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Caryn Portnoy (00:02):
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I can't believe it. It'sactually my 40th episode that
I'm recording right now. I can'tbelieve how things have unfolded
with this podcast, and I'm soproud of everything that I've
done so far, and I just wantedto take this moment for my 40th
episode, I had a bit of anepiphany tonight that I wanted
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to share that. So, you know, Iknow I've been talking a lot
about my healing journey, allthe things that I've been facing
over the last three years. Youknow, all the trauma, all my
wounds, all of my insecurities,healing my inner child,
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everything, just everything thatI've been facing and just
healing relentlessly. And it'snot, it's not to pat myself on
the back and say, Look how goodI am, and look how you know,
great I did, and all of thatit's not, it's not about that.
It's about sharing my journey sothat maybe it's something that
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you want to do for yourself. Andthe reason that I'm saying this,
and this whole point of beingI'm hoping inspirational. I
mean, that was my intention withthis podcast all along, was to
give everyone hope andinspiration in making your world
better and your life better andhealing from your trauma and
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your past and your upbringingand all of that. So my epiphany
was really about thinking aboutall of the work that I've done
and like, what it's all about?
What? Why am I so driven toheal? Why am I so driven to heal
these wounds? Like, what's thewhole point of it? Right? I
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don't know, maybe I'm gettinginto some meaning of life stuff,
but I talk a lot about thedivorce groups that I'm in on
social media, I'm reaching over400,000 people with my posts and
comments. I find myself saying alot about the law of attraction,
how we attract what we are. Soif we are unhealed, if we're
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negative, if we come from dark,Shadow Work, what comes out of
that is that's who we attract inour life. So conversely, if
we're coming from a positive,optimistic, loving place. That's
what we're going to attract to.
You know, I like to think that Ilive as authentically as I could
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be. I'm in my most authentic eraof my life right now. I try to
live as pure a life as I can. I,you know, try not to lie, try
not to do things that I'm notsupposed to do, you know, things
like that. And I'm very aware.
I'm very conscious, you know,like I've said, I have a very
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strong connection to God and theuniverse, and I'm, I'm really,
really happy about that workthat I've done, but the whole
point is, is that, you know, ifwe're going to attract what we
are, and we're in an unhealedplace, I mean, you could see how
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so many people in this worldcoming from that place, you
know, creates so much poison,and it's not a way to make the
world better. It's actuallymaking it worse. So you know,
the more people that heal andcome from a more loving place
and positive and optimisticplace, the better the world will
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be. You.
So when I think about thisepiphany I had, it really comes
back to self love. It reallycomes back to that I feel like
that's the crux of it all. It'sabout loving ourselves, and I
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truly believe that we are hereon this planet, living our life,
so that we come home toourselves. And truly, as as
simple as it sounds, I feel likethat really is the meaning of
life, because the more that weheal ourselves, the more that we
love. Ourselves, we then havethat much more to give to
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others. And until we do that,we're very kind of self absorbed
and selfish, and it's all aboutus and our ego and all of that
and and we don't have thecapacity to give to others, to
love others, to look out foreach other when we don't have
that settled within ourselvesand healed within ourselves. So
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you know when, when I thinkabout healing my inner child,
it's not about what others cangive to us. It's not about that.
It's what we can give toourselves. And when we fill up
our own tank, and when we giveourselves what we need, we don't
need it from other people, andit frees us up to just love and
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accept and embrace other peoplearound us, and think about what
the world would look like ifthat actually happened. This
world is in such crisis, and Ifeel like we're at a very
pivotal moment where we'reeither going to sink or we're
going to swim, and the only wayto do that is to do it together.
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But we can't do that if we don'thave what we need within
ourselves. So, you know, I lookI never saw the actual Matrix
movie, but I know what it'sabout. And I feel like, you
know, we are so caught up in thematrix of this life social media
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and entertainment and TV, moviesand, you know, games. God,
there's so much out there thatis set to take us outside of
ourselves and not, not fill ourown hearts up with love. And I,
you know, this is where I, Ishow up as the black sheep. And
I'm, I totally own that. Now I'mthrilled to be the black sheep.
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You but I just see things sodifferently than I think many
other people see it, and I thinkthat's why my healing has been
as intense as as it's been, andso fulfilling, because I see the
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necessity for all of us to loveeach other like go within and
love yourselves first before youcan love anyone else. And I
think you know, I was veryfortunate in the sense that I
was able to take 13 months ofpretty intense solitude to go
within and do all this healingwork on top of the two and a
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half years that I've done priorto that. But I guess this is
why, because I really want to beable to help heal the world. I
know that sounds like, Oh,that's a big dream, but why not?
Why not? And when you have aconnection to God and the
universe and all of that,there's nothing you can't do.
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There is nothing you can't do.
I'm not better than anybodyelse, I'm just different. And if
I can do what I'm doing, anybodycan do this, anybody can heal,
anybody can grow and evolve andchange and and be the best
possible version they can be ofthemselves. Don't you owe it to
yourself to live the bestpossible life you can so when I
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you know answer these commentsabout the law of attraction and
attracting what we are, and allof that, I think it's mostly in
the context of romanticpartners, but it goes so much
broader than that, really. Itcould be within your family, it
could be, you know, yourcommunity. It could be people
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you work with, or friends, orwhatever, any area of your life.
Think about it. We attract whatwe are. So let's take a look at
who we are first, before werealize that that's what we're
attracting into our lives. Sowhat I was starting to say about
this period of solitude and allwhat ended up happening was I, I
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wound up creating somewhat of abubble around me. You know, I
have a small circle of my triedand true friends who I adore and
I'm so grateful for. But otherthan that, I've, I really have
created a bubble. IYeah, you know it's it's
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interesting, because someone inmy family had kind of challenged
me about, why don't I seekadvice or opinions from other
people? Like, do I think I knoweverything? And it's not about
knowing everything. It's abouttrusting myself. Self and
trusting God and knowing thatwhatever is meant to be is going
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to be, whatever is meant tounfold is going to unfold the
way it's supposed to, andwhatever is meant for me is
going to happen. So why do Ineed to go outside of myself and
start asking for other people'sopinions when that's my core. My
core is to trust myself, myinner knowing, my intuition and
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my connection to God, that's allI need. And it's not to say I
don't care about what otherpeople think or or I think I'm
better than somebody. It's notabout that. I've learned to
trust myself. I've learned totrust God, and honestly, that is
all I need, and that's reallyall anybody needs, truly. But a
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lot a lot of people are verykind of conditioned to ask for
other people's advice oropinions or judgments or
whatever it is, and no judgmentfrom me about people who do
that, but it's just a matter offact that that's what people do.
And I'm gonna say that that waspassed down from generation to
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generation, and it's justbecause that's the way it was. I
think, you know, people justThat's how people related. But I
feel very confident andcomfortable and at peace with
the decisions that I make now,because I feel very rooted. I
feel very secure with God, andI'm secure with the decisions
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that I'm making. That's not tosay that I don't mess up here
and there. I don't I don't makemistakes, I don't say the wrong
things or whatever. I mean, I'mguilty of that. I'm human. I'm
getting better now at takingresponsibility when I do that,
though, which is a good thing,but I'm really enjoying this
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bubble, because I don't want theinfluence of the matrix. I don't
want the influence of all thethings that I've healed from. So
it's all about taking care ofmyself now, and truthfully, you
know, look, I want to be a goodexample for other people. That's
the whole point. I want othersto have hope and inspiration,
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and if I can be that lighthousefor someone, that's that's what
I'm trying to do, that's whatI'm trying to be.
And I see change in people closeto me, in my life, where I've
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impacted others, I've inspiredothers, and not because I'm
intentionally trying to doanything. It's just, I think
that my my presence, my energy,my aura, whatever you want to
call it, I think it justnaturally holds that mirror up
to people, and I've seen the theeffects of that, and I'm happy,
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you know, I'm sure those peoplethat I've affected aren't so
happy because they maybe didn'twant to change or make changes
in their life. But, you know,we're all here to grow and
evolve. I keep saying it, andit's the truth. So I don't know.
I feel like, one way or another,we're going to be forced to to
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do the right thing and and gowithin somehow, even if people
just learn to meditate or learnto pray or learn to speak to
their ancestors who have passedaway. You know, anything that
connects us to spirit and thespirit realm, I think, is is
helpful, because they'reconstantly guiding us. They're
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constantly, you know, giving usmessages, and it's a question of
how attuned we are to it, toreceive it. But they're there.
And I guess this path that I'vebeen on for the last four years
is like, you know, I've paidattention to the signs and the
symbols and and the messagesthat that I get and and it all
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came together for me in thatway. Anyway. I hope this
resonated to somebody out there.
And thank you for listening.
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