April 2, 2025 • 18 mins
Hey Mama!
In this powerful episode, I dive deep into the struggle of negative self-talk and how it can impact your confidence as a Christian mom. Negative self-talk often becomes a comfort zone and it can leave you feeling overwhelmed. As a mom, you may find yourself constantly battling self-criticism, comparing yourself to others, or feeling guilty for not doing enough. But it’s time to break free from these harmful patterns and start embracing the kindness, grace, and love that God offers.
Join us as we reflect on the Parable of the Sower from Matthew 13 and explore how Jesus' words can help you cultivate roots of confidence in good soil. We’ll discuss practical tips for overcoming negative self-talk, including how to pause in moments of doubt, read and apply Scripture, and reflect on the compliments and encouragement you receive from others.
Key Takeaways:
- Recognizing the cycle of negative self-talk and how it impacts your confidence
- Practical steps to stop negative thoughts in their tracks and replace them with truth
- The value of taking compliments graciously and learning to accept kindness
- How the Parable of the Sower can inspire you to grow deep roots in your faith
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(00:00):
Are you unknowingly killing yourconfidence?
(00:02):
Today, we're diving into thenumber one mistake you could be
making and it's holding youback.
Trust me, once you recognizethis, it's going to be a game
changer for your faith andconfidence journey.
Let's dive in.
Hey, mama.
(00:22):
Are you tired of battling yourown mind with self-doubt, and
with imposter syndrome?
Have you ever wondered if youare enough if you ever said yes
to any of these, let's uprootall of that and start rebuilding
the framework for you to getGod-centered confidence.
My name is Caroline Tau.
I'm host for the Restore Mind,and I'm also a biblical
(00:42):
confidence coach, where I teachyou how to get confidence
through scripture.
Are you ready?
Grab your Bible, break out thatjournal and get something to
write with.
Let's go.
I'm so excited to invite you tothis event that I am going to be
hosting.
(01:03):
It's a live workshop where wecan connect outside the podcast
on April 14th at 10:00 AMPacific Stern time.
I will be on Zoom live with youfor a power packed hour to walk
you through my simple four stepprocess on how you can hear from
God more clearly and buildunshakeable confidence in who
you are.
(01:23):
It's going to be fun.
Faith filled and full ofpowerful takeaways.
Everyone who attends the lifewill receive a 20% off discount
code for your first coachingcall service, which is an
incredible amount of savings.
On top of that, I'm also givingaway a Daily Grace Company gift
card to one Lucky Mama.
Now you will have to be there towin the gift card and spots are
(01:47):
limited.
So grab yours now, my friend.
Just head to the show notes andclick the link to save your
seat.
I can't wait to see you there.
Today I am going to share astory with you that's going to
highlight my not so goodmoments.
We were in the very beginning ofour marriage, my husband and I,
and I just had my son.
He was a couple of months oldand I was getting ready to go on
(02:10):
a date with him.
So he walks into the room and hetells me how beautiful I'm
looking and do you know how Iresponded?
I responded with a snarkycomment filled with attitude.
Looking back, it is not myproudest moment, and I also
don't recommend doing that rightbefore you're about to go on a
date.
Highly do not recommend.?
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I said, you only have to saythat because I'm your wife.
Now, the comment was actuallysaid with way more attitude, way
more sass.
And yes, there was eye rollingwith a dash of annoyance and my
tone of voice, and yes, you'reabsolutely right.
I was being incredibly rude tomy husband, who was kind enough
to walk in and give me acompliment as I was getting
(02:52):
ready.
His response actually took me bysurprise, which made me upset
because I knew deep down he wasright and back then I was so
full of pride.
I did not want to apologize oradmit that I was wrong.
I was that person that neededthe last word in every argument
that I was in.
It was not my proudest moment.
(03:12):
I admit I needed a lot of workback then, and to be really
honest with you, I still think Ican use work now, which is great
because there's always room forgrowth.
But anyway, you wanna know whathe said?
He came back after I said myrude comment and said, you need
to learn how to take acompliment.
And the way that he said it wasso calm, he wasn't rude about
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it, and he didn't yell.
He simply made his statement andhe walked away.
I'll share more of this later,but thank goodness God did some
pruning on your girl because Iwas a hot mess and that was not
my finest hour.
So what is the number onemistake you're making that's
killing your confidence?
It's your inner soft talk thathappens on a daily, and you've
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gotten.
So used to it that you're noteven realizing what you're doing
to yourself.
So how does this story relate tothe conversation today?
Well, first I had to sit andthink about why I responded with
what I said.
And you know what it boiled downto, it came down to the negative
self-talk, which is a silentkiller, and the thing is it
(04:16):
plays the game for the longhaul.
See, I responded the way that Idid because of how I was
speaking to myself about myself.
I ended up internalizing it andit outwardly expressed itself
without the conscious decisionof how I was going to respond.
(04:36):
Negative self-talk is a form ofdialogue that you formed inside
of your mind to put yourselfdown when you are already
feeling doubt.
Fear or frustrated among otherthings like mom guilt or shame
from your mistakes.
It can also happen when you fallshort of other people's
expectations because you end uptelling yourself that you're not
doing enough.
When you are, say for example,about to do something new, like
(04:59):
start a business, you wonder ifyour credentials are enough.
You begin to also wonder ifyou're going to be successful,
and then you start to think,well.
You're probably not going to besuccessful, and you start to
look at all of the reasons whyif you are a working mom,
whether it's from home orcommuting, you begin to tell
(05:20):
yourself that you're not lovingyour family well because.
You are spending time onsomething else other than being
fully present with your family.
And honestly, there's so muchthat we as moms tell ourselves
that we overcompensate for morework in the areas where we think
we're falling short.
And ultimately it ends up withmore stress and less rest, which
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is not what we want.
We don't want to feelcontinuously overwhelmed or to
feel like we lack rest.
so when you receive a complimentor when you try to tell yourself
something positive, it can behard for you to genuinely.
Be thankful for the complimentor to truly believe in the
positive thing that you'retrying to tell yourself.
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I mean, it's especially hardbecause if you think about it,
the negative self-talk that'smade home in your mind.
It has been with you for days,weeks, and even years, and
you've been bashing on yourselfwithout even realizing it.
Negative self-talk happensbecause it becomes a comfort
zone in how you speak toyourself.
It is possible to have habitsthat you take comfort in when
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it's not good for you.
These habits are part of yourmuscle memory, and it is an
unconscious reaction that youjust do naturally as a reaction
to what's happening around you.
Over the years, you'veprogrammed your mind to think
that way.
So now the immediate thought isthat you can't do or be
something because of whateverthe negative thought is in your
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mind, or maybe you think youcan't do something.
Because you don't have whateverthat thing is you think that you
need in order to proceed withthe goals or the ideas that you
have.
Now, I said earlier that I wouldcome back around to this story
that I shared with you earlier,and so here we are.
When my husband made thestatement that.
(07:14):
I needed to learn to take acompliment.
It honestly took me years tounderstand what he meant.
I was way too prideful toexplore what that would even
look like.
And the year that I had mymiscarriage, which if you're new
here, I've had multiplemiscarriages, but there was one
that truly brought me to rockbottom.
(07:37):
And in that same year, mymarriage struggled and my
insecurities just came out allin that same year because I had
spent multiple years prior tothat sweeping all of the
insecurities under the ruginstead of addressing them.
So it was a huge year.
There was a lot going on.
And that was the year thatchanged everything because his
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comment that he made in thebeginning of our marriage is I
was getting ready to go on adate with him.
It came back to my mind it mademe realize that I didn't take a
compliment.
Well, when I saw how I putmyself down, even when someone
would say something nice to me,See, my husband's compliment was
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given out of genuine care andlove, and I responded with a
very nasty attitude which is thesame attitude that I gave myself
for years.
And so I would love to offer youthis thought for you to think
about how you accept complimentsfrom other people, and also to
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reflect on the kind of dialoguethat you have about yourself to
yourself.
Inside your own mind, what doesthat mostly look like?
As I was thinking back on this,I allowed negative self-talk to
happen for two reasons.
One, because that was thedefault that I fell back on,
which was putting myself down.
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and secondly, but mostimportantly, I did not take the
time to know God or allow hisword to take root into my life.
So, mama, I encourage you toreflect on your actions, your
thoughts, and your words when itcomes to how you treat yourself.
Are you being overly critical ofyourself?
Are you being unkind to yourselfand the things that you're
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saying about yourself, would youtell a friend those same things?
being kind does not mean thatyou have to become conceited in
your own strengths.
Remember that you are working onrooting your confidence in God,
not in the world.
So you can learn to be trulykind to yourself when you learn
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the kindness that is in God.
Kindness is not sugarcoating, itis not making excuses, but it
can be tough love at times, andit is compassion.
It is grace, it's mercy.
It's gentle.
and that kind of kindness isgoing to be the one that you
wanna work towards so that youcan build unshakeable
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confidence.
The parable of the sower comesto mind as I'm talking to you
about rooting yourself in theword of God, because that was
the biggest game changer for me,and I know that as you begin to
root yourself in the word ofGod, it is.
Going to be a game changer foryou as well.
So the parable, the sower is inMatthew chapter 13, and if you
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are able mama, break out thatBible, if it's on your phone, or
if you're able to physicallypull up a Bible.
Please bring it out and read italong with me.
I enjoy reading scripture withyou and I just wanna take the
time to dig into the word ofGod.
So we're gonna be doing that NowI am going to be reading from
the English standard version,but feel free to follow along in
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whatever version of the Bibleyou have.
Verse one starts out by sayingthat same day, Jesus went out of
the house and sat beside the seaand great crowds gathered about
him so that he got into a boatand the whole crowd stood on the
beach and he told them manythings in parables saying a
sower went out to sow.
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And as he sowed, some seeds fellalong the path and the birds
came and devoured them.
Other seeds fell on rocky groundwhere they did not have much
soil and immediately they sprangup since they had no depth of
soil.
But when the sun arose, theywere scorched.
And since they had no roots,they withered away.
Other seeds fell among thorns,and the thorns grew up and
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choked them.
Other seeds fell on good soiland produced grain.
Some a hundred fold, some 60,some 30.
He who has ears, let him hearand on verse nine, the footnote
here says some manuscripts addin this verse to hear.
So verse nine, with thatfootnote would say, he who has
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ears to hear, let him hear as Iread that, was there anything
that stuck out to you?
Which seed do you find yourselfto be in this season?
I believe we are all of these,to be really honest with you,
but typically there's one thattruly stands out the most
depending on what season of lifewe're in.
The goal is to be the seed ingood soil.
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Now, as you reflect on the typeof seed that you are in the
season of life, do not becomediscouraged, but be encouraged
that you have the blood of Jesusover you, and it is not a
condemnation when you realizethat you're falling short
somewhere.
As a matter of fact, I want youto think of it as an invitation
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to get to know God more and tocling onto him like a child.
Do not let the enemy snatchaway.
What has been so onto yourheart.
Mama do not.
Just receive God's words withjoy and then wither away at the
first sign of trouble.
But put your roots in good soiland bear good fruits.
Jesus actually explains thisparable further down in chapter
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13, and you'll find thatstarting at first, 18 to 23.
So verse 18 to 23 says, hearthen the parable of the sower.
When anyone hears the word ofthe kingdom and does not
understand it, The evil one,comes and snatches away what has
been sewn in his heart.
This is what was sewn along thepath.
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As for what was sewn on RockyRoad, this is the one who hears
the word and immediatelyreceives it with joy, yet he has
no roots in himself, but enduresfor a while and when tribulation
or persecution arises on accountof the word, immediately, he
falls away.
As for what was sown amongthorns, this is the one who
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hears the word, but the cares ofthe world and the deceitfulness
of riches choke the word and itproves unfruitful.
As for what was sewn on goodsoil, this is the one who hears
the word and understands it.
He indeed bears fruit and yieldsin one case a hundred fold in
another 60 and in another 30.
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So how do you come to understandthe word?
Read the Bible my friend.
Take time to read the Bible Andbe intentional with it.
As you're reading, apply whatyou learn so that you can
cultivate your roots in goodsoil and look up unfamiliar
words.
This is going to be the mosthelpful for you to connect the
dots.
If anything is unclear, as youtake the time to understand the
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context.
It's going to help youtremendously because then you'll
get to know the background ofthe reason why these letters or
the book was written the waythat it was written, and then
the last tip I have for you isto ask questions.
Don't be afraid to askquestions.
Mama, this is going to be anabsolute game changer for you.
And also don't think that youhave to have all the answers as
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you are reading and as you'reasking these questions, don't
think that you have to knoweverything.
It is okay for you to take yourtime and.
Slowly seek out the answers.
I would also encourage you tohave an open dialogue with
someone that you would trustabout the questions you have.
and I think that it's going tobe an incredible way for you to
engage with scripture and startto truly seek and find.
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I also recommend that you readreputable commentaries as it'll
help you understand maybe somethings that are unclear for you.
Now as far as the negativeself-talk, I believe that the
one thing that you can do rightnow to help you move towards a
more positive self-talk is topause the moment that you find
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yourself in a negativeself-talk.
Now, that's not to say that youare going to.
Catch yourself immediately doingit.
But if you keep findingyourself, going back to the
worries, going back to thewishing you had the thing or.
Kind of dwelling on thenegativity of what you think you
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might need more of, or where youthink you're falling short In
that moment, I want you to pauseand I really want you to think
about whether or not thisnegative self-talk is going to
serve you well.
And as you are thinking aboutthe negative self-talk, I would
also encourage you to thinkabout whether or not this
negative thought process isrooted in good soil.
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You might find that yournegative self-talk is a cycle of
repetitive things that you'retelling yourself, whether it
stemmed from childhood or justfrom making mistakes that you
truly hadn't healed fromwhatever that may look like for
you.
I know we talked about a lottoday, We talked about negative
self-talk being the number onemistake that continues to wreak
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havoc on your confidence andalso in your mind, right?
So it is time mama for you totake a stand and make the
changes that is going to impacthow you build the framework
surrounding confidence.
Negative self-talk is a form ofdialogue that you have within
yourself, and it happens becauseit becomes a comfort zone that
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you end up living in And yes, itis very possible for you to have
habits that you take comfort in,even when it's not good for you.
So a good way to test whether ornot you have negative self-talk
is to think about how well youtake a compliment.
What are your immediateresponses or the immediate
thoughts that you typically goto?
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And then think about how you canroot yourself in the word of God
more so.
Some of the tips that I leftwith you today is to continue
reading the Bible, applying whatyou're learning into your life.
Taking the time to look up wordsand understanding the context of
the Bible is gonna help youtremendously as well.
And.
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Don't be afraid to askquestions, It can be incredibly
hard as you are building Godsuch a confidence, but I know
that you can do it because youcan do hard things.
Thank you so much for hangingout with me today.
I had such a wonderful time.
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I cannot wait to meet you againnext Wednesday.
Right here on this podcast.
Mamma.
I hope that as you are inspiredand uplifted, that you would
show up at all the spaces andplaces ready to serve with a
joyful heart.
And yes, with confidence.
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It would bring me so much joyhearing from you on top of that.
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If you want to connect evenmore, join the insider's list.
I would love to continue helpingyou as you journey on in getting
God centered confidence.
The link to join the insider'slist is going to be posted in
the show notes..
All right, my friend, this iswhere we part ways.
I hope you have a wonderful day.
Go in peace.
Are you unknowingly killing yourconfidence?
(00:02):
Today, we're diving into thenumber one mistake you could be
making and it's holding youback.
Trust me, once you recognizethis, it's going to be a game
changer for your faith andconfidence journey.
Let's dive in.
Hey, mama.
(00:22):
Are you tired of battling yourown mind with self-doubt, and
with imposter syndrome?
Have you ever wondered if youare enough if you ever said yes
to any of these, let's uprootall of that and start rebuilding
the framework for you to getGod-centered confidence.
My name is Caroline Tau.
I'm host for the Restore Mind,and I'm also a biblical
(00:42):
confidence coach, where I teachyou how to get confidence
through scripture.
Are you ready?
Grab your Bible, break out thatjournal and get something to
write with.
Let's go.
I'm so excited to invite you tothis event that I am going to be
hosting.
(01:03):
It's a live workshop where wecan connect outside the podcast
on April 14th at 10:00 AMPacific Stern time.
I will be on Zoom live with youfor a power packed hour to walk
you through my simple four stepprocess on how you can hear from
God more clearly and buildunshakeable confidence in who
you are.
(01:23):
It's going to be fun.
Faith filled and full ofpowerful takeaways.
Everyone who attends the lifewill receive a 20% off discount
code for your first coachingcall service, which is an
incredible amount of savings.
On top of that, I'm also givingaway a Daily Grace Company gift
card to one Lucky Mama.
Now you will have to be there towin the gift card and spots are
(01:47):
limited.
So grab yours now, my friend.
Just head to the show notes andclick the link to save your
seat.
I can't wait to see you there.
Today I am going to share astory with you that's going to
highlight my not so goodmoments.
We were in the very beginning ofour marriage, my husband and I,
and I just had my son.
He was a couple of months oldand I was getting ready to go on
(02:10):
a date with him.
So he walks into the room and hetells me how beautiful I'm
looking and do you know how Iresponded?
I responded with a snarkycomment filled with attitude.
Looking back, it is not myproudest moment, and I also
don't recommend doing that rightbefore you're about to go on a
date.
Highly do not recommend.?
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I said, you only have to saythat because I'm your wife.
Now, the comment was actuallysaid with way more attitude, way
more sass.
And yes, there was eye rollingwith a dash of annoyance and my
tone of voice, and yes, you'reabsolutely right.
I was being incredibly rude tomy husband, who was kind enough
to walk in and give me acompliment as I was getting
(02:52):
ready.
His response actually took me bysurprise, which made me upset
because I knew deep down he wasright and back then I was so
full of pride.
I did not want to apologize oradmit that I was wrong.
I was that person that neededthe last word in every argument
that I was in.
It was not my proudest moment.
(03:12):
I admit I needed a lot of workback then, and to be really
honest with you, I still think Ican use work now, which is great
because there's always room forgrowth.
But anyway, you wanna know whathe said?
He came back after I said myrude comment and said, you need
to learn how to take acompliment.
And the way that he said it wasso calm, he wasn't rude about
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it, and he didn't yell.
He simply made his statement andhe walked away.
I'll share more of this later,but thank goodness God did some
pruning on your girl because Iwas a hot mess and that was not
my finest hour.
So what is the number onemistake you're making that's
killing your confidence?
It's your inner soft talk thathappens on a daily, and you've
(03:55):
gotten.
So used to it that you're noteven realizing what you're doing
to yourself.
So how does this story relate tothe conversation today?
Well, first I had to sit andthink about why I responded with
what I said.
And you know what it boiled downto, it came down to the negative
self-talk, which is a silentkiller, and the thing is it
(04:16):
plays the game for the longhaul.
See, I responded the way that Idid because of how I was
speaking to myself about myself.
I ended up internalizing it andit outwardly expressed itself
without the conscious decisionof how I was going to respond.
(04:36):
Negative self-talk is a form ofdialogue that you formed inside
of your mind to put yourselfdown when you are already
feeling doubt.
Fear or frustrated among otherthings like mom guilt or shame
from your mistakes.
It can also happen when you fallshort of other people's
expectations because you end uptelling yourself that you're not
doing enough.
When you are, say for example,about to do something new, like
(04:59):
start a business, you wonder ifyour credentials are enough.
You begin to also wonder ifyou're going to be successful,
and then you start to think,well.
You're probably not going to besuccessful, and you start to
look at all of the reasons whyif you are a working mom,
whether it's from home orcommuting, you begin to tell
(05:20):
yourself that you're not lovingyour family well because.
You are spending time onsomething else other than being
fully present with your family.
And honestly, there's so muchthat we as moms tell ourselves
that we overcompensate for morework in the areas where we think
we're falling short.
And ultimately it ends up withmore stress and less rest, which
(05:45):
is not what we want.
We don't want to feelcontinuously overwhelmed or to
feel like we lack rest.
so when you receive a complimentor when you try to tell yourself
something positive, it can behard for you to genuinely.
Be thankful for the complimentor to truly believe in the
positive thing that you'retrying to tell yourself.
(06:06):
I mean, it's especially hardbecause if you think about it,
the negative self-talk that'smade home in your mind.
It has been with you for days,weeks, and even years, and
you've been bashing on yourselfwithout even realizing it.
Negative self-talk happensbecause it becomes a comfort
zone in how you speak toyourself.
It is possible to have habitsthat you take comfort in when
(06:29):
it's not good for you.
These habits are part of yourmuscle memory, and it is an
unconscious reaction that youjust do naturally as a reaction
to what's happening around you.
Over the years, you'veprogrammed your mind to think
that way.
So now the immediate thought isthat you can't do or be
something because of whateverthe negative thought is in your
(06:51):
mind, or maybe you think youcan't do something.
Because you don't have whateverthat thing is you think that you
need in order to proceed withthe goals or the ideas that you
have.
Now, I said earlier that I wouldcome back around to this story
that I shared with you earlier,and so here we are.
When my husband made thestatement that.
(07:14):
I needed to learn to take acompliment.
It honestly took me years tounderstand what he meant.
I was way too prideful toexplore what that would even
look like.
And the year that I had mymiscarriage, which if you're new
here, I've had multiplemiscarriages, but there was one
that truly brought me to rockbottom.
(07:37):
And in that same year, mymarriage struggled and my
insecurities just came out allin that same year because I had
spent multiple years prior tothat sweeping all of the
insecurities under the ruginstead of addressing them.
So it was a huge year.
There was a lot going on.
And that was the year thatchanged everything because his
(07:57):
comment that he made in thebeginning of our marriage is I
was getting ready to go on adate with him.
It came back to my mind it mademe realize that I didn't take a
compliment.
Well, when I saw how I putmyself down, even when someone
would say something nice to me,See, my husband's compliment was
(08:17):
given out of genuine care andlove, and I responded with a
very nasty attitude which is thesame attitude that I gave myself
for years.
And so I would love to offer youthis thought for you to think
about how you accept complimentsfrom other people, and also to
(08:37):
reflect on the kind of dialoguethat you have about yourself to
yourself.
Inside your own mind, what doesthat mostly look like?
As I was thinking back on this,I allowed negative self-talk to
happen for two reasons.
One, because that was thedefault that I fell back on,
which was putting myself down.
(08:57):
and secondly, but mostimportantly, I did not take the
time to know God or allow hisword to take root into my life.
So, mama, I encourage you toreflect on your actions, your
thoughts, and your words when itcomes to how you treat yourself.
Are you being overly critical ofyourself?
Are you being unkind to yourselfand the things that you're
(09:19):
saying about yourself, would youtell a friend those same things?
being kind does not mean thatyou have to become conceited in
your own strengths.
Remember that you are working onrooting your confidence in God,
not in the world.
So you can learn to be trulykind to yourself when you learn
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the kindness that is in God.
Kindness is not sugarcoating, itis not making excuses, but it
can be tough love at times, andit is compassion.
It is grace, it's mercy.
It's gentle.
and that kind of kindness isgoing to be the one that you
wanna work towards so that youcan build unshakeable
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confidence.
The parable of the sower comesto mind as I'm talking to you
about rooting yourself in theword of God, because that was
the biggest game changer for me,and I know that as you begin to
root yourself in the word ofGod, it is.
Going to be a game changer foryou as well.
So the parable, the sower is inMatthew chapter 13, and if you
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are able mama, break out thatBible, if it's on your phone, or
if you're able to physicallypull up a Bible.
Please bring it out and read italong with me.
I enjoy reading scripture withyou and I just wanna take the
time to dig into the word ofGod.
So we're gonna be doing that NowI am going to be reading from
the English standard version,but feel free to follow along in
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whatever version of the Bibleyou have.
Verse one starts out by sayingthat same day, Jesus went out of
the house and sat beside the seaand great crowds gathered about
him so that he got into a boatand the whole crowd stood on the
beach and he told them manythings in parables saying a
sower went out to sow.
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And as he sowed, some seeds fellalong the path and the birds
came and devoured them.
Other seeds fell on rocky groundwhere they did not have much
soil and immediately they sprangup since they had no depth of
soil.
But when the sun arose, theywere scorched.
And since they had no roots,they withered away.
Other seeds fell among thorns,and the thorns grew up and
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choked them.
Other seeds fell on good soiland produced grain.
Some a hundred fold, some 60,some 30.
He who has ears, let him hearand on verse nine, the footnote
here says some manuscripts addin this verse to hear.
So verse nine, with thatfootnote would say, he who has
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ears to hear, let him hear as Iread that, was there anything
that stuck out to you?
Which seed do you find yourselfto be in this season?
I believe we are all of these,to be really honest with you,
but typically there's one thattruly stands out the most
depending on what season of lifewe're in.
The goal is to be the seed ingood soil.
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Now, as you reflect on the typeof seed that you are in the
season of life, do not becomediscouraged, but be encouraged
that you have the blood of Jesusover you, and it is not a
condemnation when you realizethat you're falling short
somewhere.
As a matter of fact, I want youto think of it as an invitation
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to get to know God more and tocling onto him like a child.
Do not let the enemy snatchaway.
What has been so onto yourheart.
Mama do not.
Just receive God's words withjoy and then wither away at the
first sign of trouble.
But put your roots in good soiland bear good fruits.
Jesus actually explains thisparable further down in chapter
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13, and you'll find thatstarting at first, 18 to 23.
So verse 18 to 23 says, hearthen the parable of the sower.
When anyone hears the word ofthe kingdom and does not
understand it, The evil one,comes and snatches away what has
been sewn in his heart.
This is what was sewn along thepath.
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As for what was sewn on RockyRoad, this is the one who hears
the word and immediatelyreceives it with joy, yet he has
no roots in himself, but enduresfor a while and when tribulation
or persecution arises on accountof the word, immediately, he
falls away.
As for what was sown amongthorns, this is the one who
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hears the word, but the cares ofthe world and the deceitfulness
of riches choke the word and itproves unfruitful.
As for what was sewn on goodsoil, this is the one who hears
the word and understands it.
He indeed bears fruit and yieldsin one case a hundred fold in
another 60 and in another 30.
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So how do you come to understandthe word?
Read the Bible my friend.
Take time to read the Bible Andbe intentional with it.
As you're reading, apply whatyou learn so that you can
cultivate your roots in goodsoil and look up unfamiliar
words.
This is going to be the mosthelpful for you to connect the
dots.
If anything is unclear, as youtake the time to understand the
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context.
It's going to help youtremendously because then you'll
get to know the background ofthe reason why these letters or
the book was written the waythat it was written, and then
the last tip I have for you isto ask questions.
Don't be afraid to askquestions.
Mama, this is going to be anabsolute game changer for you.
And also don't think that youhave to have all the answers as
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you are reading and as you'reasking these questions, don't
think that you have to knoweverything.
It is okay for you to take yourtime and.
Slowly seek out the answers.
I would also encourage you tohave an open dialogue with
someone that you would trustabout the questions you have.
and I think that it's going tobe an incredible way for you to
engage with scripture and startto truly seek and find.
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I also recommend that you readreputable commentaries as it'll
help you understand maybe somethings that are unclear for you.
Now as far as the negativeself-talk, I believe that the
one thing that you can do rightnow to help you move towards a
more positive self-talk is topause the moment that you find
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yourself in a negativeself-talk.
Now, that's not to say that youare going to.
Catch yourself immediately doingit.
But if you keep findingyourself, going back to the
worries, going back to thewishing you had the thing or.
Kind of dwelling on thenegativity of what you think you
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might need more of, or where youthink you're falling short In
that moment, I want you to pauseand I really want you to think
about whether or not thisnegative self-talk is going to
serve you well.
And as you are thinking aboutthe negative self-talk, I would
also encourage you to thinkabout whether or not this
negative thought process isrooted in good soil.
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You might find that yournegative self-talk is a cycle of
repetitive things that you'retelling yourself, whether it
stemmed from childhood or justfrom making mistakes that you
truly hadn't healed fromwhatever that may look like for
you.
I know we talked about a lottoday, We talked about negative
self-talk being the number onemistake that continues to wreak
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havoc on your confidence andalso in your mind, right?
So it is time mama for you totake a stand and make the
changes that is going to impacthow you build the framework
surrounding confidence.
Negative self-talk is a form ofdialogue that you have within
yourself, and it happens becauseit becomes a comfort zone that
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you end up living in And yes, itis very possible for you to have
habits that you take comfort in,even when it's not good for you.
So a good way to test whether ornot you have negative self-talk
is to think about how well youtake a compliment.
What are your immediateresponses or the immediate
thoughts that you typically goto?
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And then think about how you canroot yourself in the word of God
more so.
Some of the tips that I leftwith you today is to continue
reading the Bible, applying whatyou're learning into your life.
Taking the time to look up wordsand understanding the context of
the Bible is gonna help youtremendously as well.
And.
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Don't be afraid to askquestions, It can be incredibly
hard as you are building Godsuch a confidence, but I know
that you can do it because youcan do hard things.
Thank you so much for hangingout with me today.
I had such a wonderful time.
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I cannot wait to meet you againnext Wednesday.
Right here on this podcast.
Mamma.
I hope that as you are inspiredand uplifted, that you would
show up at all the spaces andplaces ready to serve with a
joyful heart.
And yes, with confidence.
Please take a moment to leave areview on apple podcasts.
It would bring me so much joyhearing from you on top of that.
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If you want to connect evenmore, join the insider's list.
I would love to continue helpingyou as you journey on in getting
God centered confidence.
The link to join the insider'slist is going to be posted in
the show notes..
All right, my friend, this iswhere we part ways.
I hope you have a wonderful day.
Go in peace.
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