May 28, 2025 • 18 mins
Hey Mama!
Do you ever wonder if it’s wrong to want something beyond motherhood? Maybe you have a dream on your heart—a business idea, a creative passion, or a calling—and yet, you feel guilty for even thinking about it.
This episode is for the Christian mom who’s wrestling with the tension between being present at home and longing to pursue more. If you’ve ever searched “how to balance motherhood and calling”, “mom guilt”, or “can I be a good mom and still have dreams?”—you are not alone.
Key Takeaways:
- Why desiring more doesn’t make you ungrateful or less of a mom.
- How to let go of guilt and embrace biblical stewardship of your gifts.
- Simple habits to help you move forward with clarity and peace.
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(00:00):
You feel that nudge to start asmall business, or maybe you
already have one and your mindkeeps telling you to do just one
more thing.
Then comes the guilt.
When you try to slip away tofinish that last task, you're
torn because no matter what youchoose, you second guess if
you're honoring your role well,or if you are taking it for
(00:25):
granted.
If that's you, you are notalone.
In this episode, we're talkingabout how to let go of guilt so
you can move forward in faith,especially when you feel pulled
between your big audaciousdreams and your kids.
Let's dive in.
(00:46):
.Hey mama.
Are you tired of the constantmom guilt and wondering if
you're really enough?
You know God has called you formore, but peace feels like it's
just out of reach.
I'm Caroline Thao, host of theRestore Mind, and I'm so glad
you're here.
This is your safe space totrade, overwhelmed for
confidence, guilt for grace, andstep into the freedom God has
(01:08):
for you.
Ready?
Let's do this.
Today is such an exciting daybecause I get to officially
invite you to something fun,simple, and powerful.
To kick off this summer, I'mhosting the Grace over Guilt
(01:30):
Challenge, a five day challengehappening inside my free online
community starting June 9th.
And I would love for you to joinus As summer kicks off, I know
you're craving more connectionwith your family, but also
battling the pressure of all ofthe things like vacations to-do,
lists your business dreams andthe lingering mom guilt.
(01:53):
That's why this challenge ishere to help you.
Let go of the overwhelm andchoose grace over guilt.
Every day for five days, you'llget a super simple but effective
challenge, something that youcan do on the go between
popsicles and park days.
These small steps will help yoube more present with your
family.
(02:13):
Walk in confidence as a mom andfaith-filled leader in your
home.
That sounds amazing, right?
And even build a momentum inyour business without the guilt,
this is not just another thingon your plate.
It's a breath of fresh air inthe middle of your busy summer,
or should I say the beginning ofyour busy summer.
Mark your calendar for June 9thand go ahead and join the group
(02:37):
now so that you can get settledin and meet the other amazing
mamas that are joining us.
So click on the link in the shownotes to get you there, my
friend.
Let's kick off this summer withgrace, presence, and purpose.
I can't wait to see you there.
As a little girl, I often heardthe phrase, once you have a
baby, your life is over.
(02:58):
My parents said it to me morethan once, and it was drilled
into my mind.
Now, they didn't mean that Iwould literally lose my life.
They meant I would lose thefreedom to go and do whatever I
wanted when I wanted to behonest, it didn't really seem to
bother me, so I wasn't worriedabout that phrase ever coming
(03:19):
quote.
Unquote true.
I wanted to travel.
I wanted to build a business,though I had no idea what kind I
wanted to be established beforeeven thinking about.
Being a mom.
to be honest with you, I neverwanted to be a mom.
I knew that I would eventuallyhave this type of conversation
with my future husband, but itwas never really something that
(03:42):
was on my list of things to do,but life did not go according to
my plan.
Yes, I did get married, but Ibecame a mom way before I ever
accomplished any of thosedreams.
And for a long time I struggled.
I felt lost in my role.
I didn't want to just be a stayat home mom.
I had these big, audaciousdreams, but I didn't know what
(04:06):
they looked like, and Idefinitely didn't know how to
make them happen.
And the whole time there wasthis voice whispering, if you
want more, are you beingungrateful?
So let's talk about thatquestion.
Maybe no one has ever told youdirectly that you are
ungrateful, but the guilt suremakes it feel that way, doesn't
it?
For a long time I believed thelie that if I wanted more, if I
(04:30):
wanted to build a small businessor pursue a dream, I wasn't a
loving mom, that I wasneglecting my kids, that I was
being ungrateful for the gift ofsimply being able to stay at
home with my children.
But that belief came fromhonestly, nowhere specific.
It was a lie that I internalizedand I let it fester.
(04:51):
I didn't talk about it withanyone.
So it became a situation whereit was me versus me, but here's
what changed everything.
I realized my desire to buildsomething was not rebellion.
It was actually an invitation.
God gives us gifts, skills,talents, passions, and
opportunities to partner withhim using these things.
(05:14):
Whether that looks like a smallbusiness or volunteering, you're
not running away from your roleas a mom.
You're simply stepping intoanother role that he's equipped
you for.
The problem is the false senseof belief that motherhood should
be your only source of or whatyou should only be focusing on.
(05:34):
The reality is that you havethese big dreams, you have these
big passions that you want topursue, and you're a mom.
So don't let that hold you back.
Your source of fulfillment comesfrom anchoring yourself in God
and allowing that to be enoughso that you can show up as a mom
(05:55):
or as a small business owner, oreven someone who volunteers with
full confidence and joy withouthaving mom guilt attached to you
and friend, you and I both knowwe love our children deeply.
We would not trade this role foranything, but that doesn't mean
that it is the only way Godwants to work through you or
(06:16):
wants you to work for thekingdom of God.
So if you're wondering, should Iwait until my kids are older to
start this dream?
Let me encourage you.
You don't have to choose one orthe other.
You can be a good mom and pursuethis big audacious dream or this
passion that you have instead oftelling yourself, I'm selfish,
(06:38):
or I'm not experienced enough,or I'm neglecting my kids and
I'm wasting time if I don'tfocus on them while they're so
young, I want you to startreplacing those lies with truth,
because you are a leader, you'rea teacher, a student, and so
much more.
You're a leader because you'retaking ownership and
responsibility of all the goodand bad that surrounds your
(07:00):
small business or whateverpassion it is that you're
pursuing.
You're a teacher because yourkids are watching you navigate
through these obstacles andchallenges as you come up with
solutions for them.
You're letting them know that itis okay to mess up, and that
teaches them to be confident inthe way that they also navigate
(07:20):
through their life, right?
It teaches them that It's okaythat we run into problems
because we can always find asolution for it.
We can always come up withsomething that is going to help
us or.
Maybe even teach us somethingalong the way.
And you are a student becauseyou're constantly growing,
learning and depending on God,which is amazing.
(07:42):
You want to always be a student.
At least that's just my personalopinion.
You are showing your childrenhow to pursue those purpose
without giving up how to facestruggles and keep going.
So that's not neglect, that'sactually discipleship.
It is a wonderful way for you toserve as a mom and someone who
is trying to grow a smallbusiness.
(08:04):
It's not always easy, but asthey're watching you, it's also
teaching them.
And as you do this, you'rereframing what it means to
steward both your family andyour dreams.
So let's talk about the wordstewardship.
Okay?
'cause that word sometimes canget a little bit scary.
But see, God has given yougifts, your time, talents, and
(08:25):
even your challenges.
Those are gifts as well.
It's not always going to bewrapped up in a pretty bow and
delivered to you on a beautifulbed of flowers.
Sometimes it comes to you andlumps and you really don't know
what to do with it except to tryand work through it, right?
See, stewardship simply meanstaking good care of what God has
(08:47):
given you.
I've used to think that successmeant I would never fail, But
God redefines success for me asfaithfulness, showing up when
things got hard, beingconsistent when I didn't want to
do the mundane, everyday boringtasks when I was learning,
growing, and learning to trusthim instead of relying on my own
(09:09):
strength.
That includes the hard days.
So the messy seasons that nobodywants to talk about, the very
lonely seasons, the hard ones,the one that makes us cry in
silent, the one that breaks ourhearts, those are all included
as well.
And especially the times whenyou don't feel quote unquote
qualified.
Jesus is the perfect example ofstewardship.
(09:31):
He was present, purposeful, andobedient.
He didn't rush to proveanything.
And honestly we can follow hisexample.
So here's something I wish I hadknown earlier.
Are you ready for this?
Mama?
See, you don't have to earn theright to start or to pursue your
big, audacious dream.
God has given you the gifts andthe desire to do these things,
(09:55):
he's already entrusted you withthe responsibility to use them.
It's in how you are stewardingthis opportunity.
So let me ask you.
What is stopping you?
Are you waiting for the perfectmoment when your house is quiet
or when your to-do list finallybecomes empty or when your
(10:16):
confidence is high?
Mama, if you do that, you'regonna be waiting forever.
Perfection is not the goal.
We are going for progress I havea friend who is in podcasting
and I reached out to herexpressing how I wanted to also
start podcast.
Now, keep in mind, she hadalready been podcasting for
(10:37):
years before I ever jumped onand before I ever got a mic and
decided to do this myself.
So I shared with her how I wasscared that I didn't have all
the answers to what I was tryingto do, and I was afraid that
nobody would like me or thatnobody would listen.
I didn't want this to fail.
So all of my fears came out inthat conversation.
(10:58):
And you know what she told me?
She said, Caroline, things willget messy, but that's where
growth happens.
And then she reminded me thatnot everyone will agree with me,
and that is okay, but if I wasgenuine and wanting to serve
people well, I would eventuallyfind my stride.
So if you're scared, startsmall.
Think about the vision that youwant for your brand, or if you
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already have one, think aboutwhat you can do that is going to
make the pressure of showing upin your small business.
Less overwhelming.
One of the things that I'velearned was that I overthought
everything.
I can be an overthinker.
I was thinking about what if Isaid this and then it offended
someone?
Or what if I titled my episodethis particular way and it
(11:44):
doesn't make sense to people?
Well, all of that came true.
So it's not that I purposelytried to confuse my audience or
try to leave my family behindwhile I was trying to figure out
my business life, right?
It was all in the works and itgot messy and it got scary
(12:04):
because I didn't know what I wasdoing.
And it was a learning moment forme.
And I know that you're gonnahave those too.
So if you're scared, startsmall.
And there was this phrase too,that I've heard one of my
coaches say when I was workingwith her, I'd shared with her
that I was.
Scared to do this thing, whichhad a lot to do with fitness and
absolutely nothing to do withstarting a small business,.
(12:28):
But it still is something that Ithink about even now.
And she says, if you're scaredto start, then start scared.
And it encouraged me to not haveeverything figured out, to not
try and aim for perfection or tooverthink things, but to take it
one baby step at a time.
And it goes into what Solomonreminds us of in Ecclesiastes
(12:51):
chapter nine, verse 10, whichreads whatever your hands find
to do, do it with your might.
Where there is no work orthought or knowledge or wisdom
in Sheol to which you are going,so whatever your hands find to
do, do it with all your might,meaning all your effort, energy,
and enthusiasm.
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I used to take offense to thisverse, if I'm being completely
honest with you.
'cause I would read it thinkingI'm just a mom.
And that is such a cringeyattitude to have, especially as
someone who really wanted to besuccessful and pursue this big
audacious dream that I had.
But one day I was watching mykids stack blocks while we were
in their toy room and they keptdoing that over and over again.
(13:37):
And no matter how many timesthe.
Blocks fell.
They still laughed and wouldsay, let's do it again, until
they had built the biggest towerwith all of the blocks and then
it hit me.
They weren't discouraged by thefall of the blocks.
They were determined to continueto build again and again.
And you know what?
The beautiful thing I witnessedthat day was that as the tower
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got bigger, so did the goal.
'cause it started off with justgetting it up maybe three or
four blocks.
And then it was, well how muchcan we stack until the blocks
fell?
And then that went from, well,let's use all of the blocks and
try to keep the blocks fromfalling.
It was wonderful becauseeventually that happened that's
(14:18):
when it hit me.
Solomon was not trying to tellme to pick one or the other.
He was saying, show up as a momwith enthusiasm, with energy,
with intention.
Show up as a small businessowner with enthusiasm, with
energy and intention.
Do it with all your might.
And you know what Admittingly Iused to.
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Really not pay attention to thelast portion of this verse, but
it's also very important becauseit talks about how there is
nothing, there is no work, nothoughts or knowledge or wisdom
in Sheol to which you're going,which means that when you are no
longer here on earth, theopportunity has passed, you
don't get a second chance.
To come back and try to redo thelife that you want to have.
(15:04):
And you know, if I'm beingreally honest with you, we don't
think about that.
We don't think about how it issuch a message of urgency.
So this verse helped me, and Ihope that it helps you too.
Not to discourage you that youhave to be everywhere, all at
once.
But you are one person.
You are a mom, you are a wife,you are someone who is.
(15:29):
Purpose driven in a sense whereyou do want to start a small
business and serve your localcommunity, or maybe you are a
working mom and you feel theguilt for always working and you
feel like you're never home withyour kids and you would love to
spend that time with them.
Take up every moment that youcan and whatever your hands fine
to do, do it with all of yourmight be intentional in all of
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the roles.
You don't need a perfect plan tostart.
You just need to begin.
So let go of the guilt, let goof perfection.
Start where you are because youhave been equipped and God has
given you everything that youneed for this particular season
in your life and trust that Godis with you in all of the roles
(16:13):
that you are in.
Your small business or your bigpassion.
It is not a distraction frommotherhood.
It's a beautiful extension ofhow God wants to work through
you in this season, so you'renot being ungrateful.
You are a steward.
And you are doing better thanyou think.
(16:34):
So as you navigate through this,as you are taking in what I'm
saying, let's recap theconversation for today.
We talked about how it'simportant that you change the
narrative and replacing the lieswith truth.
Remember, you are not someonewho is ungrateful.
You are not someone who isselfish.
You are a leader, a teacher, anda student.
(16:54):
And feel free to add in whateverword.
Relates to your situation rightnow.
We also talked about how you areable to do both and still be a
good mom.
And then finally we talked aboutnot aiming for perfection but
stewardship and that is how wellyou take care of the gifts that
God has given you.
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Don't waste the opportunity,mama.
I know that it can be extremelyhard when you're navigating
through it, and maybe the lieshave already rooted in your
mind, so now you're trying touproot them.
It's going to take some time,and if you need help with that,
I would love to help you.
So reach out to me.
I encourage you to check out myfree online community where mama
is just like you are movingforward and leaving mom guilt
(17:38):
behind because we don't needthat and our already stressful
life.
All right.
I know it can be hard, but youcan do hard things.
Thank you so much for hangingout with me today.
I had such a wonderful time.
I cannot wait to meet you againnext Wednesday.
Right here on this podcast.
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Mamma.
I hope that as you are inspiredand uplifted, that you would
show up at all the spaces andplaces ready to serve with a
joyful heart.
And yes, with confidence.
Please take a moment to leave areview on apple podcasts.
It would bring me so much joyhearing from you If you want to
connect even more, join theinsider's list.
I would love to continue helpingyou as you journey on the link
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to join the insider's list isgoing to be posted in the show
notes..
All right, my friend, this iswhere we part ways.
I hope you have a wonderful day.
Go in peace.
You feel that nudge to start asmall business, or maybe you
already have one and your mindkeeps telling you to do just one
more thing.
Then comes the guilt.
When you try to slip away tofinish that last task, you're
torn because no matter what youchoose, you second guess if
you're honoring your role well,or if you are taking it for
(00:25):
granted.
If that's you, you are notalone.
In this episode, we're talkingabout how to let go of guilt so
you can move forward in faith,especially when you feel pulled
between your big audaciousdreams and your kids.
Let's dive in.
(00:46):
.Hey mama.
Are you tired of the constantmom guilt and wondering if
you're really enough?
You know God has called you formore, but peace feels like it's
just out of reach.
I'm Caroline Thao, host of theRestore Mind, and I'm so glad
you're here.
This is your safe space totrade, overwhelmed for
confidence, guilt for grace, andstep into the freedom God has
(01:08):
for you.
Ready?
Let's do this.
Today is such an exciting daybecause I get to officially
invite you to something fun,simple, and powerful.
To kick off this summer, I'mhosting the Grace over Guilt
(01:30):
Challenge, a five day challengehappening inside my free online
community starting June 9th.
And I would love for you to joinus As summer kicks off, I know
you're craving more connectionwith your family, but also
battling the pressure of all ofthe things like vacations to-do,
lists your business dreams andthe lingering mom guilt.
(01:53):
That's why this challenge ishere to help you.
Let go of the overwhelm andchoose grace over guilt.
Every day for five days, you'llget a super simple but effective
challenge, something that youcan do on the go between
popsicles and park days.
These small steps will help yoube more present with your
family.
(02:13):
Walk in confidence as a mom andfaith-filled leader in your
home.
That sounds amazing, right?
And even build a momentum inyour business without the guilt,
this is not just another thingon your plate.
It's a breath of fresh air inthe middle of your busy summer,
or should I say the beginning ofyour busy summer.
Mark your calendar for June 9thand go ahead and join the group
(02:37):
now so that you can get settledin and meet the other amazing
mamas that are joining us.
So click on the link in the shownotes to get you there, my
friend.
Let's kick off this summer withgrace, presence, and purpose.
I can't wait to see you there.
As a little girl, I often heardthe phrase, once you have a
baby, your life is over.
(02:58):
My parents said it to me morethan once, and it was drilled
into my mind.
Now, they didn't mean that Iwould literally lose my life.
They meant I would lose thefreedom to go and do whatever I
wanted when I wanted to behonest, it didn't really seem to
bother me, so I wasn't worriedabout that phrase ever coming
(03:19):
quote.
Unquote true.
I wanted to travel.
I wanted to build a business,though I had no idea what kind I
wanted to be established beforeeven thinking about.
Being a mom.
to be honest with you, I neverwanted to be a mom.
I knew that I would eventuallyhave this type of conversation
with my future husband, but itwas never really something that
(03:42):
was on my list of things to do,but life did not go according to
my plan.
Yes, I did get married, but Ibecame a mom way before I ever
accomplished any of thosedreams.
And for a long time I struggled.
I felt lost in my role.
I didn't want to just be a stayat home mom.
I had these big, audaciousdreams, but I didn't know what
(04:06):
they looked like, and Idefinitely didn't know how to
make them happen.
And the whole time there wasthis voice whispering, if you
want more, are you beingungrateful?
So let's talk about thatquestion.
Maybe no one has ever told youdirectly that you are
ungrateful, but the guilt suremakes it feel that way, doesn't
it?
For a long time I believed thelie that if I wanted more, if I
(04:30):
wanted to build a small businessor pursue a dream, I wasn't a
loving mom, that I wasneglecting my kids, that I was
being ungrateful for the gift ofsimply being able to stay at
home with my children.
But that belief came fromhonestly, nowhere specific.
It was a lie that I internalizedand I let it fester.
(04:51):
I didn't talk about it withanyone.
So it became a situation whereit was me versus me, but here's
what changed everything.
I realized my desire to buildsomething was not rebellion.
It was actually an invitation.
God gives us gifts, skills,talents, passions, and
opportunities to partner withhim using these things.
(05:14):
Whether that looks like a smallbusiness or volunteering, you're
not running away from your roleas a mom.
You're simply stepping intoanother role that he's equipped
you for.
The problem is the false senseof belief that motherhood should
be your only source of or whatyou should only be focusing on.
(05:34):
The reality is that you havethese big dreams, you have these
big passions that you want topursue, and you're a mom.
So don't let that hold you back.
Your source of fulfillment comesfrom anchoring yourself in God
and allowing that to be enoughso that you can show up as a mom
(05:55):
or as a small business owner, oreven someone who volunteers with
full confidence and joy withouthaving mom guilt attached to you
and friend, you and I both knowwe love our children deeply.
We would not trade this role foranything, but that doesn't mean
that it is the only way Godwants to work through you or
(06:16):
wants you to work for thekingdom of God.
So if you're wondering, should Iwait until my kids are older to
start this dream?
Let me encourage you.
You don't have to choose one orthe other.
You can be a good mom and pursuethis big audacious dream or this
passion that you have instead oftelling yourself, I'm selfish,
(06:38):
or I'm not experienced enough,or I'm neglecting my kids and
I'm wasting time if I don'tfocus on them while they're so
young, I want you to startreplacing those lies with truth,
because you are a leader, you'rea teacher, a student, and so
much more.
You're a leader because you'retaking ownership and
responsibility of all the goodand bad that surrounds your
(07:00):
small business or whateverpassion it is that you're
pursuing.
You're a teacher because yourkids are watching you navigate
through these obstacles andchallenges as you come up with
solutions for them.
You're letting them know that itis okay to mess up, and that
teaches them to be confident inthe way that they also navigate
(07:20):
through their life, right?
It teaches them that It's okaythat we run into problems
because we can always find asolution for it.
We can always come up withsomething that is going to help
us or.
Maybe even teach us somethingalong the way.
And you are a student becauseyou're constantly growing,
learning and depending on God,which is amazing.
(07:42):
You want to always be a student.
At least that's just my personalopinion.
You are showing your childrenhow to pursue those purpose
without giving up how to facestruggles and keep going.
So that's not neglect, that'sactually discipleship.
It is a wonderful way for you toserve as a mom and someone who
is trying to grow a smallbusiness.
(08:04):
It's not always easy, but asthey're watching you, it's also
teaching them.
And as you do this, you'rereframing what it means to
steward both your family andyour dreams.
So let's talk about the wordstewardship.
Okay?
'cause that word sometimes canget a little bit scary.
But see, God has given yougifts, your time, talents, and
(08:25):
even your challenges.
Those are gifts as well.
It's not always going to bewrapped up in a pretty bow and
delivered to you on a beautifulbed of flowers.
Sometimes it comes to you andlumps and you really don't know
what to do with it except to tryand work through it, right?
See, stewardship simply meanstaking good care of what God has
(08:47):
given you.
I've used to think that successmeant I would never fail, But
God redefines success for me asfaithfulness, showing up when
things got hard, beingconsistent when I didn't want to
do the mundane, everyday boringtasks when I was learning,
growing, and learning to trusthim instead of relying on my own
(09:09):
strength.
That includes the hard days.
So the messy seasons that nobodywants to talk about, the very
lonely seasons, the hard ones,the one that makes us cry in
silent, the one that breaks ourhearts, those are all included
as well.
And especially the times whenyou don't feel quote unquote
qualified.
Jesus is the perfect example ofstewardship.
(09:31):
He was present, purposeful, andobedient.
He didn't rush to proveanything.
And honestly we can follow hisexample.
So here's something I wish I hadknown earlier.
Are you ready for this?
Mama?
See, you don't have to earn theright to start or to pursue your
big, audacious dream.
God has given you the gifts andthe desire to do these things,
(09:55):
he's already entrusted you withthe responsibility to use them.
It's in how you are stewardingthis opportunity.
So let me ask you.
What is stopping you?
Are you waiting for the perfectmoment when your house is quiet
or when your to-do list finallybecomes empty or when your
(10:16):
confidence is high?
Mama, if you do that, you'regonna be waiting forever.
Perfection is not the goal.
We are going for progress I havea friend who is in podcasting
and I reached out to herexpressing how I wanted to also
start podcast.
Now, keep in mind, she hadalready been podcasting for
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years before I ever jumped onand before I ever got a mic and
decided to do this myself.
So I shared with her how I wasscared that I didn't have all
the answers to what I was tryingto do, and I was afraid that
nobody would like me or thatnobody would listen.
I didn't want this to fail.
So all of my fears came out inthat conversation.
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And you know what she told me?
She said, Caroline, things willget messy, but that's where
growth happens.
And then she reminded me thatnot everyone will agree with me,
and that is okay, but if I wasgenuine and wanting to serve
people well, I would eventuallyfind my stride.
So if you're scared, startsmall.
Think about the vision that youwant for your brand, or if you
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already have one, think aboutwhat you can do that is going to
make the pressure of showing upin your small business.
Less overwhelming.
One of the things that I'velearned was that I overthought
everything.
I can be an overthinker.
I was thinking about what if Isaid this and then it offended
someone?
Or what if I titled my episodethis particular way and it
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doesn't make sense to people?
Well, all of that came true.
So it's not that I purposelytried to confuse my audience or
try to leave my family behindwhile I was trying to figure out
my business life, right?
It was all in the works and itgot messy and it got scary
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because I didn't know what I wasdoing.
And it was a learning moment forme.
And I know that you're gonnahave those too.
So if you're scared, startsmall.
And there was this phrase too,that I've heard one of my
coaches say when I was workingwith her, I'd shared with her
that I was.
Scared to do this thing, whichhad a lot to do with fitness and
absolutely nothing to do withstarting a small business,.
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But it still is something that Ithink about even now.
And she says, if you're scaredto start, then start scared.
And it encouraged me to not haveeverything figured out, to not
try and aim for perfection or tooverthink things, but to take it
one baby step at a time.
And it goes into what Solomonreminds us of in Ecclesiastes
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chapter nine, verse 10, whichreads whatever your hands find
to do, do it with your might.
Where there is no work orthought or knowledge or wisdom
in Sheol to which you are going,so whatever your hands find to
do, do it with all your might,meaning all your effort, energy,
and enthusiasm.
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I used to take offense to thisverse, if I'm being completely
honest with you.
'cause I would read it thinkingI'm just a mom.
And that is such a cringeyattitude to have, especially as
someone who really wanted to besuccessful and pursue this big
audacious dream that I had.
But one day I was watching mykids stack blocks while we were
in their toy room and they keptdoing that over and over again.
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And no matter how many timesthe.
Blocks fell.
They still laughed and wouldsay, let's do it again, until
they had built the biggest towerwith all of the blocks and then
it hit me.
They weren't discouraged by thefall of the blocks.
They were determined to continueto build again and again.
And you know what?
The beautiful thing I witnessedthat day was that as the tower
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got bigger, so did the goal.
'cause it started off with justgetting it up maybe three or
four blocks.
And then it was, well how muchcan we stack until the blocks
fell?
And then that went from, well,let's use all of the blocks and
try to keep the blocks fromfalling.
It was wonderful becauseeventually that happened that's
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when it hit me.
Solomon was not trying to tellme to pick one or the other.
He was saying, show up as a momwith enthusiasm, with energy,
with intention.
Show up as a small businessowner with enthusiasm, with
energy and intention.
Do it with all your might.
And you know what Admittingly Iused to.
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Really not pay attention to thelast portion of this verse, but
it's also very important becauseit talks about how there is
nothing, there is no work, nothoughts or knowledge or wisdom
in Sheol to which you're going,which means that when you are no
longer here on earth, theopportunity has passed, you
don't get a second chance.
To come back and try to redo thelife that you want to have.
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And you know, if I'm beingreally honest with you, we don't
think about that.
We don't think about how it issuch a message of urgency.
So this verse helped me, and Ihope that it helps you too.
Not to discourage you that youhave to be everywhere, all at
once.
But you are one person.
You are a mom, you are a wife,you are someone who is.
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Purpose driven in a sense whereyou do want to start a small
business and serve your localcommunity, or maybe you are a
working mom and you feel theguilt for always working and you
feel like you're never home withyour kids and you would love to
spend that time with them.
Take up every moment that youcan and whatever your hands fine
to do, do it with all of yourmight be intentional in all of
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the roles.
You don't need a perfect plan tostart.
You just need to begin.
So let go of the guilt, let goof perfection.
Start where you are because youhave been equipped and God has
given you everything that youneed for this particular season
in your life and trust that Godis with you in all of the roles
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that you are in.
Your small business or your bigpassion.
It is not a distraction frommotherhood.
It's a beautiful extension ofhow God wants to work through
you in this season, so you'renot being ungrateful.
You are a steward.
And you are doing better thanyou think.
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So as you navigate through this,as you are taking in what I'm
saying, let's recap theconversation for today.
We talked about how it'simportant that you change the
narrative and replacing the lieswith truth.
Remember, you are not someonewho is ungrateful.
You are not someone who isselfish.
You are a leader, a teacher, anda student.
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And feel free to add in whateverword.
Relates to your situation rightnow.
We also talked about how you areable to do both and still be a
good mom.
And then finally we talked aboutnot aiming for perfection but
stewardship and that is how wellyou take care of the gifts that
God has given you.
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Don't waste the opportunity,mama.
I know that it can be extremelyhard when you're navigating
through it, and maybe the lieshave already rooted in your
mind, so now you're trying touproot them.
It's going to take some time,and if you need help with that,
I would love to help you.
So reach out to me.
I encourage you to check out myfree online community where mama
is just like you are movingforward and leaving mom guilt
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behind because we don't needthat and our already stressful
life.
All right.
I know it can be hard, but youcan do hard things.
Thank you so much for hangingout with me today.
I had such a wonderful time.
I cannot wait to meet you againnext Wednesday.
Right here on this podcast.
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Mamma.
I hope that as you are inspiredand uplifted, that you would
show up at all the spaces andplaces ready to serve with a
joyful heart.
And yes, with confidence.
Please take a moment to leave areview on apple podcasts.
It would bring me so much joyhearing from you If you want to
connect even more, join theinsider's list.
I would love to continue helpingyou as you journey on the link
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to join the insider's list isgoing to be posted in the show
notes..
All right, my friend, this iswhere we part ways.
I hope you have a wonderful day.
Go in peace.
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