The Parenting Reframe

Inside, they explore:

→ Why "disrespect" is usually dysregulation—and how to respond when your teen talks back, rolls their eyes, or uses a tone you don't appreciate

→ The authority reframe: your job isn't to be right or have power—it's to carry the responsibility of de-escalating, listening, and modeling regulation (even when your teen is losing it)

→ Why connection is the foundation for good behavior, not the reward for it—and wh...

Inside, she explores:

→ The key difference: emotion regulation is top-down (cognitive, in your mind) while nervous system regulation is bottom-up (visceral, in your body)

→ Why nervous system regulation must come first—it's the power source that creates space for emotional regulation (the software) to work

→ Practical tools for regulating your nervous system in the moment: 4-6 count breathing, moving away from the trigger, grounding y...

Inside, they explore:

→ The reframe that changes everything: defiance isn't bad, it's healthy—and spicy kids don't value approval, they value impact, autonomy, and authenticity

→ Why your own unhealed childhood wounds show up in how you parent (especially when your kid reminds you of a parent you struggled with)

→ The Love List: marinating in what's beautiful about your child so you can bring a softened, warm body to the hardest paren...

Inside, Albiona explores:

→ Why it's never the strangers we're afraid of—it's the people we know and love

→ The gremlins that told her she was "too old" for TikTok and "too much" for sharing her truth (and what happened when she did it anyway)

→ Why we'll always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven—and how to establish safety from within instead

→ How resistance and fear are actually pointing you toward your next breakthrou...

Inside, they explore:

→ The profound realization that stopped her body from conceiving: "I'm terrified to be a mother like my mother had been"

→ How following intuitive nudges (even when they don't make logical sense) changed the entire trajectory of her life

→ Why premarital coaching at 23 was the catalyst for decades of transformative personal growth

→ The sacred travel experience in Ireland that unlocked this truth: "You are a woma...

Inside, they explore:

→ Why "first build a better box" before thinking outside of it—and how this applies to parenting, business, and creative work

→ The liberating power of "you can have whatever you want, provided you get it for yourself"

→ How Judith's mother gave her permission to be entrepreneurial from childhood (breeding guinea pigs, collecting junk, understanding "the power of the purse")

→ Why trusting your intuition is a skil...

Inside, Albiona explores:

→ Why "letting go isn't the hard part—it's staying" applies to both life changes and daily parenting moments

→ The four reaction types parents default to when boundaries get tested: punisher, adjuster, panicker, and avoider

→ Why we desperately seek agreement when we set boundaries (and why we don't actually need it)

→ How to stop over-explaining to your kids—and to yourself

→ What it looks like to parent yours...

Inside, Albiona explores:

• Why kids (and adults) get stuck in "right vs. wrong" thinking
• What to say when your child spirals after a choice
• Why avoiding decisions won’t help build confidence
• Why “holding boundaries” isn’t the same as shutting kids down
• How we confuse calm with control—and what to do instead
• What it looks like to guide without rescuing

She also shares stories from her own classroom teaching days and real coaching c...

From surviving 9/11 to launching multiple category-defining companies, Miki shares how one day shifted her relationship with life, purpose, and doing work that actually matters.

This conversation weaves through:

• What it means to create from soft power instead of hustle culture
• How nature is the ultimate parenting teacher
• Why modern parenthood needs a new paradigm—and how HERO Diapers is leading the charge
• What she teaches her son ab...

If you’re parenting a tween or teen and find yourself thinking,

“They’re old enough to know better — why are we still having these battles?”
...this episode is for you.

Behavioral pushback. Eye rolls. Explosive transitions. Power struggles over iPads, phones, and homework. When our big kids act out, it’s easy to tell ourselves it’s personal—and that they should just “do better.” But that story? It’s keeping you stuck in a pattern that...

What You’ll Learn

• Why your child’s defiance isn’t disrespect — it’s communication.
• How to shift from “fixing your child” to regulating yourself first.
• The power of posture and tone: why sitting down and lowering your voice changes everything.
• How to stop over-talking, over-teaching, and over-correcting — and what to do instead.
• Ways to parent as a team, even when one parent is more reactive.
• How to reframe strong-willed beha...

In this solo episode, Albiona explores one of the most common parenting struggles — reactivity. Whether you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or feeling guilty after the fact, this episode offers a powerful shift.

Albiona walks you through her four-step PARR Process — Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect — to help you regulate your emotions, understand your triggers, and respond with more presence and connection.

She also shares ...

In this heartfelt solo episode, host Albiona Rakipi dives deep into one of the most common (and emotionally triggering) parenting challenges: separation anxiety. But this isn’t your typical advice—this is a powerful reframe.

You’ll learn why children protest when you leave, why dragging out your goodbye actually makes things harder, and how your own guilt might be sending the wrong message—even when you mean well.

Most importantly, t...

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• The key differences between consequences and punishments
• Why kids need consequences to feel safe and learn boundaries
• How punishments often come from a place of reactivity and dysregulation
• The role of natural consequences (like forgetting a water bottle) and logical consequences (thoughtful parent responses)
• Why the boundary itself often is the consequence
• How to implement breaks/resets (in...

In this warm conversation Tembi and Albiona cover:

• How From Scratch began — writing personal grief into a story that reaches others, and how that book later became a Netflix limited series. (Simon & Schuster)
• What “re-nesting” means (replacing the idea of an “empty nest” with a more generative, whole concept) and practical ways parents can prepare emotionally for children leaving home. (People.com)
• The creative process Tembi uses:...

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• The inspiration behind Kids These Days and why Dr. Dobud and Dr. Harper felt compelled to write it.
• The three frameworks of the book: interference, intervention, and ideology—and how they’re shaping modern childhood.
• Why blaming phones and social media is an oversimplification of a much bigger picture.
• The concept of digital integration vs. digital interference—and how parents can approach...

I’m back for another solo episode today after a little bit of a summer break. I gathered some of your most common questions from my workshops, coaching sessions, and social media comments. In this episode I’m walking you through a few of the struggles that share a common thread and giving insight into what makes these things difficult for parents and how to work through them.

Kids Who Don’t Like Losing

• There are a lot of triggers...

In today’s solo episode, I’m answering your questions about how to ensure we don’t raise entitled kids. This is an important question that many of you have asked me on all my platforms. Being entitled can be a very triggering thing for a lot of parents, especially those that grew up without a lot of wealth. We want to teach our kids a sense of gratitude and caring for others. What it really comes down to is teaching kids the abilit...

I get asked all the time about creating content and writing. In this video, I share a few tips on where to start if you don’t consider yourself creative, as well as the three books that changed the way I approach creativity, vulnerability, and fear.

Here are the three books I mentioned:

The Tools and True and False Magic. The Tools is by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels, and True and False Magic is written by Phil Stutz and Elise Loehnen...