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July 9, 2025 17 mins

You don't need anyone's approval to rest, say no, or want what you want. This episode reveals the 5 permission slips you've been waiting for—and why the only signature that matters is yours.

Still waiting for someone to give you the green light to rest, say no, or want something different? This final Summer Superfood episode explores Self-Permission—the most powerful ingredient for mental fitness and authentic living.
 🎧 Press play to learn how to reclaim your inner authority and stop outsourcing your life.

🔥 Why You're Still Seeking Permission Slips

✨ We've learned approval equals safety
 ✨ Fear of being called selfish (especially women)
 ✨ Confusing people-pleasing with kindness
 ✨ Terrified of judgment and criticism

🎯 The 5 Permission Slips You Need to Write Yourself

  1. Permission to Rest Without Earning It - Rest isn't reward for productivity; it's a basic human need
  2. Permission to Say NO Without Explanation - "NO" is a complete sentence
  3. Permission to Change Your Mind - Growth means wanting different things
  4. Permission to Disappoint People - You weren't put here to meet everyone's expectations
  5. Permission to Want What You Want - Your desires don't need committee approval

💡 Powerful Quotes

  • "Chronic people-pleasing isn't kindness—it's self-abandonment masquerading as virtue"
  • "The permission you've been waiting for isn't coming from outside you, it's coming from within"
  • "You don't need anyone else's approval to live according to your own values"

🛠 4-Step Process to Become Your Own Permission Slip Writer

  1. Identify what you're waiting for permission to do/say/want
  2. Write it down - "I give myself permission to..."
  3. Sign your signature - the only one that matters
  4. Honor it - practice trusting your own authority

Invitation: Write yourself ONE specific permission slip this week. Sign it. Honor it.

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

00:01 - Permission slips from childhood vs adult life
 02:25 - The 5 permission slips most people need
 08:46 - Why we're still seeking external validation
 12:05 - 4-step process to write your own permission
 15:51 - Your summer invitation to self-permission

💛 Share this episode with someone who needs permission to give themselves permission. Together we create ripples of authentic living.

#mentalfitness #selfleadership #permissiontosayno #peoplepleasing #authenticliving

This is an inside job. Share this episode with those you love. 💛

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