The Openlove101 Show
This is your show to discuss open relationships, the swinger lifestyle, consensual non-monogamy - however you describe it, we’re here to talk about it. Your podcast is hosted by John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind the industry famous colette swingers clubs and the award-winning blog Openlove101.com. With over 20 years of combined experience in open relationships and coaching thousands of couples, they are here to share with you the trials, tribulations, passion, and positivity of love and the lifestyle.
Episodes
You know what they say, "The only thing constant is change."
And that includes playing with couples in our open marriage. How it started is not how it is today.
How we go about it. What we do while we're playing. The things we think about. The things we do with our partner. What's ok and what's not.
Check it out!
In this episode, John and Jackie explore the concept of transforming negative experiences in the lifestyle into valuable learning opportunities.
The conversation revolves around handling discomfort, setting boundaries, and fostering positive communication within the swinging community.
Reflecting on past experiences, Jackie shares personal insights on the significance of being an advocate for oneself. The discussion touches on the...
Open Relationship Advice: How To Handle Fear & Jealousy
John and Jackie answer a follower submitted question in this week's episode!
In this episode, John and Jackie delve into the intricacies of friendships when one person is in an open relationship.
Courtney shares her expe...
Today we talk about threesomes because they are amazing! What guy (and even lots of gals) doesn't fantasize about a threesome experience?! In fact, it's one of the most popular ways to break into the lifestyle and we'll tell you why in our video!
In this episode, John and Jackie respond to a viewer's question about reconciling religious beliefs with an open relationship.
John and Jackie share their personal journeys o...
In this episode, we answer one of your questions posted in the YouTube comments in one of our videos:
What about the folks you're dating? Do they know about your relationship and how do they fit in? And if there are issues, why did you continue and why not just stop?
A very good series of questions, I might add!
In this episode, John and Jackie discuss the complexities of dealing with uncomfortable boundaries in open relationships.
The episode explores various approaches to handling ...
#116 So what happens when your partner is honest (which of course you want them to be) and they share something with you...
And that honest something makes you sad, makes you angry, makes you scared, or worse.
What do you do now with that?
That's what we talk about today!
#112 A couple asked us the other day if it's bad to fantasize about someone else while being intimate with your partner.
Is that wrong?
Is it cheating?
Is it bad?
Let's dive into this rabbit hole of fantasy talk and where it could go!
In today's episode, John and Jackie explore the topic of being role models in the lifestyle.
Jackie shares her personal journey into non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance ofexploring sexuality with love and breaking free from societal stigmas.
They discuss how beingopen about their experiences has allowed them to become advocates for the lifestyle,encouraging others to prioritize their relationships and embrace new adventures.
Today, John and Jackie discuss red flags to keep in mind when you are looking to meet people in the lifestyle!
From being too direct out the gate to ignoring their boundaries, there are many red flags to look out for when talking to someone.
#113
The other day we did some coaching for a couple who wanted some help with their open relationship.
They had finally found a third person ...
In today’s episode, John and Jackie explore the reasons why non-monogamous relationships may fail.
Listen in as they discus the crucial aspects of communication, consideration of partner’s feelings, managing expectations, and the significance of respecting boundaries.
They also share personal insights and experiences, emphasizing the importance of open and honest discussions in navigating the challenges of consensually non-monogamo...
#111 Ok so you're interested in this consensual non-monogamy thing, but how do you tell your partner about it?
How do you approach the topic and introduce them to CNM without freaking them out?!
Watch this video (perhaps together) and discover how!
#110 We had a comment/question from a couple in an open relationship where the wife is having a much easier time finding play partners than the husband, which led him to ask the question:
#109 When people think Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), many of them think about the exciting and juicy non-monogamy part where you get to have sex with multiple partners. Lots of it. A lot of the time.
But is that true?
Is that what CNM is all about?
Let's explore and discuss that today!
#108 We talk about what to do if someone in a couple is having trouble staying hard during a swinger encounter and address common misconceptions about swingers always having perfect sex.
Since staying hard can be challenging for some men, we discuss ways we can take pressure off our male partners and how sex isn't just all about penetration.
#107 How the heck can I watch my partner with someone else and be ok with it?
This is a very common question for those who are getting into the lifestyle and haven't tried it before. And for some people who do try it, they have negative feelings and wonder how that can dissipate and transform into compersion for their partner.
We talk about all that and more in this video!
#106 We talk a lot about the deep emotional side of swinging - jealousy, fear, etc., so today we'd go the opposite direction and talk about the fun and lighter side of swinging and being in an open relationship.
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