177. Stop Sounding Like Customer Service in Your Own Relationships: Breaking Free From Communication Formulas

Many of us still rely on communication habits that took root when we were children. Maybe you avoid speaking up because you’re afraid of ruffling feathers. Maybe you say yes when you really mean no. Or maybe you fall back on language that sounds dramatic when what you actually want is to feel understood. These patterns once served a purpose, but they don’t support the authentic, connected relationships we want as adults.

 

In this episode, Alejandra Siroka invites you to consider a different approach. Instead of memorizing lines or following a formula, she shares how communication can become a living practice that grows with you. Through stories, examples, and insights, Alejandra shows how the Language Alchemy approach helps you pause, notice what’s happening inside, and speak from your deepest values. When you do this, you move from reactivity to awareness and from transactional exchanges to genuine connection.

 

What would change in your life if you trusted your own voice rather than relying on someone else’s script? How might your relationships evolve if you brought curiosity, presence, and compassion into every conversation? This episode reminds us that authentic communication is not about getting the words “right” but about showing up as your true self and allowing your voice to grow with you.

 

Quotes

• “Your communication needs to grow with you. Yes, just like your body grows from infant to adult, your communication needs to develop and mature alongside you.” (01:58 | Alejandra Siroka)
• “You do not need someone else’s script for your adult conversations.” (08:17 | Alejandra Siroka)
• “From my perspective, communication formulas are actually a disservice to your growth and authenticity.” (10:48 | Alejandra Siroka)
• “Skillful communication depends on the context, not on formulas.” (15:00 | Alejandra Siroka)
• “When you choose curiosity over judgment, you are transforming your communication.” (18:32 | Alejandra Siroka)

 

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