The Gift of Perspective: What We Wish We Knew Before Our Life Changes

This episode of the Life Shift podcast features a powerful exploration of the moments right before significant life changes and the words of encouragement that could have made a difference. My guests reflect on their past selves, offering heartfelt advice and insights drawn from their personal experiences.

Each speaker shares unique perspectives, from affirming their worthiness to emphasizing the importance of trusting the process, even when everything feels out of control. You'll hear Kyle V. Robinson, Taylor Coffman, Brigette Panetta, Alan Heymann, and Alan Rhode share the complexities of their life shifts, reminding us that while the journey can be daunting, hope and resilience are always within reach.

Takeaways:

• Many guests emphasize the importance of self-love and support, particularly during challenging moments in life.
• Reflecting on past experiences can be therapeutic, as it allows individuals to offer compassion to their younger selves.
• Trusting the process and letting go of control can lead to personal growth and healing.
• Some guests highlight the value of embracing life and trying new things as a way to enrich experiences.
• The emotional journey of each guest shows that transformation often comes from acknowledging and nurturing one's inner child.

Guest Appearances in order:

• Kyle V. Robinson - www.thelifeshiftpodcast.com/s3e151
• Taylor Coffman - www.thelifeshiftpodcast.com/s3e155
• Brigette Panetta - www.thelifeshiftpodcast.com/s3e153
• Alan Heymann - www.thelifeshiftpodcast.com/s3e152
• Alan Rhode - www.thelifeshiftpodcast.com/s3e154

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Episode Transcript

(00:02):
This is the Life Shift podcastand these are the bonus episodes
for our special Patreon page.Hello my friends. What I love about
the Life Shift podcast is,sure, some of these events are really

(00:24):
hard to hear and experience,but I do find that every episode
ends in some kind ofinspirational way of hope and what
we've learned as humansthrough the experiences that we go
through. What I like to do atthe end of the story is ask my guests
if they could go back to thatperson right before their Life Shift
moment, what would they say?And for some people, I asked for

(00:46):
advice for people goingthrough something similar and sometimes
I ask just a random questionthat's in a similar vein. And so
this is one way that I get tohear what someone would say to that
person, knowing full well it'snot possible with the intention of
anyone listening who might begoing through something similar or
similar experience, they havethe opportunity to hear some inspirational
words or something thatresonates with them so that they

(01:08):
feel a little less alone intheir experiences. I just want to
thank those of you who havebeen listening. So I hope you leave
this episode feeling inspired.So thank you and I hope you enjoy
listening to this recapepisode of the responses to if you
could go back to that personright before your Life Shift moment,
what would you say?
Well, so it's funny you saythat. I actually have talked to him

(01:30):
before and I do, you know,through therapy. I, I don't know
if you're familiar with IFStherapy, internal family systems
where I do go back and I dotalk to him. I have told him that,
you know, I just tell him thatI am here for you, somebody is here
for you. I, I talk to that 4year old more often telling him that
I am here for you, you areworthy and like you are loved. Because
I didn't, I didn't feel lovedfor a large long portion of my life.

(01:53):
And so I talk to them often,to be honest with you, and I let
them know that I'm here foryou. So just knowing that, you know,
they're still part of me andthey like and just knowing that they
have somebody because growingup I felt like I didn't have anybody.
Like I felt like no one wasthere for me. And so I, I didn't
know that at the time. Ididn't know what I was looking for.
And so it's nice to tell themthat I am there for them and you

(02:15):
know, I'm an adult now andyou're going to be okay and that
I love you.
My God, I don't even know howI could even explain what's about
to happen to me. I think Iwould just say like, it's gonna be
okay. And I'd be like, oh God,yeah, of course it's gonna be okay.
What? Like, but it's insanehow the path was to okay, but you

(02:36):
know, here, here we are.
Here we are.
Just, I would say shouldersback, chest out, take your hat off,
you've got this. And just letgo and trust. Because everything
was out of my control. I feltlike I'm the solution, I'm the problem.
The, like, I like to fixthings, you know, I like to get in

(02:57):
there and fix things. I liketo find solutions, but I just couldn't.
And it was destroying meknowing I had to watch this crumble
and I couldn't do anything.Yeah, let go and trust.
Wow. Well, you know, I wouldlose the element of surprise if I
had inside information, youknow. And I think the surprise and
the shock of it all wasinterlaced with the actual content

(03:19):
of the conversation of whichthere was nothing to remember. Yeah.
So, you know, there might be asmall amount of like, hey, don't
take the meeting or hey,maybe, you know, there's some value
in you deciding when themeeting is over and getting up and
walking away rather than likesitting and tolerating the whole
thing. Maybe there's somethingbetter by way of comfort that you

(03:40):
could offer the colleaguewho's clearly suffering through this
experience with you. Butotherwise I don't know that I would
go back and make too many changes.
Yeah, just like high five onthe way in. Good luck.
You got this.
Yeah.
I would tell him to enjoy morelife and be more entrepreneurial
and try more things. I starteddoing things now that I, I quitted

(04:06):
a bit early on. So forinstance, I went, I, I spoke about
tennis. I was playing tenniswhen I was a teenager and I quit
and I resume now and I noticehow you notice even in tennis details
that when you are a youngyouth you didn't notice. So maybe
I will, I, I would do morethings but it's, it's easy when you

(04:26):
have a self awareness of agrown up. So it's, it's unfair towards,
towards the child island.