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February 13, 2025 15 mins

Ever wondered if dreams could be more than just figments of our imagination? Could they be bridges connecting us to the spiritual realm? Join me, Jay Lane, as I share my personal encounters with dreams of deceased loved ones, including a vivid experience with my late father. These dreams are not just mysterious; they can be instrumental in processing grief, offering closure, and even delivering messages from beyond. We'll explore various cultural perspectives on spiritual visitations through dreams and unravel the potential meanings behind these enigmatic night-time encounters.

Listeners will gain insights into how such dreams, whether rooted in our subconscious or stemming from spiritual connections, can provide solace and a renewed sense of connection with those who've passed. By embracing these powerful experiences, we open ourselves to profound personal growth and healing. This episode is an invitation to examine your own dreams and uncover the spiritual journey they may hold. I hope to inspire you to embrace this exploration with an open heart. For more on my journey and insights, feel free to visit my website or follow me on Facebook and Instagram.

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Jay Lane (00:01):
Get ready to be captivated and intrigued as we
delve into my life of spiritsand all things paranormal.
Join me, your host, Jay Lane,on The Laneway to Spirit, as I
share my stories and personalexperiences in the hopes of
inspiring others to exploretheir own spirituality.

(00:22):
Grab your favorite mug andsettle in and let's get started.
Hello and welcome here to LameWay to Spirit.
I love talking about deadpeople that visit me in my

(00:42):
dreams, and I see dead people inmy dreams, and I'm pretty sure
that you see dead people in yourdreams too, and that's what I
wanted to talk about today.
Because we're so connected todream world, right, and we
daydream guys all day long, andwe night dream too.
Whether you think you dream ornot, you dream dream too.

(01:07):
Whether you think you dream ornot, you dream.
And I think that visiting deadpeople while we're sleeping
seems more real than when we'reawake, right?
Instead of daydreaming aboutthem when we're dreaming at
night and when we're sleeping,we have no conscious awareness
that that's going to happen orany preconceived thought that
we're going to have a visitationfrom a dead relative or a loved
one.
So I always thought, like whydo they visit us in our dreams?

(01:30):
Like.
Is there a reason?
Dreams, for me, are always kindof mysterious.
They're fascinating.
There's such a great aspect ofour human existence and what I
like about dreams is that theycan transport us to other worlds
and they let us have theseexperiences that are seemingly
impossible scenarios to even gothrough, and they also reconnect

(01:55):
us with our loved ones and withall of these different types of
dreams those where our deadloved ones visit us for me, are
really really intriguing.
Now, these dreams can evokecomfort, and they can also
really evoke the feeling ofunease, feeling really

(02:17):
incredibly yucky about thatvisitation or really not wanting
to deal with it, hesitation, orreally not wanting to deal with
it.
And so years and years ago,after my father passed away, I
used to have this one particulardream that I looked for him in
this room and there were allthese caskets in a room and they
were all closed.
So of course, I had to gothrough all of the caskets.

(02:39):
They were all empty until Ifound my father in one of the
caskets and when I did, I closedthe lid to that casket and the
casket was on a, I guess, kindof gurney and there were little
wheels on it.
And here I went on and Iwheeled him down the hall and I
put him in a closet and I closedthe door and I left, and I

(03:01):
think that was my way of sayingI'm not dealing with this grief
and I'm not dealing with theacceptance of my father's
passing.
And so I do believe that hecame to visit me to help me get
through that grief and to reallyface the fact that he had
passed away.
But what motivates deceasedpeople to appear in our dreams?
Well, one of the theories talksabout these dreams that serve

(03:26):
as a means for our subconsciousmind to process and manage that
grief, like I did when I dreamtof my father's casket and
looking for him and the loss ofa loved one can be really
distressing and really reallybewildering, and some people
have much higher levels thanothers, and so it really just
depends on the type of personand the type of grief that

(03:48):
they're going to experience, andthis leads us in our minds to
struggle with that acceptance oftheir absence, right?
So dreaming of theseindividuals can really
facilitate that ongoingconnection and helps that
emotional processing, and so Ialways think it offers a channel

(04:09):
for the deceased to communicatewith us and to provide us with
closure or even reassurance thatthey're still around Now.
Do these dreams represent anytype of spiritual visitation?
Well, a lot of cultures andspiritual belief systems include
that concept of spirits or evenancestors visiting the living

(04:30):
through dreams, and theseencounters are thought to bring
messages or guidance from thatrealm to their ancestors.
And some people even claim tohave received, like, some pretty
vital information or evenwarnings from departed loved
ones in their dreams.
And that kind of applies to me,because I remember one dream in

(04:54):
particular that affected me andI believe that my father had
come to give me a warning.
I went to bed one night ratherlate and I woke up at around
four o'clock in the morning andI was dreaming of my father and
I remember him telling me you'llknow, this is true with the
sign of the axe.
And I thought, wow, what thehell is that?

(05:14):
I was so confused.
And so he repeated to me thesame thing without moving his
mouth, as though his thoughtslike permeated my whole being,
like.
It's like.
I just felt that you'll know,this is true, with the sign of
the ax.
It's like what the hell?
So I sat up in bed and Iremember feeling that he was

(05:34):
trying to tell me something bador something bad was going to
happen, and I started thinkingabout every detail of my dream.
I remembered that my father hadappeared to me.
He was standing in front of thebathtub and the white, glossy
tub behind it was so shiny, sobeautiful, but it was on fire,
and the fire was raging behindhim and I kept on trying to see

(05:58):
if there was water in the tubbecause I was so afraid that he
was going to get burned.
And so my father was completelydressed in white.
It was just like the man fromGLAAD, right down to his belt
being white, and he was slim.
He wasn't slim before he passedaway, but he was slim and he
looked like.
He was like in his mid-30s andhe had the bluest eyes.

(06:21):
My dad had the bluest eyes, hismid-30s and he had the bluest
eyes.
My dad had the bluest eyes, butI could also see the sky behind
him through the walls thatseemed transparent on each side
of him.
And as this fire was raging onthat glossy white tiled wall, it
was like wild.
He repeated to me through thisthought you'll know this is true
with the sign of the ax.

(06:41):
You'll know this is true withthe sign of the axe.
You'll know this is true withthe sign of the axe and it was
just like really puzzling for me.
I didn't know what he wastalking about.
I immediately got out of bedand journaled everything that I
had dreamt about or what I felt,and the next morning I talked
to Brad about it and I told him.

(07:03):
It felt so real.
I felt so strongly that he wasreally trying to tell me
something, and fire is notsomething that's ever happened
in our family, so I couldn'teven relate to it.
So about three days later, bradand I went to Nibbler's downtown
on Cedar Street and we used togo there every Friday for our

(07:24):
fish and chips and a manapproached us as he walked by to
get to his table and he askedif we knew where the railway
museum was.
At the time we didn't knowwhere it was, so Brad told him
that he wasn't sure, but heshould go across the street to
the information desk at the cityhall and they might be able to
help him.
As this man sat at his seat, hewas sitting there with his wife

(07:48):
he continued to talk to usabout his great-grandfather and
he said that hisgreat-grandfather had forged his
way through Sudbury using thisaxe that had been donated some
years before to this railwaymuseum, and he said that he was
in town.
He wanted to go see it.
He was really kind ofsentimental about it.

(08:10):
After they left, brad and Istarted to talk over dinner and
he goes oh my God, jay, do youthink that your dream has
anything to do with that axe hewas talking about?
He says didn't you dream aboutsomething to do with an axe he
was talking about?
He says didn't you dream aboutsomething to do with an axe?
And then I told him yeah, youknow, funny, you bring that up.

(08:31):
I didn't want to say anything,but I didn't really feel that,
you know, that was related tothe dream at all.
I did feel, though, that it wasa sign that I was supposed to
get, and it was some kind ofvalidation that something was
going to happen very soon.
It was like okay, start payingattention.
And what it was?
I wasn't too sure, but I feltinside my heart that's what I

(08:55):
needed to trust, and so, acouple days later, I was
cleaning the floors in the lobbyat the Vendetti building and
that was known as the RandolphCenter on Cedar Street and the
landlord had asked if I can helpout for a couple of weeks,
since they didn't have anybodyto clean or manage the building.
And so I told him that I'd helpfor a couple of weeks until

(09:15):
they found somebody, thebuilding and given me the keys
to certain areas in the buildingthat I was responsible for, you
know, in case of emergency orfirst contact of that building.
And so here I am mopping thefloors in the lobby and the
panel on the wall in the lobbystarted to light up like a

(09:36):
Christmas tree.
All the alarms started likegoing off.
So I kind of freaked out for asecond.
I was like, oh my God, what doI do?
And then I remembered that Iwas supposed to go in, open the
glass panel door with a key,turn off the alarm and then go
and contact the fire departmentafter doing a quick
investigation of the building.

(09:58):
But as I went to put the key inthe panel turned off all by
itself and I didn't even likefinish unlocking the door it
just, it just went off.
So I thought that was kind ofweird.
So I checked the building justthe same and everything seemed
to be okay, including the boilerroom.
So I went back to the lobby andI started to mop the floor

(10:20):
again and then the alarm wentoff again and the panel lit up
really bright.
So I took the keys back out ofmy pocket and I went to unlock
the panel and it turned offagain.
And so now I'm shaking becauseI'm thinking, okay, like I
didn't know what to think.
And when I went to walk away itstarted to go off again.

(10:40):
So now like strike three, right, this is the third time.
So I unlocked the cabinet, Iput the key in, I turned it off,
I did a walk through thebuilding and everything was
normal, but in the distance Ican hear what sounded like
sirens.
So I went back downstairs tothe lobby so that I can go greet
the firemen and let them knowthat there was no emergency.

(11:02):
But it seems that the emergencywas somewhere else, because the
firemen never stopped at ourbuilding and there was quite a
commotion outside.
I could hear several sirens inthe distance going down Notre
Dame Avenue.
I just thought that was sobizarre.
And after I was done cleaningthe building and putting
everything away, I went back tomy apartment.

(11:24):
I used to live on the thirdfloor for quite some time and so
I noticed that when I got backin my apartment.
I used to live on the thirdfloor for quite some time, and
so I noticed that when I gotback in I had a couple of
messages on my answering machine, and so I started to check them
and it was my stepdad, and hewas really agitated when he left
me these two messages.
So I tried to call him back,but we didn't have cell phones

(11:44):
at the time.
So I left him a message on hisanswering machine and when I
hung up I got a call from thePioneer Manor just shortly after
and they told me that mystepdad was on his way to pick
up my mom because they had had afire emergency in another
building, but they wereevacuating the building where my

(12:05):
mother was lodged.
So I said well, what's going on?
They said well, it's creating ashortage of beds.
So they asked if we could bringher back later that evening,
once they had assigned a newroom for her.
So we did that.
We later learned that they hadto evacuate her entire section

(12:25):
because an accident caused afire to start in the attic of a
new construction that was beingdone next door and that fire had
traveled down her bathroom wallof her unit and although the
unit itself was not on fire, theelectrical had been damaged, as
well as the insulation in herunit, as well as the other units

(12:48):
on either side of her.
So, to this day, I believe thatthe axe was meant as a sign for
me to be on the lookout or to beaware that something was going
to happen, a warning that thebathroom was going to catch fire
.
Co don't think so, and I'm sothankful for my father's spirit

(13:10):
and the fact that he visits mein my dreams.
You know, not all dreams arewarnings and not all dreams are
meant to have a message in them,and I think that the dead
sometimes visit us in our dreamsfor several reasons For us to
accept their death, to rememberthem.
But whatever reason, dreamworld is a realm where we can

(13:32):
connect to our loved ones in away that we can't do consciously
speaking.
So if you dream of your lovedones, don't be fearful or be sad
.
If it's a bad dream or a saddream, our dead relatives really
want us to heal from the hurtthat we experience and because
we tend to ignore our consciousfeelings, we do deal with them,

(13:56):
subconsciously speaking and inan unconscious state of being,
in other words, through ourdreams.
I believe that our visitors havethings to tell us and that we
at times cannot relate to orsometimes keep an open mind
about it.
I usually tell people, ifnothing happens, within about
two or three weeks after havingthat type of dream, you might be

(14:19):
working out some kind of griefor acceptance issue.
These dreams can really offerus some peace of mind and a
reminder that the connectionshared with our dead loved ones
is very close, and the questionof why dead people visit us in
our dreams may sometimes evenremain unanswered.
So, whether it comes from thesubconscious or the spiritual,

(14:43):
they have the potential to bringcomfort, closure and that
renewed sense of connection tothose we've lost.
When visited by a deceasedloved one in a dream, embracing
the encounter and allowingyourself to feel their presence
can be really a powerfulexperience.
It really can.

(15:04):
I want to thank you so much forlistening today and I hope you
have an absolutely beautifulweek ahead and until next time
we'll talk to you again realsoon.
Bye-bye, thanks for listeningin.
I hope you enjoyed today'sLaneway to Spirit.
To learn more about me, visitmy website at mediumjaylane.
com or my socials on Facebookand Instagram.
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