Perfectionism: The Frenemy (Who Needs a Serious Talking-To)

Beloved,

For those on a spiritual journey, it's natural to seek a grander version of self.

But the relentless pursuit of "becoming" can prevent us from fully appreciating who we are right now.

The truth is, we are always works in progress, with no final version waiting at the summit.

The key is to embrace the duality, the reality of “balance” and desiring growth while also finding contentment in the present moment.

The work of finding joy, balance and purpose is not to bypass the darkness but to recognize it as fertile ground.

Something is forming here, even if it has not yet taken shape.

We do not think our way into alignment.

We feel our way into it.

This concept of “balance” has always been a anomaly to me.

It’s a common struggle, and the guilt can feel overwhelming.

But there’s a powerful energetic shift that can help you overcome this feeling and embrace rest without remorse.

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Also understand that “BALANCE” is a myth.

Let’s address the myth first.

Work-life balance?

It's a deeply personal matter. While some view it as unattainable, my perspective is that everyone crafts their own version of work-life balance.

Balance doesn't mean equal division, but rather intentionally prioritizing what's most important to you in each season of life.

It's a dynamic process of reassessing your needs and boundaries to find a sustainable rhythm.

Ultimately, balance is about self-awareness and the courage to define success on your own terms.

It's not about following a universal formula, but about honoring your unique values and circumstances.

The key is to remain flexible and continuously adapt as your life evolves.

Now to one of my favorite books about THE GAP (Balance).

It’s called The Gap and The Gain, a concept from Dan Sullivan that’s a game-changer for how you view progress in your life and business.

The Gap vs. The Gain

Most of us are wired to focus on The Gap—the distance between where we are and where we want to be.

It’s a cultural default.

We set goals, chase milestones, and measure success by what’s still out of reach.

The problem? The finish line keeps moving.

No matter how much you achieve, there’s always a new goal, a new benchmark.

This creates a cycle of dissatisfaction, where you’re never “enough.”

You push harder, work longer, and still feel like you’re falling short.

That guilt about taking time off? It often stems from this mindset—you feel like you haven’t earned rest because you’re not “there” yet.

Now, imagine flipping that perspective.

Instead of looking at the gap ahead, turn around and focus on The Gain—how far you’ve come.

A POV of BETWEEN THE GAP:

* Eliminate, Bypass, Reframe, or Neutralize Barriers:

* Address obstacles (e.g., perfectionism, fear of failure, limiting beliefs) that prevent you from adopting a new stage.

* Actions:

* Reframe: View perfectionism as a learning opportunity (e.g., “My first draft doesn’t need to be perfect”).

* Bypass: Start small to avoid overwhelm

* Neutralize: Challenge limiting beliefs

* Use AI to brainstorm solutions tailored to your barriers.

* Example: If fear of embarrassment stops you from starting a project, reframe it as: “Embarrassing first attempts are how I improve.”

SMALL WINS BRING RELIEF IN EACH MOMENT - UNCONSCIOUSLY

When you measure your progress by where you started, you start to see your wins, big and small.

You appreciate the growth, the effort, and the moments of joy along the way.

Being in The Gain is about celebrating progress daily, no matter how small.

A Daily Pr