February 12, 2025 • 16 mins
Hey Mama!
In this episode, we dive into the powerful practice of setting healthy boundaries as a mom, and how it can help you grow in biblical confidence. If you're tired of feeling overwhelmed and stretched too thin, this episode is for you! I share personal insights and practical tips on how to say no without guilt, prioritize your time, and avoid burnout—while still honoring God and your family. Learn how setting boundaries can bring peace to your life, help you serve joyfully, and allow you to show up where you’re truly needed. Whether you're struggling with people-pleasing or simply want to be more intentional in your mom life, this episode will encourage you to take control of your time and embrace your role with confidence. Take a listen.
Did this episode bless you? Send a quick message—I may share it next episode!
More FREE Resources:
FREE Community: https://bit.ly/buildingconfidenceforchristianmoms
Become a Restored Mind Insider: https://restoredmindllc.myflodesk.com/insider
Work with me
Book your 1:1 call:- https://calendly.com/restoredmind
Ways You Can Give Back:
Leave A Review On Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-restored-mind-faith-building-self-doubt/id1654768629
I'm excited to connect with you! Remember, you can do hard things!
"I can do all things through Him who strengthens me"- Philippians 4:13
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
(00:00):
In today's episode.
We are going to be talking aboutsetting boundaries.
Yes, Mama, you have to sethealthy boundaries.
If you want to grow your faithand to be more intentional as a
mom, you're going to absolutelylove this episode because it's
going to help you gain biblicalconfidence.
And you're going to learn to letgo of the guilt that comes with
(00:23):
saying no, all of that andbiblical on today's episode.
Hey mama.
You're in the right place.
If you're ready to getGod-centered confidence, it's
time for you to shine throughall the seasons that mom life
(00:43):
brings.
Having unshakeable confidencecomes from an unshakeable.
God, so let's get to know himtogether.
My friend, my name is CarolineThao.
I am host for the restored mind.
I am also a biblical confidencecoach where I teach you how to
get confidence throughscripture.
(01:03):
Let's start building thatframework for you so that you
can begin to thrive.
Are you ready?
Grab your Bible break out thatjournal and get something to
write with.
Let's go.
I want to personally invite you.
Yes.
(01:24):
You into my free community.
It's growing it filled withmamas, just like you who want to
build confidence that last.
Come and connect with me beyondthe podcast and make new friends
along the way.
By free community is one of theways that I help you grow God,
centered confidence, becausethere are daily posts in that
group that keeps you focused andchallenges that are going to
(01:48):
stretch you.
So don't do this alone becauseyou're not meant to.
Come and join us at buildingconfidence through scripture for
Christian moms.
I've linked it in the show notesfor you for ease of access,
friend, I can't wait to see youthere.
I don't know about you, but Iused to be a people pleaser,
(02:10):
someone who always said yes,because.
I didn't want to disappointanybody.
And I also didn't want todisappoint myself.
So I got stuck in the cycle ofsaying yes all the time.
One are the places where Istruggled to set boundaries was
volunteering at church.
I know it sounds so bad, buthonestly that is where a lot of
(02:32):
my saying yes or people pleasinghappened.
There were so many placesoutside of church where I
struggled to say no.
But church was definitely alearning curve for me, because
there were so many thingsinvolved in that I struggled to
say no with volunteering becauseI had mentioned it that I didn't
want to disappoint anyoneearlier, but.
(02:54):
There was a, another layer tothat.
And it was the inner guilt, theinside guilt that I had, Which
stemmed from the thought that ifI didn't serve in the church I
was going to somehow disappoint.
God.
I said it.
I know it sounds silly, but thatis truly what happened in my
mind.
(03:15):
It's so every time someone askedme if I could cover a weekend or
spend extra time somewhere, Iwould just say yes, even if I
knew that was going to set meback on the day that I had
planned outside of what wasalready pre-planned.
I had no idea how much that wasactually going to affect me
later on.
(03:35):
You could say that I have littleto no boundaries.
And because of that, I gotburned out.
And then I didn't know how tovoice that.
So it was kind of a double-edgedsword got burnt-out, I, didn't
know how to voice it.
And so it just continued tofester.
Let me just clarify before Icontinue that I do believe that
as someone who has a homechurch, there are certain
(03:57):
responsibilities.
To be proactive in thecommunity, but I also think that
there needs to be a healthyboundary or healthy balance so
that you don't get burnt out andbegan to resent the people that
you're serving or to simply losethe want and the excitement to
be there and serve the communitythat you're in.
(04:19):
So with that out of the way.
Yes.
I had absolutely no boundarieswhen it came to serving in the
church.
That was a mix of me not wantingto disappoint the people that I
served with, but also it stemmedfrom the thought process that if
I didn't show up, I was going tosomehow disappoint God Now, with
experience., I knew that servingwas going to feel good
(04:40):
afterwards and that people weregoing to benefit from that.
In a way that was going to helpthem, however, When I did that,
it actually cut into my scheduleand all of the things that were
already on my plate.
Which made me feel extremelyoverwhelmed by all the other
things that I had to do.
Now you might not strugglesetting boundaries when it comes
to volunteering at a church likeI did.
(05:03):
But I still believe this episodeis going to be incredibly
helpful for you.
in other areas of your life,where you're having trouble
setting boundaries, especiallyas a mom.
The more that I talked to.
My mamas was the more I realizedthat they love serving and
helping others just as much asthey love.
Nurturing their family and bethere for their family.
(05:24):
And so what often happens isthey say yes to so many things
and then they get stretched out.
way too thin and it just feellike there's too much happening
around them.
But once you have theseboundaries up and your firm on
these boundaries, it is going tobe so much easier for you to be
in the places and the spacesthat you want to be in that you
(05:45):
would joyfully serve in.
I'm going to share with youthree very good reasons.
why you should be settingboundaries.
So consider them your mindsetbreakthrough.
And the first one is that.
when you set healthy boundaries,it is going to help you create a
positive space for you todecompress.
Everybody needs to decompress.
(06:07):
It gives you time to withdraw.
And decompressing is a reallygood thing because it keeps you
from feeling overwhelmed fromlashing, out on other people for
being frustrated and justoverstimulated.
It's also going to.
Relieve you of getting burnt outyour mindset and attitude
towards the thing that you'resaying yes to is eventually
(06:29):
going to become filled withresentment.
If you do not set up healthyboundaries and it's going to
ultimately feel like a chore,which we don't want to do,
especially.
When we want to serve with ajoyful heart Creating a healthy
boundary means you have to sayno at times.
Or at least respect theschedules that your family has.
(06:52):
So a great way to do this isbefore you say yes.
Think about what's coming up inyour week.
It's so easy to say yes.
When someone comes up to you inperson to ask if you're
available to fill in for someoneon a certain day, or if you're
able to help them with somethingor be somewhere But before you
say yes.
(07:13):
Think about what's coming up inthe week, Consider your family
schedule.
And the reason why I'msuggesting this is because it's
going to help you pause for amoment and really think about
where you want to show up andserve joyfully.
I think that it's also a reallygood time for you to learn how
to navigate through aconversation that might be.
(07:33):
Intimidating in a way where youfeel like you're being forced to
say yes, because they're rightthere in front of you asking if
you're able to help them.
But., what I personally like todo is to let them know that I'm
going to check in with myhusband first.
So.
I can't give them an answerright away, but I would reach
(07:54):
back out later in the day to letthem know if I'm available or
not.
That way, it gives me time tothink about where I want to show
up that week.
And the really cool thing aboutthis is that when you do this,
when you put this into practice,you are.
Setting authority over yourtime.
And you're letting the peopleknow that your time is a
(08:16):
valuable and precious and youwant to protect it and use it
with wisdom by serving Godfirst, your family, and then
other things afterwards.
So yes, you want to make timefor God.
You want to make time to bethere for your family.
And then whatever's left overthat.
You're able to spare withoutgetting burnt out.
(08:38):
You are more than welcome.
To put it wherever you want.
Jesus has such a great exampleto look at because he is a
wonderful leader in Matthewchapter 14, 23, Jesus dismisses
the crowd after he's taughtthem.
And he went up to the mountainto pray.
We also see in Luke.
That he went away by himself atnight to pray.
(09:00):
And it's just a wonderfulexample that it is such a good
idea for us to set boundaries sothat we can decompress and be
silent with God.
And be in his presence so thatwe don't become overwhelmed, but
all the worldly things.
The second reason to be settingboundaries is because it'll help
(09:21):
you prioritize your time.
Well, meaning it's going toteach you how to steward your
time.
That means you are in control ofwhere you choose to show up?
for the most part anyway,because life sometimes happens.
I mean, it's happening all thetime.
I guess what I'm trying to sayhere is that life throws lemons
at you and you might not be ableto control.
Where you're at in the day.
(09:42):
And that's okay, because we aregoing to take it at face value
for what it is and make the bestof it.
Maybe your child got sick andyou're not able to go And be
where you originally wanted tobe.
But let's also not forget thatthese things happen and it
teaches us to slow down.
And to love better.
which we are going to touch on.
(10:03):
in just a couple of minuteshere.
When you learn to say no and setthese healthy boundaries, you
are staying focused on the taskthat has been given you, you are
stewarding your time.
Well, everything that you do.
Think of it as you going to workfor God.
So whether that's you'renurturing your kids at home.
Discipling them working in yourmarriage, serving your family,
(10:27):
volunteering, going to work,everything that you do, you're
going to work for God.
And that alone just levels upthe sense of responsibility that
has been given to you.
So my friend steward your time.
Well, by being intentional, whenyou're thinking about where you
want to show up and work.
It is so imperative.
(10:49):
And I'm going to keep repeatingmyself in this episode that you
set healthy boundaries The lastpoint is probably my favorite
one, because it was the biggestlesson I learned, which is it is
going to teach you to loveothers.
Well, Yes.
I know it doesn't feel like itin the moment when you're
setting boundaries.
And you're saying no to thethings that you don't quite want
(11:13):
to commit yourself to becauseyou want to show up in other
places.
It doesn't feel like you'reloving them.
Right.
It feels like you've let themdown that you've probably
disappointed them.
You're probably disappointingyourself as well.
But my friend loving otherswell, does not always mean that
you do everything for them.
Even though that is how we wantto show our love to them.
(11:35):
We just simply cannot doeverything for them or with
them.
This is a great opportunity toplug in a little side note.
And that is just because youtell someone no.
It doesn't mean you love themany less or that it's a no
forever.
Sometimes it just means a no fornow, but like I said earlier,
(11:57):
You have to steward your time.
Well, and that comes withsetting boundaries.
When you set boundaries, you'retelling the other person and
even yourself, what your limitsare.
You are acknowledging what isokay.
And what isn't.
You are not being selfish.
You're not being mean.
You are simply prioritizing.
You're keeping a healthyboundary so that you can show
(12:18):
love.
In a loving way without feelingoverwhelmed and burned out,
loving each other is often takenout of context in a way that
means that we have to give,give, give, but let's change
that.
Let's change that mindset andmake it a habit to be okay with
saying no from time to time, asyou are setting healthy
boundaries.
(12:39):
Because as a mom, it is in yournature to want to nurture your
kids.
it is your nature to want tobuild a home.
That is comfortable andwelcoming and inviting.
And peaceful for your family.
so as you are setting theseboundaries and making these
healthy habits become a thingfor you.
(13:00):
You're not loving anybody anyless.
As a matter of fact, you'reactually protecting your peace
of mind.
You're protecting your kidsbecause you're going to be there
when you say you're going to bethere.
This is the perfect opportunityfor me to inject some
encouragement for you, mama.
As you're setting up theseboundaries, don't be afraid to
say no.
(13:20):
Yes.
You might get some pushback fromothers who might be used to you
say yes all of the time.
But remember that when you startto say no, it is going to feel a
little bit awkward at first, butit is also going to be such a
game changer for you.
I hope that you hear me.
When I say this, you can stillhonor God.
When you set boundaries, lastingconfidence, doesn't come from
(13:44):
what you can do.
That is why it's so importantfor you to get out of the
mindset or think that if you sayno, you're letting others down.
As a matter of fact, when youdon't set boundaries at allows
more distractions to come intoyour life and take up the space
that you have in the day.
And that is not the goal.
(14:05):
All right.
So to recap this episode, whenyou set boundaries, You get, God
centered a confidence bycreating positive space for you
to decompress.
It's going to give you time towithdraw and decompress, which
is a good thing.
Creating a healthy boundarymeans.
You have to say no at timeswhere respect the schedule that
your family has, and yes, evenyou.
(14:25):
A great way to do this is beforeyou say yes.
Think about what's coming up inyour week and consider, saying
no in that moment, even thoughyou really want to say yes, I
consider saying no, let themknow that you'll check back in
with them.
If you can make that timecommitment to be there.
We also talked about how it wasgonna help you prioritize.
(14:47):
and steward your time.
Well, you are in control whenyou choose to show up most of
the time.
When you learn to say no, andset healthy boundaries, you are
staying focused on the task thathas been given you and you
steward your time.
Well, by being intentional, whenyou're thinking about where you
want to show up and where youwant to work.
(15:07):
and lastly, we touched on howit's going to teach you to love
others.
Well, loving others.
Well, doesn't always mean thatyou do everything for them,
right?
It's not being selfish.
You're not selfish when you sayno, you're not being mean.
You are simply prioritizing.
Remember?
No is not a no forever.
It just means no for now.
(15:28):
And so make it a habit to beokay with saying no from time to
time.
I know my friend.
It can be hard, especially whenyou are a yes person, but my
friend, you can do hard things.
Hi everybody if you liked thisepisode, leave my mommy.
(15:51):
a five star review on applepodcasts Thank you so much.
have a nice day.
All right.
My friend, you heard her.
Thank you so much for taking thetime to leave that review on
apple podcasts.
It brings me so much joy hearingfrom you, sadly.
This is where we part ways, butI can't wait to be back on
Wednesday to have anotherwonderful conversation with you.
(16:15):
My friend go in peace.
In today's episode.
We are going to be talking aboutsetting boundaries.
Yes, Mama, you have to sethealthy boundaries.
If you want to grow your faithand to be more intentional as a
mom, you're going to absolutelylove this episode because it's
going to help you gain biblicalconfidence.
And you're going to learn to letgo of the guilt that comes with
(00:23):
saying no, all of that andbiblical on today's episode.
Hey mama.
You're in the right place.
If you're ready to getGod-centered confidence, it's
time for you to shine throughall the seasons that mom life
(00:43):
brings.
Having unshakeable confidencecomes from an unshakeable.
God, so let's get to know himtogether.
My friend, my name is CarolineThao.
I am host for the restored mind.
I am also a biblical confidencecoach where I teach you how to
get confidence throughscripture.
(01:03):
Let's start building thatframework for you so that you
can begin to thrive.
Are you ready?
Grab your Bible break out thatjournal and get something to
write with.
Let's go.
I want to personally invite you.
Yes.
(01:24):
You into my free community.
It's growing it filled withmamas, just like you who want to
build confidence that last.
Come and connect with me beyondthe podcast and make new friends
along the way.
By free community is one of theways that I help you grow God,
centered confidence, becausethere are daily posts in that
group that keeps you focused andchallenges that are going to
(01:48):
stretch you.
So don't do this alone becauseyou're not meant to.
Come and join us at buildingconfidence through scripture for
Christian moms.
I've linked it in the show notesfor you for ease of access,
friend, I can't wait to see youthere.
I don't know about you, but Iused to be a people pleaser,
(02:10):
someone who always said yes,because.
I didn't want to disappointanybody.
And I also didn't want todisappoint myself.
So I got stuck in the cycle ofsaying yes all the time.
One are the places where Istruggled to set boundaries was
volunteering at church.
I know it sounds so bad, buthonestly that is where a lot of
(02:32):
my saying yes or people pleasinghappened.
There were so many placesoutside of church where I
struggled to say no.
But church was definitely alearning curve for me, because
there were so many thingsinvolved in that I struggled to
say no with volunteering becauseI had mentioned it that I didn't
want to disappoint anyoneearlier, but.
(02:54):
There was a, another layer tothat.
And it was the inner guilt, theinside guilt that I had, Which
stemmed from the thought that ifI didn't serve in the church I
was going to somehow disappoint.
God.
I said it.
I know it sounds silly, but thatis truly what happened in my
mind.
(03:15):
It's so every time someone askedme if I could cover a weekend or
spend extra time somewhere, Iwould just say yes, even if I
knew that was going to set meback on the day that I had
planned outside of what wasalready pre-planned.
I had no idea how much that wasactually going to affect me
later on.
(03:35):
You could say that I have littleto no boundaries.
And because of that, I gotburned out.
And then I didn't know how tovoice that.
So it was kind of a double-edgedsword got burnt-out, I, didn't
know how to voice it.
And so it just continued tofester.
Let me just clarify before Icontinue that I do believe that
as someone who has a homechurch, there are certain
(03:57):
responsibilities.
To be proactive in thecommunity, but I also think that
there needs to be a healthyboundary or healthy balance so
that you don't get burnt out andbegan to resent the people that
you're serving or to simply losethe want and the excitement to
be there and serve the communitythat you're in.
(04:19):
So with that out of the way.
Yes.
I had absolutely no boundarieswhen it came to serving in the
church.
That was a mix of me not wantingto disappoint the people that I
served with, but also it stemmedfrom the thought process that if
I didn't show up, I was going tosomehow disappoint God Now, with
experience., I knew that servingwas going to feel good
(04:40):
afterwards and that people weregoing to benefit from that.
In a way that was going to helpthem, however, When I did that,
it actually cut into my scheduleand all of the things that were
already on my plate.
Which made me feel extremelyoverwhelmed by all the other
things that I had to do.
Now you might not strugglesetting boundaries when it comes
to volunteering at a church likeI did.
(05:03):
But I still believe this episodeis going to be incredibly
helpful for you.
in other areas of your life,where you're having trouble
setting boundaries, especiallyas a mom.
The more that I talked to.
My mamas was the more I realizedthat they love serving and
helping others just as much asthey love.
Nurturing their family and bethere for their family.
(05:24):
And so what often happens isthey say yes to so many things
and then they get stretched out.
way too thin and it just feellike there's too much happening
around them.
But once you have theseboundaries up and your firm on
these boundaries, it is going tobe so much easier for you to be
in the places and the spacesthat you want to be in that you
(05:45):
would joyfully serve in.
I'm going to share with youthree very good reasons.
why you should be settingboundaries.
So consider them your mindsetbreakthrough.
And the first one is that.
when you set healthy boundaries,it is going to help you create a
positive space for you todecompress.
Everybody needs to decompress.
(06:07):
It gives you time to withdraw.
And decompressing is a reallygood thing because it keeps you
from feeling overwhelmed fromlashing, out on other people for
being frustrated and justoverstimulated.
It's also going to.
Relieve you of getting burnt outyour mindset and attitude
towards the thing that you'resaying yes to is eventually
(06:29):
going to become filled withresentment.
If you do not set up healthyboundaries and it's going to
ultimately feel like a chore,which we don't want to do,
especially.
When we want to serve with ajoyful heart Creating a healthy
boundary means you have to sayno at times.
Or at least respect theschedules that your family has.
(06:52):
So a great way to do this isbefore you say yes.
Think about what's coming up inyour week.
It's so easy to say yes.
When someone comes up to you inperson to ask if you're
available to fill in for someoneon a certain day, or if you're
able to help them with somethingor be somewhere But before you
say yes.
(07:13):
Think about what's coming up inthe week, Consider your family
schedule.
And the reason why I'msuggesting this is because it's
going to help you pause for amoment and really think about
where you want to show up andserve joyfully.
I think that it's also a reallygood time for you to learn how
to navigate through aconversation that might be.
(07:33):
Intimidating in a way where youfeel like you're being forced to
say yes, because they're rightthere in front of you asking if
you're able to help them.
But., what I personally like todo is to let them know that I'm
going to check in with myhusband first.
So.
I can't give them an answerright away, but I would reach
(07:54):
back out later in the day to letthem know if I'm available or
not.
That way, it gives me time tothink about where I want to show
up that week.
And the really cool thing aboutthis is that when you do this,
when you put this into practice,you are.
Setting authority over yourtime.
And you're letting the peopleknow that your time is a
(08:16):
valuable and precious and youwant to protect it and use it
with wisdom by serving Godfirst, your family, and then
other things afterwards.
So yes, you want to make timefor God.
You want to make time to bethere for your family.
And then whatever's left overthat.
You're able to spare withoutgetting burnt out.
(08:38):
You are more than welcome.
To put it wherever you want.
Jesus has such a great exampleto look at because he is a
wonderful leader in Matthewchapter 14, 23, Jesus dismisses
the crowd after he's taughtthem.
And he went up to the mountainto pray.
We also see in Luke.
That he went away by himself atnight to pray.
(09:00):
And it's just a wonderfulexample that it is such a good
idea for us to set boundaries sothat we can decompress and be
silent with God.
And be in his presence so thatwe don't become overwhelmed, but
all the worldly things.
The second reason to be settingboundaries is because it'll help
(09:21):
you prioritize your time.
Well, meaning it's going toteach you how to steward your
time.
That means you are in control ofwhere you choose to show up?
for the most part anyway,because life sometimes happens.
I mean, it's happening all thetime.
I guess what I'm trying to sayhere is that life throws lemons
at you and you might not be ableto control.
Where you're at in the day.
(09:42):
And that's okay, because we aregoing to take it at face value
for what it is and make the bestof it.
Maybe your child got sick andyou're not able to go And be
where you originally wanted tobe.
But let's also not forget thatthese things happen and it
teaches us to slow down.
And to love better.
which we are going to touch on.
(10:03):
in just a couple of minuteshere.
When you learn to say no and setthese healthy boundaries, you
are staying focused on the taskthat has been given you, you are
stewarding your time.
Well, everything that you do.
Think of it as you going to workfor God.
So whether that's you'renurturing your kids at home.
Discipling them working in yourmarriage, serving your family,
(10:27):
volunteering, going to work,everything that you do, you're
going to work for God.
And that alone just levels upthe sense of responsibility that
has been given to you.
So my friend steward your time.
Well, by being intentional, whenyou're thinking about where you
want to show up and work.
It is so imperative.
(10:49):
And I'm going to keep repeatingmyself in this episode that you
set healthy boundaries The lastpoint is probably my favorite
one, because it was the biggestlesson I learned, which is it is
going to teach you to loveothers.
Well, Yes.
I know it doesn't feel like itin the moment when you're
setting boundaries.
And you're saying no to thethings that you don't quite want
(11:13):
to commit yourself to becauseyou want to show up in other
places.
It doesn't feel like you'reloving them.
Right.
It feels like you've let themdown that you've probably
disappointed them.
You're probably disappointingyourself as well.
But my friend loving otherswell, does not always mean that
you do everything for them.
Even though that is how we wantto show our love to them.
(11:35):
We just simply cannot doeverything for them or with
them.
This is a great opportunity toplug in a little side note.
And that is just because youtell someone no.
It doesn't mean you love themany less or that it's a no
forever.
Sometimes it just means a no fornow, but like I said earlier,
(11:57):
You have to steward your time.
Well, and that comes withsetting boundaries.
When you set boundaries, you'retelling the other person and
even yourself, what your limitsare.
You are acknowledging what isokay.
And what isn't.
You are not being selfish.
You're not being mean.
You are simply prioritizing.
You're keeping a healthyboundary so that you can show
(12:18):
love.
In a loving way without feelingoverwhelmed and burned out,
loving each other is often takenout of context in a way that
means that we have to give,give, give, but let's change
that.
Let's change that mindset andmake it a habit to be okay with
saying no from time to time, asyou are setting healthy
boundaries.
(12:39):
Because as a mom, it is in yournature to want to nurture your
kids.
it is your nature to want tobuild a home.
That is comfortable andwelcoming and inviting.
And peaceful for your family.
so as you are setting theseboundaries and making these
healthy habits become a thingfor you.
(13:00):
You're not loving anybody anyless.
As a matter of fact, you'reactually protecting your peace
of mind.
You're protecting your kidsbecause you're going to be there
when you say you're going to bethere.
This is the perfect opportunityfor me to inject some
encouragement for you, mama.
As you're setting up theseboundaries, don't be afraid to
say no.
(13:20):
Yes.
You might get some pushback fromothers who might be used to you
say yes all of the time.
But remember that when you startto say no, it is going to feel a
little bit awkward at first, butit is also going to be such a
game changer for you.
I hope that you hear me.
When I say this, you can stillhonor God.
When you set boundaries, lastingconfidence, doesn't come from
(13:44):
what you can do.
That is why it's so importantfor you to get out of the
mindset or think that if you sayno, you're letting others down.
As a matter of fact, when youdon't set boundaries at allows
more distractions to come intoyour life and take up the space
that you have in the day.
And that is not the goal.
(14:05):
All right.
So to recap this episode, whenyou set boundaries, You get, God
centered a confidence bycreating positive space for you
to decompress.
It's going to give you time towithdraw and decompress, which
is a good thing.
Creating a healthy boundarymeans.
You have to say no at timeswhere respect the schedule that
your family has, and yes, evenyou.
(14:25):
A great way to do this is beforeyou say yes.
Think about what's coming up inyour week and consider, saying
no in that moment, even thoughyou really want to say yes, I
consider saying no, let themknow that you'll check back in
with them.
If you can make that timecommitment to be there.
We also talked about how it wasgonna help you prioritize.
(14:47):
and steward your time.
Well, you are in control whenyou choose to show up most of
the time.
When you learn to say no, andset healthy boundaries, you are
staying focused on the task thathas been given you and you
steward your time.
Well, by being intentional, whenyou're thinking about where you
want to show up and where youwant to work.
(15:07):
and lastly, we touched on howit's going to teach you to love
others.
Well, loving others.
Well, doesn't always mean thatyou do everything for them,
right?
It's not being selfish.
You're not selfish when you sayno, you're not being mean.
You are simply prioritizing.
Remember?
No is not a no forever.
It just means no for now.
(15:28):
And so make it a habit to beokay with saying no from time to
time.
I know my friend.
It can be hard, especially whenyou are a yes person, but my
friend, you can do hard things.
Hi everybody if you liked thisepisode, leave my mommy.
(15:51):
a five star review on applepodcasts Thank you so much.
have a nice day.
All right.
My friend, you heard her.
Thank you so much for taking thetime to leave that review on
apple podcasts.
It brings me so much joy hearingfrom you, sadly.
This is where we part ways, butI can't wait to be back on
Wednesday to have anotherwonderful conversation with you.
(16:15):
My friend go in peace.
Popular Podcasts
Boysober
Have you ever wondered what life might be like if you stopped worrying about being wanted, and focused on understanding what you actually want? That was the question Hope Woodard asked herself after a string of situationships inspired her to take a break from sex and dating. She went "boysober," a personal concept that sparked a global movement among women looking to prioritize themselves over men. Now, Hope is looking to expand the ways we explore our relationship to relationships. Taking a bold, unfiltered look into modern love, romance, and self-discovery, Boysober will dive into messy stories about dating, sex, love, friendship, and breaking generational patterns—all with humor, vulnerability, and a fresh perspective.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com