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If you’ve ever wondered “Will I always feel this guilty as a mom?” — you’re not alone. In this episode we’re tackling the real, raw question every Christian mom asks at some point: Does mom guilt ever truly go away? From the newborn stage to launching a small business or simply trying to survive the dinner hour—guilt has a sneaky way of creeping in. But here’s the good news: while mom guilt might not disappear overnight, you don’t have to stay stuck in it.
Together, we’ll explore how God’s grace gives you permission to release unrealistic expectations, respond with gentleness, and finally experience the freedom you’ve been longing for.
Whether you're juggling motherhood, business, or just trying to be more present in your day, this episode is your invitation to trade guilt for God’s peace.
Key Takeaways:
- Biblical mindset shift to help you respond to guilt with grace instead of frustration
- Practical tools to help you be slow to anger and stay anchored when you’re feeling overwhelmed
- A powerful reminder that your identity is not in your performance, but in Christ
If you’re a Christian mom navigating mom guilt, mental load, or mindset struggles—this episode will encourage your heart and mind to help you move forward with confidence.
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(00:00):
Does mom guilt ever go away?
It's a question you've probablyasked maybe in those quiet
moments after snapping at yourkids out of frustration, or when
you're wrestling with whether ornot you're doing a good enough
job at pointing them to Jesus orwhen you feel torn between
showing up fully for your familyand your business.
If you ever asked yourself thisquestion and felt like no one's
(00:22):
really talking about it,honestly, today is for you.
We're talking about the guilt,the pressure, and that deep
desire to get it all, quoteunquote, right.
Let's dive in.
.Hey mama.
Are you tired of the constantmom guilt and wondering if
(00:43):
you're really enough?
You know God has called you formore, but peace feels like it's
just out of reach.
I'm Caroline Thao, host of theRestore Mind, and I'm so glad
you're here.
This is your safe space totrade, overwhelmed for
confidence, guilt for grace, andstep into the freedom God has
for you.
Ready?
Let's do this.
(01:10):
I have something fun, simple andpowerful for you, mama To kick
off Summer, I'm hosting theGrace Over Guilt Challenge, a
five day challenge happeningexclusively inside my free
online community starting June9th.
And I would love for you to joinus each day.
You'll get one simple on the goChallenge designed to help you
(01:33):
be more present with yourfamily, lead with confidence and
faith.
And build momentum in yourbusiness without the guilt.
Amazing, right?
This isn't just another to-dolist.
It's a breath of fresh air asyou kick off summer with your
family.
Mark a calendar for June 9th andclick the link in the show notes
to join the group and getsettled in.
(01:55):
Let's kick off summer with funtimes and leave mom guilt
behind.
So if you're craving more graceand less pressure this summer, I
want you to come join us.
See you there.
I was talking with a friendrecently and we started sharing
our experiences with mom, guilt,especially the kind that shows
up when someone would saysomething like, you're doing
(02:16):
such a great job, or You're sucha great mom.
Now we both admitted that whilethose words are encouraging,
they often hit us at our quoteunquote best moments.
You know, the ones where peoplesee from the outside.
But deep down we both knew thatthat is not always the case or
the full picture because, andI'm sure you've had days like
(02:39):
this too, where we've had.
Days where we lost control anddropped the ball, or we just
didn't show up the way that wewanted to.
At one point in the conversationshe asked, does mom guilt ever
go away?
That question stuck with mebecause that conversation made
me realize how many of us aresilently carrying the same
(03:03):
weight that mom guilt brings tous.
It might not be always in thesame thing,.
But the overall weight that itbears down on us is really,
really heavy.
So let's walk through thistogether because while mom guilt
might not disappear overnight,there are some things that you
can do to loosen its grip..
So get ready to walk away withmore peace and freedom.
(03:26):
Now, you might be in the newbornstage as a mom, and if you're
not, take yourself back to thosedays where you were wondering if
you'll ever sleep again, or justtrying to finish a sentence
without a toddler interrupting.
And also.
Little side note here, the olderthat my kids got, the more I
realized that the interruptingdoesn't stop.
(03:48):
So it is something that we areworking on, That hasn't happened
yet, but maybe one day it will.
And maybe that's your life rightnow too.
Where there is constantinterruption, you can't really
finish a sentence or even have aconversation without someone
interrupting you.
And you know what?
It's just part of life right nowand yet, so somehow you feel
(04:09):
like you should be doing more inthe midst of all of this.
Guilt will form itself from oneseason to another.
Making you think whatever you'redoing is not enough.
Especially if you're finallymaking the move to start your
small business, but feelingguilty for not being fully
present with your kids andfamily.
Guilt can also make you feellike you're falling behind It
(04:31):
all makes you feel like you'renot good enough or you're not
doing enough.
It's hard to move forward withguilt constantly and silently
nagging at you.
Maybe you've tried suppressingthat guilt, which led to you
lashing out at your kids or evenyour husband.
Maybe it's overcompensating,which led to you feeling
overwhelmed and stressed At theend of the day, and example that
(04:52):
I can give with overcompensatingis that when I am trying to work
on a project, I will let my kidsjust.
Plug themselves in front of theiPad for a couple of hours.
And then when I finished myproject, I realized how much
time has passed and how inactivemy kids were.
So now I feel like I have to dosomething fun and exciting.
Maybe it's playing a game withthem outside or taking them
(05:15):
outta the house to get themmoving.
And by the time I come back, I'mjust exhausted and I feel
overwhelmed to the point where Idon't really want to make
dinner, and now I find myselfstruggling to figure out what is
the quickest meal I can make inthe shortest amount of time.
These are very prominent,especially when I did not plan
accordingly and found myselfstruggling to figure out what's
(05:37):
for dinner, because we've had along day of being on the iPad,
so that was mentally draining.
And now physically we've justgot done playing a game outside,
went to the park or wentsomewhere and.
Everyone's hungry and tired.
So those are some things thatcan happen, especially with
guilt silently nagging at you.
It comes in when you're workingand when you are
(06:00):
overcompensating.
At least for me,overcompensating on doing
something really big andphysically draining that that
also leads to guilt because thenI'm thinking, well, I should
have planned better.
I should have had dinner.
Ready to go.
There's all of these things,right?
All of these should haves andcould haves, but I actually
didn't do them.
But here's something that I wantto offer you as a mindset
(06:21):
challenge.
Suppressing the guilt andovercompensating are, while two
examples that I've given you,there are other ways that guilt
makes itself known into yourlife.
And so this mindset challengethat I'm going to offer you is
going to help you extend thegrace that is needed when you
are working on moving away fromguilt so that you can begin
living with peace.
(06:43):
It comes from Romans one, eight,excuse me, I said that
backwards.
Romans.
Eight one, which reads, there isno condemnation for those who
are in Christ Jesus.
Condemnation means being judgedand guilty and deserving of
punishment, which here it doestalk about the overall
punishment of being eternallyseparated from God on Judgment
(07:05):
Day.
But this is actually incrediblyencouraging because it points
you back to Jesus and actuallyhelps you break it down on a
more micro level that relates toyour daily life meaning he's
already fulfilled the role ofbeing perfect.
So you don't have to do that.
You don't need to be perfect.
You get the chance to progressin your work or in motherhood or
(07:27):
in your business or whereverelse you're showing up.
So in actuality, it's nothingthat you've done but everything
that Jesus has done and remindsyou to give yourself more grace,
Meaning guilt may show up, butit doesn't have to stay.
There is a difference betweenconviction that leads to growth
and how you lead and thetransformation that happens in
(07:49):
your life, and guilt that leadsto shame, frustration, confusion
and doubt, and so many otherthings, Picture mom guilt as an
umbrella, and then all of thethings that I just named are
what falls underneath theumbrella of mom guilt.
And one of the sneakiest waysthat guilt shows up is actually
after you've already reacted,you know the moment I'm talking
(08:12):
about right?
When you're overwhelmed,frustrated, and something just
sets you off, you raise yourvoice, you sigh, or you snap at
your kids and your husband, andthen it just gets quiet because
nobody really knows what to sayanymore.
That's when the guilt creeps in.
You start to replay what youjust said and how things played
out, and now you're not onlyfrustrated, but you're also
(08:34):
disappointed in how you showedup in that moment.
Maybe there's that instantthought of, I shouldn't have
said what I said, or you feelbad, for the reaction that
happened because you saw thelook on your kid's face and.
They're afraid to talk to youbecause you just snapped.
I think as moms, we've all mighthave had that moment.
I know I've had that momentplenty of times, and those were
(08:55):
not my brightest moments.
I did not feel my absolute bestwhen those things happen.
That's why one of the mostpowerful ways to fight guilt
with grace is this be slow tofrustration.
Or as James chapter one, verse19 and 20, reminds us to be
quick to hear, slow to speak.
Slow to anger for the anger ofman does not produce the
(09:18):
righteousness of God.
I know it's easier said thandone, right?
When we're talking about beingslow to anger.
Especially when your to-do listis overflowing or when you're
stretched thin and thensomething interrupts your flow
for the day or even your week.
But here's the thing, when youreact in frustration or anger,
(09:38):
you often miss the opportunityto connect or to teach or to
even ask for help.
And I can tell you right now, Ihave been there and I remember
trying to squeeze a workout inwhen Aria, my oldest daughter,
was just an infant, and she wokeup from her nap to nurse.
The thing is, I had planned myworkouts around her nap time so
(09:59):
that I could at least get anhour to stretch, warm up
workout, and cool down.
But there had been many dayswhere these naps did not always
last an hour, and she would wakeup at times that I hadn't
planned for.
So that was a trigger for me toget upset in the middle of my
workout whenever she would wakeup to nurse So it brought on so
(10:22):
much frustration and anger thatI remember I was angry, texting
my husband, venting to him aboutmy frustrations of having to
stop a workout to nurse mydaughter and all of the things
that I felt, I mean, I rememberbeing.
So angry that I felt guilty forbeing angry because she was just
an infant.
She had no control over what herbody wanted, and she had no idea
(10:46):
that I was working out either,it's not like she timed her nap
to say, oh, mom is working outfrom this time to that time, so
I should probably stay asleepUntil then, that is not
something that happenedrealistically.
So.
The guilt that washed over mejust kept telling me how much of
a selfish person I was and howmuch of a bad mom I was for
(11:07):
having felt the anger and thefrustration in those moments,
and also my reaction and myattitude in that time too.
Was built based off of meleading by my emotions of anger
and frustration.
But see, when I look back, thatmoment reminds me that being
slow to frustration and angerdoesn't mean that I shouldn't
ever get upset because that'sunrealistic too.
(11:29):
It means slowing my responsedown long enough for grace to
speak first.
Remember, the anger of man doesnot produce the righteousness of
God, and I will tell you inthose moments, I did not produce
the righteousness of God becauseof how my attitude and my
mindset was at the time.
(11:50):
And honestly, those are not mybrightest moments.
I've had plenty of those that Iwill share with you as you get
to know me on this podcast.
So all of this leads me to themost important piece of this
conversation today, which is ifwe want to walk in peace instead
of guilt, we have to moveaccording to something stronger
than our feelings.
(12:10):
We have to move according to.
God's words and sometimes we asmamas, we can set unrealistic
expectations for ourselves.
We are either living up to whatwe see on social media or stuck
in a comparison mindset thatmakes us think that we are
constantly behind the curve.
For some reason, when you createthese unrealistic expectations
(12:31):
or fall into the ones that theworld has set around you, you
end up chasing these impossiblegoals.
The guilt will always followafterwards as well.
But when you follow God's truth,you can move forward in peace.
When the day gets messy or whenyou miss the mark, it gives you
the peace in knowing that youcan still make changes right now
(12:55):
that makes a difference in howmom guilt will affect you, and
that's really powerful.
It's so powerful that you canstart this today.
You can start.
Making these changes in yourlife, building simple, small,
easy habits that is going toremove the grip that mom guilt
(13:16):
has on you so that you canfinally move forward with peace
and freedom, and knowing thatwherever you show up, you're
gonna show up with intention andit's no longer gonna take root
in your mind.
That is amazing, right?, One ofthe best ways I learned to love
better was to understand lovefrom the perspective of how God
(13:36):
loves, not what I think itshould be, or what I think it
is, and that same method can beapplied to how you learn.
To give yourself grace duringthis season as you are working
on extending yourself grace,instead of letting mom guilt
take root in your mind andheart.
A great way to do that is tobuild a relationship with God by
(13:58):
knowing who he is throughreading His word.
Also, as you're reading hisword, I would encourage you to
be slow to anger and or offensewhenever you come across a verse
that speaks to you and makes youfeel offended.
'cause.
I've done that.
I've been there.
I know what that's like when youread something and you just
don't fully understand thecontext of it.
(14:18):
So you take it at face value andsometimes it can bring a fence
because it questions yourbehavior and challenges you to
think about your mindset towardsa certain something.
When we take offense tofrustration, it is an
opportunity for you to sit andreally think about why it is
offending you.
(14:38):
Maybe perhaps you'll realizethat you didn't fully understand
the context of what it's sayingor.
It's challenging you to thinkabout your mindset towards what
you already believe is to betrue, and I think these are
really good ways for you to alsoget to know God even though it
doesn't feel good in the momentsto be led to conviction or
(15:01):
offense.
As you're reading scripture, itis not meant to.
Offend you constantly.
I think it's such a great wayfor you to evaluate and grow.
So take a moment to see him andlinger at the attributes when
you find it.
I remember reading the beginningof Genesis with my kids a couple
summers ago and my eyes wereopen to new attributes every
(15:22):
time we would read together.
It help me see more of thegoodness of God rather than
agreeing with what someone elsewas saying about God.
Not that what they're saying isfalse or untrue in any way, but
it was just a great way for meto personally witness who he is,
especially when I lingered athis words, and I know the same
is true for you.
(15:42):
So when you linger at his words,it is such a great way for you
to bear witness to who he is aswell.
So let's recap this conversationbecause there was so much that
was said in it.
The overall answer to, does momguilt ever go away?
Is that no mom guilt does nottotally go away because every
(16:04):
season will bring newchallenges, but that doesn't
mean that you're failing becausewe also talked about how you can
learn to respond with gentlenessand care about being slow to
frustration or anger before theguilt takes over.
And then finally, we touched on.
How it is so important to moveaccording to God's words because
(16:24):
it moves you towards peace frommom guilt rather than being a
prisoner of it.
And I know that it can beincredibly hard to.
Start quieting the voice of momguilt as you're working through
trying to let it go, right?
Because when you fail, it justfeels like you're never going to
make the progress.
But I promise you, mama, and Iknow that and believe that if
(16:46):
you put your mind to it and youshow up consistently to build
these small habits and just makethese small mindset shifts, that
you are going to be able tofinally quiet the voice of mom
guilt and move forward in peace.
I know it's hard.
But you can do hard things.
(17:09):
Thank you so much for hangingout with me today.
I had such a wonderful time.
I cannot wait to meet you againnext Wednesday.
Right here on this podcast.
Mamma.
I hope that as you are inspiredand uplifted, that you would
show up at all the spaces andplaces ready to serve with a
joyful heart.
And yes, with confidence.
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(17:33):
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All right, my friend, this iswhere we part ways.
I hope you have a wonderful day.
Go in peace.
Does mom guilt ever go away?
It's a question you've probablyasked maybe in those quiet
moments after snapping at yourkids out of frustration, or when
you're wrestling with whether ornot you're doing a good enough
job at pointing them to Jesus orwhen you feel torn between
showing up fully for your familyand your business.
If you ever asked yourself thisquestion and felt like no one's
(00:22):
really talking about it,honestly, today is for you.
We're talking about the guilt,the pressure, and that deep
desire to get it all, quoteunquote, right.
Let's dive in.
.Hey mama.
Are you tired of the constantmom guilt and wondering if
(00:43):
you're really enough?
You know God has called you formore, but peace feels like it's
just out of reach.
I'm Caroline Thao, host of theRestore Mind, and I'm so glad
you're here.
This is your safe space totrade, overwhelmed for
confidence, guilt for grace, andstep into the freedom God has
for you.
Ready?
Let's do this.
(01:10):
I have something fun, simple andpowerful for you, mama To kick
off Summer, I'm hosting theGrace Over Guilt Challenge, a
five day challenge happeningexclusively inside my free
online community starting June9th.
And I would love for you to joinus each day.
You'll get one simple on the goChallenge designed to help you
(01:33):
be more present with yourfamily, lead with confidence and
faith.
And build momentum in yourbusiness without the guilt.
Amazing, right?
This isn't just another to-dolist.
It's a breath of fresh air asyou kick off summer with your
family.
Mark a calendar for June 9th andclick the link in the show notes
to join the group and getsettled in.
(01:55):
Let's kick off summer with funtimes and leave mom guilt
behind.
So if you're craving more graceand less pressure this summer, I
want you to come join us.
See you there.
I was talking with a friendrecently and we started sharing
our experiences with mom, guilt,especially the kind that shows
up when someone would saysomething like, you're doing
(02:16):
such a great job, or You're sucha great mom.
Now we both admitted that whilethose words are encouraging,
they often hit us at our quoteunquote best moments.
You know, the ones where peoplesee from the outside.
But deep down we both knew thatthat is not always the case or
the full picture because, andI'm sure you've had days like
(02:39):
this too, where we've had.
Days where we lost control anddropped the ball, or we just
didn't show up the way that wewanted to.
At one point in the conversationshe asked, does mom guilt ever
go away?
That question stuck with mebecause that conversation made
me realize how many of us aresilently carrying the same
(03:03):
weight that mom guilt brings tous.
It might not be always in thesame thing,.
But the overall weight that itbears down on us is really,
really heavy.
So let's walk through thistogether because while mom guilt
might not disappear overnight,there are some things that you
can do to loosen its grip..
So get ready to walk away withmore peace and freedom.
(03:26):
Now, you might be in the newbornstage as a mom, and if you're
not, take yourself back to thosedays where you were wondering if
you'll ever sleep again, or justtrying to finish a sentence
without a toddler interrupting.
And also.
Little side note here, the olderthat my kids got, the more I
realized that the interruptingdoesn't stop.
(03:48):
So it is something that we areworking on, That hasn't happened
yet, but maybe one day it will.
And maybe that's your life rightnow too.
Where there is constantinterruption, you can't really
finish a sentence or even have aconversation without someone
interrupting you.
And you know what?
It's just part of life right nowand yet, so somehow you feel
(04:09):
like you should be doing more inthe midst of all of this.
Guilt will form itself from oneseason to another.
Making you think whatever you'redoing is not enough.
Especially if you're finallymaking the move to start your
small business, but feelingguilty for not being fully
present with your kids andfamily.
Guilt can also make you feellike you're falling behind It
(04:31):
all makes you feel like you'renot good enough or you're not
doing enough.
It's hard to move forward withguilt constantly and silently
nagging at you.
Maybe you've tried suppressingthat guilt, which led to you
lashing out at your kids or evenyour husband.
Maybe it's overcompensating,which led to you feeling
overwhelmed and stressed At theend of the day, and example that
(04:52):
I can give with overcompensatingis that when I am trying to work
on a project, I will let my kidsjust.
Plug themselves in front of theiPad for a couple of hours.
And then when I finished myproject, I realized how much
time has passed and how inactivemy kids were.
So now I feel like I have to dosomething fun and exciting.
Maybe it's playing a game withthem outside or taking them
(05:15):
outta the house to get themmoving.
And by the time I come back, I'mjust exhausted and I feel
overwhelmed to the point where Idon't really want to make
dinner, and now I find myselfstruggling to figure out what is
the quickest meal I can make inthe shortest amount of time.
These are very prominent,especially when I did not plan
accordingly and found myselfstruggling to figure out what's
(05:37):
for dinner, because we've had along day of being on the iPad,
so that was mentally draining.
And now physically we've justgot done playing a game outside,
went to the park or wentsomewhere and.
Everyone's hungry and tired.
So those are some things thatcan happen, especially with
guilt silently nagging at you.
It comes in when you're workingand when you are
(06:00):
overcompensating.
At least for me,overcompensating on doing
something really big andphysically draining that that
also leads to guilt because thenI'm thinking, well, I should
have planned better.
I should have had dinner.
Ready to go.
There's all of these things,right?
All of these should haves andcould haves, but I actually
didn't do them.
But here's something that I wantto offer you as a mindset
(06:21):
challenge.
Suppressing the guilt andovercompensating are, while two
examples that I've given you,there are other ways that guilt
makes itself known into yourlife.
And so this mindset challengethat I'm going to offer you is
going to help you extend thegrace that is needed when you
are working on moving away fromguilt so that you can begin
living with peace.
(06:43):
It comes from Romans one, eight,excuse me, I said that
backwards.
Romans.
Eight one, which reads, there isno condemnation for those who
are in Christ Jesus.
Condemnation means being judgedand guilty and deserving of
punishment, which here it doestalk about the overall
punishment of being eternallyseparated from God on Judgment
(07:05):
Day.
But this is actually incrediblyencouraging because it points
you back to Jesus and actuallyhelps you break it down on a
more micro level that relates toyour daily life meaning he's
already fulfilled the role ofbeing perfect.
So you don't have to do that.
You don't need to be perfect.
You get the chance to progressin your work or in motherhood or
(07:27):
in your business or whereverelse you're showing up.
So in actuality, it's nothingthat you've done but everything
that Jesus has done and remindsyou to give yourself more grace,
Meaning guilt may show up, butit doesn't have to stay.
There is a difference betweenconviction that leads to growth
and how you lead and thetransformation that happens in
(07:49):
your life, and guilt that leadsto shame, frustration, confusion
and doubt, and so many otherthings, Picture mom guilt as an
umbrella, and then all of thethings that I just named are
what falls underneath theumbrella of mom guilt.
And one of the sneakiest waysthat guilt shows up is actually
after you've already reacted,you know the moment I'm talking
(08:12):
about right?
When you're overwhelmed,frustrated, and something just
sets you off, you raise yourvoice, you sigh, or you snap at
your kids and your husband, andthen it just gets quiet because
nobody really knows what to sayanymore.
That's when the guilt creeps in.
You start to replay what youjust said and how things played
out, and now you're not onlyfrustrated, but you're also
(08:34):
disappointed in how you showedup in that moment.
Maybe there's that instantthought of, I shouldn't have
said what I said, or you feelbad, for the reaction that
happened because you saw thelook on your kid's face and.
They're afraid to talk to youbecause you just snapped.
I think as moms, we've all mighthave had that moment.
I know I've had that momentplenty of times, and those were
(08:55):
not my brightest moments.
I did not feel my absolute bestwhen those things happen.
That's why one of the mostpowerful ways to fight guilt
with grace is this be slow tofrustration.
Or as James chapter one, verse19 and 20, reminds us to be
quick to hear, slow to speak.
Slow to anger for the anger ofman does not produce the
(09:18):
righteousness of God.
I know it's easier said thandone, right?
When we're talking about beingslow to anger.
Especially when your to-do listis overflowing or when you're
stretched thin and thensomething interrupts your flow
for the day or even your week.
But here's the thing, when youreact in frustration or anger,
(09:38):
you often miss the opportunityto connect or to teach or to
even ask for help.
And I can tell you right now, Ihave been there and I remember
trying to squeeze a workout inwhen Aria, my oldest daughter,
was just an infant, and she wokeup from her nap to nurse.
The thing is, I had planned myworkouts around her nap time so
(09:59):
that I could at least get anhour to stretch, warm up
workout, and cool down.
But there had been many dayswhere these naps did not always
last an hour, and she would wakeup at times that I hadn't
planned for.
So that was a trigger for me toget upset in the middle of my
workout whenever she would wakeup to nurse So it brought on so
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much frustration and anger thatI remember I was angry, texting
my husband, venting to him aboutmy frustrations of having to
stop a workout to nurse mydaughter and all of the things
that I felt, I mean, I rememberbeing.
So angry that I felt guilty forbeing angry because she was just
an infant.
She had no control over what herbody wanted, and she had no idea
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that I was working out either,it's not like she timed her nap
to say, oh, mom is working outfrom this time to that time, so
I should probably stay asleepUntil then, that is not
something that happenedrealistically.
So.
The guilt that washed over mejust kept telling me how much of
a selfish person I was and howmuch of a bad mom I was for
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having felt the anger and thefrustration in those moments,
and also my reaction and myattitude in that time too.
Was built based off of meleading by my emotions of anger
and frustration.
But see, when I look back, thatmoment reminds me that being
slow to frustration and angerdoesn't mean that I shouldn't
ever get upset because that'sunrealistic too.
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It means slowing my responsedown long enough for grace to
speak first.
Remember, the anger of man doesnot produce the righteousness of
God, and I will tell you inthose moments, I did not produce
the righteousness of God becauseof how my attitude and my
mindset was at the time.
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And honestly, those are not mybrightest moments.
I've had plenty of those that Iwill share with you as you get
to know me on this podcast.
So all of this leads me to themost important piece of this
conversation today, which is ifwe want to walk in peace instead
of guilt, we have to moveaccording to something stronger
than our feelings.
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We have to move according to.
God's words and sometimes we asmamas, we can set unrealistic
expectations for ourselves.
We are either living up to whatwe see on social media or stuck
in a comparison mindset thatmakes us think that we are
constantly behind the curve.
For some reason, when you createthese unrealistic expectations
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or fall into the ones that theworld has set around you, you
end up chasing these impossiblegoals.
The guilt will always followafterwards as well.
But when you follow God's truth,you can move forward in peace.
When the day gets messy or whenyou miss the mark, it gives you
the peace in knowing that youcan still make changes right now
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that makes a difference in howmom guilt will affect you, and
that's really powerful.
It's so powerful that you canstart this today.
You can start.
Making these changes in yourlife, building simple, small,
easy habits that is going toremove the grip that mom guilt
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has on you so that you canfinally move forward with peace
and freedom, and knowing thatwherever you show up, you're
gonna show up with intention andit's no longer gonna take root
in your mind.
That is amazing, right?, One ofthe best ways I learned to love
better was to understand lovefrom the perspective of how God
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loves, not what I think itshould be, or what I think it
is, and that same method can beapplied to how you learn.
To give yourself grace duringthis season as you are working
on extending yourself grace,instead of letting mom guilt
take root in your mind andheart.
A great way to do that is tobuild a relationship with God by
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knowing who he is throughreading His word.
Also, as you're reading hisword, I would encourage you to
be slow to anger and or offensewhenever you come across a verse
that speaks to you and makes youfeel offended.
'cause.
I've done that.
I've been there.
I know what that's like when youread something and you just
don't fully understand thecontext of it.
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So you take it at face value andsometimes it can bring a fence
because it questions yourbehavior and challenges you to
think about your mindset towardsa certain something.
When we take offense tofrustration, it is an
opportunity for you to sit andreally think about why it is
offending you.
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Maybe perhaps you'll realizethat you didn't fully understand
the context of what it's sayingor.
It's challenging you to thinkabout your mindset towards what
you already believe is to betrue, and I think these are
really good ways for you to alsoget to know God even though it
doesn't feel good in the momentsto be led to conviction or
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offense.
As you're reading scripture, itis not meant to.
Offend you constantly.
I think it's such a great wayfor you to evaluate and grow.
So take a moment to see him andlinger at the attributes when
you find it.
I remember reading the beginningof Genesis with my kids a couple
summers ago and my eyes wereopen to new attributes every
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time we would read together.
It help me see more of thegoodness of God rather than
agreeing with what someone elsewas saying about God.
Not that what they're saying isfalse or untrue in any way, but
it was just a great way for meto personally witness who he is,
especially when I lingered athis words, and I know the same
is true for you.
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So when you linger at his words,it is such a great way for you
to bear witness to who he is aswell.
So let's recap this conversationbecause there was so much that
was said in it.
The overall answer to, does momguilt ever go away?
Is that no mom guilt does nottotally go away because every
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season will bring newchallenges, but that doesn't
mean that you're failing becausewe also talked about how you can
learn to respond with gentlenessand care about being slow to
frustration or anger before theguilt takes over.
And then finally, we touched on.
How it is so important to moveaccording to God's words because
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it moves you towards peace frommom guilt rather than being a
prisoner of it.
And I know that it can beincredibly hard to.
Start quieting the voice of momguilt as you're working through
trying to let it go, right?
Because when you fail, it justfeels like you're never going to
make the progress.
But I promise you, mama, and Iknow that and believe that if
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you put your mind to it and youshow up consistently to build
these small habits and just makethese small mindset shifts, that
you are going to be able tofinally quiet the voice of mom
guilt and move forward in peace.
I know it's hard.
But you can do hard things.
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Thank you so much for hangingout with me today.
I had such a wonderful time.
I cannot wait to meet you againnext Wednesday.
Right here on this podcast.
Mamma.
I hope that as you are inspiredand uplifted, that you would
show up at all the spaces andplaces ready to serve with a
joyful heart.
And yes, with confidence.
Please take a moment to leave areview on apple podcasts.
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It would bring me so much joyhearing from you If you want to
connect even more, join theinsider's list.
I would love to continue helpingyou as you journey on the link
to join the insider's list isgoing to be posted in the show
notes..
All right, my friend, this iswhere we part ways.
I hope you have a wonderful day.
Go in peace.
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