Manifestation and Positive Thinking

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Hey everyone, in this week’s episode, I’m diving into a powerful conversation sparked by a recent encounter with a woman who deeply saw me and genuinely wanted to understand my healing journey. We talked about how I’ve navigated my way through pain—particularly post-divorce—and how I’ve leaned into my connection with God to transmute that pain into something empowering and beautiful.

I’m sharing insights about my personal manifestation process, the mindset shifts that have allowed me to detach from trauma, and the spiritual practices that continue to guide me toward lightness, love, and my higher self. This is about more than just staying positive—it’s about facing the fire, turning toward growth, and choosing alignment over victimhood. If you’re seeking encouragement, spiritual clarity, or a reminder that healing is possible, this one's for you.

 

Episode Highlights:

[0:02] - Kicking off with a reflection on a soul-level connection at a party and how it led to a deep conversation on healing
[2:40] - Sharing how facing the fire and embracing spiritual connection became essential to my recovery
[4:12] - Turning darkness into light through the power of thought and intentional manifestation
[6:00] - Visualizing higher self outcomes and how imagination becomes a vehicle for healing
[7:46] - Discussing how my manifestation process has become almost effortless through divine alignment
[10:04] - Addressing victim mentality and the courage it takes to choose growth instead of staying stuck
[13:22] - Reflecting on being seen, validated, and how meaningful that felt at this stage in my journey

 

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Episode Transcript

Caryn Portnoy (00:02):
Hi everyone, and welcome to the music of Life.
I'm your host. Karen Portnoy,before I get into this episode,
please comment, ask questions,share some of your experiences,
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You Oh, so I was at a party onSaturday night, and I was seated

(00:26):
next to a woman who I've metbefore. She's about 2020, to 25
years older than I am, and thefirst time we met, I don't know,
we just really connected on asoul level. I just, I never felt
more seen or more understood bysomebody I just met. But we, we

(00:47):
had so much to talk about, andon Saturday night, we discussed
my healing and how that wasgoing. And she was really blown
away by how far I've come fromthe last time I saw her, and so
she was asking me a lot ofquestions about how I healed,
and I couldn't really express itin a way that wasn't so self

(01:12):
promoting. But she kept sayinglike, and you never like. You
don't read books about this, andyou didn't learn some some other
way. And really, what it camedown to was, No, I have kind of
taught myself the things thatI've healed from, and I couldn't
explain to you how or why I justthe more I connected to the

(01:36):
universe, God, source, creator,whatever anybody calls it, I
call it God. It was, thestronger that connection became,
the easier it was for me todetach myself from my wounds.
And I'll talk a little bit moreabout that, but it was a very

(01:56):
eye opening thing to talk about,because nobody's really asked me
directly. Some people ask meonline on, you know, some of
those divorce groups that I'm inon social media, but nobody's
really asked me to my face, howare you healing? How did you
heal? How How are you continuingto move forward based on

(02:19):
everything that you've gonethrough in your divorce, and
it's very humbling to me,because I was really brought to
my knees. I really was and andthe beginning of this podcast
explains it. Mostly. There's alot of stuff I did not include
in this podcast, but thosemoments and those experiences

(02:39):
are really quite personal to meand my daughter and my family.
So certain things I did leaveout, but you know, for the most
part, I would say 90 to 95% ofwhat I've discussed is the gist
of it all. Anyway. So I wastelling this woman that I just
keep facing the fire, fromminute one, from three years

(03:06):
ago, until now and beyond, Ijust I keep facing the fire. I
keep looking at my wounds. Ilook at whatever trauma I've
been through, whatever issuesI've had, whatever insecurities
there are whatever I feltwronged by other people,
whatever it is, abandonment,wounds, anxiety. I was very

(03:28):
anxious during my divorcebecause I just didn't feel like
I had a grip on things I'mtalking now about how I don't
see myself as an anxious person,but during my divorce, I was
extremely anxious because I justnever knew what was coming next,
and I was very dysregulated fora long time emotionally until I

(03:52):
got a handle on that. So yes, Iwas very anxious during my
divorce, but I do not considermyself an anxious person now.

(04:12):
So my connection to God reallyhelped me to alchemize a lot of
pain into power or pain intohealing, however you want to
look at it. But, you know, I wasable to turn negative to
positive, turn darkness tolight, you know, however you
want to look at it, but to beable to separate myself from my

(04:36):
wounds was kind of like amanifestation, in a sense,
because, and there are differentways that people manifest
things. For me, I keep sayingthat what our thoughts allow,
our energy follows. But it'strue, it's whatever we think
about that's where our energygoes. So if we're thinking about

(04:57):
something negative, then. Thenour energy is going to become
negative. And conversely, ifwe're thinking about something
positive, then our energy isgoing to follow positively. So
if something bad is happening toyou, or someone is doing you
wrong, or someone is hurting youor disappointing you, or letting
you down, somehow, whatever itis to be able to turn that into

(05:20):
something good and positive andlightness rather than darkness.
That's kind of how you transmutethat kind of pain into power. So
like for me, when I manifest, Isometimes I'm not even aware
that I'm manifesting, becauseit's just what I'm thinking

(05:41):
about. And sometimes, when youthink about the same thing over
and over and over again, somepeople say things out loud, like
affirmations, whatever it is,it's like, the more you say it,
or the more you think it, themore it kind of takes hold and
the universe pays attention. So,you know, I always think of it

(06:01):
in terms of becoming my higherself. And some people may say,
Well, what's that? And if youthink about it, it's like you
think of the best outcomepossible. You think of the best
way and the the Most High andelevated way of an outcome. And

(06:23):
if somebody breaks your heartinstead of, you know, staying in
that stuck energy of beingheartbroken, then maybe you can
kind of think of it in terms ofwhat it would be like to be in
love with someone instead ofbeing heartbroken. So it's kind
of like taking that badexperience and turning it into

(06:44):
good. By some people may call itfantasy. I don't believe it's
fantasy, because I think it's anintentional thought and an
intentional energy that followsthat thought. So to think of in
terms of, you know, being inlove, and what that feels like
and, and what it would look liketo be successful, and what, what

(07:05):
would it look like to be longterm, and you know who that
person would be, and how theywould treat you and and how you
show up and how you treat them,and the reciprocity and things
like that. It's like, you know,you kind of let your thoughts
wander a bit and and think aboutwhat it would be like to be in

(07:25):
love, to be happy, to be in atrue partnership, to have true
love in your life. I mean, thinkabout that often enough, and you
end up manifesting it. Youit's it's interesting, because

(07:46):
that's how I've learned to kindof master manifestation,
because, and I will talk aboutthis when the time comes. I know
I've said this before. It's notthe right time right now, but as
soon as things start coming tofruition and in reality, then I
can talk about it. But for rightnow, I have a lot of irons in

(08:06):
the fire, and once they start tocome true, I'm I promise you,
I'll tell you all about it. Butin the meantime, being able to
separate myself from wounds andand pain and turning it into
something positive and somethingthat I'm able to manifest on my
own, although it's not truly onmy own, because I do feel very

(08:30):
connected to the divine. So I dobelieve that it comes from the
Divine, meaning God and and thenI'm able to utilize that
connection into the things thatI manifest. And I'm feeling so
effortless at this point interms of my ability to manifest,

(08:52):
because I've learned so muchover these last three years and
have put it into practice somany times that it really has
become effortless for me to gofrom pain to pleasure, or pain
to happiness, or however, youknow, from unhealed to healed,
however you want to describe it.

(09:13):
But this is basically, you know,part of my healing and part of
how I've learned how to do thisfor myself, and the fact that I
have not done it by learningfrom books or I don't even know
how else you learn this kind ofstuff, but I do believe that it
comes from God, because I didn'tmake this stuff up. I didn't

(09:37):
figure it out, like totally onmy own. How would I know how to
do that? So I do believe thatthis came from spirit, and this
is something that I have figuredout how to do for myself and and
it's working for me really,really well. I.

(10:04):
I will tell you one of thethings that really like irks me
and and I feel that this is howpeople get so stuck in their in
their negativity. One of thepeople made a comment, I believe
it was earlier tonight that inone of the divorce groups I'm
in, where they were saying thatthey couldn't let go of

(10:25):
something that I guess a partnerdid to them, and it's because of
them that they can't move on.
And it's a common theme. I readit and hear it a lot, where
people can't really get out oftheir own way, in their pain and
their negativity. And you knowit, it really comes down to what

(10:47):
do you want to come out of this?
What is your desire Do you wantto stay stuck in that kind of
victim mentality which will justkeep repeating the same cycles
over and over and over again andyou get nowhere. Or do you want
to break out of that and findsomething different, find

(11:08):
something happier and peacefuland positive and and move
forward? So it's a choice. It'salways a choice. And it just
irks me when people stay in thisthis victim mentality, it's just
terrible because it just keepsyou stuck. But I do recognize
that it takes some courage andsome bravery and some risk

(11:33):
taking to be able to step out ofthat victim mentality and choose
something different foryourself. And what I've
continued to choose is positivegrowth and transformation and
alignment with God. And youknow, in doing that over and

(11:55):
over and over again, I'vereally, truly found happiness in
that, and it's really kind ofcleared the way for new
beginnings, fresh start, newopportunities, a greater sense
of ease in my life. Like I said,I'm not an anxious person, but,

(12:15):
you know, it's, uh, it's muchmore calm. I find much more calm
in my life right now. So I guessthe the idea of manifestation,
and you know, when I'm in themidst of trying to alchemize
negativity into positivity andthings like that, you know, I

(12:36):
kind of have to put it outthere. I have to put the right
mindset and right mentality outthere in order to manifest. And
so, like, it's kind it's kind ofweird. It's like you're by doing
that, you're manifesting part ofthe manifestation, which, if
that makes sense, it kind ofdoesn't, but I don't know how

(12:58):
else to explain it. It's justkeeping it all moving forward,
keeping it all movingpositively, all in the name of
growth and evolution andhealing, and it's really served
me.

(13:22):
So anyway, so after talking tothis woman at this party the
other night, she was really verycomplimentary and and I really
took her words in andinternalized it, because it
really meant a lot coming fromher saying, you know, how
special I was, how unique I am.
I because I really believe sheand I are on the same frequency.

(13:44):
We're just we're very aligned,we're very in tune. And I really
appreciated what she was saying.
So it was just validating, andat a space and time where I
wasn't seeking validation. Soyou know, anytime that happens,
it's nice, but it's notnecessary. So I took it very

(14:06):
deeply how she said, and Iappreciated it. So I'm not sure
if, if what I'm saying is makingsense or not, but it's it's an
amazing feeling to grow and tochange and to evolve and to grow
out of pain and grow intohappiness and peace and joy. So

(14:30):
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