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Katie Lovitt (00:00):
Hey guys, welcome
back to the nourished and
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thriving show.
Today is actually going to beour last show through the
holidays.
So until 2024, I have beenreleasing new episodes every
single week for over a year nowwithout break.
And I really want to take a stepback and reflect and allow you
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guys to catch up on all theepisodes that I've put out in
the last year.
And then come back into the newyear and make this show even
better than it is right now.
So I will be returning.
I just wanted to let you guysknow, I'm going to step aside
for a little bit.
Enjoy the holidays with myfamily, focus on letting some
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new creative ideas coming in fornew episodes that I can continue
to serve you guys in an evenbetter capacity.
So today we're going to betalking about.
you know, how to prioritize andwhy priorities and setting
priorities are so important forgut health.
So hang on.
And we're going to dig into thatin just a second.
But also if you're new to thisshow maybe you've been listening
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from the beginning from the veryfirst episode, but maybe you've
missed a few weeks here andthere.
This is a great time to go backand re listen to those past
episodes because just becausethey've been out for a little
bit, it doesn't make them anyless relevant or helpful.
So with all that in mind.
Let's dig in.
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you may have seen it in mystories, actually.
And You know, if you're notfollowing me on Instagram, you
absolutely should, because likeI said, in the intro of this
episode, I am going to be takinga new board and a little bit of
a break from coming out with anynew podcast episodes for the
next couple of months, just toenjoy the holidays with my
family, come back and refresh inthe new year with some fresh
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ideas for you guys.
So if you want to stay in touchwhile I'm taking that little
mini podcast hiatus.
Make sure you follow me onInstagram because I'm not going
to be taking a break there.
I'm going to be showing up instories and having new content
come out and all of that.
So it's a great way to stay intouch.
But I saw this post onInstagram, and it's not anything
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new or earth shattering, butevery single time that I see it,
my mind is just a little bitblown.
And so I really wanted to shareit with you guys today because
it's, it's really, really like,it kind of cuts like a knife,
but it's a good knife that islike cutting a cancer out.
And that cancer is choosing theurgent.
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Things in the short term,instead of really being able to
choose the more importantpriorities that don't feel as
urgent in the moment.
And I've talked about thisbefore, but I think it's a
really good reminder going intothe holiday season just the
importance of this.
If you choose the urgent themesevery single day that are
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grabbing at your attention,chances are you probably are
spending your days.
very, very busy and ending yourdays very tired and oftentimes
probably frustrated, feelinglike you actually haven't been
able to accomplish anything.
You've been spending your dayspinning your wheels and don't
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really have anything to show forit.
That's a really good indicatorthat you are choosing the urgent
Things instead of the thingsthat are actual priorities to
you.
And as women, I get it is moms.
I get it.
Like we have a lot of demands onour schedules, a lot of urgent
themes that we have to wadethrough.
And so it can be reallychallenging to keep up with
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these priorities.
But one of the biggestpriorities for most of you guys,
if you're listening to thisepisode, and if you listen to
other episodes is.
Your health.
And that's something that wetend to be able to put on the
back burner for a while until wecan't.
And maybe you're at that pointnow where you can't put it on
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the back burner anymore.
And you're kind of in a placewhere it's become an urgent
thing because it's been put onthe back burner for, you know,
months or years.
Maybe you're in the place whereyou are having some digestive
symptoms or some health issues.
But it's not as urgent as otherthings in your life yet.
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And I just wanted to talkthrough the importance of what
is it costing you?
This is what I saw on Instagram.
What is it costing you to waitto take action?
That's the general gist of whatI saw.
I think, you know, it probablywas said a lot more eloquently,
but what, what is the, what isthe cost of inaction?
What is the cost of choosingthose urgent themes in your
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life?
What is it costing you to putoff making the changes that you
need to make to see thosepriorities?
actually be treated likepriorities?
What is it costing you to putoff the changes that you need to
make to improve your gut health?
Now, for a lot of you guys youknow, the cost is maybe
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something that you're notrealizing quite yet.
Maybe the cost is in.
The future.
And that's oftentimes the casewhenever we're choosing things
that are more urgent but lessultimately important.
And then I encourage my clientsto ask themselves whenever
they're trying to decide if thisis something that they're
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dealing with is what would theme 20 years from now wish that I
had chosen today?
And that's a really quick way toput it into perspective to
understand, you know, is thisthat I'm choosing to pay
attention to right now todayactually important to me, or is
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it just an urgent thing that'slike, you know, screaming in my
face that I need to just stepaway from because it's not
ultimately a priority.
If your health is a priority,but you're not investing in it,
you're going to be in thatsituation.
Right?
If you can't just say thatsomething's a priority to you
and then not take action towardsit, you're fooling yourself.
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You're lying to yourself andyou're like, Oh yeah, I'm a
healthy person.
Oh yeah.
Health is a priority to me, butyou're not actually living a
life.
That shows that that shows anyevidence of that you're just
pulling the wool over your owneyes, and it's not going to
benefit you So kind of a heavyepisode, sorry for our last one
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of the year, but it's reallyimportant.
And I want to give you things tothink about as we go into the
holiday season.
And you know, I shared myjourney with boundary setting
some on this show and it stemsfrom this.
Every time you say yes to onething, you're saying no to
something else and vice versa.
Every time you say no tosomething, you're saying yes to
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something.
So maybe you got nominated forcommittee and you don't
necessarily feel like it'ssomething That is aligned with
your purpose or something thatyou actually have it as a
priority to be, but you feel bador feel guilty saying no, or
like who else is going to do it?
I should say yes.
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And you say, yes, maybe you'renot even aware of all of those.
thoughts, but you say yes.
And by doing that, you're sayingno to other things.
Maybe you're saying no to peacein your home or more quality
time with your family or youknow, time to meal plan and prep
your food and you're scramblingfor meals because you said yes
to something that you shouldhave said no to, or that you
really wanted to say no to, andyou just didn't think through
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it.
And likewise, whenever you sayno to something, you're saying
yes to something else.
So just using that committeeexample.
By saying no to that, if youwere to say no to it, what all
are you saying yes to?
And I think as women, we tend tobe overly responsible for
things.
I think that we step into otherpeople's duties and
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responsibilities and shoulderthat burden.
And some of it is kind of whatsociety has expected of us.
Like to be like, carry it.
And we're under thismisconception that if we don't
do it, it won't get done.
And first of all, is that true?
And second of all, Is that a badthing?
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You know, I think it really, itreally opened my eyes whenever
somebody shared with me onetime.
Well, what if by you stepping inand taking this on yourself is
robbing somebody else of theopportunity to step up and take
this responsibility on andexperience that personal growth.
And so by you being responsiblefor this and thinking that
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you're serving somebody reallywell, you're actually doing them
a disservice.
So just think through that, youknow, are there any areas in
your life where you're doingthings that maybe aren't yours
to do or your loads to carry?
And are you possibly disturbingsomebody in that way?
Like one way I have you know,client I was talking with where
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She has older kids.
Her oldest is 18 and heryoungest is 10.
And she has four kids kind ofspread in that range.
And she was not eating breakfastor lunch because she was a short
order cook for them in themorning and, you know, making
their lunches and making theirbreakfast and doing all of these
things for all of them.
And her own health wassuffering.
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And she felt like she had tobecause she was their mom and
that was her job.
And I really encouraged her toshift that a little bit because
she You know, cooking for yourmeal for your kids and not
teaching them how to do thosethings is ultimately doing them
a disservice because eventuallythey're going to leave home and
if they don't have those skills,they're not going to magically
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have them whenever they leavethe nest, right?
Like as, as parents, we'repreparing our children to become
adults.
And so she did.
She met with her kids and waslike, okay, guys, we're going to
do some of this as a family,like some things have got to
change.
And she said they were soexcited to pitch in and help
out.
They ate the meals actuallybetter because they were more
invested in it.
And it was a really positiveexperience for everyone.
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And she was just under this.
belief that it was her duty andresponsibility as a mom and as a
wife to do all of these thingsat her own expense.
And it just wasn't ultimatelythe case, you know, and her kids
and her family were actuallyreally grateful.
For that additionalresponsibility, and it brought
them all closer as a family.
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So that's a pretty black andwhite example, but it's hard to
see it sometimes, even if it'sblack and white, it's hard to
see it in our own lives.
So I really encourage you toexamine your life and explore
those things.
Maybe spend some time thinkingor journaling.
What are some of the thingsthat, you know, write down all
the things that you do, all thethings that you spend your time
doing in a day.
And you know, Really thinkthrough, like, are these my
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loads to bear?
Is it someone else's job to dothese?
Are they important?
You know, does it actuallymatter if they get done in the
long run?
And what are my real priorities?
We talk a lot about settingthose boundaries, but if you
don't know what your prioritiesare, how can you set those
boundaries?
How can you know when to say noif you don't know what is
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important to you?
And a lot of the time we justget so caught up in saying yes
and managing all of thoseimportant things that are coming
our way that we never take astep back and really determine
even what's actually a priorityand what matters to us most.
So I encourage you to, you know,make a list of five to seven
different priority buckets.
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And as new opportunities or newthings are presented to you, you
know, ask yourself, is this inone of these buckets?
And if not, it's an easy, no.
And if it is, it's somethingthat you're going to try and
figure out how to work into yourroutine.
And I hope.
that for every single personlistening that your health is a
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priority to you.
So, you know It really needs tobe because if you are not
healthy 20 years from now, whatis that going to mean to your
life?
You know, I think that'ssomething that just is really,
really non negotiable.
And so as women, we need to stopnegotiating our health.
We need to stop negotiating ourwellbeing at the expense so that
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we can benefit others, you knowSo what are you doing?
So a lot of the time this comesup with gut health stuff too,
because we can really carrythings for a long time, can't
we?
We can shoulder symptoms, we canpush it aside, we can cope, we
can deal, we can get by.
Humans are you know, animalsthat, you know, Carry on.
We carry on, you know, and shoveit under the rug until we just
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can't anymore.
And so what is it costing you?
What is not prioritizing yourhealth ultimately going to cost
you?
Is there going to be a timewhere you have a breakdown, a
physical or a mental oremotional breakdown in the
future because you haven't beentaking care of things that need
to be taken care of?
Are you going to hit thatphysical wall in the future
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where all of a sudden?
Your health stuff has gottencompletely out of hand, and it's
going to take even more energythan ultimately to get better to
get well than it would have ifyou would have dealt with it
whenever it's first coming up.
So a little bit of tough lovefor you, but leading into the
holiday season, there's gonna beeven more urgent things on your
plate.
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So I just really encourage youMaybe, you know, you have some
of those life priorities that wementioned.
And then within those, once youhave those written out, what are
your holiday priorities thisyear?
You know, and they should alignwith those life priorities.
Maybe it's really quality timewith your family.
Well, how can you do that?
How can you create that?
How can you be more present withthem?
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And ultimately, if that meansthat you need to be a healthier,
more energetic, more presentyou, Then figure out what steps
you need to take to make surethat happens and you guys This
is all things I do with myclients inside of gut rehab
Which I know may sound kind ofbananas to you because it's not
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quote unquote nutrition work butit is mind work and it is
priorities work and that has todo with health because if you
you know, don't have thebandwidth to set these
boundaries and set thesepriorities.
You're not going to have thebandwidth to take to do the work
that it's going to require in myprogram to see the results.
And so it is all connected.
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So I'm giving you guys a littleglimpse there.
If you're trying to do thesethings and struggling or, you
know, your health is a priorityand you know that, and you're
really struggling with how to.
implement that priority and takeaction towards it in your day to
day life.
Reach out, gut rehab might be areally awesome solution for you
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to have a playbook, have a stepby step, have a little
accountability and guidance, andjust help you make your health a
priority so that you can show upmore fully for those around you.
And so reach out to me onInstagram.
Check out my website.
All of the links are here belowin the show notes, and we can
definitely have a conversationabout what that looks like.
So that is all happy 2023.
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I will see you guys in 2024.
Go back and listen to oldepisodes, leave my show a five
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And I would so appreciate it.
And I can't wait to talk withyou guys all very soon.