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September 4, 2024 26 mins

In this episode of the Narcissism Decoder, we explore the complex reasons why some individuals struggle to accept positive experiences, such as love, comfort, and success. We delve into the psychological concept of splitting, where early life experiences, like critical caregiving, can lead to an internalized negative self-view. Through a case study, we discuss how this self-criticism manifests and why it becomes difficult for some to embrace supportive voices or good opportunities. We also touch on the defense mechanisms that protect a fragile sense of self, leading to behaviors like self-sabotage. Finally, we consider how increasing awareness of these unconscious patterns can facilitate and help individuals integrate the split-off parts of themselves for greater personal growth.

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