August 4, 2020 • 16 mins
In this episode we discuss stationery such as invitations and anything throughout the reception venue. We also discuss gifts for the guests and review Emma's wedding budget to see if she is still on track.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi guys, and welcome to the party ecology experience.
You're here with Marcus andEmma.
We're here today, talking allthings to do with Emma's wedding
, uh, which is coming aroundpretty quick, lots going on,
lots of planning, uh, lots ofthings to think about, which I'm
sure is causing you.
Great anxiety and stress alongwith everything else that's
going on in the world at themoment.
But today we're going to betalking about, uh, stationary,
(00:20):
uh, if you're doing any kind ofstationary, uh, gifts for the
guests, bonbon, URIs, andbudget.
Um, so whereabouts are you inregards to stationary?
I guess you're not having asit-down dinner.
Yours is a cocktail style, soyou don't need to do, um, table
names and all that sort ofstuff.
But is there anything thatyou're doing along these, these
(00:40):
lines or
Speaker 2 (00:42):
So we're not, yeah, we don't really need any of
those sort of things, but we do.
I want to have lots of signage.
So I need signage for signage isa whole new thing, another
thing, but I need signage forgrazing table.
I want really cute littlesayings on it and all that sort
of things.
I want, um, bar many, um, almostsome really cute little sayings
in the bar.
So we all still have lots ofstationary in regards to
(01:02):
signage.
Um, but nothing really, like,I'm not going to have like table
one and table two and people'snames and menus and stuff like
that, but lots of signage andthat sort of respect I'll
definitely have a welcome signand stuff like that as well.
So still lots of signage just,yeah, not even average.
Yeah.
Table number.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
And so have you had to do much research for this or
is it you knew somebody or
Speaker 2 (01:23):
So in regards to what I wanted, I found on Pinterest,
like there's lots of cute littlesayings you can find on
Pinterest.
So like, um, just for example,like alcohol made me do it or
things like that, like justfunny little quirky things or no
party started with the salad orsomething.
There's like cute little sayingshe can have like that.
So I found out to those sort ofthings that I liked.
Um, I do have someone that goingto be using to do all my, um,
invites and signage.
(01:45):
So someone that I knowpersonally, so that person will
be doing the, like across theboard, so everything will match.
So the invites and everythinglike that.
So, yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
And it is good to have that consistency with the
coloring.
It makes planning everything.
If, you know, once you've pickedyour color scheme, if it's in
ties in with all yourinvitations and all that sort of
stuff, it makes life easy,doesn't it?
Yep.
And so, you know, obviously youdon't really need to do a lot,
so it's not causing you a lot ofgreat stress or anything like
that.
You've already found somebody asthe cost been more than you
(02:15):
thought, or it's, it's not agreat cost to you.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
It's not a crazy costume, regardless.
I thing, I didn't think this wasgoing to be a massive part of
the budget.
So it's not something that Ibudgeted crazy amounts for.
I think things to save the cost.
Um, like for example, um, forthe invite I've caught the save
the dates and we'll do, um, soeveryone writes, if they're
coming on, not on a website andsort of old faces sort of cut
(02:39):
down the process a bit than whatyour traditional wedding would
do.
Um, but yeah, that will savecosts, postage and things that
ends up being more expensivethan most of the other things.
So,
Speaker 1 (02:49):
And, uh, I look, I guess, I mean, we've talked
about this in previous episodesabout doing the wedding website
and stuff like that a lot, youknow, it's going to save you a
lot of money if you're not doinga lot of stationary, if you've
lost it.
Yeah.
If you're doing lots of printedstuff, then obviously it really
starts to add up.
And just from a, you know,people are time poor these days.
So if it's convenient to go ontoa website and send electronic,
(03:10):
yes, I'm coming to your weddingrather than have to go get a
stamp and posted, and
Speaker 2 (03:14):
People won't do that.
They'll forget about it.
And I probably end up chasingeveryone at the end.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Yeah.
And so it ends up being a lot ofwork for you it's work for them.
So electronically these days, itis a lot easier and it is nice
to get a, um, you know, awritten invitation in the mail,
but at what expense and, youknow, is it the best experience
for everybody involved to haveto do all that work to send a
yes.
I'm coming to your wedding sortof thing.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Yeah.
Yeah.
So we'll just send the inviteand that's it.
And that will be the only mainthing that we'll be saying.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Yeah.
So I guess in your case, if wemove on to the, the bond
binaries or guest gifts, um,they be guests for sorry, uh,
gifts for your broader party,uh, other potent and important
people in your wedding.
Have you thought much about thatbecause that's definitely going
to cost a lot more than instationary in your case, I
guess.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Yeah, I will.
Um, I'm not quite sure on whatI'll decide to do with this.
I, I want to do something that'slike something that people can
use.
I don't want to have somethingthat people will just throw out.
I want something that will beuseful or they can eat.
Yep.
Fair enough.
You like to eat things.
Yeah.
Um, so I have seen little cute,like little water bottles that
(04:20):
people have had with like little, um, Panadol and Nurofen on the
front saying, you know, um, takeone home with you for tomorrow.
Or just like funny little quickthings like that.
I like things like that.
Or, you know, some people putsucculents in pots and people
take a pot home.
I don't know.
I haven't really thought toomuch into it yet.
I want something not over thetop, but just something that
people can use.
I just hate having to takesomething that you're probably
(04:41):
not gonna use.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
So have you looked around much for this?
Like, or not really?
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I haven't really done much research on how much it's
going to cost you.
I kind of need to sort of workout what I actually want to do
and then work out how much it'sgoing to cost.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Yeah.
Because I guess it can add uppretty quickly if you've got a
hundred plus guests, if you'rebuying a gift for everyone, even
if it's a small gift, even ifit's$5, it still adds up pretty
quickly.
And I'm sure that yeah, mostgifts are probably at least$10.
I'm guessing fairly minimum.
So yeah, you can add up quicklyand some people go all out and
some people just give them percouple.
(05:13):
So depending on your budget andif you've got lots of couples
there and it's something theycan both use at the end of the
day, it's a token, isn't it?
Yeah.
Like everyone understands thatweddings are quite expensive.
So yeah.
It just depends on how much youwant to spend.
Yeah.
So I guess then the next thingwhich that leads into, I guess,
is budget and we've talked aboutbudget before.
(05:34):
Yeah.
And, uh, how are you going withbudget?
Is it becoming painful yet?
Are you really starting to, Iguess, get down to the nitty
gritty.
So like where are you at withyour budget at the moment?
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Well, I'm the budget queen on the budget queen when
it comes to anything.
I do, we are a household budget.
I do every budget of everysingle thing that I have in our
lives.
So I locked doing a budget.
It's just sometimes I don't likewhat the end number is.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
So obviously you're standing to, you've done more
research in the past weeks andyou're starting to realize what
the things are going to costmore than you thought.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I think in my head, I already knew.
And I think I already knew thatit was going to be over what I
thought originally we wouldspend.
And it's not until you putthings down on a piece of paper
or we've got an actually I'veactually got now a full,
organized, a wedding like budgetso I can put it, all the pricing
and everything like that.
So I actually, the lady who'sdoing our stationary has
(06:27):
actually put this together fromher own wedding.
So it's a really good thing touse.
It's a great template.
So I'm using that at the moment.
So I have budgeted what I thinkmost things will cost, I think
are going overboard on somethings.
But I do know some things may bemore so currently I'm spending
about 5,000 over the budget, sothat's not too bad.
And I had already sort of gaugedthat was what was going to
(06:47):
happen, but I just don't want todo
Speaker 1 (06:49):
You got factored in every cost at this point, are
there still more to go?
So it could be potentially a lotmore than
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Things that I haven't, you know, accounted for
that I need to account for.
Like, I haven't done, you know,presents for the bridal party,
like little things that I knowthat they'll end up being
thousands by the time I've addedthem all together.
So I'm trying to cut back on acouple of things.
So instead of spending 15hundreds in the Jaguar, I spend
a thousand, so that saves me500, just little things like
that.
Just trying to cut costs on someof the other things.
(07:16):
Still not skimming on thosethings though.
I really want to make sure I getwhat I need for those particular
points.
But yeah, making sure that Idon't spend the top budget I put
in there at the moment because Iwill be going way over.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
And I guess again comes down to what sort of
wedding do you want what's mostimportant to you, uh, spending
the money on, you know, thethings that are going to make
the difference on the day.
So if we talked about beforeentertainment and dancing and
all that sort of thing, ifthat's super important to you,
you got to make sure your budgetgoes in on that or florals or
your, your thing.
And you want it to look reallynice in regards to flowers and
(07:51):
smells and all that sorts ofthing.
Then you've got to spend themoney on important things like
that.
I know a wedding I did, we did afew years ago for a couple, and
they were big on the party sideof things.
They were having it in a bigmansion down in the morning,
some potential, or that had agreat space, had a tennis court,
big pool, and the bride wantedto be super fun.
(08:13):
And she, uh, she came and sawus.
And at the time when shehappened to come into the
showroom, we had a light updance floor set up and we were
just playing around with it.
And she loved the look of itstraightaway.
I hadn't thought of a lot ofdance for a, for a wedding.
Most people don't.
Uh, but for whatever reason,yeah, she, she saw it and she
got in her head that she wantedit, but it was whether there
could feed him with a budget.
We then talked about differentthings to do with their wedding.
(08:35):
And she said at the venue thatthere was a pool there and she
wanted to put flowers in thepool and she'd being quoted, I
think couple of grand forflowers, just to float in the
pool, which most people wouldn'treally see once it got dark
anyway.
And so she ended up spendingless on the flowers and more on
the dance floor.
And that's where everyone wasfor most of the night, all the
photos were people dancing,having fun.
(08:56):
The flowers I'm sure would havelooked nice, but it wasn't the
best band for her budget.
Probably not.
So, yeah.
And she was so glad to speak toher afterwards, the wedding, she
was so glad because she wantedthat party and she wanted it to
be a bit fun and different atthe end of the night for the
party side of things.
So, you know, not taking awayfrom flowers, I think flowers
are great.
But if your budget is doesn'tallow for, to do that, then you
(09:17):
need to spend the money on thethings that are gonna make the
difference.
Yeah.
So, um, yeah.
So is budget then causing you alot of anxiety or
Speaker 2 (09:26):
It doesn't cause me anxiety.
I just think I'll just raiseshuffle costs.
Cause I do all the budgets foreverything else.
I'll just shuffle costs.
Yeah.
I think, yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Hey your boss up for a raise or something like that
or Rob mum and dad or somethinglike that.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
So I think I am one of those people where I'm like,
I'm not going to be like, thisis my budget and I'm not going
to go over it and I'm going tostick to that and I'm going to
be less on other things.
I think at the end of the day,if you're going to spend a
portion of money like we are.
And I think most people do5,000, 10,000 over.
And I know that sounds like alot, but sometimes I'm like, I
just like, and I don't think in10 years time, I'm not going to
(10:03):
be like, Oh my God, I spent fiveor 10,000 over budget.
I'll be like, how awesome wasour wedding?
And I'm so happy I spend thatextra money.
So my Headspace is like that mypartners is not going to stress
about it.
We've decided that we've madethe decision that we don't talk
budget.
So we make it to the wedding.
Yes.
That's how, that's how you staymarried.
Um, so I think more for the factthat, because I had more of a
really stick idea on how muchthings cost.
(10:25):
I understand where it's, becausehe has no idea how much things
are, tell him how much thingscost.
She's like, you've gotta bejoking.
Yeah.
So it's like, it's one of thosethings.
Like he loves cars and he tellsme he's buying a car part.
And I'm like, how much?
Like, how are you spending thatmuch money on a PA?
And he's like, well, you knowhow much it is.
So, you know, unless youunderstand how much things cost
and he's like, it's not that thewedding's not important to him,
(10:46):
but those things are notimportant to him in the scheme
of things at the moment.
So I think for our lives andmaking sure we stay black going
to get married, we just don'ttalk about budget.
And he's just, I think if itcosts, I think a lot of people
do this.
I know girlfriends have donethis in the past where they've
told the Potter it's 15 and it'sended up being like 18 and you
know what?
They didn't know any different.
They had a great time and it
Speaker 1 (11:08):
That's right.
If it adds to the overallexperience, I'm all for spending
extra money.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
One stupid things.
I think if, if your weddingbudget's 50,000 and you end up
spending 17, I think then youneed to be really thinking
about, are you spending themoney on the things that you
need, but if you spend 50 andit's getting, getting closer to
57 and you really need to havethat particular band or that
particular thing, that's reallyimportant to you, then the extra
money.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
I've been, I mean, doing so many weddings, you know
, being some of the 50 grand andI've been selling the 30 grand
or whatever, and I can tell youjust spending more money,
doesn't always mean it's goingto be a set of party
Speaker 2 (11:42):
And make sure you spend it on the right things and
the things that made the mostfor you because you, you were
the one that's paying for it.
And you're the ones going toenjoy it with all your family
and friends.
And yeah.
Be smart about too though.
Like there is things that peopleI think spend money on, you
know, that it just, it doesn'treally have the end of the day
matter.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
No, no, no people have borrowed money and gone
into debt for their wedding.
Lots have been paying it off 10years later.
And the money that they borrowedto spend on the extra stuff
didn't even make a difference.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
So there's a fine line.
And I think, you know, don't gettoo over the top, you know,
stick to what you think you'recomfortable with spending, you
know, it, at the end of the day,it's not a, it's not a massive
show.
Just, you know, I know there isa whole different type of
broads.
There's brides that want to justdo really casual.
Some that want to, it's just ashow for them.
And they have hundreds ofhundred family members that
they're going to invite, andthis is what they do.
(12:31):
So their biggest thing they doin their whole lives.
So it really depends on whereyou're in the scale, but we
need, you know, you need to becalm and not turn into a broad
dealer.
And you know, this is meant tobe happy, not, uh, aggressive,
nasty,
Speaker 1 (12:44):
And the budget's usually the thing that causes
the most stress.
Yep.
But I guess if you can takeanything out of all this, it's
doing your research, isn't it?
Because this is where you'regetting.
Yeah.
This is where you're getting theshocks where you're going, Oh, I
didn't realize that photographerwas 10 grand or I didn't realize
that the venue is going to costme 20.
And I thought it was only gonnabe 10.
Don't
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Do your budget.
And then she worked out howmuch, these things cost
Speaker 1 (13:04):
A lot of research first work out what's most
important to you for flowers orphotographers or bands or
whatever it is.
Pick those things first, makesure then you can afford those
things and then work outeverything else from there.
But yeah, if you don't do yourresearch, how do you know?
And, and we get, we get it fromour business.
I feel good events.
We get quite often get, you know, quotes for, um, give quotes to
(13:25):
people for decor and styling it.
And they just don't realize theamount of labor and time and
equipment.
And so they get a, do get a bitof a shock sometimes, and then
they cut it back or, orwhatever.
But yeah, again, it's, what'simportant to them and yeah,
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Pinterest, Pinterest and Instagram and stuff like
that.
It's, it's a great resource tofind inspiration, but you also
need to understand that a lot ofthose things that they
personally like through grants,set ups, they cost a lot of
money and time to install.
So, you know, don't get, I wantthat particular fairy light
installation.
The amount of times we've hadpeople send frozen at one
particular fairy, lotinstallation that I want this.
(13:59):
And I'm like, that's probably a$40,000 like custom
installation.
So, you know, you can do thingsin Lux, scale them back and do
something that you know, wouldbe within your budget.
But yeah.
So you've got to be realisticabout some of these things as
well.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
So have you worked out then, I mean, you talked
about a little bit there aboutcost cutting.
Is there certain things that youwould cut out altogether or
you're just not sure at thisstage because you're still doing
it.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
There's nothing I've cut out.
I think it's just working out.
What do I start making lesscutting down?
I don't think, yeah, that'sincorrect.
I think that the thing is, isthat I'm not going overboard.
Like we're not spending, youknow, hundreds of thousand
dollars on a wedding.
So I think we're already doingit on a, quite a decent budget
already.
And I think if I was to startcutting things out, I'd be
(14:44):
leaving big chunks at, or I'd bereally sort of, I'd be taking
away things that are really wantto spend money on.
And I don't want to cut back onflourish because I think that
the budget I've given her isgoing to get what I need and
what I will, the look I want toachieve for me personally, it's
really like, I would be upset.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
And from what you've said, to be honest, most of the
things you've said are at thelower end of the budget, like
you're not being excessive oranything,$3,000 say on flowers
or something like that is very,I'm sure that will tell you from
Fox evergreen that, um, yeah,she would get six, seven, eight,
10, 20, 30,000, like way morethan that.
So, you know, a few thousanddollars is really quite minimum,
(15:23):
um, entertainment.
You sort of, you know, spendingbigger people will spend 10
grand on a band for some, youknow, depending on what they
want.
So
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Compared to what people are spending.
So it's just moving pricingaround.
But I think the budget willdefinitely go over and I've
accepted the fact.
It was more the fact that theother day I was like, I'm
already sitting at the budget.
I thought it would be over.
And I haven't even done a littlething in there.
So I'm like, okay, what am Igoing to start with?
Speaker 1 (15:46):
You don't have to start selling things from your
house.
Yeah.
We'll do spend less than yourinnovation.
It's silly girl.
Try to do renovations andrenovations as a wedding at the
same time.
Yeah.
So obviously we'll be talking alot more about budget.
Cause I think this is a bigthing.
And as we say can cause a lot ofstress for brides and grooms.
Uh, so we'll be talking aboutthat in future podcasts, but
(16:08):
thanks Emma for sharing all thatinsight today and thanks
everyone for listening and we'll, uh, hope to see you in a soon.
Hi guys, and welcome to the party ecology experience.
You're here with Marcus andEmma.
We're here today, talking allthings to do with Emma's wedding
, uh, which is coming aroundpretty quick, lots going on,
lots of planning, uh, lots ofthings to think about, which I'm
sure is causing you.
Great anxiety and stress alongwith everything else that's
going on in the world at themoment.
But today we're going to betalking about, uh, stationary,
(00:20):
uh, if you're doing any kind ofstationary, uh, gifts for the
guests, bonbon, URIs, andbudget.
Um, so whereabouts are you inregards to stationary?
I guess you're not having asit-down dinner.
Yours is a cocktail style, soyou don't need to do, um, table
names and all that sort ofstuff.
But is there anything thatyou're doing along these, these
(00:40):
lines or
Speaker 2 (00:42):
So we're not, yeah, we don't really need any of
those sort of things, but we do.
I want to have lots of signage.
So I need signage for signage isa whole new thing, another
thing, but I need signage forgrazing table.
I want really cute littlesayings on it and all that sort
of things.
I want, um, bar many, um, almostsome really cute little sayings
in the bar.
So we all still have lots ofstationary in regards to
(01:02):
signage.
Um, but nothing really, like,I'm not going to have like table
one and table two and people'snames and menus and stuff like
that, but lots of signage andthat sort of respect I'll
definitely have a welcome signand stuff like that as well.
So still lots of signage just,yeah, not even average.
Yeah.
Table number.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
And so have you had to do much research for this or
is it you knew somebody or
Speaker 2 (01:23):
So in regards to what I wanted, I found on Pinterest,
like there's lots of cute littlesayings you can find on
Pinterest.
So like, um, just for example,like alcohol made me do it or
things like that, like justfunny little quirky things or no
party started with the salad orsomething.
There's like cute little sayingshe can have like that.
So I found out to those sort ofthings that I liked.
Um, I do have someone that goingto be using to do all my, um,
invites and signage.
(01:45):
So someone that I knowpersonally, so that person will
be doing the, like across theboard, so everything will match.
So the invites and everythinglike that.
So, yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
And it is good to have that consistency with the
coloring.
It makes planning everything.
If, you know, once you've pickedyour color scheme, if it's in
ties in with all yourinvitations and all that sort of
stuff, it makes life easy,doesn't it?
Yep.
And so, you know, obviously youdon't really need to do a lot,
so it's not causing you a lot ofgreat stress or anything like
that.
You've already found somebody asthe cost been more than you
(02:15):
thought, or it's, it's not agreat cost to you.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
It's not a crazy costume, regardless.
I thing, I didn't think this wasgoing to be a massive part of
the budget.
So it's not something that Ibudgeted crazy amounts for.
I think things to save the cost.
Um, like for example, um, forthe invite I've caught the save
the dates and we'll do, um, soeveryone writes, if they're
coming on, not on a website andsort of old faces sort of cut
(02:39):
down the process a bit than whatyour traditional wedding would
do.
Um, but yeah, that will savecosts, postage and things that
ends up being more expensivethan most of the other things.
So,
Speaker 1 (02:49):
And, uh, I look, I guess, I mean, we've talked
about this in previous episodesabout doing the wedding website
and stuff like that a lot, youknow, it's going to save you a
lot of money if you're not doinga lot of stationary, if you've
lost it.
Yeah.
If you're doing lots of printedstuff, then obviously it really
starts to add up.
And just from a, you know,people are time poor these days.
So if it's convenient to go ontoa website and send electronic,
(03:10):
yes, I'm coming to your weddingrather than have to go get a
stamp and posted, and
Speaker 2 (03:14):
People won't do that.
They'll forget about it.
And I probably end up chasingeveryone at the end.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Yeah.
And so it ends up being a lot ofwork for you it's work for them.
So electronically these days, itis a lot easier and it is nice
to get a, um, you know, awritten invitation in the mail,
but at what expense and, youknow, is it the best experience
for everybody involved to haveto do all that work to send a
yes.
I'm coming to your wedding sortof thing.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Yeah.
Yeah.
So we'll just send the inviteand that's it.
And that will be the only mainthing that we'll be saying.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Yeah.
So I guess in your case, if wemove on to the, the bond
binaries or guest gifts, um,they be guests for sorry, uh,
gifts for your broader party,uh, other potent and important
people in your wedding.
Have you thought much about thatbecause that's definitely going
to cost a lot more than instationary in your case, I
guess.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Yeah, I will.
Um, I'm not quite sure on whatI'll decide to do with this.
I, I want to do something that'slike something that people can
use.
I don't want to have somethingthat people will just throw out.
I want something that will beuseful or they can eat.
Yep.
Fair enough.
You like to eat things.
Yeah.
Um, so I have seen little cute,like little water bottles that
(04:20):
people have had with like little, um, Panadol and Nurofen on the
front saying, you know, um, takeone home with you for tomorrow.
Or just like funny little quickthings like that.
I like things like that.
Or, you know, some people putsucculents in pots and people
take a pot home.
I don't know.
I haven't really thought toomuch into it yet.
I want something not over thetop, but just something that
people can use.
I just hate having to takesomething that you're probably
(04:41):
not gonna use.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
So have you looked around much for this?
Like, or not really?
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I haven't really done much research on how much it's
going to cost you.
I kind of need to sort of workout what I actually want to do
and then work out how much it'sgoing to cost.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Yeah.
Because I guess it can add uppretty quickly if you've got a
hundred plus guests, if you'rebuying a gift for everyone, even
if it's a small gift, even ifit's$5, it still adds up pretty
quickly.
And I'm sure that yeah, mostgifts are probably at least$10.
I'm guessing fairly minimum.
So yeah, you can add up quicklyand some people go all out and
some people just give them percouple.
(05:13):
So depending on your budget andif you've got lots of couples
there and it's something theycan both use at the end of the
day, it's a token, isn't it?
Yeah.
Like everyone understands thatweddings are quite expensive.
So yeah.
It just depends on how much youwant to spend.
Yeah.
So I guess then the next thingwhich that leads into, I guess,
is budget and we've talked aboutbudget before.
(05:34):
Yeah.
And, uh, how are you going withbudget?
Is it becoming painful yet?
Are you really starting to, Iguess, get down to the nitty
gritty.
So like where are you at withyour budget at the moment?
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Well, I'm the budget queen on the budget queen when
it comes to anything.
I do, we are a household budget.
I do every budget of everysingle thing that I have in our
lives.
So I locked doing a budget.
It's just sometimes I don't likewhat the end number is.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
So obviously you're standing to, you've done more
research in the past weeks andyou're starting to realize what
the things are going to costmore than you thought.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I think in my head, I already knew.
And I think I already knew thatit was going to be over what I
thought originally we wouldspend.
And it's not until you putthings down on a piece of paper
or we've got an actually I'veactually got now a full,
organized, a wedding like budgetso I can put it, all the pricing
and everything like that.
So I actually, the lady who'sdoing our stationary has
(06:27):
actually put this together fromher own wedding.
So it's a really good thing touse.
It's a great template.
So I'm using that at the moment.
So I have budgeted what I thinkmost things will cost, I think
are going overboard on somethings.
But I do know some things may bemore so currently I'm spending
about 5,000 over the budget, sothat's not too bad.
And I had already sort of gaugedthat was what was going to
(06:47):
happen, but I just don't want todo
Speaker 1 (06:49):
You got factored in every cost at this point, are
there still more to go?
So it could be potentially a lotmore than
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Things that I haven't, you know, accounted for
that I need to account for.
Like, I haven't done, you know,presents for the bridal party,
like little things that I knowthat they'll end up being
thousands by the time I've addedthem all together.
So I'm trying to cut back on acouple of things.
So instead of spending 15hundreds in the Jaguar, I spend
a thousand, so that saves me500, just little things like
that.
Just trying to cut costs on someof the other things.
(07:16):
Still not skimming on thosethings though.
I really want to make sure I getwhat I need for those particular
points.
But yeah, making sure that Idon't spend the top budget I put
in there at the moment because Iwill be going way over.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
And I guess again comes down to what sort of
wedding do you want what's mostimportant to you, uh, spending
the money on, you know, thethings that are going to make
the difference on the day.
So if we talked about beforeentertainment and dancing and
all that sort of thing, ifthat's super important to you,
you got to make sure your budgetgoes in on that or florals or
your, your thing.
And you want it to look reallynice in regards to flowers and
(07:51):
smells and all that sorts ofthing.
Then you've got to spend themoney on important things like
that.
I know a wedding I did, we did afew years ago for a couple, and
they were big on the party sideof things.
They were having it in a bigmansion down in the morning,
some potential, or that had agreat space, had a tennis court,
big pool, and the bride wantedto be super fun.
(08:13):
And she, uh, she came and sawus.
And at the time when shehappened to come into the
showroom, we had a light updance floor set up and we were
just playing around with it.
And she loved the look of itstraightaway.
I hadn't thought of a lot ofdance for a, for a wedding.
Most people don't.
Uh, but for whatever reason,yeah, she, she saw it and she
got in her head that she wantedit, but it was whether there
could feed him with a budget.
We then talked about differentthings to do with their wedding.
(08:35):
And she said at the venue thatthere was a pool there and she
wanted to put flowers in thepool and she'd being quoted, I
think couple of grand forflowers, just to float in the
pool, which most people wouldn'treally see once it got dark
anyway.
And so she ended up spendingless on the flowers and more on
the dance floor.
And that's where everyone wasfor most of the night, all the
photos were people dancing,having fun.
(08:56):
The flowers I'm sure would havelooked nice, but it wasn't the
best band for her budget.
Probably not.
So, yeah.
And she was so glad to speak toher afterwards, the wedding, she
was so glad because she wantedthat party and she wanted it to
be a bit fun and different atthe end of the night for the
party side of things.
So, you know, not taking awayfrom flowers, I think flowers
are great.
But if your budget is doesn'tallow for, to do that, then you
(09:17):
need to spend the money on thethings that are gonna make the
difference.
Yeah.
So, um, yeah.
So is budget then causing you alot of anxiety or
Speaker 2 (09:26):
It doesn't cause me anxiety.
I just think I'll just raiseshuffle costs.
Cause I do all the budgets foreverything else.
I'll just shuffle costs.
Yeah.
I think, yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Hey your boss up for a raise or something like that
or Rob mum and dad or somethinglike that.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
So I think I am one of those people where I'm like,
I'm not going to be like, thisis my budget and I'm not going
to go over it and I'm going tostick to that and I'm going to
be less on other things.
I think at the end of the day,if you're going to spend a
portion of money like we are.
And I think most people do5,000, 10,000 over.
And I know that sounds like alot, but sometimes I'm like, I
just like, and I don't think in10 years time, I'm not going to
(10:03):
be like, Oh my God, I spent fiveor 10,000 over budget.
I'll be like, how awesome wasour wedding?
And I'm so happy I spend thatextra money.
So my Headspace is like that mypartners is not going to stress
about it.
We've decided that we've madethe decision that we don't talk
budget.
So we make it to the wedding.
Yes.
That's how, that's how you staymarried.
Um, so I think more for the factthat, because I had more of a
really stick idea on how muchthings cost.
(10:25):
I understand where it's, becausehe has no idea how much things
are, tell him how much thingscost.
She's like, you've gotta bejoking.
Yeah.
So it's like, it's one of thosethings.
Like he loves cars and he tellsme he's buying a car part.
And I'm like, how much?
Like, how are you spending thatmuch money on a PA?
And he's like, well, you knowhow much it is.
So, you know, unless youunderstand how much things cost
and he's like, it's not that thewedding's not important to him,
(10:46):
but those things are notimportant to him in the scheme
of things at the moment.
So I think for our lives andmaking sure we stay black going
to get married, we just don'ttalk about budget.
And he's just, I think if itcosts, I think a lot of people
do this.
I know girlfriends have donethis in the past where they've
told the Potter it's 15 and it'sended up being like 18 and you
know what?
They didn't know any different.
They had a great time and it
Speaker 1 (11:08):
That's right.
If it adds to the overallexperience, I'm all for spending
extra money.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
One stupid things.
I think if, if your weddingbudget's 50,000 and you end up
spending 17, I think then youneed to be really thinking
about, are you spending themoney on the things that you
need, but if you spend 50 andit's getting, getting closer to
57 and you really need to havethat particular band or that
particular thing, that's reallyimportant to you, then the extra
money.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
I've been, I mean, doing so many weddings, you know
, being some of the 50 grand andI've been selling the 30 grand
or whatever, and I can tell youjust spending more money,
doesn't always mean it's goingto be a set of party
Speaker 2 (11:42):
And make sure you spend it on the right things and
the things that made the mostfor you because you, you were
the one that's paying for it.
And you're the ones going toenjoy it with all your family
and friends.
And yeah.
Be smart about too though.
Like there is things that peopleI think spend money on, you
know, that it just, it doesn'treally have the end of the day
matter.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
No, no, no people have borrowed money and gone
into debt for their wedding.
Lots have been paying it off 10years later.
And the money that they borrowedto spend on the extra stuff
didn't even make a difference.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
So there's a fine line.
And I think, you know, don't gettoo over the top, you know,
stick to what you think you'recomfortable with spending, you
know, it, at the end of the day,it's not a, it's not a massive
show.
Just, you know, I know there isa whole different type of
broads.
There's brides that want to justdo really casual.
Some that want to, it's just ashow for them.
And they have hundreds ofhundred family members that
they're going to invite, andthis is what they do.
(12:31):
So their biggest thing they doin their whole lives.
So it really depends on whereyou're in the scale, but we
need, you know, you need to becalm and not turn into a broad
dealer.
And you know, this is meant tobe happy, not, uh, aggressive,
nasty,
Speaker 1 (12:44):
And the budget's usually the thing that causes
the most stress.
Yep.
But I guess if you can takeanything out of all this, it's
doing your research, isn't it?
Because this is where you'regetting.
Yeah.
This is where you're getting theshocks where you're going, Oh, I
didn't realize that photographerwas 10 grand or I didn't realize
that the venue is going to costme 20.
And I thought it was only gonnabe 10.
Don't
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Do your budget.
And then she worked out howmuch, these things cost
Speaker 1 (13:04):
A lot of research first work out what's most
important to you for flowers orphotographers or bands or
whatever it is.
Pick those things first, makesure then you can afford those
things and then work outeverything else from there.
But yeah, if you don't do yourresearch, how do you know?
And, and we get, we get it fromour business.
I feel good events.
We get quite often get, you know, quotes for, um, give quotes to
(13:25):
people for decor and styling it.
And they just don't realize theamount of labor and time and
equipment.
And so they get a, do get a bitof a shock sometimes, and then
they cut it back or, orwhatever.
But yeah, again, it's, what'simportant to them and yeah,
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Pinterest, Pinterest and Instagram and stuff like
that.
It's, it's a great resource tofind inspiration, but you also
need to understand that a lot ofthose things that they
personally like through grants,set ups, they cost a lot of
money and time to install.
So, you know, don't get, I wantthat particular fairy light
installation.
The amount of times we've hadpeople send frozen at one
particular fairy, lotinstallation that I want this.
(13:59):
And I'm like, that's probably a$40,000 like custom
installation.
So, you know, you can do thingsin Lux, scale them back and do
something that you know, wouldbe within your budget.
But yeah.
So you've got to be realisticabout some of these things as
well.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
So have you worked out then, I mean, you talked
about a little bit there aboutcost cutting.
Is there certain things that youwould cut out altogether or
you're just not sure at thisstage because you're still doing
it.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
There's nothing I've cut out.
I think it's just working out.
What do I start making lesscutting down?
I don't think, yeah, that'sincorrect.
I think that the thing is, isthat I'm not going overboard.
Like we're not spending, youknow, hundreds of thousand
dollars on a wedding.
So I think we're already doingit on a, quite a decent budget
already.
And I think if I was to startcutting things out, I'd be
(14:44):
leaving big chunks at, or I'd bereally sort of, I'd be taking
away things that are really wantto spend money on.
And I don't want to cut back onflourish because I think that
the budget I've given her isgoing to get what I need and
what I will, the look I want toachieve for me personally, it's
really like, I would be upset.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
And from what you've said, to be honest, most of the
things you've said are at thelower end of the budget, like
you're not being excessive oranything,$3,000 say on flowers
or something like that is very,I'm sure that will tell you from
Fox evergreen that, um, yeah,she would get six, seven, eight,
10, 20, 30,000, like way morethan that.
So, you know, a few thousanddollars is really quite minimum,
(15:23):
um, entertainment.
You sort of, you know, spendingbigger people will spend 10
grand on a band for some, youknow, depending on what they
want.
So
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Compared to what people are spending.
So it's just moving pricingaround.
But I think the budget willdefinitely go over and I've
accepted the fact.
It was more the fact that theother day I was like, I'm
already sitting at the budget.
I thought it would be over.
And I haven't even done a littlething in there.
So I'm like, okay, what am Igoing to start with?
Speaker 1 (15:46):
You don't have to start selling things from your
house.
Yeah.
We'll do spend less than yourinnovation.
It's silly girl.
Try to do renovations andrenovations as a wedding at the
same time.
Yeah.
So obviously we'll be talking alot more about budget.
Cause I think this is a bigthing.
And as we say can cause a lot ofstress for brides and grooms.
Uh, so we'll be talking aboutthat in future podcasts, but
(16:08):
thanks Emma for sharing all thatinsight today and thanks
everyone for listening and we'll, uh, hope to see you in a soon.
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