through this much bullshit, itis building you for something.
I guess we'll have to find outwhat exactly it is that I'm
building.
Huh, till next month.
I'm not 100% sure what I'mgoing to be talking about.
It depends on how the monthgoes, but I will keep you
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informed.
Good night, punks.
Keep it real, keep it punk.
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