February 26, 2025 • 24 mins
In today’s episode, we’re diving into part two of our powerful series on Little Foxes—those small, seemingly insignificant issues that can have a major impact on our lives.
Last week, we tackled Little Foxes in Relationships, discussing how unspoken expectations can ruin even the strongest connections. This week, we’re going even deeper—addressing the Little Foxes in Personal Development. These are the habits, thoughts, and self-sabotaging behaviors that quietly eat away at our potential, holding us back from reaching the next level in life, business, and faith.
🚨 In this episode, we cover:
✔️ Negative Self-Talk – The internal dialogue that keeps us stuck and how to combat it with truth.
✔️ Perfectionism & Overgeneralization – Why unrealistic expectations lead to insecurity and procrastination.
✔️ Comparison & Self-Worth – How measuring yourself against others can rob you of your joy.
✔️ Spiritual Perspective – Biblical keys to overcoming limiting beliefs and self-doubt (2 Corinthians 12:9, Ephesians 2:10).
✔️ The Elevator Approach – Are you looking to people to define you or trusting the One who created you?
✔️ Practical Application – How to recognize and remove Little Foxes before they destroy your growth.
🎯 Key Takeaway: Personal development isn’t just about better habits—it’s about getting rooted in your true identity. You can’t level up without first addressing the small things holding you back. And true transformation starts with God’s Word, not just self-help strategies.
💡 Question for You: What Little Foxes have been holding you back? How do you combat negative self-talk? Drop a comment, share your thoughts, and let’s grow together!
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Louis Jackson III (00:07):
Welcome to the Living Room.
I'm your host, I'm your boy,Louis Jackson, and I'm here with
my boy, Mr.
Eren Davis.
What's going on, bro?
What's good?
Brother, man, I am doing great.
It's been a great week.
Life has been wonderful.
We've been out here getting itin.
Eren Davis (00:28):
Yes, yes sir.
Louis Jackson III (00:30):
For real Y'all.
I am so glad that you joined usfor the living room and we hope
that you're ready to grow andget ready to go to your next
level, because here at theLiving Room, we're all about
redefining our lives and pushingtoward that next level.
(00:51):
So I want you to getcomfortable and let's grow
together today.
But before we jump into ourconversation, which is going to
be good, I want you if you havenot subscribed or reviewed this
podcast.
I need for you to do that rightnow.
Take some time, share it withsomebody, uh, whatever, uh
(01:16):
particular platform you'relistening to, rate it, share it,
do it on Facebook.
You can always go tolewisjackson3.com, go ahead and
comment, holler at us, tell uswhat we're doing, what we could
do better, and tell us where youwant us to keep moving forward
in.
We are excited about thispodcast because it is real,
(01:42):
relevant and raw.
Yes, you feel me, we just goingto be talking.
Eren Davis (01:47):
Talking.
Louis Jackson III (01:48):
That's all it's all about.
We just talking, we trying tofigure out some things.
Eren Davis (01:51):
Trying to figure things out, trying to debug it.
You know what I'm saying?
Louis Jackson III (01:53):
We trying to get to that next level, and we
do it through conversation, yes,and so, without further ado,
let's jump into our conversationtoday.
As you all know, if you've beentracking with us for the last
couple of weeks, we have beentalking through this topic of
little foxes small problems, bigimpact and last week we really
(02:20):
dove into the idea of littlefoxes in relationships and we
talked about the differentthings that will mess up a
relationship, and one of thethings that jumped out to both
of us was those unspokenexpectations, and if you have
(02:40):
not listened to that, go backand listen to it.
We really talked about unspokenexpectations and if you are in
a relationship right now andyou're going through some stuff,
you need to go look, listen tolast week's podcast, check that
out, because we did end on somevery practical things and
biblical things that I feel likewill help you in your
relationship to get rid of thoselittle foxes.
(03:03):
But today, here's the deal weabout to go deeper, because we
want to deal with little foxesin our own personal development.
Yes, let me tell y'all something, peeps yes, relationships are
important, but relationships aremade up of individual people,
(03:26):
right, let me?
I really want y'all to reallythink this through because our
society has pretty much saidlike it takes two people 50, 50
to make a whole, and no, itdoesn't.
You do not need to go into anytype of relationship and you're
(03:48):
looking for something from theother person to make you whole?
Yeah, soon as you do that, youare dealing with codependency,
right.
You are trying to find yourself-worth in the other person,
you're trying to find youridentity in the other person,
and that does not work.
Do you feel me?
(04:10):
It don't work.
So today we're going to talkabout the little foxes that
messes us up in our personaldevelopment.
Are you ready for this?
Eren Davis (04:23):
bro, I am, and I wanted to start by asking you
what's one personal habit that'sheld you back when it?
Louis Jackson III (04:36):
comes to personal development.
There's so many of them.
I ain't going to lie y'all.
Eren Davis (04:39):
I told y'all, man, this is again one, but we're
going to bring it down today.
This is great.
Louis Jackson III (04:48):
I'm going to be real with you, y'all.
One of the things that messesme up is negative self-talk.
This is something for me thatI've been struggling with for a
long time.
Right, because it's easy to getpeople, it's easy for me to go
(05:13):
believe in other people and it'smuch harder for me to believe
in myself.
That's true, that's true, and Iam really hard on me.
Right, right, right.
And if I'm not careful and thisis one that I've been having to
fight with a lot I will end uptalking negative to me more than
(05:38):
the outside world will talknegative to me.
I'll beat me down, yes, beforeyou get to beat me down.
Yes to me.
Yeah, I'll beat me down, yes,before you get to beat me down,
yes, and so now my depression,my and I'm not, I'm not
depressed at this point yeah,today right, but when I deal
with these things, man, it'slike I end up I, I, I, I get me.
(06:01):
It messes me say well, you knowyou ain't this, or you know you
probably couldn't do this.
Or you can't do that.
Eren Davis (06:08):
Oh yeah.
Louis Jackson III (06:08):
I already got to deal with this with other
people, but because of that I'vebeen conditioned to actually
attack me.
Eren Davis (06:17):
Yeah.
Louis Jackson III (06:18):
Before somebody else can.
Right, I don't know if you'relistening to me and maybe this
is not one of your little foxes,but we got to deal with that.
Yeah, how do we handle negativeself-talk?
Has this been something thatyou ever had to deal with?
Eren Davis (06:34):
oh, bro um, actually probably is my worst um thing
about my personal developmentmyself, and the thing about me
is I'm creative with it too, soI'm you know.
So I'm not just doing the wholebasic, basic tear down.
No, like I'm getting craftywith tearing myself down like
very specific.
(06:54):
You know what I'm saying.
So it's self-sabotage, bro, goodself-sabotaging.
You know what I'm saying andit's not until I was made aware
of it.
See, bro, I think that dealingwith it is is one thing, but,
bro, we talked about about itwhen we were talking about our
relationship portion of itHaving the right people around
(07:18):
you so they can help youidentify that is great.
But we talked also too abouthow important it is about being
intentional about thoserelationships.
This is why the relationship isthe most valuable thing,
because when you're intentionalabout it, it makes it to where
(07:40):
you know, usually a spouse in aromantic sense, right, so a
spouse will have direct accessto you like this.
So can't nobody talk to youlike this, yeah, you know,
because they're seeing you justin another, in another light.
So if you're honest to them,you know that can actually help.
Um, as it pertains to thenegative self-talk, because,
(08:02):
like I said, I'm somebody who isis very much so um, negative
with with myself, like you said,and giving everybody else, you
know these other great personaldevelopment things but in areas
I haven't quite got a reallygood grip on.
Louis Jackson III (08:26):
Ain't it funny how it's easy to help
somebody else and you can tellthem great, great things.
You could tell them, give themgreat advice, the best, but you
can't take your own advice.
That's right and and and.
As I was thinking about thisnegative self talk, man, some of
(08:48):
the things in some of the areasthat negative self talk
manifests itself.
It actually manifests itself inperfectionism.
Eren Davis (08:58):
Yes.
Louis Jackson III (08:59):
In unrealistic expectations on
yourself, yes.
We end up saying that like Icould never be good as that
other person or man.
You know what In our mind wetry to I gotta be the best, I
gotta be great, yeah, whenreally greatness is not
(09:20):
something that, yeah, you canstrive toward it, but that's
that, can't be that.
That is subjective, subjective,very subjective, very
subjective.
You, we, we look at success andwe all understand that success
is very subjective, yeah,because what success is to me
may not be the same thing to you.
(09:41):
Yeah, but when I startcomparing myself to what others
say success is, I will thenstart talking crazy to my own
self.
Eren Davis (09:51):
Yeah, and rob yourself.
Louis Jackson III (09:52):
And rob myself of my own accomplishments
.
Eren Davis (09:54):
Yeah, rob yourself of your own joy.
I mean, come on, I mean yourown joy, like your own, how I
feel?
So now, the negative self-talk,because I feel like that now
I've come around you, now I'mcoming around you, that feel
great about themselves, and nowI'm insecure.
Now I'm insecure, yeah, I'mfeeling less than so, it's like
(10:16):
because I'm comparing, becausehere's the thing.
Okay, let me just use this asan example.
Right, um, there's one guythat's making 200 million a year
and there's one guy that'smaking 200 000 a year who's more
successful.
It's subjective.
It's subjective.
(10:36):
I didn't tell you, I didn'tfill in a blank and tell you
that the guy that's worth 200million is a product of
generational wealth.
The other guy is a product ofbuilding that 200 000 up himself
.
But if he can, but if hecompares himself to the guy
that's making 200 million, hejust might self-sabotage himself
(10:59):
oh, good lord, y'all, are y'allhearing this?
because I honestly believethat's what we're doing because
what it'll do is, bro, it's just, it's just, it's just, it's
never, it's's just, it's never,it's never healthy and it's uh.
I thought it was great that Isaid um it, it.
It steals the joy from you, bro.
(11:19):
It steals, it literally sucks,and I and and track me if I'm
wrong, leave a comment and tellme that negative self-talk mode,
kid you not.
It makes you feel insecure, itmakes you feel less than and it
makes you procrastinate.
Yes, it does, it's sounbelievable.
(11:44):
Yes, it does it's sounbelievable that's all
affecting, affecting ourpersonal development oh my gosh.
Louis Jackson III (11:53):
See, these are very real things, these
little foxes that are destroyingour personal development, which
then we bring to ourrelationships with others
because I don't feel good aboutme.
(12:14):
I will then take that idea andplace it onto my partner.
Yeah, whether, again, if it'sromantic, or whether it is
spiritual, whether it even isbusiness, we will then take
these things because we don'tfeel good about us.
So we feel like someonewouldn't invest in us.
(12:37):
Right, and I have to fight thisfor me.
Yes, because you think, whywould you invest in me?
I'm not great, so what I'll do?
I will overwork myself to thisunrealistic idea of
perfectionism that I got in myhead, trying to become something
that nobody else has ever said.
I needed to become nobody, butI've tried to.
(12:59):
I said I gotta be this, andthen, when I don't reach that, I
then take it out on you becauseyou're the guy that, but you're
not understanding that you'rethe guy that's built yourself up
to the 200,000.
Eren Davis (13:09):
Yeah, off your own bootstraps.
You buckled your own bootstrapsup.
You know I'm saying not to saythat that guy that's built
yourself up to the 200,000 offyour own bootstraps you buckled
your own bootstraps up.
You know what I'm saying Not tosay that that guy who's at the
200 million hasn't been built inanother way, but it's just that
he's been built in another way.
He's been built in another way.
So there's nuances that he hasthat you don't have, and then
(13:31):
there's nuances that you havethat he doesn't have.
Louis Jackson III (13:35):
So we got to be able to appreciate that.
Eren Davis (13:37):
Yeah, we got to be able to understand that.
We got to be able to appreciatethat the only way to get secure
with yourself is to get in thatword.
Louis Jackson III (13:43):
So, so.
So the point you being you arejust flowing today, because what
I wanted to do is I wanted topick out some scriptures that
will and I and I have some herethat's going to combat these
little foxes in our personaldevelopment and one of these
(14:06):
scriptures that I want to toreally just knock out and we're
gonna.
We'll talk about a few of them.
I got like 20 of them, but Ionly want to just do a couple of
them, right, um, when I haveself doubt or I actually have a
limiting belief about myself, itcomes from second Corinthians,
12 and nine.
(14:26):
See, you all know this.
So I want you to get yourscriptures, I want you to get
your bible app out and andreally look at this.
Second corinthians, 12 and 9says this.
But he said to me my grace issufficient for you, for my power
is made perfect in the weakness.
(14:49):
Therefore, this is Paul says.
Therefore, I will boast all themore gladly about my weaknesses
so that Christ's power may reston me.
When I find myself feelingself-doubt and limiting, which
essentially makes me feel weak,you can understand that in your
(15:13):
weakness, that's when God'sgrace comes strong.
That's when he says it's okayto be weak.
You don't have to run from yourweaknesses.
You can begin to boast in yourweakness because you know he
says I'm strong.
Right, you're going to bestrong because I now my power is
(15:36):
about to work within you.
Yeah, y'all, if you're listeningto me today and you are seeing
this little fox of self-doubteating at your vineyard that is
in full bloom, yeah, yeah, andyou see this fox that's just
grubbing eating it, you canbegin to say you know what?
(16:01):
I refuse to trip over what I'mweak at.
Yes, because I think, honestly,bro, most of us don't want to
deal with our own weaknesses.
We try to avoid them or we actlike we don't have them Right
have them right.
But this scripture says I canliterally look at my weakness,
look at it head on and say I'mokay with my weakness, because
wherever there's weakness,there's grace.
Eren Davis (16:22):
There's grace and that's the great thing about um
jesus christ, that that's, bro.
Like, how the relationship iswith with jesus is like I got
you, I'm faithful when you'renot.
It's like I messed up righthere, I did this, I did that.
(16:46):
It's like, before you beatyourself up, understand that
I've provided grace for you.
Like, like, if you ever don'tyou hate, don't you hate when
somebody come to you calmly andyou turned all the way up, you
be turned all the way up.
You pissed, and then he's justlike hey, you know, I said to
love, right you know I said tobe patient, right, you know I
(17:07):
said, uh, don't let the sun godown and you're angry, right,
come on Like.
These are the things, bro, andas we continue to get rooted in
our word, these are the thingsthat we'll recall as we are
slipping back into that negativeself-talk, because that's the
fact of the matter.
When it comes to personaldevelopment, yeah, it's about.
Okay, I may slip, but I havethe right skeleton in place to
(17:33):
get it fixed.
Number one skeleton, numbernumber one thing, as it's a part
of this skeleton that we're umcreating, right, christ one,
because if you put that first,the insecure feeling starts to
feel a little more like I can dothis.
(17:54):
Then he's also giving you keysin his word.
He's telling you if you do this, this is beyond some self-help,
this is the way you're supposedto live.
Everybody thinks that it'sabout the parameters that Christ
(18:16):
sets, but you got to understand, as I'm continuing to learn,
he's setting these parameters tosave you from yourself.
Come on From your own demise.
Louis Jackson III (18:27):
Come on, and that's the deal.
We got to be able to realizeyou said something there that
this is what we're trying toholler at you about in the
living room.
It's not some self-help.
No See, this ain't this.
Ain't that?
Because, as I'm looking at mypersonal development, I can't
become all that I need to beunless I go to the one that
(18:49):
created me man.
See, we keep trying to be greatand try to be at this level,
because we're looking at otherpeople and they're telling us
what we should be, but theydidn't want, they weren't the
ones that created us theelevator approach.
Eren Davis (19:04):
Ok, explain it the elevator approach, right.
So you're, you're getting onthe elevator and the button that
you're pressing is let's justuse figuratively the person is
the button that you're pressingis let's just use figuratively
the person is the button thatyou're pressing.
So when you get on the elevator, you're getting on that
elevator of this person's goingto tell me who I am so the
(19:24):
elevator is going up and down,correct?
okay, so when you push thebutton now, this person takes
you to that level, but they'renot the one who actually took
you to the level.
God may have used that.
See.
The Lord made elevators to makeit easier for you to travel,
but that doesn't mean thatthat's the only way to travel,
(19:46):
because taking those stairsbuilds you just a little bit
differently than taking thatelevator.
Is it more convenient to takethe elevator?
Yes.
Is it easier to carry somethingon the elevator?
Yes, but what are you carrying?
Louis Jackson III (20:04):
I hear you when I think of the elevator and
I'm trying to process, likeyour, your, your thoughts.
I look at, okay, this elevatorapproach is, yes, someone, I
push two and I get the two.
But to me, the most importantperson of the elevator is the
(20:27):
one that created it, because hehad to create the elevator with
a uh uh.
He had an idea in his mind whenhe created it yeah yeah, and in
order for that elevator to dowhat it is supposed to do and to
function the way it's supposedto function, it has to go
(20:49):
according to the the perimetersthat the creator made it.
So when it malfunctions, Ican't go to the elevator itself
and say fix it.
I gotta go back to the veryperson who actually had the
original design to be able tosay, hey, hey, this is
(21:12):
malfunctioning.
How do I fix this piece?
So, as we get going and I wantyou to think about this other
little fox and this other littlefox of overgeneralization, in
other words, we have, we put onourselves negative labels you
(21:34):
end up thinking I'm not goodenough.
Or you end up saying nothingnever goes right for me.
Why do we think that we speakthat and it ends up going into
our own spirit.
But here's when you got thatlittle fox.
I want you to think about thisscripture Ephesians, chapter two
(21:59):
, verse 10.
For we are God's handiwork,created in Christ Jesus to do
good works, which God preparedfor us to do in advance.
Which God prepared for us to doin advance.
In other words, you werecreated intricately by God to be
(22:21):
who you are, and whatever ishappening with you, you can know
it is not beyond what he hasalready created before the
foundation of the world.
He has you on his mind, y'alland these things.
There are so many more that wecan go into.
(22:43):
I want to go into more, buthere's the deal, here's the crux
of today.
We got to understand that, theselittle foxes that mess us up in
our personal development, wegot to combat them with Christ,
with who we are, who he's madeus.
(23:05):
You cannot fight it on your ownand just by doing better habits
because you do on your own, andjust by doing better habits
because you do.
When personal development wealways talk about, you know you
got to do better habits and yougot to develop daily routines
and self-reflection habits.
Yes, them are great things,them are great self-help tools
to use.
(23:26):
But today we gave you one bigtool.
The big tool was you got to getinto the scripture and go to
the creator and allow what hesays about you become what you
are and what you meditate on.
Peeps, I'm telling you it's beencrazy, crazy good.
(23:48):
I know this episode is a littleshorter than the rest, but I
feel like we got a lot more thatyou got to really eat on,
because you will not get to thenext level if you don't prepare
yourself truly.
Deal with the little foxes, thenegative self-talk, the
(24:10):
procrastination, talk, theprocrastination.
You won't get to your nextlevel until you deal with those
little foxes of what otherpeople think about you.
But if you do, I'm telling you,you're going to be great man.
It was another great episode,big bro yeah and I'm telling you
, if we can just keep movingforward, as my mom would say and
(24:32):
daddy god, we, we're going tobe all right, we're going to be
all right.
So, as we go on, man, if youhave not liked and subscribed to
this podcast, please do sotoday, without further ado.
Y'all, I hope you have a greatweek and we will be back on next
week here in the living room.
Welcome to the Living Room.
I'm your host, I'm your boy,Louis Jackson, and I'm here with
my boy, Mr.
Eren Davis.
What's going on, bro?
What's good?
Brother, man, I am doing great.
It's been a great week.
Life has been wonderful.
We've been out here getting itin.
Eren Davis (00:28):
Yes, yes sir.
Louis Jackson III (00:30):
For real Y'all.
I am so glad that you joined usfor the living room and we hope
that you're ready to grow andget ready to go to your next
level, because here at theLiving Room, we're all about
redefining our lives and pushingtoward that next level.
(00:51):
So I want you to getcomfortable and let's grow
together today.
But before we jump into ourconversation, which is going to
be good, I want you if you havenot subscribed or reviewed this
podcast.
I need for you to do that rightnow.
Take some time, share it withsomebody, uh, whatever, uh
(01:16):
particular platform you'relistening to, rate it, share it,
do it on Facebook.
You can always go tolewisjackson3.com, go ahead and
comment, holler at us, tell uswhat we're doing, what we could
do better, and tell us where youwant us to keep moving forward
in.
We are excited about thispodcast because it is real,
(01:42):
relevant and raw.
Yes, you feel me, we just goingto be talking.
Eren Davis (01:47):
Talking.
Louis Jackson III (01:48):
That's all it's all about.
We just talking, we trying tofigure out some things.
Eren Davis (01:51):
Trying to figure things out, trying to debug it.
You know what I'm saying?
Louis Jackson III (01:53):
We trying to get to that next level, and we
do it through conversation, yes,and so, without further ado,
let's jump into our conversationtoday.
As you all know, if you've beentracking with us for the last
couple of weeks, we have beentalking through this topic of
little foxes small problems, bigimpact and last week we really
(02:20):
dove into the idea of littlefoxes in relationships and we
talked about the differentthings that will mess up a
relationship, and one of thethings that jumped out to both
of us was those unspokenexpectations, and if you have
(02:40):
not listened to that, go backand listen to it.
We really talked about unspokenexpectations and if you are in
a relationship right now andyou're going through some stuff,
you need to go look, listen tolast week's podcast, check that
out, because we did end on somevery practical things and
biblical things that I feel likewill help you in your
relationship to get rid of thoselittle foxes.
(03:03):
But today, here's the deal weabout to go deeper, because we
want to deal with little foxesin our own personal development.
Yes, let me tell y'all something, peeps yes, relationships are
important, but relationships aremade up of individual people,
(03:26):
right, let me?
I really want y'all to reallythink this through because our
society has pretty much saidlike it takes two people 50, 50
to make a whole, and no, itdoesn't.
You do not need to go into anytype of relationship and you're
(03:48):
looking for something from theother person to make you whole?
Yeah, soon as you do that, youare dealing with codependency,
right.
You are trying to find yourself-worth in the other person,
you're trying to find youridentity in the other person,
and that does not work.
Do you feel me?
(04:10):
It don't work.
So today we're going to talkabout the little foxes that
messes us up in our personaldevelopment.
Are you ready for this?
Eren Davis (04:23):
bro, I am, and I wanted to start by asking you
what's one personal habit that'sheld you back when it?
Louis Jackson III (04:36):
comes to personal development.
There's so many of them.
I ain't going to lie y'all.
Eren Davis (04:39):
I told y'all, man, this is again one, but we're
going to bring it down today.
This is great.
Louis Jackson III (04:48):
I'm going to be real with you, y'all.
One of the things that messesme up is negative self-talk.
This is something for me thatI've been struggling with for a
long time.
Right, because it's easy to getpeople, it's easy for me to go
(05:13):
believe in other people and it'smuch harder for me to believe
in myself.
That's true, that's true, and Iam really hard on me.
Right, right, right.
And if I'm not careful and thisis one that I've been having to
fight with a lot I will end uptalking negative to me more than
(05:38):
the outside world will talknegative to me.
I'll beat me down, yes, beforeyou get to beat me down.
Yes to me.
Yeah, I'll beat me down, yes,before you get to beat me down,
yes, and so now my depression,my and I'm not, I'm not
depressed at this point yeah,today right, but when I deal
with these things, man, it'slike I end up I, I, I, I get me.
(06:01):
It messes me say well, you knowyou ain't this, or you know you
probably couldn't do this.
Or you can't do that.
Eren Davis (06:08):
Oh yeah.
Louis Jackson III (06:08):
I already got to deal with this with other
people, but because of that I'vebeen conditioned to actually
attack me.
Eren Davis (06:17):
Yeah.
Louis Jackson III (06:18):
Before somebody else can.
Right, I don't know if you'relistening to me and maybe this
is not one of your little foxes,but we got to deal with that.
Yeah, how do we handle negativeself-talk?
Has this been something thatyou ever had to deal with?
Eren Davis (06:34):
oh, bro um, actually probably is my worst um thing
about my personal developmentmyself, and the thing about me
is I'm creative with it too, soI'm you know.
So I'm not just doing the wholebasic, basic tear down.
No, like I'm getting craftywith tearing myself down like
very specific.
(06:54):
You know what I'm saying.
So it's self-sabotage, bro, goodself-sabotaging.
You know what I'm saying andit's not until I was made aware
of it.
See, bro, I think that dealingwith it is is one thing, but,
bro, we talked about about itwhen we were talking about our
relationship portion of itHaving the right people around
(07:18):
you so they can help youidentify that is great.
But we talked also too abouthow important it is about being
intentional about thoserelationships.
This is why the relationship isthe most valuable thing,
because when you're intentionalabout it, it makes it to where
(07:40):
you know, usually a spouse in aromantic sense, right, so a
spouse will have direct accessto you like this.
So can't nobody talk to youlike this, yeah, you know,
because they're seeing you justin another, in another light.
So if you're honest to them,you know that can actually help.
Um, as it pertains to thenegative self-talk, because,
(08:02):
like I said, I'm somebody who isis very much so um, negative
with with myself, like you said,and giving everybody else, you
know these other great personaldevelopment things but in areas
I haven't quite got a reallygood grip on.
Louis Jackson III (08:26):
Ain't it funny how it's easy to help
somebody else and you can tellthem great, great things.
You could tell them, give themgreat advice, the best, but you
can't take your own advice.
That's right and and and.
As I was thinking about thisnegative self talk, man, some of
(08:48):
the things in some of the areasthat negative self talk
manifests itself.
It actually manifests itself inperfectionism.
Eren Davis (08:58):
Yes.
Louis Jackson III (08:59):
In unrealistic expectations on
yourself, yes.
We end up saying that like Icould never be good as that
other person or man.
You know what In our mind wetry to I gotta be the best, I
gotta be great, yeah, whenreally greatness is not
(09:20):
something that, yeah, you canstrive toward it, but that's
that, can't be that.
That is subjective, subjective,very subjective, very
subjective.
You, we, we look at success andwe all understand that success
is very subjective, yeah,because what success is to me
may not be the same thing to you.
(09:41):
Yeah, but when I startcomparing myself to what others
say success is, I will thenstart talking crazy to my own
self.
Eren Davis (09:51):
Yeah, and rob yourself.
Louis Jackson III (09:52):
And rob myself of my own accomplishments
.
Eren Davis (09:54):
Yeah, rob yourself of your own joy.
I mean, come on, I mean yourown joy, like your own, how I
feel?
So now, the negative self-talk,because I feel like that now
I've come around you, now I'mcoming around you, that feel
great about themselves, and nowI'm insecure.
Now I'm insecure, yeah, I'mfeeling less than so, it's like
(10:16):
because I'm comparing, becausehere's the thing.
Okay, let me just use this asan example.
Right, um, there's one guythat's making 200 million a year
and there's one guy that'smaking 200 000 a year who's more
successful.
It's subjective.
It's subjective.
(10:36):
I didn't tell you, I didn'tfill in a blank and tell you
that the guy that's worth 200million is a product of
generational wealth.
The other guy is a product ofbuilding that 200 000 up himself
.
But if he can, but if hecompares himself to the guy
that's making 200 million, hejust might self-sabotage himself
(10:59):
oh, good lord, y'all, are y'allhearing this?
because I honestly believethat's what we're doing because
what it'll do is, bro, it's just, it's just, it's just, it's
never, it's's just, it's never,it's never healthy and it's uh.
I thought it was great that Isaid um it, it.
It steals the joy from you, bro.
(11:19):
It steals, it literally sucks,and I and and track me if I'm
wrong, leave a comment and tellme that negative self-talk mode,
kid you not.
It makes you feel insecure, itmakes you feel less than and it
makes you procrastinate.
Yes, it does, it's sounbelievable.
(11:44):
Yes, it does it's sounbelievable that's all
affecting, affecting ourpersonal development oh my gosh.
Louis Jackson III (11:53):
See, these are very real things, these
little foxes that are destroyingour personal development, which
then we bring to ourrelationships with others
because I don't feel good aboutme.
(12:14):
I will then take that idea andplace it onto my partner.
Yeah, whether, again, if it'sromantic, or whether it is
spiritual, whether it even isbusiness, we will then take
these things because we don'tfeel good about us.
So we feel like someonewouldn't invest in us.
(12:37):
Right, and I have to fight thisfor me.
Yes, because you think, whywould you invest in me?
I'm not great, so what I'll do?
I will overwork myself to thisunrealistic idea of
perfectionism that I got in myhead, trying to become something
that nobody else has ever said.
I needed to become nobody, butI've tried to.
(12:59):
I said I gotta be this, andthen, when I don't reach that, I
then take it out on you becauseyou're the guy that, but you're
not understanding that you'rethe guy that's built yourself up
to the 200,000.
Eren Davis (13:09):
Yeah, off your own bootstraps.
You buckled your own bootstrapsup.
You know I'm saying not to saythat that guy that's built
yourself up to the 200,000 offyour own bootstraps you buckled
your own bootstraps up.
You know what I'm saying Not tosay that that guy who's at the
200 million hasn't been built inanother way, but it's just that
he's been built in another way.
He's been built in another way.
So there's nuances that he hasthat you don't have, and then
(13:31):
there's nuances that you havethat he doesn't have.
Louis Jackson III (13:35):
So we got to be able to appreciate that.
Eren Davis (13:37):
Yeah, we got to be able to understand that.
We got to be able to appreciatethat the only way to get secure
with yourself is to get in thatword.
Louis Jackson III (13:43):
So, so.
So the point you being you arejust flowing today, because what
I wanted to do is I wanted topick out some scriptures that
will and I and I have some herethat's going to combat these
little foxes in our personaldevelopment and one of these
(14:06):
scriptures that I want to toreally just knock out and we're
gonna.
We'll talk about a few of them.
I got like 20 of them, but Ionly want to just do a couple of
them, right, um, when I haveself doubt or I actually have a
limiting belief about myself, itcomes from second Corinthians,
12 and nine.
(14:26):
See, you all know this.
So I want you to get yourscriptures, I want you to get
your bible app out and andreally look at this.
Second corinthians, 12 and 9says this.
But he said to me my grace issufficient for you, for my power
is made perfect in the weakness.
(14:49):
Therefore, this is Paul says.
Therefore, I will boast all themore gladly about my weaknesses
so that Christ's power may reston me.
When I find myself feelingself-doubt and limiting, which
essentially makes me feel weak,you can understand that in your
(15:13):
weakness, that's when God'sgrace comes strong.
That's when he says it's okayto be weak.
You don't have to run from yourweaknesses.
You can begin to boast in yourweakness because you know he
says I'm strong.
Right, you're going to bestrong because I now my power is
(15:36):
about to work within you.
Yeah, y'all, if you're listeningto me today and you are seeing
this little fox of self-doubteating at your vineyard that is
in full bloom, yeah, yeah, andyou see this fox that's just
grubbing eating it, you canbegin to say you know what?
(16:01):
I refuse to trip over what I'mweak at.
Yes, because I think, honestly,bro, most of us don't want to
deal with our own weaknesses.
We try to avoid them or we actlike we don't have them Right
have them right.
But this scripture says I canliterally look at my weakness,
look at it head on and say I'mokay with my weakness, because
wherever there's weakness,there's grace.
Eren Davis (16:22):
There's grace and that's the great thing about um
jesus christ, that that's, bro.
Like, how the relationship iswith with jesus is like I got
you, I'm faithful when you'renot.
It's like I messed up righthere, I did this, I did that.
(16:46):
It's like, before you beatyourself up, understand that
I've provided grace for you.
Like, like, if you ever don'tyou hate, don't you hate when
somebody come to you calmly andyou turned all the way up, you
be turned all the way up.
You pissed, and then he's justlike hey, you know, I said to
love, right you know I said tobe patient, right, you know I
(17:07):
said, uh, don't let the sun godown and you're angry, right,
come on Like.
These are the things, bro, andas we continue to get rooted in
our word, these are the thingsthat we'll recall as we are
slipping back into that negativeself-talk, because that's the
fact of the matter.
When it comes to personaldevelopment, yeah, it's about.
Okay, I may slip, but I havethe right skeleton in place to
(17:33):
get it fixed.
Number one skeleton, numbernumber one thing, as it's a part
of this skeleton that we're umcreating, right, christ one,
because if you put that first,the insecure feeling starts to
feel a little more like I can dothis.
(17:54):
Then he's also giving you keysin his word.
He's telling you if you do this, this is beyond some self-help,
this is the way you're supposedto live.
Everybody thinks that it'sabout the parameters that Christ
(18:16):
sets, but you got to understand, as I'm continuing to learn,
he's setting these parameters tosave you from yourself.
Come on From your own demise.
Louis Jackson III (18:27):
Come on, and that's the deal.
We got to be able to realizeyou said something there that
this is what we're trying toholler at you about in the
living room.
It's not some self-help.
No See, this ain't this.
Ain't that?
Because, as I'm looking at mypersonal development, I can't
become all that I need to beunless I go to the one that
(18:49):
created me man.
See, we keep trying to be greatand try to be at this level,
because we're looking at otherpeople and they're telling us
what we should be, but theydidn't want, they weren't the
ones that created us theelevator approach.
Eren Davis (19:04):
Ok, explain it the elevator approach, right.
So you're, you're getting onthe elevator and the button that
you're pressing is let's justuse figuratively the person is
the button that you're pressingis let's just use figuratively
the person is the button thatyou're pressing.
So when you get on the elevator, you're getting on that
elevator of this person's goingto tell me who I am so the
(19:24):
elevator is going up and down,correct?
okay, so when you push thebutton now, this person takes
you to that level, but they'renot the one who actually took
you to the level.
God may have used that.
See.
The Lord made elevators to makeit easier for you to travel,
but that doesn't mean thatthat's the only way to travel,
(19:46):
because taking those stairsbuilds you just a little bit
differently than taking thatelevator.
Is it more convenient to takethe elevator?
Yes.
Is it easier to carry somethingon the elevator?
Yes, but what are you carrying?
Louis Jackson III (20:04):
I hear you when I think of the elevator and
I'm trying to process, likeyour, your, your thoughts.
I look at, okay, this elevatorapproach is, yes, someone, I
push two and I get the two.
But to me, the most importantperson of the elevator is the
(20:27):
one that created it, because hehad to create the elevator with
a uh uh.
He had an idea in his mind whenhe created it yeah yeah, and in
order for that elevator to dowhat it is supposed to do and to
function the way it's supposedto function, it has to go
(20:49):
according to the the perimetersthat the creator made it.
So when it malfunctions, Ican't go to the elevator itself
and say fix it.
I gotta go back to the veryperson who actually had the
original design to be able tosay, hey, hey, this is
(21:12):
malfunctioning.
How do I fix this piece?
So, as we get going and I wantyou to think about this other
little fox and this other littlefox of overgeneralization, in
other words, we have, we put onourselves negative labels you
(21:34):
end up thinking I'm not goodenough.
Or you end up saying nothingnever goes right for me.
Why do we think that we speakthat and it ends up going into
our own spirit.
But here's when you got thatlittle fox.
I want you to think about thisscripture Ephesians, chapter two
(21:59):
, verse 10.
For we are God's handiwork,created in Christ Jesus to do
good works, which God preparedfor us to do in advance.
Which God prepared for us to doin advance.
In other words, you werecreated intricately by God to be
(22:21):
who you are, and whatever ishappening with you, you can know
it is not beyond what he hasalready created before the
foundation of the world.
He has you on his mind, y'alland these things.
There are so many more that wecan go into.
(22:43):
I want to go into more, buthere's the deal, here's the crux
of today.
We got to understand that, theselittle foxes that mess us up in
our personal development, wegot to combat them with Christ,
with who we are, who he's madeus.
(23:05):
You cannot fight it on your ownand just by doing better habits
because you do on your own, andjust by doing better habits
because you do.
When personal development wealways talk about, you know you
got to do better habits and yougot to develop daily routines
and self-reflection habits.
Yes, them are great things,them are great self-help tools
to use.
(23:26):
But today we gave you one bigtool.
The big tool was you got to getinto the scripture and go to
the creator and allow what hesays about you become what you
are and what you meditate on.
Peeps, I'm telling you it's beencrazy, crazy good.
(23:48):
I know this episode is a littleshorter than the rest, but I
feel like we got a lot more thatyou got to really eat on,
because you will not get to thenext level if you don't prepare
yourself truly.
Deal with the little foxes, thenegative self-talk, the
(24:10):
procrastination, talk, theprocrastination.
You won't get to your nextlevel until you deal with those
little foxes of what otherpeople think about you.
But if you do, I'm telling you,you're going to be great man.
It was another great episode,big bro yeah and I'm telling you
, if we can just keep movingforward, as my mom would say and
(24:32):
daddy god, we, we're going tobe all right, we're going to be
all right.
So, as we go on, man, if youhave not liked and subscribed to
this podcast, please do sotoday, without further ado.
Y'all, I hope you have a greatweek and we will be back on next
week here in the living room.
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