February 19, 2025 • 25 mins
In today’s episode, Louis Jackson III and Eren Davis dive into Song of Solomon 2:15 and the concept of "little foxes"—those small, seemingly insignificant problems that can ruin something valuable if left unchecked.
We break down how these "little foxes" show up in relationships, business, and personal development—messing up our goals, dreams, and progress without us even realizing it. Whether it’s minor habits in your marriage, small spending leaks in your finances, or procrastination holding you back from success, these little things have big consequences!
💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ How small, overlooked habits damage relationships (romantic & platonic)
✅ The little financial and business mistakes that cost you more than you think
✅ How personal development suffers from tiny, daily choices we fail to notice
✅ Biblical and practical strategies to "catch" these little foxes before they destroy your vineyard
🔑 Key Takeaways & Reflection Questions:
- What small, unnoticed habits might be ruining your relationships or business?
- How do small distractions and compromises hold you back from your goals?
- What practical steps can you take today to address these "little foxes" in your life?
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Louis Jackson III (00:07):
Welcome to the Living Room.
I'm your host, Louis Jackson.
I'm here with my boy, Mr.
Eren Davis.
What up, bro?
What's going on?
Brother man, I am so glad to behere today with you, our
listeners in the living room,Right, because, see, here in the
(00:28):
living room we're all aboutredefining our lives and pushing
toward that next level, and Idon't care what you try,
whatever your next level is, wewant to be here to help you get
through it, and we're going todo it through having real,
relevant, raw conversation, andI hope you're ready for that.
(00:50):
But before we jump into ourfirst conversation on today, I
want you to do me a favor.
I want you to go and rate andsubscribe to this podcast.
If you have not done it, I wantyou to go tell somebody about
this podcast.
Let them know hey, y'all needto listen to these dudes.
(01:11):
They just going to be talking.
It's just a 30-minute or lesspodcast that we just going to be
talking and kicking it aboutsome real relevant ideas and
conversations, y'all.
And so if you haven't done that, I want you to do that for me
right now.
But let's jump into today'stopic.
(01:33):
So I was thinking about me.
You know how we do.
We normally start our new yearwith some goals and we always
got these New Year's resolutionsyear with some goals and we
always got these new year'sresolutions and we normally do
not actually get out of themonth of January.
Most people don't get out ofthe month of January with their
(01:54):
new year's resolution intact andit got me to thinking why.
What is it that messes us upfrom getting to that next level?
Whatever that New Year'sresolution is, most of the time
is weight loss, or I want tosave money, or I want to be
better in my relationship, or,if you're a Christian, I want to
(02:17):
read my Bible more all thesethings.
And I started thinking what isit that messes me up?
And I was reading a particularverse out of Songs of Solomon.
It's the second chapter, the15th verse, and here's what it
says in the NIV Catch for us thefoxes, the little foxes that
(02:40):
ruin the vineyards, ourvineyards that are in bloom.
I'm going to say that again.
I want y'all to go to 2ndPsalms of Solomon, 2nd chapter,
15th verse.
Listen to what it says Catchfor us the foxes that ruin the
(03:04):
vineyards are vineyards that arein bloom, bro, when you think
of little foxes, which, in thiscontext, symbolize those little
problems that can spoilsomething valuable.
What comes to your mind?
Eren Davis (03:30):
Little foxes.
What comes to your mind, littlefoxes?
What comes to your mind when I,when I think about it?
Um, one of the first thingsthat comes to mind is the
analogy of a of a shoe trippingon your shoestring.
Um, it's not the soul, it's notsomething you know big or a
malfunction with the shoe.
It's not the soul, it's notsomething you know big or
malfunction with the shoe, it'ssomething small, like you know,
you're tripping over your shoelace, wow.
(03:52):
So another thing that I thinkis in the mirror on your side.
It says objects are closer thanthey appear because we're in
bloom.
It says objects are closer thanthey appear Because we're in
bloom.
So the object, the goal, iscloser than it appears actually.
(04:14):
But if our focus is elsewhere,man, the little foxes will
destroy the whole thing.
Louis Jackson III (04:26):
Truthfully, it really is real.
When I think about little foxes, man, I think particularly in
people who are ready to go tothat next level in their life.
There are three areas that Ifeel like little foxes really
pop off and most of us are notreal cognizant or self-aware of
(04:47):
these little foxes.
But I think it's like threeareas that I want to we're going
to talk about in these next fewepisodes.
One of them are isrelationships, right, okay, the
area of relationships.
There are little foxes thatcontinues to mess us up in
(05:08):
relationships.
Another one, particularly forthose that's ready to level up
in their business and theirfinancial status, is business
and leadership.
That area of business andleadership, there are some
little foxes that's messing youup and me up that I think we
gotta bring into theconversation in the living room.
(05:29):
Yeah, these real rawconversations, because the
realness is, peeps, it ain't thebig thing that's messing us up,
no, it's the little things,it's the little that's getting
us.
And then the other area that Iwant to to deal with, I believe,
is in our own personaldevelopment.
Eren Davis (05:48):
Yeah.
Louis Jackson III (05:49):
The little foxes in our own personal
development.
So, as we deep dive into thisy'all, I'm going to ask a
question and you're going tohear us talk about it, but I
want you to be thinking aboutthis question as we're talking
about it what are some littlefoxes that have gone unnoticed
(06:11):
in your relationships, in yourbusiness or in your personal
growth?
What are some of those littlefoxes that have gone unnoticed?
So, bro, I know I just threwthis at you, you, but give me
one in your relationship beforewe we're gonna deep dive later.
But just give me one thing thatyou think that if you could
(06:33):
just pinpoint this one littlething is I see, um, in my
relationship, I, I believe it'sthat going from being single to
(06:56):
now being in a committedrelationship and committed um
and faithful let's be clear okay, committed and faithful.
Committed and faithful oh,they're the same thing.
Eren Davis (07:11):
Like no brothers, you can't be committed because a
lot of people and we've had aconversation about this.
Uh, we were talking and yousaid, um, we're about being
together too.
Yeah, you know, not just umsaying, hey, you know we're
committed, we're just gonna, youknow, say the things and you
know that's it.
But actually, so, um, thatthat's a, that's a little fox
(07:33):
right there, because you know,when you first um are getting to
know somebody, um, of courseyou know that honeymoon phase,
everything is great, everythingis cute, everything is the
gestures, all that stuff.
Right, but understanding, um,the faithfulness part comes in
(07:54):
when, um, you guys aren't seeingeye to eye, that's that's,
that's the, that's the toughlittle fox, because a lot of
times when we don't see eye toeye, um, we can't get over that,
because we can't get overourself, because we can't get
over who we were when we weresingle.
Louis Jackson III (08:13):
Oh boy, oh hey y'all.
Oh, especially in today'sculture, the idea of being in a
committed relationship.
Oh, it's crazy.
It's hard because people don'treally understand that concept,
because being in a committedrelationship means that a part
of you got to die, A part of yougot to.
(08:38):
You can't just do what youalways did, the same way you
always done it, and be in acommitted relationship.
It's true, and these littlefoxes, these little things
because it ain't the big thingsand I'm not talking like some of
y'all Y'all may be around herehaving a hard time being with
(08:59):
one person, and that's you know.
And y'all cheating and all that.
This ain't for you.
You know what I mean.
Eren Davis (09:09):
Because you just, you know, and y'all cheating and
all that, this ain't for you,you know.
I mean because you just, youknow good, you know better than
that, you know better than youknow better, and again you know
a little, again a little fox,bro, a little fox of like um,
just that one detail.
You can do everything right,but you're a cheater but that's
a big thing.
Louis Jackson III (09:24):
I don't know if that's a little fox man but,
but see, but it's.
Eren Davis (09:27):
But it starts small though, because it's a, it's a
character thing and thecharacter is big, it's, it's, it
is a big deal, but there's,there's little things that you
do to make your character flawlike that.
Like what starts out as alittle decision can turn into
(09:49):
something big.
I think it turns into somethingmajor, but I think it
originally starts small becauseit's just a thought so for our
listeners.
Louis Jackson III (09:58):
Let's break that down, then, because I'm
like you said cheating.
To me, cheating is the ultimate, that's not a little fox.
To me, cheating is the ultimateIs the ultimate, that's not no
little fox.
Ultimate difference To me whatI think of when I think of
little foxes are you in acommitted relationship with
somebody?
Okay, and you got somebody justthrow in a DM?
Yeah, some other chick give you, you know, just dm you.
(10:22):
And here's the deal.
That's not the little fox,because you can't control them.
Dming, you can't.
But here go the little fox.
You don't delete it at all.
You may not say nothing,because that's what we I ain't
saying, but I still got it.
But I still got it, and everynow and then I'll go look at it.
(10:42):
But I'm in a committedrelationship with somebody else.
I say that's a little fox.
Eren Davis (10:49):
It is.
It is, and I think that's kindof where I was, that my kind of
thought process around it isbecause, as we said in this,
understanding it, because itdoes bloom into a lot more, and
so I believe it always startsoff as a little fox, but even in
the example that I gave earlier, objects are closer than they
(11:09):
appear, so it's actually a lotbigger than you you believe and
it can, but it can turn thatfast yeah, just as simple as
okay, I got it.
I didn't delete it.
Now it's a little fox.
And then where it grows is nowI got.
I didn't delete it.
Now it's a little fox, and thenwhere it grows is now, I got it
.
I didn't delete it and I mayhave replied Now the little fox,
(11:31):
it didn't became, you know it'sreally biting on some things.
Louis Jackson III (11:35):
It's biting on that vineyard real decent, oh
my goodness, not just, not justone plant now Now.
Eren Davis (11:39):
I got.
I got two or three things thatgot bites in it.
You know what I'm saying.
So.
So I, I got two, three thingsthat got bites in it.
You know what I'm saying.
So I think the understanding isunderstanding that things are
going to grow.
It just depends on what youdecide to water.
Wow.
What you decide to water.
Earl Nightingale has a goodit's something called the
(12:01):
Strangest Secret and he talksabout that.
He talks, he gives the analogyof a guy perched up driving a
big semi truck and having thecontrol over something that's so
big.
But just imagine if he justjust let it do just anything.
He just let his hands off thewheel, but he still had his foot
on the gas.
It's like, you know, wherewould I mean?
(12:22):
We'll probably hear about thaton the news, about a semi-truck
blowing up, you know, and people, it'd be fatalities.
But it started with the littlefox of just deciding I'm just
gonna let this thing go, and Ithink a lot of times we do that,
and then it spirals because alittle, because the little fox,
it spirals.
I think we know that If we'rebeing honest with ourselves, but
(12:48):
that's a little fox in itselftoo.
You know what I'm saying?
Because people don't look atthat like that, but that's, you
know, it's a decision for you tobe honest with yourself and
because that goes into thepersonal development, being able
to be self-aware, being able tohave the people around you that
you know not only push you, butthey.
(13:10):
But they hold you accountableand they and when you do slip up
, you know they're going to holdyou to the fire.
You know, obviously we wentextreme with the cheating, but I
did that to itemize the factthat you know it's often looked
at.
The cheating is is a big deal.
That's why we get mad, so madat women, right, because we're
like, oh, it's emotional withthem because it don't.
(13:33):
It don't usually just be likebam, bam, you know, with a guy,
you know we just we might justrespond to the dm and then just
go handle our business with awoman.
She's gonna feel that guy outtypically, for you know, months
at a time, maybe even years,sometimes entertaining somebody.
But that's that little fox eventhat you know, that they deal
(13:54):
with and I love to hear thatfrom a woman's perspective.
So if y'all got anything to sayon that, women ladies comment
on that.
You know I'm saying we want, wewant y'all perspective too,
because you know and we'll bringyou.
Louis Jackson III (14:05):
We're gonna bring some ladies in to be able
to talk to us about that.
But another piece that, uh, wewent a little deep on the
relationship again, but I wantto go to what are some of the
little foxes maybe in ourbusinesses, some of the little
things that we do in ourbusiness that we ready to level
(14:30):
up, but we allow these littlefoxes to be able to mess us up.
And one of the things that Isee is we don't actually,
especially in our business or inour financial positions, we
spend too much.
(14:51):
I think that we and we spend.
Here's the deal.
It's so easy to overspend inthis culture because everything
seems so little.
Think about it.
If you actually give, uh,somebody put something on sale
(15:11):
for 1999, okay, there's a bigdifference psychologically from
1999 and 20 dollars, yeah, aperson will think they're saving
something and it's $19.99.
Even think about this.
Let's go to something realsimple.
When you think about the gasand the gas is usually let's
(15:35):
just say it's $2.89.
Right, okay.
And then somewhere else, youknow, they say it's $2.85.
Right.
Somewhere else, you know, theysay it's $2.85, right, and we're
just a little changes, eventhough we about to spend the
same amount of money essentially, but it's them little things
(15:56):
that we'd be like oh, it changesthe psychology of what we're
doing when we're spendingsomething.
So people understand that.
So they will be like, oh,you're saving, but you're saving
like five cents, when really,honestly, you need to check your
spending because you'reactually spending more than what
you really bringing in right,whether it is 269 or 299 or
(16:19):
whatever the case is, if, if youdon't check your, you're going
to end up spending way overspending, particularly to my 20
and 30 year olds and early 40s.
Y'all got to know like we gotto check our spending.
Yeah, because if we don't, it'sgoing to mess up and it's the
little foxes.
It's not those big bills, yep,it's those one.
(16:40):
You know.
You get an app and you forget.
The subscription is stillrunning, that the subscription
is still running, but that appis only $2.99.
Oh, man, and they got you.
You know you feeling good aboutthat thing, man, you know what
I'm saying.
But then, all of a sudden, nowyou done went two years paying
$2.99.
Eren Davis (16:59):
Man and it's just taking you a little bit of money
.
Taking just a little bit.
Come on, peeps, man bro.
And then overdrafted theaccount.
Louis Jackson III (17:06):
And then overdrafted.
Now you got $35.
Eren Davis (17:08):
You know you're working on a budget you know
what I'm saying and thenoverdrafted the account.
You know, it's just yes, yes.
Louis Jackson III (17:15):
It's those little foxes that I feel like if
we're going to reach our nextlevel, we got to tighten up
level.
Yeah, we got to tighten up,tighten up, we got to begin to
start looking at and becomingself aware.
Yeah, and then this other thirdspace, and now I told y'all a
lot, man, we only giving y'allthe very bare minimum because
(17:35):
we're going to really deep diveinto each of these areas.
But we, I want to talk aboutthis personal growth, this
personal development, right, thelittle foxes.
So you really like a, apersonal development type guru?
Oh, yeah, tell me, what is onelittle fox that you feel like
(17:58):
has gone?
That usually goes unnoticed inour own personal development.
Eren Davis (18:04):
Um, I wrote something now now, um, and this
is just a reminder to myself andI said um, remember, you can
write it down as many times asyou want, long or short, but
unless you do them, they willnot matter, because personal
(18:25):
development is this I'm holdingmyself accountable and I do it.
That's it.
That's it.
Oh, it's because, bro, like, weget so a little fox is this, we
get all this information but wenever apply it.
(18:46):
It's like it's ridiculous,because we have so many, so many
ideas.
You know, we come up with somany different ideas, but the
reason that we're not moving onthem is because we don't act on
them.
We procrastinate.
It's real man, it's and it andeverybody's dealing with it.
(19:09):
That's the, that's the thinglike.
But again, if we want to reachother tiers after the
understanding part of it, um,we're going to talk more about
that man, and that's the reasonwhy it's important that you know
you got your listeners.
Stay with us, because we'regoing to be really, really
talking a lot about personaldevelopment.
But the but, the little fox init is just simply, you know, not
(19:35):
doing it.
That's, that's a little fox.
That daily discipline, thatdaily discipline, and it's so
small, getting up on time everyday.
So small, but it can set thetone for the day, though.
It's real man.
It's something that I'mlearning in my relationship bro,
it's my girl, bro.
(19:55):
She's very particular about thebed being made a certain way.
Bro, I'm like, you know I'mgetting up.
You know I'm flinging thecovers off.
You know I mean now don't getme wrong, I make the bed up, but
not to her standards.
And it had me really thinking,bro, one time, like I'm like,
bro, what I'm like, it's not.
It's not that big of a deal,you know I'm right, but it's
(20:19):
that little fox for her thatsets a tone for her day.
So even in that, you got to beable to, got to be able to learn
from that man, got to be ableto learn from that.
But a lot of to do with thepersonal development is, um,
just, you know, afterunderstanding it, actually
applying it see, I feel like ifwe're not careful, we are like
(20:42):
information hoarders.
Louis Jackson III (20:45):
I don't even want you to know we are so much
we hoard information Mm-hmm.
But like you said, we will notwork off, we will not put it
into action.
So now, if you really looked atpeople and you could see them
in a different way, you wouldthink like man, y'all are so fat
(21:08):
on information.
But you got to work off thisinformation by putting it into
practice, and that is hard, yep.
So you think that we're movingforward because you got more
information, but what you'resaying is that information means
absolutely nothing if you donot apply it.
Eren Davis (21:33):
Absolutely.
And you start to realize too,as you're applying it, you start
to see, oh, I got to tighten upright here, oh, I got to
tighten up right here, and thoseare, and that's a little fox
there, you know, knowing that,going from OK, I got it written
down, to now I've got, I've gotit structured, I have a real
(21:54):
skeleton, that's something thatyou really are great at doing is
having a skeleton in place andbeing able to work that, Because
it gives you parameters, but italso gives you freedom once you
really, because now you knowthe details.
Yeah, the details are thelittle foxes, because a lot of
(22:15):
times we can think big, you know, but we can't get down to the
details of it.
I seen a lot of guys in myneighborhood fall victim to that
.
Yeah, they're really good, theyactually have the mindset of,
uh, some, some of the big namesthat you may even know, but they
can't get to the details of thesituation.
(22:36):
And that is that has a lot to dowith personal development.
Personal development you'redeveloping.
Come on, man you're developing.
Louis Jackson III (22:44):
So, as we get ready to wrap up this very
introductory podcast um episodetalking about little foxes,
small problems, big impact, Iwant you, if you're a listener,
before our next podcast, beforethe next episode drop, I want
(23:06):
you to start thinking about whatare the small things in your
spiritual life, in yourrelationships, in your business,
in your, your personaldevelopment?
What are those small things?
Begin to start doing someself-inventory, peeps, because
see, if we're going to get tothe next level, we're going to
(23:30):
have to deal with these small,seemingly insignificant problems
that can spoil something veryvaluable.
We need you to go ahead andstart thinking through because,
in the living room, peeps, we'rehere to help us to get better.
(23:51):
We're here to have thoseconversations.
Yes, as you see, me and Aaron,we just sitting in here just
chit-chatting.
We kind of got an idea where wewant to go, but these are
regular conversations that wewant you to feel like you're
sucked in and I want you toreally think about man, what are
the little foxes in my life?
(24:12):
And I got to do something aboutthem.
Our next episode we're going todeep dive into like for real
deep dive into the little foxesof relationships.
As you've seen like we almostgot to, we almost about to go in
.
Yeah, definitely.
But here's the deal.
And it's not just thoseromantic relationships, marriage
(24:33):
relationships, but these are.
I'm going to tell you thatrelationships are the most
important thing on this planetrelationships, relationships.
One relationship could changeyour financial trajectory.
One relationship, onerelationship could change, I
mean, your whole generationalfamily line.
Eren Davis (24:55):
Yes.
Louis Jackson III (24:56):
One generation, one relationship.
So we got to start looking atthose little foxes that are
messing up our relationships,and if you are ready for this, I
want you to come back to thenext episode, and we're going to
deep dive into this.
So, as we get ready to go,y'all.
(25:17):
I want you to deep dive intothis, so, as we get ready to go,
y'all.
I want you to start thinkingabout this.
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need you to do that today, andif you want to know more about
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We will holler at you later.
Welcome to the Living Room.
I'm your host, Louis Jackson.
I'm here with my boy, Mr.
Eren Davis.
What up, bro?
What's going on?
Brother man, I am so glad to behere today with you, our
listeners in the living room,Right, because, see, here in the
(00:28):
living room we're all aboutredefining our lives and pushing
toward that next level, and Idon't care what you try,
whatever your next level is, wewant to be here to help you get
through it, and we're going todo it through having real,
relevant, raw conversation, andI hope you're ready for that.
(00:50):
But before we jump into ourfirst conversation on today, I
want you to do me a favor.
I want you to go and rate andsubscribe to this podcast.
If you have not done it, I wantyou to go tell somebody about
this podcast.
Let them know hey, y'all needto listen to these dudes.
(01:11):
They just going to be talking.
It's just a 30-minute or lesspodcast that we just going to be
talking and kicking it aboutsome real relevant ideas and
conversations, y'all.
And so if you haven't done that, I want you to do that for me
right now.
But let's jump into today'stopic.
(01:33):
So I was thinking about me.
You know how we do.
We normally start our new yearwith some goals and we always
got these New Year's resolutionsyear with some goals and we
always got these new year'sresolutions and we normally do
not actually get out of themonth of January.
Most people don't get out ofthe month of January with their
(01:54):
new year's resolution intact andit got me to thinking why.
What is it that messes us upfrom getting to that next level?
Whatever that New Year'sresolution is, most of the time
is weight loss, or I want tosave money, or I want to be
better in my relationship, or,if you're a Christian, I want to
(02:17):
read my Bible more all thesethings.
And I started thinking what isit that messes me up?
And I was reading a particularverse out of Songs of Solomon.
It's the second chapter, the15th verse, and here's what it
says in the NIV Catch for us thefoxes, the little foxes that
(02:40):
ruin the vineyards, ourvineyards that are in bloom.
I'm going to say that again.
I want y'all to go to 2ndPsalms of Solomon, 2nd chapter,
15th verse.
Listen to what it says Catchfor us the foxes that ruin the
(03:04):
vineyards are vineyards that arein bloom, bro, when you think
of little foxes, which, in thiscontext, symbolize those little
problems that can spoilsomething valuable.
What comes to your mind?
Eren Davis (03:30):
Little foxes.
What comes to your mind, littlefoxes?
What comes to your mind when I,when I think about it?
Um, one of the first thingsthat comes to mind is the
analogy of a of a shoe trippingon your shoestring.
Um, it's not the soul, it's notsomething you know big or a
malfunction with the shoe.
It's not the soul, it's notsomething you know big or
malfunction with the shoe, it'ssomething small, like you know,
you're tripping over your shoelace, wow.
(03:52):
So another thing that I thinkis in the mirror on your side.
It says objects are closer thanthey appear because we're in
bloom.
It says objects are closer thanthey appear Because we're in
bloom.
So the object, the goal, iscloser than it appears actually.
(04:14):
But if our focus is elsewhere,man, the little foxes will
destroy the whole thing.
Louis Jackson III (04:26):
Truthfully, it really is real.
When I think about little foxes, man, I think particularly in
people who are ready to go tothat next level in their life.
There are three areas that Ifeel like little foxes really
pop off and most of us are notreal cognizant or self-aware of
(04:47):
these little foxes.
But I think it's like threeareas that I want to we're going
to talk about in these next fewepisodes.
One of them are isrelationships, right, okay, the
area of relationships.
There are little foxes thatcontinues to mess us up in
(05:08):
relationships.
Another one, particularly forthose that's ready to level up
in their business and theirfinancial status, is business
and leadership.
That area of business andleadership, there are some
little foxes that's messing youup and me up that I think we
gotta bring into theconversation in the living room.
(05:29):
Yeah, these real rawconversations, because the
realness is, peeps, it ain't thebig thing that's messing us up,
no, it's the little things,it's the little that's getting
us.
And then the other area that Iwant to to deal with, I believe,
is in our own personaldevelopment.
Eren Davis (05:48):
Yeah.
Louis Jackson III (05:49):
The little foxes in our own personal
development.
So, as we deep dive into thisy'all, I'm going to ask a
question and you're going tohear us talk about it, but I
want you to be thinking aboutthis question as we're talking
about it what are some littlefoxes that have gone unnoticed
(06:11):
in your relationships, in yourbusiness or in your personal
growth?
What are some of those littlefoxes that have gone unnoticed?
So, bro, I know I just threwthis at you, you, but give me
one in your relationship beforewe we're gonna deep dive later.
But just give me one thing thatyou think that if you could
(06:33):
just pinpoint this one littlething is I see, um, in my
relationship, I, I believe it'sthat going from being single to
(06:56):
now being in a committedrelationship and committed um
and faithful let's be clear okay, committed and faithful.
Committed and faithful oh,they're the same thing.
Eren Davis (07:11):
Like no brothers, you can't be committed because a
lot of people and we've had aconversation about this.
Uh, we were talking and yousaid, um, we're about being
together too.
Yeah, you know, not just umsaying, hey, you know we're
committed, we're just gonna, youknow, say the things and you
know that's it.
But actually, so, um, thatthat's a, that's a little fox
(07:33):
right there, because you know,when you first um are getting to
know somebody, um, of courseyou know that honeymoon phase,
everything is great, everythingis cute, everything is the
gestures, all that stuff.
Right, but understanding, um,the faithfulness part comes in
(07:54):
when, um, you guys aren't seeingeye to eye, that's that's,
that's the, that's the toughlittle fox, because a lot of
times when we don't see eye toeye, um, we can't get over that,
because we can't get overourself, because we can't get
over who we were when we weresingle.
Louis Jackson III (08:13):
Oh boy, oh hey y'all.
Oh, especially in today'sculture, the idea of being in a
committed relationship.
Oh, it's crazy.
It's hard because people don'treally understand that concept,
because being in a committedrelationship means that a part
of you got to die, A part of yougot to.
(08:38):
You can't just do what youalways did, the same way you
always done it, and be in acommitted relationship.
It's true, and these littlefoxes, these little things
because it ain't the big thingsand I'm not talking like some of
y'all Y'all may be around herehaving a hard time being with
(08:59):
one person, and that's you know.
And y'all cheating and all that.
This ain't for you.
You know what I mean.
Eren Davis (09:09):
Because you just, you know, and y'all cheating and
all that, this ain't for you,you know.
I mean because you just, youknow good, you know better than
that, you know better than youknow better, and again you know
a little, again a little fox,bro, a little fox of like um,
just that one detail.
You can do everything right,but you're a cheater but that's
a big thing.
Louis Jackson III (09:24):
I don't know if that's a little fox man but,
but see, but it's.
Eren Davis (09:27):
But it starts small though, because it's a, it's a
character thing and thecharacter is big, it's, it's, it
is a big deal, but there's,there's little things that you
do to make your character flawlike that.
Like what starts out as alittle decision can turn into
(09:49):
something big.
I think it turns into somethingmajor, but I think it
originally starts small becauseit's just a thought so for our
listeners.
Louis Jackson III (09:58):
Let's break that down, then, because I'm
like you said cheating.
To me, cheating is the ultimate, that's not a little fox.
To me, cheating is the ultimateIs the ultimate, that's not no
little fox.
Ultimate difference To me whatI think of when I think of
little foxes are you in acommitted relationship with
somebody?
Okay, and you got somebody justthrow in a DM?
Yeah, some other chick give you, you know, just dm you.
(10:22):
And here's the deal.
That's not the little fox,because you can't control them.
Dming, you can't.
But here go the little fox.
You don't delete it at all.
You may not say nothing,because that's what we I ain't
saying, but I still got it.
But I still got it, and everynow and then I'll go look at it.
(10:42):
But I'm in a committedrelationship with somebody else.
I say that's a little fox.
Eren Davis (10:49):
It is.
It is, and I think that's kindof where I was, that my kind of
thought process around it isbecause, as we said in this,
understanding it, because itdoes bloom into a lot more, and
so I believe it always startsoff as a little fox, but even in
the example that I gave earlier, objects are closer than they
(11:09):
appear, so it's actually a lotbigger than you you believe and
it can, but it can turn thatfast yeah, just as simple as
okay, I got it.
I didn't delete it.
Now it's a little fox.
And then where it grows is nowI got.
I didn't delete it.
Now it's a little fox, and thenwhere it grows is now, I got it
.
I didn't delete it and I mayhave replied Now the little fox,
(11:31):
it didn't became, you know it'sreally biting on some things.
Louis Jackson III (11:35):
It's biting on that vineyard real decent, oh
my goodness, not just, not justone plant now Now.
Eren Davis (11:39):
I got.
I got two or three things thatgot bites in it.
You know what I'm saying.
So.
So I, I got two, three thingsthat got bites in it.
You know what I'm saying.
So I think the understanding isunderstanding that things are
going to grow.
It just depends on what youdecide to water.
Wow.
What you decide to water.
Earl Nightingale has a goodit's something called the
(12:01):
Strangest Secret and he talksabout that.
He talks, he gives the analogyof a guy perched up driving a
big semi truck and having thecontrol over something that's so
big.
But just imagine if he justjust let it do just anything.
He just let his hands off thewheel, but he still had his foot
on the gas.
It's like, you know, wherewould I mean?
(12:22):
We'll probably hear about thaton the news, about a semi-truck
blowing up, you know, and people, it'd be fatalities.
But it started with the littlefox of just deciding I'm just
gonna let this thing go, and Ithink a lot of times we do that,
and then it spirals because alittle, because the little fox,
it spirals.
I think we know that If we'rebeing honest with ourselves, but
(12:48):
that's a little fox in itselftoo.
You know what I'm saying?
Because people don't look atthat like that, but that's, you
know, it's a decision for you tobe honest with yourself and
because that goes into thepersonal development, being able
to be self-aware, being able tohave the people around you that
you know not only push you, butthey.
(13:10):
But they hold you accountableand they and when you do slip up
, you know they're going to holdyou to the fire.
You know, obviously we wentextreme with the cheating, but I
did that to itemize the factthat you know it's often looked
at.
The cheating is is a big deal.
That's why we get mad, so madat women, right, because we're
like, oh, it's emotional withthem because it don't.
(13:33):
It don't usually just be likebam, bam, you know, with a guy,
you know we just we might justrespond to the dm and then just
go handle our business with awoman.
She's gonna feel that guy outtypically, for you know, months
at a time, maybe even years,sometimes entertaining somebody.
But that's that little fox eventhat you know, that they deal
(13:54):
with and I love to hear thatfrom a woman's perspective.
So if y'all got anything to sayon that, women ladies comment
on that.
You know I'm saying we want, wewant y'all perspective too,
because you know and we'll bringyou.
Louis Jackson III (14:05):
We're gonna bring some ladies in to be able
to talk to us about that.
But another piece that, uh, wewent a little deep on the
relationship again, but I wantto go to what are some of the
little foxes maybe in ourbusinesses, some of the little
things that we do in ourbusiness that we ready to level
(14:30):
up, but we allow these littlefoxes to be able to mess us up.
And one of the things that Isee is we don't actually,
especially in our business or inour financial positions, we
spend too much.
(14:51):
I think that we and we spend.
Here's the deal.
It's so easy to overspend inthis culture because everything
seems so little.
Think about it.
If you actually give, uh,somebody put something on sale
(15:11):
for 1999, okay, there's a bigdifference psychologically from
1999 and 20 dollars, yeah, aperson will think they're saving
something and it's $19.99.
Even think about this.
Let's go to something realsimple.
When you think about the gasand the gas is usually let's
(15:35):
just say it's $2.89.
Right, okay.
And then somewhere else, youknow, they say it's $2.85.
Right.
Somewhere else, you know, theysay it's $2.85, right, and we're
just a little changes, eventhough we about to spend the
same amount of money essentially, but it's them little things
(15:56):
that we'd be like oh, it changesthe psychology of what we're
doing when we're spendingsomething.
So people understand that.
So they will be like, oh,you're saving, but you're saving
like five cents, when really,honestly, you need to check your
spending because you'reactually spending more than what
you really bringing in right,whether it is 269 or 299 or
(16:19):
whatever the case is, if, if youdon't check your, you're going
to end up spending way overspending, particularly to my 20
and 30 year olds and early 40s.
Y'all got to know like we gotto check our spending.
Yeah, because if we don't, it'sgoing to mess up and it's the
little foxes.
It's not those big bills, yep,it's those one.
(16:40):
You know.
You get an app and you forget.
The subscription is stillrunning, that the subscription
is still running, but that appis only $2.99.
Oh, man, and they got you.
You know you feeling good aboutthat thing, man, you know what
I'm saying.
But then, all of a sudden, nowyou done went two years paying
$2.99.
Eren Davis (16:59):
Man and it's just taking you a little bit of money
.
Taking just a little bit.
Come on, peeps, man bro.
And then overdrafted theaccount.
Louis Jackson III (17:06):
And then overdrafted.
Now you got $35.
Eren Davis (17:08):
You know you're working on a budget you know
what I'm saying and thenoverdrafted the account.
You know, it's just yes, yes.
Louis Jackson III (17:15):
It's those little foxes that I feel like if
we're going to reach our nextlevel, we got to tighten up
level.
Yeah, we got to tighten up,tighten up, we got to begin to
start looking at and becomingself aware.
Yeah, and then this other thirdspace, and now I told y'all a
lot, man, we only giving y'allthe very bare minimum because
(17:35):
we're going to really deep diveinto each of these areas.
But we, I want to talk aboutthis personal growth, this
personal development, right, thelittle foxes.
So you really like a, apersonal development type guru?
Oh, yeah, tell me, what is onelittle fox that you feel like
(17:58):
has gone?
That usually goes unnoticed inour own personal development.
Eren Davis (18:04):
Um, I wrote something now now, um, and this
is just a reminder to myself andI said um, remember, you can
write it down as many times asyou want, long or short, but
unless you do them, they willnot matter, because personal
(18:25):
development is this I'm holdingmyself accountable and I do it.
That's it.
That's it.
Oh, it's because, bro, like, weget so a little fox is this, we
get all this information but wenever apply it.
(18:46):
It's like it's ridiculous,because we have so many, so many
ideas.
You know, we come up with somany different ideas, but the
reason that we're not moving onthem is because we don't act on
them.
We procrastinate.
It's real man, it's and it andeverybody's dealing with it.
(19:09):
That's the, that's the thinglike.
But again, if we want to reachother tiers after the
understanding part of it, um,we're going to talk more about
that man, and that's the reasonwhy it's important that you know
you got your listeners.
Stay with us, because we'regoing to be really, really
talking a lot about personaldevelopment.
But the but, the little fox init is just simply, you know, not
(19:35):
doing it.
That's, that's a little fox.
That daily discipline, thatdaily discipline, and it's so
small, getting up on time everyday.
So small, but it can set thetone for the day, though.
It's real man.
It's something that I'mlearning in my relationship bro,
it's my girl, bro.
(19:55):
She's very particular about thebed being made a certain way.
Bro, I'm like, you know I'mgetting up.
You know I'm flinging thecovers off.
You know I mean now don't getme wrong, I make the bed up, but
not to her standards.
And it had me really thinking,bro, one time, like I'm like,
bro, what I'm like, it's not.
It's not that big of a deal,you know I'm right, but it's
(20:19):
that little fox for her thatsets a tone for her day.
So even in that, you got to beable to, got to be able to learn
from that man, got to be ableto learn from that.
But a lot of to do with thepersonal development is, um,
just, you know, afterunderstanding it, actually
applying it see, I feel like ifwe're not careful, we are like
(20:42):
information hoarders.
Louis Jackson III (20:45):
I don't even want you to know we are so much
we hoard information Mm-hmm.
But like you said, we will notwork off, we will not put it
into action.
So now, if you really looked atpeople and you could see them
in a different way, you wouldthink like man, y'all are so fat
(21:08):
on information.
But you got to work off thisinformation by putting it into
practice, and that is hard, yep.
So you think that we're movingforward because you got more
information, but what you'resaying is that information means
absolutely nothing if you donot apply it.
Eren Davis (21:33):
Absolutely.
And you start to realize too,as you're applying it, you start
to see, oh, I got to tighten upright here, oh, I got to
tighten up right here, and thoseare, and that's a little fox
there, you know, knowing that,going from OK, I got it written
down, to now I've got, I've gotit structured, I have a real
(21:54):
skeleton, that's something thatyou really are great at doing is
having a skeleton in place andbeing able to work that, Because
it gives you parameters, but italso gives you freedom once you
really, because now you knowthe details.
Yeah, the details are thelittle foxes, because a lot of
(22:15):
times we can think big, you know, but we can't get down to the
details of it.
I seen a lot of guys in myneighborhood fall victim to that
.
Yeah, they're really good, theyactually have the mindset of,
uh, some, some of the big namesthat you may even know, but they
can't get to the details of thesituation.
(22:36):
And that is that has a lot to dowith personal development.
Personal development you'redeveloping.
Come on, man you're developing.
Louis Jackson III (22:44):
So, as we get ready to wrap up this very
introductory podcast um episodetalking about little foxes,
small problems, big impact, Iwant you, if you're a listener,
before our next podcast, beforethe next episode drop, I want
(23:06):
you to start thinking about whatare the small things in your
spiritual life, in yourrelationships, in your business,
in your, your personaldevelopment?
What are those small things?
Begin to start doing someself-inventory, peeps, because
see, if we're going to get tothe next level, we're going to
(23:30):
have to deal with these small,seemingly insignificant problems
that can spoil something veryvaluable.
We need you to go ahead andstart thinking through because,
in the living room, peeps, we'rehere to help us to get better.
(23:51):
We're here to have thoseconversations.
Yes, as you see, me and Aaron,we just sitting in here just
chit-chatting.
We kind of got an idea where wewant to go, but these are
regular conversations that wewant you to feel like you're
sucked in and I want you toreally think about man, what are
the little foxes in my life?
(24:12):
And I got to do something aboutthem.
Our next episode we're going todeep dive into like for real
deep dive into the little foxesof relationships.
As you've seen like we almostgot to, we almost about to go in
.
Yeah, definitely.
But here's the deal.
And it's not just thoseromantic relationships, marriage
(24:33):
relationships, but these are.
I'm going to tell you thatrelationships are the most
important thing on this planetrelationships, relationships.
One relationship could changeyour financial trajectory.
One relationship, onerelationship could change, I
mean, your whole generationalfamily line.
Eren Davis (24:55):
Yes.
Louis Jackson III (24:56):
One generation, one relationship.
So we got to start looking atthose little foxes that are
messing up our relationships,and if you are ready for this, I
want you to come back to thenext episode, and we're going to
deep dive into this.
So, as we get ready to go,y'all.
(25:17):
I want you to deep dive intothis, so, as we get ready to go,
y'all.
I want you to start thinkingabout this.
If you have not liked andsubscribed to the living room, I
need you to do that today, andif you want to know more about
what we do and how we do it, Iwant you to go to
lewisjackson3.com and see whatwe're doing.
We will holler at you later.
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