In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Biesecker delves into the concept of avoidance as an emotional coping strategy. He discusses how unresolved psychological issues can inhibit emotional regulation and self-awareness, leading to unprocessed trauma that affects our relationships with ourselves and others. The episode explores the subtle ways avoidance influences our reactions and highlights the challenges and transformative potential of facing what we have long avoided.
Listeners will gain insights into strategies for gently confronting avoidance patterns without feeling overwhelmed, paving the way for deeper connections and personal growth. Tune in to discover how confronting avoidance can illuminate your path to healing.
Timestamps
[00:02:54] Avoidant coping and emotional attunement.
[00:06:01] Avoidance as a survival strategy.
[00:08:07] Hypervigilance as a baseline.
[00:12:20] Evolution of avoidance strategies.
[00:16:47] Emotional capacity and discomfort.
[00:20:49] Co-regulation and emotional connection.
[00:26:00] Vagal breaking and safety.
[00:28:48] Over-intellectualizing vs. under-feeling.
[00:32:36] Somatic responses to anxiety.
[00:39:15] Guilt, shame, blame cycle.
[00:40:42] The nature of change.
[00:45:45] Exploring unconscious beliefs and triggers.
[00:49:23] Positive vs Negative Beliefs.
[00:54:01] Somatic signals and identity.
[00:57:21] Bridging somatics and cognition.
[01:00:56] Finding the grounding point.
[01:05:20] Avoidant behaviors and their roots.
Credits
- Host: Jeffrey Besecker
- Guest: Brianna Sanborn
- Executive Program Director: Anna Getz
- Production Team: Aloft Media Group
- Music: Courtesy of Aloft Media Group
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