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(00:00):
In today's episode, we are goingto talk about how to finally get
confidence that last.
You're going to love it becauseit's going to help you focus on
what's important, giving you theperfect opportunity to be
intentional with what you'redoing.
I'm giving you practical ways tohelp you build biblical
confidence.
All of that and more on today'sepisode.
(00:27):
Hey mama, you're in the rightplace if you're ready to get God
centered confidence.
It's time for you to shinethrough all the season that mom
life brings.
Having unshakable confidencecomes from an unshakable God.
So let's get to know himtogether, my friend.
My name is Caroline Tao, I'myour host for The Restored Mind,
(00:48):
and I'm also a BiblicalConfidence Coach where I teach
you how to get confidencethrough scripture.
Let's start building thatframework for you so that you
can begin to thrive.
Are you ready?
Grab your Bible, break out thatjournal, and get something to
write with.
Let's go! Let's go! Come hangout with me beyond the podcast
(01:15):
inside my free community whereother mamas just like you are
thriving while building Godcentered confidence.
Inside that group you get toconnect with other mamas.
We also have fun challenges inthere and it's just so fun.
I can't wait to meet you insidethat free community at Building
Confidence Through Scripture forChristian Moms.
(01:35):
I'll go ahead and leave thatlink in the show notes for you
mama.
So in college, I used to shop alot.
It was to the point where it gotreally, really ridiculous.
My best friend and roommate atthe time would ask why I would
go shopping so much, and I wouldrespond with, it fills the empty
inside of me.
(01:56):
Now that was a harmless joke,and it became an inside joke,
which eventually led me to trulyreflect on that statement.
Trust me, there were many yearsbetween the time of me making
that joke and reflecting on thatstatement, but what was once a
funny joke wasn't so funnyanymore.
especially When I lost my wayshortly after having my son, I
(02:19):
mean, my confidence just took aturn.
It was shaken and I realizedthat it wasn't in my parenting
skills.
I mean, sometimes I didn't knowwhat I was doing, but I'd always
figure that out, and I wasfairly confident in that.
But it was more so theconfidence that I lacked in was
in who I am and in what I coulddo.
(02:40):
So maybe you're like me,struggling to find confidence in
yourself, and you feelexhausted.
You're confused, and you're evenmore stuck the more that you try
to do things to get thatconfidence to stick.
Because you aren't sure why youfeel great one day, and then the
next you're down.
Confidence is tricky, and as amom, there are so many things we
(03:01):
go through.
Hormones skyrocket when you'repregnant, and they don't quite
normalize until weeks or monthslater.
I mean, your body's changingover the years from not only
having kids, but from gettingolder as well.
And then your interests change.
Transcripts change, you thoughtthat you loved doing something,
but you realize you don't reallyhave an interest anymore, and it
(03:22):
can start to feel lonely,especially when you're trying to
figure out who you are, whatyour interests are, and why
you're uncomfortable in your ownskin.
I know, it is a lot.
So what are some practicalthings that you can do that will
restructure how you get biblicalconfidence?
I believe it is to learn to becontent as Paul did He says that
(03:47):
he has learned in whateversituation to be content.
That comes from Philippianschapter 4 verse 11.
When you are content.
It means that you are satisfied,you are okay with what you have,
and you don't have this deepdesire to quote, fill the empty
inside of you, as I once did,right?
(04:08):
You're not trying to fill thisemptiness with things that you
think might bring youconfidence.
Learning to be content, myfriend, is not the same
mentality as not wanting toimprove or to grow.
It's about learning to use whatyou have and building trust that
what you have is enough for thework until you get to the next
(04:32):
step.
When you're content, it makes itso much easier for you to not
compare yourself to others,which we'll talk on in just a
little bit,, a great way to becontent is to soak into the
words of Paul.
Like I just said, I love how hewrites that he has to learn to
be content.
And I know it probably soundslike I'm repeating myself, but I
(04:52):
want to drive this home becausewhen he says he had to learn to
be content.
It means that it wasn'tsomething he was born with.
Naturally, it goes against hisflesh and his way of thinking.
Same thing for you and I.
To be content in something, ittakes discipline and practice.
It's not something that comesnaturally to us.
(05:14):
Because again, we see otherpeople doing things that might
be working for them.
And we think that we need it.
Or because we see other people,we feel like there's a lacking
in something.
So, through that contentment.
He realizes that he can do allthings through God who
strengthens him.
and that comes from Philippians4 13 that reads, I can do all
(05:35):
things through him whostrengthens me.
That verse probably soundsreally familiar to you because
it is such a popular Bibleverse, but the message gets lost
from time to time when we onlylook at that last portion, I can
do all things through him as ourmotivation.
But we should go back up andread that Paul had to learn to
(05:58):
be content so that he can befulfilled and satisfied and be
able to do all things throughChrist who strengthens them.
Because sometimes we might feellike we just simply don't have
enough.
And so Paul talking about how hehad to learn to be content, it's
just a factor of what we need todo in order to gain biblical
(06:18):
confidence.
So you have to be mindful ofwhat you're wanting to be
content in.
Everyone, including you and I,are capable of learning new
things.
It just takes time to becomebetter at it.
And the best way to learn is tobe willing.
to reflect on yourself, to dosome research, and to make
(06:38):
changes accordingly.
It's just like learningsomething new that doesn't come
natural, right?
The first time that you picksomething up, you might not be
so great at it.
You might not even be great atit the third, fourth, or even
tenth time, but the more thatyou continue to show up and
practice these things, thebetter that you're going to get.
(06:59):
And personally, I always thinkthat it's such a great thing for
you to keep learning and growingbecause that's how progress is
made throughout life so in orderto build a biblical confidence,
you have to learn to be content.
And that means that it's goingto get uncomfortable sometimes.
the next practical way for youto build Biblical confidence is
(07:22):
to stop comparing yourself toothers, Mama.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
It makes you think that you'relacking in something or that you
need more of something, whichjust goes into a circle of the
lack mentality where you thinkyou're lacking something.
when it comes to confidence,that's often associated with how
much of something that you have,especially when you place your
(07:45):
confidence in that something.
So say maybe you pride yourselfin your body, right?
Maybe your confidence comes fromhow good you're looking, or
maybe it comes from how muchyou're able to buy of something.
So maybe it's your money.
Maybe it's the confidence youhave because of how much friends
you have, whatever it looks likefor you.
(08:05):
I think the number one questionyou ought to keep in mind is,
how would it make you feel oneday if you didn't have the thing
that makes you confidentanymore?
These things are wavering.
That's why I'm such a hugeadvocate for biblical
confidence, because at the endof the day, God is so constant.
(08:26):
He doesn't waver, even thoughour situations may look
different from day to day.
We might not have the thing thatkeeps us confident tomorrow, but
we will always have God I thinkit's safe to say that the things
that we have, the people wesurround ourselves with, and
even the reliance on our ownself, which by the way, put a
(08:48):
pin on that thought becausewe're going to come right back
to it.
It is the foundation ofconfidence that many of us have.
Let me just also say, before Imove on, that there is
absolutely nothing wrong in youworking towards a healthier
version of you or a betterversion of you, whatever that
looks like, or having friends,right?
There's nothing wrong with anyof that.
(09:09):
The focus here is to break outof the mindset and habit of
making it a foundation fromwhich you draw your confidence.
If it's none of these things Imentioned then replace it with
whatever it is that you'rerooting your confidence in.
Now, I know it's really easy totell someone to stop comparing
themselves to someone elsebecause it's just words.
(09:31):
It's easier said than done.
To actually do it is prettyhard, even for me, because it
doesn't matter what season oflife you're in.
There will be days where it'sjust more of a struggle.
And sometimes, peeping over atwhat someone else is doing
tricks you into thinking thatmaybe you're not doing something
(09:53):
right.
Or that you should be doing whatthe other person is doing
because well, it's working forthem So surely it would work for
you, too, right?
I want to remind you to focus onwhat's in front of you and who
you're serving and from whereyou want to draw your
confidence.
Now, don't get me wrong.
I get it.
(10:13):
If you need guidance, if youneed a coach to help you in a
certain area, that's okay.
Go ahead and reach out to them.
As a matter of fact, kudos toyou, my friend for having the
courage to Reach out and say,Hey, I want to improve on this
part of my life Because I knowthat as a lot of moms, at least
the ones I've spoken to, theyare so good at nurturing their
(10:37):
kids, at loving their spouse,and creating such a cozy home
for their family that oftentimesthere's this unspoken pressure
to keep it all together.
And sometimes we just need thatlittle bit of help.
So if that's you, I do offer oneon one coaching sessions.
I would love to help you build abiblical confidence.
(10:57):
So if you need someone to helpyou along the way, I'm that
person for you, my friend.
we can work together and we canbegin your confidence journey.
The link to the call is going tobe in the show notes.
And then the last point that Iwant to make today is to stop
relying on your own strength.
Remember, I brought that upearlier.
Stop relying on your ownstrength.
(11:19):
I know that we do this a lot asmoms.
and what I mean by that is thatyou rely on your inner emotional
and spiritual strength becauseyes, it is obvious that you need
physical strength to get youthrough the day, But when you
rely on your inner emotional andspiritual strength, it's hard
(11:40):
because eventually you getdrained out, right?
You and I, we are full ofemotions.
That's just the way that it is.
It goes up and down and in allsorts of ways.
So if you lead by your emotions,you're going to have a hard time
building that lasting confidencebecause it's hard work.
It requires.
Self control requires so muchmore.
(12:01):
When you rely on your innerstrength, when it comes to your
emotions and your spiritualstrength, you have to find a
place where you can draw fromwhen you get drained or burnt
out from all of the things thatyou're going through as a mom.
Now.
That doesn't mean that youshould bury or hide or ignore
your feelings.
That's not what I'm saying.
What I'm getting at is to notmake a rash decision when you're
(12:26):
high off your emotions.
Typically, what happens is thatyour mind, it starts to race,
and then you find yourself in acomparison mindset, which we
just talked about, andeverything just starts to spiral
and your walls start to feellike they're just getting
Tighter and tighter andeverything's just caving down.
It's a lot of pressure and itcauses a lot of stress.
(12:48):
When you are building Godcentered confidence, you have to
practice going to God firstbecause He is going to be the
one where you draw your strengthand confidence from You can do
this by going to him in prayer,reading his word, applying what
you learned so that as you gainmore wisdom, you could continue
(13:08):
to put it into practice.
Remember, Paul says that he hadto learn to be content Meaning
it took practice, sacrifice, andto be honest, it was probably
very uncomfortable at times.
It wasn't easy.
Jesus reminds us that we have todig deep.
Now, I won't get into all ofthat because I talked about
(13:30):
digging deep in last week'sepisode.
No worries, my friend.
If you miss it, I'll link it inthe show notes for you.
That way you can listen to itright after this episode.
Building a relationship with Godis the fourth and last practical
way.
I'm sharing with you today thatcan help you build Biblical
confidence it encompasseseverything that we've talked
(13:51):
about But most importantly, whenyou work on building a
relationship with God, you haveto learn about who He is.
That builds trust.
When you get to know God, itbuilds trust, just like you
would get to know someone, andover time you get to know who
they are, you become comfortablewith them, and there's a little
bit of rapport there, and trustis being built at the same time.
(14:13):
Knowing that you can rely on Godis going to help you
tremendously.
It helps you build that lastingconfidence, because my friend,
he does not waver., it mightfeel like it isn't enough at
times.
You might find yourself stuckand unsure how to move forward,
but building that relationshipand trust in God is going to
help you move forward.
(14:35):
Yes, it will be hard andconfusing.
It'll even get uncomfortable.
Building God centered confidenceis not an overnight fix, but the
more you keep building, digging,and laying down a foundation,
you are going to begin to seeyour mind and world change.
I know we talked about a lottoday so I want to recap this
(14:58):
conversation that way as you areworking on building lasting
confidence There are some pointsthat you can keep in mind.
The first one is to learn to becontent It just means that you
are truly satisfied with whatyou have it makes it So much
easier for you not to compareyourself to others.
Remember that Paul writes, hehad to learn to be content And
(15:19):
you and I are very capable oflearning and applying what we
learn into our life.
The second point we talked aboutis to stop comparing yourself to
others because it is the thiefof joy.
It makes you think that you'relacking in something or that you
need more of something, whichjust goes back to the lack of
mentality.
You don't place your confidencein the things that you have,
(15:39):
okay?
You place it in who God is.
And the third thing that wetalked about is to stop relying
on your own strength, Your inneremotional and spiritual strength
is where I highlight it heretoday.
Your emotions, they go up anddown.
You get exhausted and burnt outfrom life.
So how are you able to rely onyour own self if you get burnt
(16:00):
out?
Go to the one who does not.
Go to God first because He isgoing to be the one where you
draw your strength andconfidence from.
You can do this by going to Himin prayer.
reading his word, applying whatyou learn so that as you gain
more wisdom, you can continue toput it into practice.
And then the last point I madeis that it is important for you
(16:22):
to build a relationship withGod.
This is where you draw yourstrength and confidence from.
You can do this by implementingeverything that we've talked
about today on this podcast ontop of getting to know who he
is, not just what he does, buttruly who he is.
I know it can be incredibly hardand tempting to continue and
(16:45):
stay in the worldview ofconfidence as you're working on
building God centered confidencebecause again, it's not an
overnight fix.
But it is going to be one thatsustains and lasts you.
I know it can be hard, myfriend, but you can do hard
things.
(17:06):
Thank you so much for hangingout with me today.
I had such a wonderful time.
I cannot wait to meet you againnext Wednesday.
Right here on this podcast.
Mamma.
I hope that as you are inspiredand uplifted, that you would
show up at all the spaces andplaces ready to serve with a
joyful heart.
And yes, with confidence.
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(17:30):
It would bring me so much joyhearing from you on top of that.
If you want to connect evenmore, join the insider's list.
I would love to continue helpingyou as you journey on in getting
God centered confidence.
The link to join the insider'slist is going to be posted in
the show notes..
All right, my friend, this iswhere we part ways.
I hope you have a wonderful day.
(17:51):
Go in peace.
In today's episode, we are goingto talk about how to finally get
confidence that last.
You're going to love it becauseit's going to help you focus on
what's important, giving you theperfect opportunity to be
intentional with what you'redoing.
I'm giving you practical ways tohelp you build biblical
confidence.
All of that and more on today'sepisode.
(00:27):
Hey mama, you're in the rightplace if you're ready to get God
centered confidence.
It's time for you to shinethrough all the season that mom
life brings.
Having unshakable confidencecomes from an unshakable God.
So let's get to know himtogether, my friend.
My name is Caroline Tao, I'myour host for The Restored Mind,
(00:48):
and I'm also a BiblicalConfidence Coach where I teach
you how to get confidencethrough scripture.
Let's start building thatframework for you so that you
can begin to thrive.
Are you ready?
Grab your Bible, break out thatjournal, and get something to
write with.
Let's go! Let's go! Come hangout with me beyond the podcast
(01:15):
inside my free community whereother mamas just like you are
thriving while building Godcentered confidence.
Inside that group you get toconnect with other mamas.
We also have fun challenges inthere and it's just so fun.
I can't wait to meet you insidethat free community at Building
Confidence Through Scripture forChristian Moms.
(01:35):
I'll go ahead and leave thatlink in the show notes for you
mama.
So in college, I used to shop alot.
It was to the point where it gotreally, really ridiculous.
My best friend and roommate atthe time would ask why I would
go shopping so much, and I wouldrespond with, it fills the empty
inside of me.
(01:56):
Now that was a harmless joke,and it became an inside joke,
which eventually led me to trulyreflect on that statement.
Trust me, there were many yearsbetween the time of me making
that joke and reflecting on thatstatement, but what was once a
funny joke wasn't so funnyanymore.
especially When I lost my wayshortly after having my son, I
(02:19):
mean, my confidence just took aturn.
It was shaken and I realizedthat it wasn't in my parenting
skills.
I mean, sometimes I didn't knowwhat I was doing, but I'd always
figure that out, and I wasfairly confident in that.
But it was more so theconfidence that I lacked in was
in who I am and in what I coulddo.
(02:40):
So maybe you're like me,struggling to find confidence in
yourself, and you feelexhausted.
You're confused, and you're evenmore stuck the more that you try
to do things to get thatconfidence to stick.
Because you aren't sure why youfeel great one day, and then the
next you're down.
Confidence is tricky, and as amom, there are so many things we
(03:01):
go through.
Hormones skyrocket when you'repregnant, and they don't quite
normalize until weeks or monthslater.
I mean, your body's changingover the years from not only
having kids, but from gettingolder as well.
And then your interests change.
Transcripts change, you thoughtthat you loved doing something,
but you realize you don't reallyhave an interest anymore, and it
(03:22):
can start to feel lonely,especially when you're trying to
figure out who you are, whatyour interests are, and why
you're uncomfortable in your ownskin.
I know, it is a lot.
So what are some practicalthings that you can do that will
restructure how you get biblicalconfidence?
I believe it is to learn to becontent as Paul did He says that
(03:47):
he has learned in whateversituation to be content.
That comes from Philippianschapter 4 verse 11.
When you are content.
It means that you are satisfied,you are okay with what you have,
and you don't have this deepdesire to quote, fill the empty
inside of you, as I once did,right?
(04:08):
You're not trying to fill thisemptiness with things that you
think might bring youconfidence.
Learning to be content, myfriend, is not the same
mentality as not wanting toimprove or to grow.
It's about learning to use whatyou have and building trust that
what you have is enough for thework until you get to the next
(04:32):
step.
When you're content, it makes itso much easier for you to not
compare yourself to others,which we'll talk on in just a
little bit,, a great way to becontent is to soak into the
words of Paul.
Like I just said, I love how hewrites that he has to learn to
be content.
And I know it probably soundslike I'm repeating myself, but I
(04:52):
want to drive this home becausewhen he says he had to learn to
be content.
It means that it wasn'tsomething he was born with.
Naturally, it goes against hisflesh and his way of thinking.
Same thing for you and I.
To be content in something, ittakes discipline and practice.
It's not something that comesnaturally to us.
(05:14):
Because again, we see otherpeople doing things that might
be working for them.
And we think that we need it.
Or because we see other people,we feel like there's a lacking
in something.
So, through that contentment.
He realizes that he can do allthings through God who
strengthens him.
and that comes from Philippians4 13 that reads, I can do all
(05:35):
things through him whostrengthens me.
That verse probably soundsreally familiar to you because
it is such a popular Bibleverse, but the message gets lost
from time to time when we onlylook at that last portion, I can
do all things through him as ourmotivation.
But we should go back up andread that Paul had to learn to
(05:58):
be content so that he can befulfilled and satisfied and be
able to do all things throughChrist who strengthens them.
Because sometimes we might feellike we just simply don't have
enough.
And so Paul talking about how hehad to learn to be content, it's
just a factor of what we need todo in order to gain biblical
(06:18):
confidence.
So you have to be mindful ofwhat you're wanting to be
content in.
Everyone, including you and I,are capable of learning new
things.
It just takes time to becomebetter at it.
And the best way to learn is tobe willing.
to reflect on yourself, to dosome research, and to make
(06:38):
changes accordingly.
It's just like learningsomething new that doesn't come
natural, right?
The first time that you picksomething up, you might not be
so great at it.
You might not even be great atit the third, fourth, or even
tenth time, but the more thatyou continue to show up and
practice these things, thebetter that you're going to get.
(06:59):
And personally, I always thinkthat it's such a great thing for
you to keep learning and growingbecause that's how progress is
made throughout life so in orderto build a biblical confidence,
you have to learn to be content.
And that means that it's goingto get uncomfortable sometimes.
the next practical way for youto build Biblical confidence is
(07:22):
to stop comparing yourself toothers, Mama.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
It makes you think that you'relacking in something or that you
need more of something, whichjust goes into a circle of the
lack mentality where you thinkyou're lacking something.
when it comes to confidence,that's often associated with how
much of something that you have,especially when you place your
(07:45):
confidence in that something.
So say maybe you pride yourselfin your body, right?
Maybe your confidence comes fromhow good you're looking, or
maybe it comes from how muchyou're able to buy of something.
So maybe it's your money.
Maybe it's the confidence youhave because of how much friends
you have, whatever it looks likefor you.
(08:05):
I think the number one questionyou ought to keep in mind is,
how would it make you feel oneday if you didn't have the thing
that makes you confidentanymore?
These things are wavering.
That's why I'm such a hugeadvocate for biblical
confidence, because at the endof the day, God is so constant.
(08:26):
He doesn't waver, even thoughour situations may look
different from day to day.
We might not have the thing thatkeeps us confident tomorrow, but
we will always have God I thinkit's safe to say that the things
that we have, the people wesurround ourselves with, and
even the reliance on our ownself, which by the way, put a
(08:48):
pin on that thought becausewe're going to come right back
to it.
It is the foundation ofconfidence that many of us have.
Let me just also say, before Imove on, that there is
absolutely nothing wrong in youworking towards a healthier
version of you or a betterversion of you, whatever that
looks like, or having friends,right?
There's nothing wrong with anyof that.
(09:09):
The focus here is to break outof the mindset and habit of
making it a foundation fromwhich you draw your confidence.
If it's none of these things Imentioned then replace it with
whatever it is that you'rerooting your confidence in.
Now, I know it's really easy totell someone to stop comparing
themselves to someone elsebecause it's just words.
(09:31):
It's easier said than done.
To actually do it is prettyhard, even for me, because it
doesn't matter what season oflife you're in.
There will be days where it'sjust more of a struggle.
And sometimes, peeping over atwhat someone else is doing
tricks you into thinking thatmaybe you're not doing something
(09:53):
right.
Or that you should be doing whatthe other person is doing
because well, it's working forthem So surely it would work for
you, too, right?
I want to remind you to focus onwhat's in front of you and who
you're serving and from whereyou want to draw your
confidence.
Now, don't get me wrong.
I get it.
(10:13):
If you need guidance, if youneed a coach to help you in a
certain area, that's okay.
Go ahead and reach out to them.
As a matter of fact, kudos toyou, my friend for having the
courage to Reach out and say,Hey, I want to improve on this
part of my life Because I knowthat as a lot of moms, at least
the ones I've spoken to, theyare so good at nurturing their
(10:37):
kids, at loving their spouse,and creating such a cozy home
for their family that oftentimesthere's this unspoken pressure
to keep it all together.
And sometimes we just need thatlittle bit of help.
So if that's you, I do offer oneon one coaching sessions.
I would love to help you build abiblical confidence.
(10:57):
So if you need someone to helpyou along the way, I'm that
person for you, my friend.
we can work together and we canbegin your confidence journey.
The link to the call is going tobe in the show notes.
And then the last point that Iwant to make today is to stop
relying on your own strength.
Remember, I brought that upearlier.
Stop relying on your ownstrength.
(11:19):
I know that we do this a lot asmoms.
and what I mean by that is thatyou rely on your inner emotional
and spiritual strength becauseyes, it is obvious that you need
physical strength to get youthrough the day, But when you
rely on your inner emotional andspiritual strength, it's hard
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because eventually you getdrained out, right?
You and I, we are full ofemotions.
That's just the way that it is.
It goes up and down and in allsorts of ways.
So if you lead by your emotions,you're going to have a hard time
building that lasting confidencebecause it's hard work.
It requires.
Self control requires so muchmore.
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When you rely on your innerstrength, when it comes to your
emotions and your spiritualstrength, you have to find a
place where you can draw fromwhen you get drained or burnt
out from all of the things thatyou're going through as a mom.
Now.
That doesn't mean that youshould bury or hide or ignore
your feelings.
That's not what I'm saying.
What I'm getting at is to notmake a rash decision when you're
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high off your emotions.
Typically, what happens is thatyour mind, it starts to race,
and then you find yourself in acomparison mindset, which we
just talked about, andeverything just starts to spiral
and your walls start to feellike they're just getting
Tighter and tighter andeverything's just caving down.
It's a lot of pressure and itcauses a lot of stress.
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When you are building Godcentered confidence, you have to
practice going to God firstbecause He is going to be the
one where you draw your strengthand confidence from You can do
this by going to him in prayer,reading his word, applying what
you learned so that as you gainmore wisdom, you could continue
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to put it into practice.
Remember, Paul says that he hadto learn to be content Meaning
it took practice, sacrifice, andto be honest, it was probably
very uncomfortable at times.
It wasn't easy.
Jesus reminds us that we have todig deep.
Now, I won't get into all ofthat because I talked about
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digging deep in last week'sepisode.
No worries, my friend.
If you miss it, I'll link it inthe show notes for you.
That way you can listen to itright after this episode.
Building a relationship with Godis the fourth and last practical
way.
I'm sharing with you today thatcan help you build Biblical
confidence it encompasseseverything that we've talked
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about But most importantly, whenyou work on building a
relationship with God, you haveto learn about who He is.
That builds trust.
When you get to know God, itbuilds trust, just like you
would get to know someone, andover time you get to know who
they are, you become comfortablewith them, and there's a little
bit of rapport there, and trustis being built at the same time.
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Knowing that you can rely on Godis going to help you
tremendously.
It helps you build that lastingconfidence, because my friend,
he does not waver., it mightfeel like it isn't enough at
times.
You might find yourself stuckand unsure how to move forward,
but building that relationshipand trust in God is going to
help you move forward.
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Yes, it will be hard andconfusing.
It'll even get uncomfortable.
Building God centered confidenceis not an overnight fix, but the
more you keep building, digging,and laying down a foundation,
you are going to begin to seeyour mind and world change.
I know we talked about a lottoday so I want to recap this
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conversation that way as you areworking on building lasting
confidence There are some pointsthat you can keep in mind.
The first one is to learn to becontent It just means that you
are truly satisfied with whatyou have it makes it So much
easier for you not to compareyourself to others.
Remember that Paul writes, hehad to learn to be content And
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you and I are very capable oflearning and applying what we
learn into our life.
The second point we talked aboutis to stop comparing yourself to
others because it is the thiefof joy.
It makes you think that you'relacking in something or that you
need more of something, whichjust goes back to the lack of
mentality.
You don't place your confidencein the things that you have,
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okay?
You place it in who God is.
And the third thing that wetalked about is to stop relying
on your own strength, Your inneremotional and spiritual strength
is where I highlight it heretoday.
Your emotions, they go up anddown.
You get exhausted and burnt outfrom life.
So how are you able to rely onyour own self if you get burnt
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out?
Go to the one who does not.
Go to God first because He isgoing to be the one where you
draw your strength andconfidence from.
You can do this by going to Himin prayer.
reading his word, applying whatyou learn so that as you gain
more wisdom, you can continue toput it into practice.
And then the last point I madeis that it is important for you
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to build a relationship withGod.
This is where you draw yourstrength and confidence from.
You can do this by implementingeverything that we've talked
about today on this podcast ontop of getting to know who he
is, not just what he does, buttruly who he is.
I know it can be incredibly hardand tempting to continue and
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stay in the worldview ofconfidence as you're working on
building God centered confidencebecause again, it's not an
overnight fix.
But it is going to be one thatsustains and lasts you.
I know it can be hard, myfriend, but you can do hard
things.
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Thank you so much for hangingout with me today.
I had such a wonderful time.
I cannot wait to meet you againnext Wednesday.
Right here on this podcast.
Mamma.
I hope that as you are inspiredand uplifted, that you would
show up at all the spaces andplaces ready to serve with a
joyful heart.
And yes, with confidence.
Please take a moment to leave areview on apple podcasts.
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It would bring me so much joyhearing from you on top of that.
If you want to connect evenmore, join the insider's list.
I would love to continue helpingyou as you journey on in getting
God centered confidence.
The link to join the insider'slist is going to be posted in
the show notes..
All right, my friend, this iswhere we part ways.
I hope you have a wonderful day.
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Go in peace.
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